67 Plushies missing to reach the funding, Go BAAAH on this one folks :3 PS: i have way too much plushies, but this one is way too amazing and maybe in support for the darkest Fluff on YT and i WANT it xD
OP has to realize mom is a toxic person. She had been abusing OP of years. It's good that dad has the resources to help OP get away from the monster. The best thing to do is cut contact. To bad you don't have a diary outlining her abuse so every time something happens demand an apology for incident on date XXX. OP probably wont get it but just having a record is great ammunition.
The documentation is a great way to prove to the court system that the abuse was happening. With a narcissist, the best thing to do is go NC. It's for your own peace of mind, and you'll start to have some peace and freedom and finally have a sense of normalcy and stability.
Personally, I would take the written documentation into consideration, but written documentation alone wouldn't be enough to convince me. Written documents can be forged, I don't know how to tell whether or not something is or isn't a forgery, people have lied about things as serious as this before (hell, a father's daughter once lied about being raped by him. Why? Well, she did have sex with someone, but it was with a boy. I forget why she lied, but she pretty much ruined her father's life. Her lie was convincing because she planted evidence in the form of his underwear in the room she had sex in), and it's kind of hard to detect lies through text.
That second story? Literally my nightmare as a single father. Also DarkFluff, kids can't complain to you if they don't know their situation is wrong. As the OP said, she had no idea her situation was abnormal and only reached out to her dad when she was about to lose her college.
@@thebadgerette69 Mothers advising the system to go out partying and not using child support for the child are the norm, not the exception. The system needs to change, but if the child's well being was the true concern then men would get custody more than half the time.
@@sypoth while i agree men should be able to get custody a lot of time my dad literally from the stories i heard told the judge me and my brother are not his kids to which the judge laughed at him His argument we did not share his hair color or eye color Through out my life my dad constantly told me i was the mail mans kid and the only times i heard him say i was his kid was when he was trying to get laid or when i told him i have a medical problem he has So yes fathers should get control of their kids but its a case by case basis
@@sypoth men should be able to get the kids. My brother finally got custody because his ex proved how crazy she was to the person who was supposed to take the kid to my brothers "supervised visits". Not all moms are good parents.....not all dads are either.....
Make a wish child: *Is literally dying and probably only has a little while left on this earth* Entitled parents/Karens: You deserve nothing, child. ☺️
And the saddest part is that even sick children get parents like these. There was a story from another channel where a Karen had a daughter who was terminally ill. The poor didn't have much time and had died in the end of the story. The only thing she wished for was meeting RDJ (Tony Stark-Ironman) but her mother disregarded it, and instead used the make a Wish foundation so she and the other healthy kids of hers can go on a free vacation. . . That was truly disgusting. . .
@@fictions_in_motion_07 such a despicable parent and family in general, mother should be in jail for that crime. At the very least shunned and ostracized for the remainder of her life, the kids too if they were fine with it.
My mother did the same. She spent all the child support on her hair, nails, eyelashes, ect. We were so “poor” we had to move in with my abusive grandparents. She kept my father from my sister and I. We need a better system for child support.
How about just making it illegal to not properly care for your children even when you can afford it. If someone prioritizes luxury over their children's basic needs and safety then they deserve to go to jail and at minimum lose right to their children so they dont have to suffer. Child support isn't meant to be spend on that sort of stuff, if you want more than your and your families basic needs you gotta actually earn those money
My father petitioned the courts to review her spending. They did nothing. I showed up to school bruised and dirty. Nothing came of it. The system lets a lot of people fall out.
@@zakosist Child abuse/neglect is already illegal. And you can already take someone to court for improperly spending child support or parental alienation. At least in the US, family courts are set up to side with the mother in most cases. Also, things can be hard to prove. It's very likely, the mother told the father everything was fine. But also that the children hated him. Shit's complicated. Some people are just walking trash bags.
@@smol-one Well then there should be more check up by default and not just blindly believing the person who receives the money. Like I'm sure they could track what you're actually spending on, especially today when people mostly use bank cards/credit cards. And if someone is not feeding their kids properly I think that would turn out on a health test that they aren't getting proper nutrition. Perhaps asking the kids to describe their living situation at home would give useful insight. Although that shouldn't be blindly believed either as kids can make up a lot of stuff, but if can be a warning of when you need to look deeper into things. Those who want to trick the system are often clever about it so we need to make that harder
Yo Princess Aurora is the embodiment of a good person here. Not only did she put the dad in his place in character and stay in character for the make-a-wish kid; but also made it a teachable moment for that horrible Dad's innocent daughter. She likely canceled out his negative vibes for the day but I really hope that little girl grows up to be nothing like her father.
Well.... not always my ex is on drugs and alcohol.... and has been passed out when I've picked them up, done it all in front of them, and had hookers over while they were there.... so he pays. But he can't have them. I was letting him but the judge took it away. Hallelujah. They did say if the Monday prior to the 4th Saturday of the month he could get s drug and alcohol test and come Saturday to my house to see them. He just used that for the first time in4 years last Saturday. They have no idea who he is. They are 4.5 and 6. It was confusing as all Hell for them and is only a matter of time before dips back out. Mind you he is over 20k behind and is finally paying now bc his work does it automatically like a garnishment. And it's still not the amount they said he is supposed to pay monthly so he's still getting further behind. Not all parents should have rights to their children.
It's not always that easy. Toxic mothers will do anything and everything to keep the father away while still collecting the check. I've seen it a lot in my friend groups.
The last story? The Mom made it sound like the Dad wanted nothing to do with his kids, which was a lie. The Mom gaslit her own kids, then probably told Dad the girls didn't want to see to him, keeping them all apart until OP finally contacted him herself. Once the major impediment was removed (her Mom), the truth was revealed. Damn, that just totally sucks.
The one with the mom who squandered the child support on herself made me want to chuck my phone across the room. Seriously, it's called "Child Support" for a reason.
Use all the common sense all you want, it won't work on people who don't care enough to listen. We live in a world where no matter how nice you are, you're always going to be the villain of someone else's story.
Wait wasn't it called "Mommy's paycheck"? But yeah the story is effed up and made my blood boil with every word... And I agree with Darkfluf, where was their dad all this time. Like yeah cool that he showed up in the end and took care of college and everything, but where was he before? When kids didn't have breakfast on their table, when a high-schooler had to work to pay the bills while mom is not working...
Mothers like the one in that story have made me a firm believer that child support should be set up like food stamps and clothing vouchers. If it's for the kids, it better go to the kids.
Good idea. You could also have the parent that owes child support turn in receipts for buying things for the kid. Amnt purchased being equal to the Amnt if child support awarded.
Totally agree, it can't be abused as easily. Maybe there should also be some occasional check up on each family to make sure everything's alright as child abuse can be hidden and kids may not understand it because they dont know what the normal is
I agree. Child support should be like an HSA card. Either buy food stamp foods , shopping for items over 50 dollars had to be submitted in 30 days or penalties aka reimbursement to other parent. And home utilities that have to be proven in the parents name and confirm address. And the child should be able to have proof of money spent at the age of 14 should have visibility and access 50% with separate card to use at 16.
The mother probably refused to let the children see or talk to their father. Also a lot of family courts favor mothers over fathers in child custody cases.
I know a guy who has a son who has some sort of medical condition that requires life saving medication to be taken daily. Anyways the mother of this child arrives at the pharmacy before this guy does and takes the medication and then proceeds to refuse to give to this guy. Then here’s where it gets really bizarre she had the audacity to call CPS and told them the guy was refusing to give the child their medication that she took and is refusing to give. He has taken her to court multiple times and the courts always side with her. Also note that the guy I know is a paramedic who understands the severity of this kid’s condition and has reordered the medication multiple times and she always manages to get there before him and take it.
@@dah16121986 I’m not doubting the veracity of what you are saying, but I have a question: If the mother always is getting to the pharmacy first and picking up the lifesaving medication, even when the father re-orders it, how is this child still alive?
I don't agree with this, it's clearly 50/50 my dad was abusive and very negligent to how we felt. He ended up kicking us out becuase he cheated. So they favored him in court over my mom even though she is the most caring woman. So yea depends on the court
@@CTrunde they have joint custody and I believe she is seeking full so the child still gets his medication when he is with his mother but she refuses to send it with the child when he gets him.
Yes. Unfortunately, the court system often favors women. Men have to fight for their rights to gain custody. This needs to change. All too often, kids will slip through the cracks.
True. And really both parents should get custody unless some of them are found to be abusive/neglectful. Even if parents leave each other that should not mean the kids lose all contact with one of them. They can travel back and fourth, I did that during my childhood and I'm glad I got to know and bond with both parents
Courts look at what’s in the kids’ best interest. And what they usual base their decision on is which parent was the primary caregiver. So if fathers want custody - or a normal relationship - they should take a greater role in their kids’ lives. And be careful who you marry. I guarantee that awful mother was an awful person before she had kids.
When he was able to prove she wasnt helping with college, would that not cast enough doubt to open a case and look further in the past and hold her accountable for that? Now i realize by the end of the story she basically has nothing.. But man that makes me so mad that she got away with that shizzz.
This is why in all divorce cases they need to have somebody from the courts or CPS come in and check on the children and see how they're being treated at home cuz this is abuse and psychological abuse to boot. Where was the dad there was no mention of that he was barred from seeing the children
Depending on the state it can be really easy for the winning party to have a no contact order against the other party, my best friend's dad had such an order on him and while he wasn't a saint he would occasionally ask me about him. (our dad's worked for the same company and I spent some summers working when I was 16). I feel like if the dad had known some of the things his mom put him through (including dating and sheltering a child pedophile) in his younger years he would have 100% put everything on hold to help him. Sadly he didn't find out until 7 years later and the pedophile had already be caught and sentenced.
Sounds like the mother made life so miserable for everyone that the father suffered silently and waited for the time for the kids to come to him. Sounds like both did and he welcomed both and helped them. Another case on why the courts in Family law are flawed.
I'll never understand why men are obligated to pay child support, but women are under zero obligation to use that money to support the child. Breeding is basically a money making scam for a lot of women.
@@jasondyrkacz8270 i just meant that for instance one parent could pay child support but the other might use it on themself, no matter the gender, the only thing it depends on is the person and their personality
Sadly men get away with a slew of ridiculous atrocities when it comes down to taking responsibility for the children they help to make. 'Dead beat dads' have become a societal norm along with dealing with the aftermath that is daddy issues. Its not even really treated as an outrage anymore, almost like it should be expected, and you are stupid for expecting any different. Its a sad reality but true. Parenting is never easy whether you are a father or a mother, some just choose to walk away from the family dynamic
That mother for the second story was pathetic she should be arrested for not taking care of her kids .And spending the money that should have been for the family she blew through all of it
@@SallySlayer409 Probably, but that would mean she'd be out of work for the rest of her life, making it impossible to retire, have a social security benefit, anything. All of that would get garnished to pay back what she used on herself.
Women like that mom are very good at manipulating the truth. Its possible she made it appear that everything was fine for the kids financially. She may even have convinced the dad that the daughters didn't want to see him and that they hated him. I've seen moms like this. They are really good at dividing and conquering, keeping peoples heads spinning in confusion, and making themselves look like the victim without anyone catching on for a long time. But it eventually catches up to bite them in many cases. I mean the daughters were in constant contact with her and even in early adulthood didn't notice that there was plenty of money to be had. If the mom can fool the people who are with her, she can definitely fool an ex who is living far away. These women are so good at getting their way its scary. They SAY complain to your father but they make sure the kids don't actually go and do it. Well timed combinations of subtle trickery, lies, threats, dramatic outbursts, and gaslighting are their weapons. It. Is. Scary.
I don't know. The dad lived not far away and the OP never says anything bad about the father, just how the mom treated them. I have to wonder what he was doing all this time that he didn't notice anything. Surely if they spent any time at all with him they would see how differently things were at his house. He swoops in and saves the day when they are grown, after all the hard work is done of raising minor children (not saying that the mother really raised them either). He just threw money at the mother all these years and really was involved minimally in their lives. We know Mom was a pos, but Dad shouldn't get a pass either.
@@shells500tutubo Its true we dont know all the details. But OP did say she didnt complain to her dad until so many years of hearing her mom say over and over "complain to your dad". And he responded pretty quick as soon as OP told him everything. As soon as he knew his kids hadnt gotten a dime of what was meant for them he fixed it right away. And from what ive seen people around me go through with divorce or divorced parents I dont think many non-custodial parents would continue to pay mortgage on a house they no longer live in and have left to their ex. Many non-custodial parents have had far less child support to pay and didnt pay it in full or at all. He paid it diligently and fully intended to provide financial support to his kids until they were done with college. Many noncustodial parents if they pay will only pay til their kids are 18. With so many strong points revealing his character to be good and the fact that OP was happy to go stay with him and his wife tells me that either the custody arrangement included him not being allowed to contact the kids or the mom making it difficult or impossible for him to contact the kids. Im guessing that the custody arrangement somehow separated him from the kids because the mom blatantly stole all of the child support. Why would she be so confident she could get away with it if there wasnt something that prevented the dad from seeing or contacting the kids and finding out how theyre doing? Something like complete no-contact sole custody? But you are right. There is a lot we dont know. OP can't tell us everything. But im glad everything worked out in the end.
@@kulsoomahsan4440 There IS a lot missing, as there always is in these stories. But it seems like a person who is paying child support AND the mortgage would have enough money to hire a lawyer who would get better terms UNLESS there was some reason he didn't want custody. I just don't like the father getting a free pass for leaving his kids with such a person and then swooping in to save the day when the kids are essentially grown. And you know he knows what the mother is like. He was married to her after all.
@@shells500tutubo sometimes the father is only left with enough money for shelter, food, and utilities after child support. So, saving up for a lawyer takes time. My friend had a side "hustle" to buy and repair equipment fight for his kids. He finally got full custody. This after years of being in a system that favors the mother.
Story 1: Imagine being so entitled that you would want your child terminally ill just to skip some lines. Trashy, I tell you. Trashy. Story 2: Malicious Compliance right here. She tells OP to complain to their dad, and OP did. Can you imagine being so selfish that you take all the money for yourself and then lie to your children that you have no money? Mom's lifestyle has been nuked for her actions.
Probably paid for her drinks, her friend's drinks and a couple rounds for the house, plus whatever dine out she and her friends did, booze for home, clothes for herself and the like. and if there was anything left over? THAT she would give to the kids. Seriously its disgusting how this happens more than people think. And i DO know of these things that have transpired in my hometown cuz, again, mom is a retired DCFS/CPS worker.
My mom never got child support for me as my father died before I was born ! But my whole life as a child I remember that I always had everything I needed food clothes shoes shelter etc . But since I have become an adult when I look back at my childhood I realize that my mother sacrificed everything to do for me . I still remember seeing my mother sew on her clothes and take cardboard put her shoes on it trace out the shape of the bottom of her shoes and then cut the cardboard in the shape of the bottom of her shoes and put it inside her shoes . I will never be able to say thank you enough and show my mother how much I love her and appreciate her for everything she is done for me during my life . Thank you for everything mom !
Honestly the dad and kids should sue the mom if they can... I just wish the kids had let their dad know how bad it was when they WERE kids so he could have saved them so much heartache
Dad may well have not known what was going on. Even if he suspected something, he needed proof. Rock solid proof, because, unfortunately, most family courts automatically favor the mother. No matter how 'unacceptable' she may be. Once he found out, and was able to get enough evidence, he made things right. Also unfortunately, many women use child support for their own pleasures. Kicking this woman to the curb is a grave that she dug for herself.
1st story, wow, just wow, the entitlement and the rude words. I hope he learned his lesson and didn't get anything from make a wish other than the loss of friends
As someone who has helped Make-A-Wish, and does cosplay events for sick kids, that first story just made me so sick! It's heart-breaking to see what these kids have to go through, and I would have really struggled not to break character and just start going off on that jerk! Thankfully it sounds like he may have learned his lesson.
The mom with the child support sounds like my dad. He would constantly lose jobs or quit because other people were "evil" because they... expected him to work and not steal their computers like he did. Computers were so important to him that we would go without food so he could upgrade a hard drive. The thing is, at the time I thought that my dad could do no wrong and believed every story he told me. My parents divorced when I was 15 and I decided to stay with my dad. I worked out of high school instead of going to one of the dozens of colleges I was accepted into because I couldn't afford just to get to the schools because my dad "couldn't help." I joined the military when I was 19 partly to get out of that toxic household (I had finally started to see a few cracks in my dad's perfect facade by then) and he made me feel guily that he ended up homeless because he couldn't afford rent after I left. I was a shift manager at Taco Bell and he took more than half of my paycheck for "bills" that we still ended up not having enough money to pay for somehow. I cut off all contact with him about a decade ago until he died from heart failure in 2016. Now, I have a much better relationship with my mom, who my dad always blamed everything on.
The dad probably didn't even know. The kids thought the abuse was normal so they wouldn't complain and since the dad didn't have custody he was basically cero contact.
good on Aurora!! a good shaming - especially when his child is blissfully unaware of who that little talk was directed to - was On. Point. (this is my FAVE disney movie, always, stylistically as well as the tale ... and nicknamed my daughter Beeping Slooty as it was her fave too).
The Disney Employee HAD to stay in Character since (as I understand it) breaking Character REGARDLESS of the reason is grounds for either a SEVERE Reprimand and/or Termination.
Fluff you are a good person. In comparison there are people out there who don't bother to learn how much a child should be eating let alone multiply it be the number of children they have at home to feed. ♡ Glad to know people like you are here to look out for the future.
I have triplet cousins. When they turned 3, the youngest was diagnosed with leukaemia. He got a make-a-wish wish, and he chose to get to meet a penguin. He was obsessed. I am really thabkful, my little cousin survived! He is now 13 and honestly, I am so greatful that we were one of the lucky ones!
@@peterpan4038 Depending on where you live. In New York City, oh hell yeah $60 is nothing. That's maybe 2-3 mixed drinks, or maybe up to 6 beers depending on quality. On the other hand there are bars in Wisconsin where you pay a $20 cover charge for a wrist band, which entitles you to all-you-can-drink beer. It's just bud light or some other cheap pisswater, but drink enough of it and it gets the job done, and you still have the rest of your cash for a sub from Erbert & Gerberts. Ahh...college memories.
If the Dad had kept that 250K over the 10 years he would've ended up in a ton of trouble and possibly jail. Glad karma finally got the Mom but she's managing to barely survive.
Make-A-Wish needs to organize, with the theme parks (or whatever the organization), to arrange meet and greets that do not inconvenience/avoid other paying patrons. They also need to have a segregated fast pass for rides/concessions that do not inconvenience/completely avoid other paying patrons. Regardless of the fact that it’s MAW, paying patrons should not be shoved aside. MAW and the agreeing organizations are to blame and they need to do better for all concerned.
Any mother that uses this assine comment is beyond help. The problem is at the age of these kids, it turned into brainwashing. And as their grew older REALITY set in. How much of a very poor mother/caretaker she is
I cannot even imagine stringing those words together about a sick child. I have 2 brats and I really can't fathom saying such a thing!! I really really hope the daughter didn't hear her dad wish cancer on her so he didn't have to wait in line!
Fortunately from the sound of it she didn't. Apparently she was too engrossed in playing with her doll. It may have been a new one and so her focus was there, thank goodness.
A friend of mine had child support that his ex wife used to support herself and her boyfriend. My friend knew about it. When the child support was done he sent the ex wife a pair of scissors and a book of coupons. He is a millionaire by the way.
Um, that title, many mothers who get child support are like this. They will tell the kids the father is a deadbeat too. I've seen the receipts to prove my own mother was a liar, entire shoeboxes of receipts.
Love how you asked where the father was .. they clearly had contact with him and he didn't know because the mother was telling the children its his fault and the children thought it was a normal part of life so when OP called I think she felt her back was to the wall and she basicly reached out instinctively to her father because the "if you have a issue talk to your father" being chanted for those years which the mother was trying to say all bad things blame the father.
This is why there needs to be a law where child support is required only for the child and ban the custodial parents from spending child support on themselves
The point u make at the end, u have to realize that some of these parents have found out ways to hide the truth from others in order to keep getting child support without the other parent finding out what they're actually using the money for. That and hiding it from their lawyers and judge and even CPS and others
Sounds to me like the dad did his duty to his children, and if the girls never complained about conditions at home to him, he has no way of knowing that they are not benefiting at all for the child support and if not for him keeping the mortgage paid they would have been on the street. The mother is 100% the bad parent. The problem is, the parent, usually the mother, benefitting in these arrangements do not have to make any accounting with the court as to what they do with the child support. They should 100% have to save every receipt they spend the money on and meet with a court representative each year.
Even I, as a dyed-in-the-wool feminist, agree with you. "Equality" doesn't just mean the same privileges/rights, it means the same responsibilities/consequences too.
It isn't a thing anymore, but it is still trotted out as a thing. The reality is that today the courts favor 50:50 if at all possible, but many non-custodial parents would rather pay money rather than the time and effort it takes to be a physically present parent.
Lost my mom to cancer 1 year ago . After 21 years of fighting this illness . Like I wish I can put him in my shoes for 10 minutes just to get a feel for the tragedy of people with cancer. And trust me when I say it can be absolute hell .
I hate how judges automatically give the mother custody in most cases. It sounds like the dad was much more qualified to take care of his kids than she was.
I firmly believe that in divorces where children are involved the children should go to the parent who has a stable income and able to pay for everything their kids need.
Good on the dad but sometimes the father doesn’t get to see the kids for various reasons it’s not always his fault and as in this case when he found out he sorted it out sometimes the mother will even say the kids don’t want to see you if they change their minds or I can convince them to contact you when she has no intentions of doing so… Yeah sometimes it can be because he’s an asshole as well… I now have a great relationship with my kids and found out how sometimes she would say things like I will send you to live with your father as a threat and how I was such a monster etc. If anyone is ever in this situation remember the truth will come out at some point as long as you do what you can for them they will find out in the end as long as you have proof that you always tried to do what you could….
I wish the father could have been compensated for all that money the mom wasted. Also, I'm surprised the mom wasn't charged for using the money incorrectly.
Fun fact about the disney one. Yes, make a wish is treated special. If you don’t want to wait in line you can spend a few thousand more for a private tour. They get u to the front of everything and offer stories on everything.
That thief mom should be treated like a trustee and have to provide the court an accounting. Then go to jail if she’s been misusing the funds. That’s straight up theft.
Last story: Why didn’t dad try to regain custody? Probably bc they lived in one of the many areas where courts and legislatures assume mothers are always better than fathers, so mothers get full custody no matter how bad they are. Fathers give up bc they think the judge won’t listen and a court fight will makes things even worse for the child/children. Not wanting to make a bad situation worse, the fathers back off. Read up on PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome). It’s way past time for courts and legislatures to assume mothers are always better than fathers.
What is sad is that when i was in college i worked service where we sold alcohol. I saw all sorts of 'parents' complain that 5$ was too much for a kids meal yet, happily throw away 50$ or more in margaritas or other beverages. Nearly got fired for refusing service to a particularly bad offender. Manager had second thoughts when he realized the kid was begging for food and parent was perfectly fine denying them anything while asking for alcohol. Thats when you KNOW you have problems. Priorities people!
2:59 I didn't expect it would get that crazy. Is he seriously wishing his kid a terminal illness just so they can cut in line?! I hope he was just dont thinking clearly when he said that. If he meant that, that is nearly reason to take the kids away from him because you cant possibly actually care about the kid and wish them cancer at the same time... Those kids aren't "lucky" they are just getting a little bit extra to make up for their suffering and drastically shortened life
Good lord...that sounded like my ex-wife. Sent her thousands in child support and my boy got diddly. She even called begging for money for clothes and school shit...where the hell did his child support money go?!! Now my son has 0 contact with her after finding out she was lying to him about me all the years we were apart. My son and I have a pretty good relationship now even though he still lives quite a ways away and we just can't go visit each other whenever we want.
Make a wish isn’t for every kid with cancer it’s for kids with terminal cancer. He basically said he wished his child would die so he doesn’t have to wait in line.
I always listen to these videos while working, and the one with the dad saying he wished his kid was sick to skip lines made me stop, sit up, and turn towards my phone in a mild state of confusion. That had to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard in my 25 years of life.
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That person playing Princess Aurora in the first story- fuckin- GLORIOUS
Yep hahah
OP has to realize mom is a toxic person. She had been abusing OP of years. It's good that dad has the resources to help OP get away from the monster. The best thing to do is cut contact. To bad you don't have a diary outlining her abuse so every time something happens demand an apology for incident on date XXX. OP probably wont get it but just having a record is great ammunition.
The documentation is a great way to prove to the court system that the abuse was happening.
With a narcissist, the best thing to do is go NC. It's for your own peace of mind, and you'll start to have some peace and freedom and finally have a sense of normalcy and stability.
Personally, I would take the written documentation into consideration, but written documentation alone wouldn't be enough to convince me. Written documents can be forged, I don't know how to tell whether or not something is or isn't a forgery, people have lied about things as serious as this before (hell, a father's daughter once lied about being raped by him. Why? Well, she did have sex with someone, but it was with a boy. I forget why she lied, but she pretty much ruined her father's life. Her lie was convincing because she planted evidence in the form of his underwear in the room she had sex in), and it's kind of hard to detect lies through text.
That second story? Literally my nightmare as a single father. Also DarkFluff, kids can't complain to you if they don't know their situation is wrong. As the OP said, she had no idea her situation was abnormal and only reached out to her dad when she was about to lose her college.
That really is sad a mother who abuses the system. I am sorry it impacts you like this.
@@thebadgerette69 Mothers advising the system to go out partying and not using child support for the child are the norm, not the exception. The system needs to change, but if the child's well being was the true concern then men would get custody more than half the time.
@@sypoth while i agree men should be able to get custody a lot of time my dad literally from the stories i heard told the judge me and my brother are not his kids to which the judge laughed at him
His argument we did not share his hair color or eye color
Through out my life my dad constantly told me i was the mail mans kid and the only times i heard him say i was his kid was when he was trying to get laid or when i told him i have a medical problem he has
So yes fathers should get control of their kids but its a case by case basis
@@sypoth men should be able to get the kids. My brother finally got custody because his ex proved how crazy she was to the person who was supposed to take the kid to my brothers "supervised visits". Not all moms are good parents.....not all dads are either.....
Divorced kid that lives with my dad. Best outcome for me imo. Keep up the good fight
Fluff has the perfect voice for these stories and I could never get tired of it
*yes*
2nd
It's so true, it's kind of like how I watch kitboga's videos while I do chores, I can listen to this guy all day
The reason why i love listening to him so calming
You can say, his voice is fluffy too
Make a wish child: *Is literally dying and probably only has a little while left on this earth*
Entitled parents/Karens: You deserve nothing, child. ☺️
The ultimate example of how lacking in human empathy and compassion some people are.
Listen there is special place for men like that. Also becareful what you wish for!
Pretty much.
And the saddest part is that even sick children get parents like these. There was a story from another channel where a Karen had a daughter who was terminally ill. The poor didn't have much time and had died in the end of the story. The only thing she wished for was meeting RDJ (Tony Stark-Ironman) but her mother disregarded it, and instead used the make a Wish foundation so she and the other healthy kids of hers can go on a free vacation. . .
That was truly disgusting. . .
@@fictions_in_motion_07 such a despicable parent and family in general, mother should be in jail for that crime. At the very least shunned and ostracized for the remainder of her life, the kids too if they were fine with it.
My mother did the same. She spent all the child support on her hair, nails, eyelashes, ect. We were so “poor” we had to move in with my abusive grandparents. She kept my father from my sister and I. We need a better system for child support.
How about just making it illegal to not properly care for your children even when you can afford it. If someone prioritizes luxury over their children's basic needs and safety then they deserve to go to jail and at minimum lose right to their children so they dont have to suffer. Child support isn't meant to be spend on that sort of stuff, if you want more than your and your families basic needs you gotta actually earn those money
My father petitioned the courts to review her spending. They did nothing. I showed up to school bruised and dirty. Nothing came of it. The system lets a lot of people fall out.
@@zakosist Child abuse/neglect is already illegal. And you can already take someone to court for improperly spending child support or parental alienation. At least in the US, family courts are set up to side with the mother in most cases. Also, things can be hard to prove. It's very likely, the mother told the father everything was fine. But also that the children hated him. Shit's complicated. Some people are just walking trash bags.
@@smol-one Well then there should be more check up by default and not just blindly believing the person who receives the money. Like I'm sure they could track what you're actually spending on, especially today when people mostly use bank cards/credit cards. And if someone is not feeding their kids properly I think that would turn out on a health test that they aren't getting proper nutrition. Perhaps asking the kids to describe their living situation at home would give useful insight. Although that shouldn't be blindly believed either as kids can make up a lot of stuff, but if can be a warning of when you need to look deeper into things. Those who want to trick the system are often clever about it so we need to make that harder
Are you okay?
Yo Princess Aurora is the embodiment of a good person here. Not only did she put the dad in his place in character and stay in character for the make-a-wish kid; but also made it a teachable moment for that horrible Dad's innocent daughter. She likely canceled out his negative vibes for the day but I really hope that little girl grows up to be nothing like her father.
If there’s any lesson from story #2. If you’re paying child support, demand visitation rights.
Well.... not always my ex is on drugs and alcohol.... and has been passed out when I've picked them up, done it all in front of them, and had hookers over while they were there.... so he pays. But he can't have them. I was letting him but the judge took it away. Hallelujah. They did say if the Monday prior to the 4th Saturday of the month he could get s drug and alcohol test and come Saturday to my house to see them. He just used that for the first time in4 years last Saturday. They have no idea who he is. They are 4.5 and 6. It was confusing as all Hell for them and is only a matter of time before dips back out.
Mind you he is over 20k behind and is finally paying now bc his work does it automatically like a garnishment. And it's still not the amount they said he is supposed to pay monthly so he's still getting further behind. Not all parents should have rights to their children.
It's not always that easy. Toxic mothers will do anything and everything to keep the father away while still collecting the check. I've seen it a lot in my friend groups.
The last story? The Mom made it sound like the Dad wanted nothing to do with his kids, which was a lie. The Mom gaslit her own kids, then probably told Dad the girls didn't want to see to him, keeping them all apart until OP finally contacted him herself. Once the major impediment was removed (her Mom), the truth was revealed. Damn, that just totally sucks.
The one with the mom who squandered the child support on herself made me want to chuck my phone across the room. Seriously, it's called "Child Support" for a reason.
It was supporting the biggest child.
Use all the common sense all you want, it won't work on people who don't care enough to listen. We live in a world where no matter how nice you are, you're always going to be the villain of someone else's story.
Wait wasn't it called "Mommy's paycheck"?
But yeah the story is effed up and made my blood boil with every word...
And I agree with Darkfluf, where was their dad all this time. Like yeah cool that he showed up in the end and took care of college and everything, but where was he before? When kids didn't have breakfast on their table, when a high-schooler had to work to pay the bills while mom is not working...
@@nataliiatarsis711 could be something about the divorce. Not even allowed visitations or whatever
yeah and in this day and age all women are children.
Mothers like the one in that story have made me a firm believer that child support should be set up like food stamps and clothing vouchers. If it's for the kids, it better go to the kids.
Good idea. You could also have the parent that owes child support turn in receipts for buying things for the kid. Amnt purchased being equal to the Amnt if child support awarded.
A lot of people want that. Sadly it'll take an act of God to force it.
Totally agree, it can't be abused as easily. Maybe there should also be some occasional check up on each family to make sure everything's alright as child abuse can be hidden and kids may not understand it because they dont know what the normal is
I agree. Child support should be like an HSA card. Either buy food stamp foods , shopping for items over 50 dollars had to be submitted in 30 days or penalties aka reimbursement to other parent. And home utilities that have to be proven in the parents name and confirm address. And the child should be able to have proof of money spent at the age of 14 should have visibility and access 50% with separate card to use at 16.
@@kpurekrystals In the case of that last point, the kid should absolutely get taught how to handle money responsibly.
The mother probably refused to let the children see or talk to their father. Also a lot of family courts favor mothers over fathers in child custody cases.
I know a guy who has a son who has some sort of medical condition that requires life saving medication to be taken daily. Anyways the mother of this child arrives at the pharmacy before this guy does and takes the medication and then proceeds to refuse to give to this guy. Then here’s where it gets really bizarre she had the audacity to call CPS and told them the guy was refusing to give the child their medication that she took and is refusing to give. He has taken her to court multiple times and the courts always side with her. Also note that the guy I know is a paramedic who understands the severity of this kid’s condition and has reordered the medication multiple times and she always manages to get there before him and take it.
@@dah16121986 I’m not doubting the veracity of what you are saying, but I have a question: If the mother always is getting to the pharmacy first and picking up the lifesaving medication, even when the father re-orders it, how is this child still alive?
I don't agree with this, it's clearly 50/50 my dad was abusive and very negligent to how we felt. He ended up kicking us out becuase he cheated. So they favored him in court over my mom even though she is the most caring woman. So yea depends on the court
@@pandachan3809 Also depends on the situation.
@@CTrunde they have joint custody and I believe she is seeking full so the child still gets his medication when he is with his mother but she refuses to send it with the child when he gets him.
"I have a daughter that doesn't want to take care of me!"
"Really? I had a mother that didn't want to take care of me, what a coincidence?"
Custody should be given to fathers more often.
Yes. Unfortunately, the court system often favors women. Men have to fight for their rights to gain custody. This needs to change. All too often, kids will slip through the cracks.
@@evadedenbach1226 And all too often, abusive men will fight for custody just to screw over the ex.
@@wmdkitty I get it. Abusers have ways to manipulate the system
True. And really both parents should get custody unless some of them are found to be abusive/neglectful. Even if parents leave each other that should not mean the kids lose all contact with one of them. They can travel back and fourth, I did that during my childhood and I'm glad I got to know and bond with both parents
Courts look at what’s in the kids’ best interest. And what they usual base their decision on is which parent was the primary caregiver. So if fathers want custody - or a normal relationship - they should take a greater role in their kids’ lives. And be careful who you marry. I guarantee that awful mother was an awful person before she had kids.
I'm a narcissist, and I know better than to make excuses. Mommy needs to grow the heck up.
When he was able to prove she wasnt helping with college, would that not cast enough doubt to open a case and look further in the past and hold her accountable for that? Now i realize by the end of the story she basically has nothing.. But man that makes me so mad that she got away with that shizzz.
I have to say, that Aurora co-worker handled that situation just like a Princess! The Queen herself couldn’t have done better!
This is why in all divorce cases they need to have somebody from the courts or CPS come in and check on the children and see how they're being treated at home cuz this is abuse and psychological abuse to boot. Where was the dad there was no mention of that he was barred from seeing the children
Depending on the state it can be really easy for the winning party to have a no contact order against the other party, my best friend's dad had such an order on him and while he wasn't a saint he would occasionally ask me about him. (our dad's worked for the same company and I spent some summers working when I was 16). I feel like if the dad had known some of the things his mom put him through (including dating and sheltering a child pedophile) in his younger years he would have 100% put everything on hold to help him.
Sadly he didn't find out until 7 years later and the pedophile had already be caught and sentenced.
Its emotional, psychological, and financial abuse.
He was probably being told lies that the child funds were being properly allocated.
Sounds like the mother made life so miserable for everyone that the father suffered silently and waited for the time for the kids to come to him. Sounds like both did and he welcomed both and helped them. Another case on why the courts in Family law are flawed.
That’s called a guardian ad litem
I'll never understand why men are obligated to pay child support, but women are under zero obligation to use that money to support the child.
Breeding is basically a money making scam for a lot of women.
Not just women, any person in general really, it just depends on the person and their compassion or simple humanity
@@serenabrowne4517 Men don't pay child support? Jail. Women don't pay child support? Walk around without a care in the world.
@@jasondyrkacz8270 i just meant that for instance one parent could pay child support but the other might use it on themself, no matter the gender, the only thing it depends on is the person and their personality
@@jasondyrkacz8270 do literally any research into this, because women have been jailed for not paying child support
Sadly men get away with a slew of ridiculous atrocities when it comes down to taking responsibility for the children they help to make. 'Dead beat dads' have become a societal norm along with dealing with the aftermath that is daddy issues. Its not even really treated as an outrage anymore, almost like it should be expected, and you are stupid for expecting any different. Its a sad reality but true. Parenting is never easy whether you are a father or a mother, some just choose to walk away from the family dynamic
That mother for the second story was pathetic she should be arrested for not taking care of her kids .And spending the money that should have been for the family she blew through all of it
I agree. 2nd OP and her sister should've been adopted by decent and loving families.
Perhaps she should be made to pay that money back.....
I feel like the Judge should have made her pay back the child support since she clearly never gave the money to support the children.
I do not believe the judge has that much power.
@@josephhodges9819 they do.
He probably would have never seen the money.
@@SallySlayer409 Probably, but that would mean she'd be out of work for the rest of her life, making it impossible to retire, have a social security benefit, anything.
All of that would get garnished to pay back what she used on herself.
@@BrokensoulRider Saying they do does not make it so just like me saying I do not think they do. I have no proof and neither do you.
Women like that mom are very good at manipulating the truth. Its possible she made it appear that everything was fine for the kids financially. She may even have convinced the dad that the daughters didn't want to see him and that they hated him. I've seen moms like this. They are really good at dividing and conquering, keeping peoples heads spinning in confusion, and making themselves look like the victim without anyone catching on for a long time. But it eventually catches up to bite them in many cases. I mean the daughters were in constant contact with her and even in early adulthood didn't notice that there was plenty of money to be had. If the mom can fool the people who are with her, she can definitely fool an ex who is living far away. These women are so good at getting their way its scary. They SAY complain to your father but they make sure the kids don't actually go and do it. Well timed combinations of subtle trickery, lies, threats, dramatic outbursts, and gaslighting are their weapons. It. Is. Scary.
I don't know. The dad lived not far away and the OP never says anything bad about the father, just how the mom treated them. I have to wonder what he was doing all this time that he didn't notice anything. Surely if they spent any time at all with him they would see how differently things were at his house. He swoops in and saves the day when they are grown, after all the hard work is done of raising minor children (not saying that the mother really raised them either). He just threw money at the mother all these years and really was involved minimally in their lives.
We know Mom was a pos, but Dad shouldn't get a pass either.
@@shells500tutubo Its true we dont know all the details. But OP did say she didnt complain to her dad until so many years of hearing her mom say over and over "complain to your dad". And he responded pretty quick as soon as OP told him everything. As soon as he knew his kids hadnt gotten a dime of what was meant for them he fixed it right away. And from what ive seen people around me go through with divorce or divorced parents I dont think many non-custodial parents would continue to pay mortgage on a house they no longer live in and have left to their ex. Many non-custodial parents have had far less child support to pay and didnt pay it in full or at all. He paid it diligently and fully intended to provide financial support to his kids until they were done with college. Many noncustodial parents if they pay will only pay til their kids are 18. With so many strong points revealing his character to be good and the fact that OP was happy to go stay with him and his wife tells me that either the custody arrangement included him not being allowed to contact the kids or the mom making it difficult or impossible for him to contact the kids. Im guessing that the custody arrangement somehow separated him from the kids because the mom blatantly stole all of the child support. Why would she be so confident she could get away with it if there wasnt something that prevented the dad from seeing or contacting the kids and finding out how theyre doing? Something like complete no-contact sole custody? But you are right. There is a lot we dont know. OP can't tell us everything. But im glad everything worked out in the end.
@@kulsoomahsan4440 There IS a lot missing, as there always is in these stories. But it seems like a person who is paying child support AND the mortgage would have enough money to hire a lawyer who would get better terms UNLESS there was some reason he didn't want custody. I just don't like the father getting a free pass for leaving his kids with such a person and then swooping in to save the day when the kids are essentially grown. And you know he knows what the mother is like. He was married to her after all.
@@shells500tutubo sometimes the father is only left with enough money for shelter, food, and utilities after child support. So, saving up for a lawyer takes time. My friend had a side "hustle" to buy and repair equipment fight for his kids. He finally got full custody. This after years of being in a system that favors the mother.
This mom story shows once again how the courts favor the mother over the father in any situation.
Story 1: Imagine being so entitled that you would want your child terminally ill just to skip some lines. Trashy, I tell you. Trashy.
Story 2: Malicious Compliance right here. She tells OP to complain to their dad, and OP did. Can you imagine being so selfish that you take all the money for yourself and then lie to your children that you have no money? Mom's lifestyle has been nuked for her actions.
1stS: I think the daughter should be adopted...😳😐
My mother spent nearly $180,000 worth of child support on herself and she says I owe her for being my mother. (She received $900/month for 16 years).
Probably paid for her drinks, her friend's drinks and a couple rounds for the house, plus whatever dine out she and her friends did, booze for home, clothes for herself and the like. and if there was anything left over? THAT she would give to the kids. Seriously its disgusting how this happens more than people think. And i DO know of these things that have transpired in my hometown cuz, again, mom is a retired DCFS/CPS worker.
My mom never got child support for me as my father died before I was born ! But my whole life as a child I remember that I always had everything I needed food clothes shoes shelter etc . But since I have become an adult when I look back at my childhood I realize that my mother sacrificed everything to do for me . I still remember seeing my mother sew on her clothes and take cardboard put her shoes on it trace out the shape of the bottom of her shoes and then cut the cardboard in the shape of the bottom of her shoes and put it inside her shoes . I will never be able to say thank you enough and show my mother how much I love her and appreciate her for everything she is done for me during my life . Thank you for everything mom !
@@joshdaniels5970 some parents go above and beyond for their kids 😢
Sounds like your mom was one of them 😀
Just imagining the mum's face dropping when OP said "I talked to dad" XD
Honestly the dad and kids should sue the mom if they can... I just wish the kids had let their dad know how bad it was when they WERE kids so he could have saved them so much heartache
Dad may well have not known what was going on. Even if he suspected something, he needed proof. Rock solid proof, because, unfortunately, most family courts automatically favor the mother. No matter how 'unacceptable' she may be. Once he found out, and was able to get enough evidence, he made things right. Also unfortunately, many women use child support for their own pleasures. Kicking this woman to the curb is a grave that she dug for herself.
1st story, wow, just wow, the entitlement and the rude words. I hope he learned his lesson and didn't get anything from make a wish other than the loss of friends
2nd story is simple, the mother needs to find herself a job
The comment by the Entitled Dad in Story 1 had me wide-eyed. The reaction by Princess Aurora made me smile.
Fluff: What was the mom doing with all that money?
Me: *drugs*
As someone who has helped Make-A-Wish, and does cosplay events for sick kids, that first story just made me so sick! It's heart-breaking to see what these kids have to go through, and I would have really struggled not to break character and just start going off on that jerk! Thankfully it sounds like he may have learned his lesson.
The entitled jerk was never punished severely as a child.
True story, my grandmother once told me she wished I'd get cancer so I'd "finally lose some weight".
*This angered her father who would get around to punishing her severely*
Most mothers are like this, yet, father’s still can’t get custody
The mom with the child support sounds like my dad. He would constantly lose jobs or quit because other people were "evil" because they... expected him to work and not steal their computers like he did. Computers were so important to him that we would go without food so he could upgrade a hard drive.
The thing is, at the time I thought that my dad could do no wrong and believed every story he told me. My parents divorced when I was 15 and I decided to stay with my dad. I worked out of high school instead of going to one of the dozens of colleges I was accepted into because I couldn't afford just to get to the schools because my dad "couldn't help." I joined the military when I was 19 partly to get out of that toxic household (I had finally started to see a few cracks in my dad's perfect facade by then) and he made me feel guily that he ended up homeless because he couldn't afford rent after I left. I was a shift manager at Taco Bell and he took more than half of my paycheck for "bills" that we still ended up not having enough money to pay for somehow. I cut off all contact with him about a decade ago until he died from heart failure in 2016. Now, I have a much better relationship with my mom, who my dad always blamed everything on.
The dad probably didn't even know. The kids thought the abuse was normal so they wouldn't complain and since the dad didn't have custody he was basically cero contact.
I love how the actor made sure to explain to the ken's daughter to be nice to people.
She's a rock star that one!
good on Aurora!! a good shaming - especially when his child is blissfully unaware of who that little talk was directed to - was On. Point. (this is my FAVE disney movie, always, stylistically as well as the tale ... and nicknamed my daughter Beeping Slooty as it was her fave too).
The Disney Employee HAD to stay in Character since (as I understand it) breaking Character REGARDLESS of the reason is grounds for either a SEVERE Reprimand and/or Termination.
DarkFluff: “I love you”
Me: “I love you more”
Wow that's a terrible mom 4:20
The mother on the second story is the kind of parents you leave behind and don't even show up to her funeral
The kind that when relatives say she died you just go "Oh that sucks, I'll uber eats some flowers to her funeral then."
Fluff you are a good person.
In comparison there are people out there who don't bother to learn how much a child should be eating let alone multiply it be the number of children they have at home to feed. ♡ Glad to know people like you are here to look out for the future.
Story 2 is Entitled People initially, then Malicious Compliance that ends with some nice, cold, Nuclear Revenge
I am baffled as to how or why this woman had custody of her kids (last story)?? WTF
2:55 😲 Did he REALLY just say that? That's horrible!
Man every time I’m in a low place, I realize there’s a new video and it helps so much.
I have triplet cousins. When they turned 3, the youngest was diagnosed with leukaemia. He got a make-a-wish wish, and he chose to get to meet a penguin. He was obsessed. I am really thabkful, my little cousin survived! He is now 13 and honestly, I am so greatful that we were one of the lucky ones!
The last story: maybe the mom drank away the money. That's an awful lot of booze but I bet you could do it.
Not as crazy as it seems.
I mean she roughly had 60$ per day. Booze plus a few other bad habits can eat that up with ease.
@@peterpan4038 Depending on where you live. In New York City, oh hell yeah $60 is nothing. That's maybe 2-3 mixed drinks, or maybe up to 6 beers depending on quality. On the other hand there are bars in Wisconsin where you pay a $20 cover charge for a wrist band, which entitles you to all-you-can-drink beer. It's just bud light or some other cheap pisswater, but drink enough of it and it gets the job done, and you still have the rest of your cash for a sub from Erbert & Gerberts. Ahh...college memories.
If the Dad had kept that 250K over the 10 years he would've ended up in a ton of trouble and possibly jail. Glad karma finally got the Mom but she's managing to barely survive.
sounds like someone should have called cps on this selfish mom. now maybe you should sue her for the money YOU should have gotten
I agree.
Make-A-Wish needs to organize, with the theme parks (or whatever the organization), to arrange meet and greets that do not inconvenience/avoid other paying patrons. They also need to have a segregated fast pass for rides/concessions that do not inconvenience/completely avoid other paying patrons. Regardless of the fact that it’s MAW, paying patrons should not be shoved aside. MAW and the agreeing organizations are to blame and they need to do better for all concerned.
Any mother that uses this assine comment is beyond help. The problem is at the age of these kids, it turned into brainwashing. And as their grew older REALITY set in. How much of a very poor mother/caretaker she is
Mothers Like that are a good Argument for Periodic Audits by Family Court for Child Support
I feel the narcissistic mom story. I feel it in my soul so hard. Hoping one day I’ll be free from it all.
It will come one day sweetheart, just keep going. One day at a time.
It's called CHILD SUPPORT for a reason! Not "Money for the Ex to spend on themselves"!
I cannot even imagine stringing those words together about a sick child. I have 2 brats and I really can't fathom saying such a thing!! I really really hope the daughter didn't hear her dad wish cancer on her so he didn't have to wait in line!
The dad behind the idiot: Dude, uncool.
Fortunately from the sound of it she didn't. Apparently she was too engrossed in playing with her doll. It may have been a new one and so her focus was there, thank goodness.
A friend of mine had child support that his ex wife used to support herself and her boyfriend. My friend knew about it. When the child support was done he sent the ex wife a pair of scissors and a book of coupons. He is a millionaire by the way.
I have a friend who has a mom who reminds me of the mom in the second story. It makes me sad that there are "moms" out there like this.
I'm so sorry about your friend. What happened, after that?
For the complain to Dad story.
I'm sorry, WHY was she throwing the W2s away? Was that ever explained?
This is why I’m going to take my sweet time learning to know my significant other when it comes
First story, the terrible father had the Disney character almost break character from his stupidity lol luckily aurora wasn't fired for it
ED: *Says something extremely stupid*
*This enraged Disney security who punished him severely*
Second story OP suffered and I'm sorry that she went through that for most of her. Glad she got out.
this is why courts should treat men and women equally then stuff like this wouldn't happen nearly as much.
Um, that title, many mothers who get child support are like this. They will tell the kids the father is a deadbeat too. I've seen the receipts to prove my own mother was a liar, entire shoeboxes of receipts.
Love how you asked where the father was .. they clearly had contact with him and he didn't know because the mother was telling the children its his fault and the children thought it was a normal part of life so when OP called I think she felt her back was to the wall and she basicly reached out instinctively to her father because the "if you have a issue talk to your father" being chanted for those years which the mother was trying to say all bad things blame the father.
I'm really glad those other people boo'd the entitled dad!!!
This is why there needs to be a law where child support is required only for the child and ban the custodial parents from spending child support on themselves
The point u make at the end, u have to realize that some of these parents have found out ways to hide the truth from others in order to keep getting child support without the other parent finding out what they're actually using the money for. That and hiding it from their lawyers and judge and even CPS and others
Sounds to me like the dad did his duty to his children, and if the girls never complained about conditions at home to him, he has no way of knowing that they are not benefiting at all for the child support and if not for him keeping the mortgage paid they would have been on the street.
The mother is 100% the bad parent. The problem is, the parent, usually the mother, benefitting in these arrangements do not have to make any accounting with the court as to what they do with the child support.
They should 100% have to save every receipt they spend the money on and meet with a court representative each year.
Preferring mothers over fathers with child custody is bullshit, this should not be a thing.
Even I, as a dyed-in-the-wool feminist, agree with you. "Equality" doesn't just mean the same privileges/rights, it means the same responsibilities/consequences too.
It isn't a thing anymore, but it is still trotted out as a thing. The reality is that today the courts favor 50:50 if at all possible, but many non-custodial parents would rather pay money rather than the time and effort it takes to be a physically present parent.
Lost my mom to cancer 1 year ago . After 21 years of fighting this illness . Like I wish I can put him in my shoes for 10 minutes just to get a feel for the tragedy of people with cancer. And trust me when I say it can be absolute hell .
I hate how judges automatically give the mother custody in most cases. It sounds like the dad was much more qualified to take care of his kids than she was.
I hope that when Aurora said that a true princess is kind patient and compassionate towards others she gave the dad a side eye while doing so
I’m so glad the dad stepped in and saved the day for the OP!
I firmly believe that in divorces where children are involved the children should go to the parent who has a stable income and able to pay for everything their kids need.
She drank all that money up!
I will admit i use these stories as asmr just cause Fluffs voice is so soothing to listen too
Good on the dad but sometimes the father doesn’t get to see the kids for various reasons it’s not always his fault and as in this case when he found out he sorted it out sometimes the mother will even say the kids don’t want to see you if they change their minds or I can convince them to contact you when she has no intentions of doing so…
Yeah sometimes it can be because he’s an asshole as well…
I now have a great relationship with my kids and found out how sometimes she would say things like I will send you to live with your father as a threat and how I was such a monster etc.
If anyone is ever in this situation remember the truth will come out at some point as long as you do what you can for them they will find out in the end as long as you have proof that you always tried to do what you could….
I wish the father could have been compensated for all that money the mom wasted. Also, I'm surprised the mom wasn't charged for using the money incorrectly.
Thanks Dark Fluff as always x
Thank you Aurora!
Fun fact about the disney one. Yes, make a wish is treated special. If you don’t want to wait in line you can spend a few thousand more for a private tour. They get u to the front of everything and offer stories on everything.
That thief mom should be treated like a trustee and have to provide the court an accounting. Then go to jail if she’s been misusing the funds. That’s straight up theft.
Last story: Why didn’t dad try to regain custody? Probably bc they lived in one of the many areas where courts and legislatures assume mothers are always better than fathers, so mothers get full custody no matter how bad they are. Fathers give up bc they think the judge won’t listen and a court fight will makes things even worse for the child/children. Not wanting to make a bad situation worse, the fathers back off. Read up on PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome). It’s way past time for courts and legislatures to assume mothers are always better than fathers.
Most times moms like that train the kids to think the dad doesn't care about them
Major props to Aurora for managing to not break character in her rage.
What is sad is that when i was in college i worked service where we sold alcohol. I saw all sorts of 'parents' complain that 5$ was too much for a kids meal yet, happily throw away 50$ or more in margaritas or other beverages.
Nearly got fired for refusing service to a particularly bad offender. Manager had second thoughts when he realized the kid was begging for food and parent was perfectly fine denying them anything while asking for alcohol.
Thats when you KNOW you have problems. Priorities people!
2:59 I didn't expect it would get that crazy. Is he seriously wishing his kid a terminal illness just so they can cut in line?! I hope he was just dont thinking clearly when he said that. If he meant that, that is nearly reason to take the kids away from him because you cant possibly actually care about the kid and wish them cancer at the same time... Those kids aren't "lucky" they are just getting a little bit extra to make up for their suffering and drastically shortened life
WOW! That was truly LOW!
Good lord...that sounded like my ex-wife. Sent her thousands in child support and my boy got diddly. She even called begging for money for clothes and school shit...where the hell did his child support money go?!! Now my son has 0 contact with her after finding out she was lying to him about me all the years we were apart. My son and I have a pretty good relationship now even though he still lives quite a ways away and we just can't go visit each other whenever we want.
Make a wish isn’t for every kid with cancer it’s for kids with terminal cancer. He basically said he wished his child would die so he doesn’t have to wait in line.
I always listen to these videos while working, and the one with the dad saying he wished his kid was sick to skip lines made me stop, sit up, and turn towards my phone in a mild state of confusion. That had to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard in my 25 years of life.
You just make a bad day better just by posting i love you fluff
My friend died of cancer at the age of 7 and I can assure you her family would have rather been in that fathers shoes than to have a sick child.
That make a wish story nearly made me cry when I heard how heartless that dad was. No idea why. It had a happy ending.
That mom story was a train wreck, and it just kept going.
OMG I can't stand the entitled divorced mothers who seem to believe child support is for their own upkeep, not the child's *smh*
its all good for them, at least until the child support stops