One of the reasons the Supreme Court can give for deciding not to hear a particular case is that "the court does not deal in trifles." Prioritizing the insignificant above the truly important is not only wasteful, it is disrespectful. Liberally granting your time and attention is like printing more money: the subsequent inflation only serves to devalue the circulating currency. This means that it is essential to learn how to say "no." Pre-order my book: amzn.to/3UlsTsY Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: th-cam.com/video/WrXBzQ2HDEQ/w-d-xo.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: th-cam.com/channels/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXw.htmljoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #selfimprovement #success
Like getting rejected by a girl and wasting 10 years committing crimes against her, being a self appointed middleman in all matters of her life? Is that worth 10 years of your time? It’s not worth 10 years of my time. Some people have unlimited time and resources.
Men must constantly protect his M.E.A.T. (Money.Energy.Attention.Time) more than ever due to all the distractions that exists these days. Shoutout to Coach Greg Adams (CGA)!
Stalkers don’t. They can waste 10 years of their life being broke, available, wasting time, offering unwanted attention, intruding, being self appointed middlemen and ruin peoples lives. Imagine 1 rejection being worth 10 years of your life. That’s psychotic. Stalkers are unemployed that’s why they have ALL the time in the world to WAIT for something that will never happen. They don’t need it to happen. They just want to waste time. Their time isn’t worth shit.
My kickboxing coach told me "nothing is neutral". In that there are only so many hours/days/years you are going to live and if it's not moving forward it is holding you back.
@ratamacue0320 if "nothing is neutral" means anything that just happens by itself, it would drain anyone. But from a kickboxing coach, it probably meant especially how you train, not every little thing that happens irl. So, e.g., choose what you practice wisely.
Neutral doesn’t exist. Time is passing every second. Wasted time is the biggest betrayal. No amount of money, promotion, wedding or person can make up for it. It’s evil to waste someone’s time especially if you’re a dick who’s been told to buzz off. Shit upbringing and no goals, are a bad combination.
Exactly. But this is also why it's rather important to have a job you enjoy, at least a little. What a sad existence it is to have so much of your day consumed by something you hate.
In my younger days, several people told me that I needed to "learn how to tell people no". Subsequent interactions revealed that they were always leaving out the word "other".
Agree 100%. Say no, Reject, Deny, Disappoint and Ignore will likely earn you the title of Ass 'ole. Wear it as a badge. If you are called a 'nice guy' in your circles, then you are giving away your time for free. Congrats on 500K Doc. Onwards to 1M !
If you are one of those "receptcle" types, every once in a while test the person who is dumping their problems on you to see if they'll reciprocate by listening to yours, even if it goes against your nature. Their likely lack of interest will be the best demonstration of Dr. Taraban's point here.
Human beings are not meant to be emotional dumpsters/entropy receptacles. This what we have psychologists/therapists/social workers are for. And I would argue most of them get overpaid for being a glorified emotional dumpsters. I would advise every man to not to behave as a free emotional paper bag (just a friend, "you are such a good guy") unless being compensated for this hideous service. Your kids are an exceptions, of course.
This video really spoke to me. I struggle with not valuing my time over my girlfriends when she needs something. An unfortunate pattern I learned as a child trying to emotionally regulate my incredibly unstable mother. I definitely need to keep this concept in mind, thank you.
Your girl isn’t gonna like it. But hey… who brings the most value to the relationship? If you can honestly say that you do, then it’s her loss. It’s going to take a long time practicing the imaginary 100ft tow rope process and will take legit self confidence and maybe even a bit of anger/rage to help you through. Good luck 👍
I came to that realization a few years ago. I no longer bother arguing with random weirdos on the internet. Whatever opinion they have matters little to me. Once I see them trying to stir up a useless debate, I ignore them. And if they get too persistent, seeking even a tiny bit of my attention, I immediately block them. I no longer deal with that kind of nonsense; my mental peace is one of my top priorities and fixations at this point in my life.
Sometimes you have to restrain your own friendly nature because people will want to take a mile when you give an inch. Thanks for reminding and reaffirming.
I assumed as a married man my duty was to do everything my wife asked. Well what happened is exactly described in this video. Resentment, lack of time to do my important things, and my wife expecting more and more and being irritated that I was failing to fulfill her requests.
Congratulations on 500k subscribers! I wonder if you might devote an episode to your greatest influences in psychology. At different times you've mentioned Freud, Jung, Robert Johnson, and a number of others. Whose ideas would you say have shaped you the most? Thank you!
This is, by a long shot, one of the best videos you have done. Brimming with tons of wisdom that comes from years of lived experiences and overcoming challenges, in order to come up with such realizations. I already knew most of what you said, but I love the professional way you address these topics. The output is beyond amazing and definitely contains a ton of life lessons encompassed in a brief video. Kudos to you, Orion.
Wow, terrifically important topic. Nicely explained too. This whole bit about the value of your time and attention, is too little appreciated. Living in an era of entitled people has only made it worse. Thanks for this episode.
Absofucking BANG ON! My greatest challenge in life, and the thing that has held me back more than any other factor, is that I have not told people: "No, I am not willing to do that." I was lucky to make a friend who conveyed the EXACT message Dr. Taraban is conveying here about 8 years ago, and it has improved my life in ways you cannot imagine. This is by far one of his MOST IMPORTANT videos.
Just what I needed to hear! This talk addresses some of the top energy drains .. Adding the adage about arguing with a fool.. Thanks for the extra tools. Never had a Trifle Meter and came with an accessory pack. Heck of a deal for 50 bucks!
Solid message once again from the Doc! Given that we don't technically own our own children, I've learned that our attention really is the most valuable thing we all possess, even more so than our time, since where our attention lies controls how we spend our time.
This was very good. The other day my oldest sister had created a chat between my brother and I. And my brother had bought a ticket for our dad. She was creating arguments conversation. I had to check her and say that between mom & dad if someone did a nice jester let the couple resolve and speak for themselves. Sometimes these trifles happen with family members as well. Very petty insignificant discussion that can be defused. Blessings 💜
I love your talks and courses. It is strange. Every time I play any of your talks, it forces me to sit down and take notes. This very rarely happens with other clips I daily watch. The points you make are so fundamental and resonates with my daily life. It directly pokes the sensitive functions of my behavior that need adjustment. Thank you.
That information about the 4-6 hours of high performance are certainly legit. High peak hours are necessary for = ''Creativity, Concentration, Physical Performance, Careful Reasoning and Performative Charisma'' That explains why we function and behave the way we do. Super valuable information
Thank you, Mr. Taraban, for yet another thing that i SORT OF figured out by myself by being almost 50 years old, but never quite so precise and with drawing such clear implications! Also, as a non-native speaker, thank you for your clear pronounciation and calm and well-paced speaking style, it makes it easy to follow your points, even with you following a rather elaborate style. Keep on enlightening us!
I somewhat share the same notion. The only reason I hesitate to label this one as my favorite is because Orion has shared so much wisdom and life lessons in many videos that it's actually difficult to choose just one as the absolute best. Still, this video is definitely in the top 3.
“Never argue with a woman”. When you are young and inexperienced you interpret this as a challenge and try to be the first to get through to her. When you are older and experienced - you interpret it the way this video suggests!”. They were never arguing to understand. It is a never ending absorption of attention that no man can afford.
Thank you for that. I used to get mad when ever anything went wrong. Then Christ changed me. I started saying thank you God, when bad things happened. This gives a new perspective on a spiritual issue. It's a good tool to change that which is broken.
It's interesting how it often stems from not receiving unconditional love from parents at a young age - it sets up a condition in your head, that you need to deserve other people, and that you can't love yourself just because. Later in life then, people too easily plead for love, because they can not grant themselves the peace of it themselves, since they have never experienced such emotion of self sufficency. I think it's equally as important to know where these problems stem from, as well as knowing the solution. Problem - Not having self-worth and unconditional love for oneself. Source - Lack of love in your childhood Solution - Logically deriving your self-worth, but also emotionally realizing that someone didn't give you what you were supposed to receive at some point, and it now remains upon you to finish raising your inner child.
Orion, you mentioned in one of your vids, "No women ever left you when you were doing well, only when you had a setback." Since this has been a universal thing men deal with women leaving when they lose a job, have a death in the family, a health or business setback etc. can you do a short one on this topic?
Sounds like God was protecting me at the timimg when I had cancer. I was single at the time of treatment. An ex girlfriend broke up with me 1 year before the diagnosis. I truly believe she would not have been supportive in the way I needed during that time and it was just as well that I was single and had good support from my family.
Interesting. The last man I was with, I left while he was doing well and better. He had this idea that I was like the previous girlfriend, always chiding him for playing too many gigs. I encouraged the music, but the more I did that, the less quality time he had for me, so I stopped responding. He only wanted to see me when he was on his way somewhere else, exactly what his Dad did to his Mom. So I refused, said I'll see you when you're ready to share time and attention equally deeply. He's back and paying attention now.
That's my problem before I had a hard time saying " No " because of being nice, compassionate, kind and for the sake of peace and harmony . However some people don't know their limits sometimes including MySelf. Now as I aged I learn to say NO even if some people like friends, family, neighbors get dissatisfied or disappointed . Same as well if I cross on other people's boundary then it's okay to say/ tell me NO. I'm a believer of There's time for Everything. Time to respond, time to pause, time to relax, time to think, work , time to sleep and eat etc. etc. time to closeness and separation. I totally agree on this 👍.
I am continually surprised by the clarity this man brings to issues. I wonder if living in cali. , with all the b.s. they want to impose on this country, has forced deep reflection on many topics.
Guard your energy, don't give it to people who haven't earned it. I'm still learning, it takes presence of listening to ones gut, "is this worth my time".
These examples you bring are just well suited. It seems like one trades their peace of mind with unnecessary matters that should not be there in first place. This video helps me reflect on my own situation and that I too have to be fair in not trading other's epitome moments with my trifles. Perhaps I have been making this unfair transaction with someone lately and I must at least be fair to them since they hardly say no to anything.
I’m currently studying for my Masters at a prestigious Law and I agree with everything the court will not deal with. Also consider the conservation of energy from a physics standpoint and your time is very important.
One of the reasons the Supreme Court can give for deciding not to hear a particular case is that "the court does not deal in trifles." Prioritizing the insignificant above the truly important is not only wasteful, it is disrespectful. Liberally granting your time and attention is like printing more money: the subsequent inflation only serves to devalue the circulating currency. This means that it is essential to learn how to say "no."
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When i have to make hard decisions, turning down friends and lovers i aways come back to this video and it helps with my decisions. Thx
"If you're gonna lose your shit every time you face a minor inconvenience, then that's exactly how much your peace is worth."
One of Orian's best, I will always remember this one.
The mighty lion toys with the mouse that crosses his path-any other reaction would mar his fearsome reputation. Robert Greene,
Snowflakes does it.
Some people really like drama lol
Like getting rejected by a girl and wasting 10 years committing crimes against her, being a self appointed middleman in all matters of her life? Is that worth 10 years of your time? It’s not worth 10 years of my time. Some people have unlimited time and resources.
Men must constantly protect his M.E.A.T. (Money.Energy.Attention.Time) more than ever due to all the distractions that exists these days. Shoutout to Coach Greg Adams (CGA)!
THE GOAT
Space, too.
Stalkers don’t. They can waste 10 years of their life being broke, available, wasting time, offering unwanted attention, intruding, being self appointed middlemen and ruin peoples lives.
Imagine 1 rejection being worth 10 years of your life. That’s psychotic. Stalkers are unemployed that’s why they have ALL the time in the world to WAIT for something that will never happen. They don’t need it to happen. They just want to waste time. Their time isn’t worth shit.
My kickboxing coach told me "nothing is neutral". In that there are only so many hours/days/years you are going to live and if it's not moving forward it is holding you back.
This is the golden phrase that starts yoir burnout timer
@@AdamantSeraphelaborate?
@ratamacue0320 if "nothing is neutral" means anything that just happens by itself, it would drain anyone. But from a kickboxing coach, it probably meant especially how you train, not every little thing that happens irl. So, e.g., choose what you practice wisely.
Neutral doesn’t exist. Time is passing every second. Wasted time is the biggest betrayal. No amount of money, promotion, wedding or person can make up for it. It’s evil to waste someone’s time especially if you’re a dick who’s been told to buzz off. Shit upbringing and no goals, are a bad combination.
Most grownups with jobs have max two hours of “free time”. Choose it wisely.
Exactly. But this is also why it's rather important to have a job you enjoy, at least a little. What a sad existence it is to have so much of your day consumed by something you hate.
Therefore you do not have time for a wife nor kids
In my younger days, several people told me that I needed to "learn how to tell people no". Subsequent interactions revealed that they were always leaving out the word "other".
Hahahaha
You dare use my tricks on me, Potter!
Very good 😂
Agree 100%. Say no, Reject, Deny, Disappoint and Ignore will likely earn you the title of Ass 'ole. Wear it as a badge. If you are called a 'nice guy' in your circles, then you are giving away your time for free. Congrats on 500K Doc. Onwards to 1M !
If you are one of those "receptcle" types, every once in a while test the person who is dumping their problems on you to see if they'll reciprocate by listening to yours, even if it goes against your nature. Their likely lack of interest will be the best demonstration of Dr. Taraban's point here.
Human beings are not meant to be emotional dumpsters/entropy receptacles.
This what we have psychologists/therapists/social workers are for.
And I would argue most of them get overpaid for being a glorified emotional dumpsters.
I would advise every man to not to behave as a free emotional paper bag (just a friend, "you are such a good guy") unless being compensated for this hideous service.
Your kids are an exceptions, of course.
This video really spoke to me. I struggle with not valuing my time over my girlfriends when she needs something. An unfortunate pattern I learned as a child trying to emotionally regulate my incredibly unstable mother. I definitely need to keep this concept in mind, thank you.
Your girl isn’t gonna like it.
But hey… who brings the most value to the relationship?
If you can honestly say that you do, then it’s her loss.
It’s going to take a long time practicing the imaginary 100ft tow rope process and will take legit self confidence and maybe even a bit of anger/rage to help you through.
Good luck 👍
Man, I hear that. Keep working on it. You can change it slowly over years.
Samesies on the mother situation
The Pep Talk I needed for like the past 20 f**king years.
Better late than never. Thanks, Doctor.
This is probably the best explanation I've heard for why boundaries are so important to have.
Funny how so many people think spending their "Golden Time" arguing with idiots on Facebook and Reddit is a valuable use of their time.
Everybody needs a coffee-break during their "Golden Time", surely?! ;-)
Little bit of dopamine - just like playing a video game
Ahem* youtube comment's
I disagree and think you are wrong.
😂😂😂😂😊
I came to that realization a few years ago. I no longer bother arguing with random weirdos on the internet. Whatever opinion they have matters little to me. Once I see them trying to stir up a useless debate, I ignore them. And if they get too persistent, seeking even a tiny bit of my attention, I immediately block them.
I no longer deal with that kind of nonsense; my mental peace is one of my top priorities and fixations at this point in my life.
Sometimes you have to restrain your own friendly nature because people will want to take a mile when you give an inch.
Thanks for reminding and reaffirming.
I assumed as a married man my duty was to do everything my wife asked. Well what happened is exactly described in this video. Resentment, lack of time to do my important things, and my wife expecting more and more and being irritated that I was failing to fulfill her requests.
I'm in this now. After 25 years of marriage I wonder how it got to this point. It's because i didn't set proper boundaries.
Yes! People get away with what you LET them get away with. I have always believed that.
Congratulations on 500k subscribers! I wonder if you might devote an episode to your greatest influences in psychology. At different times you've mentioned Freud, Jung, Robert Johnson, and a number of others. Whose ideas would you say have shaped you the most? Thank you!
This is, by a long shot, one of the best videos you have done. Brimming with tons of wisdom that comes from years of lived experiences and overcoming challenges, in order to come up with such realizations. I already knew most of what you said, but I love the professional way you address these topics. The output is beyond amazing and definitely contains a ton of life lessons encompassed in a brief video.
Kudos to you, Orion.
Preach it, brother.
Wow, terrifically important topic. Nicely explained too. This whole bit about the value of your time and attention, is too little appreciated. Living in an era of entitled people has only made it worse. Thanks for this episode.
Absofucking BANG ON!
My greatest challenge in life, and the thing that has held me back more than any other factor, is that I have not told people: "No, I am not willing to do that."
I was lucky to make a friend who conveyed the EXACT message Dr. Taraban is conveying here about 8 years ago, and it has improved my life in ways you cannot imagine. This is by far one of his MOST IMPORTANT videos.
When a trifel happens millions of times, even the Supreme Court has to deal with it. A minor inconvenience can sometimes become major, but it is rare.
They compound if you actually matter but they don't want you to know it.
A favour done often enough will soon become an obligation and an expectation.
I found this to be really affirming.
The clarity, composure and ruthless organisation of thought and emotion.
Just what I needed to hear! This talk addresses some of the top energy drains .. Adding the adage about arguing with a fool..
Thanks for the extra tools. Never had a Trifle Meter and came with an accessory pack. Heck of a deal for 50 bucks!
A long overdue episode to be saved in my favorites. Thank you!
Solid message once again from the Doc! Given that we don't technically own our own children, I've learned that our attention really is the most valuable thing we all possess, even more so than our time, since where our attention lies controls how we spend our time.
This applies to women too we don't have time to waste on attempting to figure someone out if they are interested they will say it otherwise move on.
Nailed it. It's what Rich Cooper calls genuine burning desire.
This is honestly the best video I’ve seen so far not just from him but probably this year
This was very good. The other day my oldest sister had created a chat between my brother and I. And my brother had bought a ticket for our dad. She was creating arguments conversation. I had to check her and say that between mom & dad if someone did a nice jester let the couple resolve and speak for themselves. Sometimes these trifles happen with family members as well. Very petty insignificant discussion that can be defused. Blessings 💜
I love your talks and courses. It is strange. Every time I play any of your talks, it forces me to sit down and take notes. This very rarely happens with other clips I daily watch. The points you make are so fundamental and resonates with my daily life. It directly pokes the sensitive functions of my behavior that need adjustment. Thank you.
That information about the 4-6 hours of high performance are certainly legit.
High peak hours are necessary for = ''Creativity, Concentration, Physical Performance, Careful Reasoning and Performative Charisma''
That explains why we function and behave the way we do.
Super valuable information
Man, this is an amazing view of your time and peace in life. I love this.
Thanks!
Thank you, Mr. Taraban, for yet another thing that i SORT OF figured out by myself by being almost 50 years old, but never quite so precise and with drawing such clear implications! Also, as a non-native speaker, thank you for your clear pronounciation and calm and well-paced speaking style, it makes it easy to follow your points, even with you following a rather elaborate style. Keep on enlightening us!
Thanks
Super relevant right now. Thanks for the video!
This is so true in customer service
Mmmmmmm, trifle. 100% agree, the single greatest gift I've given myself in adult is learning to say no.
This has become my favorite episode. ❤
That was fast
I somewhat share the same notion. The only reason I hesitate to label this one as my favorite is because Orion has shared so much wisdom and life lessons in many videos that it's actually difficult to choose just one as the absolute best. Still, this video is definitely in the top 3.
O dang, TRUTH.
“Never argue with a woman”. When you are young and inexperienced you interpret this as a challenge and try to be the first to get through to her. When you are older and experienced - you interpret it the way this video suggests!”. They were never arguing to understand. It is a never ending absorption of attention that no man can afford.
U can't win an emotional argument
Very important video.
This channel has been such a gift for me
Both strange to say out loud at all, and all-important. Wonderful detail, as usual.
This one made me think. Very good!
Thanks for the Trifle Meter with accessory pack!❤
Fantastic advice for life and work
Thank you for that. I used to get mad when ever anything went wrong. Then Christ changed me. I started saying thank you God, when bad things happened. This gives a new perspective on a spiritual issue. It's a good tool to change that which is broken.
This is relevant to my current family situation. Thank you again and again 🙏🫵❤️
Thank you Orion, you said what every man needs to hear!
Phenomenal episode.
Thank you, Orion.
PS. I really admire the art of your front pages.
Right on the money, Dr. T!
As is usually the case, this video came right on time for me.Thank you sir 🙏
This channel is such a gift.
At 1:23 you ended all discussions. Period and point blank 🎯🗣️📶🔥🔥
It's interesting how it often stems from not receiving unconditional love from parents at a young age - it sets up a condition in your head, that you need to deserve other people, and that you can't love yourself just because. Later in life then, people too easily plead for love, because they can not grant themselves the peace of it themselves, since they have never experienced such emotion of self sufficency. I think it's equally as important to know where these problems stem from, as well as knowing the solution.
Problem - Not having self-worth and unconditional love for oneself.
Source - Lack of love in your childhood
Solution - Logically deriving your self-worth, but also emotionally realizing that someone didn't give you what you were supposed to receive at some point, and it now remains upon you to finish raising your inner child.
Best Coach 👍
Orion, you mentioned in one of your vids, "No women ever left you when you were doing well, only when you had a setback." Since this has been a universal thing men deal with women leaving when they lose a job, have a death in the family, a health or business setback etc. can you do a short one on this topic?
Sounds like God was protecting me at the timimg when I had cancer. I was single at the time of treatment. An ex girlfriend broke up with me 1 year before the diagnosis.
I truly believe she would not have been supportive in the way I needed during that time and it was just as well that I was single and had good support from my family.
Interesting. The last man I was with, I left while he was doing well and better. He had this idea that I was like the previous girlfriend, always chiding him for playing too many gigs. I encouraged the music, but the more I did that, the less quality time he had for me, so I stopped responding. He only wanted to see me when he was on his way somewhere else, exactly what his Dad did to his Mom. So I refused, said I'll see you when you're ready to share time and attention equally deeply. He's back and paying attention now.
@@VagabondAnne that's not the norm.
Great video, doc! Keep up the good work.
Wow congrats with half a mill subs! You SO deserve it. Thank your for your brilliant insights into the human psyche! I’m a sub for life
Thanks!
Well done !
concise insight
dude I love this analysis
This is excellent, and I look forward to applying it.
¡Gracias!
This is good advice for everyone regardless of age, sex, race, or nationality.
Man did I need to hear this right now 😮💨
I found I am very good with setting boundaries in my personal life, however when it comes to family that around 29 years to figure out. Live and learn
Excellent talk!
This is also exactly the topic of the book "the subtle art of not giving a f*ck"
Excellent advice on how to allocate precious resources!
As a woman, I like this video!!!
Highest concentration of value in any of your vids. Which sre generally very useful. This is preaching
Thnx Dr. This episode is GOLDEN !!
That's my problem before I had a hard time saying " No " because of being nice, compassionate, kind and for the sake of peace and harmony . However some people don't know their limits sometimes including MySelf. Now as I aged I learn to say NO even if some people like friends, family, neighbors get dissatisfied or disappointed . Same as well if I cross on other people's boundary then it's okay to say/ tell me NO.
I'm a believer of There's time for Everything. Time to respond, time to pause, time to relax, time to think, work , time to sleep and eat etc. etc. time to closeness and separation.
I totally agree on this 👍.
Excellent Episode
I am continually surprised by the clarity this man brings to issues. I wonder if living in cali. , with all the b.s. they want to impose on this country, has forced deep reflection on many topics.
Thank you. I'll keep the Golden time close to heart
Makes a lot of sense prioritisation and time, good stuff
This type of video is pure gold. Good work on this one!
Brilliant
Thanks!
Mindfully set boundaries
Highly salient. Appreciated.
This is pure gold
I agree treat your attention as valuable currency and don’t give it away carelessly.
This is awesome information.
Thank you!
Wish that this was uploaded sooner. I would have saved my time dealing with the things I can't control. Thank you for the tip!
Guard your energy, don't give it to people who haven't earned it.
I'm still learning, it takes presence of listening to ones gut, "is this worth my time".
Thank you!
These examples you bring are just well suited. It seems like one trades their peace of mind with unnecessary matters that should not be there in first place. This video helps me reflect on my own situation and that I too have to be fair in not trading other's epitome moments with my trifles. Perhaps I have been making this unfair transaction with someone lately and I must at least be fair to them since they hardly say no to anything.
I’m currently studying for my Masters at a prestigious Law and I agree with everything the court will not deal with. Also consider the conservation of energy from a physics standpoint and your time is very important.
You never miss brother.
I needed this today. Really shifted my thinking
Amazing angle. I think i needed it more then ever .
Excellent insight.
Pretty valuable and wise episode, kudos for that Mr. Taraban!
I'm def buying your book