@@memcrew1 I would say it's usually not about the advice itself; the problem is they don't see you as worthy, in other words, they see themselves as superior to you and therefore they are not even listening to the advice. It might be that they don't see the advice as useful and the very fact that someone has a different way of doing things deeply irritates them... if you spot them making use of the advice and they don't acknowledge that you were right, perhaps not with direct words but at least with a change of attitude towards you, then the last thing you want to do is reward them with more useful advice... bare in mind, if you are in a position of power and they end up following your advice, it might well be that they just want to avoid troubles and they still consider you a fool. my approach is: avoid giving people advice unless they've shown you beforehand that they hold your advice in high steem... if it's someone you really care about, who has a history of disregarding your advice, simply insinuate that you've been in that scenario and you found a solution to the given problem but it should be them asking you questions - if it's actually a serious matter, then go ahead and tell them the story of how you fixed the issue, if it's a life or death scenario then use whatever method you wish but make them listen. I actually wrote this for myself, disregard it if you wish
Most people aren’t willing to do the hard work of self reflection & ownership. It’s much easier to play the victim or keep your head buried in the sand. Not this girl. I want to be authentically me.
Knowing more leads to you realising just how little you know about this world and just our nature as a whole. I envy those who manage to get away with being imature or less knowledgeable and have a happier life than me. Knowing the solution to some problems but lacking the audience to support you is definitely the biggest letdown.
I admire how cavalier you are, but it's unlikely a woman has the self-awareness and self-control to gather wisdom. Buddha himself said enlightenment isn't possible for you.
I think there should be a caveat to this message. Cruelty from others can bring unbearable physical and emotional pain, with the implicit purpose of contorting the mental model of the one experiencing the pain. It's entirely possible pain could be a signal that the environment inflicting it on you is out of sync with reality. Child abuse crystallizes this.
I know, I relate to that. A note-book can be helpful, when you see the cover of it, holding the proof of your struggles, you know... - or a really good friend, if you have cultivated one - these will remind you, that you've fighted the negativity, you've solved the trouble, survived the pain, you did grow and matured, against all odds, and you've learned and opened up to trying new methods and paths, and assessed them, you've crawled in a ditch and you got up again, started anew, bruised but not extinguished, you have got up along with improved self-knowledge. It is very important to remember! It might give wisdom, but at least a sturdier self-confidence. Ask a friend to remind you!
Being insightful and being "in the moment" don't really go well together. That's why there is retrospect. Self control is however always good to have and commendable, since not everybody manages to always keep a cool head
I agree that retrospection is a huge factor in this. You're going to struggle massively to remember these things in the midst of emotional experiences at the beginning, but the more time you take to process through what happened, and how you wish you would have responded, the likelier it will be the next time that you will do better. That's where age does come into play. The wisest among us are those who have been practicing this for years.
@@ptyleranodon3081 Among the "pieces of wisdom" one picks up while aging, is "the last word is not yet said" - one can get back, or try to get back, and give oneself a chance to improve upon a situation when one has mulled over it. Most of us can't shoot snappy repartees from the hip, and they might nor be very truthful, either. One might even make peace with one's memory of the dead.
@@liviuursegr Very, very true, but you can practice these things before-hand to draw upon when times get challenging. Just like in the military ( I never served, unfortunately) you practice your skills (drill them) over and over and over and over again, until they become 2nd nature. That way, when you are under fire(under pressure) your mind & body simply reacts, instead of having to think about it.
"I walked a mile with Pleasure, She chattered all the way; But left me none the wiser For all she had to say. I walked a mile with Sorrow, And ne'er a word said she; But, oh, the things I learned from her When sorrow walked with me."
😢 As a former woke person (immature and irresponsible negroid adult female of the human race with a victim mentality who has anesthetised her pain (or tried to avoid it) most of her life), I must admit that your videos are painful to watch. 🤝 But THANKS to this great opportunity to cultivate wisdom YOU gave me, I've started to stop cutting myself off from my embodied experience (gradually of course, because I don't want to deal with an overwhelming flood of accumulated pain), and to also practice insight on a daily basis (which is easier said than done 😅). 💁🏾♀️ Now that I've swallowed my pride and clarified the chain of events that led to most of my experiences of pain, I'm making better decisions to avoid unnecessary suffering in the future. Therefore my mental models are increasingly coming into alignment with reality, which allows me to act with effortless effectiveness. 😎 I'm currently reverse engineering myself. And for the first time in my life, I'm happy to be alive. 🙏 God Bless You Doctor 🙏
I like the way you said “former woke immature negroid female with a victim mentality…”. Haha made my chuckle. Good luck with your quest. I’m on the same quest
We're all here because in some way, we're wanting to heal/grow. We chose to consume this content as opposed to the other millions of vids telling us that we're right to feel hurt in our wounds and that the problem is everyone else. Takes introspection to get here, so props to you for taking that leap. Best of lucks on your journey, though I suspect you won't need much of it because you're cultivating your own luck 👏
"The cure for the pain, is in the pain" "These pains you feel are your messengers, listen to them" "The wound is the place where the Light enters you." - Rumi
Pain and insight, completely true. I'm 41 and still learning this lesson, no matter how hard you try you will ultimately stumble and fall, and the cycle continues.
It's a nice contrast of concepts, but it's not really true. One just learns the wisdom to stop exacerbating and prolonging suffering. If you're an experienced meditator and someone tortures and murders your dearest loved one in front of you, you may then sit peacefully and observe "My mind and body are feeling pain" but you will come out of meditation and still get hit by some waves of shock at the cruelty and loss - even if you are deeply accepting of *everything* being impermanent.
Suffering is self created. Contrast is contrast and need not be altered. It is impossible to be always “happy” on the level of mind, but perfectly possible to be always at peace in the deepest level of being, and even to feel joy while sadness is also present. When you realize suffering is always the result of resistance, you realize you always have the choice to release resistance, and so not suffer or create further suffering. This doesn’t mean ‘escaping pain’. It means accepting that a painful experience is what it is, which when done fully, transmutes it into something that is not really different, yet is vastly altered - it is the same thing yet lighter, infused with grace and ease. Here you can go fully into the feeling without identifying with it; you can honor it completely by not making it so serious or personal. Holding the acceptance and awareness of what is happening in your Now, alongside the broader awareness of soul that nothing is, has, or could ever go ‘wrong’; that there is no ‘good’ or ‘bad’, no problems, only ever what is. Relating to both the mortality of the form and the immortality of the essence at once; allowing sadness and joy to merge as one. This is the incredible power of consciousness!❤🕊️
@@zetristan4525 it doesn’t have to be True to be useful as an aspirational concept. Like a Platonic form, none of us can reach that true delineation between pain and suffering somehow giving us true control, but the spectrum exists.
There's a term from psychology that I just learned: DARVO Deny - any and all blame or culpability Attack - the person trying to bring the issue forward Reverse Victim and Offender - the victim in the situation is the one who's in the wrong, they actually victimized me! This is a fairly standard response that people use to make themselves feel better about their actions. It comes with heapings of gaslighting to make all this work. I'm really sorry about your divorce. While you'll find there are things you might have done better and you should learn from them, don't let her get away with making you feel that you are solely to blame. And if you yourself are trying to DARVO, take a step back and try to look at the situation objectively.
Went through mine in 2018, it’s life destroying but it will get better my man, I promise. Just keep pushing forward and you’ll create something worthy of your potential
@@InappropriateShortsHe's obviously busy doing other important videos. The person who donated that $10, isn't crying about getting an emoji...why are you crying? Check yourself, mate!
Yes, loved the video. The buddhists say life is pain. Pain is a teacher because it is saying in a very loud voice, "Something important is out of balance, PAY ATTENTION!"
i cant tell you how much these videos you make have helped center me and brought a calming presence to my inner monologue that used to be just hateful of everyone and everything. thankyou with every ounce of my being.
Not once have I ever watched one of this man’s videos and did not get valuable information that changed me on some level. I can’t say that for any other content creator on any platform. Please watch every video of his you can. If you’re open to his message you will be better for it.
I'm an electrical engineer, and a fairly wise one. I didn't gain wisdom from doing everything right the first time, but by finding my mistakes in the lab, figuring out what's wrong, explaining why it went wrong and then coming up with solutions to fix it. I've been on several projects that were already boogered up, and again, I'm troubleshooting, solving problems and finding things that should have been done up front to avoid problems or at least to make it easier for people to test the design later. So it's not just experience of success or pain of failure, but the troubleshooting, analysis, problem solving and eventual notes to future self that build wisdom.
@@jim-se5xc In my experience, learning how to learn is roughly similar across any domain. Lessons on how to overcome challenges in one field are almost always applicable to another field, even if the exact solution is different.
As a Civil Engineer I relate to this and I can add that simply by changing your position from being an employee suffering from not having autonomy to being in upper management or creating a business for yourself is a factor that can accelerate your learning, insight and hopefully wisdom.
@@diaahassouna5865 i dont think it has much to do with being an employee and moving to upper management and accelerated learning and business management is about wisdom.
Another really insightful video, thank you Dr. Taraban. I’m reminded of an expression I recently heard, “If you don’t deal with reality, reality will deal with you.” I was curious if you had any additional thoughts regarding whit I think is the over medication of society. Instead of facing our pain and dealing with the reality or root of it, we live in an era where Doctors are too quick to subscribe medication. I don’t want to judge harshly because I do have friends who need certain levels of medication to function at a high level on a daily basis. It I do think big pharmaceutical has a role in this. A video for another day perhaps, but this one was spot on. Thank you again for your insight.
I feel the same way about pain and "negative" emotions. Sadness, anger, embarrassment, guilt, etc can hide some dark desires that can be scary to look at and introspect.
Oh yes. And this is why shadow works is so seriously needed. Just a shame it take both humility and courage to look at your shadow and for it to look back.
Being wise oftentimes helps others more than it helps yourself. Its kind of ironic how through history some people had to suffer just for others to live hedonistically. The issue with wisdom is when it is granted to others but without the actual lesson itself. Most of us want to benefit from "knowing" without actually getting through the process of being "knowledgeable" And then there are always those who live much happier lives despite their lack of insight. Wisdom comes with a cost: being aware of the fact that you are never knowledgeable enough, and that we are always limited by our human condition. Its hard to cope with truths
Pain is no stranger to me, and in recent years I have adopted a positive mindset towards it. I don't want to suffer for no reason, hence I listen and try to learn from every misfortune. Growth mindset in all aspects of life, Orion has really helped too. Sometimes it feels like masturbation listening to Orion talk because he's confirming so much of my thoughts and reinforcing my path and way of living. Much love, highly appreciate your work!
Just went through a painful breakup on my end. And took these past few months to reflect and see everything I did wrong. Pain is definitely necessary to change.
Babies do know why they cry. They cry when hungry/thirsty, in discomfort or feeling abandoned or unloved. They cry hoping the adult in the room will meet their most basic human needs.
@@DuncanL7979 well their human instincts and feelings inform them what's happening. Instinct to physically survive kick in before reason or language. You're just splitting hairs.
Experience is recognizing immediately that you made the same mistake again😂 Intelligence is letting other people make the mistakes😅 Wisdom is pain and insight😮
“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable man persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” -George Bernard Shaw
As I always say, you learn nothing from victories. It is the defeat that makes you think forever about that moment. But when the chance comes, you will never miss again.
Thank you for your insight and experience. Today is the hardest day of the year. 9/11 First Responder. BUT thru years of pain and with a TON of recovery, I'm living an amazing life and no matter what the obstacle, I will be better tomorrow, next month and next year. Thank you! Mahalo!!
As someone who had a painful experience a few weeks ago, as my girlfriend left me, I completely agree with you. Suddenly all those philosophical texts like stoicism that I've read for the last two years and also your videos (especially on inter-gender dynamics) make a lot more sense now. Pain is the best teacher. As long as you allow it and experience this "emotional gym" like you also said before. No more numbing anymore. No pain relief needed. I grow stronger every day.
Kudos for addressing this very important topic! Well delivered message! This is a true psychological hack: try to handle pain with learning as a goal. As a reality-check. An other way of expressing this is - every pain has a message. If your company of people are trying to silent you when you are stuggling with the meaning of your pain - there *are* good books, they can teach, but you need to learn yourself. Shake me to the core did Viktor Frankl: Man's Search for Meaning. One such book makes 10 superficial friends redundant. If you are in deep pain, you don't need it downplayed - do take it seriously, and avoid those who don't. There is a lot of pain in the USA now. A tragic aspect of a lot of people suffering simultaneously is that there are few people who could help each individual through the hard times - all are overwhelmed, overburdened, on their way to be burned-out. Scared, hurting, and not helpful. It is good that we have help on-line. There could be groups of friends who watch information together, or read together, and talk about, open up about, and discuss issues that really matter.
@@joesielskisr4911 I've been thinking about that, too. Especially of first responders and those who lost family-members. But also of people who lost faith in safety and security... What tragedies were you thinking of? Your own perhaps?
I'm not terribly sure about some of his relationship advice (what he assumes about women), but I find a lot of what he has to share to be really, really, really valuable nonetheless. I've spent so much time consuming self help stuff the last 8 years it's almost embarrassing, but I honestly have never heard the value of pain being summarized this well....and believe me, I've really come across a lot. I really love that he included how to implement the wisdom. I feel like richness of this video is worth a 500 page book! I hope to revisit this video on a regular basis to really absorb its message.
You acquire wisdom from battle, you use said wisdom from peace. Peace with the way things are. A lesson I learnt in my early 30s. Trauma that caused me to discover the red pill. DR O.T putting in that O.T(overtime) 🧠 🛠️
A little bit of push back: Wise men learn from the mistakes of others. That includes the pain of others. I've told my son that wisdom is lost on the old.......until now. While a good filter is necessary, there is no shortage of wisdom out there to read, listen to, and watch, then apply to your life.
"I wonder what the world would look like, if billions of people did not trust their own common sense." Spot on. Experience is the best teacher. Getting people to have experience is the difficult part. Great video.
Sure pain can lead to curiosity about it and hence some wisdom and insight..but they are not mutally bound..you can have insight and wisdom without pain(you are more in need of a mind that wants to deeply and truthfully look at the universe..than pain)...but to suggest we are in pain because our mental model of the world needs alteration to some extend is true(but not all pain we experience..for eg a headache)its more accurate to phrase it that pain is a messager from beyond as much as pleasure is..and every other thing that happen to us..and IF we chose to we can drive wisedom from it all..also thinking that each time we have pain its because our mental model of the world is imperfect is also implying that with a perfect mental model there will be no pain?that's infantile thinking..!🙂 because enlightened people actually tend to have a greater share of pain than an average person(think of all the prophets)having been sent a greater share of pain is more of an indicator that Universe wants to grant you greater wisdom..or that you already have greater wisdom(again..think of the prophets)..not that your mental model is way off than the rest.
I think you need to be clearer about the types of pain you're talking about . For example this video seems to be about self-inflicted pain but there is also externally applied pain for example if someone is being abused or mistreated than none of this video applies. So people need to determine if the pain is coming from someone else and handle that differently or if it's arising from what they're doing to themselves. And of course we can't always recognize when the pain is something we're doing to ourselves but you need to advise people to look at that and determine. Otherwise it's very inappropriate to tell people that externally applied pain is going to lead to inside
We are speaking of emotional pain I’m sure because physical pain can be arbitrary and meaningless, when a child is shot from a stray bullet in a gang drive by shooting it isn’t because he has done anything wrong or his ideas don’t line up with reality. There is an arbitrary nature to reality.
Stick to this kind of existential content because you got it down to a T. Leave the stuff about women alone because you tend to veer into red pill adjacent talk and it's so cringe. But this was so good to listen to
A long time ago, a friend once told me... "grief is the doorway to the rest of the emotions." In other words, you must experience grief fully in order to get past it and move on with the rest of your life. Do not medicate it away with drugs or sex. Et cetera.
I felt great pain when I discovered my 2nd wife was cheating on me. That pain motivated me to learn the ways of women & along the way I became Red Pilled. Having become Red Pilled I became relaxed as I learned a faithful wife is a rare bird today, cheating is simply the way of modern woman.
A wise man is one who learns from the experiences of others. A smart man is one who learns from his own experiences. A foolish man is one who never learns, not even from his own experiences.
You really went over board with this sing for your supper lecture Orion...i will continue to stick to purveyors of wisdom yours by centuries and still work for those who simply acknowledged their being or having been...great work however shining your clinical light on the nature of contemporary women...that enlightening preceded you as well.😊
Yes…thank you so much for this post. Wisdom, the process of accumulating wisdom has been a gift for me. Even initially it has felt like a curse, I am so grateful for all the colors of pain I have experienced in my life. It has all garner humility, discernment, empathy (for self and others), and grace. It also has made me cognizant of the truth that some people aren’t able to see nor work with their pain…for whatever reason. I’m just grateful that in this life, no matter how uncomfortable, I was always willing. It has made all the difference.
Group/confirmation biases are often a part of reasons why they are unable to gain wisdom. A lot of times you can witness this from the elders in your family. Egoism prompts by biases/delusion , and you get no where with that.
That's not necessarily true, development and growth come naturally with pain. Physical growth ex. Teething comes. With pain. Functional growth ex. Self discipline brings pain Emotional growth ex. Relationships bring pain. Experiencing loss ex. Death brings. Pain is the most efficient signal from the universe.
It is so vindicating to hear from a pro what I discovered back when I was a kid but because I was a kid nobody paid attention. I'm over 40 now and you can see how easier it is to build a child than repair an adult.
Dr Orion: How did I get so knowledgable ? I've been through a lot of pain and gained insight. My selfish desire to escape or grow from the pain > creates insight.
Hurt me more! Mooooore! Seriously, this take on wisdom is brilliant, and intuitive. It rings valid in my 4+ decades alive. What I would like to know: Does 'heartache due to the loss of a profoundly meaningful relationship' signify a false model of reality? Or is it more like trying to exist in two realities at once, where a singular model just doesn't exist and one or the other must be achieved? Is heartache the brain begging the self to achieve its/DNA's organic purposes, or is it saying the delusion is over so give it up?
Great question. Currently going through grief/ heavy heartache 2 months after a divorce (no kids, I chose to leave a toxic relationship), I've always handled pain well in my life, but I'm having trouble finding peace and overcoming it, feel like a drug addict, I really miss the person.
@@Pulasky_23 Yes it is certainly on par with drug withdrawal. Our blindspots lead to hurtful challenges. First acknowledge your "feelings they are not irrational" (recommended video on this channel. Also take full responsibility for your own actions and the results they have led to. This can give hope that you can do better in the future. Look at your exes behaviour and which boundaries they may have overstepped, and what would they need to show to resolve things (Betrayal recommended video), that can help bring them down from the pedastal. May even give you a resolution to cut them out of your mind, true no contact (recommended video). I wish you the best, I'm going through similar emotional situation a year now, travelling helped me get new perspective. Patience, self love.
Pain is not disconnection from reality. Pain is connection to reality in the most direct way possible. Also, people need to be disconnected from reality, if they want to have good mental health. W:Positive illusions
in my experience, the good kind leads you to deeper understanding of yourself. It may not be orderly, or gentle, but you tend to be mostly in charge of how you respond, how you see things, etc. Here, the mental model can more easily be adjusted, adhered to, created, etc, and you tend to move on a bit more developed in some way shape or form. The bad kind tends to be received involuntarily, and can come along with good pain but doesn't always (traumatic shocks, violations, some environmental factors, assaults, etc). With this kind, a mental model doesn't really matter (for me anyway) cuz I really have to take time to process what's going out. I will numb out if necesssary to give myself that breathing time, and once things are calm enough I'll try to collect myself and analyze the path that led me here. Sometimes you get answers, sometimes you don't but you usually end up promising never to hurt anyone in the same manner directly or indirectly cuz you really could have gone without that experience and wouldn't wish the same on anyone. Good pain can even bring various lessons repeatedly, and after some time and sacrifices you may not even mind cuz it boosts you. With bad pain, you prolli never want to remember that experience or person again, even if it made you stronger - you can even feel like it was just never deserved.
yes, I have never understood why people get the vote just for breathing for eighteen years consecutively, actual success at something should be the measure of the taking on the responsibility of voting
But then again success is subjective, and there's plenty of people in their 30s and 40s and older that might be successful in the traditional sense but are rock bottom dumb. And if someone is old enough to die in combat they should have the right to decide who sends them there. Unless you raise the military entrance age, you should not raise the voting age.
The idea was you as an eighteen year old were now a contributing member of society. "No Taxation without representation"....what is the best form of running a state. The Greeks tried them all. Democracy - Rule by the Demos or the people- the least worst Epistolcracy- Rule by the men of letters or the learned- only the most educated get to vote Technocracy- Rule by the technocrats- a body of men who are trained to rule and are the most able Autocracy- Rule by an absolute rule auto matically- the one in human history that most societies ruled by Anarchy - Rule by nobody. People do what they want and there are no goverments For better or worse we find democracy for all its faults seems to have worked best. Noticed I said men in all my statements. The ancient Greek were wise and didnt give women the vote LOL!
I pay attention to the lessons I've learned but still regularly use anesthesia. I have several chronic physical pain and a pretty rough mental health diagnosis. I don't even remember what life was like without being in constant anguish. I can't even feel the love of the only person on earth who loves me unconditionally, my 5 year old son. The pain makes it very hard to have a relationship with anyone, including myself. Which makes it impossible to trust anyone, so I struggle to make the right decisions for myself because I never know what is best for my life. Some of us are doomed to suffer, and even George Carlin understood that death is the only thing that can bring us peace and freedom. If I'm lucky, I've got till I'm 65 before I use the Smith & Wesson retirement plan.
I always felt that I was wise and then time passed and I learned more and then I felt ok I wasn't wise then but now I'm wise and then more time passed and I learned more ok maybe back then I wasn't wise also but now I'm getting pretty wise rinse and repeat.
True wisdom is knowing you don't know everything and that gaining wisdom is a life long process. Keeping an open mind set is the most important thing. All the mistakes I have made in my life I own, they have been hard lessons, hard won.
My sympathies for the trials and dragons you've faced. It's truly admirable how you've alchemized those raw experiences into gold and pearls. You embody the hero who not only conquers challenges but generously shares the treasures gained with the community - encouraging others to recognize the transformative power within their own struggles. Heartfelt respect and gratitude.
I agree completely with everything you've said in this video! I am now 67 years old and I always say that wisdom is the product of experience plus reflection - not too different at all from your version, "pain plus insight". I like to tell my young acquaintances that if a person has exactly the same beliefs and opinions at 60 as they had at 20, then that person has basically wasted their life. Excellent video as always! Thanks!
Thank you for this important enhancement to Dr. Taraban´s thesis: "experience plus reflection" puts it even better than "pain plus insight" in my opinion, because not only pain can grow wisdom when reflected and analyzed, but also an experience of success - maybe even more so! The question "just why did i succeed" is just as important as the question "just why did i fail". A fool will answer the first question with "because i´m the greatest, WHOOOHOOOO!" and the second question with "because the world is evil and everybody hates me, BOOOHOOOO!"
When the emotional weather is bad, I remind myself not to trust myself. Like the weather, it’s back and forth. If it’s a bad storm, I focus on the basics, rest and get through the day. I’ll process when the hurricane passes.
I could use wisdom right now. 7 weeks ago I was vacated from work for a formal investigation because a girl who liked me A LOT didn't get anything from me except a neutral work partner. Because of that, she and her friend filed a sexual harassment claim to fire me. I haven't been able to sleep at night for 7 weeks. I've only been getting broken sleep in the morning (waking up every hour to 2.5 hours between 6AM and 12PM). My physical health has TANKED because of the destroyed sleep. ALL BECAUSE I BEHAVED NEUTRAL TOWARD A WORK PARTNER WHO FLIRTED WITH ME, AND HAS BEEN FLIRTING WITH ME FOR MONTHS. How EVIL can her and her friend be to do this to somebody?
Don't be jealous of someone who's advice you find useful. It often means they have been in darker places than you.
This is too profound
Added to my quotes.
The darkness of a place is inversely proportional to the profundity of its insight.😬🤙
Why would anyone have jealousy for someone who gives useful advice? 😂
@@memcrew1 I would say it's usually not about the advice itself; the problem is they don't see you as worthy, in other words, they see themselves as superior to you and therefore they are not even listening to the advice. It might be that they don't see the advice as useful and the very fact that someone has a different way of doing things deeply irritates them... if you spot them making use of the advice and they don't acknowledge that you were right, perhaps not with direct words but at least with a change of attitude towards you, then the last thing you want to do is reward them with more useful advice... bare in mind, if you are in a position of power and they end up following your advice, it might well be that they just want to avoid troubles and they still consider you a fool.
my approach is: avoid giving people advice unless they've shown you beforehand that they hold your advice in high steem... if it's someone you really care about, who has a history of disregarding your advice, simply insinuate that you've been in that scenario and you found a solution to the given problem but it should be them asking you questions - if it's actually a serious matter, then go ahead and tell them the story of how you fixed the issue, if it's a life or death scenario then use whatever method you wish but make them listen.
I actually wrote this for myself, disregard it if you wish
I GREATLY appreciate the way you break concepts down. Your “model vs reality” analogy…chef’s kiss!
7:45 Orion just said that Naruto is the antagonist cause Pain did nothing wrong. 🤣 'Through shared pain, we can understand each other'. 😂
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Most people aren’t willing to do the hard work of self reflection & ownership. It’s much easier to play the victim or keep your head buried in the sand. Not this girl. I want to be authentically me.
Knowing more leads to you realising just how little you know about this world and just our nature as a whole.
I envy those who manage to get away with being imature or less knowledgeable and have a happier life than me.
Knowing the solution to some problems but lacking the audience to support you is definitely the biggest letdown.
Go for it! The world needs the real YOU. ⭐️. You have a role to play!
I admire how cavalier you are, but it's unlikely a woman has the self-awareness and self-control to gather wisdom.
Buddha himself said enlightenment isn't possible for you.
“authentically me” 😂
Nice approach
Truly one of the best things I’ve ever seen on TH-cam.
Very thought provoking. Thank you!
I think there should be a caveat to this message. Cruelty from others can bring unbearable physical and emotional pain, with the implicit purpose of contorting the mental model of the one experiencing the pain. It's entirely possible pain could be a signal that the environment inflicting it on you is out of sync with reality. Child abuse crystallizes this.
Thanks!
Fantastic message, reminds me of something famous hedge fund manager Ray Dalio has said… “pain plus reflection equals progress”
Danke!
"Pain + Reflection = Progress"
- Ray Dalio, Principles
Pain, huh? That’s something I learned watching Naruto 😂
As the Buddha gently reminds us: "The root cause of all human suffering is the inability to accept things as they are."
Top 3 things men love to hear:
3. "I love you"
2. "You will get a pay raise"
1. "Hi, I'm doctor Orion Taraban, and this is psychacks"
That number 1 option now has a pavalov effect on me 🐶 .
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Absolutely
The key is to remember this message when you're in the midst of experiencing intense emotional pain.
I know, I relate to that. A note-book can be helpful, when you see the cover of it, holding the proof of your struggles, you know... - or a really good friend, if you have cultivated one - these will remind you, that you've fighted the negativity, you've solved the trouble, survived the pain, you did grow and matured, against all odds, and you've learned and opened up to trying new methods and paths, and assessed them, you've crawled in a ditch and you got up again, started anew, bruised but not extinguished, you have got up along with improved self-knowledge. It is very important to remember! It might give wisdom, but at least a sturdier self-confidence. Ask a friend to remind you!
Being insightful and being "in the moment" don't really go well together. That's why there is retrospect. Self control is however always good to have and commendable, since not everybody manages to always keep a cool head
I agree that retrospection is a huge factor in this. You're going to struggle massively to remember these things in the midst of emotional experiences at the beginning, but the more time you take to process through what happened, and how you wish you would have responded, the likelier it will be the next time that you will do better. That's where age does come into play. The wisest among us are those who have been practicing this for years.
@@ptyleranodon3081 Among the "pieces of wisdom" one picks up while aging, is "the last word is not yet said" - one can get back, or try to get back, and give oneself a chance to improve upon a situation when one has mulled over it. Most of us can't shoot snappy repartees from the hip, and they might nor be very truthful, either. One might even make peace with one's memory of the dead.
@@liviuursegr Very, very true, but you can practice these things before-hand to draw upon when times get challenging. Just like in the military ( I never served, unfortunately) you practice your skills (drill them) over and over and over and over again, until they become 2nd nature. That way, when you are under fire(under pressure) your mind & body simply reacts, instead of having to think about it.
"I walked a mile with Pleasure,
She chattered all the way;
But left me none the wiser
For all she had to say.
I walked a mile with Sorrow,
And ne'er a word said she;
But, oh, the things I learned from her When sorrow walked with me."
Scripture says it is better to attend a funeral than a party.
@@Susan-fg3nvtell me more about
Jesus was a man of sorrows
(Isaiah 53:3).
😢 As a former woke person (immature and irresponsible negroid adult female of the human race with a victim mentality who has anesthetised her pain (or tried to avoid it) most of her life), I must admit that your videos are painful to watch.
🤝 But THANKS to this great opportunity to cultivate wisdom YOU gave me, I've started to stop cutting myself off from my embodied experience (gradually of course, because I don't want to deal with an overwhelming flood of accumulated pain), and to also practice insight on a daily basis (which is easier said than done 😅).
💁🏾♀️ Now that I've swallowed my pride and clarified the chain of events that led to most of my experiences of pain, I'm making better decisions to avoid unnecessary suffering in the future. Therefore my mental models are increasingly coming into alignment with reality, which allows me to act with effortless effectiveness.
😎 I'm currently reverse engineering myself. And for the first time in my life, I'm happy to be alive.
🙏 God Bless You Doctor 🙏
You sound introspective and earnest in your desire to work on yourself. Seems like you're well on your way to building yourself into a better person.
I like the way you said “former woke immature negroid female with a victim mentality…”. Haha made my chuckle. Good luck with your quest. I’m on the same quest
Hey, girl. Fellow woman here is also learning...God bless.
We're all here because in some way, we're wanting to heal/grow. We chose to consume this content as opposed to the other millions of vids telling us that we're right to feel hurt in our wounds and that the problem is everyone else. Takes introspection to get here, so props to you for taking that leap. Best of lucks on your journey, though I suspect you won't need much of it because you're cultivating your own luck 👏
Good on you - all the best on your journey, this is an exciting time
"The cure for the pain, is in the pain"
"These pains you feel are your messengers, listen to them"
"The wound is the place where the Light enters you."
- Rumi
Pain and insight, completely true. I'm 41 and still learning this lesson, no matter how hard you try you will ultimately stumble and fall, and the cycle continues.
Insight
Tis always been; thus always will be!
Really appreciate your insights. I once heard this saying "Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."
It's a nice contrast of concepts, but it's not really true. One just learns the wisdom to stop exacerbating and prolonging suffering. If you're an experienced meditator and someone tortures and murders your dearest loved one in front of you, you may then sit peacefully and observe "My mind and body are feeling pain" but you will come out of meditation and still get hit by some waves of shock at the cruelty and loss - even if you are deeply accepting of *everything* being impermanent.
Sounds good on paper.
Suffering is self created. Contrast is contrast and need not be altered. It is impossible to be always “happy” on the level of mind, but perfectly possible to be always at peace in the deepest level of being, and even to feel joy while sadness is also present. When you realize suffering is always the result of resistance, you realize you always have the choice to release resistance, and so not suffer or create further suffering. This doesn’t mean ‘escaping pain’. It means accepting that a painful experience is what it is, which when done fully, transmutes it into something that is not really different, yet is vastly altered - it is the same thing yet lighter, infused with grace and ease. Here you can go fully into the feeling without identifying with it; you can honor it completely by not making it so serious or personal. Holding the acceptance and awareness of what is happening in your Now, alongside the broader awareness of soul that nothing is, has, or could ever go ‘wrong’; that there is no ‘good’ or ‘bad’, no problems, only ever what is. Relating to both the mortality of the form and the immortality of the essence at once; allowing sadness and joy to merge as one. This is the incredible power of consciousness!❤🕊️
@@zetristan4525 it doesn’t have to be True to be useful as an aspirational concept. Like a Platonic form, none of us can reach that true delineation between pain and suffering somehow giving us true control, but the spectrum exists.
The paradox is that if you look into nature, animals are doing their utmost to avoid pain, we on the other hand?
Going through a divorce and this video put everything my ex-wife did into perspective. Thank you for this clarity.
There's a term from psychology that I just learned: DARVO
Deny - any and all blame or culpability
Attack - the person trying to bring the issue forward
Reverse Victim and Offender - the victim in the situation is the one who's in the wrong, they actually victimized me!
This is a fairly standard response that people use to make themselves feel better about their actions. It comes with heapings of gaslighting to make all this work.
I'm really sorry about your divorce. While you'll find there are things you might have done better and you should learn from them, don't let her get away with making you feel that you are solely to blame. And if you yourself are trying to DARVO, take a step back and try to look at the situation objectively.
Went through mine in 2018, it’s life destroying but it will get better my man, I promise.
Just keep pushing forward and you’ll create something worthy of your potential
Going through a divorce as well. It’s soul crushing, but I know I don’t carry all the blame. I hope to turn my immense pain into something positive.
$10 and not even a ❤ from him 😢
@@InappropriateShortsHe's obviously busy doing other important videos. The person who donated that $10, isn't crying about getting an emoji...why are you crying? Check yourself, mate!
God tier explanation. Thank you kindly, my friend.
“Pain is an opportunity to cultivate wisdom.” Thank you Dr Taraban
Yes, loved the video. The buddhists say life is pain. Pain is a teacher because it is saying in a very loud voice, "Something important is out of balance, PAY ATTENTION!"
i cant tell you how much these videos you make have helped center me and brought a calming presence to my inner monologue that used to be just hateful of everyone and everything. thankyou with every ounce of my being.
Life is PAIN - anyone that tells you otherwise.. is trying to SELL you something !
Not once have I ever watched one of this man’s videos and did not get valuable information that changed me on some level. I can’t say that for any other content creator on any platform. Please watch every video of his you can. If you’re open to his message you will be better for it.
I'm an electrical engineer, and a fairly wise one. I didn't gain wisdom from doing everything right the first time, but by finding my mistakes in the lab, figuring out what's wrong, explaining why it went wrong and then coming up with solutions to fix it. I've been on several projects that were already boogered up, and again, I'm troubleshooting, solving problems and finding things that should have been done up front to avoid problems or at least to make it easier for people to test the design later. So it's not just experience of success or pain of failure, but the troubleshooting, analysis, problem solving and eventual notes to future self that build wisdom.
I dont think he means wisdom as in fixing electrical problems around the house. I could be wrong.
@@jim-se5xc In my experience, learning how to learn is roughly similar across any domain. Lessons on how to overcome challenges in one field are almost always applicable to another field, even if the exact solution is different.
As a Civil Engineer I relate to this and I can add that simply by changing your position from being an employee suffering from not having autonomy to being in upper management or creating a business for yourself is a factor that can accelerate your learning, insight and hopefully wisdom.
@@jim-se5xcit’s transferable information don’t take everything so literally
@@diaahassouna5865 i dont think it has much to do with being an employee and moving to upper management and accelerated learning and business management is about wisdom.
Another really insightful video, thank you Dr. Taraban. I’m reminded of an expression I recently heard, “If you don’t deal with reality, reality will deal with you.” I was curious if you had any additional thoughts regarding whit I think is the over medication of society. Instead of facing our pain and dealing with the reality or root of it, we live in an era where Doctors are too quick to subscribe medication. I don’t want to judge harshly because I do have friends who need certain levels of medication to function at a high level on a daily basis. It I do think big pharmaceutical has a role in this. A video for another day perhaps, but this one was spot on. Thank you again for your insight.
Not to mention everybody who is on weed and opiates.
“I wonder what the world would look like, if billions of people couldn’t trust their own common sense”
I feel the same way about pain and "negative" emotions. Sadness, anger, embarrassment, guilt, etc can hide some dark desires that can be scary to look at and introspect.
Introspection is the key to wisdom i beleive
Oh yes. And this is why shadow works is so seriously needed.
Just a shame it take both humility and courage to look at your shadow and for it to look back.
you are doing grate job of providing high calss knowledge free of cost every one should subscribe to get the power of knowledge.
Can you make a video about Relationships and people with ADD/ADHD?
Being wise oftentimes helps others more than it helps yourself.
Its kind of ironic how through history some people had to suffer just for others to live hedonistically. The issue with wisdom is when it is granted to others but without the actual lesson itself. Most of us want to benefit from "knowing" without actually getting through the process of being "knowledgeable"
And then there are always those who live much happier lives despite their lack of insight.
Wisdom comes with a cost: being aware of the fact that you are never knowledgeable enough, and that we are always limited by our human condition. Its hard to cope with truths
Pain is no stranger to me, and in recent years I have adopted a positive mindset towards it. I don't want to suffer for no reason, hence I listen and try to learn from every misfortune. Growth mindset in all aspects of life, Orion has really helped too. Sometimes it feels like masturbation listening to Orion talk because he's confirming so much of my thoughts and reinforcing my path and way of living. Much love, highly appreciate your work!
Just went through a painful breakup on my end. And took these past few months to reflect and see everything I did wrong. Pain is definitely necessary to change.
Lol.
Dr. Taraban deserves to win the You Tube Hall of Fame designation, if they had one for the most valuable broadcasts.
Babies do know why they cry. They cry when hungry/thirsty, in discomfort or feeling abandoned or unloved. They cry hoping the adult in the room will meet their most basic human needs.
No they don't, not until 18 months old.
@@DuncanL7979 well their human instincts and feelings inform them what's happening. Instinct to physically survive kick in before reason or language. You're just splitting hairs.
@@marianhunt8899And so are you:-)
Experience is recognizing immediately that you made the same mistake again😂
Intelligence is letting other people make the mistakes😅
Wisdom is pain and insight😮
“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable man persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.”
-George Bernard Shaw
Old people are no longer wise because they stopped making life about learning, and now try to teach you to do the same.
" You can deny reality, but you cannot deny the consequences from denying reality" -- Ayn Rand
I love this quote for years and it´s absolutely spot on.
Wonderful insights. If pain does not cause change, then it is a wasted opportunity. Suffering (Pain's partner) will surely follow.
As I always say, you learn nothing from victories. It is the defeat that makes you think forever about that moment. But when the chance comes, you will never miss again.
I've watched the full series by John Vervaecke on cultivating wisdom, but this has to best summary of its core teaching in my humble opinion.
Thank you for your insight and experience. Today is the hardest day of the year. 9/11 First Responder. BUT thru years of pain and with a TON of recovery, I'm living an amazing life and no matter what the obstacle, I will be better tomorrow, next month and next year. Thank you! Mahalo!!
As someone who had a painful experience a few weeks ago, as my girlfriend left me, I completely agree with you. Suddenly all those philosophical texts like stoicism that I've read for the last two years and also your videos (especially on inter-gender dynamics) make a lot more sense now. Pain is the best teacher. As long as you allow it and experience this "emotional gym" like you also said before. No more numbing anymore. No pain relief needed. I grow stronger every day.
bro is cooked, good luck moving forward
Kudos for addressing this very important topic! Well delivered message! This is a true psychological hack: try to handle pain with learning as a goal. As a reality-check. An other way of expressing this is - every pain has a message. If your company of people are trying to silent you when you are stuggling with the meaning of your pain - there *are* good books, they can teach, but you need to learn yourself. Shake me to the core did Viktor Frankl: Man's Search for Meaning. One such book makes 10 superficial friends redundant. If you are in deep pain, you don't need it downplayed - do take it seriously, and avoid those who don't. There is a lot of pain in the USA now. A tragic aspect of a lot of people suffering simultaneously is that there are few people who could help each individual through the hard times - all are overwhelmed, overburdened, on their way to be burned-out. Scared, hurting, and not helpful. It is good that we have help on-line. There could be groups of friends who watch information together, or read together, and talk about, open up about, and discuss issues that really matter.
Today is 9-11 I bet a lot of people are still suffering from 22 years ago
@@joesielskisr4911 I've been thinking about that, too. Especially of first responders and those who lost family-members. But also of people who lost faith in safety and security...
What tragedies were you thinking of? Your own perhaps?
I'm not terribly sure about some of his relationship advice (what he assumes about women), but I find a lot of what he has to share to be really, really, really valuable nonetheless. I've spent so much time consuming self help stuff the last 8 years it's almost embarrassing, but I honestly have never heard the value of pain being summarized this well....and believe me, I've really come across a lot. I really love that he included how to implement the wisdom. I feel like richness of this video is worth a 500 page book!
I hope to revisit this video on a regular basis to really absorb its message.
You acquire wisdom from battle, you use said wisdom from peace. Peace with the way things are. A lesson I learnt in my early 30s. Trauma that caused me to discover the red pill.
DR O.T putting in that O.T(overtime) 🧠 🛠️
Cool wordplay 👏
I stubbed my toe today wearing flimsy slops outside on a rainy day, I will now wear better shoes outside when its raining lol
A little bit of push back:
Wise men learn from the mistakes of others. That includes the pain of others.
I've told my son that wisdom is lost on the old.......until now. While a good filter is necessary, there is no shortage of wisdom out there to read, listen to, and watch, then apply to your life.
"I wonder what the world would look like, if billions of people did not trust their own common sense." Spot on. Experience is the best teacher. Getting people to have experience is the difficult part. Great video.
Lol 🙂. I think we are supposed to read between the lines with this comment.
@@gsftom 2020-21
Sure pain can lead to curiosity about it and hence some wisdom and insight..but they are not mutally bound..you can have insight and wisdom without pain(you are more in need of a mind that wants to deeply and truthfully look at the universe..than pain)...but to suggest we are in pain because our mental model of the world needs alteration to some extend is true(but not all pain we experience..for eg a headache)its more accurate to phrase it that pain is a messager from beyond as much as pleasure is..and every other thing that happen to us..and IF we chose to we can drive wisedom from it all..also thinking that each time we have pain its because our mental model of the world is imperfect is also implying that with a perfect mental model there will be no pain?that's infantile thinking..!🙂 because enlightened people actually tend to have a greater share of pain than an average person(think of all the prophets)having been sent a greater share of pain is more of an indicator that Universe wants to grant you greater wisdom..or that you already have greater wisdom(again..think of the prophets)..not that your mental model is way off than the rest.
I think OT is an artist... of psychology. The medium- life itself. A lot of these videos I like looking at a new painting😊
I think you need to be clearer about the types of pain you're talking about . For example this video seems to be about self-inflicted pain but there is also externally applied pain for example if someone is being abused or mistreated than none of this video applies. So people need to determine if the pain is coming from someone else and handle that differently or if it's arising from what they're doing to themselves. And of course we can't always recognize when the pain is something we're doing to ourselves but you need to advise people to look at that and determine. Otherwise it's very inappropriate to tell people that externally applied pain is going to lead to inside
We are speaking of emotional pain I’m sure because physical pain can be arbitrary and meaningless, when a child is shot from a stray bullet in a gang drive by shooting it isn’t because he has done anything wrong or his ideas don’t line up with reality. There is an arbitrary nature to reality.
Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Sometimes you do have the right model, but things just happen. The kind of pain tends to matter.
THANK YOU FOR USING "Models"! I've been trying to spread this frame for years. It works with everything we know about consciousness.
Going thru a break up
I tried to avoid pain...all I did was delay the pain a few years. Lesson learned.
Stick to this kind of existential content because you got it down to a T. Leave the stuff about women alone because you tend to veer into red pill adjacent talk and it's so cringe. But this was so good to listen to
A long time ago, a friend once told me... "grief is the doorway to the rest of the emotions." In other words, you must experience grief fully in order to get past it and move on with the rest of your life. Do not medicate it away with drugs or sex. Et cetera.
Learning is not repeating the same mistake twice.
Can we go with three times?😅
Definition of insanity
Thank you for creating this content, for the world to see.
Just…Thank You 🙏
Yes Pain is the greates teacher .it will open many doors some not so advisable to walk trought and some that will show you how to transcend.
I felt great pain when I discovered my 2nd wife was cheating on me. That pain motivated me to learn the ways of women & along the way I became Red Pilled. Having become Red Pilled I became relaxed as I learned a faithful wife is a rare bird today, cheating is simply the way of modern woman.
A wise man is one who learns from the experiences of others. A smart man is one who learns from his own experiences. A foolish man is one who never learns, not even from his own experiences.
Outstanding doc as usual.
You really went over board with this sing for your supper lecture Orion...i will continue to stick to purveyors of wisdom yours by centuries and still work for those who simply acknowledged their being or having been...great work however shining your clinical light on the nature of contemporary women...that enlightening preceded you as well.😊
Read proverbs everyday and follow what you read.
The insights my dad should've taught me but he didn't, thank you Orion.
"I am wise through pain and insight." Precisely!
Probably one of the most profound videos I have ever watched, unbelievable
Yes…thank you so much for this post. Wisdom, the process of accumulating wisdom has been a gift for me. Even initially it has felt like a curse, I am so grateful for all the colors of pain I have experienced in my life. It has all garner humility, discernment, empathy (for self and others), and grace. It also has made me cognizant of the truth that some people aren’t able to see nor work with their pain…for whatever reason. I’m just grateful that in this life, no matter how uncomfortable, I was always willing. It has made all the difference.
Group/confirmation biases are often a part of reasons why they are unable to gain wisdom. A lot of times you can witness this from the elders in your family. Egoism prompts by biases/delusion , and you get no where with that.
Pain is usually just bad luck. Not a signal from the universe. That's silly.
That's not necessarily true, development and growth come naturally with pain.
Physical growth ex. Teething comes. With pain.
Functional growth ex. Self discipline brings pain
Emotional growth ex. Relationships bring pain. Experiencing loss ex. Death brings.
Pain is the most efficient signal from the universe.
It is so vindicating to hear from a pro what I discovered back when I was a kid but because I was a kid nobody paid attention. I'm over 40 now and you can see how easier it is to build a child than repair an adult.
"If you can't trust your own experience, what can you trust ?"
So... SPOT ON !
Great video! "The wind and waves always go in favor of those who know how to sail.” Self-knowledge is key
The only reason I regret not being like, super wealthy is that I can't hire Dr. Orion as my therapist - I feel like I'd fix all my shit in 1 year max.
Dr Orion: How did I get so knowledgable ? I've been through a lot of pain and gained insight. My selfish desire to escape or grow from the pain > creates insight.
Hurt me more! Mooooore! Seriously, this take on wisdom is brilliant, and intuitive. It rings valid in my 4+ decades alive.
What I would like to know: Does 'heartache due to the loss of a profoundly meaningful relationship' signify a false model of reality? Or is it more like trying to exist in two realities at once, where a singular model just doesn't exist and one or the other must be achieved? Is heartache the brain begging the self to achieve its/DNA's organic purposes, or is it saying the delusion is over so give it up?
Great question.
Currently going through grief/ heavy heartache 2 months after a divorce (no kids, I chose to leave a toxic relationship), I've always handled pain well in my life, but I'm having trouble finding peace and overcoming it, feel like a drug addict, I really miss the person.
@@Pulasky_23 Yes it is certainly on par with drug withdrawal.
Our blindspots lead to hurtful challenges.
First acknowledge your "feelings they are not irrational" (recommended video on this channel.
Also take full responsibility for your own actions and the results they have led to. This can give hope that you can do better in the future.
Look at your exes behaviour and which boundaries they may have overstepped, and what would they need to show to resolve things (Betrayal recommended video), that can help bring them down from the pedastal. May even give you a resolution to cut them out of your mind, true no contact (recommended video).
I wish you the best, I'm going through similar emotional situation a year now, travelling helped me get new perspective. Patience, self love.
Absolutely enlightening. Pain and insight.
Pain is not disconnection from reality. Pain is connection to reality in the most direct way possible.
Also, people need to be disconnected from reality, if they want to have good mental health.
W:Positive illusions
indeed
How can I tell the difference between good/beneficial pain that I have to go through in order to grow, and bad/harmful pain that should be avoided?
in my experience, the good kind leads you to deeper understanding of yourself. It may not be orderly, or gentle, but you tend to be mostly in charge of how you respond, how you see things, etc. Here, the mental model can more easily be adjusted, adhered to, created, etc, and you tend to move on a bit more developed in some way shape or form.
The bad kind tends to be received involuntarily, and can come along with good pain but doesn't always (traumatic shocks, violations, some environmental factors, assaults, etc). With this kind, a mental model doesn't really matter (for me anyway) cuz I really have to take time to process what's going out. I will numb out if necesssary to give myself that breathing time, and once things are calm enough I'll try to collect myself and analyze the path that led me here. Sometimes you get answers, sometimes you don't but you usually end up promising never to hurt anyone in the same manner directly or indirectly cuz you really could have gone without that experience and wouldn't wish the same on anyone.
Good pain can even bring various lessons repeatedly, and after some time and sacrifices you may not even mind cuz it boosts you. With bad pain, you prolli never want to remember that experience or person again, even if it made you stronger - you can even feel like it was just never deserved.
yes, I have never understood why people get the vote just for breathing for eighteen years consecutively, actual success at something should be the measure of the taking on the responsibility of voting
Paying taxes perhaps? Being a non criminal? A constitutional test?
But then again success is subjective, and there's plenty of people in their 30s and 40s and older that might be successful in the traditional sense but are rock bottom dumb. And if someone is old enough to die in combat they should have the right to decide who sends them there. Unless you raise the military entrance age, you should not raise the voting age.
paying income/property taxes for five years, owning a ten million pound business, being landed gentry, that type of thing, yes@@silverlining6259
so the success measure is made objective - they have held down a job and paid income tax for five years, etc @@modickens1272
The idea was you as an eighteen year old were now a contributing member of society. "No Taxation without representation"....what is the best form of running a state. The Greeks tried them all.
Democracy - Rule by the Demos or the people- the least worst
Epistolcracy- Rule by the men of letters or the learned- only the most educated get to vote
Technocracy- Rule by the technocrats- a body of men who are trained to rule and are the most able
Autocracy- Rule by an absolute rule auto matically- the one in human history that most societies ruled by
Anarchy - Rule by nobody. People do what they want and there are no goverments
For better or worse we find democracy for all its faults seems to have worked best. Noticed I said men in all my statements. The ancient Greek were wise and didnt give women the vote LOL!
Excellent.
Thanks for sharing!!
Red pill conversations are great, but thank you for this type of information.
Pain is my oldest and best friend.
Struggle is a part of life, said Gautama Buddha sort of.
I pay attention to the lessons I've learned but still regularly use anesthesia. I have several chronic physical pain and a pretty rough mental health diagnosis. I don't even remember what life was like without being in constant anguish. I can't even feel the love of the only person on earth who loves me unconditionally, my 5 year old son. The pain makes it very hard to have a relationship with anyone, including myself. Which makes it impossible to trust anyone, so I struggle to make the right decisions for myself because I never know what is best for my life. Some of us are doomed to suffer, and even George Carlin understood that death is the only thing that can bring us peace and freedom. If I'm lucky, I've got till I'm 65 before I use the Smith & Wesson retirement plan.
I am Glad that it is not just Ayn Rand and Objectiviism who have figured out the link between Pain, if your in line with reality and wisdom.
I always felt that I was wise and then time passed and I learned more and then I felt ok I wasn't wise then but now I'm wise and then more time passed and I learned more ok maybe back then I wasn't wise also but now I'm getting pretty wise rinse and repeat.
True wisdom is knowing you don't know everything and that gaining wisdom is a life long process. Keeping an open mind set is the most important thing. All the mistakes I have made in my life I own, they have been hard lessons, hard won.
My sympathies for the trials and dragons you've faced. It's truly admirable how you've alchemized those raw experiences into gold and pearls. You embody the hero who not only conquers challenges but generously shares the treasures gained with the community - encouraging others to recognize the transformative power within their own struggles.
Heartfelt respect and gratitude.
I agree completely with everything you've said in this video! I am now 67 years old and I always say that wisdom is the product of experience plus reflection - not too different at all from your version, "pain plus insight". I like to tell my young acquaintances that if a person has exactly the same beliefs and opinions at 60 as they had at 20, then that person has basically wasted their life. Excellent video as always! Thanks!
Thank you for this important enhancement to Dr. Taraban´s thesis: "experience plus reflection" puts it even better than "pain plus insight" in my opinion, because not only pain can grow wisdom when reflected and analyzed, but also an experience of success - maybe even more so! The question "just why did i succeed" is just as important as the question "just why did i fail". A fool will answer the first question with "because i´m the greatest, WHOOOHOOOO!" and the second question with "because the world is evil and everybody hates me, BOOOHOOOO!"
Yes yes, reflection, to attain wisdom experience is not enough, the desire for wisdom and the effort, reflection, are also needed.
Your deepest and most important video thus far imo. Bravo. Very important message. Thank you.
I had a suspicion about this but im really glad you explained it clearly
This video is a banger! Well thought out and presented! Great job, good sir! The world needs this! 👏👏👏🔥🔥🔥🥳🥳🥳
When the emotional weather is bad, I remind myself not to trust myself. Like the weather, it’s back and forth. If it’s a bad storm, I focus on the basics, rest and get through the day. I’ll process when the hurricane passes.
Excellent Sir..
There's also Wisdom in the Sacred Writtings..that are obviously annals of historical pain, suffering & experience.. 🙏🙏
I could use wisdom right now.
7 weeks ago I was vacated from work for a formal investigation because a girl who liked me A LOT didn't get anything from me except a neutral work partner.
Because of that, she and her friend filed a sexual harassment claim to fire me.
I haven't been able to sleep at night for 7 weeks.
I've only been getting broken sleep in the morning (waking up every hour to 2.5 hours between 6AM and 12PM).
My physical health has TANKED because of the destroyed sleep.
ALL BECAUSE I BEHAVED NEUTRAL TOWARD A WORK PARTNER WHO FLIRTED WITH ME, AND HAS BEEN FLIRTING WITH ME FOR MONTHS.
How EVIL can her and her friend be to do this to somebody?