Two of my close friends of 17 years ghosted me while I was going through cancer treatment last year. To say it was hurtful was an understatement. I left those friendships in 2019. I forgave them on my own, since they stopped talking to me or answering my calls or texts. But I will never forget their cruelty. And we will never be friends again. Happily, I am going into my eighth month of remission from Stage 3 cancer, so life is much better this year, despite the pandemic and everything else that is happening in our country. I enjoy my own company these days, and am friends with my neighbors, so I am working to move on. Recently, one of my cancer fighting buddies died. Life is really painful right now, but I know this will pass, and I know my friend is at peace. Thanks for posting this. It is helpful.
Thank You, Shreya. I’m entering my second year in Remission and have luckily been working full time and have a great full time job opportunity coming up. Looking forward to returning to the office in late September/early October, and finally meeting my colleagues after working virtual from home since March, 2020! Life is good. I’m enjoying my own company and the peace that life in isolation has brought me.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. You have come through an extremely difficult season. I hope you can use it as a testimony to help others. And I also hope you are infused with inner strength, renewed purpose and a tenacity to forgive and love knowing the best is yet to come for you. God bless you.
Some friendships shouldn’t be repaired. It isn’t about not having the skill set, it’s about knowing what you deserve in a friendship. As a person who just walked away from a toxic friendship, it was about me spending years putting up with someone treating me badly and finally getting the strength to leave.
I also believe people and circumstances can change too though. I was in toxic friendships and my behavior wasn’t always the greatest and contributed to it as well as them. But I’ve been to counseling and I think if they worked on improving themselves too we could make it work again. Don’t shut the door on people. If they’re willing to change and make things better, let them.
THANK YOU Lydia for speaking up; I thought I'd never find someone who shared this view about Shasta's position towards this. I completely understand that there are levels of frientimacy and that most people can fit in either level, I understand that it is okay to lower your expectations when you have a bad experience with someone and get to know them better. I understand how valuable her friendship levels chart is useful for people to adjust their expectations and demands. But I do believe that it is profoundly healthy to have boundaries. There are people in this world who are not in a place that allows them to have a healthy relationship even as a contact friend. Why wouldn't it be okay to make the decision that we don't/no longer want certain people in our life, without having to justify it endlessly? Why deprive people of that empowerment?
Lydia it was the same for me too. I agree with you a 100 percent. Several months ago I ended a friendship that sounds exactly as your situation.. my regret is I didn't end the friendship much sooner.
This is beautiful but if someone can go over 6 months (let alone YEARS) without talking to you they don't care about you anymore/never did enough to salvage a friendship. If you offer a genuine and heartfelt apology and they would rather ignore you, orbit, or any game playing behavior then that person has issues beyond what you did to them. Unless you did something truly terrible to them, there is NO reason someone who claimed to love you and be your friend won't talk to you.
This, absolutely. If a friend hurts me deeply but I still miss them and care about them, there is only so much time that can pass by until I try to make amends. The same is true the other way around, and if, like you said, time just keeps rolling without them showing any sign of wanting to talk with you, then the only sane conclusion is that they never cared that much to begin with and it was a severely unbalanced friendship.
Another sign is when they are secretly jealous of you. Or they will brag to you about other friends they have what trip they went on..etc, etc.....its narcissism and It's sad. Their loss, their problem. Be brave and move forward. Too many beautiful souls out there who do appreciate you!
It only hurts because you don't know what happen. I don't really get attached to people but when someone stop talking to you out of nowhere and they just stop talking to you... you kinda need closure
I blocked my friend and deleted her number .. part of me still want her to fight for it ... but I don’t think she will ever will ... she betrayed me , she mislead
Very good advice. So helpful. Extremely difficult. It takes a lot of humbleness, humility, maturity… I pray I can be strong enough to do this when needed. It’s needed now but I’m not there yet!
I would seriously like to thank you for putting up these videos. After my friendship-breakup I was looking here and there to know how I could fix things but all I got were relationship advices. Finally found your channel!! Super thanks!!!
Perhaps you've repeatedly crossed their boundaries, perhaps they don't feel heard, perhaps they're tired of your unsolicited advice. Maybe they feel drained after hanging out with you. Maybe they think you're pushy. Whatever the reason it may or may not have to do with you. Chasing after someone who's not speaking to you will likely push them farther away and perhaps permanently. If they want to speak to you they will at which point it's up to you whether or not you want to hear what they have to say.
I miss an old friend every day. She was my best friend. Your words are really helpful. Maybe one day we'll reconnect, but i don't know... I've tried. Thank you for this.
This exactly how I feel about my best friend who Im not on good terms with she wouldn’t listen to reason and now she thinks I betrayed her and fake while she’s heartbroken- idk what to do my cousin said he is still sure that we will find a way but we are both acting like little children because i was accused and we are just pointing fingers at eachother idk…
Thank you so much for these videos! They have been keeping me calmer and helping me going through my personal rough patch! I have recently received a text from my best friend announcing that “there have been a lot that have hurt her, which she does not want to talk about with me and consequently, she has come to the conclusion to throw our 20 year friendship aside”. I have been devastated! Knowing her I don’t think there is a turning point or a possibility to amend this relationship. I only wish I knew what happened and what did I do wrong that hurt her...
Thanks for your videos! 💕 There is almost no content on this subject like you do and it seems to me that you make an incredible contribution with your videos ❤️
My best friend who said he would keep in touch and wanted me to visit him after he moved, is now ghosting me and it's been a month. I know he has ADHD and other mental health problems but it still hurts because we loved each other very much. I'll try the suggestions you made, hope and pray for the best, and continue to grieve as necessary. Thanks so much for this Shasta! Exactly what I needed to hear.
@@princeedwin5087 Thanks for asking. We did get back in touch, but despite his words his actions showed that he didn't really want to be friends anymore. I've forgiven and released him, and am now enjoying the company of better friends.
Lovely! I guess we all hope sometimes a video will our "guide-to fixing our problem", but I love how you approach the possible perspective of the solution. I'm currently having a friendship-issue, but it's my fault ('cause I always screw up with a bit of drama...) so your videos, have not been necessarily about my specific issue, but I love the perspectives you give to possibly either get over (in case of that subject), or trying to mend things up. ♥
Absolutely WONDERFUL!! Thank You sooo much!!! Your mission means the world to me!! Continue to be kind, express our openness, & keep a space open with the intention of being a Good person in this world for self & others!!--PERFECT MESSAGE!! I am grateful to you for putting this out there!! I love what you do here!! ... and, you're ine of my "touchstones" on how to show up wisely in this world! 💜🤍
At times i feel like some of my friends dont even wanna talk to me and even if I’ve been friends with the person for a while it just hurts me to lose a best friend. Even if some are in a relationship its like they dont need me i dont know. Im just scared to lose my best friends
Understanding coupled with forgiveness is a sensible way forward. But always hold your strength to say No! and move away and onwards if it feels right. You may be dealing with someone who has alot of inner healing to do but anger and bad behaviour is coming out at you. You are not the problem, remember who YOU are. This brings you strength to move forward with confidence. Shine bright.
I understand, but it's another story when it's a narcissistic friendship, and that you need to just walk awat and save yourself from it. It really depends on the situation.
The problem is I've apologized multiple times to the friend I hurt, and she didn't even tell me until it was too late. But she won't even answer or acknowledge them, so even though I want to make up she doesn't
Thank you! Just watched this video which was posted like few years back But indeed this is the answer I have been looking for. I’m in a turmoil of having a close & dear friend to have ghosted me for over 3 months now.. whether to put a closure like ending it all for once cause it hurts So much after So many Messages sent without any responses. And yet here’s the advice to give a dignified open ended closure.. my last msg was asking if we could meet up for a simple get together met with silence.. 😢. It’s hard & hurtful But I have held myself up. Instead of throwing tantrum pestering her to respond or ending the friendship right away.
Thank u so much for your videos. I really needed this My best friend started ghosting me and no longer wants to be friends but has refused to tell me why and im just lost and hopeless
I'm so sorry. That person was never YOUR friend. They have every right to choose to end a relationship. They have no right to be a jerk and ghost you. You deserve a conversation. Narcissists really are the scourge of the earth. Hang in there. 🤟
I really want to go back and make up with her. She keeps ignoring my text and doesn’t reply to me. It hurts like hell. I don’t know what to do I just wanna go back were everything was normal. Your words and advice was really good. Thank you
Dr Steve can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him
One of my friends who is a woman finally pissed me off enough to the point where I will no longer speak to her. She supposedly accidentally sent me a nice selfie to which I responded to it. She didn't seem to like the reply, so she deleted that post and ignored me for a whole day (which I didn't know). She then gave me the most backhanded and shitty excuse for an apology I've ever received from a woman, which was the final nail in the coffin for me. Blocked her on everything. She and I are done. I haven't been this angry at someone in a long time.
You left out all the important details. Such as what you posted in response to her selfie and what you considered a back handed crappy apology n why she even had to apologize
I shift between openness and compassion and then putting walls when I feel vulnerable because this friend is not responding and I don’t understand what happened. How can I deal with lowering the walls?
Would love to do this but my so called friend blocked my number & me on facebook. So... yeah. Tried multiple times to work things out & they're not budging. Still don't know what I did.
That person is a narcissist. They're not capable of having real relationships of any kind...only transactional ones. They're empty shells. I'm sorry you're hurting. It's better to have found out now than to have wasted anymore of your precious time on them. 🤟
my friend has been super not the same ever since she took the test for smiths hill school. shes been sad, sending dots, changing emotions unexpectedly quickly, and wont tell me at all whats wrong. im scared and worried. shes been getting offended easily, and completely quits when we lose at a game of bedwars. she told me its about the fact that shes scared about not making it to Smiths Hill (which is a school for extremely smart students and only few get in. its expensive and isnt the closest to her house.) and all her friends are going so shes worried. i told her to ask herself: am i scared of losing my friends or being unable to make it? but i still feel like it may have something to do with her mental health. what do i do?
Ive just ended a friendship, we had a row and she said some nasty things to me, she was drunk and its happened before, but i thought nope im not putting up with this, ive blocked her everywhere and im over it. I can do that with friendships but i find breaking up with men so much harder.
My friend said she was really busy when I saw her playing a game with all of her other friends..... and I don’t know if I should stay friends with her 😣😣😣
She did me wrong and I keep trying but she won’t answer me. I did three construction jobs for free then her sister asked and i said no, she ghosted me and I retaliated. Two yrs later I tried again but she refuses to answer me at all.
I don't think it's ego to know that you're not going to essentially beg someone to be an adult and have a conversation with someone they supposedly care about. I guess if the person is in their 20's still maybe but not for people pushing 40 n beyond. The door can remain open and certainly don't try to hurt them back but i do think people like thie would lose respect for you if you are toi understanding of their childishness n selfishness. The way i look at it is yiu might also be creating more guilt n shame on theur part for continuing to ignore your very nice requests or openness to talk n try to resolve the issue. Many people in that situation will resent that person n come up with other reasons not to like you rather than feel guilty about how they treated you. In general the worst someone acts or treats you the less likely they are to apologize which is why someone will apologize for stepping on your foot accidentally ot forgetting to return a phone call etc but not apologize for sleeping with your husband or stealing from you. Lol. We even see murderers n rapists who will never apologize for that. People will either come to the realization that they acted in haste or not in the best way( even if it is to end a friendship) and reach oit themselves ( a sign of growth n maturity) or they never will. If they do on their own that is really the only healthy way to move forward. Continuing to guess what your apologizing for and almost dragging them to the table to talk will likely backfire one day. They may have just had a moment of weakness and were missing you but no fundamental change has taken place and they will likely do it again a few years later. Only be with people who value you and themselves enough to grow as a person.
Screen curtain on speech off speech so I have someone who I thought was friend and I messaged her on WhatsApp one day like last month and I never got a response. Does this mean that she’s trying to end a friendship with me?
So my best friend won’t talk to me cuz her ex and my ex best friend broke up and he texted me like a long paragraph saying he was sorry and I told him like it fine I’m over it my friend has seemed to be very sad lately And I told him about that cause I’m worried about her and then he told me his new girlfriend was going off and I told him to add Andy me to the gc and then it was some kinda mission I had no clue it was going to be to stalk someone and then my friend who I’ll call ally found out and got mad at me and now she won’t talk to me and idk wit to do cuz I told her we can go to Ardennes and talk things out and yet she still won’t.so idk what’s to do
I admit. I ghost so called friends that lack emotional intelligence and always think that their opinion is the only one that matters or matters more than others. If you want people to talk to you learn how to be a two way street.
I've seen several vids on this issue.. cause going through this ..my ex girlfriend was friends with me .. until I found out she was gossips about me ... however I'll try this ...but I'm a ex boyfriend ...do you have advice from a guys point of view ...
You are putting the responsibility on the person who is not being spoken to . In a lot of cases it is jealousy why a friend won’t speak to you . A friend of mine asked if I could work with her because she needed help . She was never happy with the conditions . We got on well though but she kept telling me not to tell the boss that she complains about the job . We had to do a cleaning job at a wedding reception job and she clashed with the supervisor so the supervisor lied by saying we didn’t clean the men’s toilets . We had to return in the afternoon to clean up after a function and my fiend didn’t want to come but I did . She wanted to know how I went . I told her it didn’t go well and the supervisor was insulting my work performance . The boss gave her some money to give to me so I went to pick it up she abruptly told me to count my money then cut off from me . I found out the the supervisor didn’t want my friend to work at the reception anymore but allowed me to return to work . The cold shoulder was because of that in my opinion . I rang my friend and I thanked her for everything she did for me she said that she did it with an open heart and wished me the best for my life and hung up on me . I sent her a message saying sorry if I offended her but I promised that I won’t bother her but she ignored my message . My feelings were hurt and she most likely thinks that I had something to do with why the supervisor doesn’t want her back . She does suffer from a lot of anxiety and takes Valium , so her emotions must be running high . I hope she will find peace and if she doesn’t forgive me , at least I tried to solve the matter . It is funny that she never blocked me on social media . We will see how it goes .
My friend is also my boss and during the fight we both said things we always say and agreed we didn’t mean it…. She said she can’t trust me and I said I quit…. It’s 8 days now she has ghosted me and I’m gonna lose everything if I lose my job
@@nk7595 I left for awhile, my ex died and she came to check on my son and me and asked me to come back. So far so good but my guard falls often on account of my ex, my father and grandma dying within 3 months of each other
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Two of my close friends of 17 years ghosted me while I was going through cancer treatment last year. To say it was hurtful was an understatement. I left those friendships in 2019.
I forgave them on my own, since they stopped talking to me or answering my calls or texts. But I will never forget their cruelty. And we will never be friends again. Happily, I am going into my eighth month of remission from Stage 3 cancer, so life is much better this year, despite the pandemic and everything else that is happening in our country. I enjoy my own company these days, and am friends with my neighbors, so I am working to move on. Recently, one of my cancer fighting buddies died. Life is really painful right now, but I know this will pass, and I know my friend is at peace. Thanks for posting this. It is helpful.
Oh my goodness - hugs to you! Who would a abandon a friend with cancer!!! ?!&@!!?
Hope you are doing good now ...
Thank You, Shreya.
I’m entering my second year in Remission and have luckily been working full time and have a great full time job opportunity coming up.
Looking forward to returning to the office in late September/early October, and finally meeting my colleagues after working virtual from home since March, 2020!
Life is good. I’m enjoying my own company and the peace that life in isolation has brought me.
Wtf im so sorry for you. You deserve better. Im happy for your remission
I’m so sorry that happened to you. You have come through an extremely difficult season. I hope you can use it as a testimony to help others. And I also hope you are infused with inner strength, renewed purpose and a tenacity to forgive and love knowing the best is yet to come for you. God bless you.
Some friendships shouldn’t be repaired. It isn’t about not having the skill set, it’s about knowing what you deserve in a friendship. As a person who just walked away from a toxic friendship, it was about me spending years putting up with someone treating me badly and finally getting the strength to leave.
I also believe people and circumstances can change too though. I was in toxic friendships and my behavior wasn’t always the greatest and contributed to it as well as them. But I’ve been to counseling and I think if they worked on improving themselves too we could make it work again. Don’t shut the door on people. If they’re willing to change and make things better, let them.
THANK YOU Lydia for speaking up; I thought I'd never find someone who shared this view about Shasta's position towards this. I completely understand that there are levels of frientimacy and that most people can fit in either level, I understand that it is okay to lower your expectations when you have a bad experience with someone and get to know them better. I understand how valuable her friendship levels chart is useful for people to adjust their expectations and demands. But I do believe that it is profoundly healthy to have boundaries. There are people in this world who are not in a place that allows them to have a healthy relationship even as a contact friend. Why wouldn't it be okay to make the decision that we don't/no longer want certain people in our life, without having to justify it endlessly? Why deprive people of that empowerment?
Lydia it was the same for me too.
I agree with you a 100 percent. Several months ago I ended a friendship that sounds exactly as your situation.. my regret is I didn't end the friendship much sooner.
Same situation right now and it’s exactly like your situation. It’s such a hard decision but I know I’m doing the right thing.
This is beautiful but if someone can go over 6 months (let alone YEARS) without talking to you they don't care about you anymore/never did enough to salvage a friendship. If you offer a genuine and heartfelt apology and they would rather ignore you, orbit, or any game playing behavior then that person has issues beyond what you did to them. Unless you did something truly terrible to them, there is NO reason someone who claimed to love you and be your friend won't talk to you.
100.
Exactly. It’s their issue then, not mine. (Easier said than felt some days.)
Your right this video is useless
Brilliant insight and response
This, absolutely. If a friend hurts me deeply but I still miss them and care about them, there is only so much time that can pass by until I try to make amends. The same is true the other way around, and if, like you said, time just keeps rolling without them showing any sign of wanting to talk with you, then the only sane conclusion is that they never cared that much to begin with and it was a severely unbalanced friendship.
Another sign is when they are secretly jealous of you. Or they will brag to you about other friends they have what trip they went on..etc, etc.....its narcissism and It's sad. Their loss, their problem. Be brave and move forward. Too many beautiful souls out there who do appreciate you!
It only hurts because you don't know what happen. I don't really get attached to people but when someone stop talking to you out of nowhere and they just stop talking to you... you kinda need closure
The lack of communication is immature and childish.If they don't speak and say what the problem is,it cannot be solved🙏
I blocked my friend and deleted her number .. part of me still want her to fight for it ... but I don’t think she will ever will ... she betrayed me , she mislead
Very good advice. So helpful. Extremely difficult. It takes a lot of humbleness, humility, maturity… I pray I can be strong enough to do this when needed. It’s needed now but I’m not there yet!
Very mature advice, shows a willingness to be open and to learn, to be self aware.
I would seriously like to thank you for putting up these videos. After my friendship-breakup I was looking here and there to know how I could fix things but all I got were relationship advices. Finally found your channel!!
Super thanks!!!
Perhaps you've repeatedly crossed their boundaries, perhaps they don't feel heard, perhaps they're tired of your unsolicited advice. Maybe they feel drained after hanging out with you. Maybe they think you're pushy.
Whatever the reason it may or may not have to do with you. Chasing after someone who's not speaking to you will likely push them farther away and perhaps permanently.
If they want to speak to you they will at which point it's up to you whether or not you want to hear what they have to say.
I miss an old friend every day. She was my best friend. Your words are really helpful. Maybe one day we'll reconnect, but i don't know... I've tried. Thank you for this.
This exactly how I feel about my best friend who Im not on good terms with she wouldn’t listen to reason and now she thinks I betrayed her and fake while she’s heartbroken- idk what to do my cousin said he is still sure that we will find a way but we are both acting like little children because i was accused and we are just pointing fingers at eachother idk…
Thank you so much for these videos! They have been keeping me calmer and helping me going through my personal rough patch! I have recently received a text from my best friend announcing that “there have been a lot that have hurt her, which she does not want to talk about with me and consequently, she has come to the conclusion to throw our 20 year friendship aside”. I have been devastated! Knowing her I don’t think there is a turning point or a possibility to amend this relationship. I only wish I knew what happened and what did I do wrong that hurt her...
i’ve been watching this video for the past week, on repeat.
Thanks for your videos! 💕 There is almost no content on this subject like you do and it seems to me that you make an incredible contribution with your videos ❤️
My best friend who said he would keep in touch and wanted me to visit him after he moved, is now ghosting me and it's been a month. I know he has ADHD and other mental health problems but it still hurts because we loved each other very much. I'll try the suggestions you made, hope and pray for the best, and continue to grieve as necessary.
Thanks so much for this Shasta! Exactly what I needed to hear.
Hey bro...sorry to hear this...I hope everything is fine now between you two....how's things going on ?
@@princeedwin5087 Thanks for asking. We did get back in touch, but despite his words his actions showed that he didn't really want to be friends anymore. I've forgiven and released him, and am now enjoying the company of better friends.
Lovely! I guess we all hope sometimes a video will our "guide-to fixing our problem", but I love how you approach the possible perspective of the solution.
I'm currently having a friendship-issue, but it's my fault ('cause I always screw up with a bit of drama...) so your videos, have not been necessarily about my specific issue, but I love the perspectives you give to possibly either get over (in case of that subject), or trying to mend things up. ♥
Absolutely WONDERFUL!! Thank You sooo much!!! Your mission means the world to me!!
Continue to be kind, express our openness, & keep a space open with the intention of being a Good person in this world for self & others!!--PERFECT MESSAGE!! I am grateful to you for putting this out there!!
I love what you do here!! ... and, you're ine of my "touchstones" on how to show up wisely in this world! 💜🤍
You give high quality, practical solutions with so much kindness and warmth. Thanks!
At times i feel like some of my friends dont even wanna talk to me and even if I’ve been friends with the person for a while it just hurts me to lose a best friend. Even if some are in a relationship its like they dont need me i dont know. Im just scared to lose my best friends
Thank you. Losing a friend is difficult.
Understanding coupled with forgiveness is a sensible way forward. But always hold your strength to say No! and move away and onwards if it feels right.
You may be dealing with someone who has alot of inner healing to do but anger and bad behaviour is coming out at you. You are not the problem, remember who YOU are. This brings you strength to move forward with confidence.
Shine bright.
It’s not always about us. We didn’t do anything wrong...
I understand, but it's another story when it's a narcissistic friendship, and that you need to just walk awat and save yourself from it. It really depends on the situation.
The problem is I've apologized multiple times to the friend I hurt, and she didn't even tell me until it was too late. But she won't even answer or acknowledge them, so even though I want to make up she doesn't
You see this is what Im afraid of…
Thank you! Just watched this video which was posted like few years back But indeed this is the answer I have been looking for. I’m in a turmoil of having a close & dear friend to have ghosted me for over 3 months now.. whether to put a closure like ending it all for once cause it hurts So much after So many Messages sent without any responses. And yet here’s the advice to give a dignified open ended closure.. my last msg was asking if we could meet up for a simple get together met with silence.. 😢. It’s hard & hurtful But I have held myself up. Instead of throwing tantrum pestering her to respond or ending the friendship right away.
We need more friendship therapy video
i feel soo much better after watching this
Wonderful insight and so helpful .Your videos give ne so much comfort and perspectives to deal with relstional issues in a more constructive mannet
If they ghost 👻, they won’t easily come back.
Thank u so much for your videos. I really needed this
My best friend started ghosting me and no longer wants to be friends but has refused to tell me why and im just lost and hopeless
Is your friend in the comment section too. ?
I'm so sorry. That person was never YOUR friend. They have every right to choose to end a relationship. They have no right to be a jerk and ghost you. You deserve a conversation. Narcissists really are the scourge of the earth. Hang in there. 🤟
I really want to go back and make up with her. She keeps ignoring my text and doesn’t reply to me. It hurts like hell. I don’t know what to do I just wanna go back were everything was normal. Your words and advice was really good. Thank you
Dr Steve can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him
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Same feelings 🥺
One of my friends who is a woman finally pissed me off enough to the point where I will no longer speak to her. She supposedly accidentally sent me a nice selfie to which I responded to it. She didn't seem to like the reply, so she deleted that post and ignored me for a whole day (which I didn't know).
She then gave me the most backhanded and shitty excuse for an apology I've ever received from a woman, which was the final nail in the coffin for me. Blocked her on everything. She and I are done. I haven't been this angry at someone in a long time.
You left out all the important details. Such as what you posted in response to her selfie and what you considered a back handed crappy apology n why she even had to apologize
I shift between openness and compassion and then putting walls when I feel vulnerable because this friend is not responding and I don’t understand what happened. How can I deal with lowering the walls?
Ur doing such an amazing job shasta I needed this advice thanks a lot
Thank you so much Shasta :)
Would love to do this but my so called friend blocked my number & me on facebook. So... yeah. Tried multiple times to work things out & they're not budging. Still don't know what I did.
That person is a narcissist. They're not capable of having real relationships of any kind...only transactional ones. They're empty shells. I'm sorry you're hurting. It's better to have found out now than to have wasted anymore of your precious time on them. 🤟
my friend has been super not the same ever since she took the test for smiths hill school. shes been sad, sending dots, changing emotions unexpectedly quickly, and wont tell me at all whats wrong. im scared and worried. shes been getting offended easily, and completely quits when we lose at a game of bedwars. she told me its about the fact that shes scared about not making it to Smiths Hill (which is a school for extremely smart students and only few get in. its expensive and isnt the closest to her house.) and all her friends are going so shes worried. i told her to ask herself: am i scared of losing my friends or being unable to make it? but i still feel like it may have something to do with her mental health. what do i do?
You are too giving , move on if youre hurt , new freinds 😊
Ive just ended a friendship, we had a row and she said some nasty things to me, she was drunk and its happened before, but i thought nope im not putting up with this, ive blocked her everywhere and im over it. I can do that with friendships but i find breaking up with men so much harder.
This is assuming that you did something. I don't think that is often the case.
My friend said she was really busy when I saw her playing a game with all of her other friends..... and I don’t know if I should stay friends with her 😣😣😣
I personally feel like u and I would be great friends :^) thx sm this was so helpful. I love being able to to learn different perspectives
She did me wrong and I keep trying but she won’t answer me. I did three construction jobs for free then her sister asked and i said no, she ghosted me and I retaliated. Two yrs later I tried again but she refuses to answer me at all.
So helpful. Thank you!
I don't think it's ego to know that you're not going to essentially beg someone to be an adult and have a conversation with someone they supposedly care about. I guess if the person is in their 20's still maybe but not for people pushing 40 n beyond. The door can remain open and certainly don't try to hurt them back but i do think people like thie would lose respect for you if you are toi understanding of their childishness n selfishness. The way i look at it is yiu might also be creating more guilt n shame on theur part for continuing to ignore your very nice requests or openness to talk n try to resolve the issue. Many people in that situation will resent that person n come up with other reasons not to like you rather than feel guilty about how they treated you. In general the worst someone acts or treats you the less likely they are to apologize which is why someone will apologize for stepping on your foot accidentally ot forgetting to return a phone call etc but not apologize for sleeping with your husband or stealing from you. Lol. We even see murderers n rapists who will never apologize for that. People will either come to the realization that they acted in haste or not in the best way( even if it is to end a friendship) and reach oit themselves ( a sign of growth n maturity) or they never will. If they do on their own that is really the only healthy way to move forward. Continuing to guess what your apologizing for and almost dragging them to the table to talk will likely backfire one day. They may have just had a moment of weakness and were missing you but no fundamental change has taken place and they will likely do it again a few years later. Only be with people who value you and themselves enough to grow as a person.
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Screen curtain on speech off speech so I have someone who I thought was friend and I messaged her on WhatsApp one day like last month and I never got a response. Does this mean that she’s trying to end a friendship with me?
So my best friend won’t talk to me cuz her ex and my ex best friend broke up and he texted me like a long paragraph saying he was sorry and I told him like it fine I’m over it my friend has seemed to be very sad lately And I told him about that cause I’m worried about her and then he told me his new girlfriend was going off and I told him to add Andy me to the gc and then it was some kinda mission I had no clue it was going to be to stalk someone and then my friend who I’ll call ally found out and got mad at me and now she won’t talk to me and idk wit to do cuz I told her we can go to Ardennes and talk things out and yet she still won’t.so idk what’s to do
I need prayer
My friend still won't talk to me it's newyears her and been happening sence school went out I'm so sad
I admit. I ghost so called friends that lack emotional intelligence and always think that their opinion is the only one that matters or matters more than others. If you want people to talk to you learn how to be a two way street.
Ugh I have 3 friend none of them talk to me
Wh had a little fight .My friend told me she wants to be alone for few days . She barley talk to me . Is it gonna be okay?
I've seen several vids on this issue.. cause going through this ..my ex girlfriend was friends with me .. until I found out she was gossips about me ... however I'll try this ...but I'm a ex boyfriend ...do you have advice from a guys point of view ...
My best friend of 11 years drop me for his new girlfriend 😔
You are putting the responsibility on the person who is not being spoken to . In a lot of cases it is jealousy why a friend won’t speak to you . A friend of mine asked if I could work with her because she needed help . She was never happy with the conditions . We got on well though but she kept telling me not to tell the boss that she complains about the job . We had to do a cleaning job at a wedding reception job and she clashed with the supervisor so the supervisor lied by saying we didn’t clean the men’s toilets . We had to return in the afternoon to clean up after a function and my fiend didn’t want to come but I did . She wanted to know how I went . I told her it didn’t go well and the supervisor was insulting my work performance . The boss gave her some money to give to me so I went to pick it up she abruptly told me to count my money then cut off from me . I found out the the supervisor didn’t want my friend to work at the reception anymore but allowed me to return to work . The cold shoulder was because of that in my opinion . I rang my friend and I thanked her for everything she did for me she said that she did it with an open heart and wished me the best for my life and hung up on me . I sent her a message saying sorry if I offended her but I promised that I won’t bother her but she ignored my message . My feelings were hurt and she most likely thinks that I had something to do with why the supervisor doesn’t want her back . She does suffer from a lot of anxiety and takes Valium , so her emotions must be running high . I hope she will find peace and if she doesn’t forgive me , at least I tried to solve the matter . It is funny that she never blocked me on social media . We will see how it goes .
My friend so mad at me she can't even look at me
My friend is also my boss and during the fight we both said things we always say and agreed we didn’t mean it…. She said she can’t trust me and I said I quit…. It’s 8 days now she has ghosted me and I’m gonna lose everything if I lose my job
Oh no, did you guys ever talk again and make up? Did you actually lose your job?
@@nk7595 I left for awhile, my ex died and she came to check on my son and me and asked me to come back. So far so good but my guard falls often on account of my ex, my father and grandma dying within 3 months of each other
I hate my friend now she ignores me
i killd my frend ine minekraft and now he will not tak to me what kan i doe? need help plz ansever asap
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