My favourite person is my younger brother. When I was in a bad place in my life, having suicidal thoughts, his support was the most helpful. Because he wasn't just saying that he loves me (ofc that helped a lot) but he dug deep in my mind literally, like a psychologist he was leading me to the sources of all my problems and negative thinking, how Denmo says here, replacing real love with the artificial love. I understood lately that he went through the exact same shit and maybe even worse. But he made it. And inspired me. He was having social anxiety, suicidal thoughts, loneliness, bad habits such as smoking and hanging out with bad "friends" (he thought he didn't have a choice), mental problems (he had obsessive thoughts and was doing repetitive actions, forgot how it's called) and bunch of other problems. Yet he thrived. It's all about mentality, mindset and habits, guys. I deleted all the video games on my computer and phone, all the pornographic and erotic content, moved to another place and started socialising actively. If my younger brother did it, I can too
Absolute banger Daddy Denmo. So many people in the world feel this way and relate to this vid. This was a much needed vid. Sending all the love your way my brother😎
This is literally what I'm saying bro. I don't have nobody anymore, my dreams dont matter to me anymore because of it. Having no comrades at 20 years old makes living pointless. I still have a bit of ego and pride in myself, and that's the only thing keeping me lean, fit and still able to do some tasks that I dont want to do but should do. All my big dreams just slowly faded as all my friends were geographically displaced away from me. The grind doesn't mean anything anymore.
@@andreashillitzer2291 thats literally what im doing. I'm just enjoying life trying to do what I should be doing and cutting out points of unnecessary stress. My calling will come someday.
Were you doing the grind so you could boast about it with you friends? Or were you doing it for yourself? Friends come and go. You stay with yourself forever, so you better not give up dude, you can do it!
This is such an important video, thank you so much for it! I´m in my second day of self improvement and went the first time to the gym, shutted down social media and tomorrow I will apply to new job and I feel so damn great. I´m 32 never had a girlfriend, I´m poor and live at my mothers house but now I can see progress and this progress feels so amazing. It feels like now I have so much time to upgrade my live because I dont waste a huge amount with artificial love anymore! Thank you so much for this video!!!
As a longtime user of psychedelics, your first trips are always the most meaningful... it takes a long time of introspection and meditation and research to fully grasp what lies deeper
Hey I know this is off topic from the video. But I wanted to let everyone know I’ve finally learnt my first piano piece after 4 months of hard work. And I’m looking forward to the next one.
To answer your question, at the end of the video, that is a good point in that question. The person who inspires me the most is around my age, and happens to be my guitar teacher. I feel he makes me feel loved after having a lesson with him. Not only because he's a celebrity, but he's a very nice, down to earth guy. Hard to find people like that.
One of my main issues is that I can't trust other people enough to let them into my life. I go out and try to make friends, but I never feel like I belong, or I never feel like other people are being genuine because I think they are just putting on a show. I've been in a room full of strangers at a board game meetup where we all sit down and play games together, and I've never felt more isolated and like I didn't belong in my entire life. I see these people on a semi--regular basis, but I view them as mere acquaintances, and people I do an activity with, rather than actual friends. How is one supposed to seek out and build friendships and love when they feel like such an outsider who is just faking it to fit a societal role? How is a guy supposed to find real love if he can't ever see anyone else as being truly genuine when they act friendly towards him? I can't just go cold-turkey and cut out my youtube entertainment. If I do that, I'll have nothing, except piano. How can I wean myself off of it? I've been stuck on the fourth step for what feels like years now.
I really relate to your comment in its entirety. I did a week no YT recently and it felt awesome, but I regressed back to my old ways. I have trouble trusting new people in my life too, but on the rare occasion I do, I try to show a little vulnerability. I don't think that works as great as people think it does
My family especially, but I have this friend who just always makes me feel like I matter even when I don't feel it myself, their always there for me even if it's something as simple as just having someone to talk to, whether it's in person or on the phone, to listen to me when I'm down, and give me a hug and I love you and I haven't met many people like that and their just the best.
As a sheltered left handed empath pastor kid with some type of undiagnosed adhd/autism, years of depression, my mentor and only sibling deleted himself when he was 28 and I was 20... I have abandoned all my friends from school and other places I have lived... To live alone for the last five years. I just go to work and then back home. I try to go out occasionally but I can't find anyone else that I get them and they get me enough to maintain any actual friendships
Spot on timing with the video, recovering from totally wasted sunday. Havent watched porn in a year, next month will be a year from drinking and doing coke, have been hitting a gym 3 times a week 9 months now, and still feeling all the pain mentioned in the video, fucking love it. And with your tips ive noticed that im starting to turn some heads and sometimes getting these glimpses of confidence and starting convos about nothing with a pretty girls and it works. Havent pulled a trigger yet to set any dates since im still a bit in the miserable piece of shit headspace but the work doesnt stop, slowly getting there.
I don't believe that you really hate anyone or that you truly hate yourself. You've been taught an incorrect way to respond to reality by your upbringing environment. It may not seem like it but nobody is better off than you. Everyone is full of shit. Some are just better at faking it. Look for yourself if that's true.
I've cut everything negative out of my life months ago. I feel better than other but because I was raised by weirdos who shoved drugs down my throat my development was so stunted, I don't think I'm capable of gaining the love of a healthy human being.
There is no certainty to know for sure. What you are describing is just a belief covering up the fear that you feel towards the unknown you are now stepping into. Acknowledge that and keep going. You got this bro.
I can understand the feeling of being an outcast. I was treated like dog$hit in school and had very few friends. Tbh it created a really negative complex in me for a long time about people and interactions in general. Sometimes it just takes time and experiences with people who you resonate with to fix it. Best I can tell you is try to find your group and tribe. I highly doubt you are a "lost cause" or something, but just need the to find yourself. Hope that gives you some insight or can help potentially
What does one have to do with the other? If you help others just with the intention to be helped by them you are not really helping anyone. Get clear on your true intention. What is it that you actually want?
It's all the same. If you are truly honest with yourself, you know exactly what kind of stuff you are simply using to distract yourself from the dissatisfaction you actually feel inside.
send me an email we'll make sure whoever did this gets banned- unfortunately on skool, anybody can join groups and DM anybody so theres no way for anyone to monitor messages
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You never know when someone could be going through the most painful time of their life. Hopefully this helps
You should learn about Islam
start by getting to know prophet Muhammad
@@TakeCareOfYourself7 go back to sleep
I miss virgin squad bro. Fawk 2020!!!
Thanks, Denmo - thanks to your videos I've gotten a cave, a deer, a fire, a large stick, and a cavewoman.
Been feeling down about life , This video came out at the right time for me
watching this after the og college party videos is like watching your drunk uncle become a pastor. keep slinging helpful info bro
My favourite person is my younger brother. When I was in a bad place in my life, having suicidal thoughts, his support was the most helpful. Because he wasn't just saying that he loves me (ofc that helped a lot) but he dug deep in my mind literally, like a psychologist he was leading me to the sources of all my problems and negative thinking, how Denmo says here, replacing real love with the artificial love.
I understood lately that he went through the exact same shit and maybe even worse. But he made it. And inspired me. He was having social anxiety, suicidal thoughts, loneliness, bad habits such as smoking and hanging out with bad "friends" (he thought he didn't have a choice), mental problems (he had obsessive thoughts and was doing repetitive actions, forgot how it's called) and bunch of other problems.
Yet he thrived. It's all about mentality, mindset and habits, guys.
I deleted all the video games on my computer and phone, all the pornographic and erotic content, moved to another place and started socialising actively.
If my younger brother did it, I can too
“If you’re always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be.”
I think learning a new language made my life exciting again, opening new doors to travel and experience parts of the world I never knew.
Absolute banger Daddy Denmo. So many people in the world feel this way and relate to this vid. This was a much needed vid. Sending all the love your way my brother😎
This is literally what I'm saying bro. I don't have nobody anymore, my dreams dont matter to me anymore because of it. Having no comrades at 20 years old makes living pointless. I still have a bit of ego and pride in myself, and that's the only thing keeping me lean, fit and still able to do some tasks that I dont want to do but should do.
All my big dreams just slowly faded as all my friends were geographically displaced away from me. The grind doesn't mean anything anymore.
don´t give up man, start living your live
@@andreashillitzer2291 thats literally what im doing. I'm just enjoying life trying to do what I should be doing and cutting out points of unnecessary stress. My calling will come someday.
Were you doing the grind so you could boast about it with you friends? Or were you doing it for yourself?
Friends come and go. You stay with yourself forever, so you better not give up dude, you can do it!
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@@Starioshka no way ur stalking my comments 😭😭
This is such an important video, thank you so much for it! I´m in my second day of self improvement and went the first time to the gym, shutted down social media and tomorrow I will apply to new job and I feel so damn great. I´m 32 never had a girlfriend, I´m poor and live at my mothers house but now I can see progress and this progress feels so amazing. It feels like now I have so much time to upgrade my live because I dont waste a huge amount with artificial love anymore! Thank you so much for this video!!!
I started loving live again after an LSD trip. Since that day I'm able to enjoy life and be happier than ever
Funnily enough I am about to have one very soon myself. I legally ordered some 1S-LSD few days ago lol. What's your advice on making it a great trip?
I read that as LDS trip. As in the Latter Day Saints. I was imagining like a pilgrimage to Salt Lake City and getting baptized.
As a longtime user of psychedelics, your first trips are always the most meaningful... it takes a long time of introspection and meditation and research to fully grasp what lies deeper
@@4thworldwilderness390I’m intrigued
Hey I know this is off topic from the video. But I wanted to let everyone know I’ve finally learnt my first piano piece after 4 months of hard work. And I’m looking forward to the next one.
Congratulations 🎉
To answer your question, at the end of the video, that is a good point in that question. The person who inspires me the most is around my age, and happens to be my guitar teacher. I feel he makes me feel loved after having a lesson with him. Not only because he's a celebrity, but he's a very nice, down to earth guy. Hard to find people like that.
One of my main issues is that I can't trust other people enough to let them into my life. I go out and try to make friends, but I never feel like I belong, or I never feel like other people are being genuine because I think they are just putting on a show. I've been in a room full of strangers at a board game meetup where we all sit down and play games together, and I've never felt more isolated and like I didn't belong in my entire life.
I see these people on a semi--regular basis, but I view them as mere acquaintances, and people I do an activity with, rather than actual friends. How is one supposed to seek out and build friendships and love when they feel like such an outsider who is just faking it to fit a societal role? How is a guy supposed to find real love if he can't ever see anyone else as being truly genuine when they act friendly towards him?
I can't just go cold-turkey and cut out my youtube entertainment. If I do that, I'll have nothing, except piano. How can I wean myself off of it? I've been stuck on the fourth step for what feels like years now.
I really relate to your comment in its entirety. I did a week no YT recently and it felt awesome, but I regressed back to my old ways. I have trouble trusting new people in my life too, but on the rare occasion I do, I try to show a little vulnerability. I don't think that works as great as people think it does
My family especially, but I have this friend who just always makes me feel like I matter even when I don't feel it myself, their always there for me even if it's something as simple as just having someone to talk to, whether it's in person or on the phone, to listen to me when I'm down, and give me a hug and I love you and I haven't met many people like that and their just the best.
As a sheltered left handed empath pastor kid with some type of undiagnosed adhd/autism, years of depression, my mentor and only sibling deleted himself when he was 28 and I was 20... I have abandoned all my friends from school and other places I have lived...
To live alone for the last five years. I just go to work and then back home. I try to go out occasionally but I can't find anyone else that I get them and they get me enough to maintain any actual friendships
You knocked this out the fricken park bro, added to my super favorites
Date the girl you want, not the first one that says yes. Word.
Spot on timing with the video, recovering from totally wasted sunday. Havent watched porn in a year, next month will be a year from drinking and doing coke, have been hitting a gym 3 times a week 9 months now, and still feeling all the pain mentioned in the video, fucking love it. And with your tips ive noticed that im starting to turn some heads and sometimes getting these glimpses of confidence and starting convos about nothing with a pretty girls and it works. Havent pulled a trigger yet to set any dates since im still a bit in the miserable piece of shit headspace but the work doesnt stop, slowly getting there.
keep going brother
16:50 set it as your wallpaper/lock screen guys
awesome
Love you Denmo, for real, real love bro
This may have been the most eye-opening video I've watched in years.
glad it helped brother
As an anxious/avoidant attachment style. I’m cursed to be alone. So now I’ve taken up gardening
Eye opening topic to talk about. Thanks Denmo
Amazing video! Thanks for being a force for good Jack!
Forced love is something I needed to hear
6:33 🤣🤣🤣 I love your sense of humor man
your're touching the point in this video.... seems to be that a cure for human depression is to help people whataere the sircumstance..
I've even put my smart watch on grayscale
You should try the Vexian style thumbnail
Excellent, as always!
This was a great video! Can you tell us more about your creative process of coming up with such a good speech?
17:35 just contradicted the idea of the entire video
I'm the kid with issues that hates everyone😭
I don't believe that you really hate anyone or that you truly hate yourself. You've been taught an incorrect way to respond to reality by your upbringing environment. It may not seem like it but nobody is better off than you. Everyone is full of shit. Some are just better at faking it. Look for yourself if that's true.
I've cut everything negative out of my life months ago. I feel better than other but because I was raised by weirdos who shoved drugs down my throat my development was so stunted, I don't think I'm capable of gaining the love of a healthy human being.
There is no certainty to know for sure. What you are describing is just a belief covering up the fear that you feel towards the unknown you are now stepping into. Acknowledge that and keep going. You got this bro.
I can understand the feeling of being an outcast. I was treated like dog$hit in school and had very few friends. Tbh it created a really negative complex in me for a long time about people and interactions in general. Sometimes it just takes time and experiences with people who you resonate with to fix it. Best I can tell you is try to find your group and tribe. I highly doubt you are a "lost cause" or something, but just need the to find yourself. Hope that gives you some insight or can help potentially
Great video Denmo.
I prefer the previous thumbnail, but that may just be my brain filtering thumbnails for attention.
Really good this one!
Hey Denmo, I would just like to say thanks to you. Your videos make my life better.
Love you Denmo
Great video, bro, but I don't think that love is something you can achieve objectively. Cause the more you chase love, the more it goes away from you.
Can you make a video of just good books to read on similar topics in this video?
3:36 "I live in a Cabin in the woods with my dog". Okay, but why do you have a dog? Because that dog loves you maybe?
hello people
Thank you
If we only strive to get love, then why tf am I addicted to league??? You know league players aren't the loveliest people.
Grok like
5:49 I help people, but nobody helps me
What does one have to do with the other? If you help others just with the intention to be helped by them you are not really helping anyone. Get clear on your true intention. What is it that you actually want?
Denmo, I feel the difference
Been stuck on step 4
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Early gang
What do you say about TH-cam? Not instragram photos or Twitter bullshit, but entertainment content in yt.
It's all the same. If you are truly honest with yourself, you know exactly what kind of stuff you are simply using to distract yourself from the dissatisfaction you actually feel inside.
protip stop using youtube too because it's equally as unproductive.
I 👀 the denmo
Don’t join his private community. There are scammers on there. I got scammed $400 by a member on there.
send me an email we'll make sure whoever did this gets banned- unfortunately on skool, anybody can join groups and DM anybody so theres no way for anyone to monitor messages
Nice
Please add Turkish language
❤❤❤
Denmo is the big bro we all wish we could've had.
Play chess, learn web design and watch Game of thrones instead of social media and p*rn lol 😱
Hey Denmo perfect Timing
Im totally fucked and unmotivated.
Thanks for your work and enjoy your upcooming week ;P
you didnt help
and im7
What the point of all this?
The life is no sense phenomenon