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- Ever find yourself reacting in the heat of the moment and later regretting it? In this video, we explore the power of not reacting, how to regulate emotions, and how mastering this skill can transform your emotional well-being. Learning to pause and regulate your emotions can help you gain clarity, make better decisions, and maintain healthier relationships.
We'll discuss practical tips on how to stay calm under pressure, why it's essential to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively, and how this approach can positively impact your life. Whether you're dealing with stress, conflict, or just everyday challenges, these strategies will help you build emotional resilience.
Remember, emotional regulation is a journey, and it's okay to take it one step at a time. Let's dive in and discover the power of not reacting.
Disclaimer: This video is for educational purposes and does not replace professional advice.
Writer: Lightoflights
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Ayacchi
TH-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Sara Lindberg How to deal with pent up anger (2019) www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/pent-up-anger
University of California - San Diego. (2024, March 5). Having self-control leads to power. ScienceDaily. Retrieved July 9, 2024 from www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2024/03/240305165925.htm
Gottman, J.M., Cole, C., Cole, D.L. (2019). Negative Sentiment Override in Couples and Families. In: Lebow, J.L., Chambers, A.L., Breunlin, D.C. (eds) Encyclopedia of Couple and Family Therapy. Springer, Cham. doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-49425-8_180
Feeling like your emotions are running the show? Let's change that! In this video, we'll explore on understanding the power of NOT reacting. It will help you stay calm, and build your inner strength for difficult situations. Comment below and let us know how has your emotions plays in your life.
What the hell is that music under the background music?
It's so distracting from the narration. Drop that immediately it's distrupting the message you want to give, three communicating channels at the same time never work.
No my brain is running the whole process.
The problem is there a 17 tabs open, 9 are frozen, I don't know where the music coming from and the system keeps bringing up a video of yodeling metal heads for some reason
The point of not reacting is, “we can still feel emotions, but it’s important we don’t let them dictate our actions into doing and saying things that we’ll regret later”
Okay, Spock.
;)
But how do you react when someone every time they see you it's their mission to come out with very insidious comments to try and provoke you sorry but thece won as I'm going to start completely avoiding them at all costs I've got very serious mental health issues and their behaviour is worsening my condition which they knew would happen so it's a very toxic ghoster who would do that
Yeah my silence is not a weakness. 90% of the time I control my emotions and accept whatever I endure and move on as much as possible
Sometimes it’s hard to accept what I endure. My mind won’t stop thinking smh
@@Horror957 I feel you. There are triggers that the mind can find so yeah I understand what you're saying
Accepting something does not necessarily imply that you will not think about that later
@@x_kobalt I agree but when I think about it, I just shut it out and forget about it again
@@sandiletwala3001 that's something easy to say, but not easy to do... Even while I know what you mean and I succeeded at this sometimes, maybe it's not something anyone might be able to do
Emotions are not a weakness but being at their mercy is. When you can feel without succumbing to their whims, you achieve a power you have never known
This is so well put 👏
Please be careful with people that are manipulative. You don't have to "understand" them or feel empathy. You are entitled to your emotions. Just try to not let negative feelings effect you too much. Don't give those people this power ❤
Timestamps
1). Chemical countdowns 0:35
2). Find your roots 1:06
3). Let go of reserved anger and stress 1:41
4). Know the consequences 2:28
5). Have empathy 2:59
6). Benefits of not reacting 3:25
7). Strong relationships 4:16
8). More focus 4:48
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
thank you, much appreciated!
It does, thank you!
Thank you 🥰
Severe Snape: “Control your emotions, Discipline your mind!!”
I recall a time when an angry woman got in my face and insulted, emoted and basically lost it. I never lost eye contact and listened until she ran out of breath. Then I stayed calm and said "thank you". Not rude, mean or with emotion. The war was over and she walked away. One of the most powerful things I've ever experienced. Win/win. 🎉👍🏻🙏🏻
Well done!! The problem was hers, not yours.
@@karlyp3920 yes indeed. Thank you for getting it. I never debate, argue or invalidate anything. I listen, learn and love how my life unfolds in so many different ways and lets us both or many feel safe and free to BE. 👍🏻❤️😉🙏🏻🤗
Please never stop making videos❤
Thank you for your love and support! It means a lot to us! What’s your fave topic so far? :)
@@Psych2go honestly my fav topic is the “different types of” videos you make
I accidentally misread this as "Please stop making videos❤" and dude I almost uhh funny enough lost hold on my emotions lmao
@@HerbDuolol😂
@@HerbDuo lmaooo😭😭
I love the Inside Out thumbnail. I used to lose my temper more frequently, but I've since taken up Tai Chi, yoga and meditation, and found that they've helped me become less reactionary.
I think some clarification would help. Not reacting isn't the same as 'not feeling'. But rather feeling with intent first, then responding appropriately.
delayed reaction or thinking before acting
emotional Intelligence or emotion EQ is vital
@@hop101 true that
There’s a saying that goes, “The best response to a fool is no response at all” and it’s true. Since learning to master my emotions, I’ve noticed an increase in people trying to provoke reactions out of me and how upset they get when I don’t acknowledge it.
3:27 This is a very practical use of not reacting. There is a flagpole in our front yard. My brother who is significantly more physically fit than I, couldn't get himself to go up a ladder that was leaning up against the pole for the sake of stringing it. The pole moved as he climbed the ladder and he just couldn't do it. Before our father was able to start to climb the ladder, I stepped in and told him I would do it. He was skeptical to put it mildly. I was able to go all the way up the ladder and string it. I was able to do that because I am aware of my own emotions and chose to not give in to the fear of falling.
Being aware of your emotions is useful in everyday life.
A covert and vulnerable narcissist is a master of silent treatment. A pause is fine but silence can be a weapon, really damaging of self-esteem. Not every silence is self-control. Silence can be very manipulative.
Men, i need to control my silence
@@IkerTG😅
this is more of a pause than silence per se
It's hard when people are disrespectful to control those emotions. I usually walk away.
I tried that. They just followed.
THIS IS A SUPERPOWER!!!! I WISH I HAD KNOWN IT MUCH EARLIER IN LIFE - BUT "REACTIONS" WERE TEASED OUT OF ME AS A KID FOR THE ENTERTAINMENT OF MEANER, OLDER SIBLINGS...BUT I HAVE LEARNED COMPASSION FOR "MINI ME" & GOTTEN FAR WITH THIS IMPORTANT SKILL💪🎉
I am SO glad you guys posted this I have been haveing a hard time controlling my emotions lately I’ve been more angry than I have ever been throwing things breaking things and I’m trying not to get to that point again.
I am 27 and I want to be able to not let insults get to me to a point of reacting
I used to speak almost fluent German. I would control my temper by translating what they said into German. It kept the first response of anger at bay. I also would diagram their sentences in my head. It works sometimes.
I don‘t react to things but I hate it, people just walk over my feelings now & I‘m always stressed, there‘s probably ways I can get better but oh well
I love your videos ☺️ happy to be one of the first ones here
Edit: OMG TYSM PSYCH2GO IM HONORED TO HAVE MY COMMENT LIKED BY YOU
I got laid off from my job and I didn’t cry but my other coworker who got laid off did… I’m usually a crier but in a professional setting I kept calm. And in this situation I can’t do anything about it anyway. I was just trying to take it all in and process it, HR said I was “taking it well” just cause I didn’t cry? I’m not going to react in a work environment. I also had to comfort my crying coworker too even tho we were in the same situation. Nobody asked me how I was doing.
Not reacting in a work environment is good. I hope you shared how you feel with your loved ones! ❤
Hope you are doing good rn
@@Heyy_2107 thank you that is very kind of you :) I got a new job so I am doing great ❤️
I find my toxic parent HATES when i respond with silence, hmmm, or the dreaded "ok".
They hate to lose control over you
Hahaha fr when I say ok they say WHAT OK WHAT OK😅
@samiraaparazita1420 yeah, they get louder when I do this but whatever to protect my peace of mind, I'm going to do.
I think my power of not reacting is trying to silence myself from feeling my emotions in the first place. Telling myself, “it could be worse. Your emotions aren’t valid enough. The simple thing to do is just get over it.” So I do all I can to fight off the emotion and just ignore it. I do use healthy coping skills though. I’ve taught myself that strong people never cry. Strong people never feel angry. Strong people are always calm and happy and positive. So, my way of self control is to just shut the crying and anger and other emotions off and just ignore them if I feel them coming on, because that’s the way to be rezilliant. I don’t do sugarcoating or the polite thing. I’m direct with myself, as well as others. Being polite and sugarcoating things doesn’t do anything. But if you’re direct, at least this is how I work, then it will get you somewhere. And this is why I tell myself the simple and easy thing to do is to suck it up, shut up and just hurry up and get over it because it could be worse, and your emotions and feelings aren’t valid enough unlike other people’s.
That's Is not healthy
"PLEASE FORGIVE THE ALL CAPITALS TYPE BUT THEN WHO DOES CRY FIRSTLY AND THEN WHY DO YOU BELIEVE YOUR EMOTIONS AREN'T VALID ENOUGH ALSO?????"
@@goatqbjmp1 because other people have it WAAAY worse than I do.
i should follow your example. emotions are overrated
@@LoneWindtheWolf I never said that you should do this. I also smack myself for feeling my emotions. Are you going to do that? I seriously hope you don’t. Just because I do it, doesn’t mean anything. I know I hit myself in the head or the face for feeling, but does it make it OK? It might be my default, but it’s also ok to find a better default. If someone said, “I drink to stop myself from feeling.” Would you do that?
Reacting is one of the best parts of confrontation now how you react is what's important for instance i always react to people that send me comments or in real life if someone is try to argue with me i always have time to explain things and enjoy doing so and love and empathy only help a little if you don't know how to handle a situation properly avoiding conflict sometimes is needed but avoiding conflict as a whole is foolish because what happens when you can't avoid it? You'll have no experience in taking care of business so to speak
Thanks i really needed this❤
This was very helpful but i think the examples can tend to minimize the experiences some have that are much much more aggressive, like getting yelled at or insulted or threatened. It might be good to have a video on that as well if you havent already
Exactly! This video is on point, but in reality, it’s impossible for us to completely let everyone off the hook without reacting.
@jomoore_52 Yeah, it's targeted towards people suffering from minor abuse, but it's still true for much greater abuse, and it just doesn't seem to cover that fully
Sometimes in situations like that, it's much much harder to just not react. Especially if it's for your own safety or for the safety of others
This video reminds me of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and the first habit, be proactive
I don't know why this happens
But both my roommates who are cousins
They occasionally stop talking to me
And than they enjoy laugh do things together I am compelled to believe maybe I do something wrong
Maybe there's something wrong in me
But it's really hard and bit suffocating to stay in a group of three where I am the one left out
I don't know I just don't feel so good
Even if I try ...the thing is I have to face this for a year and more
But all is good
❤all is good babe
Just remind yourself, if they talk to you then great but if not then oh well 😂😂
Why don't you just make plans without them? I mean, they kinda make fun of you and you deserve a friendly, peaceful environment...
Thank you so much for these videos. You’re always just so calming and kind and thoughtful you really really help me so much❤️❤️🥰🫶🏽
My therapy group was talking bout this today😮😮😮😮😮
Words cannot say how much i needed this video.
Thank you so much! Please keep the channel going! ❤
Keeping quiet can give you time to think. Reacting instantly will usually make you regret it later. Silence lets you process before you act.
Dude.. THANK YOUUUUUU im so thankful for you to do this video.
The best advice I was ever given "say less"
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I learn new things from this channel all the time, keep doing what you do
Your last few videos have been very useful for me to better understand my mind and improve myself as a person. I also really enjoy how non-judgemental you guys are.
I needed this today. Thank you, Psych2Go.
Thank you so much! I've been easily getting agitated ever since I went to high school...
(I love the thumbnail and more Inside Out references! 😁)
"you can have feelings but you don't always have to give power to those feelings"
Right at the time I needed.
Well done!
Chemical countdowns: Useless unless you count to at least 1000.
Find your roots: It's always obvious anyway.
Know the consequences: They are always obvious anyway.
Have empathy: That makes you react more.
I need this for when I'm playing video games 😅
This one video looks so cute! The subtly movements of the characters looks so adorable.
love your content so much^^. tysm for bringing them to us
This video came right on time. I need to learn to stop my immediate reaction to everything.🥰 Thank you so so much!!!
Yes, I get out of hand in most situations. Especially if I believe I am being treated like dirt or someone I love is. This is a great video. Thanks 👍😊❤
I'd love for a lot of gamers watch this. I already use some of these routes in my gaming time, and it has saved me from a LOT of rage quits. 👑👑👑👑👑👑
I truly need to work on this!!
This was very helpful 😊❤ It was something that i was struggling with my sister, who normally provoked the situation :")
But still, would be nice to have this similar type of video, but in this case with someone who tends to provoke the situations (not you) even though you tried all the time to be respectful and keeping your distance.
Thanks for all your videos. They are very insightful 🥰
Thanks PSY I really do like this video. It's a tricky but important matter. Lots of difficult people about these days and we all need advice on how to deal with them.
I just had a relationship end because of my issue with regulating emotions so thank you for talking about this
THIS IS 100000% TRUE!!! I could've gotten revenge but i decided to do nothing and the people who did something horrible to me had something even worse happen to them!!❤🤩
I feel like I make people more angry, irritated and frustrated when I don’t react to things or at least not how they expect me to react.
But sometimes I just want to save my energy for more important things.
I have been told I have anger issues by different therapist and psychiatrist.
“You need to learn how to argue properly.”
In my head I hear them scream: “React, goddamn it! You’re a human being, not a robot or a freaking iceblock!”
There was a time when I used to fake reactions to calm people down or make them happy.
This is 100% true but it's not always easy not to react I know from personal experience oh this is helpful to other people that had to watch this because it's helpful to me.
omg the timing is just crazy ✨️💛
I needed this! thank you for another amazing video.
by the way, I really liked the voice of the narrator. very clear and calming :)
I just watched "Inside Out" and this video pops out in my recommendations...
This is first one ive watched and this is so what im dealing with with soneone so ghosting gas lighting how soneone with these vehaviours can sffect someone rlse who suffers with bpd and how their behaviour can affect someone who was bullied at school as a child and the toxic person is triggering those memories
Self discipline needed to master this skill. ❤ It’s perfectly normal to feel emotions. It’s how we choose to Respond that is Key! Have a wonderful day everyone. One day at a time.
I love inside out of the thumbnail
The script writer for this video seems to have an unusual obsession with power.
Well, I use to not react a lot, but I think most of the times is because I'm scared to do it. I think it's good to react sometimes, if you don't the times you do are gonna be out of control since you don't have practice. As I started to react instantly to people wen I get mad or offended, I realised I really don't know how to express my feelings in the moment. Hours of "regulating you feelings" can be prevented by choosing the right words. What I mean is, don't bottle up and learn to express yourself so you don't end up being resentful.
But I get it, it's just a point of view btw
3:46. So true.
Your emotions are YOURS. They are not the fault of someone else. So don't blame others for making you feel things. And don't imagine that you will not feel things. That will just lead to bunkering. It's about controlling ones reactions. It's manipulation of oneself and your surroundings
I am trying every day.
Thank you for this video! It came at the perfect time ❤😊 it's really helpful. I should be honest, ALL YOUR VIDEOS ARE SO HELPFUL ❤
When a narc hopes to get me to respond to their lame tactics I just brush it off makes them more angry and they start acting more of a fool. Not responding or reacting to their childish games helps me to be at peace with myself. Yea what they say can hurt but I have the choice to take it or leave it. It’s not my problem but theirs. I’m not trying to win anything I’m just trying to save myself from becoming a fool like them.
Im very good at not reacting on the outside, instead i usually take it as my fault and tear myself up from the inside, also im an empath which usually makes it even worse
This could not have come at a better time, my yearbook committee group have been making horrible decisions for our yearbook and I’ve been having to tell them off for their bad decisions! One of them is even trying to one up me at every chance she gets :(
I must say .... Some people think that when I don't react to them. They think I'm ignorant
I’ve noticed that the less I react to deliberate provocation, the more irate the person becomes.
wow the mha reference at the end
Thanks for the reminder 😊
Guys this is true, i practise this everyday.. i admit some days i blow my gasket cause of badluck, but i try and say nah its ok
You're the best my pet has died and you make things better
Take care od yourself. It is very traumatic to lose a pet.
@@LtRee96se thank you
@@Mrvishnu1276, I know the pain. If you want to talk, I will try to respond as soon as I can. You are not alone in this.
@@LtRee96se yeah he died by eating posion
@@Mrvishnu1276 Oh, that is horrible! That would make me both sad and angry. I'm so sorry that this happened to you and your pet. You are in my prayers. This is just awful.
I have a coping mechanism against work when it gets busy because i have experience when it gets busy in buffets that i always look at it as it will slow down eventually. I don't let the busy of things get under my skin.
this video came up at a time i really needed it the most. thank you Psych2Go
Very good psych2go. Very proud of you. Well done, Good job. Keep it up. Lots of praises and love towards you. Very good. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you with all the help on my other account ive been watching these videos ever since covid
Oh my god i need this so much rn
Thank you!
❤ love this! Sharing with my child
yep
Thank you pysch2go
Thx
Good 👍
Thank you Psych2go!
I've been insulted so many times for having crooked teeth because i tried to ram my mother eith a trolley when i was 7 because i didnt get lego and also because im a red head so at this point i laugh it off or it just goes through my ear and out the other but idk if thats emotional intelligence or just stubbornness 😐
the Walls of Kowloon soundtrack!
I find the more I don’t react, the more ppl overreact bc they WANT a reaction. Then if you give em one, they freak out more 😂
I loved the imagery of the trauma around the Psi at 2:19. 🥺❤️🩹 Commenting on social media is teaching me to let go of opinions, especially on popular accounts.
Yakuza 0 - Koi No Disco Queen on HARD, 6000+ Score
Wrong youtuber bud
It takes a lot of emotional regulation to handle a public world on VRChat.
Ok😊
I Heald my my anger, sadness for so long that I don't know how to release them anymore
as a good few people know, it’s always *horrifying* when the constantly calm one gets angry
Can u do disorganised attachment style for ur next video