Better Late Than Never? | Britain's Oldest Mums and Dads (Parenting Documentary) | Real Stories |
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- A fascinating documentary questioning whether having a baby later in life is a carefully thought out decision to have a much-wanted child or a selfish desire to reproduce.
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My Mom had me when she was 45 and I remember how all the kids used to say that I lived with my grandparents but I was happy to remind them that they were my parents. Now I'm 55 and my mom is 97. She has been such a wonderful mom... I could not have asked for a sweeter mother. She has been my rock and bestfriend. :)
That’s amazing! You’re very blessed to still have your mother around at 55! Hope you two stay healthy and live an abundant life. ☺️
@@cuhziah Thank you.. She is an amazing Mom! and my best Friend! :)
Mashallah may u n ur mother live longer❤️❤️
@@shirleynoel952 Beautiful story ❤😊
Do you mean she had you at 42? Otherwise your mum would be 100
That broke my heart when the little girl said “I have to be independent incase my mum and dad die” I’m 33 and an only child, my parents are only mid 50s but the thought of losing them terrifies me. She is so strong and mature for her young age ❤️
My father died at the age of 52. I was ten years old and an only child. I'm now 35 and I have been a caregiver to my 76 year old mother since my twenties. I had the same mindset as the girl and it was stressful. I was an adult child.
If you think about it its not age its if they are good parents to children,how many children are in care through parents been hooked on drugs or drink,if theyre good parents it shouldnt matter but im 57 and no way would i have ever had child ove r 40 never mind 50,i had mine at 20 and i felt it was to young id rather have been 30,as long as these children are well loved and cared for its up to the parents xx
P. Taylor All I have is my mom and my husband. I understand how bleak the future may seem because if I want to visit family, I go to a cemetery. I don't want to keep being negative. I have made a family of my own with my husband, his family and friends and their families. I hope this brings some comfort. 😓
why does your heart break? it's a positive thing to be independent. if I had a daughter I'd be embarrassed if she didn't strive to be autonomous. i'm closer to 30 than to 20 and I was telling an acquaintance of mine (my age) about some financial problem I was having and my acquaintance said "If not, just ask your parents to pay for it."
???? what kind of answer is that? it doesn't solve the problem and my parents didn't work and save their whole life to pay for any hiccup in my life
Francesca huawei it breaks my heart because no child of that age should have to think about how they will cope once their parents have died. Anybody with an ounce of compassion would feel the same. Of course it’s positive to be independent I didn’t suggest otherwise but the child is missing out on childhood
That lady at the end that was a Foster Carer and decided to adopt is an absolute Angel to say the least. What a wonderful lady.
Seeing Faye sit on her couch all alone eating dinner with her cat absolutely broke my heart for her. What a douche bag that guy was for leaving her.
Very immature of him
Believe me when I tell you that there's much worse things than sitting home alone with your cats eating dinner
@@catherinehazur7336 yes.......i was severely abused 2 men in a row........when the second one became abusive i was so devastated because i believed i was to blame................im very happy with my 2 cats........i eat alone almost every meal..........i have peace though..........and better health now that im not stressed........
She is better off without the loser
@@lynnjackson8367May God continue to bless you. Sorry you experienced such hurt.
My parents adopted me when they were in their 40's. Both died at 79. I was 27 when my dad died and 37 when my mom died. Their age was never an issue. I do remember when I graduated from college my dad was ill...but they never let me down. Love truly conquers all.
Tucker,Fearn and Bentley’s Angel Forever - excuse me? Adoption is a beautiful thing and they were her parents as much as any other biological parent.
Tucker,Fearn and Bentley’s Angel Forever - they raised her, they bathed her, they fed her, they took care of her and they loved her. They were parents. What makes you think they weren’t? Other than not being biological? I genuinely want to know.
Tucker,Fearn and Bentley’s Angel Forever - they did not “steal” her from her biological parents, she was either given up for adoption, was in an abusive home, or they died. Just because it isn’t biological it doesn’t make you any less of a parent. My sister had to go through ivf and her husband isn’t the biological father of their son, but he is still as much of a parent as her.
Tucker,Fearn and Bentley’s Angel Forever you clearly must have abandoned your own children and now discredit people that are truly parents, even though there is no biological connection. Animals like rats reproduce. We are intelligent beings that love beyond genetic connections!
Lala lalala - I’m not denying that biologically they are her parents, but if someone was raped and got pregnant from it and didn’t want the man who raped them involved, would you still say he was a parent?
My identical twin sister and I were placed into foster care at the age of 8 days. Our foster mother was 47 at the time. We could have never asked for a more loving mother. She was our mother until she passed away when we were almost 39. Most of our friends thought that she was our grandmother, but that didn't matter. Our biological mother and father passed away before we turned 3.
Beautiful love is all we need and you both got it
My dad died young at 54 when I was 25. I always imagined him growing old, retiring and being a grandad to my kids... things don’t always work out the way you hope they will. All that matters is the kids are loved and cared for.
Don't think it matters my mum had me when she was 20 and died at 59 :-(
My dad died at age 47, I was 18, and like you I imagined he would be around for a very long time. Me and my brother never really got over it, and felt he'd been cheated out of never seeing his grandchildren. My mother was 44 when he died; she married twice after he'd passed away, but she could never replace him.
My mum was 29 when she died and I was 11. I'm 34 now so literally have grown up without her.
@@kristystephens4892aww that’s so sad hugs I’m so sorry 😢💔
Hi lovely, awww i understand my mum died at 54 also, i was so lucky she got to hold my son before she went, ❤🕊️♥️
My grandma had her last daughter, my aunt, 5 years AFTER I was born, she was 45. She passed away at age 95, her baby daughter was already 50. My dad died when he was only 56, age means nothing, love means everything, something we can see in this documentary, all those children look happy and well loved.
age no guarantee with age .you might have a baby at 50 and die 95. or you might have a baby at 20 and die at 25 or 30 from accident or sudden illness
Did ur grandma conceive ur aunt naturally or like ivf or fertility treatment if u don’t mind me asking ?
"Age means nothing, LOVE means everything!" I like that you've said that! ☺ #SOTrue
Tooooo risky & total stupidity for both the Dr. & Elderly women
@@MelaMD It was a completely natural conception, actually my grandma's menopause started after she was 50, so was my mom's.
I feel so bad for the woman whose doctor insisted she was too menopausal to need birth control, refused her, and she fell pregnant. I'm child-free so it's very different emotionally for me compared to her, but if that happened to me I'd take legal action against that doctor. Pregnancy is not something you gamble with; not at sixteen, not at forty-six.
keyholes I
Having a child is such a massive thing. I really think that doctor was way out of line.
keyholes I thought the same thing. I would have taken immediate legal action
I agree.
I'm sure he should be liable to be sued for that but I bet he would say he didnt say it to cover him self smh
I had my 5th and last child at 46. She was conceived naturally: I am not at all a fan of IVF or surrogacy. She was born at home with a midwife. 6 hour labor full term at 8 lb 1 oz. Now a beautiful kind and smart BSN nurse of 32 with three lovely daughters of her own. Contrary to what the medical doomsayers would tell you, having a baby late in life is NOT a catastrophic scenario!
There is big difference between a 46 year old who has conceived naturally and a woman in her 50s having IVF.
Amen I think they are a blessings. Gives you a chance to enjoy them, don’t be so hard on them, and don’t sweat over the small stuff ❤️ I had my now 21 yer old son when I was 43 love him to pieces, naturally no ivf
@@mrshadenoughofallthis911 to be truthful, I would never have had IVF even if I had been unable to conceive at that age. I don't like that technology at all for many reasons. A woman having a baby with IVF at 60 or 70 like they sometimes do including also needing considerable hormonal support in order to maintain the pregnancy plus all the other interventions that the infertility doctors deem so necessary
is just crazy.
@@catherinehazur7336 I agree.
Actually , it is catatrophic in Europe but in Canada .. you can be till 51 and no one has an issue .
One thing is clear, to me. It is not for us to judge these parents. They seem better and more competent than alot of younger parents. Children need love, they have that covered.
No son padres, sino, viejos egoístas. Qué adopten a un niño. No compren óvulos.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if every child in the world was wanted and loved as much as these children are. I think older parents have a lot to offer children
True I think it's because they no longer have so many responsibilities.
So strange watching this, my mum had me when she was 44 (i’m the youngest of 4), I’m now 20 and she’s 64 and I’ve never really thought of her as an older mum, she’s always just been mum!
Wagwan It’s Bonbon mine was 39
I love your story ❤️
Your Moms were still young enough. Mid 50's is pushing it.
Same. My mum was 42 when I was born. I never thought of her as ‘older’. People thought that my older sister, who is 16 years older than me, was my mother though..
Thank you for saying that 💓
That lady she's 52 with twins, my goodness, shes very busy. Hats off for her. Well done
My oldest two lost their dad when they were 5 and 3. You can lose your parents at any age. I remarried and had two more children. Their dad cheated and married his co-worker. Anything can happen to families. My 3rd husband and I have been married for 17 years. We never had a child of our own. He raised mine and was the best father. Blood doesn't always mean better either.
Amen! Very well said!
I always used to say this but didn't believe it could ever come true. Thank you for sharing this. Hope has gone dark these days.
Takes a real man to raise someone else’s child he’s a keeper for sure much love 💕
Exactly!
Amazing how someone can get 3 men to marry them. Most people struggle to find one man who wants to marry them lol. What's ur secret? Lol
I turn 44 in 5 days and am 31 weeks pregnant with my 4th. Feeling better than I did with my first 3 pregnancies that were all in my 20s. GOD IS GOOD
Congratulations!
Almost in tears watching the 58 year old woman with the foster children. Such a big heart of compassion.
It's not much different from us grandparents that end up raising their beautiful grandchildren
Watching April 2024. I'd love an update of the foster/adopted family, what an amazingly positive lady. x
Absolutely adored the foster mom that adopted her children. She has such a big heart. She is giving her children a great childhood & raising such kind kids.
I also liked baby Harry's dad. Listening to him talk about his son is so precious!! I pray they have been able to marry & get a house together. They are a sweet couple.
Wow that lady who adopted the children with special needs is an angel,the little girl's a miracle
staffy girl She truly is an angel! I believe that girl is living as long as she’s living because of the love of that woman. ❤️
@Tucker,Fearn and Bentley’s Angel Forever why do you think that? she saved 3 children from being split up and took a heavily disabled baby nobody wanted. Are you mad? She is a hero
@@ICHOOSERIGHTEOUSNESS absolutely. Such a kind soul.
I'm 42 and I gave birth to my first child on my first pregnancy. I didn't do ivf. It's my miricle! He's a blessing. My husband's 48.
And what is your point?
My grandparents had their first in their forties...only "modern doctors" give us triuble
My friend had her one and only at 42 and her husband was 38
@@amandapanda7878figure it out, Amanda.....
@@amandapanda7878 you seem slow
I'm 42 and I'm a new Mommy. I'm able to be a much better mother now in all aspects than when I was younger. I love being a new Mom in my 40's
42 is not old these days,
Happy for you!! Enjoy your new chapter of motherhood!
41 trying to conceive.Was busy with studies in my 20s and 30s and decide to settle down in my 40s.Now that I did I was told that I have cyst in my ovaries and fibroid in my uterus.Lord please give me my baby,at least one is ok with me
@@daintyflygirl4va just have faith. I know you’ll have a baby one day! God bless
I am 38 years old and I’m 27 weeks pregnant. I am more responsible and financially stable now than I was when I was in my 20’s. I am very happy with my choice to wait. My daughter is going to have a patient and wise Mother.
The lady who adopted 4 special needs kids amazing!
Mieko421 I love her
Jane has the biggest heart for taking those 4 kids. Truly amazing.
Seriously love her.
She is an amazing woman
What lucky children that they have you to be their mum.
My heart goes out to Faye. It's hard to raise a child on your own. Kudos to her for carrying on- especially when Paul is in another relationship while she was pregnant. Talk about hitting you at your most vulnerable... so happy she has her son, though. She'll be a great Mom.
That was so unbelievable. He isnt being fair to her or his new lady. So selfish!
But she’s probably better off than with what appears to be quite a selfish person.
I have a few choice adjectives for Paul. But you tube asks us to be respectful...
I don’t understand this… people just have a kid together and they decide to break up..
and the child is just condemned to poverty and loneliness… and no one pays the price..
Other than in cases of domestic abuse, I think divorce with children should be illegal and adulterers should be fined for putting their family’s stability and their kid’s mental health at risk.
I know I sound old-fashioned, but that’s me.
@@D-me-dream-smp and she still had a kid with him. That’s what I never get.
I think my grandfather fathered 13 children over 5 decades and was in his 70s when he fathered his last child. He lived to be 92 and outlived both of his wives, the second one being about 40 years younger than him. He was very active and healthy in his 80s, slowed down in his 90s, and died of cancer at 92. He was a wonderful man.
I’ve always felt that having children when you’re over a certain age is wrong, but reading everyone’s comments has made me see things differently. Thank you all for sharing and helping me see things differently.
My dad died young. You never know how long your life will be. Love is all that matters, no matter how long you have it.
My dad died at 48 of a massive heart attack, he had high cholesterol and i grew up being told its hereditary.
Im 33 now so dont know how long I have left.
@Kelly Day my friend lost her mum when we were 17 and another friend died at 34 & left 4 kids behind... It's true, tomorrow is promised to no one but being a dad in your 70s is a bit much...
@Kelly Day thank you sweetie, all the best xx
Both of my parents died young, and I still think it’s selfish. They’re just banking on having average luck when it’s not guaranteed to anyone.
My dad died in early 30s and all my grandparents died before I reached adulthood. My parents had me at 17/18. Peoples die at all ages but as older we get chances to die increases. What is going to happen when those old parents get sick or die? Are their young kids aka bad choices will become burden for their older already grown up kids? Because of huge age gap old parents won't have anything common with their children and not enough energy to spend quality time together. It's selfish.
Jane is an angel for taking in all those kids no one else wanted.
Mary Rachelle C she’s amazing
You can see how much she loves them
Totally agree!
lol wtfu she gets Paid for them ..
@@BEAUTYnIQ nope. She adopted them, so she wasn't getting paid at this point.
I have the upmost respect for the foster carer. She is a lovely lady and has the patience of a saint. She is such a great woman and deserves a reward for all her hard work ❤
I'm 60 and my grandmother had two healthy sons at 45 and 47, she and her children were happy.🌹
Hello friend..How are you doing today hopefully everything is fine with you and your family?
Did she lived many years after this
The lady who adopted the boys and sweet little girl is an amazing wonderful woman. May you all continue to have a truly great life together. God bless you all 💕💕💕💕💕
beautiful, they lost the little girl at 14, but second oldest in country
My aunt had a hard time finding the right bloke for her and when she finally found him and they had my cousin, she was in her early 40’ies. I’m really close with my aunt and having her son is one of the best things to ever happen to her. And he’s a wonderful bright boy.
I'm not as old as these parents, but I had my only child at 37. I'm 42 now. It's definatly hard work being an older parent. Kudos to these parents for having the energy.
Yes l had four, my last one was at 36 l was statistically "a geriatric mother" at that age, l was shattered 😆 and knew l was done. I couldn't imagine being any older. Bless their energy, wish l had it.
@@irishcountrygirl78 really? I had my 3 at 33. I felt no different having my 4th at 44. I had 3 teenagers who were way more difficult than the baby! He has been a true joy. I do things with him because I want to and because I need to. I will never let him see me as tired or weak. Thankfully, being active has never been a problem. At 16, he has a 60 year old mom who teaches him how to drive, helps him with volleyball drills and never misses a thing that he does. I think a lot of it is your frame of mind. He needs me so I MUST give him my best.
My Mum had me when she was 40 and I remember kids asking me if she was my grandma! Sadly she died at the age of 48 so I had very little time with her but even in that 8 years she instilled some fantastic morals and values in me that I have carried with me throughout my life. I am now 47 and I cannot imagine having a 7 year old!
40 is not old to be a mother
Who took care of you after your mother died, if you don't mind me asking?
@@victoriac286 Hello friend..How are you doing today hopefully everything is fine with you and your family?
Sorry to hear your mom passed whilst you were so young 🌸
My mum is 47 and has a 7 year old. Are you senile already because she has no issues with raising us
The mom (Shirley) is an amazing mom, taking care of twins, her grandson, and visiting her father... pretty impressive!
A supermom!!
Good luck to all older parents out there. You deserve the gift of children no matter how older you are. Love to you allxxx
My husband died at 39, when our sons were 3 and 6. We did "everything right" and yet we all suffered this terrible blow. Life has no guarantees. My Grandad had two more sons at 5 7 and 59, after he remarried after the death of his first wife and a remarriage with a woman 22 years younger. He lived until 93.... when both of his sons were married with children of their own. (Also my new "Grandma" took fantastic care of my grandfather when he came down with Alzheimers.) I applaud these people who pursue their dreams!
❤
Yep part of maturing is learning what in life you can and can’t control and learning how to make the best of what you have and focus on the positives.
The 52 year old lady with twins is truly a dynamo. Making the most of her life, way to go!
A naturally conceived healthy baby at 46….what a blessing.
That kid that wanted the video games...He would get nothing if he spoke like that to me! That smartass attitude isn't going to serve him well when he gets older.
Lauren Jones agreed, he was so rude to his parents
Tipical grand parents behavior that they let him go along thats why people that age shoudnt start having kids
He is in his 20s now...
My Mother would had clipped me round the ear if I spoke to her like that. Not even a please or thank you just disgusting.
my mum would have floored me
It amazes me that she was told no to contraception at 45 and instinctively she knew it was possible. Darin seems fine with it and that's great but I marvel at the audacity of doctor's at times.
She was a nurse she should have known tbh
Harry is a little Cutie.
@@racheldemain1940 thank you very much 😂. Harry here 16 years later, my father (Dave) passed away when I was 6. My mother is still doing well🔥👍
My mum had my youngest sister at 42 accidentally. She got tested recently and she was told that she was still quite fertile 💀 My family has a history of late menopause so
@@emilywright3454She wasn’t a nurse she was a nurses assistant.
My mom had me at 43 and my dad was 33 (2 years younger than I am now).
My mom is still going strong at almost 79 and my dad unfortunately passed away of a heart attack when he was 58 and I was 25 🤷🏻♀️
Are you an only child? I'm 39 and pregnant with my first. I feel and look Young for my age and i hope my child won't be ashamed because i'm an older mother.
The foster mum who adopted those kids has the biggest heart, made me cry, she is an angel in the true sense of the word.
I’m 27 weeks pregnant with my first at 39 and feel so relaxed, in a good relationship and have a lot more money than in 20s. Feel like this is best time for me to have the baby.
Good for you, that's a nice age to have a kid...
Congratulations! Hope uve had ur baby now, and that 2020 is ur year!
I'm happy for you,
Congratulations! My mom had me at 39 as well
I am 38 years old and am currently 27 weeks pregnant. I had no business having a baby in my 20’s. I was irresponsible and very poor, lol. I now am responsible and wiser. I make great money and I have matured greatly. My daughter will have the best version of me as a Mom.
My great grandmother had my grandmother at 46 and my grandmother lived to be 102...my great grandmother lived well into her 90's
Awesome family tree you have
So nice
I bet your grandmother did had a much healthier lifestyle and not having overweight like the people in this video. Even their children doesn't look healthy.
Age is just s number, if your healthy it doesn't mathet you're an older parent!!!!!!
@@casvastenburg6274 I disagree, it is a fact that my older sister can enjoy my mothers life 10 years more than I can do, that is a lot!
I gave birth to my youngest/3rd child when I was almost 45 years old and my husband was 49 yr old. I'm now 78 and my husband is now 82 .
All are children are doctors, doing good, have their own houses and living independent
Loving parents is THE most important thing for a child.
The one lady says "When he is 20, I'll be 66 and that's ancient"! Lol, I am 61 and still do the things I did when I was 20 , like hiking, camping (in a tent), gardening etc. It's only your attitude, genetics and how you take care of your body!
I'm 20 and my mom is 66. All is good.
E Louise I think she said that it ISN’T ancient, so she was trying to be positive.
My mum is 61 and doesn't even look it- she looks more like she's 45. People are absolutely shocked when she tells them her age.
@abc123 maybe you should read and try to comprehend before commenting. She said nothing about a newborn at 61, she referring to having a 20 year old in her 60's
Getting pregnant,31 hrs. in labor & a natural birth. Go on Deryn!!! She did that!!!
Lala lalala Maternal death due to Complications used to be common too. Now it is rare because Doctors intervene
My Dad passed when I was 17 he was 35. You never know when your time is up. I was 42 when our adopted daughter was born. She's the love of our lives and keeps us young and energetic keeping up with her.
“To seal the marriage” adding that one to the list of terrible reasons to have a child.
Age doesn’t mean you will live a long time. My mother died at 37 when I was 17.
Generally it does, most people die of old age than anything else.
I agree, I lost mine when I was 12... accidents happen all the time... generally you think you will this normal life and then LIFE happens. So if you can afford to have a kid and you have the patience,time, and LOVE then 👍🏾
My mom died from lung cancer at 49.
So sorry to learn that ......
It's not certain but very probable. I'm sorry for your loss.
It´s not about age, it`s about love. My husband died at an age of 41 when our son was nearly 3. Now he is 11 and I think I´m doing well without my husband, but I miss him beeing there for my son.
My lovely friend how are you doing please can I know more about this if you don't mind ❤️❤️💜💓
Bless you. X
I had my last child at 44. I was in shock and denial the entire pregnancy and wished it would go away. I knew I would love him like the others once he arrived. My husband told me that God had a plan. I thought it was a bad joke. Well, my pregnancy was easy and my beautiful baby boy was born. He has been the greatest joy of my life. His siblings adore him. It turned out that God did have a plan. 2 years ago, my oldest son married and walked away from our family. My little son is just like his oldest brother. God sent him to me to us to help us through the heartbreak of losing our oldest son.
My youngest son has been my companion for the past 16 years. He and I have traveled all over the world. I am blessed to feel healthy and look younger than many moms younger than I am. My son has been a gift from God and I am grateful for him every day.
Why do you see your child marrying as a heartbreak? Shouldn't you be happy that he's married and happy? I'm sure he still keeps in touch and visits.
Think she means he stopped caring for them
I had 3 boys at age 26, 39 and 43 all were natural no IVF. The last 2 were a promise to me given by the Lord. Conceiving them at 39 and 42 were miracles. Love them SO much. Age is just a number. Love is EVERYTHING and late babies run in our family. My dad was born to my Gramma when she was 43 as well and my mom’s mother had my uncle when she was 43 as well. I wasn’t ready I guess for the last 2 until They was older. God is absolutely Good
Amen God Bless you
Vous voulez dire 26, 29 ans vos enfants
The single woman with the special needs children - God bless her! That is SO beautiful! What a heart she has! I wish I could see an update on these families :)
I know!I was smiling the whole time she was talking about how fantastic life was with them and how grateful she was she really cheered me up knowing the world has such loving people in it ❤️
She is such a pure soul ❤️
She has the most soothing, calming voice. A lovely mum! 🥰
I would love to see a follow up documentary of all the families and children.❤️👆🏼
Me too!
I was half-expecting some troll comments saying “Can’t. They’ll all be dead by now...” 😪
@@cocobrowny you did it for them lol Lol 😂
Hello. I'm harry Jones (harry Charles Paramore Jones son of Dave and Deryn) I'm 16 years old now. My father past away in 2012, my mother is still doing well. Just thought I'd look back at this 16 years later aha
Me too.
My Dad was 55 when I was born, I am 39 and he is 96 in a few weeks. At school most of my friends parents were in their late 30's or early 40's, mine was approaching 70. Now he might be exceptional in that, until the age of around 85, he was regularly walking 4 miles to "take a look around the shops", but age eventually catches us all and in his mid-late 80's he had two heart attacks and had a pacemaker fitted, as well as the plethora of drugs that accompany chronic heart failure sufferers. So what were the bonuses of having a very old father?
By the time I was born he was getting ready to retire. First he was chief engineer on a navy vessel, later he was an engineering consultant for local government. In short, he had earned enough to retire early having already bought a house and saved lots of money. Second, he knew everything. He had the experience of a grandfather while being able to offer this firsthand as a father, every day. I learned from him how to be calm, mature and thoughtful. I never saw him lose his temper, EVER. He never got afraid of anything, nothing was a problem, everything could be solved ... calmly.
What were the negatives of having an old father? For me, very little. When I was 10 (so he was in his late 60's) we went on vacation to Bulgaria and we would walk miles and miles a day exploring rivers and hills. He carried my pack because I wasn't strong enough. So physically, being lucky to be so fit and healthy for his age, our childhood didn't suffer. I did think from time to time, especially in my mid teens, that realistically my Dad is apporaching the average age of death for a man and what on earth would I do if he died? I dealt with those thoughts, and by my 20's I'd already accepted that I'd had such an amazing Dad compared to almost everyone I know, it wouldn't matter anymore if he passed - I'd already won. Now I have children of my own and one possible downfall of an older parent might be that they may not be around to enjoy, meet and pass knowledge onto the grandchildren.
At 39 I would have no regrets in starting a new family if I met a decent woman. I'm in no rush to, it rarely even crosses my mind, I already have kids and work ... got a full life. There might be a point though, and I would think it would be in my late 40's, that I'd probably reconsider that idea. Theres no accurate way to predict lifespan, and I'd hate to leave my kids before they were ready to take care of themselves.
Wow what a wonderful story and you highlight that there are bonuses to most situations plus it sounds like you had an amazing father.
Thank you.. Every situation has its positive and negative aspects
That lady with the three adopted sons and little Annie is such a hero. What a remarkable and inspiring woman! Hope in humanity restored
my mom was 49 when she had me and my sister and my dad was 64 and we had the best childhood ever... people would often think they were my grandparents, which bothered me because not everyone was able to have kids early on.. people should be more respectful when assuming the age of ones parents
It's not other people's fault your parents were mistaken as grandparents! What age & shape are your elderly parents in now?
84 when you were 20! :O
Are your parents still alive?!?
My parents had me completely naturally when they were both in their forties. No worries of downs syndrome, & they were right because I was fine. But maybe there was some embarrassment. But with maturity, I'm in my fifties & sure doctors want to sell eggs or whatever & they may tell older women not to or that they can't have children, but nature is more real, lol if people just wouldn't fight it all the time!
@KelMWright that too. My parents had four older (whole) siblings each. My parents were busy with studying, soldiering, work & the rest of life & being just wonderful at aunting & uncling & finally the Universe said I should come of them. Who are the sillies who want to say children should not be - that are born of older parents? If these appointed sillies are authorities, they may not be as good as one likes to imagine. I don't claim to know.
Why would you leave your partner after they conceive? Especially after 24 years...
Darci Stewart He is not okay with her donor egg as it won't be her biological baby.
Right? And he`s completely shameless about it. "oh you`re having trouble coping? Try being pregnant, jerk. I don`t get to take a break when things are uncomfortable"
Yeah what a jerk!
& Mid life crisis.
R b didn’t he know that from the previous failed cycles of IVF tho??
I'm a 45, almost 46, year old woman who had to FIGHT to have a simple blood test confirming that I was full on menopausal when I was 90% sure. The fact that Daryn's doc said don't worry, you're in menopause is mind blowing.
I naturally got pregnant @ 45 years old had her & now I’m 55 & she’s 10 years old. My daughter & I were pregnant at the same time. Our babies were 3 months apart.I couldn’t imagine my life without her . So don’t let your age be a factor in having a child you are more patient & you have more time too .
Just checking you didn't mean your 10 year old was pregnant? I assume you had another daughter who was older?
@@TheStarsAlly I was confused about this too
@@TheStarsAlly tbe lady said her baby is now 10 yrs old not her daughter who was pregnant
my toddler 2 years old i was 45 when i had him, love has no age, you can be a mum at any age i have no regrets
How come every body gushes and falls over celebrities having kids as older parents ; janet jackson, Simon Cowel, J Lo but ordinary folks are frowned upon and called selfish.
Like seriouly?!!
Im 41 and yep already planning my first
so agree and wish you all the best
Rutendo Madziwa good for you. I had kids young and then older, I was so busy as a young woman, loved my kids but had to help make ends meet. So, I have enjoyed my younger children so much and would have them all older if I was to do it again.
Agreed
When celebrities die they leave millions behind which means their children won't need to struggle to start life. Celebrities can afford better medical care and won't die as fast as ordinary person. If they die young it's usually consequences of bad habits, drugs, alcohol, suicide.
As a Zimbabwean that's wierd do you reside out the country. Back at home it's quite rare.
Jane with the special needs children really reaffirms in me that there are still beautiful people out there. She is absolutely wonderful with the children and they, in turn, are truly blessed to have her. There was something distinctly calming about her demeanor and saintly about her soul. May God bless her and the children until he calls them home.
I’m 43 . I married a man that had kids. We tried 1 round of fertility pills . I gave up .To much stuff going on now all 3 kids are grown. And now I feel like we can actually give it a honest go now. . Watching all of these couples. Give me hope .
Good luck Pam - you are young compared to a lot of these women❤
@@poppyfield1619 thank you 😊
I'm pretty sure, you'll go pregnant,when you don't fokus too much. Just have a lot of love and fun. Not stress. Letting go is the key. Every of my clients who are chilled and lightmindet getting pregnant. Good luck my dear, soon to be mommy :)
@@PamReviews same here pam.... I am a 43 year old woman living in the Netherlands. I had 3 ICSI treatments in the Netherlands, including 1 miscarriage. i went to uz gent and after much research they found out that my boyfriend's sperm quality was not good because he had been sterilized for 15 years. because I am 43 years old, they stop all treatments in the Netherlands because of age. i have no menstrual problems and this year i went to greece 2 times for overian rejuvenation treatment. my egg supply is still good. and i have a normal 28 day cycle. in the Netherlands they only work with non-anonymous sperm donation. by law here all donors must be verified. i contacted european sperm bank and they deliver sperm all over the world. Im broken trying 4 years intense...no luck...5 donor straws are used for iui...no luck...only 1 straw left...im praying....dont want egdonor...
@@jasybrigde4136 I'll be praying for you. ❤️
I very deliberately married and had children with an older man hoping/thinking he'd be mature enough to be a decent father. He was 48 with our first and 50 with our second. Best decision I ever made... they're now ages 29 and 31... and we're still kickin!
My parents are older parents. They get mistaken for my grandparents all the time. I'll be turning 33 this year and my younger brother just turned 31. Our parents are: dad - 83 and mom - 72. Honestly it never really occurred to me that our parents were any different to other parents until I was in high school. Our dad still played sports with us and our mom was always carting us around to school and extra curricular activities, and they never seem to get overly tired of it.
It does get a bit complicated when trying to explain our relationship with our older half siblings and nieces and nephews. It's kind of a long winded story. lol. Also people get confused when I tell them that not only have I been an aunt since I was 7 months, but I also became a great-aunt at 29 years. I just like to think of our family as very unique. :)
Sounds like my family. My dad is 78 and had kids with 3 different women. So I have several older half siblings and a younger brother (full sibling). I have a niece that's a couple months older than me, and 4.5 years older than my brother. Lol
... a very common Indian family, though
We had uncle and niece in my class :) They were born few months apart.
About a month ago I was watching a 12 year old girl playing with two toddlers. One of them was her niece and the other one was her aunt. I spent a lot of time watching them and thinking... trying to figure out what the future will hold for them. I am sure that they will have very interesting conversations one day :)
lol! I was an aunt at 3 months and will be a great aunt in august ✨
I absolutely ADORE the Mom taking care of the special needs children. My son is now six years old, he has severe autism, a cognitive learning delay & is non verbal, it can be rough at times but the most joy I've ever experienced in my life taking care of him & loving him.
I have sooooo much respect for her.
I've just watched Faye and what an a*** of a man who does that she's pregnant after trying for so long and then he sits there and crys. What a very strong woman to go through that while he starts another relationship. All the best Faye 🥰
My son was born when I was 48. It was my easiest pregnancy, I worked until the day I delivered. He is six now and I feel healthy, strong, happy. I am in better shape and in better health than I ever have been. I think that many women are not aging like women use to 50 or 20 years ago. Many of us are taking better care of ourselves and not buying into the idea that aging should slow you down. I feel really bad for Faye. It is pretty obvious her husband was on his way out, She is only half way through her pregnancy and he is already in another relationship. I am glad she is getting her baby, it sounds like it wasn't his plan but that shouldn't mean that she should be left alone without a child.
Thanks your comment is encouraging. I am 44 and all i keep hearing from the Doctors is how hard it is for me to conceive...i so desire to have a little one
@@joyceiilah232 I'm praying God blesses you with a child! 🙏🏻❣️✝️🚼
@Lala lalala thank you for your kind words
That is amazing. Did you conceive naturally? If so what did you do???
Was it a natural conception?im 48 and still trying i guess
The farmer Dave is such a good father and considerate partner.
He passed away unfortunately. I looked up Deryn and Dave and found his obituary
@@tiffanyr8990 Yep. ☹
@@tiffanyr8990 harry here. You are correct. My father passed away in 2012, my mother is still well and so am I. Thank you very much
@@hazboss9992 He was a great guy, I love how much he loves you and your mum. He seemed like he was amazing. I hope your sisters are well too
If I'd have spoken to my parents like Robert, I'd have got whooped
Amen. He seemed very rude and disrespectful to his mom. I would never have been allowed to speak to my parents like that. He walks all over his mom
Cindy Semblante ya know I envy the kids who do that because they probably have the happiest childhoods.
He is ruined
I wish they would do an update story on all these families, the babies, etc and see where they are now- with a portion of a new bunch of people. That be awesome.
The 84 year old dad is so sad. Their son won’t be able to take care of himself even after 18 because he’s so spoiled. Recipe for disaster!!
He got no manner toward his parents, if my kids like that I would slap them...it also the parents' fault to spoil their child 2 much.
I feel sympathy for the boy. His mother looks terribly old. Where are some friends for him.
That has nothing to do with age imo. Almost all children these days are spoiled rotten.
@@dianacipollone4560 She sounds like she has other issues, too :/
@@mollynguyen834 Don't slap your kids.
My father was 42 when I was born. He was the oldest parent and I was asked if he's my grandpa when I went to school.
Also, why do all the parents look that old??? They look 10-15 years older than they realy are!???
Carolin Eickhoff 42 would be pretty young to be a grandparent!
damn my dad was 45 when i was born and my and my younger sister of 5 years were never once “grandfather”ed
My lovely friend how are you doing please can I know more about this if you don't mind ❤️❤️💜💓
Jane is remarkable! To give a loving home to four children with special needs is amazing and she hasn't a partner to help either - there are so many children needing a family and to take on four that need so much care is admirable.
I adopted a 3 yr. old at 47. Her adult siblings have always said that I treat her more like a grandchild than a child. I've been more relaxed and confident with her. I encourage adoption of older children by older parents, but I wouldn't have wanted to be pregnant at 47.
Early.forties.ok fifties not ok..sixties wrong.
@@peterlawrence6815 Agree - so unfair to the child. Sorry, but Pauline & husband are NOT young looking parents - & listening to her comments, she sound so juvenile, it is pathetic.🤦🏽 I feel sorry for that poor girl.
So, the couple around the 25:00 minute mark... they were together for ten years, trying to get pregnant. Had a failed IVF attempt. Then, had a successful one, she gets pregnant, and it's THEN that he leaves her??! What??!!! Seems like he should have better thought things through before they did IVF.
Daisy watch it again.
He wanted to try it once, it failed, that clearly really hurt him(he starts crying). He didnt want to try again. She went ahead with the second without considering his feelings and got pregnant. He left.
How is it his fault? If anyone is to blame for her situation its her. He didnt want to go again, maybe they would still be together if she was a little more considerate of her partner and not only thinking of what she wants.
Seems like she should have thought through the SECOND ivf treatment rather than being selfish.
The other half is that, it's not her kid biologically. She's at an age where here own eggs are no longer released as she has none. Men want kids with a woman they know. Donor eggs although an option isn't the same as your own flesh and blood.
You can still have eggs at that age, or ridiculously younger, just need viable eggs and sperm to fertiliz.
and it's her body, both of their situations are difficult, but leaving her could put undue stress on her, and if your gonna leave, leave. You're either in or out, make up your mind, but you matter a lot less when children become the priority.
sw33tnycandy She did still have eggs. She was advised to use donor eggs because they would be from a younger woman.
am I the only one that had no sympathy for Paul? What's your problem, bud? She's the pregnant one and it's all about his feeling and his journey. Get on board or get out and pipe down, Paul.
No you're not
Amen!
Paul is an idiot!
Is that fays baby dad? He's a wanker mate
Leah McCormick Amen!
53:30 Jane is this only 'older mom's who's completely in it for the children whereas the other old parents want it for themselves.
Jane is an absolute SAINT for living this special children. You can see the love and admiration in her face when talking about her children 🥰
She is an amazing Angel on earth.❤❤❤
Any biological parents are in just for themselves? Do you think 20 years old think: oh, I want to have a child because that child for sure wants so bad to be in this world and he will for sure be happy every single second of their life? Pleaaase.... Age has nothing to do with it. The decision to have children, unless it is an adoption or fostering, is always a very selfish one.
Wow Jane is a saint, the world needs more people like her
Oh my goodness, the lady who adopted those additional needs children, what a truly beautiful soul. They said at the end of the programme that it was 2006 and I’m so hoping that these families are doing well and that little Annie is still bringing so much joy 💕💕💕. If you are that wonderful lady reading this I’d really love an update please? 💕
@Tucker,Fearn and Bentley’s Angel Forever what are you on about??? The birth parents gave them up. I couldn't do what she does. She's an angel for those kiddies
@Tucker,Fearn and Bentley’s Angel Forever It says in the documentary that the birth parents gave up all the children. The girl's birth mother left her at the hospital and the boy's parents had other children and couldn't cope. Besides where do you live? They don't do that kinda stuff in the UK. My auntie adopted a little boy when he was 2. His mum was about to be deported and left her baby in the hospital. He is perfectly healthy with no special needs his birth mum didn't want him. So how can you say that is abduction? You clearly have some kind of issues
The lady near the end around the one-hour mark has lovey children and she's a lovely lady. She needed those kids and they needed her.💗
My husband and me tried to have children we did have that kind of money to get help he died,4 years ago we had no kids it's sad I don't have a Life partner at the age of 57
I just don't think about it anymore.... this Lady is Blessed....
Adopt two older siblings
My heart goes out to the parents and the children involved. Even so called “ideal,” situations have their own difficulties. All pregnancies are different, with every child. Many blessings to all.
My grandfather was 72 when he and his second wife had my uncle. My dad was 33 when my grandfather phoned to tell him he was going to have a baby brother or sister. My dad also had an older brother and sister. 45 years between my oldest and my youngest uncle.
Young or old, being a parent is hard work and there are no guarantees. Young moms die, become unexpectedly disabled, and can give birth to a child with birth defects. Just like older moms can be healthier than some younger ones, better prepared financially and have the benefit of life experience. I know a doctor I used to work for that had her first child at 45 and second at 47. The first was natural and the second was IVF. Both pregnancies went well and she and her physician husband couldn't be happier. I consider their children very lucky to have parents who planned to have them and can give them love and security.
It is not the same. Yes, someone in thier 20s has the chance at having a baby with genetic disorders.
But that risk goes up by 1000% by 41 and by 50 years old that risk is almost 5000% higher than someone below 30.
People who "need" to have children later in life are selfish. They are only thinking what they want, not what the life of the child will be like.
Correct, people shouldnt glamorize it, im old now here is no way id want a teenager in the home, its un unatural.
@@musicwelikemang stop playing with the stats. A 39 year old woman has a 1 in 137 chance of having a baby with Downs. That's a 0.7% chance and a 99.3% chance that the baby will be fine... Yes, the risks of chromosomal abnormalities do go up with age but the overall likelihood is that the child will be fine even up until the age of 45...
@@marilynwillett804 did you meet the love of your life at 40 like some of these women did? Surely it's up to them as they'll be raising the kid??
@@musicwelikemang A younger person may be a carrier of terrible genetic diseases and they don't take genetic test to know if they should have children or not. You might have 50% chances of passing on a desease regardless of your age while these people might have 0%.
This is an encouragement.
Believe it or not, I have people already making threats against myself and non existent offspring simply because I've had my 42nd birthday.
My mom had me at 42 and my dad was 51, and it is just awful what people have told me, including one lady has sworn to me that CPS can and will take that baby right out if my arms if I have one because my age is deliberate child abuse.
I have even been told my kid could die and it would be my fault, making that a murder and I need to get my head screwed on to reality.
I have been asked for my doctor's name and I have been told that fertility clinics can be charged for making people I've 35 pregnant and I am to believe the clinics close by are going to be contacted if they take me as a patient.
It hurts a lot to hear this.
I should be happy to talk if dreams of achieving motherhood someday, but people do not lift my spirits at all and they try to work my family against me that I am selfish and I need accept this act of God.
It is not fair, but I do hold on to hope I'll have at least one baby someday, the Lord willing.
17:41 what a rude child! 'I haven't had that for years, so you can shut up!' wow never in my life have I told my mother to 'shut up'. The child reminds me of Augustus Gloop....
Great story, I had my children at 33 and 39. They are my joy
Those ages isnt old ! Haha
Those are the perfect age, my mom had me at 38 I’m 14
Beautiful stories! The lady at the end nailed it when she said "they tell you all the bad bits but they don't tell you that you can have a perfectly normal baby too"...... People panicked when I got pregnant at 38 and needed a 4th c-section. I got talked down to when I became pregnant again at 41 and needed a 5th c-section. I actually had a doctor tell me that he didn't want to do my c-section. I was def the oldest kindergarten mom and I didn't care, my kids didn't care and I'm a great mother :-)
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38 an 41 are quite normal ages for mothers where I am, no one would have batted an eyelid. I had my first at 21 (which is extremely unusual here) and all the mums in my coffee group were old enough to be MY mum! Haha. It sucks to feel like an outlier but mums of any age are great.
I had my fifth child at 44 (fifth C-section also) on 8/9/21 at 34 weeks. My baby is perfectly normal. She'll be 9 months on my birthday may 9th. My other kids are ages 23, 21, 17 and 16.
I am 38 and I’m 27 weeks pregnant. My doctor is so supportive. She sent me to to a specialist because of my age. I wasn’t offended. I feel that I will be a better Mother now than I could have ever been in my 20’s. I am going to be 56 or so when my daughter graduates high school. I don’t care.
@@Kryptongurl84 and why should you care? 38yrs is still so young. Stuff everyone else, they can shove it!
Not sure how many people will see. Harry Jones here. Son of Dave and Deryn, for those asking for an update my mother and I are doing well. However, my father passed away in 2012 just thought I'd give an update on our life👍🔥
Hello, thanks for the update. Sorry too for your loss. What are you up to, work, uni etc.? Stay safe and well 😊
@@lah1667 currently I have just finished my GCSEs. From September I am going onto Sixth form to study my A Levels. If I get the grades I want I'm hoping to be going onto Uni to study Aviation and Airport management.
@@hazboss9992 well done young man. All the best to you. No doubt you've seen a lot of naysayers on this channel criticise having older parents. It would be interesting to see what you think but I guess you might not know until you get a bit older yourself and reflect back on any potential impact...I don't mind it personally because my parents were in their mid 20s when they had me and were emotionally neglectful, one especially so. I don't even speak to them now. Everything in life will have its negative and positive aspects so you just have to deal with the cards you're dealt. You seem like you're doing well for yourself. All the best with your A levels too... Thanks for replying too 😊
@@lah1667 thank you very much. Personally having older parents doesn't bother me. I see it no different to having a younger one, couldn't have asked for a better ones really.
@@hazboss9992 😊👏
Jane's story was by far the best. What an amazing woman. Annie is the sweetest! You can tell she truly loves those kids and gives them a FULL life. She truly did it the right way, theres so many children out there that need a family.
Annie has absolutely BEAUTIFUL eyes! Just gorgeous little girl.
I had a wonderful boy at the age of 25 who has quite severe learning difficulties. It hasn’t been easy with many set backs along the way. If I had him at 25 or 50 it would have made no difference. I also unfortunately lost my my mum 5 years ago when I needed her the most. She was 61. Life is a gift, nobody should take it for granted xx
I had a baby last year and I'm 44. I also have a 24 year old son.
You go girl!
I'm pregnant with my 2nd child, will be 44 having them and I am over the moon...
@@olwynpayne462 brilliant!
Mom had me at 45, you'll be fine.
I'd love to be pregant and I'm 47 with a 24 year old daughter ...
My mom had her last three children at 41 ,43,and46 she was the mist loving and hard working mom in the world. She lived until she was 93 .we all miss her very much. She had eight kids twenty three grandkids and thirty four great grands. She loved them all like they were her only one. We adored her as well as my Dad. My dad worked two full time jobs to provide us with a good life. .we did not want for much.
Lost both parents.. in my 40th single never been married. This is very encouraging to me. When God says Yes. Not even age can stop your child bearing 🙏 congratulations 💃🏽🎉 That's for sharing.
Adopt a couple of siblings
I cringed when I heard her say he’s a good boy and then she said about buying him a pizza on the weekend and he’s response was “you haven’t done that in years so you can shut up” I would have slapped him. I had my daughter when I was 18 ...she’s 15 now and I’m 33 and I have terminal cancer so some of these parents will raise their kids longer then I get to
Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry to hear that... I'm sure your daughter knows you love her very much... Don't underestimate the impact that your love has had on her... ♥️🌷
Lena I'm so happy you had your daughter young. Bleesings to you.
My lovely friend how are you doing please can I know more about this if you don't mind ❤️❤️💜💓
I am pretty open to old age parents (if I ever have a child, I will be one too), but I do not agree with going broke to pay for IVF treatments when you already have a child, at any age but especially if you are older.
But it's not your money or time.....
Becoming an older parent would be OK IF it happens naturally , I’m not OK WITH having to do IVF to have another child. That sounds self centered to me. If it’s just wanting a baby in the house you could do foster care or adoption. But just to have a baby ! , that sounds selfish to me. The medical rules here in the U S are very different. IVF is not allowed later in life to protect both the parents and the children. We are discouraged from having children after age 40 in this country but if it happens naturally, happy baby day ! !
@@gailhandschuh1138 that's crazy to say no to people because of they age and not cool...I don't agree with that
I agree. I don't mind older people being parents. But having one at the expense of Another, that's not fair.
@@denisesander7728 THIS
My parents were older, which at times felt like a drag because they raised me with more old fashioned values. But as I got older I realized how lucky I was. They were born in the 40's and me in the 80's. They were the best parents.
We adopted my baby niece when I was 47 and my husband was 60. My children were mostly grown at ages 18, 20 and 24. Our youngest is now 17 and my husband has passed away. But life has been a blessing for us.