Let me know below: what's YOUR boundary style, or which one do you think you mean more toward? Remember to take the quiz + download the guide for journal prompts to make your way to healthier boundaries: www.terricole.com/what-your-boundary-style-says-about-you-guide
Hey, I've recently started reading Boundary Boss, and giiirl, thank you for writing it! I needed a reminder, a guide, a metaphorical hand hold. I've had way too porous boundaries in my life. I see where it came from, acknowledge and forgive the BS hand me downs. My folks didnt have it easy. I see how I've offered myself up for debate on my own volition as well. Word to the wise, porous boundaries attract some shit people. They're even worse if you flip the script and start implementing boundaries. I too shut my ringer off! I shouldn't find it so validating that you do, but I do lol. After I requested set times around reading, sleeping, meditation had resulted in dbl the incoming calls, that's what I had to do. That's bonkers to me. Recently, I've taken a rockstar hiatus from some, petty, vengeful, cruel, ppl. I need away from the chaos for a minute. Some ppl seem to keep you on your toes, so you can't dig your heels in. My jump start was seeing how resentful I was becoming. I ran into Proverbs "above all else guard your heart. For everything you do flows from it". Ain't that the truth. That was the kick I needed, your books is one of the tools to help make it happen. So again, thank you. Much love.
I took this the other day with your interview with sweet Doctor C. I about fell on the floor when it came back BALANCED!! I was a pushover with no boundaries before I read your book two years ago- I thought it was virtuous not to have them. Anyway, thanks to help from you and your workshops (and Dr C and a few others) self-reflection and dedication to change, I’m balanced! 🎉🎉🎉🎉 I realize it’s ongoing work but it’s so validating to my efforts!
WOOOHOOOO I'm so happy to hear that, Megan!! Way 🙌 to 🙌 go! 🙌 And a great reminder that if you've taken the quiz before, it might be worth taking now to see what has changed!
🤍Enjoying the content of your audio book! The content is a welcome compliment to my "authentic livin' toolkit" and I must say you have such a pleasant voice.
Yes, I am very good at work and family but terrible with boundaries in romantic relationships. Actually I have very little, and I just tend to put up with being starved and deprived of what I need and it's feels normal due to how I grew up but I know I deserve SO much more ❤. Thank you for being here for us.
Thank you so much for what you do. I have been immersing myself into your😅 videos weekly. They are helping me considerably. I also have purchased your Boundary Boss book and workbook. I am trying to make healthier boundaries with my parents. It has helped me see that I do not have to be at my mothers beck and call and that I can and now do say no. It has opened a feeling of less resentment and and feeling a heavy weight lifted. You have also helped me see my narcissistic father in a different light and I do minimal contact. I'm working on how to end a conversation when he starts his I'm right and your wrong statements. It's a work in progress that I wish I had started years ago when I was younger. Keep up the good work! You ARE making a difference!
This makes me so happy to hear, Gwen 💕 I'm so glad you're finding my work and book helpful in your journey. Way to go on making so much progress already!!
Hello Terri Many years ago I was kissing my son goodbye. He was probably five back then, he is thirty two now. I told him, "be good" He gave me a look and replied, " I don't know what being good means" He was implying, "What is being good? behaving according to your criteria?" He taught me a lesson that I will never forget Best regards
Hey, Terri, my wife and I have been listening to your book Boundary Boss. We have been married for 52 years. We needed this back then. We ordered your book and workbook. Thanks.
From porous to balanced, thanks to you and your wonderful book (which I have read twice and refer to often), Terri! Setting limits and sticking to them without feeling guilty is an ongoing work in progress, a daily practice. Meditation and yoga have also helped me immensely... as well as building the self-esteem to even feel that I deserve boundaries. 💖🤩
Thank you Terri! My parents demand I have porous boundaries but I am looking to becoming more rigid especially with them. Trying not to be a parent pleaser anymore even though it’s hard in my current circumstances. I will watch that video with you and Dr. C, I am sure it is absolutely delightful.
Parents can be the hardest folks to set boundaries with because we've been doing the same dance with them for so, so long. Give yourself a lot of grace as you embark on that journey ❤️❤️
I am a YES person and a Reactive One as well. Thank you for the reminder that it can always be my choice and life can feel very differently because of stepping back and giving thought to whether YES is right for me in any given situation. I appreciate your hard work at keeping these videos going. I think it might be time also for me to re-read Boundary Boss and gain new insights to myself. It's alot to take in at one time. 🙂
Thank you Terri!! Always good to go over these, right! I'm rigid.. working on them.. I think knowing I "can" have boundries and what they are, are a huge part of learning to use them. I'm getting there!
I think my answer would be healthy no matter what! Narcissists are what I call boundary destroyers. They bulldoze over boundaries because they only care about their own agenda. You have to protect yourself in those situations. I usually recommend the grey rock method - becoming as boring as possible - and lessening contact as much as you're able to. 💕
Love it !!!! thanks so much for the wonderful reminders. I love it that you don’t have your phone ringer on, people act I’m the only person in the world that does that. Now I know I’m in the best company with that ❤️❤️💕💕
Great video - taking my time to reply, and taking time to process the question is so new to me!! I now do it and try to recognize the triggers I receive from my family. The Boundary Bill of Rights is my life now! Thanks Terri
It shouldn't take long at all! Check your spam folder and if you still can't find it, please email my team at support @ terricole.com (without the spaces) and someone will be able to help you. ❤️
Let me know below: what's YOUR boundary style, or which one do you think you mean more toward? Remember to take the quiz + download the guide for journal prompts to make your way to healthier boundaries: www.terricole.com/what-your-boundary-style-says-about-you-guide
Hey, I've recently started reading Boundary Boss, and giiirl, thank you for writing it! I needed a reminder, a guide, a metaphorical hand hold.
I've had way too porous boundaries in my life. I see where it came from, acknowledge and forgive the BS hand me downs. My folks didnt have it easy.
I see how I've offered myself up for debate on my own volition as well.
Word to the wise, porous boundaries attract some shit people. They're even worse if you flip the script and start implementing boundaries.
I too shut my ringer off! I shouldn't find it so validating that you do, but I do lol.
After I requested set times around reading, sleeping, meditation had resulted in dbl the incoming calls, that's what I had to do. That's bonkers to me.
Recently, I've taken a rockstar hiatus from some, petty, vengeful, cruel, ppl. I need away from the chaos for a minute. Some ppl seem to keep you on your toes, so you can't dig your heels in.
My jump start was seeing how resentful I was becoming. I ran into Proverbs "above all else guard your heart. For everything you do flows from it". Ain't that the truth.
That was the kick I needed, your books is one of the tools to help make it happen.
So again, thank you. Much love.
I'm so glad you're finding Boundary Boss helpful, and amen to everything you wrote here!! ❤️❤️
Thank you Terri. You are awesome. Honestly I love your teachings. You are very beautiful inside out, kind and generous Stay blessed ❤
Thank youuu ❤ I appreciate you being here!
I took this the other day with your interview with sweet Doctor C. I about fell on the floor when it came back BALANCED!! I was a pushover with no boundaries before I read your book two years ago- I thought it was virtuous not to have them. Anyway, thanks to help from you and your workshops (and Dr C and a few others) self-reflection and dedication to change, I’m balanced! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
I realize it’s ongoing work but it’s so validating to my efforts!
WOOOHOOOO I'm so happy to hear that, Megan!! Way 🙌 to 🙌 go! 🙌 And a great reminder that if you've taken the quiz before, it might be worth taking now to see what has changed!
🤍Enjoying the content of your audio book! The content is a welcome compliment to my "authentic livin' toolkit" and I must say you have such a pleasant voice.
I love that you have an authentic livin' toolkit! Honored to be part of your journey ❤️
Yes, I am very good at work and family but terrible with boundaries in romantic relationships. Actually I have very little, and I just tend to put up with being starved and deprived of what I need and it's feels normal due to how I grew up but I know I deserve SO much more ❤. Thank you for being here for us.
You do deserve more! ❤️❤️
Thank you, Terri. Still learning. Realized I have made great progress. You help me feel okay and not guilty.
So glad to hear that Tracy 💕
Thank you so much for what you do. I have been immersing myself into your😅 videos weekly. They are helping me considerably.
I also have purchased your Boundary Boss book and workbook. I am trying to make healthier boundaries with my parents. It has helped me see that I do not have to be at my mothers beck and call and that I can and now do say no. It has opened a feeling of less resentment and and feeling a heavy weight lifted.
You have also helped me see my narcissistic father in a different light and I do minimal contact. I'm working on how to end a conversation when he starts his I'm right and your wrong statements. It's a work in progress that I wish I had started years ago when I was younger. Keep up the good work! You ARE making a difference!
This makes me so happy to hear, Gwen 💕 I'm so glad you're finding my work and book helpful in your journey. Way to go on making so much progress already!!
Hello Terri
Many years ago I was kissing my son goodbye. He was probably five back then, he is thirty two now.
I told him, "be good"
He gave me a look and replied, " I don't know what being good means"
He was implying, "What is being good? behaving according to your criteria?"
He taught me a lesson that I will never forget
Best regards
Thank you for passing that on to us 💕
Hey, Terri, my wife and I have been listening to your book Boundary Boss. We have been married for 52 years. We needed this back then.
We ordered your book and workbook. Thanks.
I hope you both enjoy reading and working through the exercises, and I hope it helps! 💕
Such good encouragement! Thank you for reminding me of basic boundaries 101
You're so welcome ❤️❤️
From porous to balanced, thanks to you and your wonderful book (which I have read twice and refer to often), Terri! Setting limits and sticking to them without feeling guilty is an ongoing work in progress, a daily practice. Meditation and yoga have also helped me immensely... as well as building the self-esteem to even feel that I deserve boundaries. 💖🤩
Celebrating your amazing progress, Birdie!! 🙌🙌🙌
@@terri_cole Thank you SO much!
Thank you Terri! My parents demand I have porous boundaries but I am looking to becoming more rigid especially with them. Trying not to be a parent pleaser anymore even though it’s hard in my current circumstances. I will watch that video with you and Dr. C, I am sure it is absolutely delightful.
Parents can be the hardest folks to set boundaries with because we've been doing the same dance with them for so, so long. Give yourself a lot of grace as you embark on that journey ❤️❤️
I am a YES person and a Reactive One as well. Thank you for the reminder that it can always be my choice and life can feel very differently because of stepping back and giving thought to whether YES is right for me in any given situation. I appreciate your hard work at keeping these videos going. I think it might be time also for me to re-read Boundary Boss and gain new insights to myself. It's alot to take in at one time. 🙂
Love this takeaway, thank you for sharing 👏👏👏 And yes, take it one step at a time!
Thank you Terri!! Always good to go over these, right!
I'm rigid.. working on them.. I think knowing I "can" have boundries and what they are, are a huge part of learning to use them. I'm getting there!
Yes you are, Crissy! Woohoo! ❤️
@@terri_cole Thank you Terri!!!
Have just discovered your work. Thank you so much! You're so strong and an amazing role model. Am learning so much!
I am so glad you're learning from my videos ❤️❤️ Welcome to my channel!
Terri… you are AWESOME! Thank you! Incredibly helpful to me. Love and Light - Richard Y
Well thanks, Richard, so are you for being here! ❤
What type of boundary style would be most helpful with narcissistic mothers ? And Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us 🤍
I think my answer would be healthy no matter what! Narcissists are what I call boundary destroyers. They bulldoze over boundaries because they only care about their own agenda. You have to protect yourself in those situations. I usually recommend the grey rock method - becoming as boring as possible - and lessening contact as much as you're able to. 💕
Love it !!!! thanks so much for the wonderful reminders. I love it that you don’t have your phone ringer on, people act I’m the only person in the world that does that. Now I know I’m in the best company with that ❤️❤️💕💕
I'm so glad you feel less alone now- lots of people keep their phones on silent! It's a great boundary to have. ❤️
Great video - taking my time to reply, and taking time to process the question is so new to me!! I now do it and try to recognize the triggers I receive from my family. The Boundary Bill of Rights is my life now! Thanks Terri
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Your awesome. Thank you!
Thank you, so are you! 💕
Hey 😊 How long does it take to receive the results of the quiz? I am so grateful I found you, follow you and learn listening to you 🎉❤
It shouldn't take long at all! Check your spam folder and if you still can't find it, please email my team at support @ terricole.com (without the spaces) and someone will be able to help you. ❤️
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