Offer her more water when you know Abbie has her full portion of food. It will fill her up without adding more calories. It will also wash the taste of food out of her mouth and it will stop her from wanting more food.
In another video he explained that she wants to eat even if she's not hungry, she'll continue to eat until she's sick. he explained it's probably a sensory thing for her (I'm sure plus hormones and when she's bored, like all of us). So drinking water wouldn't really solve the issue because she'll still want to eat. I see this with a lot of children with Autism I work with. :)
@@RetroMusicLover11 I do and he's now 38 with a college degree. Thanks for asking instead of your dumb ASSumptions. His therapist gave me that solution when he was a child who didn't know when his hunger was suppressed. I taught him to eat a couple of bites of his food and to follow it up with a sip of water. To this day he still eats the same way.
My oldest daughter has special needs and she is the same way that Abby is about eating. She stayed in the hospital one time and the person that was watching her was not smart. They let my daughter eat 7 trays of food, because she keep asking for more. My daughter doesn't know when to stop eating. When she lived at home she weighed 110, now in her group home she weights over 180. That's what happens when you don't tell her no. You are doing a great job at telling Abby no more food
Yeah Yvonne. I wish I could stop eating and I'm 57! Maybe if they gave her more protein and some fat that might decrease her appetite. Prob with Autism is these kids like to eat a very limited diet.
K M it won’t matter to change it to try to “decrease her appetite” because she will eat even when she’s full, just like the person commented about the 7 trays of food. It happens a lot in cases of autism where they don’t feel the normal “full” feeling.
This is so frustrating. Before my brother went in to a group home he was fit and participated in special Olympics. Like he surprised us even lol and now he is obese. He is technically his own guardian (my mother fought so hard to regain guardianship until she passed) so I can't tell his doctor to order a healthier diet for him at his home. I don't understand how he can be allowed to continuously gain weight after having a kidney removed, having diabetes, and is already obese. It's so frustrating. You're not being mean, you're looking out for their health.
Not a single fail. Just dadding. Just the kind that "feels" rewardless, unaccomplishing, but it's still good ol' dadding. She doesn't usually push her dad's boundaries, but it's utterly typical that she give it a shot once in a while, to remind herself that they're still there. It isn't visible to you at the end of the day, but she went to bed that night comfortable knowing "dad's still dad." 👍
I think it's so cute the relationship of abby and Isiah play together and how most kids his age would rather be playing video games etc. It just shows how much he truly loves her
My question is to the people disliking the videos . What is your problem ? You have a choice to not watch the videos. Stop wasting your time and move on . These are great videos and they are helping people. What are you doing with your life ? That's very sad .
Yes I'm glad someone is calling them neurotypical not normal because otherwise it makes it seem like your calling autistic children weird and not normal
I love how Abbie thought she was going to win dad over by getting close and flashing her beautiful smile. Stay strong guys, I would totally give in to her sweet face.
My autistic daughter asks for food all day too she is the same age as Abby. I don't think it's a hunger thing it's more of a sensory seeking thing. Food provides lots of enjoyable stimulation for a sensory seeking kid. What works for our family is having a written schedule everyday. That let's her know when meal time is also activities for the day so she knows what to expect and keeps you consistent. Also adding fruit or veggies as something she can enjoy with her meal helps fill her up and helps get some healthy sensory elements in ( crunchy, sweet, juicy). When my daughter asks for more food after dinner I offer her fruit. If she doesn't want that then she is not really hungry. As for exercise a special bike might help get some energy out. If you are riding one too it might make it fun for both as long as you feel comfortable to try in a safe area for example a fenced in area like a tennis court or school track.
Asa maybe you got tested today, but you sure didn’t fail. You kept trying, that’s what matters, and Abbie’s communication seemed so good, even if it was limited to the topic of food, LOL.
It is cute but, you have to resist bc, giving in would be doing her a disservice. There are so many kids with special needs that are morbidly obese just like Asa mentioned in the video. I would definitely be able to resist. It really wouldn't be hard at all. I'm so glad that they didn't give in to her persistence. She really doesn't need anymore food after eating an adult meal like that.
Abby wanting to snack all the time may be a teenage thing. I know when my kids (not on the spectrum) were in their teen years, especially the beginning teen years, they would constantly want snacks. So I would try to keep a lot of fruit around. Also pretzels and popcorn. Abby is just so cute....I would have a hard time telling her no too.... I LOVE to see that brother/sister interaction! So sweet.
Me too mine are preteen and they eat constantly. I mean a lil snack when they get up from making a happy plate ain't a big deal. What's wrong with an apple. Or something. It's a teenage thing.
@@laurac8659 Rude! Was that necessary? You do know people can be bigger and it not be from eating right? Even if that's not the case, you really dont have to be like that. Like he said, they are not fit people and so they know that isnt the best and so they want better for their daughter.
I'm a preschool special needs teacher and I think it's great how consistent you are with setting boundaries and expectations at home 😊 you all are doing awesome!
Just to add , I have cared for and loved my work with children and adults with special needs over the past 40 years . Every time I watch you guys my heart expands a little bit more . Without meaning any offence all I can say is " your darling Abi is a handfull " and you deserve parent of the year awards ❤️❤️❤️
Maybe reduce portion size and increase the frequency of meals? Also remember her metabolism is pretty high at this age, she actually might need just a little more.
Also Meds like geodon & seroquil increase appetite like CRAZY. I would find myself feeling as if I hadn't eaten in days and starving after eating an entire pizza and 8 oz steak. My stomach would growl and hurt to tell my brain 'food food' it was so strange.
Abbie is a lot of work.Her parents do an awesome job.Abbie is much smarter than she appears.She understands everything going on around her and understands what her parents are saying.Amazing parenting.
Hey Asa, I am a exotics veterinarian by trade, however, I started out with dogs and cats in university and first few years in practice. I have taken multiple dog training programs over the years and occasionally teach them now. So I have a bit of knowledge of dog behaviour to help with some suggestions for Maverick, take them of leave them of course! It's obvious that Maverick has a strong liking for your front room and particularly the new furniture in it! Two options I can think of that would likely be the least effort involved to manage are: 1. Get a cover for your couch that you keep on when not using the furniture. One that is easy to launder and that Maverick can be on. You can teach him that he is only allowed on the furniture when his cover is on it, and discipline him when he uses the couch without the cover. Option 2: get him an elevated dog bed or just regular dog bed (depending if he is doing it to watch the driveway for you coming home or just using it as a napping spot) and place it near the couch so that he has a spot in the room that he knows he is allowed to be in. This way you can continue treating him as a member of the family, but not giving up your nice new furniture to him in the process! Hope this helps!
My kiddos have been testing today as well! I will say this, never a fail when you’re a parent that is there and present!!! You guys are doing a great job!!!!
Just put a blanket on the couch and let him lay on it. Really what does it hurt if he’s not the destructive type. Can ya tell I’m a dog lover? Also love your videos and I really enjoy watching.
Lol my parents used to put chairs and stuff on the couch when they were gone so my dog didn’t go up there but if I tried to put my dog on my bed he would jump off and leave my room.
I’m late, but I have a dog that wants to do the same. We have one couch she is allowed to jump in and chill, but we have two that she doesn’t. It takes time, but whenever she jumped up in it i would firmly say “get down”, and I probably had to do that 50 times over, any time I saw laying there and then just keep doing normal stuff. And now she doesn’t dare jump in it. It took a bit of patience and a firm but not angry voice worked 😉
A lot of people don't let animals up there due to the fact that if someone were to come over & maybe have a dog allergy, all of the fur built up on the couch can cause them to get sick! Being around a dog but straight up laying in their fur is 2 different things. Animals aren't allowed on the furniture in my family for that reason, and a few others. They get their own beds on the floor with their toys & that's just fine for them.
Riley....yes. Let ppl sit on furniture. Dogs can lay on their own piece. Sometimes ppl don't want doghair on their clothes when they visit. There is a spray you can use also.
That’s as real as it gets. Thank you for not editing the bad parts out. I like to watch and learn from you guys because you keep it real. You are both such amazing parents.
I love these videos not for the information on caring for special needs children so much as just being able to peek behind the curtain into another person's life. It's wonderful to see you being such caring and devoted parents and taking things in stride where oftentimes special needs children can be neglected or abused and treated as burdens on the family. Having a special needs child has taught you patience and understanding, and given you an unparalleled level of empathy and compassion. It's truly heartwarming to see.
You are both such amazing parents. Your endurance and perseverance and patience are incredible. I'm a single mum of a 10yr old non- verbal ADHD autistic boy and I know on days like this it feels like you're failing but you're really not. You guys are my heroes.
Don't beat yourself up , Asa. You did your best and thats all you can do! you guys are absolutely amazing and always bring happiness in my life! watching you makes you guys feel like family!
Please never NEVER feel a need to validate not giving into her additional food requests. You guys are amazing parents and anyone who thinks that you would choose to care for her the way you do, but not feed her "enough" is ridiculous. Keep being amazing!
In all the videos I've seen of you, its obvious you love your daughter dearly and you are so patient and loving with her, don't be hard on yourself if you have a bad day and you feel like you didn't handle things properly. Life is stressful and we do the best we can. At the end of the day she knows you love her dearly and will always have her back.
I saw this vlog when it was first out, but was watching some old ones today. It's unreal the progress that she has made in the past 2 years. Love your family!
Asa,,, you're a great dad. You didn't fail. The fact that you weren't drunk, sitting in a corner babbling/crying when Cilla got home is miraculous. You didn't fail. You did amazing.
You and your wife is never a failure! I know it is stressful but you are doing great . I have two boys that are Autistic but have mental illness where I had days of restraining in the stores, in the road etc. House being torn apart . The best thing is you have support and doing amazing job.
I cant understand why people would NOT like any of your videos that literally breaks my heart your family is so amazing and I cant think of any reason not to like your videos I love you all
That was hardly a fail. You tried your best, you went out for a walk, you did activities..you're a great dad! My son also has autism he's high functioning but still has lots of behavioral issues. It's hard and stressful at times. You do your best and that's all you can ask of yourself. She always looks so happy so you guys are obviously doing everything right!!
Honestly this was my favorite vlog!! Watching the two of you work so well together for teaching Abbie is amazing!! I felt like I was with you guys throughout the day!
Put a couple sheets of tinfoil on the couch. That should deter him from jumping up there. Just tuck them flat behind the couch when your home. And pull them out and place them on before you leave. Cheap and simple. (If it works that is) ✌💛
My dog hated the sound of newspaper crinkling. She didn't take to any other disciplinary queues, but when we realized the newspaper bothered her, we trained her using newspaper. Then we left newspaper on the couch before leaving each day and she steered clear.
I stumbled across your videos a while back and she just makes me so happy with her joyous outburts. She is so much like a toddler in the way of instantly putting stuff in her mouth and stomping around when she is happy and she is just so cute in her own little way!!!!
Kids and adults on the spectrum and people with sensory issues can have difficulty with the 8th sense of interception which part of it is knowing if you are full/hungry and other things like feelings, needing use the bathroom, and more.
The food topic is so real! Jaiden can eat all day if we let him. And for sure a concern as parents long term when they get older and stronger! Great Dad as always!👍🏻
I’m a fairly recent subscriber and have been watching some of your older videos from years back and I have to say that this video of brother and sister wrestling was so sweet 😊 brother is very tender to his sister ❤
If you look up dog repelling spray. There are sprays that have smells that dogs don’t like but humans don’t mind. You can spray some of it in the couch and he should stay off of it
Asa you didn’t fail!! You just had one of those revolting days of life. It’s ok to have these days! It’s called life! Keep smiling!! Tomorrow you can start again!! Big hugs from Traralgon Australia!!
the 'run off vibe'.. 😂😂 God damn I relate to this soooooo much! My younger brother doesn't walk all that fast but omg when he wants to run off he's suddenly the Flash 😂😂
U guys are so strong when she gives you puppy dog eyes and begs for food. She's too sweet. I'd give right in but u guys are doing the right thing. ❤️❤️❤️
You didn't fail, you just didn't succeed, but you did keep your cool, when I get in to fights with my autistic son I start to sound like I have torrettes , my son is 6 feet tall and towers over me. I wish I have your patience. I really admire you for your patience.
Dog hair tips: I don’t know what kind of couch you have but when my family leaves the house we usually put the cusions upright so you can’t sit on them. It depens if the cusions on your couch are detachable but I hope this helps.
Don't beat yourself up Asa over the bad days. It's just a bad day, not a bad life. You are a fantastic Dad! I know this is an older vlog. I just wanted to tell you that cause I thought you needed to hear it. You are a wonderful Dad!
You don't look like a failure Asa you look like a dad who is trying to help his special needs daughter come back from a really fun vacation!!! Your doing a great job!!
I can’t afford to be an “Abby Angel” but I watch every video and you have ignited my passion in helping kids with autism. This summer I am volunteering at an equine therapy summer camp that works with kids on the spectrum!! Thank you for being an awesome family and inspiring people like me. I wish I could support with money, but maybe one day!! Much love ❤️
Hey Asa! You absolutely did NOT fail!!! You totally won best Dad ever award. Your number one job is to love Abby and see that she is healthy and safe. You did both of those things. You tried to have a special time taking a walk, but could not let her run for her safety. Same with the snowman stuff. You can not allow her to ear that either. Autistic or not, I know Abby does know a bit about consequences and everyone must learn that. I know you know this but no parent should give their child everything they want. You did an amazing job!!!!
I have pretty bad ADD, had it my whole life, and I have always struggled with eating and wanting more food. The brain chemistry kind of screws with that kind of decision making, so I want to eat even when i'm full. Hopefully she will learn from you how to control herself. Great job and great ideas for how to help her.
You far from failed Asa!!! I know as a parent how hard parenting is especially on the days kids don’t want to participate. From one parent to another big hugs and don’t let today get you down to hard.
Dad, she stayed alive during your watch! Sometimes that is the BIG takeaway, lol, but it's a successful day. I must admit that I loved seeing her brother turn the mood around, what a kid!!!! Btw, if you find a way to "RENT AN ISAIAH " please tell me where 😉😃.....I know that I am not alone in wishing we had one like him in our lives. He would be a great influence on my grandsons.
Not sure why but this was so hard for me to watch. Abbie was SO persistent with the food, my heart went out to her. But equally ASA your patience with her was palpable despite your frustration. All the feels for you both today. ❤️
Awesome job giving directions for hand washing with just hand signals. Even in her sassy hungry mood, she was able to pay close attention. Awesome job dad, mom, and Abbie. Some days are just a little less predictable.
Poor girl! I feel so bad for her and she can not communicate with what’s going on in her head. God bless these parents who are so good with her and take great care of her!!!
There was definitely a running vibe on that walk! We have one super runner and a runner in training (who seems intent on taking after her big sister) and today I was totally waiting for you to have to run. That was nerve wracking on this side of the computer, so I can imagine how nerve wracking it must have been since you had Maverick! And she does have the cutest food signs. Oh it's hard to say no to that level or persistence. Can't wait for Video #2 today. You guys are so awesome putting out 400+ videos a year. It's seriously impressive.
I work with an adult has severe autism also nonverbal but also diagnosed with severe OCD and he communicates through RPM and tells us that he doesn’t really want food he’s just stuck in a loop in his brain obsessing about it. He says the best thing to do is to distract him and talk about something else. But I see that you guys absolutely try that here. just sharing an experience of mine I know it’s not a one size fits all kind of thing So much love to you guys!
I have a binging disorder and have the same food problem as Abby does. I’m always hungry even tho I’m not and after a meal I always want something sweet. I appreciate the strictness and patience you guys have with her.
I think the wanting food is just a teenage thing. My kids, one is 14 the other 11, will eat an adult portioned meal and still ask for food 20min later, all day long. It’s frustrating and it’s hard to say no. But your doing the right thing. Keep your head up. You both are amazing parents.
I have to say this is my favorite video you have ever posted. I know this was a rough day for yall but you were so real. It helps knowing that we aren't bad parents when we/ our kids have bad days. -Tanya
Hey guys, I know it must have been hard to deal with but you rocked it as always. When my niece had those behaviors of hitting herself in the side of the head it scared the mess outta me, until I understood what was going on. I love Abbie so much, she just melts my heart. She reminds me so much of my niece. Just love you guys and your patience for such a beautiful young lady
Hey guys I think we all fail now and then no matter what we do, today had my son at the Aquarium witch is his favorite place, then alittle while ago took him in to Stewart’s and had a major meltdown and I don’t know what was wrong but ended up with a lollipop and now on the way home I think falling asleep at the moment...but a guy there upset me today cause he said why does he need the headphones for is he listening to music I said no it’s to block noise he has autism he was like well you might want to use those headphones for yourself I was like no I’m good thanks I’m use to him having meltdowns and or loud stims thanks though and have a nice day 👌❤️🧩 I try not to let people bother me but sometimes this mama has to set things straight alittle
I really admire you guys. I'm a spec ed teacher in an asd classroom and parents like you are few and far between. Thank you for loving your child so much. We see you and what you're doing and it's amazing.
Offer her more water when you know Abbie has her full portion of food. It will fill her up without adding more calories. It will also wash the taste of food out of her mouth and it will stop her from wanting more food.
EH CBunny also drinking water before a meal can fill up the stomach.
In another video he explained that she wants to eat even if she's not hungry, she'll continue to eat until she's sick. he explained it's probably a sensory thing for her (I'm sure plus hormones and when she's bored, like all of us). So drinking water wouldn't really solve the issue because she'll still want to eat. I see this with a lot of children with Autism I work with. :)
@@RetroMusicLover11 I do and he's now 38 with a college degree. Thanks for asking instead of your dumb ASSumptions. His therapist gave me that solution when he was a child who didn't know when his hunger was suppressed. I taught him to eat a couple of bites of his food and to follow it up with a sip of water. To this day he still eats the same way.
@@RetroMusicLover11 as a person with autism I kinda agree with them
@@RetroMusicLover11 the fact ur reply has no likes says a lot.. smfh
My oldest daughter has special needs and she is the same way that Abby is about eating. She stayed in the hospital one time and the person that was watching her was not smart. They let my daughter eat 7 trays of food, because she keep asking for more. My daughter doesn't know when to stop eating. When she lived at home she weighed 110, now in her group home she weights over 180. That's what happens when you don't tell her no. You are doing a great job at telling Abby no more food
Yeah Yvonne. I wish I could stop eating and I'm 57! Maybe if they gave her more protein and some fat that might decrease her appetite. Prob with Autism is these kids like to eat a very limited diet.
K M it won’t matter to change it to try to “decrease her appetite” because she will eat even when she’s full, just like the person commented about the 7 trays of food. It happens a lot in cases of autism where they don’t feel the normal “full” feeling.
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This is so frustrating. Before my brother went in to a group home he was fit and participated in special Olympics. Like he surprised us even lol and now he is obese. He is technically his own guardian (my mother fought so hard to regain guardianship until she passed) so I can't tell his doctor to order a healthier diet for him at his home. I don't understand how he can be allowed to continuously gain weight after having a kidney removed, having diabetes, and is already obese. It's so frustrating. You're not being mean, you're looking out for their health.
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Not a single fail. Just dadding. Just the kind that "feels" rewardless, unaccomplishing, but it's still good ol' dadding. She doesn't usually push her dad's boundaries, but it's utterly typical that she give it a shot once in a while, to remind herself that they're still there. It isn't visible to you at the end of the day, but she went to bed that night comfortable knowing "dad's still dad." 👍
Word.
beautiful comment
Perfectly worded!
Nicely stated, Jeff...always good to remind ourselves. There are all kinds of 'days' and this is one of them.
In the words of Duckie, "yup yup yup!!"
Real people. Real life. Real emotions. Very inspiring and encouraging. ❤️
Abbie wrestling then hugging her brother is the cutest thing ❤️ Love the bond between them
Same hes a really good brother!
I agree
I argee to
I think it's so cute the relationship of abby and Isiah play together and how most kids his age would rather be playing video games etc. It just shows how much he truly loves her
I kinda laughed out loud when he was talking about how she doesn’t need more food and she slowly inched into the frame 😂😂
lo fi 😂💀 it was funny
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Lol Abbie is so funny
My question is to the people disliking the videos . What is your problem ? You have a choice to not watch the videos. Stop wasting your time and move on . These are great videos and they are helping people. What are you doing with your life ? That's very sad .
That's not being a mean dad, that's being the dad she NEEDS. our kids need even more discipline that neurotypical kids. But you already knew that.
Yes I'm glad someone is calling them neurotypical not normal because otherwise it makes it seem like your calling autistic children weird and not normal
Caelan Bull never has there been a normal in all of human history, just more 'socially acceptable'. Everyone is weird.
No too much punishments=bad for mental health
@@turtle_murtle i have neurotypical and autistic kids and they are all weird lol so normal is never appropriate lol
I love how Abbie thought she was going to win dad over by getting close and flashing her beautiful smile. Stay strong guys, I would totally give in to her sweet face.
15:14 Abby gives the camera a "You see what I gotta put up with?" look at the camera. Gotta love the teenage attitude.
She can’t speak tho
I Hit Lickz you can still have an attitude without speaking
My autistic daughter asks for food all day too she is the same age as Abby. I don't think it's a hunger thing it's more of a sensory seeking thing. Food provides lots of enjoyable stimulation for a sensory seeking kid. What works for our family is having a written schedule everyday. That let's her know when meal time is also activities for the day so she knows what to expect and keeps you consistent. Also adding fruit or veggies as something she can enjoy with her meal helps fill her up and helps get some healthy sensory elements in ( crunchy, sweet, juicy). When my daughter asks for more food after dinner I offer her fruit. If she doesn't want that then she is not really hungry. As for exercise a special bike might help get some energy out. If you are riding one too it might make it fun for both as long as you feel comfortable to try in a safe area for example a fenced in area like a tennis court or school track.
Asa maybe you got tested today, but you sure didn’t fail. You kept trying, that’s what matters, and Abbie’s communication seemed so good, even if it was limited to the topic of food, LOL.
Her food signing really is too cute I wouldn't be able to resist lmao
Yeah I love when she made the eating noise
I would
It is cute but, you have to resist bc, giving in would be doing her a disservice. There are so many kids with special needs that are morbidly obese just like Asa mentioned in the video. I would definitely be able to resist. It really wouldn't be hard at all. I'm so glad that they didn't give in to her persistence. She really doesn't need anymore food after eating an adult meal like that.
Meeee tooooo so cuteee
She knows how to act cute to get what she wants.
dont beat yourself up about the day Asa. you did great xxx
I love that y’all constantly talk with each other about how to have a team approach when it comes to dealing with abby’s request. Amazing parents!
Abby wanting to snack all the time may be a teenage thing. I know when my kids (not on the spectrum) were in their teen years, especially the beginning teen years, they would constantly want snacks. So I would try to keep a lot of fruit around. Also pretzels and popcorn. Abby is just so cute....I would have a hard time telling her no too.... I LOVE to see that brother/sister interaction! So sweet.
Trina Dennewitz yeah that’s what I’m thinking. She might be going through a growth spurt.
Me too mine are preteen and they eat constantly. I mean a lil snack when they get up from making a happy plate ain't a big deal. What's wrong with an apple. Or something. It's a teenage thing.
Flirty Fran Yep! I worked with a 37 year old autistic man and he would eat all day if he had the option.
@@laurac8659 Rude! Was that necessary? You do know people can be bigger and it not be from eating right? Even if that's not the case, you really dont have to be like that. Like he said, they are not fit people and so they know that isnt the best and so they want better for their daughter.
I'm a preschool special needs teacher and I think it's great how consistent you are with setting boundaries and expectations at home 😊 you all are doing awesome!
A little early today because I will be posting our New Years Resolution video at 8pm.
Hi fatheringautism and how are you doing
Two videos...1day?! What a wonderful world! Lol
So excited to see it at 8
FatheringAutism can’t wait to see it. Mine will be losing weight... for the 8th year in a row 🤦🏼♀️ I’m really killin it haha
Put a gate around the couch or but a blanket over the hole couch so your dog won't get dog hair allover the couch
Just to add , I have cared for and loved my work with children and adults with special needs over the past 40 years . Every time I watch you guys my heart expands a little bit more . Without meaning any offence all I can say is " your darling Abi is a handfull " and you deserve parent of the year awards ❤️❤️❤️
Maybe reduce portion size and increase the frequency of meals? Also remember her metabolism is pretty high at this age, she actually might need just a little more.
I was thinking the same thing 😁
Also Meds like geodon & seroquil increase appetite like CRAZY. I would find myself feeling as if I hadn't eaten in days and starving after eating an entire pizza and 8 oz steak. My stomach would growl and hurt to tell my brain 'food food' it was so strange.
You are definitely not mean dad! You are follow-through dad.
man, I need new glasses or something because I didn’t see a single “fail” in this video.
I've got new glasses, and I didn't either.
Abbie is a lot of work.Her parents do an awesome job.Abbie is much smarter than she appears.She understands everything going on around her and understands what her parents are saying.Amazing parenting.
Hey Asa, I am a exotics veterinarian by trade, however, I started out with dogs and cats in university and first few years in practice. I have taken multiple dog training programs over the years and occasionally teach them now. So I have a bit of knowledge of dog behaviour to help with some suggestions for Maverick, take them of leave them of course!
It's obvious that Maverick has a strong liking for your front room and particularly the new furniture in it! Two options I can think of that would likely be the least effort involved to manage are: 1. Get a cover for your couch that you keep on when not using the furniture. One that is easy to launder and that Maverick can be on. You can teach him that he is only allowed on the furniture when his cover is on it, and discipline him when he uses the couch without the cover. Option 2: get him an elevated dog bed or just regular dog bed (depending if he is doing it to watch the driveway for you coming home or just using it as a napping spot) and place it near the couch so that he has a spot in the room that he knows he is allowed to be in. This way you can continue treating him as a member of the family, but not giving up your nice new furniture to him in the process! Hope this helps!
My kiddos have been testing today as well! I will say this, never a fail when you’re a parent that is there and present!!! You guys are doing a great job!!!!
Just put a blanket on the couch and let him lay on it. Really what does it hurt if he’s not the destructive type. Can ya tell I’m a dog lover? Also love your videos and I really enjoy watching.
Lol my parents used to put chairs and stuff on the couch when they were gone so my dog didn’t go up there but if I tried to put my dog on my bed he would jump off and leave my room.
I’m late, but I have a dog that wants to do the same. We have one couch she is allowed to jump in and chill, but we have two that she doesn’t. It takes time, but whenever she jumped up in it i would firmly say “get down”, and I probably had to do that 50 times over, any time I saw laying there and then just keep doing normal stuff. And now she doesn’t dare jump in it. It took a bit of patience and a firm but not angry voice worked 😉
A lot of people don't let animals up there due to the fact that if someone were to come over & maybe have a dog allergy, all of the fur built up on the couch can cause them to get sick! Being around a dog but straight up laying in their fur is 2 different things. Animals aren't allowed on the furniture in my family for that reason, and a few others. They get their own beds on the floor with their toys & that's just fine for them.
Riley....yes. Let ppl sit on furniture. Dogs can lay on their own piece. Sometimes ppl don't want doghair on their clothes when they visit. There is a spray you can use also.
I’m a proud dog hair wearing lady. My dog is welcomed everywhere. He doesn’t let me go without him much.. more cuddles the better!
That’s as real as it gets. Thank you for not editing the bad parts out. I like to watch and learn from you guys because you keep it real. You are both such amazing parents.
"Girl you better get off my fries"
Me with my son 🤣
That's mean 😓😓😓
Lol😅
I love these videos not for the information on caring for special needs children so much as just being able to peek behind the curtain into another person's life. It's wonderful to see you being such caring and devoted parents and taking things in stride where oftentimes special needs children can be neglected or abused and treated as burdens on the family. Having a special needs child has taught you patience and understanding, and given you an unparalleled level of empathy and compassion. It's truly heartwarming to see.
We all have days like that! Tomorrow is a new day.
You are both such amazing parents. Your endurance and perseverance and patience are incredible.
I'm a single mum of a 10yr old non- verbal ADHD autistic boy and I know on days like this it feels like you're failing but you're really not. You guys are my heroes.
I got so emotional lol when her and Isaiah were playing 😩❤️ Big brothers are seriously the best thing in Our life . 🙏🏽
Don't beat yourself up , Asa. You did your best and thats all you can do!
you guys are absolutely amazing and always bring happiness in my life! watching you makes you guys feel like family!
20:50 “No cereal. No goldfish. Ooh she found another one.
Lol that made me laugh 😂
Please never NEVER feel a need to validate not giving into her additional food requests. You guys are amazing parents and anyone who thinks that you would choose to care for her the way you do, but not feed her "enough" is ridiculous. Keep being amazing!
The couch is his most comfortable look out point to see his peeps return.
Aw my heart just melted
I am a medical student in undergrad college right now and I love learning all about your daughter. It’s so educatoonal
“Girl get off my fries” that comment is my mood 24/7 😂😂
In all the videos I've seen of you, its obvious you love your daughter dearly and you are so patient and loving with her, don't be hard on yourself if you have a bad day and you feel like you didn't handle things properly. Life is stressful and we do the best we can. At the end of the day she knows you love her dearly and will always have her back.
No fails but I gotta admit how exhausting it was just watching it... Can't imagine living it every day. Holy cow! *exhales
I saw this vlog when it was first out, but was watching some old ones today. It's unreal the progress that she has made in the past 2 years. Love your family!
Asa,,, you're a great dad. You didn't fail. The fact that you weren't drunk, sitting in a corner babbling/crying when Cilla got home is miraculous. You didn't fail. You did amazing.
You and your wife is never a failure! I know it is stressful but you are doing great . I have two boys that are Autistic but have mental illness where I had days of restraining in the stores, in the road etc. House being torn apart . The best thing is you have support and doing amazing job.
You could never be a failure you are both amazing parents
I cant understand why people would NOT like any of your videos that literally breaks my heart your family is so amazing and I cant think of any reason not to like your videos I love you all
Also, you failed at nothing. You handled it all great.
That was hardly a fail. You tried your best, you went out for a walk, you did activities..you're a great dad! My son also has autism he's high functioning but still has lots of behavioral issues. It's hard and stressful at times. You do your best and that's all you can ask of yourself. She always looks so happy so you guys are obviously doing everything right!!
“what’s the plan of attack now?” nice communication between parents! you guys are great!
Honestly this was my favorite vlog!! Watching the two of you work so well together for teaching Abbie is amazing!! I felt like I was with you guys throughout the day!
Put a couple sheets of tinfoil on the couch. That should deter him from jumping up there. Just tuck them flat behind the couch when your home. And pull them out and place them on before you leave. Cheap and simple. (If it works that is)
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Teena Interesting.
My dog hated the sound of newspaper crinkling. She didn't take to any other disciplinary queues, but when we realized the newspaper bothered her, we trained her using newspaper. Then we left newspaper on the couch before leaving each day and she steered clear.
I stumbled across your videos a while back and she just makes me so happy with her joyous outburts. She is so much like a toddler in the way of instantly putting stuff in her mouth and stomping around when she is happy and she is just so cute in her own little way!!!!
Kids and adults on the spectrum and people with sensory issues can have difficulty with the 8th sense of interception which part of it is knowing if you are full/hungry and other things like feelings, needing use the bathroom, and more.
Priscilla’s laugh is the BEST!! And Kudos for holding your ground with Abbie, I would have caved after the 2nd time she asked for food lol
The food topic is so real! Jaiden can eat all day if we let him. And for sure a concern as parents long term when they get older and stronger! Great Dad as always!👍🏻
I’m a fairly recent subscriber and have been watching some of your older videos from years back and I have to say that this video of brother and sister wrestling was so sweet 😊 brother is very tender to his sister ❤
If you look up dog repelling spray. There are sprays that have smells that dogs don’t like but humans don’t mind. You can spray some of it in the couch and he should stay off of it
God Bless you all. I could not do what you all deal with.Abby seems very unpredictable.. you all are so patient. Happy New Year. hugs
You did such a good job on handling everything.... I have stressful days like that.. we have five sons two have autism..
Asa you didn’t fail!! You just had one of those revolting days of life. It’s ok to have these days! It’s called life!
Keep smiling!! Tomorrow you can start again!! Big hugs from Traralgon Australia!!
the 'run off vibe'.. 😂😂 God damn I relate to this soooooo much! My younger brother doesn't walk all that fast but omg when he wants to run off he's suddenly the Flash 😂😂
U guys are so strong when she gives you puppy dog eyes and begs for food. She's too sweet. I'd give right in but u guys are doing the right thing. ❤️❤️❤️
“why are your hands wet? why are your hands wet?” me everyday as a dad
Gestural prompts during hand washing were GOLDEN! Y’all are so awesome!
I like seeing the "struggles" only because it shows how you deal with it n that helps!
You two are AMAZING!!!
You didn't fail, you just didn't succeed, but you did keep your cool, when I get in to fights with my autistic son I start to sound like I have torrettes , my son is 6 feet tall and towers over me. I wish I have your patience. I really admire you for your patience.
Dog hair tips: I don’t know what kind of couch you have but when my family leaves the house we usually put the cusions upright so you can’t sit on them. It depens if the cusions on your couch are detachable but I hope this helps.
Don't beat yourself up Asa over the bad days. It's just a bad day, not a bad life. You are a fantastic Dad! I know this is an older vlog. I just wanted to tell you that cause I thought you needed to hear it. You are a wonderful Dad!
You're amazing. I'm crying my eyes out right now, I would've given anything for a Dad like you
You don't look like a failure Asa you look like a dad who is trying to help his special needs daughter come back from a really fun vacation!!! Your doing a great job!!
I can’t afford to be an “Abby Angel” but I watch every video and you have ignited my passion in helping kids with autism. This summer I am volunteering at an equine therapy summer camp that works with kids on the spectrum!! Thank you for being an awesome family and inspiring people like me. I wish I could support with money, but maybe one day!! Much love ❤️
Hey Asa! You absolutely did NOT fail!!! You totally won best Dad ever award. Your number one job is to love Abby and see that she is healthy and safe. You did both of those things. You tried to have a special time taking a walk, but could not let her run for her safety. Same with the snowman stuff. You can not allow her to ear that either. Autistic or not, I know Abby does know a bit about consequences and everyone must learn that. I know you know this but no parent should give their child everything they want. You did an amazing job!!!!
I have pretty bad ADD, had it my whole life, and I have always struggled with eating and wanting more food. The brain chemistry kind of screws with that kind of decision making, so I want to eat even when i'm full. Hopefully she will learn from you how to control herself. Great job and great ideas for how to help her.
You far from failed Asa!!! I know as a parent how hard parenting is especially on the days kids don’t want to participate. From one parent to another big hugs and don’t let today get you down to hard.
Dad, she stayed alive during your watch! Sometimes that is the BIG takeaway, lol, but it's a successful day. I must admit that I loved seeing her brother turn the mood around, what a kid!!!! Btw, if you find a way to "RENT AN ISAIAH " please tell me where 😉😃.....I know that I am not alone in wishing we had one like him in our lives. He would be a great influence on my grandsons.
Every family should have an Isaiah 👍💙
I love that u show the bad too. We all have bad days but ur a family and u love each other. That's what matters at the end of the day
"Abby, go wash your hands please" *Shakes head 'NO'. Classic teenager. You are doing a WONDERFUL JOB
Not sure why but this was so hard for me to watch. Abbie was SO persistent with the food, my heart went out to her. But equally ASA your patience with her was palpable despite your frustration. All the feels for you both today. ❤️
It isn't failing it's part of being a parent. You handled everything really well Asa :)
Awesome job giving directions for hand washing with just hand signals. Even in her sassy hungry mood, she was able to pay close attention. Awesome job dad, mom, and Abbie. Some days are just a little less predictable.
“We lost him to the girlfriend” Asa Mass 2018
Reagan Dalkas bound to happen!
You guys are SO incredible and inspiring. We all have those days as parents. Thank you for sharing your self doubt and frustrations with the world!
We all have bad days! Bless Abbie's heart! She is strong willed!
Poor girl! I feel so bad for her and she can not communicate with what’s going on in her head. God bless these parents who are so good with her and take great care of her!!!
I love these videos and I have autism as well thanks for spreading more awareness on autism
Hello im also autistic :)
This wasnt a Dad fail, you did great cuz you took care of her and protected her from dangers 💕
There was definitely a running vibe on that walk! We have one super runner and a runner in training (who seems intent on taking after her big sister) and today I was totally waiting for you to have to run. That was nerve wracking on this side of the computer, so I can imagine how nerve wracking it must have been since you had Maverick!
And she does have the cutest food signs. Oh it's hard to say no to that level or persistence.
Can't wait for Video #2 today. You guys are so awesome putting out 400+ videos a year. It's seriously impressive.
I work with an adult has severe autism also nonverbal but also diagnosed with severe OCD and he communicates through RPM and tells us that he doesn’t really want food he’s just stuck in a loop in his brain obsessing about it. He says the best thing to do is to distract him and talk about something else. But I see that you guys absolutely try that here. just sharing an experience of mine I know it’s not a one size fits all kind of thing So much love to you guys!
“Go be an iPad kid” 😂
I have a binging disorder and have the same food problem as Abby does. I’m always hungry even tho I’m not and after a meal I always want something sweet. I appreciate the strictness and patience you guys have with her.
She's so sweet at 19:12 when she just comes right in your face "food" 💖 so loveable
@@Rippenhengst not the right behaviour but still loveable.
20:45 Idk how y'all deal with the cuteness my heart just melted 😭❤️
"go be an iPad kid" lol
I think the wanting food is just a teenage thing. My kids, one is 14 the other 11, will eat an adult portioned meal and still ask for food 20min later, all day long. It’s frustrating and it’s hard to say no. But your doing the right thing. Keep your head up. You both are amazing parents.
😂 I love how she’s really trying to work you with the food.
I have to say this is my favorite video you have ever posted. I know this was a rough day for yall but you were so real. It helps knowing that we aren't bad parents when we/ our kids have bad days. -Tanya
Hey guys, I know it must have been hard to deal with but you rocked it as always. When my niece had those behaviors of hitting herself in the side of the head it scared the mess outta me, until I understood what was going on. I love Abbie so much, she just melts my heart. She reminds me so much of my niece. Just love you guys and your patience for such a beautiful young lady
She goes to Daddy because she knows you got a soft spot for her. I found it so adorable how she kept asking like saying "please dad" 😍
Hey guys I think we all fail now and then no matter what we do, today had my son at the Aquarium witch is his favorite place, then alittle while ago took him in to Stewart’s and had a major meltdown and I don’t know what was wrong but ended up with a lollipop and now on the way home I think falling asleep at the moment...but a guy there upset me today cause he said why does he need the headphones for is he listening to music I said no it’s to block noise he has autism he was like well you might want to use those headphones for yourself I was like no I’m good thanks I’m use to him having meltdowns and or loud stims thanks though and have a nice day 👌❤️🧩 I try not to let people bother me but sometimes this mama has to set things straight alittle
I really admire you guys. I'm a spec ed teacher in an asd classroom and parents like you are few and far between. Thank you for loving your child so much. We see you and what you're doing and it's amazing.