AITA For Mocking My Friends' Husband's Weight OR For Screaming at Husband+SIL To Leave Kitchen

แชร์
ฝัง
  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ส.ค. 2024
  • 0:00 Not Submarines but MELK
    1:34 AITA For Leaving Sister's Wedding Early Bc She Kept My Hubby Out of Pics
    3:38 Response
    9:04 Madi Missed the Transition
    9:30 AITA For Purchasing Guy Friend's Dream BD Present and Outshining His GF
    12:25 Response
    19:29 AITA For Screaming at Husband and SIL To Get Out of The Kitchen
    22:04 Response
    23:10 The Power of Transitioning
    24:04 AITA For Kicking SIL For Making My Drunk Husband Feel Bad
    26:23 Response
    29:15 AITA For Being Pissed Their's No Alcohol at My Friend's Wedding
    32:09 Response
    34:50 AITA For Mocking My Friends' Husband's Weight
    36:48 Response
    Find Us Here
    Patreon: www.patreon.com/user?u=802099...
    Email For Business Purposes | ComfortLevelBiz@gmail.com
    Instagram | / comfortlevelpodcast
    TikTok | vm.tiktok.com/ZTdm5aQta/
    Reddit | / comfortlevelpod
    Highlight Channel | / channel
    Facebook | / comfort-level-10021694...

ความคิดเห็น • 222

  • @farahlynnou3652
    @farahlynnou3652 ปีที่แล้ว +368

    Every single person lacked nuance in that first story, like not a single person on the pod clocked the homophobia - bc if it wasn’t homophobia the suggestion of the sister in between would’ve been fine. And after 7 years I’m sure OPs husband has experienced this with this family before

  • @DavidsDiary
    @DavidsDiary ปีที่แล้ว +820

    Everyone’s take, aside from Maddie, on the first story was an L for me. It was oozing in homophobia if OP was a man, and even if not- tf? You’re going to exclude you’re brother law of seven years and I’m supposed to just be okay with it? Nah. Enjoy your photo without us. ✌🏾

    • @XxJazzyJazzyJayxX
      @XxJazzyJazzyJayxX ปีที่แล้ว +185

      I totally agree, especially when she shot down the other sibling’s idea to be in between too.

    • @WhimsicalNessa
      @WhimsicalNessa ปีที่แล้ว +242

      Also, I did have a problem with the other female host’s (I forgot her name) take about it being weird that OP from the first story treating his husband to his favorite restaurant after the incident… Like, it was an uncomfortable situation and if OP’s husband had problems with anxiety or self-esteem, I’m sure he appreciated the gesture afterwards.

    • @DavidsDiary
      @DavidsDiary ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @@WhimsicalNessa This.

    • @JuanRodriguez-tf7fh
      @JuanRodriguez-tf7fh ปีที่แล้ว +15

      All of this!!

    • @Beebzinthehouse
      @Beebzinthehouse ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I 100% agree

  • @staceysales814
    @staceysales814 ปีที่แล้ว +329

    @07:15 Did everyone miss the obvious homophobia from the bride or am I taking crazy pills? Op did EXACTLY what he was supposed to. He left immediately an took his spouse out to eat at his favorite place to apologize for his sister's homophobic dog whistle...

    • @Moey_idk
      @Moey_idk ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Exactly, the they had the audacity to make fun of OPs husband for being told he ruined their aesthetic by being gay.

    • @hakiymyoung2513
      @hakiymyoung2513 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Exactly I thought was going crazy because I felt like I was being gaslight

    • @QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse
      @QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I’m pretty new to this channel, is that normal for them to ignore/be fine with homophobia?

    • @vanessasampayan4587
      @vanessasampayan4587 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Nope it was loud and clear! Let’s not forget how their guest was talking, Seeing if it had been her, she would’ve felt excluded because of skin color. Like no! You don’t get to go there! After you to shame somebody for being hurt, that they could it be in a family photo, because of their sexuality. SMH 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @bradiedean7466
      @bradiedean7466 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ​@@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypsefrom what I've seen it's really not (esp for Maddie and Brandon) so it really upset and caught me off guard

  • @ashthesas2302
    @ashthesas2302 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +70

    I'm honestly floored that the guest claimed it was childish/petty to take the husband to his favorite restaurant. He was clearly trying to help him feel better and they also left before the meal. She immediately claimed that she was have called people out for racism if it were her but missed that the bride was clearly being homophobic? Your wedding day doesn't get to excuse shitty behavior. You don't get to bully people and expect them to tolerate it.

    • @DoritoBot9000
      @DoritoBot9000 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      She doesn’t seem to be the sharpest tool in the shed.

  • @Geekofthegalaxy
    @Geekofthegalaxy ปีที่แล้ว +317

    Are we missing the probable homophobia of the wedding picture? Like ok the bride wants boy girl line up but then rejecting the sister’s suggestion to make it work? She just didn’t want op’s husband in the photo and just him. Maybe they don’t get along for other reasons but it sure feels homophobic.

  • @maddiewetter6572
    @maddiewetter6572 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +240

    As a person who has been asked to get out of family photos, I can tell you it'll wreck you emotionally. I feel like you didn't come down hard enough on the bride in the first story.

    • @malaikanaomi1408
      @malaikanaomi1408 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Exactly! I Understand if the dress code is a certain color for example and you still show up in a white dress to someone else’s wedding. Because that was your personal choice but anything else is brutal.

  • @ViridisSapientis
    @ViridisSapientis 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +219

    As a newcomer to the podcast and a member of the lgbTq+ community, that first story genuinely hurt hearing how inconsiderate y’all were to OP and his husband. I’ve been with my wife for 10 years and when I transitioned 3 years ago, her family and my family didn’t want me in pictures or at gatherings or anything. I understand that y’all are probably cisgendered individuals and in straight passing relationships, but please please PLEASE don’t forget that there’s more nuances to queer relationships. We still deal with hatred from those around us. OP did the best they could and it’s not childish to have your feelings hurt by homophobia or have your partner care enough to make it up to you. Time to get rid of the toxic masculinity mindset regarding it too tbh.

    • @stephs3098
      @stephs3098 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      I'm so sorry for your experiences with prejudice. I didn't listen to their reactions because I've already heard that story and it makes me mad, so I skipped it. It's a super homophobic story even if the bride doesn't believe she is.

    • @I.am.hooked
      @I.am.hooked 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      💯😮‍💨.
      So sorry that happened to you.❤

    • @paulatobler8354
      @paulatobler8354 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      I often find myself not liking the takes of anyone other than Madi. They don’t seem to get a lot of issues they aren’t familiar with, like getting the problem if there was a racial component but not if it is a homophobic component. I insisted my dad invite my brother’s husband when he had some BS reason for not having him along on a family vacation that included other spouses and I knew it was just homophobia. It was either all spouses or none and I’d be in solidarity with my brother and his husband even if the rest of the family was against me.

    • @meiimacca4054
      @meiimacca4054 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@paulatobler8354Madi is definitely the most sensible one of the group, I've binged from their newest to here and up to this point she's had the most reasonable takes.

  • @moniqueortiz4489
    @moniqueortiz4489 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    Mannnn, I love this podcast but the response to the first story was discouraging for the rest of the episode. Im pretty sure y'all read responses to the reddit threads too and Im sure there was responses on homophobia there too so I dont know how that didnt come up but I feel like it was definitely that. If I had a girlfriend, especially wife of 7 years, and the only thing that was "ruining the aesthetic" was that we were both women, I would DEFINITELY feel discriminated for my sexuality. Same way the guest said she would feel discriminated for being the only brown person in the photo. Extra sucks to find that out from your family, and Im guessing that Sister in Law feels like family to the partner too after so long

    • @madisonmarces5598
      @madisonmarces5598 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      It was a bummer that this is how they started the episode, because I had a bad taste in my mouth and didn’t even want to finish this episode. To say that taking their spouse out to dinner was coddling was…. Discouraging to hear. And Maddie even corrected the guest about the gender of the couple, and nobody said a dang thing about it.

    • @moniqueortiz4489
      @moniqueortiz4489 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @madisonmarces5598 I knowww, I was hoping it would come up after that correction. I get that they have admitted to live in a conservative area so maybe the exposure to this topic isnt very high in their individual experiences but I definitely think it needs/needed some sort of acknowledgement

    • @madisonmarces5598
      @madisonmarces5598 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@moniqueortiz4489 the have liked a lot of the comments pointing this point out. Maybe they’ll say something next ep

  • @xpeachypie4133
    @xpeachypie4133 ปีที่แล้ว +325

    First story: it’s sad to hear everyone think it’s funny that the husband felt dejected (perfectly normal response) It seems like he was the only one told he would ruin the picture. people have insecurities and if the only reason they give to not have him in the picture is “he would ruin the aesthetic”, that person is left to fill in the blank of what about them specifically would ruin a PHOTO. I get it being not their wedding, but how much can someone ruin an aesthetic by being in a photo? It seems like there was harsh judgment towards the husband and he picked up on that and reacted appropriately

    • @XxJazzyJazzyJayxX
      @XxJazzyJazzyJayxX ปีที่แล้ว +26

      I completely agree!

    • @xaicho
      @xaicho ปีที่แล้ว +61

      also what's the alternative to taking them to their favorite restaurant? taking them somewhere mid or somewhere they hate to avoid being "patronizing"?

    • @catT5236
      @catT5236 ปีที่แล้ว +68

      Also I think it's pretty understandable given that it was fairly obvious he was being discriminated against because he's gay. It must be really upsetting as a gay man to find out your husband's sister is homophobic & using "aesthetics" as a ridiculously flimsy cover for it.

    • @Geekofthegalaxy
      @Geekofthegalaxy ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@catT5236absolutely. Imagine discovering that about your brother’s new wife and knowing you will either be interacting with every family function or excluded from events she hosts because who you are makes her uncomfortable

    • @QuintessentialQuinn
      @QuintessentialQuinn ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@catT5236the original comment + this one are exactly my thoughts on the first story. My heart goes out to that couple honestly

  • @CurioCobalt
    @CurioCobalt ปีที่แล้ว +66

    First time watching this channel and in the first story the hosts totally ignored the OBVIOUS homophia. Pretty disappointing.

  • @bianca-2842
    @bianca-2842 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +61

    On the first story “I want a picture with my siblings and their spouses BUT you’re husband can’t be in it at all even though there was a solution given” isn’t justified. Just because it’s your wedding it doesn’t excuse you from being homophobic and it doesn’t mean there shouldn’t be consequences to your actions.

  • @vamnph
    @vamnph ปีที่แล้ว +80

    On the first story? NTA the bride/sister was OBVIOUSLY being homophobic and OP handled the situation extremely maturely. They quietly left and went on with their day and, and prioritized their husband over their homophobic sister. His presence not being there in no way “ruined” her wedding. If she cared that much in the first place she would have found a way to have OP and his partner in the photos. ALSO, It is OPs number one responsibility to have their husbands back, they are a team. Family is the bonds you create along the way, and obviously OPs bond with his sister isn’t that strong or she’d move mountains to have ALL her family there instead of being a bridezilla over something as trivial as an “aesthetic”.

  • @varlinn7319
    @varlinn7319 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Not a single one of them mentioning/noticing the blatant homophobia in that first story kind of appalls me. How can 4 people collectively have such a bad take?

    • @alieshalepine6630
      @alieshalepine6630 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      i really wish they responded to all the criticism they’re receiving. it wasn’t even a bad take, it was a disgusting one.

  • @aliciavargas9461
    @aliciavargas9461 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    I find it hard to believe that you wouldn't feel even a little bit hurt or offended if your sister in law of seven years asked you to stand out of her picture because it didn't fit her ascetic and then to say that she's babying him? Is crazy to me it really is easy to judge when when your not put in the situation I guess.

  • @bulelwashezi4540
    @bulelwashezi4540 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    First story: calling it childish to treat the husband to their favourite meal is like a very weird and uncalled for take. They hadn't eaten at the wedding yet so they were gonna eat anyway and the reason they left was because of pointed exclusion of the husband so it's fine to get his favourite meal?? I

    • @DoritoBot9000
      @DoritoBot9000 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Ironic that the one person on the show that is married has the worst relationship takes.

    • @BillieBob0218
      @BillieBob0218 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      This take and then her immediately making a take on how she’d feel rejected if racism was involved but totally SKIPPED the homophobia that was blatant😶

    • @meiimacca4054
      @meiimacca4054 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@BillieBob0218RIGHT?! 'If it's a race issue that makes it spicy' like tf' only certain minority groups get consideration now????

    • @BillieBob0218
      @BillieBob0218 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@meiimacca4054 people don’t get intersectionality sometimes, and she was obviously missing the mark. I just don’t get how they ALL missed the homophobia tho

    • @meiimacca4054
      @meiimacca4054 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@BillieBob0218Same, it was RIGHT THERE. Sometimes they're good on the ally front but sometimes they are way off mark. On a lot of other things actually. For being young and mostly minority thy hold a concerning amount of trad values.

  • @genevievenylen5489
    @genevievenylen5489 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    Tell me you have no LGBTQIA friends without telling me you have no LGBTQIA friends.

    • @bradiedean7466
      @bradiedean7466 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Except they do, they've had a friend in a sapphic relationship (sediya) guest host for them many times and she talks about her girlfriend on the pod all the time, so that's not even an excuse 😭

    • @Mariethechaotic
      @Mariethechaotic 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I think Sam even has a lesbian sister (or am I completely insane?) but yeah, they definitely don't act like they know any LGBTQ people.

  • @Moey_idk
    @Moey_idk ปีที่แล้ว +84

    Your guy’s response to the first story made me mad. OPs husband had every right to be upset with the fact that he was ask to leave a picture where the whole point is it’s the siblings and their S/Os, despite being the brothers partner for 7 years he was asked to leave because it didn’t fit the “aesthetic”, which would be all straight people. Plus for all we know OPs husband has a bad bad past with homophobia. I like that OP defended his husband.

  • @danielle5561
    @danielle5561 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Story one: Bride asks her siblings and their spouses to be in a picture and then her brother’s is the only spouse excluded and they are in the wrong for leaving? Weird take!

  • @skaterchic5050
    @skaterchic5050 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    I love your pod and ive been binging it, but man that first story....Ive seen the other comments on this video. I completely agree with them. I hope you all have taken time to reflect on it.

    • @alieshalepine6630
      @alieshalepine6630 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      i really wish they responded to all the feedback, i think a lot of us are really hurt by their disregard for the sister’s blatant homophobia

  • @iheartjackieyes
    @iheartjackieyes 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I'm 7 minutes in & they really just brushed over the homophobia of all the pictures being _all siblings & their partners_ but they think the gay husband of 7 years being upset for getting kicked out of the picture is him being _childish?_
    Was anyone actually paying attention to what they were reading or what was being read? 🤨 I hope there's backpedaling when I push play & they read the comments

  • @JuanRodriguez-tf7fh
    @JuanRodriguez-tf7fh ปีที่แล้ว +70

    Even if we disregard the homophobic undertones from Story 1
    If a Bride or bride-to-be ever uses the phraise "It'll ruin the aesthetics", you know she's in the wrong😅

    • @karinagutierrez7134
      @karinagutierrez7134 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Exactly. I remember I heard of a story where this woman was pissed on behalf of her friend. She invited her close friend to be a bridesmaid and her friend initially declined, thinking it was out of pity. Her friend had hosted and helped plan multiple weddings, so she thought she had already been in multiple bridal parties, but it turns out the brides had refused to let her be in the bridal party or pictures because she would “ruin the aesthetic” because she wasn’t conventionally attractive. Even in that case, the friends who excluded her were obviously the AHs, so it’s wild they tried to defend it.
      Like getting married isn’t your get out of jail free card for being an absolutely horrible human being.

  • @kazandraerickson6782
    @kazandraerickson6782 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    The first story was clear homophobia from the bride. She wanted a picture of the siblings and their partners. Why is your brothers husband not involved? Thats BS

  • @mojojojo3212
    @mojojojo3212 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    With the dry wedding story as a Muslim it’s crazy to me that they couldn’t just have fun at a wedding for a few hours??

    • @alexiswhite1511
      @alexiswhite1511 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      It sounds like they were more upset about having made arrangements that costed extra (the hotel and Uber rides) when they could have just driven. I agree it’s not the right time to confront them but the couple definitely could have made a comment about it being a dry wedding on the invitation

  • @sarahsayed2012
    @sarahsayed2012 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Sam's opinion is mostly weird and controversial ...
    Like how the heck did you even get to that decision on the first story?!!!

  • @sukabanfoxes
    @sukabanfoxes ปีที่แล้ว +58

    That first story was like homophobia 101 like 🧍🏽 They didn't want him in the picture because they didn't want a gay couple in the picture. The "theme" of the photo was already heteronormative but it's particularly exclusionary when you know you have a gay brother who is married. Of course he would feel dejected, she just proved that no matter how long he has been in the family, he isn't accepted because of his queer identity and *that* was the issue. It's not about being excluded from the photo, rather it's about being excluded from the family.

  • @RachelABartholomeusz
    @RachelABartholomeusz ปีที่แล้ว +53

    I'm surprised you guys didn't talk about the homophobia in the first story

  • @AkumasFate
    @AkumasFate 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I’ve watched a lot of your videos and often enjoy them but this one just kind of hurt. I’d be devastated if I thought my sister was trying to exclude my partner from her wedding - and in the first story it wasn’t just about the photo, it was about the sister excluding her brother in law. I’ve been absolutely fortunate to have siblings respect and accept my partners and that it wasn’t brought up as an issue at all felt like all of you missed the connections to homophobia and familial rejection that was happening. It was never just about not being in a picture.

  • @augustus5802
    @augustus5802 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I don't even care to know her name but the lady making it seem like getting a meal from your favorite place is childish? I don't know who hurt her but to respond in the demeaning way she did. I love this podcast but the responses from everyone (except maddie) was honestly gross. I hope y'all don't have to experience that pain because it is CRUSHING to know someone doesn't want you involved in something that's important.

  • @lamoreno190
    @lamoreno190 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    For the first story about the bride asking the brothers husband to sit out, i’ve heard this AITA before and im pretty sure she asked him to sit out because she didn’t want a gay couple in her photos. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I’m 90% sure that was the reason.

  • @alieshalepine6630
    @alieshalepine6630 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    It’s really disappointing to hear everyone’s opinion on the first story. It was blatant homophobia and all of you guys said OP took it too far, it was the sisters wedding and she was allowed to choose, etc.
    Please check your internalize homophobia. this response itself has made me reconsider if i need to continue listening to your guys opinion

  • @that.ll_do_pig
    @that.ll_do_pig ปีที่แล้ว +35

    To me, in the watch story, what would have been most painful was that he said in front of everybody after he just opened gifts from his girlfriend, that the watch was the "best gift he's ever received." Of course financially, you can't compare her gifts to the watch but on an emotional level, that kind of comment would sting in the moment

    • @strawberrychocolate9383
      @strawberrychocolate9383 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Especially if gift giving is her love language. It probably felt like her love for her boyfriend couldn't compare with that of the best friend. Also did the girlfriend make the sweater herself or did she ask someone else to do it for her? Because if she made it herself, then it would have been even more heartbreaking for the girlfriend.

    • @sarahkamara7766
      @sarahkamara7766 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      For me I don’t think him stating „best gift ever received“ should be seen as a bad or hurtful thing. If it was his parents that gave that gift and he said that, I think the reaction would be totally different and less hurtful. It’s only seen as hurtful bc it was a platonic relationship not to mention a platonic female relationship. We have this tendency to place romantic relationships above platonic ones and therefore when we have ones between those of opposite gender and the two are both heterosexual or are potentially attracted to the opposite gender, there is this “threat” feeling that comes into play, even when there are no signs of “threat behaviour” I just feel if she was his sister, the gift and the comment wouldn’t have been received as poorly. There’s this idea that romantic relationships have to be so different and special that it is the only type of relationship outside of familial, that should offer great gifts and big gestures. Which is tough bc before these relationships, there were friendships. Close friendships where the people you shared your time with really knew you, and were then allowed to gift you things based on what you wanted and who you were. I just don’t believe it should completely change just bc you’re in a relationship.

    • @kellharris2491
      @kellharris2491 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      The dude was crying in happiness. It was obviously a spontaneous moment of pure joy. I can understand why the girlfriend may have felt a little jealous but this is honestly one of those times when you act like a mature adult.

  • @KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds
    @KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Story 5: it was OP saying he might not have come to the wedding if he had known there wouldn't be alcohol, that A) made OP TA, and 2) was why the bride said OP might have a drinking problem.

  • @monkeynolastname2497
    @monkeynolastname2497 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Good extra info for the watch story. It wasn't even the most expensive gift given(iirc). The group seems to all be somewhat high earners, got a few gifts that were a couple hundred Dollars, One gift was a dang painting! Def seemed like there was more insecurity on the gf from a money standpoint. Anyways Dope work! Love y'all!

    • @that.ll_do_pig
      @that.ll_do_pig ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I think it was his comment "it was the best gift he's ever gotten" that would have hurt the most.

  • @k3ls3yyk3ls
    @k3ls3yyk3ls ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Providing alcohol for a wedding is insanely expensive. It’s weird to feel entitled to alcohol at a wedding. You’re there to celebrate the couple, not to drink. And to complain about it to their face like they owed it to you to explain. They could have asked if there would be alcohol at the wedding instead of just assuming it. They’re TA.

  • @vanessasampayan4587
    @vanessasampayan4587 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Lmao! 😅 the girl saying op, and the first story was being petty, and patronizing, call, leave the spells childish, at the same time admitting her feelings would be hurt if she was excluded from our family photo! 😂 can several seats! 😂😂nah! So just because it was the sisters wedding, she can treat people Poorly, since op husband is a man, he isn’t allowed to be hurt? That’s what it sounds like. Nah if my significant other is hurt, I’m going to do anything to cheer them up! It’s not petty or patronizing!

  • @Financiallyfreeauthor
    @Financiallyfreeauthor 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    People get ridiculous with weddings. It’s not only about you. It’s about family too. How are you going to have “perfect” pictures if they were made by excluding people and hurrying feelings?

  • @KidChu404
    @KidChu404 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    God sometimes the way you guys react to stories is so horrible. How can you lack so much nuance and empathy for others? I cant be bothered with the rest of the episode like learn to take other peoples feelings into consideration and stop acting like people cant be upset about the horrible things done to them.
    Also saying OP is childish for taking his husband to his favourite restaurant after? You guys are the ones that sound childish, making a perfectly normal reaction seem like too much. What would you have preferred? That he left his partner to feel like shit for the rest of the day? Like you're calling him childish for trying to cheer up and support his partner, it's actually irritating and very gross. If this situation happened to you and your partner did nothing to help you would feel extra shit. You guys need to actually think and put yourself in the person's shoes before just saying shit because it happens too much on this podcast.

  • @jmbliss7
    @jmbliss7 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I felt quite dissapointed at the response for the first story and after that felt discouraged to listen to the rest of the video. I think the SIL was being homophobic and obviously, if my partner got disrespected and insulted like that I think I'd react the same way. I also dont understand what's childish or patronizing about taking your partner to their favorite restaurant, specially after they didn't get to eat in the wedding and his feelings were hurt.

  • @BagheeraCalvary
    @BagheeraCalvary 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Deeply disliked the “patronizing comment” on the first story, how is trying to cheer up your partner with from their favorite place like giving a child a “happy meal” or “patronizing”? Rubbed me the wrong way.

  • @shethewriter
    @shethewriter 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The watch gift would have gone over much better if they went in on it with the girlfriend as a joint gift or something. Even if you’re well off, that level of expense…that’s a statement gift.

  • @Sophirathatsme
    @Sophirathatsme ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The first story was giving passive subtle discrimination and it seem like she use the boy girl pattern as way to hide the homophobia, if she really cared that much about the pattern she should of been fine with the little sister's idea. Even if it wasn't a gay couple I think she genuinely didn't like the spouse or was jealous of them in some way. Knowing the bride's like past interactions with the spouse would help tremendously wth get intentions. I think leaving instead letting his anger build up was a better and more mature way to deal with the situations .
    For the second story the girlfriend might overreacted by accusing the op for doing it intentionally to "flex" or one up her. The girlfriend feeling of doubt is normal, but she needs to trust her boyfriend went do anything shady instead of going after op. Op can't be a homewrecker if the bestfriend doesn't consent to her wrecking the home🤷🏾‍♀️.

  • @kelseyhutmkr
    @kelseyhutmkr 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The first story either the sister doesn't like their brother in law or is homophobic because if it was truly about the aesthetic the sister standing between them would work. As soon as that was rejected its not about aesthetic anymore

  • @meelane
    @meelane 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    for the dry wedding story, the suggestion of ordering booze to someone else's wedding is insane

    • @ksingle8706
      @ksingle8706 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Why.? If you want it, you buy it. I'm already shelling out a bunch of money on other things. There are plenty of byob weddings.

  • @Bornstarpaizlee
    @Bornstarpaizlee 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I’m new to watching but have binged quite a few of these. The first stories responses and dismal is giving hella homophobic. Kinda hard to finish the rest of the podcast

  • @RadiantAnaileh
    @RadiantAnaileh 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This is the second video I have watched from you all and both times I’m disappointed by your shallow takes. The first story was obviously about homophobia. You all have a pattern of seeing mistreatment from family as normal or accepted when sometimes families can just be assholes.

  • @dramaqueen465
    @dramaqueen465 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The first story: the sister’s reaction felt homophobic, like she was invalidating the importance of her brother’s marriage

  • @YeaIc6
    @YeaIc6 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    The wedding story. Op is not the ahole its OP's job to stand up and protect their partner even if its from their own family. sister wants to take pictures with family and their partners then exclude OP's partner because she wanted a pattern then others give good suggestions then still excluded him its a bitch move and feels like it was intentionally done because she may not like him

  • @Local_Koala
    @Local_Koala ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Perfect timing! I was about to start on some errands and needed something to listen to. Thanks for the entertaining content everytime! Love y’all 🫶🏽

  • @berks3451
    @berks3451 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Bro I will never understand people being MAD alcohol isn’t at a wedding. Like yeah I get that people like to party and drink, but you’re MAD ?! I get giving the bride/groom (or whoever is paying ) a lil side eye and laughing about it later, but you’re actually upset you aren’t getting alcohol? Maybe that’s because I’ve been to MANY dry weddings. They aren’t that bad lol.

    • @berks3451
      @berks3451 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This is coming from a person who plans on having alcohol at their wedding btw

  • @schrdngrskat3847
    @schrdngrskat3847 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I laughed so hard at the "TOM TA TOM TOM" 🤣😂

  • @kellharris2491
    @kellharris2491 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Last one showing red flags. He pulled her aside and told her to stay out of their business. The way he did that sent red flags up.

  • @cutegixie
    @cutegixie ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The difference between the alcohol at this wedding and the previous one is that the previous one only had water. While I understand it's unconventional to not have it, like the hosts say it's not a requirement. It is EXPENSIVE. There are plenty of weddings I've been to there is something noticably absent because of costs. This is in comparison to the other wedding where they weren't willing to spend the $10-50 to get soda or some other alternative. Everyone has their own lines in the sand of what qualifies as bad hosts, but ig this is mine 🤷‍♀️

  • @t.e.e.t.e.a7027
    @t.e.e.t.e.a7027 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is her wedding and she absolutely has the right to ask someone to step out of the picture but the other person has the right to leave. I would have left too. My husband is my partner!

    • @alieshalepine6630
      @alieshalepine6630 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      it’s not even about that, it’s the blatant homophobia

  • @xxnarutofan123xx
    @xxnarutofan123xx ปีที่แล้ว +3

    With the watch story all of the friend's gifts were expensive, Smosh also read this story. I think there was a painting worth more than the watch.

  • @KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds
    @KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Story 2: OP is acting her wage. 16:55 btw, the financial situations y'all are describing are NOT examples of affordability.

  • @protonicPanda
    @protonicPanda 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    For the first story, I just found it weird that they couldn't go with the idea of the little sister, like what would it change in the picture in the end ? I'm wondering if there aren't any other underlying issues or comments made for OP to decide to leave the wedding like that.
    And for second story, this is only my personal experience, but I'd spent a big amount of money for my best friend if I could. But that's also each our perception, for us partner and very close friendships are on the same level, so if one of us would give each other an expensive gift, it wouldn't feel weird or out of place.

  • @taleeiee5543
    @taleeiee5543 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    With the watch I think it’s a perfectly fine gift to give to a best friend.

  • @chessiedominguez2033
    @chessiedominguez2033 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    15:31 all the friends gifts costed around 2k I think. They were all really expensive

  • @goldenmelanin2369
    @goldenmelanin2369 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Okay okay, I’m looking forward to this video. Also hey beautiful people. I hope you all have a great day✨🙏🏾

  • @kellharris2491
    @kellharris2491 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I wouldn't let someone disrespect my partner. Op didn't make a fuss he decided to leave. And nobody in his family cares because they don't see his relationship as real. Its not great being treated as less.

  • @casgallagher
    @casgallagher ปีที่แล้ว +1

    10 seconds in and I’m already losing my mind laughing

  • @kahlimarie3230
    @kahlimarie3230 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The first story - I'd be supporting my partner in this instance. It's not childish to take your husband out to his fave restaurant if you that will cheer him up plus you and him haven't eaten dinner yet. I've taken my roommate out to her fave sushi place after a terrible day after work. Sometimes your favorite food just makes things better. Not childish. What an odd take.

  • @KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds
    @KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Story 3: NTA. Stay out of my fucking pots.
    Story 4: NTA. OP's husband is clearly a happy drunk, and while I get that SIL's trauma was triggered, she's also projecting onto her brother.

  • @V.Hansen.
    @V.Hansen. 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Buying expensive gifts for people of the opposite sex is a no for me

  • @midnight_yota
    @midnight_yota 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    First story OP is definitely not the asshole. Sister in law or whoever was mad homophobic. Also they've been married. He's family at that point. Also that is my person, my ride or die. If you don't want them there then we both are riding 🤷🏾‍♂️.

  • @farahlynnou3652
    @farahlynnou3652 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Literally had to stop watching during the first story because the takes we’re just so bad

    • @mymelody589
      @mymelody589 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Right!

  • @lanamay0516
    @lanamay0516 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    On the girl best friend story personally, I think the girl best friend could’ve given that gift in a more personal setting and not at a party. I think that that part is tacky and I don’t think that the girlfriend is wrong for feeling the way that she felt however, she should at least be happy that he got a thoughtful, meaningful gift that he really was happy to get

  • @thickgrater
    @thickgrater ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Honestly, what the sister did in the first story was dumb and real weird. She could've hired a professional to edit her brother-in-law out if it was that serious.

    • @bradiedean7466
      @bradiedean7466 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Right?! Or even taken one photo with spouses and one without

  • @biancasalinas9936
    @biancasalinas9936 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Damn not watching anymore. Ignoring homophobia in the first story is wild

  • @PrettynPink78
    @PrettynPink78 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    She is not the Ahole, what she should have done was call his girl and be like, you know that watch he would die for, im in Ny and its here imma get it for his bday its a bit pricey do you have any money to put in on it? Idk I have a lot of male bf that I call brother I would call there girls first cause if they are truly bf his girl is apart of her life as well so it could've been handled differently but she not the ahole for it.

  • @LilKeezy0
    @LilKeezy0 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Story number 1, i think y’all are missing the point that OP is a man this is a gay couple.

  • @ajajohnston572
    @ajajohnston572 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Did the homophobia get completely missed from the first story?????

  • @FirstLast-lw5wh
    @FirstLast-lw5wh 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The response to the first story is all I need to see to know that I will not enjoy this episode

  • @madamereddeath1982
    @madamereddeath1982 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    22:51 I’d have to fucking fight her about the shrimp. That shit is expensive.

  • @tiyejackson-glass4659
    @tiyejackson-glass4659 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Tbh with the watch story I feel like the gf wouldn’t have cared as much had he not reacted the way he did but op definitely isn’t in the wrong like she had the ability to buy her friend of potentially 7 years a nice gift that they really wanted the gf is an A-hole because she put her insecurities over her partner’s happiness

  • @kat8455
    @kat8455 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Unrelated but I say milk the same way and have always been called out for it lmaoo

  • @mignonhagemeijer3726
    @mignonhagemeijer3726 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Pro tip: if youre going to or want to but cannot do so give an expensive gift: aks people to team up! It doesnt have to be equally devided, everyone can chip in and nobody feels left out! Its perfect :)
    And offfften the one receiving it also knows whoes the brains or biggest contributer.

  • @maliidsmith2616
    @maliidsmith2616 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The guy on the far right pisses me off every single video without fail

    • @m.s.flores
      @m.s.flores ปีที่แล้ว

      The Sam slander?? Love him!! ❤️

    • @maliidsmith2616
      @maliidsmith2616 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@m.s.flores He’s 85% for me, but without fail I feel like once per video where I’m punching my screen at one of his takes. But that’s the beauty, can’t agree with everyone, why they’re so great. I commented out of anger during the first storu

    • @m.s.flores
      @m.s.flores ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@maliidsmith2616 we've all been there! Haha 😊

  • @JosefinaQB
    @JosefinaQB 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I never thought i would disagree with yalls opinions especially for something like that first story- disappointing

    • @alieshalepine6630
      @alieshalepine6630 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      more than disappointing, it’s extremely hurtful. how did they not realize the blatant homophobia and even AGREED to ops sister. i’m disgusted

  • @kayleebritt1879
    @kayleebritt1879 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    where tf did your guy’s response come from? it was so random

  • @Mariethechaotic
    @Mariethechaotic 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm glad the comments section caught the homophobia because these people are way too cishet to clock that. The guest thinking that op was female despite him saying at the intro and it being why it "ruined the aesthetic" is the definition of heteronormativity

  • @user-es4br8zv7h
    @user-es4br8zv7h 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    S2, she’s NTA, think this was just an issue b/c of the bf reaction compared to everyone else’s.

  • @SunflowerQueen89
    @SunflowerQueen89 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    14:15 maybe she was trying to save up for it. My fiancé tells me a bunch of stuff he wants or likes and in the back of mind i get excited on how I would love to save up and surprise him with such a great gift.. also who says the Bf was actually in agreement she could have lied about that.

  • @owethudlamini5259
    @owethudlamini5259 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I don’t get how Brandon got she’s struggling to pay this when she said “ I can afford this “ but otherwise I can see what you mean if she couldn’t and it was a struggle but it doesn’t sound like that from the story😂

  • @cristinaolmos8403
    @cristinaolmos8403 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    About the 2nd topic. One of my besties and her boyfriend are REALLY well financially speaking, they can afford literally ANYTHING. The boyfriend always gets me and my other best friend hella expensive gifts on special occasions, and my boyfriend has NEVER felt insecure about that. He even gets hella excited with me and even jokes about “this is awesome, you and (sometimes) I, (bc my bestie’s bf sometimes gets presents for my bf too) get amazing gifts and I don’t have to spend a penny! LOL!”.
    The girlfriend is just being insecure, we are literally in the year 2023, isn’t it time for men and women to have platonic relationships without being judged or treated like we have some sort of affair or “sus” behavior? Like bffr!
    Also, a while ago I got my male bestie a comic he had been searching for A, for his birthday. He opened every gift while we were chilling in the living room. Later that night he messaged me saying “I’m sorry Cris, my girlfriend felt overshadowed by your gift and she thinks we have a strange relationship without boundaries, she feels like I care more about you than her and I don’t want her to think that… so let’s stop seen el for a while okay?” Hello? boundaries for what? it’s not like I kiss him or rub my boobs on his chest while hugging him or something, smh. We just say “I love you” because we DO love eachother. GIRL I HAVE KNOWN THIS BOY SINCE WE WERE 12 YEARS OLD WE ARE 22 NOW ITS BEEN 10 YEARS OF FRIENDSHIP, YOU’VE KNOWN HIM FOR 6 MONTHS😭 I don’t mean to be an AH but I just can’t wait for them to break up so he finds a nice girl that is mature enough to want to be MY FRIEND TOO, I would LOVE to be friends with my bestie’s partner. But no, me and him used to hangout at least once a month to catch up. I haven’t seen him since that day on his birthday, that’s was March last year… I miss my bro😭

    • @armanistewart5146
      @armanistewart5146 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      i’m sorry you lost your friend, but imo, i feel like the stories are similar but not the same.
      Yes, i would be happy for my SO friends to gift them something nice and expensive, i think where the insecurities comes from the reaction of the SO. which i find understandable.
      I compare it kinda to let’s say you’re 16 and want a car but your parents couldn’t afford one, so a rich family member just gifts it for you. You’re absolutely going to be over the moon for the gift you want, but your parents, while putting of a smile, could feel overshadowed and hurt by the reality someone else provided the joy and happiness to you that they couldn’t bring. not saying other people can’t make the child happy it’s just the level in which the child reacts holds weight, same in this OP. so the gf probably happy he got the gift he actually wanted was just hurt by the reaction and frustrated she couldn’t be the one to make him react that way.
      Now here’s the other part i take from it. you said you and your friend known each other 10yrs. so you probably know him like the back of your hand, how he reacts, thinks, what would make him mad or happy, same with this Bff here. So with knowing that about him, her wanting it to be opened last she knew what type of reaction he was going to have, but not what he would’ve said i.e. “this the best gift ever” etc. knowing that was a little malicious and seems a bit selfish. she could’ve just let him open it whenever but her telling him open it last, overshadows not only the gf but the rest of the friends and party guests too, the gf would just have more of a reaction than everyone else because she’s the SO and sleeps next to him, try to be the one to bring him the most joy.

    • @armanistewart5146
      @armanistewart5146 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      In no way do i feel the Bff is wrong or AH. but when she requested it to be last one open i feel she knew what type of reaction was going to come. just not the drama afterwards

  • @ciavasquesholder4108
    @ciavasquesholder4108 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Came from TikTok for the best friend story 😂

  • @DeadMeatWalkingKaz
    @DeadMeatWalkingKaz ปีที่แล้ว +2

    THE OUTSHINE TRANSITION DESERVED THAT APPLAUSE EFFECT

    • @mad3695
      @mad3695 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ik! It was so smooth that I missed it 😢 but Sam deserve that applause on time FOR SURE❤

    • @DeadMeatWalkingKaz
      @DeadMeatWalkingKaz ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mad3695 The awkward silence MADE IT so much funnier and Sam will realize this if he watches it back.

  • @vwgreen77
    @vwgreen77 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really enjoy Sam's "transition face" at 29:33

  • @jbkko
    @jbkko 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Huge disappointment to everyones response ls to sorry 1. Yall MUST have misunderstood the story. Huge L, respect lost tbh 🤷‍♀️

  • @michelleconn8729
    @michelleconn8729 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    They could have taken pictures with and without the partner so they still had the pictures they wanted without leaving anyone out .

  • @Trinitheiimakeup
    @Trinitheiimakeup 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    First story…idk wgat ur on, weddings are about celebrating, not pictures being aesthetic, and it was absolutely homophonic

  • @imanster5713
    @imanster5713 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    This is the second video where the panelists weren’t able to see a true issue about a story. The very clear homophobia in this one and the where a husband was talking about SA his wife to her coworkers. I’m glad y’all are able to grow and learn, but it really taints certain episodes when you guys have a full discussion completely missing the point. Still listen to the show because it isn’t all the time but please be more careful during these discussions or maybe include points from the original Reddit thread to aid y’all or guide conversation to improve understanding. And then share your thoughts from there, especially if it’s something you’re not familiar with.

  • @KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds
    @KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Story 1: NTA. Bride can do whatever she wants for her wedding, *and* she can't dictate how other people feel about her actions.

  • @totallytubular9392
    @totallytubular9392 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The opinions on the first story was so disappointing. It’s obviously homophobic or just downright mean/exclusionary.

  • @charlottedobson1638
    @charlottedobson1638 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    2nd story: $2500 gift for a man with a gf is inappropriate

  • @MandA1900
    @MandA1900 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    When guys wife gets insulted by the husband’s family/friends everyone says what kind of a real man doesn’t stand up for her but on one can say that unless the same applies both ways and that’s what she was doing standing up for him, also the aesthetic of the photos was probably an excuse for simply excluding him which makes me think she has had issues with him for a long time and uses every opportunity to make remarks and that was just the twig that broke the camels back

  • @jessicamadany4425
    @jessicamadany4425 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've said milk the same way my dude had to correct me n I never new I said it until he pointed it out

  • @sophiemarquez2042
    @sophiemarquez2042 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    wow your guys take on the first story was so bad.

  • @vanessasampayan4587
    @vanessasampayan4587 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    POV! I wouldn’t be mad, if this person never returns! Idk if it was the first story, that made feel like BEC! 😂

  • @vlad_ussr8390
    @vlad_ussr8390 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The wedding one, I would say not the asshole, as it is expected and should be warned especially in a friend group of drinkers. Wrong timing, yes and rude but alcohol can be a big part of a culture.