+AmandasChronicles Your pert of this really hit me and honestly I am really proud that you are now you and I can;t wait till I am confident enough to be me
This made me so emotional. Coming out to my dad was so hard and he was so against it and gave me such a hard time. He told me if I tried to make him call me by my name/pronouns that he would stop allowing me to go by my name/pronouns completely. It came so close. He almost made me get rid of my TH-cam channel and everything else if I didn't change my name back to my birth name.
"but you're still going to hell" Damn that really, really broke my heart. If my child came out to me I don't think I would ever stop hugging them. It takes a lot of courage to come out despite it being something as simple as your sexuality. I hope one day people won't have to come out the same way as they do now and that it will just be a common thing which it is slowly starting to become. Thank you for uploading this video! It was very inspirational and I hope that it has opened peoples eyes. If you are going to come out I hope it goes well and if you are struggling remember, you are perfect the way you are and no matter what happens there are always people out there who love and support you! :) x
+Timmy Timato Hey man, I never came across your channel until Ashley featured you here. Can I just say how fucking hooked you got me only with your presentation? I had to pause the video and check your material right away and indeed, my suspicions were right: you're hilarious and if I wasn't closeted I'd even say cute (fuck wut?) You got a faithful new subscriber here. Keep it up!!
if my child ends up being gay, I don't want him to have to make it this big anxiety causing thing.Idon'twant him to think it's a big deal. It shouldn't have to be an announcement. I want him tojust bring his boyfriend to me, like he would a girlfriend, introduce us, and eat some fucking pizza with me
So I just woke up, and watching this was the first thing I did. You did a beautiful job! I love it so much and I'm so honoured to be a part of this video with all of you beautiful and inspiring people! I hope that this can provide some form of help or insight to anyone who needs it.
+EmbraceTheWeirdness Hey! I just read your story and thought maybe I could help c: Have you explained to her that asexual just means that you have no interest in sex? I personally identify as ace-flux and the way I explained it to my mom was I told her that I can sometimes be interested in sex, but other times feel no desire for it. I also explained that didn't mean I couldn't have a romantic relationship, it just meant that I'd be more interested in cuddling or romantic dinners rather than getting laid xD Once I explained it like that she was able to understand and was totally fine with it :3
Laura Schlieselhuber my dad said, "ok" and then he continued to watch tv, and my mom just asked a lot of awkward questions, even tho the first one was "why??" but then she came around to get it
The way I honestly came out was on my first gay prifde parad. I had colourd my neck rainbow and as leaving I shouted through the house "I'M GAY BITCHES!!" My dad spat out his water laughing it was funny af, my mom and dad fully accepted me. But it's sad that not everyone can have parants like that.
You're lucky, my parents would send me to the Bermuda triangle to disappear forever, I posted this post about a girl and my parents got so mad, they were about to whoop me to mars, and if I ever cussed, oh my god you don't want to know
When I told my mom I was bisexual she just said "yeah, ok" then she asked if I liked men or women more, but it was in a non intrusive funny way.. She was fine with it & said she just wanted me to be happy. & find someone who loved me like I deserved to be loved. I have the best Mum in the world. I could tell she didn't really understand it, she grew up in a very different generation, but even if she didn't really get it she was going to support me no matter what! I am very lucky to have a Mum like that. I know that's not how it goes for many people. Like some in this video.
My mom was like, "what makes you think that?" and I'm like, "because I'm attracted to girls and boys?" (I'm actually pan but I kind of pulled an Amanda and told my mom something she might be more comfortable with)
I'm ftm and pansexual. I am NOT OUT to my family. A few months ago I thought I would be good if I came out. But I started wearing guy clothes and i guess my mom overheard the videos I was watching and saw my LGBT account on Instagram (if you wanna follow me it's lgbt.bros) and she started becoming really religious. Like she just really all of a sudden started going to church more, praying more often, and just flat out talking about Jesus more and stuff. I don't know if this is a coincidence or what but it made me super insecure about coming out. But like most people say "you don't need to come out unless you can't hold it back anymore or if you REALLY need to" I had the urge to come out last night but I couldn't think of what my parents would do, especially my mom. I feel like we already don't have a good relationship and coming out wouldn't help. She wouldn't kick me out until I would be able to sustain myself or until I'm actually 18. Thanks to whoever is reading this.. Much love.
Annabelle G I have learned something, having "accepting" parents sucks. My mom outed me to my aunt because she thinks it is no big deal and she is CONSTANTLY trying to get me to date boys (I was assigned male at birth but I am agender but she think I am gay, even though I came out to her as pan) when I am not emotionally ready too date anyone. She is constantly bugs me whenever I look at clothes in the women's sections and it seems like she is flaunting me around like some kind of proof she is a true SJW because she is sooo accepting of her "son." She is also an atheist which to me makes her extremely unpredictable in my eyes (because I am religious). She really lives by no code, except her own which is twisted and odd. If your mother is a really follows the Bible she will love you.
1:28 THAT IS EXACTLY MY SITUATION IM SO GLAD I SAW THIS THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH ASH no really thank you so much you have no idea how much this means to me
So, I'm pansexual and genderfluid, and I had to come out to my parents four times. The first time was when I was about 16 or 17 and I told them I was bisexual (I had no idea about pansexuality or other genders). My dad was extremely accepting, but my mom told me it was a phase, even though she'd had a gay brother. As an already depressed person, hearing that your feelings aren't valid can drive you further in to depression, and that's what it did to me. I almost went to the hospital psych ward for wanting to kill myself (wouldn't have been my first time). The second time I came out was earlier this year, around January 2015. My college has an LGBT group and I'd started attending meetings. My dad, who'd become incredibly homophobic over the past couple of years after suffering an illness and turning more toward Christianity, told me that he didn't want the club to turn me gay. I told him that wasn't how being gay worked and he walked off. Then I told my mom, "Actually...I do like girls. I like guys, too, but I'm just as inclined to date a girl." She told me that a past friend, who was bi, had ruined me and had somehow turned me bi, too. I told her that wasn't the case, that I'd known long before I'd ever met this friend that I liked girls, but that when I did meet this friend, I was at the age that I was starting to explore and question sexuality more. She told me that's why she'd thought it was a phase when I was a teen, which I understood. She still doesn't like the idea of me dating girls, but she still loves me and hasn't told me I'm going to hell. Yay! She was also the one who told my dad because she was worried what his reaction would be. He was okay with it, but I can't bring up anything LGBT without him getting pissy and without me getting pissy back. The third time I came out, I told my mom I was pansexual, giving her a label and definition rather than just "Yeah, I like chicks and dudes." I had to explain what non-binary was, and though she was confused, she was cool with it. I have no idea if she told my dad or not. The fourth time I came out, I told my mom I was genderfluid and explained what it meant. Again, she was confused, but accepted it. I think I brought up my genderfluidity when my dad was in the car and I was talking about going by a more androgynous name, which neither of them liked. The reason I came out so many times was because this was not a bandaid type of situation. I couldn't rip away the straight and show them the rainbow underneath without them freaking the fuck out. They are uber-Christians, too, who believe that being gay is a sin and that gay people shouldn't be able to get married. My dad, like I said, is super homophobic, so I was worried that he'd flip his gourd if I said "I'm pansexual and genderfluid, and here's what that means." I still have to quote the Bible at them, give them theologian theories, and give them scientific evidence that being gay is natural, but I have a roof over my head and they don't hate me. I could be doing worse.
Idk how anyone can be mean to people for how they feel. It makes me super bummed when i see anyone get mistreated, we are all people trying to live on this earth and do our own thing. If you like boys, you can like boys. If you like girls, you can like girls. Homophobia is something that occurs in one animal on earth and that is humans, it makes me glad to see that it is slowly going away but it makes me want to throw up thinking that it is still a thing.
When people come out to their parents, most people have issues with their dad. Turns out, the only reason I came out to by dad was BECAUSE he would be absolutely fine with it! My mom has no idea, but my dad started telling me about Lgbt relatives. Soon enough, my dad and I took a trip to meet all of them. I feel so accepted in my family now (^°^)
Same with my dad, but I'm still afraid of telling him. I just don't want him to tell my brother cause my brother would tell my mom and she would literally kill me or toss me out into the street. There's already so much tension around her and in her house. (My parents are divorced so it's kind of nice that I get to escape to my dads house, but it still feels incomplete that he doesn't know)
Same with my dad, but I'm still afraid of telling him. I just don't want him to tell my brother cause my brother would tell my mom and she would literally kill me or toss me out into the street. There's already so much tension around her and in her house. (My parents are divorced so it's kind of nice that I get to escape to my dads house, but it still feels incomplete that he doesn't know)
I just came out to my mom I was talking to her and we were discussing things and she was talking about boys and she could tell I was uncomfortable and asked why I said I was ok but moms can tell and asked if I was gay and I hugged her and cried and she said she could tell I was different and unique and said she would always love me and that she could now joke about girls with me like she does with my straight brother and now I am so happy 😁
I was forced to come out. I told my one friend that I might be a lesbian but I don't know for sure yet. Then my friend called my mom and straight up told her I was a lesbian. My mom confronted me about it and I told her I don't know. I do know, but... I really wasn't ready.
my family thinks I'm gay because I never had a long time boyfriend . but I haven't had a bf because my last bf forced me into sex so I haven't gotten close to anyone and now I never want to, I'm scared of being used again.
The number one question i get from my viewers is "how do i come out" or "what do i do if my parents are un-accepting". This video is so incredible and helpful. AND YES ALL MY FAVES.
I have been hiding that I'm gay for 4 years and I'm 15 years old now I'm afraid bc my mom is very religious and often tells me gays go to tell and that's just the way it is while my step dad is so homophic my sister is the same way the only people who I think would love no matter what are aunt and uncle and my grandpa I just keep thinking I only have 3 more years of this shit
I always saw miles as a crazy happy go lucky TH-camr and I never saw this side of them... gosh my heart 😭 so much respect and my love has grown so much more! 😭💕my heart broke, I never knew they didn't have the support because they always showed so so much 😭
I recently started the process of coming out as bisexual, and I can attest to the fact I have become way more confident, as I've come to accept myself more, as well as express myself more honestly and completely. I'm still learning about this aspect of myself and how it translates to my interactions with other people, but it's a very good journey to be on so far.
agreed! i had a less agreeable coming out which is basically i've come out as lesbian because my parents dont believe in bisexuality so... there's that. at least they were chill about it... just a bit annoying when i comment on a guy being cute my mum just goes "are you straight again??" lol
Kittykar Thanks for asking :P I am actually going to give you a sincere answer. Well I was too nervous so I told her over text. She told me she needed time to process it. Then a while later she sent me a few messages saying fairly positive things (although I know she is against homosexuality). So I think she was trying really hard to be kind and she did way better than I ever expected. That said, it's still an uncomfortable topic around her and she hasn't mentioned it to me in person and I haven't brought it up since. It is just a relief that she knows so I don't have to feel like I am hiding! And she told the rest of my family so I guess I don't have to. Lol!
I didn't have a choice in coming out to my parents .. I made the mistake of telling "friends" first .. Someone had called my house and told them I was dating a girl (I came out as bisexual at this time) I came home and was verbally attacked by my parents .. I blocked out a lot of it so I don't remember it well but basically I was banned from seeing her .. After awhile of sneaking behind my parents backs my gf told me I had to tell them I was a lesbian (I was forced to go to prom with a boy) so after being fired from my job I went home and told them .. My mom cried and slammed her door and my dad came flying down the stairs and yelled at me .. I yelled back.. I left the house going for a walk .. My dad found me eventually .. We drove around and he gave me some speech and it basically ended with "we don't except this but we will tolerate it" .. It was terrible .. I now don't live labeling myself as anything .. I just love who I love
+Persn Randm I am currently dating a male so i guess ya cuz it's more the norm now but I fell in love with him for his personality and him not his gender .. My parents don't get it so we don't talk about it
I haven't told my family yet I don't even know if I'm gay or bi but i think they have already guessed but I don't care because my family's very supportive my mum said she doesn't care if I'm gay straight bi trans as long as I'm not vegan
Ok, so i just did the most cop-out coming out ever by writing my mom a 9 page letter about how ive been feeling and how my family has been treating me, and at the very end i come out as bi. an i just handed it to her, not telling her what it is, and told her to read it when she has time to devote all of her thinking to it and then i started freaking out but i decided to watch this video again because you are one of my favorite youtubers and the video really helped me calm down, especially Amanda's story because i kind of have a feeling that that's how it's going to go, and im feeling more confident in myself and i feel like i can handle the question and possible disappointment now. and im also really excited about finally sharing the real me with the world and not having to censor my thoughts and opinions around my family anymore. so thank you.
My coming out lasted like a year. I started dressing masculine, including binding, for a year before i actually told my mom that I was transgender. She immediately said basically, 'I love you, but you're not actually trans." And being the anxious, dependent, paranoid little queer that i am, I was like 'Yeah... okay... please don't kick me out." and left it at that. Then about six months later my sister kind of figured it out and was like 'why do you dress like a dude' to which I responded 'Because I'm a dude' and she responded basically in the same way as my mother. After that they've slowly accepted I'm going to transition, but still don't use my name or pronouns. It's been 3 years so far, and while they will nod and not start an argument now if I day 'Alec' when they say my deadname, they never say it outloud themselves. It kinda sucks, but it could be worse. They also still think me being ace/aro is from my PTSD, which is annoying but oh well.
+Alec Wilder I'm in a similar situation where my family doesn't acknowledge my gender. Hopefully you have or are able to make some friends that will call you Alec and use your pronouns :3 good luck!!
Ashli Scantlebury I don't know if you'd rather have Alec explain this, but in general, ace/aro (asexual and aromantic) people don't feel romantic or sexual attraction. If you're still confused about it I can explain further or you could always look it up! (AVEN wiki is always a good resource to use if you don't know where to start! :3)
+Alec Wilder woah, my mom said the exact same thing when I came out as trans. My dad just stopped talking to me. My parents are divorced so I have absolutely no contact with my dad and my mom constantly misgenders me and calls me by my deadname. The worst part is how bad she speaks of the lgbt community; after the last time she apologized but only so I would speak to her again, I know she didn't really mean it. I never really came out as ace tho, I figured my sex life (or lack of) is only my business. Besides, after the first fiasco I thought I was better off not saying anything else.
This is why I'm scared to come out about gender! I'm not trans, I'm pretty gender fluid but my family thinks that doesn't exist. I've been going by my middle name all school year because it's pretty gender less, like me. My siblings never call me it and my mom does only sometimes. My dad is the best with it because I think he gets what it's really about.
I had a super big opportunity to come out to both my parents at the same time and i blew it and said "no, i dont have anything to tell you" bruh i had so many spots that would have been perfect to come out but noooooo.
I came out to my parents as bisexual and they pretty much did the same thing Amanda's parents did saying "Well you're just doing it because it's whats in right now, but when you get older it will stop. I came out to my parents 2 years ago and they still don't accept it.
My parents think that I'm a lesbian... My parents are kind of closet homophobes, if it's someone they don't know they can ignore it, but they don't support it. They believe that if you are not gay you shouldn't care about gay people or learn about homosexuality. I started taking an interest in the subject a few years ago, and my mom automatically thought I had something to tell her. I am not sure if I'm straight, but I'm not gay and I'm not in a hurry to stamp myself with a label, I just want to learn. Knowing about the lgbtq community doesn't make me gay!
ash you made me cry oml at the end when people said now they can be themselves out loud and what is sad is i cant and ill get punished if i do but jesus you make me feel so good about myself.
I've been super lucky with my family and friends being so accepting. Both my mom and brother are gay, so I knew they'd completely accept me. The hardest part was figuring out for myself that I'm bisexual. I didn't make a huge deal about coming out, I just wrote a quote about it on a chalkboard in my room and didn't lie when something about it came up. A lot of my friends aren't straight either, and if anything it's improved my relationships with them. I'm just really thankful that everyone has been so okay with me, and I hope that someday everybody can have the same experience I've had.
I came out as pan to my mother and my best friend today and they were so supportive. When I told my mom she said that my cousin (who's a male) that he had admitted to having crushes on boys before to his parents and that that made me feel so much better.
It's so hard to use the pronoun "they" to describe one person. I feel like we need to create a new pronoun that is non-gender specific, and is singular.
I used to think this too, since many of us have been taught over and over that "they" is a plural pronoun and I've always been obnoxious about grammar. But it turns out that you can unlearn these things, even if you are a grammar nut. Introducing a gender-neutral singular pronoun would be great but really hard, whereas "they" is already widely used as a singular pronoun in many situations. Agender/genderfluid people don't need any more obstacles, so I think we should just try to teach ourselves not to view "they" as plural.
+Hannah Kiesel there are some but some people prefer gay. i jsut wanted to mention that there are grammatically there are times in english where you use they singularly anyway. just let people use the pronouns they want whether or not you're capable of using them correctly or not.
it's hard to get used to but once people are accustomed to using it is easier. if we were raised to think they/them can be both singular and plural it wouldn't even be a question. for me using they/them pronouns is comforting and hearing others refer to me by it makes me so happy. so it's all about personal preference.
This topic goes kinda deep for me. Although I define as a cis gender female I try to be as accepting as I can and include it in my daily work/life. One time, my English teacher was handing back our essays and one of the comments she made on mine was incorrect pronoun usage. Instead of writing he/she I wrote they so that I could cover ALL genders. At the time I was frankly quite scared of her and too scared to say anything but I was flustered and upset. Now I would find a separate time to talk to the teacher and help educate her. Sometimes it's important to just except people the way they are whether it's challenging or not. Just be you and do your best to say people's pronouns. Everyone's learning and as long as you do your best all will be good.
The way i see things is that you shouldn't have thoughts where you are like "hey i should tell people i am gay" or any sexuality like that because it should just be normal, i mean you don't go around telling people "hey i'm straight" and the reason for that is because it's the 'normal' and more 'acceptable' thing to be, this coming from a bi-sexual girl who is proud asf to be bi xD but i don't really see a point in telling people, because you should be able to like what you like without being questioned or judged and if people don't like you for being yourself then those people aren't worth shit xx
I watched this before I came out and it helped me have the strengh... And I cried so much... And I'm still watching it and crying, fully out. thank you so much for this... and Ps this first exposed me to Amanda and Timmy
I love that all the others are so serious then Timmy is like "I opened the closet and was ready to walk my gay ass out"
Right when I was reading your comment he said that
+What the Hell Phan PHAM!
+Maia Nelson YASS
Ikr
Lol
This video was amazing Ashley!!! :) really happy to be apart of it.
+AmandasChronicles Your pert of this really hit me and honestly I am really proud that you are now you and I can;t wait till I am confident enough to be me
+AmandasChronicles
ily Amanda!
Amanda, I love your videos! You are such an inspiration!
Amanda ily you amazing human being 💜
This made me so emotional. Coming out to my dad was so hard and he was so against it and gave me such a hard time. He told me if I tried to make him call me by my name/pronouns that he would stop allowing me to go by my name/pronouns completely. It came so close. He almost made me get rid of my TH-cam channel and everything else if I didn't change my name back to my birth name.
+ChandlerNWilson Ah, I can't even imagine how difficult that would be. Well, you have all my love and support
but your name is so awesome😂
:((
+ChandlerNWilson I honestly care about you a lot and, I'm sorry you had to go through that! I give you * hugs *
+ChandlerNWilson Also you should know I'm Agenderflux and you gave me the courage to come out to my mom!
Amanda: I'm gay.
Amanda: I've never said that blatantly on TH-cam before
Me: OH HOW THINGS HAVE CHANGED
Sinnamon Roll Miles**
Sinnamon Roll
It's almost every episode now XD
Sinnamon Roll YES XDDD
No Thanks true and miles
to be honest! miles always talking about how he's gay 😂😂😂
Amandas story is really sad but now she is my most-ish beloved TH-camr and has good manners. :3
I see what you did there
And that's what matters :3
+Twenty Øne Phangirls AMANDA
^ AMANDA
HAS GOOD MANNNERS
AND THAT'S
WHAT MATTERS
AMANDA!!!!
ALSO HI PHAM
"but you're still going to hell"
Damn that really, really broke my heart. If my child came out to me I don't think I would ever stop hugging them. It takes a lot of courage to come out despite it being something as simple as your sexuality. I hope one day people won't have to come out the same way as they do now and that it will just be a common thing which it is slowly starting to become. Thank you for uploading this video! It was very inspirational and I hope that it has opened peoples eyes. If you are going to come out I hope it goes well and if you are struggling remember, you are perfect the way you are and no matter what happens there are always people out there who love and support you! :) x
This turned out SO SO AMAZING! Thank you for asking me to be a part of this boo!
Hi! You seem like a really hilarious person, I subscribed!
+Lianne Dekker aw thank you!
+Femke van Saane hi!!!
+Timmy Timato Hey man, I never came across your channel until Ashley featured you here. Can I just say how fucking hooked you got me only with your presentation? I had to pause the video and check your material right away and indeed, my suspicions were right: you're hilarious and if I wasn't closeted I'd even say cute (fuck wut?)
You got a faithful new subscriber here. Keep it up!!
+Roberto Llanto Such a sweet comment. 😊 I hope he sees it because it'll make him really happy.
Leave your story or any advice you have in the comments. I'll be hanging out for a while to read and chat :)
+Ashley Mardell i luff u
Ashley I have a question: I'm 17 and bisexual. Is it too early for me to come out?
+Ashley Mardell A really great video! I was really impressed by the way you put this together.
+Joel Cuellar May I answer your question?
thank you so so muxh for making this video! but how does it come you allways find such great youtubers? :D
Awh Timmy 😂😂 " I OPENED THE CLOSEST DOOR AND WALKED MA GAY ASS OUT " I LOVE HIM SO MUCH 😂😂
Same 😂❤
"That was when the Fire Nation attacked" Oh Amanda, you made me laugh at that reference XD
Yes i love her so much
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if my child ends up being gay, I don't want him to have to make it this big anxiety causing thing.Idon'twant him to think it's a big deal. It shouldn't have to be an announcement. I want him tojust bring his boyfriend to me, like he would a girlfriend, introduce us, and eat some fucking pizza with me
YES
YASSSS TRUE THATT
What if he's vegan?
Umm...OK? So what. His decisions
+Maria Ungureanu Vegans can have pizza
So I just woke up, and watching this was the first thing I did. You did a beautiful job! I love it so much and I'm so honoured to be a part of this video with all of you beautiful and inspiring people!
I hope that this can provide some form of help or insight to anyone who needs it.
+HeyoDamo Thanks so much for sharing your story boo
+HeyoDamo your awesome!
Heyooooo damo!!!
+EmbraceTheWeirdness Hey! I just read your story and thought maybe I could help c:
Have you explained to her that asexual just means that you have no interest in sex? I personally identify as ace-flux and the way I explained it to my mom was I told her that I can sometimes be interested in sex, but other times feel no desire for it. I also explained that didn't mean I couldn't have a romantic relationship, it just meant that I'd be more interested in cuddling or romantic dinners rather than getting laid xD Once I explained it like that she was able to understand and was totally fine with it :3
+PC72 Charlesworth ace lesbian or just you...
"Huh. Cool. What do you want for dinner ?"
BEST REACTION EVER.
+Laura Schlieselhuber One of my friends came out to me and my reaction was "Happens."
Well my brother said "OOOOooooh..."
Laura Schlieselhuber my dad said, "ok" and then he continued to watch tv, and my mom just asked a lot of awkward questions, even tho the first one was "why??" but then she came around to get it
The way I honestly came out was on my first gay prifde parad. I had colourd my neck rainbow and as leaving I shouted through the house "I'M GAY BITCHES!!" My dad spat out his water laughing it was funny af, my mom and dad fully accepted me. But it's sad that not everyone can have parants like that.
EDIT: leaving the house to go there.
This story is lovely
Myrest Thank you XD
You're lucky, my parents would send me to the Bermuda triangle to disappear forever, I posted this post about a girl and my parents got so mad, they were about to whoop me to mars, and if I ever cussed, oh my god you don't want to know
Raven 😂 you made my day 😂
I love how they included asexual and pansexual!
Who else want "YAY!!!" When Amanda came on the screen
me
i screamed "QUEEN"
Yes mom
ME THO
Human Hotera meeeeeeeee AF
I feel so bad for Amanda everyone was like so loving and then Amanda's parents like kick her out I feel so bad omg😩
"I was ready to walk my gay ass out"
I died at that bit XD
I'm gonna wait until I move out to come out. My parents are super openly homophobic, which I don't want to deal with.
same
me too...
yep same
the youtuber boyinaband have a song called Spectrum that is about having to wait to come out until you are in a safe place
Sam Winchester hi Sam Winchester
Amanda: "I have never blatantly said that on TH-cam before"
Me: oh get ready past Amanda
Do you know her TH-cam channel?
AMANDA HAS GOOD MATTERS AND THAT WHAT MATTERS
*MANNERS
Gerard? wow i had no clue you watched Amanda
*miles
MILES has good manners and that's what matters!
MILES HAS GOOD MANNERS AND THATS WHAT MATTERS
"That was when the fire nation attacked"
THANK YOU for that
Avatar!
Amanda's story always makes me emo asf
god damn it does the phandom stop like ever
protip isn't even funny
Phan Trash ik
i follow amanda and her story always fucks me up..
Miles is my BOI!
(Lmao)
Yessssssss
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yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaasaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaas
YAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSSSS
When I told my mom I was bisexual she just said "yeah, ok" then she asked if I liked men or women more, but it was in a non intrusive funny way.. She was fine with it & said she just wanted me to be happy. & find someone who loved me like I deserved to be loved. I have the best Mum in the world. I could tell she didn't really understand it, she grew up in a very different generation, but even if she didn't really get it she was going to support me no matter what! I am very lucky to have a Mum like that. I know that's not how it goes for many people. Like some in this video.
My mom was like, "what makes you think that?" and I'm like, "because I'm attracted to girls and boys?" (I'm actually pan but I kind of pulled an Amanda and told my mom something she might be more comfortable with)
I'm ftm and pansexual. I am NOT OUT to my family. A few months ago I thought I would be good if I came out. But I started wearing guy clothes and i guess my mom overheard the videos I was watching and saw my LGBT account on Instagram (if you wanna follow me it's lgbt.bros) and she started becoming really religious. Like she just really all of a sudden started going to church more, praying more often, and just flat out talking about Jesus more and stuff. I don't know if this is a coincidence or what but it made me super insecure about coming out. But like most people say "you don't need to come out unless you can't hold it back anymore or if you REALLY need to" I had the urge to come out last night but I couldn't think of what my parents would do, especially my mom. I feel like we already don't have a good relationship and coming out wouldn't help. She wouldn't kick me out until I would be able to sustain myself or until I'm actually 18. Thanks to whoever is reading this.. Much love.
Annabelle G I have learned something, having "accepting" parents sucks. My mom outed me to my aunt because she thinks it is no big deal and she is CONSTANTLY trying to get me to date boys (I was assigned male at birth but I am agender but she think I am gay, even though I came out to her as pan) when I am not emotionally ready too date anyone. She is constantly bugs me whenever I look at clothes in the women's sections and it seems like she is flaunting me around like some kind of proof she is a true SJW because she is sooo accepting of her "son." She is also an atheist which to me makes her extremely unpredictable in my eyes (because I am religious). She really lives by no code, except her own which is twisted and odd. If your mother is a really follows the Bible she will love you.
I love Amanda! She has good manners and that's what matters
But in all seriousness, I admire her a lot & cried at her story!
Same
Rainbow Popcorn they weren't miles 10 months ago
Chandler was the reason I found out what agender was and that I was agender so I love this video so much
Amy Jade same.
1:28 THAT IS EXACTLY MY SITUATION IM SO GLAD I SAW THIS THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH ASH
no really thank you so much you have no idea how much this means to me
im pansexual...
huh kewl... what do you want for dinner?
😂😂😂
I burst out laughing at that at that
Is anyone else crying...
yeah
+HeyItsLei but mcr
Im crafting
CAN I FUCKING HUG AMANDA PLEASE
Brendon Urie's Child you can hug meeee
DO YOU LIKE P!ATD?!?!,! I fucking love em
Can't concentrate on the video because amandas eyes are too awesome.
zwusel27 I FUCKING KNOW RIGHT!? Miles' EYES are amazingnnngngngngggn
You no what my mom is right behind me watching TV and I am going to come out and nothing can stop me!
How did it go?
Did you do it?? How did it go?
I never did it I just sat next to her and watched TV ;-;
Nova The Werewolf aw :( well, do it when you feel safe! If she's supportive I say go for it!
So, I'm pansexual and genderfluid, and I had to come out to my parents four times. The first time was when I was about 16 or 17 and I told them I was bisexual (I had no idea about pansexuality or other genders). My dad was extremely accepting, but my mom told me it was a phase, even though she'd had a gay brother. As an already depressed person, hearing that your feelings aren't valid can drive you further in to depression, and that's what it did to me. I almost went to the hospital psych ward for wanting to kill myself (wouldn't have been my first time).
The second time I came out was earlier this year, around January 2015. My college has an LGBT group and I'd started attending meetings. My dad, who'd become incredibly homophobic over the past couple of years after suffering an illness and turning more toward Christianity, told me that he didn't want the club to turn me gay. I told him that wasn't how being gay worked and he walked off. Then I told my mom, "Actually...I do like girls. I like guys, too, but I'm just as inclined to date a girl." She told me that a past friend, who was bi, had ruined me and had somehow turned me bi, too. I told her that wasn't the case, that I'd known long before I'd ever met this friend that I liked girls, but that when I did meet this friend, I was at the age that I was starting to explore and question sexuality more. She told me that's why she'd thought it was a phase when I was a teen, which I understood. She still doesn't like the idea of me dating girls, but she still loves me and hasn't told me I'm going to hell. Yay! She was also the one who told my dad because she was worried what his reaction would be. He was okay with it, but I can't bring up anything LGBT without him getting pissy and without me getting pissy back.
The third time I came out, I told my mom I was pansexual, giving her a label and definition rather than just "Yeah, I like chicks and dudes." I had to explain what non-binary was, and though she was confused, she was cool with it. I have no idea if she told my dad or not. The fourth time I came out, I told my mom I was genderfluid and explained what it meant. Again, she was confused, but accepted it. I think I brought up my genderfluidity when my dad was in the car and I was talking about going by a more androgynous name, which neither of them liked.
The reason I came out so many times was because this was not a bandaid type of situation. I couldn't rip away the straight and show them the rainbow underneath without them freaking the fuck out. They are uber-Christians, too, who believe that being gay is a sin and that gay people shouldn't be able to get married. My dad, like I said, is super homophobic, so I was worried that he'd flip his gourd if I said "I'm pansexual and genderfluid, and here's what that means." I still have to quote the Bible at them, give them theologian theories, and give them scientific evidence that being gay is natural, but I have a roof over my head and they don't hate me. I could be doing worse.
Amanda's story breaks my heart...
I already know Amanda's 😞😞
I fucking hate her parents
+Phanic! At The Emø but she has good manners and thats what matters
aManDA
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awe amanda is miles now and i’m so proud
Miles and Ash have changed so much
Idk how anyone can be mean to people for how they feel. It makes me super bummed when i see anyone get mistreated, we are all people trying to live on this earth and do our own thing. If you like boys, you can like boys. If you like girls, you can like girls. Homophobia is something that occurs in one animal on earth and that is humans, it makes me glad to see that it is slowly going away but it makes me want to throw up thinking that it is still a thing.
"Well you can't kill me if we're in public" Amanda no omg
this video omg i love everything everyone says in this video ^-^
Wonderful video Ashley.
Yay! Ily two. 😊 Cutest couple eva! 💋
Amanda's story made me cry... I recently came out to as pan to two of my closest friends and they totally accepted it but I know my parents wouldn't
I literally got so excited when I saw miles
Same
When people come out to their parents, most people have issues with their dad. Turns out, the only reason I came out to by dad was BECAUSE he would be absolutely fine with it! My mom has no idea, but my dad started telling me about Lgbt relatives. Soon enough, my dad and I took a trip to meet all of them. I feel so accepted in my family now (^°^)
that is so great!!!!
Same with my dad, but I'm still afraid of telling him. I just don't want him to tell my brother cause my brother would tell my mom and she would literally kill me or toss me out into the street. There's already so much tension around her and in her house. (My parents are divorced so it's kind of nice that I get to escape to my dads house, but it still feels incomplete that he doesn't know)
Same with my dad, but I'm still afraid of telling him. I just don't want him to tell my brother cause my brother would tell my mom and she would literally kill me or toss me out into the street. There's already so much tension around her and in her house. (My parents are divorced so it's kind of nice that I get to escape to my dads house, but it still feels incomplete that he doesn't know)
I just came out to my mom
I was talking to her and we were discussing things and she was talking about boys and she could tell I was uncomfortable and asked why I said I was ok but moms can tell and asked if I was gay and I hugged her and cried and she said she could tell I was different and unique and said she would always love me and that she could now joke about girls with me like she does with my straight brother and now I am so happy 😁
I was forced to come out. I told my one friend that I might be a lesbian but I don't know for sure yet. Then my friend called my mom and straight up told her I was a lesbian. My mom confronted me about it and I told her I don't know. I do know, but... I really wasn't ready.
Miles’ story broke my heart
my family thinks I'm gay because I never had a long time boyfriend . but I haven't had a bf because my last bf forced me into sex so I haven't gotten close to anyone and now I never want to, I'm scared of being used again.
☹ not all people are like that Hun, you'll find someone
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you can recover and find a loving partner in the future.
The number one question i get from my viewers is "how do i come out" or "what do i do if my parents are un-accepting". This video is so incredible and helpful. AND YES ALL MY FAVES.
Kai 😍
I have been hiding that I'm gay for 4 years and I'm 15 years old now I'm afraid bc my mom is very religious and often tells me gays go to tell and that's just the way it is while my step dad is so homophic my sister is the same way the only people who I think would love no matter what are aunt and uncle and my grandpa I just keep thinking I only have 3 more years of this shit
Don't worry, if they don't like you then (you might not like this) cut them out of your life
Yyyyyaaaaaassss Timmy and Amanda
ikr? I love them both
YASS
+Crybaby Howell yaaaasssss phandom
+Korena Ball (kbell_101) YAAASSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yasssse
I always saw miles as a crazy happy go lucky TH-camr and I never saw this side of them... gosh my heart 😭 so much respect and my love has grown so much more! 😭💕my heart broke, I never knew they didn't have the support because they always showed so so much 😭
Don't watch this in puplic if you're an emotional mess like me 😂😂😂.
what an amazing video. Thank you. ❤❤❤
Amanda has good manners and that's what matters...
CHANDLER IS SO CUTE OMG OMGG
and i mean in both personality and looks
+CreepyRabbit14 Agreed.
+CreepyRabbit14 I know; I'm definitely going to subscribe to them. They seem really great :)
+CreepyRabbit14 ikr
THEY ARE SOOOOOO CUTE OMG
yooo the person with the lil streak of blonde in their hair is so freaking cute oh my gosh
I knew I was going to start crying but I didn't know it was going to be when Miles said "Hi I'm Amanda"
"And that's when the fire nation attacked..."
I just died 😂😂😂😂.
I recently started the process of coming out as bisexual, and I can attest to the fact I have become way more confident, as I've come to accept myself more, as well as express myself more honestly and completely. I'm still learning about this aspect of myself and how it translates to my interactions with other people, but it's a very good journey to be on so far.
+Kelsey Gertje Really eloquently put. :)
Thank you!
agreed! i had a less agreeable coming out which is basically i've come out as lesbian because my parents dont believe in bisexuality so... there's that. at least they were chill about it... just a bit annoying when i comment on a guy being cute my mum just goes "are you straight again??" lol
amandaaaa
Amanda has good manners and that's what matters
Chandler is adorable. Just a thought.
Tofu Pofu they really are
Omg I almost startet crying when I saw Miles there and he said "Hey, I'm Amanda"
AMANDA HAS GOOD MANNERS AND THATS WHAT MATTERS. AMANDA IS RLLY GAY AND THATS WHAT MATTERS.
who's the girl in the car? I really want to give her a hug
Amanda.
amandaschronicles, she has good manners
Julia J Thats what matters
Isabella Karvelas Her yt is : AmandasChronicles
Miles, has good manners and that's what matters
"That was when the fire nation attacked." I have to find this girl so we can be friends.
I came out to my mother today.
How did it go??
Kittykar Thanks for asking :P I am actually going to give you a sincere answer. Well I was too nervous so I told her over text. She told me she needed time to process it. Then a while later she sent me a few messages saying fairly positive things (although I know she is against homosexuality). So I think she was trying really hard to be kind and she did way better than I ever expected. That said, it's still an uncomfortable topic around her and she hasn't mentioned it to me in person and I haven't brought it up since. It is just a relief that she knows so I don't have to feel like I am hiding! And she told the rest of my family so I guess I don't have to. Lol!
Np c:
I'm so sorry that your mom is homophobic, but I'm glad she was very nice about it!
Rewatching this I’ve seen how much Miles and Ash have changed. I’m so proud of them
My friend came out as bisexual while we were playing fallout 4 and my reaction was just "cool" lol
I didn't have a choice in coming out to my parents .. I made the mistake of telling "friends" first .. Someone had called my house and told them I was dating a girl (I came out as bisexual at this time) I came home and was verbally attacked by my parents .. I blocked out a lot of it so I don't remember it well but basically I was banned from seeing her .. After awhile of sneaking behind my parents backs my gf told me I had to tell them I was a lesbian (I was forced to go to prom with a boy) so after being fired from my job I went home and told them .. My mom cried and slammed her door and my dad came flying down the stairs and yelled at me .. I yelled back.. I left the house going for a walk .. My dad found me eventually .. We drove around and he gave me some speech and it basically ended with "we don't except this but we will tolerate it" .. It was terrible .. I now don't live labeling myself as anything .. I just love who I love
+burnthisguitar *accept
+msprincessgizzy *rolls eyes*
+msprincessgizzy I've always been horrible at spelling guess I'm not as fabulous then
+burnthisguitar Has it gotten better since?
+Persn Randm I am currently dating a male so i guess ya cuz it's more the norm now but I fell in love with him for his personality and him not his gender .. My parents don't get it so we don't talk about it
When I saw Chandler, I flipped shit. They're one of my favorite TH-camrs :D
Phandom is everywhere! Also, I love chandler too :)
+Phan_trash_Ash 106 phan is everywhere xD
phandom!!! yass
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Phandom :)
I haven't told my family yet I don't even know if I'm gay or bi but i think they have already guessed but I don't care because my family's very supportive my mum said she doesn't care if I'm gay straight bi trans as long as I'm not vegan
Miss Døctør Mcr hahaha omg
Miles your hair is so cute in this video I’m living for long haired miles but you do you boo I’ll support you with whatever you do
Ok, so i just did the most cop-out coming out ever by writing my mom a 9 page letter about how ive been feeling and how my family has been treating me, and at the very end i come out as bi. an i just handed it to her, not telling her what it is, and told her to read it when she has time to devote all of her thinking to it and then i started freaking out but i decided to watch this video again because you are one of my favorite youtubers and the video really helped me calm down, especially Amanda's story because i kind of have a feeling that that's how it's going to go, and im feeling more confident in myself and i feel like i can handle the question and possible disappointment now. and im also really excited about finally sharing the real me with the world and not having to censor my thoughts and opinions around my family anymore. so thank you.
it must be awful to live with someone who doesn't accept you
My coming out lasted like a year. I started dressing masculine, including binding, for a year before i actually told my mom that I was transgender. She immediately said basically, 'I love you, but you're not actually trans." And being the anxious, dependent, paranoid little queer that i am, I was like 'Yeah... okay... please don't kick me out." and left it at that. Then about six months later my sister kind of figured it out and was like 'why do you dress like a dude' to which I responded 'Because I'm a dude' and she responded basically in the same way as my mother.
After that they've slowly accepted I'm going to transition, but still don't use my name or pronouns. It's been 3 years so far, and while they will nod and not start an argument now if I day 'Alec' when they say my deadname, they never say it outloud themselves.
It kinda sucks, but it could be worse.
They also still think me being ace/aro is from my PTSD, which is annoying but oh well.
+Alec Wilder I'm in a similar situation where my family doesn't acknowledge my gender. Hopefully you have or are able to make some friends that will call you Alec and use your pronouns :3 good luck!!
i know i still have loadsa learning to do so im sorry if this offends, but whats ace/aro? thanks xx
Ashli Scantlebury I don't know if you'd rather have Alec explain this, but in general, ace/aro (asexual and aromantic) people don't feel romantic or sexual attraction. If you're still confused about it I can explain further or you could always look it up! (AVEN wiki is always a good resource to use if you don't know where to start! :3)
+Alec Wilder woah, my mom said the exact same thing when I came out as trans. My dad just stopped talking to me. My parents are divorced so I have absolutely no contact with my dad and my mom constantly misgenders me and calls me by my deadname. The worst part is how bad she speaks of the lgbt community; after the last time she apologized but only so I would speak to her again, I know she didn't really mean it. I never really came out as ace tho, I figured my sex life (or lack of) is only my business. Besides, after the first fiasco I thought I was better off not saying anything else.
This is why I'm scared to come out about gender! I'm not trans, I'm pretty gender fluid but my family thinks that doesn't exist. I've been going by my middle name all school year because it's pretty gender less, like me. My siblings never call me it and my mom does only sometimes. My dad is the best with it because I think he gets what it's really about.
poor amanda :( shes still a babe though and i still love her channel
I had a super big opportunity to come out to both my parents at the same time and i blew it and said "no, i dont have anything to tell you" bruh i had so many spots that would have been perfect to come out but noooooo.
i tried to come out as asexual to my mom casually once, but since it didnt end well, i do exactly what's said at 9:05 :/
same here :/ my mom thinks im just confused and need to stop thinking of that rn..
Don't worry guys, I'm bisexual and I of course believe asexuality is valid and real.
Queer fren here to make y’all feel valid!!! Cause you are!!
"I opened that closet door and was ready to walk my gay ass out." I love this guy already
Baby Miles oml
AMANDA YASSS (this vid keeps getting better lol)
« Even if crap hits the fan »
Love it😂
I came out to my parents as bisexual and they pretty much did the same thing Amanda's parents did saying "Well you're just doing it because it's whats in right now, but when you get older it will stop. I came out to my parents 2 years ago and they still don't accept it.
I LOVE AMANDA SO MUCH. SHE MAKES ME QUESTION MY SEXUALITY. 💘😭
my mom was like I know your lesbian I was like actually I'm pansexual and poly pass the salt.
Lol
👏 thats great lol
My parents think that I'm a lesbian...
My parents are kind of closet homophobes, if it's someone they don't know they can ignore it, but they don't support it. They believe that if you are not gay you shouldn't care about gay people or learn about homosexuality. I started taking an interest in the subject a few years ago, and my mom automatically thought I had something to tell her.
I am not sure if I'm straight, but I'm not gay and I'm not in a hurry to stamp myself with a label, I just want to learn.
Knowing about the lgbtq community doesn't make me gay!
ash you made me cry oml at the end when people said now they can be themselves out loud and what is sad is i cant and ill get punished if i do but jesus you make me feel so good about myself.
I've been super lucky with my family and friends being so accepting. Both my mom and brother are gay, so I knew they'd completely accept me. The hardest part was figuring out for myself that I'm bisexual. I didn't make a huge deal about coming out, I just wrote a quote about it on a chalkboard in my room and didn't lie when something about it came up. A lot of my friends aren't straight either, and if anything it's improved my relationships with them. I'm just really thankful that everyone has been so okay with me, and I hope that someday everybody can have the same experience I've had.
if i'm going to hell then tell the devil i drink belini cocktails
I have a special place reserved for me in hell. The throne.
"That's cool can we go back to playing video games"
Same tho.
I have not came out as being Bi I want to but I can't
thank you for making this video, i had seen amanda's and chandler's before, this was amazing. Thank you
I came out as pan to my mother and my best friend today and they were so supportive. When I told my mom she said that my cousin (who's a male) that he had admitted to having crushes on boys before to his parents and that that made me feel so much better.
It's so hard to use the pronoun "they" to describe one person. I feel like we need to create a new pronoun that is non-gender specific, and is singular.
+Hannah Kiesel They have ze/hir and xe/xyr though I don't know many who go by those.
I used to think this too, since many of us have been taught over and over that "they" is a plural pronoun and I've always been obnoxious about grammar. But it turns out that you can unlearn these things, even if you are a grammar nut. Introducing a gender-neutral singular pronoun would be great but really hard, whereas "they" is already widely used as a singular pronoun in many situations. Agender/genderfluid people don't need any more obstacles, so I think we should just try to teach ourselves not to view "they" as plural.
+Hannah Kiesel there are some but some people prefer gay. i jsut wanted to mention that there are grammatically there are times in english where you use they singularly anyway. just let people use the pronouns they want whether or not you're capable of using them correctly or not.
it's hard to get used to but once people are accustomed to using it is easier. if we were raised to think they/them can be both singular and plural it wouldn't even be a question. for me using they/them pronouns is comforting and hearing others refer to me by it makes me so happy. so it's all about personal preference.
This topic goes kinda deep for me. Although I define as a cis gender female I try to be as accepting as I can and include it in my daily work/life. One time, my English teacher was handing back our essays and one of the comments she made on mine was incorrect pronoun usage. Instead of writing he/she I wrote they so that I could cover ALL genders. At the time I was frankly quite scared of her and too scared to say anything but I was flustered and upset. Now I would find a separate time to talk to the teacher and help educate her. Sometimes it's important to just except people the way they are whether it's challenging or not. Just be you and do your best to say people's pronouns. Everyone's learning and as long as you do your best all will be good.
The way i see things is that you shouldn't have thoughts where you are like "hey i should tell people i am gay" or any sexuality like that because it should just be normal, i mean you don't go around telling people "hey i'm straight" and the reason for that is because it's the 'normal' and more 'acceptable' thing to be, this coming from a bi-sexual girl who is proud asf to be bi xD but i don't really see a point in telling people, because you should be able to like what you like without being questioned or judged and if people don't like you for being yourself then those people aren't worth shit xx
I'm almost 12 right now and I'm genderfluid and gay. When should I tell my parents? I've told my friends already.
Whenever the time is right
If they are ok with gays , don't even need 2 tell them just bring ur future bf 2 the house 😋
I watched this before I came out and it helped me have the strengh... And I cried so much... And I'm still watching it and crying, fully out. thank you so much for this...
and Ps this first exposed me to Amanda and Timmy
I'm so glad that someone also Agender in here ❤️ And Amanda is here. This was very inspirational. Thank you.