“he rejected my 50k mahr 😭😭”
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That’s a shame women are thinking Mahr is associated with self value, because if that’s the case women should be asking for millions. Though Mahr is not linked to self value but it is rather concerning Islam and it has many good meanings, plus asking for lower is a Sunnah to fulfil?
If her husband is gonna give her a good life and his money is her money then appreciate him. Even if he’s a baller he might be taking a high Mahr for something else even if he can afford to give it.
If I was a high-earning man, I’d watch out what my wife asks of Mahr from me.
Also stop watching social media and what other people do or comparing yourself, many of them are separating so if you have a good man, keep him happy.
Remember, majority of the women are in hellfire due to their ungratefulness. Remind yourself of the hereafter. This Dunya is not that deep.
My brother’s wife only asked for £500 Allahumma Barik. She is a low value woman because she didn’t ask for £50k? No Wallah, no!
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50k 😂😂. Id buy a one way ticket to ...wherever
To be honest, i think a reasonable mahr is 2 months' salary of the groom. This would, of course, vary based on how much he earns but wouldn't be a financial burden on the groom.
Of course, mahr fatima is also a very beautiful way of doing it.
That’s a very good ‘default’ mahr if u think about it
If he values you or not depends on his personality people that are grateful to Allah are grateful to people as well. Look into his personality. If he pays doesn’t mean he values or appreciates you at all. If you want to find value in a price you also need to think about how you see yourself. Your value not based on money but the peace and joy you bring to the day through worship and gratitude. And his value is not in the money but rather in what he brings into your life. Think about it well life with someone that is constantly nasty and ungrateful regarding your efforts will make you feel worthless no matter how much mahr he gives you.
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The higher the mehr she demands, the more she doesn't like you generally.
I’ve seen that before
The Mahr, Weddings and gifts are becoming so extravagant in our community here in Australia. The most I have heard of was $250k AU. Jewellery, Crypto currency, brand new luxury cars, luxury handbags. One girl got an investment property. Some guys have literally taken out loans or borrowed from family to pay the Mahr and gone into debt 🤦🏻♀️ Some girls are trying to live that Dubai life, but they from the suburbs 😂
That’s insane 🤯
I think it's stupid to ask for more than 5k. Even 5k is a crazy to me. Instead of asking for 20k+, think... saving money for a family house, investing in future children, hijrah, and just having a stable home is much better than having 20k+ all to yourself Ma'am.
Yes definitely one perspective
Nah 😂 the way Somalis read the contract and announce the Mehr is too funny. It’s better to keep it hidden imo
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She’s silly and should definitely lower the Mahr. Especially now a days it seems like a lot of sisters struggle to get married or find a decent husband. Take the L and get married 😂
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If she likes him enough :
"What do you ask for you mahr ?
- 50k
- That's too much, I can't.
- 10k then.
- Ok." (He's a banker c'mon. I hope in Islamic halal banking)
If she doesn't like him that much or ego is involved (or family) :
"What do you ask for you mahr ?
- 50k
- That's too much, I can't.
- I understand. Salam aleykoum."
Obviously she doesn't want to let him go but ego is triggered. Im wondering if they have discussed the amount before getting engaged?
I mean, i think its wiser to agree on the mahr before getting engaged. It seems to come as a surprise for the brother and the nikkah is getting closer.
Also, if a man has the means to pay a high mahr (dont know if that's the case) and has found the woman of his dreams, he should do so if she asks for it. People are struggling just to find a decent men or woman to marry.
Personally, if I really want to marry a brother, I will make sure to ask for something he will accept cause no way I'm letting this one go. For others, I might be more demanding.
May Allah guide us
Ameen!
It's all relative to be honest. If he is earning 7 figures, for example (which is not unreasonable for a "well-established banker"), then 50k is not that much in relation. Without knowing how much he earns, we can't really draw any conclusions. It is definitely prohibitively high for the average person. But the people in this story don't strike me as average
Good point
Interesting perspective