Get Unstuck: Lessons from my Infertility Journey! | Pradeepa Narayanaswamy | TEDxShivNadarUniversity

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  • @Star-vg7ix
    @Star-vg7ix 2 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    People need to realize that the 'do you have any children' question is a VERY personal question

    • @nicotinedealer7653
      @nicotinedealer7653 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My mom made it a rule in my house to never ask that question to guests/housemaids.

    • @ammuluteluguammayi9017
      @ammuluteluguammayi9017 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's a common question.....u can adopt someone..... because the sweetness u will get from having kids is really unimaginable......don't care about others.....it's for ur happiness.....we need not have our own blood

    • @SkiraReed
      @SkiraReed ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's funny. Some people feel offended by that question and I feel sad that I don't even get asked. Especially not by my family. To me it feels like they don't even take it as a possibility I might want to have a family, in their eyes I must still be a little child and not in my 30s. I don't even know who to talk to about my fear of never being able to conceive. I'm eating it up and at work (tourist spot) I see pregnant women and families every day and they don't even know how lucky they are.

  • @ladymondegreen
    @ladymondegreen หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I cried. Beautiful ending. I’m also dealing with unexplained infertility and it’s so hard and lonely. I feel scared, overlooked, angry, bitter, jealous…trying not to give up hope. I love stories like yours, it gives me hope. Many blessings.

  • @gabriellef6695
    @gabriellef6695 3 ปีที่แล้ว +106

    I’ve been struggling for a few years now with this. I can relate to everything you said. You don’t know how much I needed to hear this. I wish no woman had to go through this.

    • @davidhagersten8447
      @davidhagersten8447 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you for sharing about your struggle and how tough it is!
      I want to add that too much vitamin A (hypervitaminosis A) can be a cause of infertility.
      Dr. Garrett Smith has an 1 hour video about it on his TH-cam channel "Nutrition Detective".
      The Canadian engineer Grant Genereux has also written three free e-books about vitamin A toxicity that are available on his blog.
      My best wishes to you and your ongoing struggles!

    • @parisa5014
      @parisa5014 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same. 4 years now, all losses, including my daughter at 16 weeks. I am praying for us and all women experiencing this heartache!

    • @shikhaawasthi5333
      @shikhaawasthi5333 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am struggling from years. No luck. I understand the pain.

    • @togekissbliss
      @togekissbliss ปีที่แล้ว

      Not every woman has to be a mother.

    • @SkiraReed
      @SkiraReed ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@togekiss bliss You're right, not everyone HAS to be a mother but maybe one WANTS to be a mother. There are as many bad parents on this earth as there are good ones. It only hurts even more when you see people advocating abortion or women saying they are going to kill their child when there are so many women who would love to have the chance of being a mother. Life is strange.

  • @TheKaraqi4
    @TheKaraqi4 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I know many people suffer and dream of experiencing the magic of growing a piece of themselves and cherishing it but parents who accept adopted children as their own are the parents on the next level. It’s so beautiful!

  • @piyalibanerjee9563
    @piyalibanerjee9563 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    We are struggling to conceive for the last 5yrs. We've tried every fertility treatments even left my jobbt resulted in 3 failed IVF cycles. I have lost all hopes and stopped socialising bcoz of blunt comments. This talk is really encouraging... ❤️ Could relate

  • @shalonfreeman9068
    @shalonfreeman9068 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    At this point I give up. Its in God's hands. In the mean time I will continue to live my best life. There are perks to being kid-free.

    • @feitheexpat
      @feitheexpat 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I so want to start this mindset...but it feels so lonely...even our partners cannot always understand and the frequency of anxiety and panick attacks are just too extreme...

  • @blairadventure7460
    @blairadventure7460 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Thank you for sharing I cried at this . I feel pain whenever I think about the fact we are struggling , not only struggling but it is very dangerous for me to carry a baby due to my blood clotting disorder . My best friend is pregnant and is moaning about feeling sick and I don’t bother talking to her anymore cause I feel I can’t express how I feel as I don’t want to hurt her but I don’t want to hurt myself either . It’s a horrible place to be in

  • @jamilapunjani278
    @jamilapunjani278 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Beautiful story. Everything happens for a reason. You and Kartik were meant to be Mother and Son. ❤

  • @adu598
    @adu598 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Nine years. In this situation... I can relate ur every words with my life
    So courageous coz
    No one reay to explain this pain to society... Every time trying to mask our face with terrible smile

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was having problem in getting pregnant until I met Dr Steve who helped me with his Wonderful herbs and I was able to get pregnant. I'm having a twins now all thanks to him. He can help you too.

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      W-hatsap him⏬

  • @ladytalk3230
    @ladytalk3230 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Currently bursting in tears as if my child just died... it is realllyyy hard. Sometimes it is impossible to stop the tears from coming. But if I hold the pain in it will swallow me up eventually. .... give yourself the permission to feel..... Thanks for the tips.

    • @tamarabusyluv
      @tamarabusyluv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      May the Lord give you strength my sister

    • @ladytalk3230
      @ladytalk3230 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tamarabusyluv thanks sister.

  • @meetaalmoula7363
    @meetaalmoula7363 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Amazing! You had me crying at the end! So happy for you and to new beginnings 💕

  • @khaninderdeka4865
    @khaninderdeka4865 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Some people take advantage of misery of couples who can't bear children due to some problems

  • @mayjune5327
    @mayjune5327 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Wow!!! This was powerful!!! The end made me cry 😢

  • @snezray2324
    @snezray2324 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was crying throughout your talk because I can't imagine what you went through for those 16 years, it must have been so painful. I have one child with God's grace and I know that a child brings us so much happiness. Now trying for my second child for the past 2 years and have had some miscarriages etc, and I feel sadness in my heart. Thank you for teaching me that I should accept my emotions. I am so happy for you and I am so glad your ending was a happy one. May God bless you and your family. Also, a lesson to everyone- never ask any man or woman about their marriage status, children, or salary. It's none of your business. If they bring it up on their own, then elaborate on it otherwise do not ask anyone such personal questions

  • @khaninderdeka4865
    @khaninderdeka4865 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yes, society needs to educate itself

  • @neetugupta6532
    @neetugupta6532 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Loved your story. Wish you all the best with your son Kartik! May God bring all the happiness in your and your families life.

  • @denacouasnon448
    @denacouasnon448 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Your story is literally my story. I honestly am so thankful to Pradeepa for sharing her story! I really needed to hear that i am not alone in my feelings and my fertility journey. Thank you Pradeepa!!

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was having problem in getting pregnant until I met Dr Steve who helped me with his Wonderful herbs and I was able to get pregnant. I'm having a twins now all thanks to him. He can help you too.

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      W-hatsap him⏬

    • @R-cakes
      @R-cakes ปีที่แล้ว

      You are not alone my dear❤️

  • @khushbukamble7137
    @khushbukamble7137 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Currently I'm also going through same situation one of my best and closest friend she have good news.
    And today on the occasion of woman's day our funding group going to meet .
    Same feeling going inside me .
    I'm happy for her but at a same time little up and down thinking going inside me .
    Adoption is always a best thing .
    I have made up my mind by last year.
    But in my case my husband he is not ready.
    I really feeling accept the situation is always a big Win win thing.
    Happy for u also.
    Happy parenthood for both of u ❤️

    • @drsarahalvi
      @drsarahalvi 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      If you want to talk about it....I am a trained counselor specialized in health and relationship....Dr Sarah Alvi

  • @user-du7mf6ce2s
    @user-du7mf6ce2s 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Very moving and beautifully explained, Pradeepa👍it takes a lot of courage to share it with the world to help a broader society 👏👏

  • @ap3008
    @ap3008 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I just found out at 30 year old that my ovaries are like a 40 year old woman's because of genetics...and that my best hope to conceive is through IVF and that trying to conceive naturally and suceeding would be a miracle. Great...Test your AMH levels from the age of 25, women...

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was having problem in getting pregnant until I met Dr Steve who helped me with his Wonderful herbs and I was able to get pregnant. I'm having a twins now all thanks to him. He can help you too.

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      W-hatsap him⏬

    • @harippriyasambamoorthy8298
      @harippriyasambamoorthy8298 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exact same phase I m told the same too 😞

  • @missashasingh
    @missashasingh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    To every word you uttered , I can say it's not just you it's also me.

  • @BalbirSingh-eh1dq
    @BalbirSingh-eh1dq 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Your words were very touchy ,literally I cried at d end 😢
    But happy tht God did miracle at last

  • @ShradhaNagi
    @ShradhaNagi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Those who dont understand what is it abt having child and doesnt feel anything... Please dont comment. I am 34 having reserve only 0.24. Only 10 % chance even if i do ivf. I badly wanted a child. Feeling terrible, and a failed woman. If i wouldnt hv a child... I might move on, make myself busy, but will always feel empty.

    • @swapnakarunakaran9584
      @swapnakarunakaran9584 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I m 36 going through the same situation. It's painful.

    • @ikhlass2265
      @ikhlass2265 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      True

    • @mary_puffin
      @mary_puffin ปีที่แล้ว

      You will find peace and happiness again whether you have children or not. Be encouraged! I hope the best for you, but know that if the childbearing chapter closes for you before you have children, you will be able to grieve and move on.

    • @nicotinedealer7653
      @nicotinedealer7653 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're not a failed woman, childbirth is not your only job. Please take care.

  • @Subhabrata
    @Subhabrata 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    10 years of childlessness has crushed my all ambitions...
    I will quit my job soon.

    • @nicotinedealer7653
      @nicotinedealer7653 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Don't do that man, you can adopt a child if you want one real bad. But honestly, learn how to be self satisfied and have a fulfilling relationship with your wife. Life and marriage are more than having children (and certain other unnecessary benchmarks). Children can be a pain too, and more often than not, it isn't a rewarding experience, atleast in today's world.

    • @Subhabrata
      @Subhabrata ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@nicotinedealer7653 First off, thank you for your kindness.
      Let me try this way:
      Can you forget your hunger by looking at beautiful things in this world?
      Childlessness is something like that. People cry in solitude.

    • @nicotinedealer7653
      @nicotinedealer7653 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Subhabrata I know, my mom has (and had) four very close friends (male and female), all childless. Their constant pursuit for a biological child ruined their careers/marriages/health. Out of them 2 are no longer alive, 1 of them is still depressed, while the last one has moved on with her life and is doing much better. It is very difficult, and I have no right to tell you how to feel, but please consider this. I know it is hard to forget, but please try to live a happy life despite that. It will hurt, but please do not quit your job or do anything self-destructive. Your identity and life is worth more than your ability to bear an offspring.

    • @Subhabrata
      @Subhabrata ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@nicotinedealer7653 Offering you my deepest regards. So kind of you. Thank you very much! I will definitely remember your advice. 🙏

    • @nicotinedealer7653
      @nicotinedealer7653 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Subhabrata take care man. We're from the same country so I also understand how hard it gets. Lots of love to you guys.

  • @parisa5014
    @parisa5014 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I am going though IVF at the moment... 3 transfers that ended in loss and attempting my 4th transfer soon... It has been so hard! Thank you for this, I cried with you! Look at that happy boy so in love with his mom ❤️ he looks like such a sweet and loving child. What a wonderful gift from God!

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was having problem in getting pregnant until I met Dr Steve who helped me with his Wonderful herbs and I was able to get pregnant. I'm having a twins now all thanks to him. He can help you too.

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      W-hatsap him⏬

    • @cheekyfemme
      @cheekyfemme 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thinking of you! We are heading into our 7th cycle. I am mentally and emotionally exhausted. We are giving ourselves this year then we will take the fostering road. Sending love xx

    • @drsarahalvi
      @drsarahalvi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If you wanna talk about it please let me know....I am a trained counselor specialized in health and relationship ..Dr Sarah Alvi

    • @cheekyfemme
      @cheekyfemme 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@drsarahalvi thank you Sarah. We had egg collection today and zero were collected. I am so defeated 😞

  • @veryconfused9768
    @veryconfused9768 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i am in tears, my mother suffered from infertility and i am adopted, i have been going through rough patches in life with my fertility,this video gives me hope that i will be happy with a child.

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was having problem in getting pregnant until I met Dr Steve who helped me with his Wonderful herbs and I was able to get pregnant. I'm having a twins now all thanks to him. He can help you too.

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      W-hatsap him⏬

    • @Minnie718
      @Minnie718 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hugs

  • @bonniema6819
    @bonniema6819 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow… this TedTalk was spot on. I felt all the emotions when watching this.

  • @maroonmaroonmaroon2985
    @maroonmaroonmaroon2985 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Infertility is a bummer

  • @lesliemolloy6541
    @lesliemolloy6541 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you for this. It completely resonated with me. ❤️

  • @adrianalopez464
    @adrianalopez464 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for your words! You are such an inspiration. I’m so happy for you and so sad for myself but I know one day I’ll have a miracle just like you did.

  • @hadisokla5058
    @hadisokla5058 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    For you, who have IVF struggle . Thats ocay for the first time . After 3 cycles, you probably has a chance of 83-90% to get pregnant . After 8 cycles, the chance of getting pregnant is higher . So for all of you, this is a journal that I read . I am searching about it a lot . I hope you can be more enjoy to this process.

  • @aishaceesay2679
    @aishaceesay2679 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I can't control my tears

  • @crystalbee9706
    @crystalbee9706 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow. Great story, but I was hoping for a different outcome

  • @irishroessel7814
    @irishroessel7814 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I cried with you ,I am going through this too

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was having problem in getting pregnant until I met Dr Steve who helped me with his Wonderful herbs and I was able to get pregnant. I'm having a twins now all thanks to him. He can help you too.

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      W-hatsap him⏬

  • @sreenivasulumuppuri5680
    @sreenivasulumuppuri5680 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Great speech mam.. I am sure it helps many

  • @kimberlydavis9559
    @kimberlydavis9559 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for sharing. I will take these words to heart. My husband and I will probably have to go the adoption route as it has been 5 years.

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was having problem in getting pregnant until I met Dr Steve who helped me with his Wonderful herbs and I was able to get pregnant. I'm having a twins now all thanks to him. He can help you too.

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      W-hatsap him⏬

  • @boicychongloi6333
    @boicychongloi6333 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    All the best to you and your family!

  • @Urvashi-vw1nj
    @Urvashi-vw1nj ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am suffering from premature ovarian insufficiency, minimal egg reserve. Multiple IUIs, multiple IVFs. So many injections, so many drugs. I've forgotten myself, as if my life is being controlled by these cycles of treatments.
    This is very personal, so din tell anyone in the beginning. The more you tell, the more you have to answers. And you become a failure. Things that you can't control. It bring out the worst in you.
    People expect you to act normally, smile when needed. But I am really done with these masks. I want to cry out, and tell them plz understand that i am going through something. Something really hard. I can have negative emotions. But I am not allowed to express.

    • @Urvashi-vw1nj
      @Urvashi-vw1nj ปีที่แล้ว

      At the same time, spirituality has helped me a lot. And hope, it makes me strong enough to keep going.

  • @дилафрузрахимова-й4я
    @дилафрузрахимова-й4я 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank You!!!

  • @aishadeesarisaristore3322
    @aishadeesarisaristore3322 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing this, it motivates me, to feel my emotions,.🥰❤❤❤

  • @lulubenice1
    @lulubenice1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Powerful!!!

  • @payeldutta7757
    @payeldutta7757 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Same story with me... exactly the same ... my god... thats extremely painful phase... am going through a lot... dontknw how to help myself... sometimes I just want a miracle to happen... but alas... it never happened...

  • @shwetapatil6804
    @shwetapatil6804 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Why it’s shameful to not to have kids?

    • @wilhelminaadams-1388
      @wilhelminaadams-1388 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's not your fault.He knows us before birth

  • @amruthisiddhaclinic1001
    @amruthisiddhaclinic1001 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Fantastic talk 🎉

  • @swethamp1321
    @swethamp1321 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are an inspiration , it made me feel better, I resonate whatever u said , it feels awful

  • @revasdiaries826
    @revasdiaries826 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wonderfull story inspiring 👍😊

  • @laylah4442
    @laylah4442 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing this 💜💜

  • @NishWon
    @NishWon 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much

  • @MeIntiammayi
    @MeIntiammayi 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    😭😭😭😭it's really hard

  • @Lilwitchyreads
    @Lilwitchyreads 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    😭

  • @ThelovelyMsGraham
    @ThelovelyMsGraham 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    😢

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was having problem in getting pregnant until I met Dr Steve who helped me with his Wonderful herbs and I was able to get pregnant. I'm having a twins now all thanks to him. He can help you too.

    • @samanthasteel2499
      @samanthasteel2499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      W-hatsap him⏬

  • @shobharajan5485
    @shobharajan5485 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

  • @rs-zl7re
    @rs-zl7re 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Adopt a kid , help the society and yourself.

    • @lesliemolloy6541
      @lesliemolloy6541 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Her story is my story. Clearly you didn't watch her whole story

    • @afreenfarzana8919
      @afreenfarzana8919 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      People have rights to want kids of their own..

    • @FreedomofSpeech865
      @FreedomofSpeech865 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@afreenfarzana8919 exactly. Also adoption is very expensive. Also, adoptive parents can change their minds...

    • @Minamomy1
      @Minamomy1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      This is not necessary to tell a woman going through infertility

    • @Android-ds9ie
      @Android-ds9ie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@afreenfarzana8919 that is just genetic ego

  • @Avijit.305
    @Avijit.305 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Why woman have to get a kid? It's not a necessary thing.

    • @Minamomy1
      @Minamomy1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Because they want to .

    • @ishitasingh5330
      @ishitasingh5330 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Android-ds9ie might be waste for you but your logics will not apply to someone else’s life

    • @parisa5014
      @parisa5014 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Because some people would make excellent mothers and it is their calling from God to get there, like this speaker ❤️

  • @HoneyVenus6vlogs
    @HoneyVenus6vlogs 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Woman who are facing infertility please take patanjali medicine.

    • @janet8005
      @janet8005 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Does it work?