The Heartbeat of Infertility | Efe Fruci | TEDxSFU

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  • @MeylingsKhmerDiaries
    @MeylingsKhmerDiaries หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This made me cry! I’m still trying and hoping! Thank you for sharing! I believe my miracle is on its way!

  • @sm7887
    @sm7887 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Every women feells similar way on infertility struggles. Again this video prove this for me. May Allah ease for all of us. Thanks for sharing.

  • @WadadlyWarrior
    @WadadlyWarrior ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is what having the courage to be your authentic self looks and sounds like. Excellent, Efe!

  • @MissKant01
    @MissKant01 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Such a powerful testimony. It resonates so close to my personal experience. Courage and healing to everyone that is going through infertility and loss.

  • @erinbynight
    @erinbynight 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you for your story. After 6 years in the IVF rollercoaster, I am pregnant with our second and last child. I can’t really share what I have been through with my family as they are very conservative Catholics and made it clear they believe IVF is a sin. Therefore I won’t be baptizing my children into the Catholic faith. My family only knows I considered IVF, not that I pursued treatments for 6 years. My aunt who is a nun calls my son “the miracle baby”. Oh man, she has no idea how true that statement is.

  • @gree6878
    @gree6878 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Powerful testimony, i was crying the whole time watching this 😭. I have been through the same infertility problem. I am glad ppl are sharing thier experiences. We donot feel alone.😢😢

  • @motingwethaboj1475
    @motingwethaboj1475 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I am a men and been trying for more than 5 years with my partner.
    Truth is I am tired now. I have no energy to continue. Monthly disappointment is killing me and it is worse when people ask about kids.😢😢

  • @vpinstitutionaleffective-ip3zq
    @vpinstitutionaleffective-ip3zq 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I completely understand.

  • @Andrew-tr5zg
    @Andrew-tr5zg ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Usually a lot of infertiltiy focuses on the woman's side of things, which Is totally understandable, as most of the physical stuff the female has to go through along with the emotional side of things. However being the guy in this process it is also as heartbreaking and stressful as you feel helpless, when cycle after cycle fails, and you have to deal with the trauma and pain after it. Each time it makes the next cycle that so much harder to actually commit to. I totally agree that everywhere you look there are reminders of what you have not got, friends complaining about their kids behaviour, baby showers, people getting on with normal family life. We have avoided going anywhere there is a lot of kids and families for obvious reasons. It's just heartbreaking. Look at it this way though, think of it as a test, don't think why me, just stand up to the challenge, do what you've got to do to get through, and cast the doubt from your mind and keep ploughing through. If you can do this, you can do anything.

    • @Riley42-03
      @Riley42-03 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you! Your male perspective was refreshing im standing up to the challenge! ❤

  • @dianaduran87
    @dianaduran87 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for giving me hope today.

  • @TieranniPieranni
    @TieranniPieranni ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have combed the internet for stories like mine. My husband is infertile due to being overweight. It’s heartbreaking.

  • @dormae7
    @dormae7 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    But what if you don't have money for IVF, where is that hope? A beautiful video, a beautiful story. But some people don't have the financial ability

  • @idawairimu7093
    @idawairimu7093 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow an amazing conversation.. thanks for sharing

  • @celycute1
    @celycute1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Our journey is very similar to yours, our second failed cycle was in October and that one hit me soo incredibly hard. We are currently saving and preparing in every way for cycle three… hope is the only thing that keeps us going

    • @Carol263Zim
      @Carol263Zim ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel emotional and wish you the best. As for me l only stopped at the examination stage. I can't afford the IVF and I’m hoping to have a child.

  • @nadinecourtney6794
    @nadinecourtney6794 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Struggling with infertility for 8 years now, I can't hold on any longer.

    • @Andrew-tr5zg
      @Andrew-tr5zg ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sorry to hear that Nadine, we have been through a good few Years of similar, we've been trying naturally, mixed with failed IVF cycles, suspected early miscarriages etc. The hardest thing is to keep on trying when you feel like giving up, but keep your foot in the door, and refuse to give up!

    • @motingwethaboj1475
      @motingwethaboj1475 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😢😢... It has been 5 years and I am tired.

  • @Riley42-03
    @Riley42-03 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    in the bathroom at work 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @crystalbee9706
    @crystalbee9706 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great story. Id love an update

  • @sims3life435
    @sims3life435 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    3 iui, 1 ivf and 2 embryo transfer and still no baby 😢

  • @NSpaZed84
    @NSpaZed84 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I hope there’s a follow up story with the good news that they have children ❤❤

  • @LaNoire27
    @LaNoire27 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I know what I'm about to write sounds crazy, but I'm glad the world is falling apart, because knowledge of what's headed our way is the only thing that helps me deal with infertility. Knowing I don't want to bring a child into this world...

  • @maquisbg
    @maquisbg ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh my is my story. The wedding stop for the pandemics and now I am to old.

  • @maquisbg
    @maquisbg ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My case exactly I am a doctor, I can't be pregnancy so sad.

  • @veromeginitiative
    @veromeginitiative 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    God will surely give you your children because nothing is impossible for God to do. I am so super proud of your boldness , endurance of being able to share.
    Well done sweetheart 🙏🙏🙏❤️😘

  • @Anna-jr8gu
    @Anna-jr8gu ปีที่แล้ว +1

    💔

  • @flowerflower7115
    @flowerflower7115 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🙌🏽

  • @veracity8968
    @veracity8968 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i share the empathy and the honesty but what I do not understand is why questioning God's plan. We are not all meant to be mothers it is life, the society has made it that you can pay to get children. No it does not work that way, a child is God's gift and will remain as such till the end. In the bible we read many stories of women who were infertile, sterile but lived their destiny powerfully. Why women want to force what is maybe not meant for you? I tend to believe that one must accept life as it comes and live it with the purpose of God has chosen for you. No not all women will or should have baby it is the natural law as unjust as it sounds it is Life, and we must embrace our life and thanks God for making us healthy unique. This 21tc century "children at all cost" make me sick personally !

    • @fibi8346
      @fibi8346 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Well said, thank you.

    • @anitajuhasz8606
      @anitajuhasz8606 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I can tell that you are not cursed by infertility.

    • @AM-sk1tv
      @AM-sk1tv 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I agree.

  • @janelleharrison1713
    @janelleharrison1713 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is powerful. Thank you Efe for your transparency and faith. 💐🤍

  • @n.m6249
    @n.m6249 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I recently got married and been trying even before coz im 36, its mentally depressing to be hopeful every month but no results. My sister just gave birth to baby number 5 all her five children are beautiful and healthy, she never planned for any her pregnancy. Life sometimes ❤️‍🩹

    • @motingwethaboj1475
      @motingwethaboj1475 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      39 and haven't scored yet. I am throwing a towel and need a hobby to take away from this. It is painful though