moving to nyc vlog 19. turning 25 & having a quarter life crisis, navigating change and loneliness
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- i turned 25 and it was an emotional and hard birthday for me in the midst of so much change in my life including my move to new york city ! i am so grateful for so much but this is a chatty vlog as i celebrate my 25th birthday but also get vulnerable about how difficult this transition has been for me and reflect on my thoughts on relationships, friendships, birthdays, and trying to learn to be my own best friend.
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hi ! I’m Lucia, and I’m a 25 year old living in nyc & working a 9-5 in marketing.
I share my life navigating my early twenties, eating gluten free, and trying to become the best version of myself.
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how do you like to celebrate your birthday?
I go around town collecting all of the free birthday deals! Makeup, meals, movies. I usually do it alone, so I can do what I want, when I want.
I’m taking myself to Scotland this year for my bday.
@@alkiq00omg that’s a fun idea!!
@@TonyaSwow!! Incredible!!!
Getting the free Starbucks is something to look forward to and there are so many freebies from different places :)
I turn 26 this year, and I cried right along with you. Life is crazy for me at the moment, but I know I’m not alone. Know that you’re not alone either. There are people in your life that love you and God loves you too! And no, you don’t need a boy to buy you flowers! Buy your own flowers girl! 🫰💖
We got this 🤍🤍🤍 yes I know there are haha just in the moment it was hard 🤍🤍 thank u!!!
Your feelings and emotions are valid! It’s not embarrassing to showing and discussing how you feel coz I’m sure so many people are feeling the same way. Keep doing you! You’re doing amazing!
🤍🤍🤍 appreciate it 🫶🏼🫶🏼
Thank you for being transparent with us, it’s rare to find TH-camr like u
Awe ofc!
I turn 56 next month. My hardest birthday to get through emotionally was my 25th. I felt like I was leaving my young adult years. I was no longer in the 18-24 age group on surveys, I was suddenly thrust into the 25-34 age bracket and I struggled with that!! In truth, my very best, most fun and rewarding decade was my 30's. My 40's were pretty good as well, and I figured out what truly mattered in my life. Now iny 50's I'm more confident than I've ever been, unafraid and unabashed, completely at ease with myself and the realizations that come with advanced age. Enjoy your journey. Embrace all of the feelings. Time really does fly...❤❤
Thanks so much for sharing!! 🤍🤍🤍 so much to look forward to. Happy early birthday!
As I get older, I’m learning to celebrate myself outside of what others do. I take the day and do what makes me happy. Anything anyone else does is extra. You have the right idea…you’ll find your person or people soon!!! Happy birthday and enjoy your 25th year❤❤❤❤❤❤
So true! We are our own best friend 🤍 and thank u!
Life transitions are so emotional!!! I’m turning 28 next month and resonated so much with that you said - thank you for being vulnerable and sharing, i just found your channel and binged the past few days
I was in your EXACT shoes a year from now. Ended a 6 year relationship after moving to a new city together, was right after my birthday so not on it but I felt like everything I had ever planned and thought for my 26th year was now a disaster. Keep your head up, you’re so so positive and you’ll get through this and reflect on this day in a year and see how far you’ve come! I’ve never been more sure of my self, you’re so right when you say you’re the only person that’s going to be there through everything for yourself. Just don’t think of it in a negative way, we get one life to live and that should be motivation to be proud of who you are ❤
Thanks so much 🤍 that is so true it’s not a bad thing. I can’t wait to see where I’m at a year from now!!
Maybe take like a french class & then a trip to Paris w/ a friend or a group of friends. Ur very intelligent & good looking so keep up the good work! Never give up!
Happy birthday! From someone 10 years ahead of you.. it's true - there is so much good stuff ahead. Enjoy every year!
Thank you!! I can’t wait to see what unfolds
This isn’t a depressing vlog at all. It’s actually the opposite. It’s refreshingly honest. It’s a raw look at being a human being from start to finish. You are extremely brave for being so honest and vulnerable. So, no, it’s not depressing. It’s uplifting because so many of us have been exactly there or are currently going through it, and you unintentionally offer comfort by showing us we’re not alone in the experiences we’ve had with friends, family, and romantic relationships. I’m 43 and I completely related. I was crying with you. Some wounds remain fresh but there’s beauty in that, too. I feel like I mostly have to rescue myself instead of relying on those who are supposed to care. I’ve also gone through several friends. You really do outgrow some people. But we really need to hang on to the ones who would do anything for us. They really are far and few. I hope you continue to shine in the big apple. Happy belated 25th birthday. For the next one, take yourself on a solo travel trip. Go somewhere you’ve always wanted to go. I hope the smile that was on your beautiful face at the end of this video stays there. Sooo much love to you. You’re the little sister I never had and I’m rooting hard for you.
Thank you so much wow. This is such a thoughtful comment and I love your perspective on this. I’m glad that this is uplifting and relatable to you and I know we are all in this together!!! Thank you for sharing 🤍
Lucia, ur such a kind soul and I absolutely enjoy following your journey in NYC, how you're growing, and sharing your experiences with us. You became such an inspiration for me and I always wait for new videos from you. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your feelings in this vlog, it really resonated with me❣️Have a great day!
Thanks so much 🥹🥹🥹🥹🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
thank you so much for sharing Lucia!! Honestly, i think you settling in to your apartment will definitely help A LOT! I love your channel and I've followed you since Chicago, but I definitely agree that your NYC vids have been a lot of go go go go (which is a good thing!!) but I think settling into your new place will bring you more peace and get back to a routine! P.s. cant wait for the moving vlogs!
It’s so powerful of you to share such a vulnerable moment. We all come to the same realization and it’s a hard lesson of life. Birthdays build a lot of expectation of what others will do for you. There is still so much beauty in celebrating birthdays when you treat yourself like a queen 👸
Thank you 🤍🤍🤍
I am Arabic, I follow your blogs because they are fun and I do not speak English but I understood that it is your birthday, I want to tell you a good year and wish you success🇸🇦💚💚💚💚💚🥳
I never comment however this video really touched my heart ❤ You’re a beautiful intelligent young woman & please know your life will be filled with love & happiness ❤️ much love from England 🌺🌺🌺🌸🌸🌸
I hear you, & what you are feeling is totally valid. Its definitely an adjustment for you, & you are going through quite literally one of the biggest changes of your life right now. I imagine this is your first birthday since your breakup too which is rightfully so tough.
I get existential on my birthday & begin thinking about how much of my life is trimmed off now & that I have less time to live & it makes me really sad. But working on appreciating it more.
Im 28 years old & even being here in Chicago 16 years I do feel I have “less” friends & think a part of getting older involves kinda having “less” friends because we all get busy with life. It makes it super important to really find the most things you love about yourself & appreciate your own time & life and find enjoyment in it. Along that way, you will naturally find new friends. I imagine your classes you do, you will find friends there & going to shows you go to you will stumble on friends who enjoy the things you do. Its a lot to process. Im not perfect, i’ve cried over this myself too.
Having been through breakups myself & being someone that loves having a close friend or friends to rely on, post breakup you can feel extra isolated & time will ultimately be the only thing to heal that. You got this Lucia, I believe in you
Breaks are hard and even if time passes some memories can cause some feelings to come back up. Change can be wonderful but it can also cause anxiety. I get right now you feel jaded but trust that the universe has a plan and you won’t always feel this way. All these feelings will pass and the right person will come at some point and make all the tears worth it. Keep taking care of yourself and filling your cup with what makes u happy now and the rest will just happen. ❤
remember that in life yourself will always be your best friend life it is like a book there are deferent chapters new life new city new people and new flowers you will find your new love just learn to be petiant good luck
I just discovered your videos. Currently binging. Love the new apartment and your attitude!
@@sherrylg2006 awe welcome!! :) thanks so much 🤍🤍
Happy birthday Lucia!! How exciting to turn 25! So much to look forward to for you - moving to your new place and settling in to start your new NYC dream life! Your realizations/quarter life crisis shows that you have an awareness of yourself, your needs, your wants, your dreams! Many people your age have no idea about all those things…. It is you ‘doing’ you in life! I’m sure you have loads of people in your life you would champion you, support you and care for you . Keep and nurture those close friends… believe me you will have many points in your life when you all need each other. I’m excited to see you move into the new place and have new adventures ❤
Thanks so much for these kind words 🤍🤍🤍you are so right
You are your own best friend ❤ take care of yourself , you deserve happiness
Yes 🤍🤍 thank you :)
Happy Birthday 🎂🎉🎁I usually take the week off of work & use my birthday coupons to go to different restaurants, books stores, & just treat myself!
As someone who is 41 (how!?), I can tell you at 25 I was in a similar place. Had a broken engagement. Living in Manhattan. Felt like I didn't have a best friend. 25 is so young and you don't have to have it all figured out yet or have all the friend and personal relationships figured out yet either. I can tell you things change and get better. I have a husband and kids now. You will feel good again. ❤
awe i appreciate this comment sm. thank you!!! so inspiring
Give yourself grace. You are going through some big changes. It's a tough time. But things will get better. Who knows where you'll be next year! Hang in there. ♥
When you were talking about buying yourself flowers, I was thinking about Miley Cyrus "Flowers"...Happy belated birthday Lucia! Here's the 💐virtual flowers for you!!!
Haha yes I definitely listened to that song that day
Happy Belated birthday Lucia and I am glad you got to spend it with some of your friends. I can't wait for you to move into your apartment and decorate it, so much to look forward to. Remember you are your best friend someone you can always count on and you have to really like who you are because you can never get away from yourself. I am sure you will find that one special friend you can count on, whether it is male or female. I look forward to your next vlog and when you get your apartment all set up and you go to the grocery store buy a fresh bunch of flowers for yourself. I like a fresh vase of tulips or daisies. Flowering plants are also nice to have in your apartment. Have a great week-end.
I just did a free week of corepower too. You just moved to a new city so give yourself some grace. Also, it’s normal to feel like you’re feeling regardless if you just moved or not. Hang in there. You’ll find your tribe and this sad moment will pass. I just did a video on getting older and I get having all the feels. I’ve been feeling very nostalgic lately.
🙌🙌🙌🙌 Great job and thank you for sharing!! Thank you for being real and for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us! I can relate to not having that one person right now even if just a good close friend who you feel you vibe with on a good level and that you feel that you can trust!! All in good time though, I’m sure, life can definitely take patience sometimes!! Happy Birthday! ☀️☀️☀️
Yes it will come with time 🤍🤍🤍🤍 we can work on developing those friendships :)
Happy Birthday🥳!! I just went through a very big breakup also, and celebrated my 24th birthday in a city by myself. When you were talking about everything i resonated so hard with it. Its so damn hard going into young adulthood by yourself when you've had a person with you for so long! But we got it!
We are in the same boat! Yes it’s hard but we got this! Sending love 🤍🤍
Thank you for sharing your vulnerable moment! I have been having similar realisations so it was comforting to know other people are feeling the same things. Its so sad but its also so empowering when we realise we should always be prepared to just rely on ourselves and be our own best friend through it all.
Yes!! I love playing the song yes and by Arianna grande to feel empowered :) and thank you next!
I had the same feelings you had during my teenage years - I had to experience loneliness growing up since I was picked on during school - I struggled to accept this reality during school, college and during my twenties, but started to appreciate myself once I turned 29 after reading books about life and my outlook in life has been more positive, inspiring and patient than I’ve ever been as a 30 year old adult.
I hope you know that many people are rooting for you! With your energy, I know you will find a circle of people that will bring you great joy
Happy belated birthday Lucia - I hope you had the best day 😊
Thanks so much 🤍🤍 sorry you had to deal with those feelings so young, glad we are both looking onwards and upwards
A lot of what you said is true BUT I do feel like you were speaking in the heat of the moment. I get it that this realization is hard because you’re always had that one special person and now you don’t. But just know that your not alone millions of people are in the same position as you hell even in Manhattan theirs thousands of people just like you feeling the same way, so don’t get discouraged it’s just life
Best advice I can give you is that you should focus on yourself and put your priorities first. Surround yourself with people that match the same energy as you and most importantly be there for your true friends when they need you. I promise you if your their for your friends that you truly think are your real friends they will be there for you as well. Happy belated birthday Lucia, can’t buy you real flowers so here’s some virtual ones 🌹
Take this time to learn to be alone with yourself, take yourself on dates, meditate, do workouts, journal once you are ok and happy doing all the things that full filled you you won’t take the minimum from any of your relationships because you will know what you want and deserve, enjoy the journey and then you will say heck yes! I Did That!
I love this comment thank you 🤍
I get it. I’ve never had close friends and at 25 my goal is to cultivate those lifelong relationships. Happy birthday!
I get it about friends. My best friend lives in Texas and my other in Florida. Ive been in Alabama for one year and it is LONELY. And there is no real way for me to make friends here. Mothers day was horrible this year for me. And I know no one will be planning my bday. It's been rough. But like all moves I know it will get better. And the reality is you will never know what people think. I've been through the ringer even in this new marriage. But we press on, we get stronger, and we try to enjoy the little things.
. I usually celebrate my birthday by doing something nice for myself like a facial/massage, and I go out and get birthday freebies.
Also, I think its hard to celebrate your birthday alone. However, its better to be alone than in bad company. People will come and go, but the relationship with yourself is so important. However, people need people and its natural to want people around to celebrate with you. Give it time and dont be afraid to cultivate relationship with others. You got this lovely. Sending you so much love.
That sounds lovely! And that’s such a good point 🤍🤍 I know it will come with time
I turned 29 on the 18th. I get how you’re feeling:/ life is hard and it’s just important to make those happy memories and to take of your self. Because you’re right only you are responsible for you. I wish I had this realization at your age- you’re very wise and that is something else to be grateful for. Keep your head up Lucia and happy belated birthday ❤❤
Awe thanks so much. Happy belated birthday to you too!!! 🤍🤍🤍🤍
Love you girl!! you are going through multiple huge changes in your life so the way you are feeling is so valid and honestly expected. take the time to reflect and learn about yourself - future you is going to be so proud of what you went through and accomplished :)
Thanks so much for this sweet note 🤍 focusing on taking the time!!!
I just discovered your channel and wanted to give advice on what you said.
Being by yourself is okay, as long as you keep doing things for yourself and working on yourself and don't fall into any bad habits like self medicating with alcohol or hard drugs. As someone who has seen some of my family members fall victim to alcoholism and drug addiction, do yourself a favor and drink responsibly and don't drive while under the influence and don't ever do things like c*caine, m3th, or so on because it's not worth it just for a temporary band-aid to a bigger underlying problem.
Being by yourself might be tough especially if you're more extroverted and need socializing, just think of it as finding out who really cares about you and who doesn't care.
It's not surprising you feel this way though at this age, you've graduated high school, gone to college, moved cities, and got a job in your field and so have the other people you known and unfortunately people will drift apart as they make new friends and move to new places.
The people who care will bother to stick around and stay in contact regularly, those who don't care will just drift away into the wind. Just know that if people drift away, that it is not your fault and you shouldn't overthink on why they they drifted away. Big life changes can be difficult, especially when its coupled with finding out who your true friends are.
Just take care of yourself, and know that if things get to be too much you can always seek out therapy or counseling.
Thanks so much 🤍🤍🤍 welcome to my channel! And thanks for taking the time to write such a thoughtful note. I love everything that you said and i will definitely keep it in mind on my journey 🤍🤍🤍🤍
Happy Birthday! Wow, look at you! To be so young and in Manhattan on your own! You are doing it. Lots of good things for your life are coming your way at the right time. Well done!
Thanks so much!!! Ahhh I hope so!!
Happy belated birthday! You can be a “birthday person” without drinking heavily. I enjoy going out to dinner or a movie for my birthday. There is a lot to see and do in NYC. Best of luck to you in the coming year.
Very true!!! So many things to do that don’t involve drinking
Birthdays always make me a bit sad and emo. You’re in a time of transition so it’s totally normal to feel out of sorts. You’re smart and beautiful and have so much to look forward to! Happy birthday! 😊💕
Thank you! 🤍 so true
Enjoying this,happy birthday again Lucia! ❤❤
Thank you:)
Hi Lucia 🙂
2️⃣5️⃣ 🌎. I'm looking forward to seeing how you start the journey into the second quarter of your life. You are going to be sent so many flower emojis from your subscribers now: 💐. Please be fair to yourself, it's still only four months since your life emotionally changed, that isn't long. I've noticed that a few female vloggers struggle around their birthdays; it's okay to cry but remember how loved you are and when you are ready, you will find the right guy and together you will make so many special moments in time together. The very best times in your life are ahead of you.
Best wishes to you for this 26th year of your life 🫂.
You are Amazing!! I am going through the exact same thing that you are with my breakup that happened in January and it’s really hard. Thank you for this because I haven’t been able to express this feeling the way you have!!#keepgoing
Awe sending you love as well 🤍🤍🤍
Yes, what you said made sense Lucia! I felt similarly when I turned 25.... I wouldn't say that people don't really care about others, but everyone has their own priorities which don't always align with other people's priorities. It can definitely be disappointing. So at the end of the day, YOU DO YOU. It's all the more reason to go after what you want, and with what control we do have, maintain our relationships in the best way possible ❤
So true! I think people do care but everyone just has so much going on! And yes focusing on what you can control is so important
I'm so sorry you feel alone. guess we're on the same page, I also feel that if I needed someone nobody would actually be there for me, and don't feel like I have those close friendships. but what always cheers me up is that I am who I am, and most important, I believe I'm always there for anyone, and the fact that many people trust me to tell me their feelings is so satisfying! all the best and happy 25 🎉
So true! We can cultivate these friendships with time
I am turning 40 next January and even I can relate
Thanks so much that is so kind 🤍
Happy belated birthday 🎉🎉🎉!!!
Thanks so much :)
You are so strong! what you are going through ISNT easy!!!!
Thank you 😭😭
Congratulations on your new place 🎉
Thank u :)))
Thank you for sharing the realness so relatable!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let’s be friends girllllllll
You are burning the candle at both ends almost every day! You need to take care of yourself.
On our birthdays my husband and I buy presents for other people in our lives. One year I posed a question on line and drew 10 names of the responders and gave away a bunch of gifts to other people.
That is SO sweet. I love that idea!!!
I so empathize with all of your life transitions at a key milestone in your life. I hope you know that you are not alone. You have family and friends who love you, followers who love you, and if you have faith you know God loves you more than anyone else ever could. But you are so right, you must love and cherish the amazing human you are first so you have lots and lots of love to give to others.
Happy belated birthday!
Thank u!
Youre doing incredible for your age
Sounds about right. Bound to happen
you really need to look deep within and ask yourself why you need so much external validation and attention? you're not a child anymore. you've been grown for years. why do you need someone to tell you they're proud of you and make a huge deal out of your birthday? why do you need someone to congratulate you on all your accomplishments for the year? you're not that special! you're like the 'participation trophy' version of a human. you live in one of the greatest cities in the world with every opportunity imaginable! be grateful for another day on the planet and keep it moving!
June 1st? Gosh these vlogs are behind
Try hard to not have expectations of others on your BDAY & celebrate all the moments: texts-IG wishes..even flowers you wouldn’t select if up to you. Find the beauty. Then any surprises that come your way day of will feel even more special. Every year will be different & FAB in unique ways. You have a pretty sweet life going. Mabes seek out events in Manhattan & meet new peeps! Hang in there! Great things are coming! ❤🎉 Happy 25th!
Thank you!!! 🤍🤍 yes I think lowering expectations is key so every moment is a fun surprise :)
5:29 wow you looked gorgeous here 😍
Awe thank you so much :)))
Why do you look 15 years older on TH-cam than instagram?
My birthday was June 1st
Same!! ☺️
Awe Gemini twins!!
gIRL you're so dramatic! a birthday is just another day as an adult. it's honestly weird that we even put this much emphasis on birthdays in the u.s. if you want flowers, buy yourself some flowers. you have to be your own rock and make YOU happy. no one is going to care more about you than you
I’m sorry you’re feeling that way.. but can I just say, you’re going through a huge life change, so it should feel crazy and dishelved and unsettled.
On a side note, the differences between your cousins decor/furniture and your brothers apartment decor/furniture 😂😂😂
Thank you 🤍🤍 and LMAO so right
If i knew I would totally buy you flowers
I'm really anxious to see your apartment.
very depressing video