If you can't give the world to your kids then you don't deserve to have one because of how cruel this world is. Don't let them be a part of this miserable world.
@@lance-k8b yeah, agree with your question, what is world. because in spiritual sense, "world" is not something that you would want to give your kids...
I love you babaeng nka yellow with glasses. Everything u said are ON POINT. Kung wala sa capacity to raise a child and give a better life for them, PLEASE wag na magparami maawa kayo sa sarili nyo at sa magiging anak nyo.
I really like the answer of the guy with checkered long sleeves. Kung di emotionally stable or di mo kaya magpalaki ng bata na kailangan ng emotional support, financial security, safe & accepting environment and shelter then don't have kids. Dahil magpapalaki na naman kayo ng mga batang emotionally unavailable at nakapasan sa kanila ang responsibilidad na buhayin ang sarili nila sa murang edad na hindi naman nila ginusto.
I agree with you. Kaso, life here on earth is unpredictable. Hindi natin masasabi na, yung parents natin ngayon, I'll say okay, responsible and talagang mababait but what about the next generation. They grow up, have their own principles and attitude. We only worry what we have sa ngayon but what about the next person and the next and the next.... 🤷
I remember having some co-workers who constantly made me feel like they were dragging me down because I didn't have kids. They would ask med to splurge more because they believed I had no expenses, and they pressured me to have a child with my ex-boyfriend even before this happened. I was so irritated that I couldn't help but say, "Please don't involve me in your complicated lives. You guys are always complaining about your husbands and noisy children, unable to focus on skincare, and pressuring me to have a child. Is it because misery loves company?" No effin way.
@@dodji582😅🤣🤣 at least us child-free people, wala kaming sinaskatan na bata either physical or emotional pag pagud na and frustrated. Walang pinapaiyak na bata sa mall or any public places na may gusto ang bata kaso hindi ma afford, walang batang nagugutom, ma molested, naiiwanan sa kahit sino o napapabayaan. Nabu'bully sa school or e push na mataas ang score. I know you know what I'm saying if you only open your eyes and see what is happening surrounds you. Anyway, You do you! I respect your opinion. You should learn to respect others people's opinion, 'cause either way your child will became a person too.
Wow! I am so glad pinagusapan na din to jan sa Pinas. Romanticizing the idea of a baby or a child, 🤔... As a woman in my early 30's I would say, I didn't regret my decision of not wanting or having a child. I was highschool, at that time I realize it is not for me. Poverty and inflation opened my mind sa reality ng buhay. And when I was in my 20's and working. The desire of not wanting child(ren) is became more stronger. I couldn't even afford to care for myself, provide for my needs and I have my parent asking for my help (typical tradition of Pinoy, you owe them your life). Ngayon, napaka saya ko. I don't have to hustle for a job, I only worry for myself and my partner, the house is quiet and clean. I don't have to feel selfish kung kakain ako ng masarap or magbakasyon na wala yung bata kasi, my child doesn't exist. Maraming ipapasalamat na wala akong anak. If only we analyze the idea of having a child, siguro walang batang magugutom, napapahamak, or any negative situation that can happen to a child or a person. Kahit sabihin natin na we grow up in a loving family but then we(they) leave in the house and build our (their) own family. Can we still assume if they'll have the same environment? I've been there and done that. I was a child, a daughter, a student and a person(worker and colleagues), and also a citizen of the country. Mahirap. To inflect that pain again to another person. I don't think so it's a good idea just for my own benefits to find fulfillment, meaning and so on. 🤷 Anyway, to each, their own. ☺️ 🕊️♥️🍀
As a 17 years old this always come to my mind. Gusto ko to topic na to as much as possible inoopen kwento ko sa family ko,ayaw ko magka anak. Sabi nila sino mag aalaga sakin pag tanda. Nasa isip ko so mag anak ba ako para may mag alaga sakin. Ang dami ko nakikita (sorry for the term if may na offend ako) - matatanda or a grown up may anak but magisa sila sa life. Nasa isip ko yes masaya may anak ka iba feeling, pero it is a responsibility and hindi ko makita sarili ko may anak. Lalo na panahon ngayon puro single parent tapos ang laki na ng population. Saka you to be financial stable, mentally stable talaga to have a child. Saka wala naman masama if choice naman ng isang tao d magka anak. Saka pressure, kasi syempre babae is the one giving birth may cases pine pressure sila magkaanak. Kasi parang gawain lng babae mag anak. Pero dapat normalize natin if a girl doesn't want to have a baby so what! Saka mahirap kasi madami naghihiwalay na partner pero may anak. Yung anak naapektuhan talaga.
Sabi nga ng mga elders natin ganun talaga hnd mo maalis ung mindset na un... Kung sinabi mo na malay mo in the near future baka hnd natin alam... Sabi mo nga ure 17 wala pa sa isip mo yan hnd nman yan minamadali kapag nagmamadali kase madalas nagsstumble hard kaya go ur own pace pa din
Mama ko always pressure me na mag-asawa at magka anak dahil sa usual na "sino mag aalaga sayo pag tanda mo" eme. Nakaka irita pero I get why she's like that. She's simply concern coz I'm her only child (I have older half-siblings). Also, our way of thinking is different. It's generational. I'm 36 and she finally let go and accepted that I'm not having kids. It takes time but endure if you really want NOT to have kids. But you're still young. Your perspective will change overtime. But if not, just endure the pressure. They'll eventually accept your decision.
I'm almost twice your age, and still childfree. Ignore the naysayers, follow what you want. I never wanted kids since I guess, 8? There were lots who said that I might change my mind, I never did. Just like the lady in yellow in the video, I'm good with kids, but I was never compelled to have my own. So, your age is not a marker that you will change your mind; perhaps it will, but equally, it may also not.
Parenthood requires life-long commitment and emotional, financial, physical, and mental stability. If wala ka non, and you're also not that eager to work on these things, it's much better to not have a kid.
Nung late 20's ko nape-pressure na ko kasi lahat ng batchmates ko may mga asawa't anak na.Pero ngayon mag 34 na ko.Sinabi ko sa sarili ko okay lang kahit single di na ko mag-aasawa.Lalo na naexperience ko yung sa household na wala man lang support galing sa father.Yung sinasahod ko ngayon pang single lang talaga.Natatakot ako na baka di ko mapunan yung pangangailangan ng magiging anak ko,mahihiya ako sa kanila.Ok lang mag-isa though may time lang talaga na malungkot ako na mag-isa.Tanggap ko na tatanda ko mag-isa though di ko pa rin sinasara na baka magkapamilya ako in future.
when i watched the 'opposites' episode related to this, i was feeling different about the woman preferring not to have children kasi itinanim sa akin ng school na ang essence ng pagiging babae ay ang pagkakaroon ng anak. But as time passes by, I am leaning on her side. I am very happy with this discussion because it feels like the voice inside my head has been spoken with these beautiful people especially the lady in yellow. As a panganay in a not so well-off family with unspeakable traumas on the side, it's a good decision not to have a child. 'Wag mag-aanak kung hindi naman kayang magpakamagulang.
Yes! Absolutely! Hindi ako panganay pero ako ang naging panganay. Kahirap ng buhay bilang isang Pinoy! 😅😂 Pinu'push pa ang mga bagay na hindi mo naman gusto, for the sake na umangat ang buhay na dapat sila yung gumawa nung una. 😂 Bago naglandi! 😅🤣 Ang problem lang talaga magkaiba yung pananaw natin sa buhay at mga gusto. Naisip ko minsan kung choice ba or sadya lang talagang mga walang pakialam.😂🤣 Yung gusto ang ipanaglalaban. Kahit yung babae na nahuli na yung Asawang lalaki na may kalaguyo, pinatawad tapos nag anak ulit tapos naglandi ulit ang lalaki. Nakikita pa ng panganay na nagaaway sila, physical. Kaawa talaga ang mga bata. Hahayy... 😔
We're more than 100 million here in the Philippines, so if you're feeling pressured by others, don't. You're not under any responsibility to procreate. Children are wonderful and complex beings, but any parent will tell you, they're expensive. Just imagine how much our parents have spent on us growing up. If you have the means to raise them, and you want to, go. But if not, then don't. We don't need more neglected children here.
Being childfree by choice is beneficial for me, I dont want my child to go through what i have gone through. This is fulfilling to talk about because i feel very happy that im single and i am financially and emotionally incapable of having a child.
yes! To each his own. I always wanted to have a kid and I recently had my first. I'm the happiest when it happened but it's never easy raising a child. It's not for everyone, It's a personal choice.
Very relatable. Now that I am in my 20's and a breadwinner for 7 years, I decided to not have a child. Hindi ko nga maasikaso sarili ko, yung future anak ko pa kaya? I am glad na hindi lang pala ako ang may ganoon mindset. I am an elementary teacher and I love being with kids. I just do not want to have them because I am not ready holistically. Financially speaking, hindi ko mapoprovide kase sa pamilya ko pa lang at sarili ko kulang na. Sana wag masyadong mangjudge ang ibang tao sa ganitong mindset. Hindi kakulangan ang kawalan ng anak sa pagiging ganap na babae.
Honestly, I'm in the middle. I mean, it's definitely nice to raise your own child, but it's also expensive. I mean, it's already hard to pay the bills, what more if you have a family to feed right? It's not practical to raise a child. There is no wrong answer here honestly; it's just a matter of figuring out your priorities
Kung di mo kaya buhayin sarili mo comfortably and kung selfish ka, you have to think twice or thrice before ka mag-anak. Hindi yan parang phone lang na kapag may defect eh pwede mo soli sa store.
Parents especially fathers think that their job is solely to provide a home and food for their kids then that's it. Kapag may dinaranas mentally yung anak nila, balewala na lang
Di ko pinagsisihan na may anak na ko, pero way back sana, sana nag focus muna ako sa sarili ko, nagipon para sa future, enjoy every moment ung sawa kna sa pagiging dalaga, sa ngayun kc more on focus sa anak na minsan naiisip ko wala na ko me time, pagnagkaroon nmn ako ng time sa sarili kasama ang barkada parang nkokonsensya ako kc nga may anak na ko,
I'm both. Yes - If I am capable enough to holistically have something to offer my future kid. I'm a breadwinner, I need to go extra mile just to make sure that I can provide my family and even MYSELF a good life. I need to make sure that I already feel accomplished and I have already done most of the things that I wanted to do. Coz if you have a child, it would not be that easy to do the things that you can do as a single person. No - as of now. I do not want to have a kid. For the reason that I am just starting to earn more. Im just starting to do the things that I am dreaming of. That is why the thought of bearing a child, as of now, is so scary that it feels like a dead end for me. A child rn would cause so much chaos in my life that I do not think I could handle. A new human being is not something you could just throw away bcs you dont like it anymore.
I'm very good with kids ako nga nag alaga halos sa kapatid kong bunso nung baby pa sya. Pero ngayon, ang mahal magka anak at kung mahirap ka din mas magandang wag maipasa ang kahirapan sa magiging anak mo. Kung nag improve ang life mo at afford mo na mag ka anak then go ahead, multiply.
I loved this content! Finally!!!!! Hearing different opinions makes me realize that having a child doesn't necessary in this life. It's still our choice. 🤸
Having a Kid is a Choice🙂, and we need to eradicate the mindset na we need to have a child para my mag alaga sa atin pag tanda😑. Godsake our Children are not retirement program . And di kasalanan ng bata kung pinanganak mo sya sa Earth kung sisingilin mo sya pagtanda🙏🏿
I think mas maganda kung may ibang generation ang guest like 50s 60s? Para may something like contradiction?? malaman natin sagot nila d lang puro sa new gen.
Same thoughts! I know a lot of child-free couples/child-free individuals who are very much fulfilled in life. They have been my inspiration growing up. So heto, NBSB & still single at 30 and I'm lovin' it!
Also there are childless couples or singles din naman who are miserable in their late 50s, 60s naman. There's a documentary called Age Gap, but this is more on unplanned childlessness. Still waiting for the release of the 2nd part, though.
You always have the choice. It is never selfish whatever the decision it is you have in your mind rn. Simply, if you aren't ready, (holistically) don't pursue and do it. Rather than to say burden, it's a blessing and a beautiful sense of purpose and inspiration. Raise your self well enough so you'll be able to raise your kid with what he or she deserves. All love !
Kahit isang anak lng ok na ko as long may mapapasahan ako ng mga kayaman ko hahaha. But yeah it's a big responsibility and dapat sa ganyan pinaplano talaga. Choice paren yan if gusto ba ng isang tao magka anak.
The impact of culture and religion on the Filipino way of living is really evident in this video, you'd notice how their answers are mostly rooted in them. Nonetheless, I appreciate how their responses are more open and applicable to the realities of today. Throughout the video, I found myself agreeing with what was being said most of the time.
12yrs ago Yes, I want to have kids but now it's a big No. I have 1 son and that's enough for me. Being a parent it's a big responsibility for me. Have kids if you can afford financially if not wag na lang nakakaawa sa mga bata.
In general, it is normal for someone not choosing the path of parenthood. After all, the people who are open-minded would realize how our society is suffering, and we keep on telling children that they are our "future," the one who would solve its problems for the next generation to come, when in fact it is us that should be breaking the norm of passing the burden of the society to them. Not having children doesn't make us less of a human. Therefore, let us not be dictated by the norms of society as parenthood may be a fulfillment, but it is also a lifetime responsibility.
My choice of not having kids come from Medical/Financial reasons and based on personal experience. Ayokong ipasa sa nxt generation yung Cancer genes ko(Cancer pt. here). Hindi ko nga mapagkasya ang kita ko para sa sarili. At coming from 9 siblings then panganay,ayokong maexperience ng nxt gen ko yung mga napagdaanan ko...enough na ang pagiging tita...
The problem is poor families have more children which makes their lives worst, but wealthy families have less children, Family planning seminar should be a must to poor families......
but it's true iho, not financially speaking but physically speaking. pag tumanda ka, babae ka man o lalaki, need mo ng magiging assistance ng kahit sino sa simpleng pagbubuhat lang o paglilinis ng bahay. interdependent po tayo gen Z. di ka aasahan ng magulang mo financially dahil tama ka di tayo retirement plan, pero pag naging uugod ugod na yan, need pa rin ng mag aalaga ng magulang mo sa kanya. it's the cycle of life. wag ka masyado mag isip about finances when it comes to old age, dahil kahit mayaman ka at kaya mo magbayad ng mag aalaga sayo, malungkot buhay mo kung di ka na rin iniisip at inaasikaso ng anak mo dahil wala ka ng silbi sa kanila..
I'm 32 and i never felt a need to have a child tho i like kids and i always wonder cute ba magiging bby ko. 🤣 But sabi nga ni girl nka yellow "its not practical", 😅 lalo na if breadwinner ka jusko.
Ayaw ko talaga magka anak. Everyday, I blame my parents for bringing me forth into this world. Ayaw ko talaga maging part ng mundong to, tos papasa ko pa ba tong frustration nato sa magiging anak ko? No way
Following that logic, every single one of us are parasites that leech off resources straight from our predecessor's pocket and hardwork. No one is innocent 😂
Not gonna lie, the disadvantage of pets is that when you go out-of-town, you need to work on lots of papers. Unlike kids that grow older and you can join trips with them, leave them while you go on a trip, or have a trip of their own. Speaking from personal experience as a pet owner. Anyway, I prefer having kids in the future. It's a unique way to experience being a kid once again even if you can't physically be one. Coming from someone who had a shitty childhood and teenage life. I just wanted to have a take two and let them experience something that younger me could only dream of.
nag disagree ako dun sa sinabi ng psych major hnd kelangan burahin sa isipan ung ganung klaseng mindset ng pinoy ang kelangan is alam mo ung pace mo sa ganung bagay at alam mo kung kelan ka magssettle down and to have kids... it is still a choice parin hnd mo kelangan sundan ung pace ng flow ng mundo...
It's high time to remove the mindset that "dapat ganto ka na pag eto na edad mo". Kaya madami ang nappressure tapos stressed/depressed pag di nameet Ang expectations. But I agree with you that you have to do things in your own pace and not to measure up against everyone but yourself.
Hnd kelangan burahin talaga ung mindset na un kase nga pinoy ehh elders pa din natin sila ang kelangan lang is ipaliwanag ng mabuti kung bakit ganun ung pace mo kung mga kapitbahay mo lang hnd na need magpaliwanag sakanila... Natutunan ko sa movie na 3 idiots na kelangan paliwanag mo ng me sincerity at bakit mo gagawin un...
@@arthurjohnmasinda3287 point taken. Btw when I said that the mindset should be removed, I actually meant na sa Sarili lang. Like apply it only to you. Coz it's hard to change other people's perspective in life. That's why I said not to measure up against everyone but yourself.
Well nasa pinas kase tayo kaya limited lang makakaintindi talaga naggets ko ung point mo... Sabi nga din sa video different perspective different opinions wag nalang pakialaman alam mo nman pinoy paladesisyon...
Well ung meaning is double purpose bru if ure looking it in religion aspect iba pero kapag familial aspect ganun din un as long as ung bata ay ibibigay mo kay Lord
If you can't give the world to your kids then you don't deserve to have one because of how cruel this world is. Don't let them be a part of this miserable world.
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Statement is really “you don’t deserve”? That’s too intense.
So what does the "world" mean to you?
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@@lance-k8b yeah, agree with your question, what is world. because in spiritual sense, "world" is not something that you would want to give your kids...
I love you babaeng nka yellow with glasses. Everything u said are ON POINT. Kung wala sa capacity to raise a child and give a better life for them, PLEASE wag na magparami maawa kayo sa sarili nyo at sa magiging anak nyo.
I really like the answer of the guy with checkered long sleeves. Kung di emotionally stable or di mo kaya magpalaki ng bata na kailangan ng emotional support, financial security, safe & accepting environment and shelter then don't have kids. Dahil magpapalaki na naman kayo ng mga batang emotionally unavailable at nakapasan sa kanila ang responsibilidad na buhayin ang sarili nila sa murang edad na hindi naman nila ginusto.
I agree with you. Kaso, life here on earth is unpredictable. Hindi natin masasabi na, yung parents natin ngayon, I'll say okay, responsible and talagang mababait but what about the next generation. They grow up, have their own principles and attitude. We only worry what we have sa ngayon but what about the next person and the next and the next.... 🤷
I remember having some co-workers who constantly made me feel like they were dragging me down because I didn't have kids. They would ask med to splurge more because they believed I had no expenses, and they pressured me to have a child with my ex-boyfriend even before this happened. I was so irritated that I couldn't help but say, "Please don't involve me in your complicated lives. You guys are always complaining about your husbands and noisy children, unable to focus on skincare, and pressuring me to have a child. Is it because misery loves company?" No effin way.
as a woman you will be miserable if you don't have kids
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@@dodji582 as a woman you will be miserable if you have kids
@@dodji582respect personal choices, and dont impose your belief on others.
@@dodji582😅🤣🤣 at least us child-free people, wala kaming sinaskatan na bata either physical or emotional pag pagud na and frustrated. Walang pinapaiyak na bata sa mall or any public places na may gusto ang bata kaso hindi ma afford, walang batang nagugutom, ma molested, naiiwanan sa kahit sino o napapabayaan. Nabu'bully sa school or e push na mataas ang score. I know you know what I'm saying if you only open your eyes and see what is happening surrounds you.
Anyway, You do you! I respect your opinion. You should learn to respect others people's opinion, 'cause either way your child will became a person too.
Wow! I am so glad pinagusapan na din to jan sa Pinas. Romanticizing the idea of a baby or a child, 🤔...
As a woman in my early 30's I would say, I didn't regret my decision of not wanting or having a child. I was highschool, at that time I realize it is not for me. Poverty and inflation opened my mind sa reality ng buhay. And when I was in my 20's and working. The desire of not wanting child(ren) is became more stronger. I couldn't even afford to care for myself, provide for my needs and I have my parent asking for my help (typical tradition of Pinoy, you owe them your life). Ngayon, napaka saya ko. I don't have to hustle for a job, I only worry for myself and my partner, the house is quiet and clean. I don't have to feel selfish kung kakain ako ng masarap or magbakasyon na wala yung bata kasi, my child doesn't exist. Maraming ipapasalamat na wala akong anak. If only we analyze the idea of having a child, siguro walang batang magugutom, napapahamak, or any negative situation that can happen to a child or a person. Kahit sabihin natin na we grow up in a loving family but then we(they) leave in the house and build our (their) own family. Can we still assume if they'll have the same environment? I've been there and done that. I was a child, a daughter, a student and a person(worker and colleagues), and also a citizen of the country. Mahirap. To inflect that pain again to another person. I don't think so it's a good idea just for my own benefits to find fulfillment, meaning and so on. 🤷
Anyway, to each, their own. ☺️
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As a 17 years old this always come to my mind. Gusto ko to topic na to as much as possible inoopen kwento ko sa family ko,ayaw ko magka anak. Sabi nila sino mag aalaga sakin pag tanda. Nasa isip ko so mag anak ba ako para may mag alaga sakin. Ang dami ko nakikita (sorry for the term if may na offend ako) - matatanda or a grown up may anak but magisa sila sa life. Nasa isip ko yes masaya may anak ka iba feeling, pero it is a responsibility and hindi ko makita sarili ko may anak. Lalo na panahon ngayon puro single parent tapos ang laki na ng population. Saka you to be financial stable, mentally stable talaga to have a child. Saka wala naman masama if choice naman ng isang tao d magka anak.
Saka pressure, kasi syempre babae is the one giving birth may cases pine pressure sila magkaanak. Kasi parang gawain lng babae mag anak. Pero dapat normalize natin if a girl doesn't want to have a baby so what! Saka mahirap kasi madami naghihiwalay na partner pero may anak. Yung anak naapektuhan talaga.
Sabi nga ng mga elders natin ganun talaga hnd mo maalis ung mindset na un... Kung sinabi mo na malay mo in the near future baka hnd natin alam... Sabi mo nga ure 17 wala pa sa isip mo yan hnd nman yan minamadali kapag nagmamadali kase madalas nagsstumble hard kaya go ur own pace pa din
Mama ko always pressure me na mag-asawa at magka anak dahil sa usual na "sino mag aalaga sayo pag tanda mo" eme. Nakaka irita pero I get why she's like that. She's simply concern coz I'm her only child (I have older half-siblings). Also, our way of thinking is different. It's generational. I'm 36 and she finally let go and accepted that I'm not having kids. It takes time but endure if you really want NOT to have kids. But you're still young. Your perspective will change overtime. But if not, just endure the pressure. They'll eventually accept your decision.
I'm almost twice your age, and still childfree. Ignore the naysayers, follow what you want. I never wanted kids since I guess, 8? There were lots who said that I might change my mind, I never did. Just like the lady in yellow in the video, I'm good with kids, but I was never compelled to have my own. So, your age is not a marker that you will change your mind; perhaps it will, but equally, it may also not.
Parenthood requires life-long commitment and emotional, financial, physical, and mental stability. If wala ka non, and you're also not that eager to work on these things, it's much better to not have a kid.
Children are investments for our retirement in the philippines
Children are investments for our retirement in the philippines
Nung late 20's ko nape-pressure na ko kasi lahat ng batchmates ko may mga asawa't anak na.Pero ngayon mag 34 na ko.Sinabi ko sa sarili ko okay lang kahit single di na ko mag-aasawa.Lalo na naexperience ko yung sa household na wala man lang support galing sa father.Yung sinasahod ko ngayon pang single lang talaga.Natatakot ako na baka di ko mapunan yung pangangailangan ng magiging anak ko,mahihiya ako sa kanila.Ok lang mag-isa though may time lang talaga na malungkot ako na mag-isa.Tanggap ko na tatanda ko mag-isa though di ko pa rin sinasara na baka magkapamilya ako in future.
Same.
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👋me too
Same thoughts
Same po .Hindi ko lang magets bakit ayaw i respeto nang iba yung ganitong mindset .kukumbisinhin ka nila na mag anak kala namn nila sila bubuhay .
If you can't take the responsibility as parent..then choose not to have kids.. periodt.
when i watched the 'opposites' episode related to this, i was feeling different about the woman preferring not to have children kasi itinanim sa akin ng school na ang essence ng pagiging babae ay ang pagkakaroon ng anak. But as time passes by, I am leaning on her side.
I am very happy with this discussion because it feels like the voice inside my head has been spoken with these beautiful people especially the lady in yellow. As a panganay in a not so well-off family with unspeakable traumas on the side, it's a good decision not to have a child. 'Wag mag-aanak kung hindi naman kayang magpakamagulang.
Yes! Absolutely! Hindi ako panganay pero ako ang naging panganay. Kahirap ng buhay bilang isang Pinoy! 😅😂 Pinu'push pa ang mga bagay na hindi mo naman gusto, for the sake na umangat ang buhay na dapat sila yung gumawa nung una. 😂 Bago naglandi! 😅🤣
Ang problem lang talaga magkaiba yung pananaw natin sa buhay at mga gusto. Naisip ko minsan kung choice ba or sadya lang talagang mga walang pakialam.😂🤣 Yung gusto ang ipanaglalaban.
Kahit yung babae na nahuli na yung Asawang lalaki na may kalaguyo, pinatawad tapos nag anak ulit tapos naglandi ulit ang lalaki. Nakikita pa ng panganay na nagaaway sila, physical. Kaawa talaga ang mga bata. Hahayy... 😔
We're more than 100 million here in the Philippines, so if you're feeling pressured by others, don't. You're not under any responsibility to procreate.
Children are wonderful and complex beings, but any parent will tell you, they're expensive. Just imagine how much our parents have spent on us growing up. If you have the means to raise them, and you want to, go. But if not, then don't. We don't need more neglected children here.
Children are investments for our retirement in the philippines
Love the topic. Having a kids is really a preference and a lifestyle.
Being childfree by choice is beneficial for me, I dont want my child to go through what i have gone through. This is fulfilling to talk about because i feel very happy that im single and i am financially and emotionally incapable of having a child.
I have so much respect for everyone involved in this discourse. Kudos!
Totally agree with the girl wearing yellow 💯 on point. I really waited for this topic to be discussed.
yes! To each his own. I always wanted to have a kid and I recently had my first. I'm the happiest when it happened but it's never easy raising a child. It's not for everyone, It's a personal choice.
Having no children is not wrong and does not make a person less than people have kids.
Very relatable. Now that I am in my 20's and a breadwinner for 7 years, I decided to not have a child. Hindi ko nga maasikaso sarili ko, yung future anak ko pa kaya? I am glad na hindi lang pala ako ang may ganoon mindset. I am an elementary teacher and I love being with kids. I just do not want to have them because I am not ready holistically. Financially speaking, hindi ko mapoprovide kase sa pamilya ko pa lang at sarili ko kulang na. Sana wag masyadong mangjudge ang ibang tao sa ganitong mindset. Hindi kakulangan ang kawalan ng anak sa pagiging ganap na babae.
And sometimes it's not about WE DONT WANT KIDS some part is WE JUST SCARED NA MATULAD SILA SA PINAGDAANAN NATIN.
Honestly, I'm in the middle. I mean, it's definitely nice to raise your own child, but it's also expensive. I mean, it's already hard to pay the bills, what more if you have a family to feed right? It's not practical to raise a child.
There is no wrong answer here honestly; it's just a matter of figuring out your priorities
The answer is both.
Yes - if you plan your life and can afford to have kids.
No - if you want to stay happy and do whatever you want.
Kung di mo kaya buhayin sarili mo comfortably and kung selfish ka, you have to think twice or thrice before ka mag-anak. Hindi yan parang phone lang na kapag may defect eh pwede mo soli sa store.
Parents especially fathers think that their job is solely to provide a home and food for their kids then that's it. Kapag may dinaranas mentally yung anak nila, balewala na lang
Di ko pinagsisihan na may anak na ko, pero way back sana, sana nag focus muna ako sa sarili ko, nagipon para sa future, enjoy every moment ung sawa kna sa pagiging dalaga, sa ngayun kc more on focus sa anak na minsan naiisip ko wala na ko me time, pagnagkaroon nmn ako ng time sa sarili kasama ang barkada parang nkokonsensya ako kc nga may anak na ko,
I was just having this conversation with myself awhile ago omg 🙊
I'm both.
Yes - If I am capable enough to holistically have something to offer my future kid. I'm a breadwinner, I need to go extra mile just to make sure that I can provide my family and even MYSELF a good life. I need to make sure that I already feel accomplished and I have already done most of the things that I wanted to do. Coz if you have a child, it would not be that easy to do the things that you can do as a single person.
No - as of now. I do not want to have a kid. For the reason that I am just starting to earn more. Im just starting to do the things that I am dreaming of. That is why the thought of bearing a child, as of now, is so scary that it feels like a dead end for me. A child rn would cause so much chaos in my life that I do not think I could handle. A new human being is not something you could just throw away bcs you dont like it anymore.
I'm very good with kids ako nga nag alaga halos sa kapatid kong bunso nung baby pa sya. Pero ngayon, ang mahal magka anak at kung mahirap ka din mas magandang wag maipasa ang kahirapan sa magiging anak mo. Kung nag improve ang life mo at afford mo na mag ka anak then go ahead, multiply.
I loved this content! Finally!!!!! Hearing different opinions makes me realize that having a child doesn't necessary in this life. It's still our choice. 🤸
Having a Kid is a Choice🙂, and we need to eradicate the mindset na we need to have a child para my mag alaga sa atin pag tanda😑. Godsake our Children are not retirement program . And di kasalanan ng bata kung pinanganak mo sya sa Earth kung sisingilin mo sya pagtanda🙏🏿
I love these kind of mindset. I don’t want kids and everytime I tell people that they shame me but they’re literally struggling 😬😬
Sa mga naging parents jan pero sekretong nagsisi na nagka anak sa panahon ngayon, sege panindigan nyo na masaya talaga kayo HAHAHAHA
wla ka pong anak?
The actors are so well-spoken!
I think mas maganda kung may ibang generation ang guest like 50s 60s? Para may something like contradiction?? malaman natin sagot nila d lang puro sa new gen.
Same thoughts! I know a lot of child-free couples/child-free individuals who are very much fulfilled in life. They have been my inspiration growing up. So heto, NBSB & still single at 30 and I'm lovin' it!
@@ShannahMarieMontales be honest, you don't love it, you're miserable
@@dodji582 Edi wow
Also there are childless couples or singles din naman who are miserable in their late 50s, 60s naman. There's a documentary called Age Gap, but this is more on unplanned childlessness. Still waiting for the release of the 2nd part, though.
You always have the choice.
It is never selfish whatever the decision it is you have in your mind rn.
Simply, if you aren't ready, (holistically) don't pursue and do it.
Rather than to say burden, it's a blessing and a beautiful sense of purpose and inspiration.
Raise your self well enough so you'll be able to raise your kid with what he or she deserves.
All love !
Well the long haired guy said its kind of a burden u will come to a point that if its too hard it will be but a good burden not a bad one
Kahit isang anak lng ok na ko as long may mapapasahan ako ng mga kayaman ko hahaha. But yeah it's a big responsibility and dapat sa ganyan pinaplano talaga. Choice paren yan if gusto ba ng isang tao magka anak.
Louder to this kind of topic. Break the norms.
"Una sa lahat, hindi naman retirement fund ang bata." SAY IT LOUDER
if i know i can't give the best to my child, then i know i am not worthy to be a parent
Always remember you are enough and worth it.
I also like the topic. I suggest also that you interview persons of different religions / with different traditions who decided not to have kids.
Do not use religion as an excuse. They do not teach you to have kids by default, but do they teach to have a family planning and stable income?
The impact of culture and religion on the Filipino way of living is really evident in this video, you'd notice how their answers are mostly rooted in them. Nonetheless, I appreciate how their responses are more open and applicable to the realities of today. Throughout the video, I found myself agreeing with what was being said most of the time.
12yrs ago Yes, I want to have kids but now it's a big No. I have 1 son and that's enough for me. Being a parent it's a big responsibility for me. Have kids if you can afford financially if not wag na lang nakakaawa sa mga bata.
mulat ang mga mata sa bagong henerasyon 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
saw reb on the thumbnail and so I know I had to watch the video IN ALL ITS GLORY! hahaha charot
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In general, it is normal for someone not choosing the path of parenthood. After all, the people who are open-minded would realize how our society is suffering, and we keep on telling children that they are our "future," the one who would solve its problems for the next generation to come, when in fact it is us that should be breaking the norm of passing the burden of the society to them. Not having children doesn't make us less of a human. Therefore, let us not be dictated by the norms of society as parenthood may be a fulfillment, but it is also a lifetime responsibility.
This is what I love in our generation.
It feel so relief watching and listening about this topic about of choosing not to have kids.
children being considered as a "burden" does not make sense...
My choice of not having kids come from Medical/Financial reasons and based on personal experience. Ayokong ipasa sa nxt generation yung Cancer genes ko(Cancer pt. here). Hindi ko nga mapagkasya ang kita ko para sa sarili. At coming from 9 siblings then panganay,ayokong maexperience ng nxt gen ko yung mga napagdaanan ko...enough na ang pagiging tita...
4:02 - 4:33 same thoughts
Ishare nyo yan sa mga nakatira sa Squatters area...
Worth watching!
How can you fully love others, if you can even love yourself?
Before you have child, make betterment for yourself first. 😊
The problem is poor families have more children which makes their lives worst, but wealthy families have less children, Family planning seminar should be a must to poor families......
Having kids is a choice. Period.
relate ako kaya ate na naka-dilaw natumbok niya!! hahah
sending hugs to all who participated ❤
halaaaa reb's like my fave tiktok content creatorr❤❤❤❤
Thank you!
9:04 "I feel like I'm not gonna have to sacrifice a part of myself for my kids, because they ARE a part of me." That's actually a beautiful mindset. 🥹
agree
Just have kids if you are capable to have one.
I think you should also include those persons aged 40 up who doesn't have kids or don't want to have kids
Yeees! 34 is still young! 😂
the lady in purple is so niceee
Ako yung checkered guy except sa part na hindi ako from a broken family. Ako rin si ate girl na naka-yellow.
Maging tito't tita na lang tayo, guys. 😅
before as a gay man ...i really like to have kids ..but i realized that having a child is a sort of responsibility...
Love this content, Rec-Create! 🔥
AND BOOM! NOW YOU KNOW!
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Parents' biggest asset and liability are their children
drop everyones skincare and no one gets hurt
I’d rather regret not having children than regret having children at all.
thank you for talking about this topic! 💯
i like the girl with the plaid dress' answers
I'd rather be single than having a kid in this age.
Wow, kuya reb. Lagi kong pong pinapanood videos n'yo sa tiktok.
but it's true iho, not financially speaking but physically speaking. pag tumanda ka, babae ka man o lalaki, need mo ng magiging assistance ng kahit sino sa simpleng pagbubuhat lang o paglilinis ng bahay. interdependent po tayo gen Z. di ka aasahan ng magulang mo financially dahil tama ka di tayo retirement plan, pero pag naging uugod ugod na yan, need pa rin ng mag aalaga ng magulang mo sa kanya. it's the cycle of life. wag ka masyado mag isip about finances when it comes to old age, dahil kahit mayaman ka at kaya mo magbayad ng mag aalaga sayo, malungkot buhay mo kung di ka na rin iniisip at inaasikaso ng anak mo dahil wala ka ng silbi sa kanila..
I'm 32 and i never felt a need to have a child tho i like kids and i always wonder cute ba magiging bby ko. 🤣 But sabi nga ni girl nka yellow "its not practical", 😅 lalo na if breadwinner ka jusko.
baka mag ampon n lng aq
I'm sure i want kids someday but I'm still broke so wag na muna.
Which one(s) do you personally use out of everything you have in this video?
si yellow girl, so meee 😊
Ayaw ko talaga magka anak. Everyday, I blame my parents for bringing me forth into this world. Ayaw ko talaga maging part ng mundong to, tos papasa ko pa ba tong frustration nato sa magiging anak ko? No way
No
Pinanood dahil Kay kuya reb HAHAHA
Same trauma galing sa broken fam
Please dont have kids to ensure future "retirement" plan
Good topic ❤
Omg hi Reb!
Hello!
si all its glory pala to e
love this
Uy si reb!
uy si in all in it's glory hahaha
I like what the guy said about kids being a burden. They're nothing more than parasites who will leech off your resources.
Following that logic, every single one of us are parasites that leech off resources straight from our predecessor's pocket and hardwork. No one is innocent 😂
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In all it's glory!!! HAHAHA
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@@RebAtadero I'm a fan po🙏
Beautiful discord
You only think its hard but if you put your strength mind to being a parent with your own child its possible.
Not gonna lie, the disadvantage of pets is that when you go out-of-town, you need to work on lots of papers. Unlike kids that grow older and you can join trips with them, leave them while you go on a trip, or have a trip of their own. Speaking from personal experience as a pet owner.
Anyway, I prefer having kids in the future. It's a unique way to experience being a kid once again even if you can't physically be one. Coming from someone who had a shitty childhood and teenage life. I just wanted to have a take two and let them experience something that younger me could only dream of.
nag disagree ako dun sa sinabi ng psych major hnd kelangan burahin sa isipan ung ganung klaseng mindset ng pinoy ang kelangan is alam mo ung pace mo sa ganung bagay at alam mo kung kelan ka magssettle down and to have kids... it is still a choice parin hnd mo kelangan sundan ung pace ng flow ng mundo...
It's high time to remove the mindset that "dapat ganto ka na pag eto na edad mo". Kaya madami ang nappressure tapos stressed/depressed pag di nameet Ang expectations. But I agree with you that you have to do things in your own pace and not to measure up against everyone but yourself.
Hnd kelangan burahin talaga ung mindset na un kase nga pinoy ehh elders pa din natin sila ang kelangan lang is ipaliwanag ng mabuti kung bakit ganun ung pace mo kung mga kapitbahay mo lang hnd na need magpaliwanag sakanila... Natutunan ko sa movie na 3 idiots na kelangan paliwanag mo ng me sincerity at bakit mo gagawin un...
@@arthurjohnmasinda3287 point taken. Btw when I said that the mindset should be removed, I actually meant na sa Sarili lang. Like apply it only to you. Coz it's hard to change other people's perspective in life. That's why I said not to measure up against everyone but yourself.
Well nasa pinas kase tayo kaya limited lang makakaintindi talaga naggets ko ung point mo... Sabi nga din sa video different perspective different opinions wag nalang pakialaman alam mo nman pinoy paladesisyon...
Iba po nag ibig sabihin na magparami sa religion kuya 🤦♂️ Magparami bilang Christian po ang ibig sabihin nun
Hindi magparami lang, Awit ka.
Well ung meaning is double purpose bru if ure looking it in religion aspect iba pero kapag familial aspect ganun din un as long as ung bata ay ibibigay mo kay Lord