It's normal for both to have a job with a similar salary. It should go withput saying that you're splitting the cost of your relationship. Maybe they feel the need to mention because they're on a date with a foreigner. However, whenever I'd go on a date with a foreign girl it always went without saying that we'd pay for ourselves.
I don't think that in this multi-dimensional and -cultural world we live in, there should be any 'normal' or 'without saying'. What's normal for you might be far from normal for other people. I'm glad to hear though that you tend to pick dates that see things eye-to-eye with you. That's the most importnat. :)
@theselfishcodependent well what is normal is determined by the majority within a society, and therefore it's normal in the dutch society for a woman to have a regular job. I've dated women making slighty less than me and women making slightly more than me, and if your income is similar you should both equally invest in your relationship in my opinion, and I'm assuming that opinion is also pretty normal since I've never encountered someone who thought differently.
I think it's rude if a guy thinks he has 'to take care of me'. I'm not a child, I'm an adult. So to me it feels like he's just settling a second date and recognising the fact that I'm his equal and can pay for a date.
I’ve personally never felt equal in this world to men so if he will pay I will let him gladly. He is paid more and I am more expensive. Those r facts. I won’t let toxic feminism make me pay lol
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I am dutch and I always offer to pay the next time. It's a way of saying I want a second date. Also shows that you're willing to take care of him too!
Nice! I figured that it's rather a standard approach here in The Netherlands :)
lol.
@@theselfishcodependentif i paid the date for the fourth time, i know she's a gold digger.
Feminist: im strong and independent
Men: let's share the bill
Feminist: 🥺
Exactly 😂
So... All women zre feminist?
She doesn’t come off as a feminist to me. She’s likely a traditionalist.
You said Afrekenen but i heard i'm pregnant lol 😅😂
Gently reminder is always better to be on the same page.. nothing wrong with that. No one should feel a burden & act with mutual partnership
50/50 every date. Though I rarely go on dates lol.
Well if you don't split. That just shows him that your time is more valuable then his. You want an equal relationship or?
Hm. I’ve never said that. Don’t know any friends who do. Then again these days lady’s “date” just to get food. How about that for romance?
Sadly, these cases exist. Not only for women but for men too though.
@@theselfishcodependent are you seriously claiming men date women for food. lol
@@qixxor2075I know that this can be the case.
50/50. Equal rights😜
I do live my hool live in the Nederland
Yeah I mean that’s very off putting
It's normal for both to have a job with a similar salary. It should go withput saying that you're splitting the cost of your relationship. Maybe they feel the need to mention because they're on a date with a foreigner. However, whenever I'd go on a date with a foreign girl it always went without saying that we'd pay for ourselves.
I don't think that in this multi-dimensional and -cultural world we live in, there should be any 'normal' or 'without saying'. What's normal for you might be far from normal for other people. I'm glad to hear though that you tend to pick dates that see things eye-to-eye with you. That's the most importnat. :)
@theselfishcodependent well what is normal is determined by the majority within a society, and therefore it's normal in the dutch society for a woman to have a regular job. I've dated women making slighty less than me and women making slightly more than me, and if your income is similar you should both equally invest in your relationship in my opinion, and I'm assuming that opinion is also pretty normal since I've never encountered someone who thought differently.
Lol rather than going back and forth why not just always split? Heck we even invented an app for such occasions 😂 Tikkie
I think it's rude if a guy thinks he has 'to take care of me'. I'm not a child, I'm an adult. So to me it feels like he's just settling a second date and recognising the fact that I'm his equal and can pay for a date.
(And if you couldn't tell by my name, I'm Dutch 😊)
Happy to read more points of view. Thanks for watching the video and sharing your take. ;)
What does this have to do with anything
I’ve personally never felt equal in this world to men so if he will pay I will let him gladly. He is paid more and I am more expensive. Those r facts. I won’t let toxic feminism make me pay lol
Well next date lets see if you will pay
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Don't come to the Netherlands for the romantic.
Instead you get honesty, transparancy and no clean
appearance.
ance
yeah romantic is better. good thing your close to France, so a french lover is always an option.
what
You look like karishma kapoor in bollywood😮
I was told this many times but I see zero similarities 😅