The Selfish Codependent's Life in The Netherlands
The Selfish Codependent's Life in The Netherlands
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How To Date A Dutch Woman: Advice From Locals
In this video, we are diving into a topic many of you have been asking about-dating Dutch women! I've made quite a few videos about dating Dutch men, and many of you were curious about the other side of the story. So, here it is!
I gathered a lot of stories from men sharing their experiences and tips on how to approach Dutch women. I also spoke with expat ladies and Dutch women themselves to get a well-rounded view. If you're interested in the results of my research and want to know what I have to say on the topic, keep watching!
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😎 Edited by _thicctoriaa_
Contents:
00:00 Intro
00:30 1. Equality
01:01 2. Natural look
01:35 3. Self-expression
02:12 4. Laid-back approach
02:30 5. Not so direct
03:15 6. Planning
03:48 7. Low expectations
04:19 8. I don't date non-Dutch
05:47 How to approach a Dutch woman
07:58 My thoughts
08:33 The most important tip
09:20 Ontro
#holland #thenetherlands #dutch #dating #date #date
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  • @themastermind.9337
    @themastermind.9337 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    What's wrong in your answer?

  • @themastermind.9337
    @themastermind.9337 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    And i still don't understand what is wrong in that ?😂

  • @waltersheens1087
    @waltersheens1087 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Breda is much nicer city 😀

  • @Boernjongn
    @Boernjongn 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Mainly farmers use them, i use them too aldi for gardening, i even walkend A “klompenpad” ( 6 kilometers ) in my klompen

  • @Sharukkhh
    @Sharukkhh 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Saty happy always 🤗

  • @rosanacardoso7871
    @rosanacardoso7871 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I think a Dutch guy has feelings for me, but he never told me anything. If he feels it, I'll never know, because I'm a shy person.

  • @hardyvonwinterstein5445
    @hardyvonwinterstein5445 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Eindhoven is (and was) the center of Dutch technology. Like Silicon Valley. It's a very important city even worldwide. Maybe once you're finished eating and drinking, you could look into that.

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for spreading love here! I encourage you to check out this video: th-cam.com/video/n4HZDDUnJkQ/w-d-xo.html

    • @hardyvonwinterstein5445
      @hardyvonwinterstein5445 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@theselfishcodependent No thanks necessary. Love will always find the way of least resistance. Like water. But checking the link, yeah. You did look into that.

  • @TimBlokdijk1983
    @TimBlokdijk1983 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Lab-1 is a nice place, there are free language lessons for expats once every two weeks. And a lot of other activities.

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for sharing this! Super good to know ;)

  • @vierialeo
    @vierialeo 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Is it normal that during the 6 months dating giving a boy a hug/kiss?

  • @dimrrider9133
    @dimrrider9133 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Red is death

  • @BigPharma-pe3mr
    @BigPharma-pe3mr 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    gave me 6 months

  • @BigPharma-pe3mr
    @BigPharma-pe3mr 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I wonder except USA r women, who would actually even consider dating a Dutch dude?

  • @FM-wg1ix
    @FM-wg1ix 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    can be as bad as between Ams and Rotterdam (intercity direct). This route is kinda cursed

  • @JoyBartabon
    @JoyBartabon 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Your English is not so clear. You have to speak more slowly then we can understand you better.

  • @JoyBartabon
    @JoyBartabon 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The main problem with you is that you don't want to hear the most important information for this topic """"DATING DUTCH WOMEN""""".

  • @henkkoopmans3240
    @henkkoopmans3240 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Je bent aardig geïntegreerd. Lekker klagen, lekker zeuren. Zo grappig om dit proces te volgen, succes!!

  • @user-ns2ll7dm1i
    @user-ns2ll7dm1i 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Is their any app we can chat with Dutch people? If their is then plz let us know. International subscribers r waiting 😊

  • @cutebear1817
    @cutebear1817 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I recenrly got stuck in Eindhoven on the way back from Germany and people were super nice there

  • @TrifunovicSofija-bw9ix
    @TrifunovicSofija-bw9ix 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    U have pretty eyes

  • @Stijlloosert
    @Stijlloosert 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Ass a Dutch men, were are lost and lack experiences.

  • @JoyBartabon
    @JoyBartabon 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    These Dutch women are ultra exotic women, the most unique ultra beautiful women and the attraction these women generate to us is ULTRA huge but they are like a ultra exotic Lamborghini car but without the engine. A Lamborghini without an engine is nothing. It is just a beautiful body but nothing interesting to offer and that's the DUTCH WOMAN.

  • @JoyBartabon
    @JoyBartabon 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    @theselfishcodependent, I remember my friends told me in the past """DO NOT DATE DUTCH WOMAN""" and don't be in love with a Dutch woman and I thought my friends was wrong at that moment they told me that and I got mad but after the time I realize they were totally right about what they told me.

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I'm curious about why? :)

    • @JoyBartabon
      @JoyBartabon 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@theselfishcodependent Please answer my email.

    • @JoyBartabon
      @JoyBartabon 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@theselfishcodependent Why the heck should you I provide you important information if you didn't answer my emails? If you are interested in my unique important information about this topic then answer my emails. If you are not interested in answering my emails then I'm not interested in sharing any important information to you.

  • @ClintonSnow
    @ClintonSnow 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Dating a Dutch woman is the worst experience for a foreign man of any country.

  • @ClintonSnow
    @ClintonSnow 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great video, please do more videos about DATING DUTCH WOMEN.

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you! What would you be interested in?

    • @ClintonSnow
      @ClintonSnow 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@theselfishcodependent how foreign guy date a Dutch woman with success?

    • @athos5359
      @athos5359 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@ClintonSnow be tal and good looking,and not to old for her.

  • @shutting88
    @shutting88 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Dating starts from attracting people, so if you are as tall as or as good looking as local guys, you may have a higher chance compared to other internationals. Working on style, being jacked, improved social skills, and financial status would definitely help. A tall black guy may attract a Dutch girl in a club easily for a night but keeping her would be more challenfing because of cultural differences.

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for sharing your point of view! I think while certain traits might catch someone's eye initially, genuine compatibility and understanding play crucial roles in the longevity of a relationship. And that requires a whole different set of skills that focuses more on connecting on a deeper level.

  • @shutting88
    @shutting88 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My female friend told me that almost her all likes on Tinder would become a match so it's hard to balance between quality and quantity.

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Good point! It's a flip side of the coin: what happens when there is too much variety?

  • @theselfishcodependent
    @theselfishcodependent 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    How is your experience? Can you relate to what I've shared in the video? 🤔I am curious! 👉 Watch my other videos: Before you start dating Dutch men: th-cam.com/video/31HkisGfZXE/w-d-xo.html Dating Dutch men: th-cam.com/video/iBXQZ_wwfmc/w-d-xo.html Mental health interview with a psychologist: th-cam.com/video/1FxTHKlaNMI/w-d-xo.html 👐 My coaching services - www.taniabozheva.com/coaching/

    • @user-rh4sq9cx1e
      @user-rh4sq9cx1e 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Well, I have been following videos here of expats and migrants for years, and I find it interesting to see how they deal with culture and traditions.I think that is nice to see, and it also makes my vision of our country a little more positive.Because, as a born Dutchman, I look at our country very differently than expats and migrants do.But I often notice in the videos that after years of living here, not much has been done with the language.And my opinion is that that should be number 1 if you are going to live in another country. I would do that, if only out of respect for the population, and so that I understand better what is going on in the country.

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@user-rh4sq9cx1e awesome that you are interested in it! Since you mentioned that you'd like to learn different view points, I suggest you watch this video about learning Dutch. Perhaps, it can bring another perspective :) th-cam.com/video/WBihk_N-VJQ/w-d-xo.htmlsi=PQ6x1Aa7lLUjEYQi

    • @user-rh4sq9cx1e
      @user-rh4sq9cx1e 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@theselfishcodependent I have seen this video and already liked it, as a Dutch person I can only speak for myself. As expats and migrants, no matter how poorly Dutch they speak, I have the utmost respect for them.Maybe that is also because I have the principle that when I migrate to another country, I want to learn the language first because I want to make myself understood by the population.But you're doing well, respect. You're one of the people I regularly follow and like, but I'm just not a big chatter or texter myself.

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@user-rh4sq9cx1e oh so nice to hear :) Thanks so much for your support, I really appreciate it!

  • @user-rh4sq9cx1e
    @user-rh4sq9cx1e 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    If expats and migrants were to learn the language first, it would make dating or building friendships with a Dutch person easier!!

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Possibly! That's one of the reasons I included in the video. Thank you for watching! :)

  • @TheGandorX
    @TheGandorX 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Eindhoven sucks ass.

  • @cutebear1817
    @cutebear1817 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Nice video I like it

  • @1solobyahero
    @1solobyahero 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yes, it's becoming expensive.

  • @guilhermelargueza1685
    @guilhermelargueza1685 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Very true

  • @GoofHendriks-qk7jq
    @GoofHendriks-qk7jq 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Cool to see a video of Eindhoven as someone who lived there my whole life, thumbs up!👍🏻

  • @vogel2280
    @vogel2280 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I think you need to talk to different people. Any chance the people you talked to work in healthcare or education?

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I talked to a variety of different people from various areas of life! Thank you for watching the video! :)

  • @prakashbadekar1497
    @prakashbadekar1497 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I am struggling with home country debit card

  • @KnytetM
    @KnytetM 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Coming from Sweden the weather is fantastic, a bit rainy and windy yeah sure. January is usually awful for me but this year I was in NL staying with my boyfriend and it was so nice!

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Oh interesting! I thought it can be better in Sweden because of the snow and it reflects the sun?

  • @TheDenzel2012
    @TheDenzel2012 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Very elegant 🙂

  • @guevara2792
    @guevara2792 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I'm watching this video at the beginning of my journey, which is a little bit scary, to be honest. But I hope everything goes well. Thank you for sharing though :)

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Which city are you learning how to drive in? :) Thank you for watching, maybe check out the interview with the driving instructor. It offers a lot of useful tips and tricks.

    • @guevara2792
      @guevara2792 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@theselfishcodependent Hey Tania, I've just delved into the theory part this week, so I haven't started the practical lessons yet. By the way, I watched Mark's interview and really enjoyed it. I even subscribed to the channel - keep up the great work! Oh, and by the way, I live in Amsterdam. Just curious, why do you ask? :)

  • @behnamkiani3736
    @behnamkiani3736 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I am happy that driver sit on the left!

  • @dutch-prepper6587
    @dutch-prepper6587 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Realistic overview. I do like the list on the end of this video.. This story applies to foreign students coming to the Netherlands. For non-students, or couples working here, the situation will be different. Kudos !

    • @theselfishcodependent
      @theselfishcodependent 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for watching and for your observation! :)

  • @Looney2ing
    @Looney2ing 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Je leert pas rijden na je rijbewijs. Gewoon veel doen.

  • @berend_simons
    @berend_simons 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Knap zeg autorijden

  • @cutebear1817
    @cutebear1817 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Goede reis!

  • @karinvandervliet8853
    @karinvandervliet8853 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Where did the days go that you were taken home after a date because that would make you feel safe instead of the other way around…

  • @dimrrider9133
    @dimrrider9133 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Aaah but you are a beautifal girl.

  • @Bramfly
    @Bramfly 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Congrats! Really glad for you to have this completed, well done 😊

  • @nnekandibe
    @nnekandibe 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    That means that they are not men enough. 50/50 is to me as an Afrika lady not men enough

  • @FINNSTIGAT0R
    @FINNSTIGAT0R 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    One thing that really baffles me is this common Dutch attitude that everything else beyond the Dutch style of communicating is just fake and dishonest. I mean my culture, the Finnish one, isn't at all like the American or British culture, where more indirect interaction is favored, but still Dutch culture sounds too overly direct and harsh for me as well. Granted, we here wouldn't even ask if a new haircut we got was looking nice, we don't exactly have that kind of a culture, but if someone were to ask, I wouldn't say that it's horrible or even that I don't like it. I don't know what I would say, as something like that never gets asked, but I'd at least try to be somewhat soft in my answer, as who am I to say that it's bad - am I the authority on haircuts? That person probably is in need of personal affirmation for asking such a question, so I don't want them to feel like crap, when they probably are not up to having that kind of an answer at all. But I do get the Dutch sentiment about these cultural issues, I just meant to say that there are other cultural practises than the overly indirect anglo-american way and then super direct Dutch way. But often these things are discussed in on either-or way, forgetting that there are lots of other ways of communication.

  • @vikihott4120
    @vikihott4120 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    *Promo SM* 💖

  • @NurseArielPhysiotherapists
    @NurseArielPhysiotherapists 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    ❤❤❤