My mom is 67yrs old & wore an afro in the 70's. Today, you couldn't pay her to show her real hair without the straight wigs. Wigs have took her edges on both sides, so she will never leave the house w/o the wig. I'm baby loc'd now, but I've been natural since 2010. She has made little comments about my hair but i check her by telling her thats how God made me Ms. Christian lady.. 🦗🦗🦗 😂
Wow, my mom's the same way (including the Christian part) except she finally let my sister cut off the last of her damaged ends and pick out her hair. Both my parents had afros in the 70s then later became the "when you gon fix that nappy hair?" type.
My mom told me I was crazy to wear locs. She told me my hair looks diabolical when I brush my coils out. She hated doing my hair and always had negative things to say about it
@LoXena Politely ask your mother to check out Malcolm X' s comments asking African-Americans who taught us to hate our own: hair texture, skin color, broad noses, and full lips. The answer is white raycists. You can find it on TH-cam.
My mom has 3 kids. Both her girls are black and her only boy is biracial. Any time the good hair convo comes up, she’ll refer to my brothers hair (which is a big and lovely type 3 hair Afro). My sister has long beautifully kept locs and I have waist length hair that I usually keep in 2 or 3 strand twists. She never compliments mine nor my sister’s hair when it’s in its natural state tho. Very interesting.
Sometimes we need to move past our parents opinions on our hair. If you wanted to reach millionaire status, you wouldn’t listen to what a broke person has to say. You’d get your advice from the people well on their way or already there. Mothers like this may not change and loving yourself unconditionally is the way forward. At least with you and your sis, that low self concept is no longer manifested, her thoughts or low view on natural hair should end with her.
It's definitely unrealistic for natural hair wearers to expect support from fake hair wearers. It's like tigers, elephants, and dears expecting help from hunters. Also, many of the elderly natural hair haters are in " the front of the line"to get blonde hairstyles. Go "Team God-Natural Hair"!
These comments are so sad. When I went natural my entire family was so hostile about it. My mom would refer to my Bantu knots as n- knots. More often than not, the same people that act like that will ask for hair advice later on when they see your hair thriving. Stay the course.
Same here. The same people who criticize my hair when it's natural, are the same people who want advice when I get a blow out or silk press. They see how long it is. I tell them my hair grows because I don't use chemicals like you all do. Yes, me wearing those same kinks that you all like to say is so "unkempt and unprofessional" is what helped my hair grow longer and healthier. But they don't want hear that. So they continue to relax their hair or hide it underneath wigs. Then wonder why their hair won't grow and they have no edges.
Said it once, I’ll say it again: Black women have a problem when another black woman chooses to only wear her texture and/or never wear fake hair. Evident across generations, yet only one side is deemed a bully. And that side just happens to prioritize health and naturalness above anything else.
When I big chopped a year ago NOBODY liked it 😢. The curls was beautiful, but people said my hair looked better when it was longer. I thought it looked beautiful, but I guess people are so used to associating long with beauty THESE day. My hair grew but I couldn't get over the fact people try to tell me short hair wasn't cute 😢.
Smh 🤦🏾♀️ I’m sorry you had to go through that…short hair is very beautiful…I see so many women rocking beautiful short hairstyles on a daily especially on Pinterest 🤎🤎🤎
Im going through that. NOBODY LIKES SHORT NATURAL HAIR, the same hair that grows out of their scalps💔 and the treatment is not so great to, everyone most ignores me compared to when I had relaxed shoulder length hair. Only that one random person would stop me and complement my afro. I really love it, but the overall experience made me really sad how my fellow black people hate short natural hair 😕
@JustMe-rl5ym oh no I'm sorry, sis. I'm sure it looks beautiful. Hair hate is real in 2024 😢 Hopefully in 2025 we can have more love and support for naturals.
I have gotten compliments for embracing my natural hair… guys don’t seem to care, they still checking me out and wanting to talk to me… so the issue is internal, people know that I am black and they know that straight hair / wigs/ extensions is not our true hair type at all… so they are not shocked or confused if that makes sense ….. we are the ones making it into more than what it is… sadly …
I feel like now, men don't care, because natural hair is the norm. When the NHM first started, I heard insults from men and women, but I also heard compliments from both men and women
Yes my personally experience when it comes to men is more complimentary but I do know that’s not everyone’s experience to this day unfortunately but I do agree it has gotten better from the start of the nhm🤎
Once locs gain length people start singing a different tune. A creator I watched called it “long hair privilege”. Once your hair gets a certain length the texture doesn’t matter to people 🤷🏾♀️.
@@thedynasteadivineagreed, when I had locs I was teased a lot because it was short but as soon as my ponytail came in everybody loved the length and kinda overlooked the fact that I had locs
My boyfriend is African from Ghana and he has locs. His mom hates his hair and straight up says he should cut it. For them I think its also part of the stereotype with locs and men with hair in general. They don’t want him to look like a “thug” or men shouldn’t have longer hair.
Wow smh 🤦🏾♀️ it’s an unfortunate view because locs use to be seen as a sign of strength , cultural connection and so much more…it’s sad how the narrative has changed 🤎
I don’t have locs but I like to wear my Afro as my go to style but every time it’s time to go somewhere all I hear is are gonna do something with your hair how are you doing your blah blah just ignoring the fact that I like do low to no manipulative style now….like recently went to the Jhene Aiko concert I had to do a crochet style because my sister kept stressing me about looking crazy with my fro 😵💫 it’s always the ones closest to you
I have experienced that, too. When someone ask me "how are you going to wear your hair" for a certain special event, that means that they wanted me to straighten it. But I won't change my hair. My natural hair is good enough. Even for special occasions. I also get unsolicited invitations from family and friends inviting me to their hair salon under the guise of "lets go get our hair done". But they stopped asking when I starting asking them to return the favor and go to a natural hair salon with me to get our hair done.
Wow 😮 smh I’m sorry sorry you had to experience that but I’m happy you still decide to work your afro regardless but I agree I wouldn’t have changed my hair at all…and offering to take you to the salon is crazy smh 🤦🏾♀️ but happy you found a great comeback🤎
Neither of my parents liked my locs. lol. But they still are very supportive at the same time. I find the older generation has more a problem with natural hair than the younger generation does. My dad eventually came around. While my mom never did. She lets it be known she does not like my locs but she never talks down on them either. She’s a straight natural but her hair is naturally curly. I’d put her at a 4a so that should tell you something. But I don’t like her choice of natural either but it’s her hair. I say embrace the curls 🤷🏽♀️
That’s good you all can agree to disagree while still being respectful of the others person decision on their hair…it’ll be a lot peaceful if we collectively moved that way🤎
Let me just say I'm a part of gen X , which means I'm the SAME AGE AS many of your parents and have a mother who's in the SILENT GENERATION. Just to let you all know we both stand by the younger generation on YOUR natural hair journey. Booth back on our natural journey starting in the EARLY 90's.( VERY temporary breaks for me) Mom got her locks professionally done from 1992 -2018. Btw, SHOUT OUT to where I'm from which is the NYC for bringing back the Natural Hair movement EXTRA YEARS EARLY!
I've been natural for 2 years. And I love it. But so far the only compliments I've gotten about my hair is from white people. I told my mom now my hair is long enough to make a little ponytail. Or I guess what we would call afro puff. In my mom commented, a nappy ponytail!?
We have got to stop praising wp for the bare minimum. Of course they like our hair, they haven't seen it since the 60s/70s. It's cool and a fad to them, but they still have laws and dress codes against our hair. And of course, black ppl are the one's to insult, we've been brainwashed for generations to dislike. I have empathy for my ppl, because ppl act like they don't know why black ppl do the things they do.
It's sad when a parent puts down their child's hair and speak negatively about it. OK Mom, I inherited this hair from you. It's your genetics that gave me this hair texture.
@ladonna1902 Just feel relieved and blessed you don't have your mother's mindset. Have her look at the film Ethnic Notions narrated by Good Times actress Esther Rolle. It helps to explain how Europeans conned/ brainwashed whites and non-whites to falsely that white hair is superior to non-white hair texture.
Yes…if you see any stories you’ll like me to cover please email it to me and I try to choose controversial topics about coily hair to counteract the negativity with positive messages 🤎
My aunt, mom and long time friend keep telling me to not loc back my hair even though they know my struggles with my hair but when it’s locked. My hair THRIVES❤ rn I wonna experiment with my hair and get silk presses but I know I’ll be locking her back in the future. Locks are beautiful ❤ sometimes they make little jokes about why loc styles aren’t flattering and it does bother me a little but I know my hair thrives more when it’s locked or when I just get twists and redo them every month or two.
My mom is 67yrs old & wore an afro in the 70's. Today, you couldn't pay her to show her real hair without the straight wigs. Wigs have took her edges on both sides, so she will never leave the house w/o the wig. I'm baby loc'd now, but I've been natural since 2010. She has made little comments about my hair but i check her by telling her thats how God made me Ms. Christian lady.. 🦗🦗🦗 😂
Superb perspective you gave. Research needs to be done on how we regressed over the decades.
Wow, my mom's the same way (including the Christian part) except she finally let my sister cut off the last of her damaged ends and pick out her hair. Both my parents had afros in the 70s then later became the "when you gon fix that nappy hair?" type.
Great comeback 🤎🤎🤎
My mom told me I was crazy to wear locs.
She told me my hair looks diabolical when I brush my coils out.
She hated doing my hair and always had negative things to say about it
@LoXena Politely ask your mother to check out Malcolm X' s comments asking African-Americans who taught us to hate our own: hair texture, skin color, broad noses, and full lips. The answer is white raycists. You can find it on TH-cam.
My mom has 3 kids. Both her girls are black and her only boy is biracial. Any time the good hair convo comes up, she’ll refer to my brothers hair (which is a big and lovely type 3 hair Afro). My sister has long beautifully kept locs and I have waist length hair that I usually keep in 2 or 3 strand twists. She never compliments mine nor my sister’s hair when it’s in its natural state tho. Very interesting.
Sometimes we need to move past our parents opinions on our hair. If you wanted to reach millionaire status, you wouldn’t listen to what a broke person has to say. You’d get your advice from the people well on their way or already there. Mothers like this may not change and loving yourself unconditionally is the way forward. At least with you and your sis, that low self concept is no longer manifested, her thoughts or low view on natural hair should end with her.
That’s very unfortunate smh 🤦🏾♀️ but I agree with laylor advice 💯 percent 🤎🤎🤎
It's definitely unrealistic for natural hair wearers to expect support from fake hair wearers. It's like tigers, elephants, and dears expecting help from hunters. Also, many of the elderly natural hair haters are in " the front of the line"to get blonde hairstyles. Go "Team God-Natural Hair"!
I love your comment 💪🏾
@williamsj4852 God Bless You!
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These comments are so sad. When I went natural my entire family was so hostile about it. My mom would refer to my Bantu knots as n- knots. More often than not, the same people that act like that will ask for hair advice later on when they see your hair thriving. Stay the course.
Same here. The same people who criticize my hair when it's natural, are the same people who want advice when I get a blow out or silk press. They see how long it is. I tell them my hair grows because I don't use chemicals like you all do. Yes, me wearing those same kinks that you all like to say is so "unkempt and unprofessional" is what helped my hair grow longer and healthier.
But they don't want hear that. So they continue to relax their hair or hide it underneath wigs. Then wonder why their hair won't grow and they have no edges.
@ Exactly this. 👏🏽
Wow 😮 I’m sorry you had to go through that but I definitely agree it all comes full circle so staying the course is so true🤎🤎🤎
Said it once, I’ll say it again:
Black women have a problem when another black woman chooses to only wear her texture and/or never wear fake hair.
Evident across generations, yet only one side is deemed a bully. And that side just happens to prioritize health and naturalness above anything else.
💯🤎🤎🤎🤎
When I big chopped a year ago NOBODY liked it 😢. The curls was beautiful, but people said my hair looked better when it was longer. I thought it looked beautiful, but I guess people are so used to associating long with beauty THESE day. My hair grew but I couldn't get over the fact people try to tell me short hair wasn't cute 😢.
Smh 🤦🏾♀️ I’m sorry you had to go through that…short hair is very beautiful…I see so many women rocking beautiful short hairstyles on a daily especially on Pinterest 🤎🤎🤎
@CoffeeCuties777 🫶🏾
Im going through that. NOBODY LIKES SHORT NATURAL HAIR, the same hair that grows out of their scalps💔 and the treatment is not so great to, everyone most ignores me compared to when I had relaxed shoulder length hair. Only that one random person would stop me and complement my afro. I really love it, but the overall experience made me really sad how my fellow black people hate short natural hair 😕
@JustMe-rl5ym oh no I'm sorry, sis. I'm sure it looks beautiful. Hair hate is real in 2024 😢 Hopefully in 2025 we can have more love and support for naturals.
I have gotten compliments for embracing my natural hair… guys don’t seem to care, they still checking me out and wanting to talk to me… so the issue is internal, people know that I am black and they know that straight hair / wigs/ extensions is not our true hair type at all… so they are not shocked or confused if that makes sense ….. we are the ones making it into more than what it is… sadly …
Same here. Mostly men compliment me.
I feel like now, men don't care, because natural hair is the norm. When the NHM first started, I heard insults from men and women, but I also heard compliments from both men and women
Yes my personally experience when it comes to men is more complimentary but I do know that’s not everyone’s experience to this day unfortunately but I do agree it has gotten better from the start of the nhm🤎
@@Spokentruths725 That's deep.
Once locs gain length people start singing a different tune. A creator I watched called it “long hair privilege”. Once your hair gets a certain length the texture doesn’t matter to people 🤷🏾♀️.
@@thedynasteadivineagreed, when I had locs I was teased a lot because it was short but as soon as my ponytail came in everybody loved the length and kinda overlooked the fact that I had locs
Yep 👍🏾 I agree🤎
My boyfriend is African from Ghana and he has locs. His mom hates his hair and straight up says he should cut it. For them I think its also part of the stereotype with locs and men with hair in general. They don’t want him to look like a “thug” or men shouldn’t have longer hair.
Wow smh 🤦🏾♀️ it’s an unfortunate view because locs use to be seen as a sign of strength , cultural connection and so much more…it’s sad how the narrative has changed 🤎
I was also told by my mother that as a woman I was not suppose to be having locs and claimed I only wanted locs because I’ve dated men with locs 😒
Oh wow 😮 sorry you had to experience that smh 🤦🏾♀️ Locs are very beautiful 🤎🤎
Hopefully they are able to ignore those people around them and continue on their loc journey♥️
I completely agree🤎🤎🤎
I don’t have locs but I like to wear my Afro as my go to style but every time it’s time to go somewhere all I hear is are gonna do something with your hair how are you doing your blah blah just ignoring the fact that I like do low to no manipulative style now….like recently went to the Jhene Aiko concert I had to do a crochet style because my sister kept stressing me about looking crazy with my fro 😵💫 it’s always the ones closest to you
I wouldn't have done it.
I have experienced that, too. When someone ask me "how are you going to wear your hair" for a certain special event, that means that they wanted me to straighten it. But I won't change my hair. My natural hair is good enough. Even for special occasions.
I also get unsolicited invitations from family and friends inviting me to their hair salon under the guise of "lets go get our hair done". But they stopped asking when I starting asking them to return the favor and go to a natural hair salon with me to get our hair done.
Wow 😮 smh I’m sorry sorry you had to experience that but I’m happy you still decide to work your afro regardless but I agree I wouldn’t have changed my hair at all…and offering to take you to the salon is crazy smh 🤦🏾♀️ but happy you found a great comeback🤎
My mom ( silent generation) hates my 4C hair and hers is 4C. She has severe alopecia balding 🧑🏾🦲 and hates her natural texture too
Oh wow 😮 that’s very unfortunate 😞
Neither of my parents liked my locs. lol. But they still are very supportive at the same time. I find the older generation has more a problem with natural hair than the younger generation does. My dad eventually came around. While my mom never did. She lets it be known she does not like my locs but she never talks down on them either. She’s a straight natural but her hair is naturally curly. I’d put her at a 4a so that should tell you something. But I don’t like her choice of natural either but it’s her hair. I say embrace the curls 🤷🏽♀️
That’s good you all can agree to disagree while still being respectful of the others person decision on their hair…it’ll be a lot peaceful if we collectively moved that way🤎
I remember when I went natural 14 years ago my mom said to me, “you’re really trying to look like a dyyyke, huh?”
Omg, the toxicity ☹️ texturism AND homophobia
@ yeah.. it was a different time.
Omg 😳 smh wow 😮 that’s crazy…sorry you had to go through that🤎
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My Mom wont even wear her afro to a hair appointment.
Wow 😮
Let me just say I'm a part of gen X , which means I'm the SAME AGE AS many of your parents and have a mother who's in the SILENT GENERATION. Just to let you all know we both stand by the younger generation on YOUR natural hair journey. Booth back on our natural journey starting in the EARLY 90's.( VERY temporary breaks for me) Mom got her locks professionally done from 1992 -2018. Btw, SHOUT OUT to where I'm from which is the NYC for bringing back the Natural Hair movement EXTRA YEARS EARLY!
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I've been natural for 2 years. And I love it. But so far the only compliments I've gotten about my hair is from white people. I told my mom now my hair is long enough to make a little ponytail. Or I guess what we would call afro puff. In my mom commented, a nappy ponytail!?
We have got to stop praising wp for the bare minimum. Of course they like our hair, they haven't seen it since the 60s/70s. It's cool and a fad to them, but they still have laws and dress codes against our hair. And of course, black ppl are the one's to insult, we've been brainwashed for generations to dislike. I have empathy for my ppl, because ppl act like they don't know why black ppl do the things they do.
It's sad when a parent puts down their child's hair and speak negatively about it. OK Mom, I inherited this hair from you. It's your genetics that gave me this hair texture.
That’s super unfortunate to hear that came from your mother and I get bre point for sure because texturism is definitely rooted in racism 🤎
@ladonna1902 Just feel relieved and blessed you don't have your mother's mindset. Have her look at the film Ethnic Notions narrated by Good Times actress Esther Rolle. It helps to explain how Europeans conned/ brainwashed whites and non-whites to falsely that white hair is superior to non-white hair texture.
Could you also do reactions surrounding positive things about coily hair
Yes…if you see any stories you’ll like me to cover please email it to me and I try to choose controversial topics about coily hair to counteract the negativity with positive messages 🤎
My aunt, mom and long time friend keep telling me to not loc back my hair even though they know my struggles with my hair but when it’s locked. My hair THRIVES❤ rn I wonna experiment with my hair and get silk presses but I know I’ll be locking her back in the future. Locks are beautiful ❤ sometimes they make little jokes about why loc styles aren’t flattering and it does bother me a little but I know my hair thrives more when it’s locked or when I just get twists and redo them every month or two.
Definitely continue to ignore them..locs are very beautiful 🤎🤎🤎
My money doesn't like locs, ppl didn't use 2 take care of them as good as the do now.
I have never been this early 😂 its only been a minute of it being posted😮 I need to get off TH-cam😂
lol 😂 thanks for being first🤎🤎🤎