Man, this hit home. I've returned to the Church after 30 years. Well, difficult to say returned since I was a 10 year old kid last in Catholic School. Trusting in His Divine Mercy is difficult - how am I worthy of that? I know intellectually it's there, but with ME? How am I deserving of that love and grace?
Since you were a Catholic and didn’t support the church for thirty years, did the priest tell you during confession you need to make satisfaction for the thirty years you didn’t support the church, for your penance
@@Wgaither1 no. It's not that I didn't support the Church, I just wasn't an active Catholic. I had a Catholic wedding, my kids are Baptized, I went to Church (sometimes), I just wasn't serious with the theology of the faith. Then it's like a switch flipped and I just felt so drawn to it, to immerse myself in it, and fully give myself to Christ.
Gods grace is like a train full of rice. The train has all the rice you will ever need. There are these gingery people here that bright huge baskets and got lots and lots of rice. While this one person only brought a tiny cup. The person handing out the cup said that he would love to give that person now rice thoug they only brought a tiny cup, so he couldn’t. This is what Gods grace is like. Just go to confession, confess your sins and then move on. When you don’t think that your sins are forgiving you are saying that Jesus sacrifice want enough. Don’t worry I know how you feel- I have gone through this myself, God loves and will take care of you. I am praying for you.😊
“What have I done?” ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥. That hits home. Father Ripperger has a great line for scrupulosity, “you’re just not that darn important” and he links it to pride.
This was beautiful!! The analogy about the parent loving their baby was something easy for me to understand and I’m so grateful to hear this video. God bless you all!❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for touching on this. I’m just recently coming back to the faith and this is the toughest time of my life. Scrupulosity has really left me drained and tired. I promised God I would stick with it though. Working on breaking sinful habits and praying even when I’m struggling to believe
I was away for 17 years. I've been back for 4 months and been to confession at least 5 times. I still feel guilty and like my penance wasn't harsh enough. Now I haven't been in 6 weeks and am dreading going because I just feel so bad. I needed to hear this, so thank you.
The best way to handle it, is to just obey your priest 100%. It doesn’t matter what you think, we should trust the priest advice over us. We should trust our initial conscious. And pray to the Father to help us discern it. Especially pray that to let us know if we sinned mortally. I personally struggle with letting go of my worst sins, even tho I know they are forgiven and as well as getting extremely annoyed when I commit an extremely small veinal sin that my priest even assured me it’s could be both non sinful or veinal depending on what you think
It is right to feel sorrow for your sins, even deep sorry, Godly sorry as scripture calls it. But we should always remember that Jesus did not willingly suffer all he did for you just to let you slip through the cracks on technicalities.
Once I didn't receive the Eucharist because there was food in my teeth. I drank a little alcohol one night with friends and felts like I shouldn't receive. Scruples are a struggle!
7:22 For me It’s Pride, lack of trust in God mercy, and cognitive disorder on my end. To the point I can’t ever find assurance in anything :/ not even with all the knowledge I know
This is so beautiful, I don’t have scrupulosity but it still helped me so so much. My ex bf has scrupulosity. ( was broken up with very recently) times like this I wish I could send him a clip like this. I hope God will let him see this somehow and it can move his heart like it has mine🙏
Hey :) … gosh it’s been a very long time ago now. And I don’t know if my answer will be very helpful. I think i consciously tried to meet him where he was. To realise that even if he wanted to I couldn’t change him, that only God could do that. I would listen a lot, and try to soothe his anxiety, knowing that even if I could, it would be very short lived, and we’d be back to speaking over the same things again. I always just tried to tell him how merciful and loving God was, and that it was the devil who wanted us to get stuck looking inwards. But that God wanted us to dare to risk looking at him even when we felt this time we’d blown it. Cause we’re just ‘too bad’ and obviously basically all of the examples he gave weren’t serious things at all, but absolutely consumed him. But obviously is a trait of scrupulosity. … but he dumped me, which was a very very rough time for me. It took 2 years but thanks to God Ive come through that specific time of grief. Anyway, I hope whatever your situation is, God can give you the spirit and courage to do what you need to. 🙏
I returned to the Church after ~10yrs and found myself dealing with a bad run of scrupulosity. Turns out it's a form of OCD, which I am now taking medication for.
@@liam77877 Unfortunately, no, I was on 30mg fluoxetine and it didn't help. After a few months I no longer had access to my psychiatrist, so I couldn't try anything different.
"Scrupulosity." 2:50: "I'm not saying you believe too much in your own wretchedness (that's me), I'm TELLING you you don't believe enough in God's mercy (also me)." I am a poster boy for scrupulosity, then, because this is my pride's hubris with which I struggle daily. I opened up to my sister on this when I visited with her last year, and she was stunned to learn this about me (we're both in our 50s) and was sad I struggle so much with this. I do. I wish I could just retro me this problem with a snap of my fingers. Maybe, one day, I'll accept God's love and forgiveness enough to get me over this sin of pride. This I pray.
May God bless you prayers out for you all. Thank you for this vulnerable discussion, I am struggling with scrupulosity as well and feel overwhelmed but I thank you and find a bit of peace through this. Prayers out to all who struggle in similar or worse ways. Remember that our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ is with us all, call onto God and He will rescue us always, without fail. Our God is infinitely good and we need to trust in Him. We humbly pray and wish all of this through Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior’s Holy Name, Amen.
Come, Holy Spirit, come renew our faith, hope and love. Ps 145:18, Lk 12:40 Jesus said: You too must stand ready, because the Son of man is coming at an hour you do not expect.' 😇O Jesus I trust in You!
I think a lot of my scrupulosity has come from listening to videos about hell. Yesterday I listened to one from sensum fidelium about a young man who deliberately left off a couple of sins during confession and had almost died? And had seen that he would have gone to hell had the blessed mother not intervened. And I get it, we're not supposed to deliberately leave out sins, but hearing that makes me want to do another general confession and try to get it a little bit "righter" this time. Which I've already probably done two. Plus I've never stopped going to confession. Just not sure if I'm doing it right. And then yeah, it does feel a little bit sacrilegious to keep confessing the same sins over and over because I'm a forgetter and can't always remember if I've confessed them. Oh, and then when you read in the comments someone said like 99.9% of people go to hell. I think what chance have I got?
first of all.. who says 99.9% of people will go to hell? no one can tell. It is arrogant and unchristian to support such a thing, indeed we should hope for everyone's salvation. And then I find it difficult that God who is infinitely reasonable and just can send someone to eternal perdition just because he has omitted his sins almost out of forgetfulness or shame and then suddenly dies and is unable to repent...Indeed in the story that you tell the Virgin Mary It intervened.
Is this even scrupulous? I’ve gone to mass every day for a year, confession several times without receiving Holy Communion due to me questioning my validity.
Sometimes I think that in certain situations I'm pretty sure I would sin. For example: if my 14-year-old daughter (using the example of Joe Rogan) became pregnant as a result of a rape… I would have her have an abortion. I know it's a borderline situation and I pray to God never to test me on that, but if is true that we must ask for forgiveness, I wonder if being convinced that we would sin in a given situation is equivalent to not repenting. "Repent" means that if you went back in time you wouldn't do it again... instead in the case I mentioned earlier I am 100% SURE that I would always do the same type of sin again (killing in that case, because the abortion is murder).
Hi Luca, the Catholic Apologist Trent Horn has a nice example for this topic in his book, Why We're Pro-Life: “Imagine that a woman has sexual relations with her husband, and the next day she is raped by a stranger. Several weeks later she discovers she’s pregnant but doesn't know if the child was fathered by her husband or the rapist. A prenatal DNA test says that the husband is the child's father. The woman gives birth to a son, and three months later the doctor calls while she is home alone with the baby. He informs her that he made a mistake and that the rapist is actually the baby’s father. Should the woman be allowed to kill this product of rape in his crib? If not, then shouldn't we forbid killing the product of rape *in the womb* for the same reason: because both are human beings?” Essentially, the life of a human being starts at conception - even in the terrible case of rape. If it's wrong to kill a baby of rape when they are outside of the womb, then it's also wrong to kill a baby of rape when they are inside of the womb, since both are precious human beings in the eyes of God. Also, willingly and substantially assisting or carrying out an abortion can hold the penalty of excommunication from the Catholic Church (if all of the conditions for excommunication from Canon Law are met.) Pretty serious stuff. I really hope you bring this to Confession with a good priest, and I pray you reconsider your position. Take care and God Bless.
"Be perfect as your heavenly is perfect " is in the end passing through the Purgatory before entering our heavenly home. " For nothing unclean enters heaven. "
Man, this hit home. I've returned to the Church after 30 years. Well, difficult to say returned since I was a 10 year old kid last in Catholic School. Trusting in His Divine Mercy is difficult - how am I worthy of that? I know intellectually it's there, but with ME? How am I deserving of that love and grace?
Since you were a Catholic and didn’t support the church for thirty years, did the priest tell you during confession you need to make satisfaction for the thirty years you didn’t support the church, for your penance
@@Wgaither1 no. It's not that I didn't support the Church, I just wasn't an active Catholic. I had a Catholic wedding, my kids are Baptized, I went to Church (sometimes), I just wasn't serious with the theology of the faith. Then it's like a switch flipped and I just felt so drawn to it, to immerse myself in it, and fully give myself to Christ.
Gods grace is like a train full of rice. The train has all the rice you will ever need. There are these gingery people here that bright huge baskets and got lots and lots of rice. While this one person only brought a tiny cup. The person handing out the cup said that he would love to give that person now rice thoug they only brought a tiny cup, so he couldn’t. This is what Gods grace is like. Just go to confession, confess your sins and then move on. When you don’t think that your sins are forgiving you are saying that Jesus sacrifice want enough. Don’t worry I know how you feel- I have gone through this myself, God loves and will take care of you. I am praying for you.😊
“What have I done?” ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥. That hits home. Father Ripperger has a great line for scrupulosity, “you’re just not that darn important” and he links it to pride.
Check out fr santa. He knows scrupulously better than fr ripperger.
This was beautiful!! The analogy about the parent loving their baby was something easy for me to understand and I’m so grateful to hear this video. God bless you all!❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for touching on this. I’m just recently coming back to the faith and this is the toughest time of my life. Scrupulosity has really left me drained and tired. I promised God I would stick with it though. Working on breaking sinful habits and praying even when I’m struggling to believe
Hi I’m in a similar position at the moment. Have you overcome scrupulosity? If so, how?
@@liam77877 no. I’m supposed to be seeing a therapist soon though!
I was away for 17 years. I've been back for 4 months and been to confession at least 5 times. I still feel guilty and like my penance wasn't harsh enough. Now I haven't been in 6 weeks and am dreading going because I just feel so bad. I needed to hear this, so thank you.
The best way to handle it, is to just obey your priest 100%. It doesn’t matter what you think, we should trust the priest advice over us. We should trust our initial conscious. And pray to the Father to help us discern it. Especially pray that to let us know if we sinned mortally.
I personally struggle with letting go of my worst sins, even tho I know they are forgiven and as well as getting extremely annoyed when I commit an extremely small veinal sin that my priest even assured me it’s could be both non sinful or veinal depending on what you think
It is right to feel sorrow for your sins, even deep sorry, Godly sorry as scripture calls it. But we should always remember that Jesus did not willingly suffer all he did for you just to let you slip through the cracks on technicalities.
Once I didn't receive the Eucharist because there was food in my teeth. I drank a little alcohol one night with friends and felts like I shouldn't receive. Scruples are a struggle!
7:22
For me It’s Pride, lack of trust in God mercy, and cognitive disorder on my end. To the point I can’t ever find assurance in anything :/ not even with all the knowledge I know
This is so beautiful, I don’t have scrupulosity but it still helped me so so much. My ex bf has scrupulosity. ( was broken up with very recently) times like this I wish I could send him a clip like this. I hope God will let him see this somehow and it can move his heart like it has mine🙏
@@Anna-bu5oy how did you deal with him if you dont mind sharing?
Hey :) … gosh it’s been a very long time ago now. And I don’t know if my answer will be very helpful. I think i consciously tried to meet him where he was. To realise that even if he wanted to I couldn’t change him, that only God could do that. I would listen a lot, and try to soothe his anxiety, knowing that even if I could, it would be very short lived, and we’d be back to speaking over the same things again. I always just tried to tell him how merciful and loving God was, and that it was the devil who wanted us to get stuck looking inwards. But that God wanted us to dare to risk looking at him even when we felt this time we’d blown it. Cause we’re just ‘too bad’ and obviously basically all of the examples he gave weren’t serious things at all, but absolutely consumed him. But obviously is a trait of scrupulosity. … but he dumped me, which was a very very rough time for me. It took 2 years but thanks to God Ive come through that specific time of grief. Anyway, I hope whatever your situation is, God can give you the spirit and courage to do what you need to. 🙏
The fact that the holy spirit is our defence attorney is simply beautiful
St. Ignatius of Loyola and St. Alphonsus of Liguori battled it too.
I returned to the Church after ~10yrs and found myself dealing with a bad run of scrupulosity. Turns out it's a form of OCD, which I am now taking medication for.
Did the medication help?
@@liam77877 Unfortunately, no, I was on 30mg fluoxetine and it didn't help. After a few months I no longer had access to my psychiatrist, so I couldn't try anything different.
@@spleenery Hope it's gotten better 🙏
"Scrupulosity." 2:50: "I'm not saying you believe too much in your own wretchedness (that's me), I'm TELLING you you don't believe enough in God's mercy (also me)." I am a poster boy for scrupulosity, then, because this is my pride's hubris with which I struggle daily.
I opened up to my sister on this when I visited with her last year, and she was stunned to learn this about me (we're both in our 50s) and was sad I struggle so much with this. I do. I wish I could just retro me this problem with a snap of my fingers. Maybe, one day, I'll accept God's love and forgiveness enough to get me over this sin of pride. This I pray.
When you said "scruplosity is not a Cross that you need need to carry " I was like 😌😌
Thanks for lifting that burden off from my shoulders 🙏
May God bless you prayers out for you all. Thank you for this vulnerable discussion, I am struggling with scrupulosity as well and feel overwhelmed but I thank you and find a bit of peace through this. Prayers out to all who struggle in similar or worse ways. Remember that our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ is with us all, call onto God and He will rescue us always, without fail. Our God is infinitely good and we need to trust in Him. We humbly pray and wish all of this through Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior’s Holy Name, Amen.
Think of OCD/Scrupulosity as a grace from God to attain holiness. Jesus does give trials. My Patron Saint Gemma Galgani, the Stigmata. 🙏
But it isn't - it's crippling anxiety which prevents you doing anything effectively including having a relationship with God
Beautiful, beautiful video!
8:55 i love that analogy!
Something that helped me was an essay written by Fr William Doyle about scrupulosity!
Recently listened to St Thérèse of Lisieux’s biography on Hallow. 🙏🏻
Scrupulosity is for sure a pride thing. It’s false humility. 😢
Me ……..Google’s Scrupulosity !
🙏🏻😂🙋🏻♀️
Come, Holy Spirit, come renew our faith, hope and love. Ps 145:18, Lk 12:40
Jesus said:
You too must stand ready, because the Son of man is coming at an hour you do not expect.'
😇O Jesus I trust in You!
Can you please identify pride vs having boundaries?
I think a lot of my scrupulosity has come from listening to videos about hell. Yesterday I listened to one from sensum fidelium about a young man who deliberately left off a couple of sins during confession and had almost died? And had seen that he would have gone to hell had the blessed mother not intervened. And I get it, we're not supposed to deliberately leave out sins, but hearing that makes me want to do another general confession and try to get it a little bit "righter" this time. Which I've already probably done two. Plus I've never stopped going to confession. Just not sure if I'm doing it right. And then yeah, it does feel a little bit sacrilegious to keep confessing the same sins over and over because I'm a forgetter and can't always remember if I've confessed them. Oh, and then when you read in the comments someone said like 99.9% of people go to hell. I think what chance have I got?
first of all.. who says 99.9% of people will go to hell? no one can tell. It is arrogant and unchristian to support such a thing, indeed we should hope for everyone's salvation. And then I find it difficult that God who is infinitely reasonable and just can send someone to eternal perdition just because he has omitted his sins almost out of forgetfulness or shame and then suddenly dies and is unable to repent...Indeed in the story that you tell the Virgin Mary It intervened.
Read “Time for God” by Jacques. St Therese of Avila makes it known of False Humility!!!
Amen!!! Thank you Lord! This really brought me to tears.
Is this even scrupulous? I’ve gone to mass every day for a year, confession several times without receiving Holy Communion due to me questioning my validity.
Late reply but definitely yes.
Big time.
Texas!!! \o/
Sometimes I think that in certain situations I'm pretty sure I would sin. For example: if my 14-year-old daughter (using the example of Joe Rogan) became pregnant as a result of a rape… I would have her have an abortion. I know it's a borderline situation and I pray to God never to test me on that, but if is true that we must ask for forgiveness, I wonder if being convinced that we would sin in a given situation is equivalent to not repenting. "Repent" means that if you went back in time you wouldn't do it again... instead in the case I mentioned earlier I am 100% SURE that I would always do the same type of sin again (killing in that case, because the abortion is murder).
Hi Luca, the Catholic Apologist Trent Horn has a nice example for this topic in his book, Why We're Pro-Life: “Imagine that a woman has sexual relations with her husband, and the next day she is raped by a stranger. Several weeks later she discovers she’s pregnant but doesn't know if the child was fathered by her husband or the rapist. A prenatal DNA test says that the husband is the child's father. The woman gives birth to a son, and three months later the doctor calls while she is home alone with the baby. He informs her that he made a mistake and that the rapist is actually the baby’s father. Should the woman be allowed to kill this product of rape in his crib? If not, then shouldn't we forbid killing the product of rape *in the womb* for the same reason: because both are human beings?”
Essentially, the life of a human being starts at conception - even in the terrible case of rape. If it's wrong to kill a baby of rape when they are outside of the womb, then it's also wrong to kill a baby of rape when they are inside of the womb, since both are precious human beings in the eyes of God. Also, willingly and substantially assisting or carrying out an abortion can hold the penalty of excommunication from the Catholic Church (if all of the conditions for excommunication from Canon Law are met.) Pretty serious stuff. I really hope you bring this to Confession with a good priest, and I pray you reconsider your position. Take care and God Bless.
"Be perfect as your heavenly is perfect " is in the end passing through the Purgatory before entering our heavenly home. " For nothing unclean enters heaven. "
❤❤❤
How much similarity does modern Catholicism have with traditional Protestantism?
From my understanding as a Lutheran, Vatican 2 was largely the implementation of Luther's demands