Yes, Guys! She helped me a lot. I went through 10 hours of contractions with no medication. She is the truth. I got all of my tips from her videos. I'm sure the classes she offers are heaven-sent. I will take a class the next time. 💗
I had a c-section with my first and didn’t know my options like using a mirror to see everything, or be the one to actually hold baby out of your cut stomach, skin to skin right away…
I am not a doula, but my friend is. So she asked me to stay on her side being her "doula" and told me what to do. It ended up being great, I listened to her, I advocated for her, the intuiton guided me.
30:00 to 32:00 "I remember even with a C-section, them taking my baby away from me........ seeing him from afar and not being to hold him because that's a very traumatic part of your experience. You've done all this work to get baby here and now you're waiting to see him and all these other people have seen him before you and that's a really hard place to be emotionally when you already feel out-of-control and powerless" 😭💔❤️🔥 THANK YOU FOR PUTTING SOME OF MY TRAUMA INTO WORDS WHEN I COULDN'T 😢 I hate pregnancy & childbirth & postpartum. I decided I'm a mom of one and done. I refuse to allow myself to suffer like this again. I still have PTSD from that horrific day. Dads have life so easy, not having to deal with any of this suffering
I am so sorry you went through that! Dad's definitely have it easier when it comes to the physical and emotional trauma. I do want to share though that my husband really struggled after my birth. He is very empathetic and it was very hard for him to see me go through all of the pain. He kept telling me over and over again that he wished he could bare the pain in my place. He definitely struggled during my postpartum as well and recovery getting mentally. He is my rock so seeing him in that place also made things harder.
@ashleyswim4663 my husband was the same way. He is so sweet and caring. it was difficult for him to see me go through the pain (emotionally and physically) of a c-section that I did not want to have, and struggle with breastfeeding afterward. In all the years we have been together, I have only seen my husband cry a handful of times, but he broke down in tears several times after we had our baby, just because it was hard for him to see me struggling. As women, we obviously deal with the majority of the burden of birthing and child-rearing, but that's definitely not to say that men have it easy. Not the good ones, anyway ❤
Omg! Within this one video, you have expressed EVERYTHING that I believe and have experienced throughout my maternal career. Thank you for sharing! I will definitely share your link with all of my clients.
I just attended a birth where the dads family being present led mom to have an unexpected c section that was no emergency. Everytime dads family inserted themselves her labor stalled, contractions stopped and she started to close back up. I wish moms didnt have to learn this the hard way.
Love ❤ Your videos, I wasn't able to have the home birth i dreamed of 1st time around, but i was able to labor at home and give nonmedicated birth on my side.. i never planned to go to the hospital, but I was able to navigate the process with grace and confidence because of your advice.😊
Love your last point especially::: birth is beautiful! Thank you for sharing these videos. Studying to be a doula. This is so helpful!! God bless you 🤍
Im currently pregnant with my rainbow baby. I had a C-section with my first. I have gestational diabetes and my doctors think i may have to have a repeat C-section. I really want a vbac. So far ive been losing weight and not gaining. Pre-pregnancy i struggled to lose weight now it melts off like butter😅. Im just hoping i can have the birth i always dream of.
Thank you for uploading this again! I was midway through it yesterday and it completely disappeared! Lol I'm going into labor any day now with my second daughter🥰
Thank you for this video! My first birth was traumatic. My second was an amazing experience in the middle of the night uninterrupted. I thought I was more educated and ready to advocate going into my 3rd. I was firm with my no’s…..until I wasn’t. When it came time to push, I felt pressure to have them break my waters and to push on my back because the midwife said it was easier for her. My nurse actually stopped me twice and said no Jen…you said you wanted to push on your side. Are you sure? Short story long, his heart rate dropped being on my back and came out unresponsive. He was okay after some help from the nurse and respiratory doc team but I felt like a failure and kicked myself for not listening to my body and advocating. If God graces me with another baby, I will definitely be doing things differently. I will also make sure my husband speaks up as well! Thanks again for all the information! ❤
It's interesting because I'm normally very petite (102-105ish pounds), and I've gained exactly 50 pounds with all 3 of mine. I never worried about it, but thankfully I had no problem loosing it by 2 months postpartum with the first two. I'm due in a few days with our 3rd, so I expect it to be a similar experience. I actually wouldn't mind staying closer to 112-120 if it was because of having increased muscle tone.
I did not want a baby but I was studying like crazy pretty early on, even though I was vomiting up most things. Even the medication they gave me didn't help much and I wish I had not been on it, it caused severe constipation that caused permanent damage. I had issues with vomiting and nausea through the entire pregnancy; I had Hyperemesis Gravidarum. The second was much less for sure and made me optimistic; I could actually keep more variety of food down (not just beans and meat LOL) but still a lot of nausea. Third got very bad again. I had thought I could handle a warm bowl of soup and it came BURSTING out of my nose and throat without warning. Not a great experience. It was legit hard to deal with the pregnancy because of these things, and a PUPPS rash that labor and pushing for four hours was preferable, even though it was hellish due to exhaustion, at least it was less than two days total. We didn't have a birthing class but I looked up what one would learn in one. Honestly if you go somewhere like kaiser (at least in my experience a decade ago), they will not let you position how you want or anything anyway, it's about whatever is easiest for the doctor. They didn't explain to me that I was at any more risk than anyone else they just said "oh we don't do that here" when I showed my trim birth plan just asking to be on my side or hands and knees....(hands and knees opens your pelvis by 30%). So IDK how much it would help to practice things in a class if you're going to a major hospital they will most likely just yell orders at you.
Yes, Guys! She helped me a lot. I went through 10 hours of contractions with no medication. She is the truth. I got all of my tips from her videos. I'm sure the classes she offers are heaven-sent. I will take a class the next time. 💗
Oh my gosh congratulations mama!!!!! I’m so so proud of you. Thanks for sharing your story so people know it’s possible 🫶🏽
@@awerkingmamaThank you!
I’m actually getting soooo much information, than when I went through the birthing process. I hope to be a good support person for my daughter in law.
Your channel is in my top 3 for birth education thank you so much! More families need to listen to your videos!
I wish I heard this before. I had an unpleasant experience with my first delivery, now I am going through everything for my 2nd.
I'm going into my 40th week with my second and so thankful for this video! 🙌🏻
I'm so glad! Praying for a positive birth experience!
I had a c-section with my first and didn’t know my options like using a mirror to see everything, or be the one to actually hold baby out of your cut stomach, skin to skin right away…
I am not a doula, but my friend is. So she asked me to stay on her side being her "doula" and told me what to do. It ended up being great, I listened to her, I advocated for her, the intuiton guided me.
30:00 to 32:00 "I remember even with a C-section, them taking my baby away from me........ seeing him from afar and not being to hold him because that's a very traumatic part of your experience. You've done all this work to get baby here and now you're waiting to see him and all these other people have seen him before you and that's a really hard place to be emotionally when you already feel out-of-control and powerless" 😭💔❤️🔥
THANK YOU FOR PUTTING SOME OF MY TRAUMA INTO WORDS WHEN I COULDN'T 😢
I hate pregnancy & childbirth & postpartum. I decided I'm a mom of one and done. I refuse to allow myself to suffer like this again. I still have PTSD from that horrific day.
Dads have life so easy, not having to deal with any of this suffering
I am so sorry you went through that!
Dad's definitely have it easier when it comes to the physical and emotional trauma.
I do want to share though that my husband really struggled after my birth. He is very empathetic and it was very hard for him to see me go through all of the pain. He kept telling me over and over again that he wished he could bare the pain in my place. He definitely struggled during my postpartum as well and recovery getting mentally. He is my rock so seeing him in that place also made things harder.
@ashleyswim4663 my husband was the same way. He is so sweet and caring. it was difficult for him to see me go through the pain (emotionally and physically) of a c-section that I did not want to have, and struggle with breastfeeding afterward. In all the years we have been together, I have only seen my husband cry a handful of times, but he broke down in tears several times after we had our baby, just because it was hard for him to see me struggling.
As women, we obviously deal with the majority of the burden of birthing and child-rearing, but that's definitely not to say that men have it easy. Not the good ones, anyway ❤
Omg! Within this one video, you have expressed EVERYTHING that I believe and have experienced throughout my maternal career. Thank you for sharing! I will definitely share your link with all of my clients.
I just attended a birth where the dads family being present led mom to have an unexpected c section that was no emergency. Everytime dads family inserted themselves her labor stalled, contractions stopped and she started to close back up. I wish moms didnt have to learn this the hard way.
Love ❤
Your videos, I wasn't able to have the home birth i dreamed of 1st time around, but i was able to labor at home and give nonmedicated birth on my side.. i never planned to go to the hospital, but I was able to navigate the process with grace and confidence because of your advice.😊
Excellent video - 37 weeks & just found you, thank God!
Love your last point especially::: birth is beautiful! Thank you for sharing these videos. Studying to be a doula. This is so helpful!!
God bless you 🤍
You’re so welcome 🙏🏽💛
Im currently pregnant with my rainbow baby. I had a C-section with my first. I have gestational diabetes and my doctors think i may have to have a repeat C-section. I really want a vbac. So far ive been losing weight and not gaining. Pre-pregnancy i struggled to lose weight now it melts off like butter😅. Im just hoping i can have the birth i always dream of.
Please keep us updated girl!
Doctors push for c section just because the sky is blue! gd is not an automatic reason to need one
Thank you for uploading this again! I was midway through it yesterday and it completely disappeared! Lol
I'm going into labor any day now with my second daughter🥰
Oh gosh sorry mama! Wanted to re-upload at a different speed so people weren’t going crazy anymore 😂
Sending you lots of prayers for your birth 🙏🏽
@@awerkingmama Thank you so so much! Your channel has been such a blessing!❤️
Thank you for this video! My first birth was traumatic. My second was an amazing experience in the middle of the night uninterrupted. I thought I was more educated and ready to advocate going into my 3rd. I was firm with my no’s…..until I wasn’t. When it came time to push, I felt pressure to have them break my waters and to push on my back because the midwife said it was easier for her. My nurse actually stopped me twice and said no Jen…you said you wanted to push on your side. Are you sure? Short story long, his heart rate dropped being on my back and came out unresponsive. He was okay after some help from the nurse and respiratory doc team but I felt like a failure and kicked myself for not listening to my body and advocating. If God graces me with another baby, I will definitely be doing things differently. I will also make sure my husband speaks up as well! Thanks again for all the information! ❤
Just found this! I’m planning my first child this year. I’m so nervous but very excited. Btw you seem like the best mom💜
Your first birth sounds exactly like my first birth. Currently preparing for my second birth and I still feel pretty lost and oblivious
It's interesting because I'm normally very petite (102-105ish pounds), and I've gained exactly 50 pounds with all 3 of mine. I never worried about it, but thankfully I had no problem loosing it by 2 months postpartum with the first two. I'm due in a few days with our 3rd, so I expect it to be a similar experience.
I actually wouldn't mind staying closer to 112-120 if it was because of having increased muscle tone.
I love this for you! Congratulations on baby #3!
That video was SO helpful! Sending to husband now ❤
This is such a good video, thank you!
I did not want a baby but I was studying like crazy pretty early on, even though I was vomiting up most things. Even the medication they gave me didn't help much and I wish I had not been on it, it caused severe constipation that caused permanent damage. I had issues with vomiting and nausea through the entire pregnancy; I had Hyperemesis Gravidarum. The second was much less for sure and made me optimistic; I could actually keep more variety of food down (not just beans and meat LOL) but still a lot of nausea. Third got very bad again. I had thought I could handle a warm bowl of soup and it came BURSTING out of my nose and throat without warning. Not a great experience.
It was legit hard to deal with the pregnancy because of these things, and a PUPPS rash that labor and pushing for four hours was preferable, even though it was hellish due to exhaustion, at least it was less than two days total. We didn't have a birthing class but I looked up what one would learn in one. Honestly if you go somewhere like kaiser (at least in my experience a decade ago), they will not let you position how you want or anything anyway, it's about whatever is easiest for the doctor. They didn't explain to me that I was at any more risk than anyone else they just said "oh we don't do that here" when I showed my trim birth plan just asking to be on my side or hands and knees....(hands and knees opens your pelvis by 30%). So IDK how much it would help to practice things in a class if you're going to a major hospital they will most likely just yell orders at you.
This is what i want for this birth.
You can have this, mama!
Well my husband dosent even want to learn it seems.
Totally done with him
How much would it be to hire you as a doula??
You lost me at "although my partner was not the CARRYING BIRTHING PERSON". WHAT THE HELL is that nonsense. Only women can get pregnant.
You must not have listened further but thanks for sharing your opinion here 👍🏽
Agree. The woke language throws me 😂
Threw me off too 😂😂
This is about a shift of perspective regarding the other person's tasks and responsibilities. Relax.
Now how about single moms who dont have a supportive partner/daddy doula? 😕
Many of my clients who are in this situation usually bring on a family member or friend and we train that person to act as their doula/support person.
Dang videos like this are for people that have money😢