Is It Possible to Have a Relationship with a Non-spiritual Partner? | Eckhart Tolle Teachings
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- In this video, Eckhart is asked if it is possible to have a relationship with a non-spiritual partner, and he describes that our ability to relate peacefully with an unconscious partner depends greatly on the level of their unconsciousness and how it manifests.
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Someone who is "not spiritual" can in fact be far more so than someone who consider themselves "spiritual" but are very egocentrical and have a superiority complex due to their "spirituality". Someone may think they are spiritual and living a conscious life because they do things like yoga, meditation or interested in whatever religion. On the other hand, someone might not even really know what spirituality is but actually live a very honest, pure life and have high emotional intelligence and work towards bettering themselves. I find that "I am a spiritual person" can be another label someone puts on themselves to feel better about themselves.
Omg I have seen so many examples of that !!!!
Best comment on this whole thread.
very true
Interesting point Miyankochan. I lived in a very ‘“spiritual” town and was an Airbnb host. People came from all over the world to attend retreats, listen to gurus, ring bells, and feel the energy. Many of these people were great guests and a pleasure to chat with. Some however were more evangelical than evangelicals in that they wanted to convert me to their world view. They didn’t care that I’m following my own spiritual path. They have found THE truth.
@@tomgocubs I can't even begin to explain how much I resonate with this comment :D
Been married to a non spiritual person for 40 years. I am extremely spiritual. Opposites attract & we’re fine. Life is what you make of it 😊
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That's not how "opposites attract" apply here. Plus, just because he doesn't believe in beyond the physical aspects of life, doesn't mean he doesn't handle the physical to such a degree, perhaps with high intelectuall he does get close to being a "spiritual person".
As long as a person isn't toxic this works, if someone is toxic they need to be open to growth or this relationship wouldn't work. I'm in this situation. He attracts toxic people and I'm tired of having to manage boundaries he should be managing. Nobody respects boundaries I try to set for him it's just a clown show.
I was miserable in my marriage until divorce was on the table. This in turn gave me the power to choose to stay, but on my terms. Through meditation, I changed myself. I didn't expect my husband to change too, and I was so pleasantly surprised when he did. Raising our own vibrations affects the vibrations of everyone around you. Anyway, we are so much happier now.
That's beautiful♥️
Thank You @Dana Price
I wish I could talk to you about your journey. My boyfriend is terribly unconscious and I'm working on myself solely now, I've always been deeply interested in consciousness and growth. I used to try to help him with this or that, he's very negative, his friends are narcissistic and he's terrified to establish boundaries with them. I'm so different, but I'm attracted to who he is other than these fearful traits from his childhood... Every time I've tried to help him he just resisted completely, so I've given up and am working on myself now... But IDK if he will ever change. I'm planning on ending it because growth is a choice. I've fully confirmed this. I think my attempts to "help" him actually stifled growth he may have had and I'm so sorry for that...
My toxic relationship ended after I came back from an Eckhart Tolle retreat. I don't even know what really happened. It wasn't a conscious decision. Our egoic patterns of relating just didn't make sense to me anymore. I suppose I was no longer giving him the supply he needed and he dumped me. I now see him as instrumental in my process of awakening and I am forever grateful to him for that.
It's the same situation for me. My spiritual awakening was the final drop that started my separation from all (and there were a lot) the unconscious people in my life. Is strange to think about how to start from scratch building new friendships... It was so gradual I didn't notice how different were my opiniones and my old friend's opinions and views of the world, and values. I'm pretty sure that between 33 and 45 some people just "goes to sleep" or "wake up".
but why did you end it when eckhart told you that you should accept your partner exactly how he is (abusive,evil etc)?? you're disobeying your master eckhart!
@@abenaz I didn't end it. He ended it. It was toxic because I was forever trying to please and appease him. He would give me the silent treatment if I didn't comply to his wishes. He was a covert narcissist. I was willing to let him be the way he was and accept him. In fact I thought that my spiritual growth would allow me to do that. But I just outgrew my own toxic pattern of relating. That's the beauty of it. Do work on yourself, heal your wounds and the world will fall into place.
@@artifundio1 so happy for you!
@@danisguela5283 Woow, it was like that with my ex husband. I tried so many different ways to make things good. Finally was my consciousness that make me realize that separation was the healthiest for both of us. He has his own lessons to learn and I cannot help him. He is also a covert vulnerable narcissist. It wasn't so bad when we met at 32. But 10 years later he has become a "wall" in both of our lifes. He won't change o try new approaches or even have dreams of any kind. His main occupation became giving me orders, and negative opinions, negate all my accomplishments and even sabotaging my sleep. So hard to accept and hardest to move on, but truth is peace of mind and that's the best. Best wishes to you Danisguela!
It’s miserable. Especially when you want to talk and have some deep conversations. It’s almost like you’re with someone but alone. You can’t force people to think, you can show them the door and they still won’t see it….
Yesssssss!!!
It's not that bad. It's real life. We're not surrounded by "yes" people who are like minded. (Boring). My husband has great views that I appreciate but he is not interested in spirituality. I value his practical views even if I tend to see things from a much larger perspective.
I can certainly relate to you, I've discovered it's best not to share these deep understandings/teachings unless the other person is willing or ready to hear it. I guess It's meant to be if and when it's meant to be.
Try hitting them from a different angle. Sometimes when I wanna talk about presence, i just say "in the zone".
The less you expect the less you're disappointed
I can personally attest that trying to change anyone's view is futile and learning to accept them for who they are is a far greater challenge. You can love them and accept them and still be together. It's life.
I want to thank you for this,my husband and i are having a terrible time because he his so unconscious xx
Sometimes leaving people is where growth occurs. Often actually especially with family. People who don't want to grow aren't desirable anymore.
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Some relationships fall away and you grow as a result of the break. So true.
Absolutely, I hope many people read this
When i change, so does the world
My wife has cancer. I have been with her for over 30 years. She is going through a hard time right now. She is so real. It is moving to be with her.
Loving others, for me, is simply giving them space to be as they are, without the compulsion to fix or change them in any way.
Beautiful 💛
How did you get to this point? How do your practice this?
@@daughteroftheking01 I spent maybe 18 hours with a dangerous person, over the course of two weeks, as an experiment and I felt I was able to connect with them, however, I couldn't sustain the level of energy required build enough trust to where they weren't going to be a threat to me. I thought I did well, but it did make the voice in my head go nuts for like 3 days after I parted ways.
This was an extreme example, but I participated with them in neutral ways. I didn't support the crazy things they told me they did, but I would respond with a lateral/neutral comment and/or try to redirect the conversation to calm them down. When judgement was aimed at me I would make a point that it was the past and that I was no longer acting in such ways (minor acts they thought were what was destroying the Earth).
I like the idea of revealing the pros and cons of multiple options for a person without telling them that their choice was wrong. Let them determine that they can choose a less extreme option that is less harmful and less energy-intensive for them.
“You cannot love your partner one moment and attack him or her the next. True love has no opposite.” - *ECKHART TOLLE* 🙏🏽💜⭐️🧡
well, sure ya can...but then, you'll have to live-with-that, or the unfortunate memory of that...it's understandably not recommended... but we can always argue about what-is-love, and where it begins and where it goes, where it comes from, and who does and doesn't know...
VishVibez, Well said adaptation of Corinthians13.
I guess I should have waited for True Love, says the ego.
We are not perfect. What matters most is the ability to repair.
I 've been single for over ten years and I' ve started to really get to know myself thanks to solitude. It is beautiful to share your love with someone else but I don't really need another person to be happy because everything I need is already inside me!
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I love your comment. It really resonated with me
“Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.”
― Carl Jung
Great video Eckhart ♥
That's a horrible quote. And it's contrary to Eckhart teachings. Eckhart says thinking is easy, and that most people do it most of the time, in fact. So, thinking is not difficult, is automatic and constant for most people. What we do is stay present, without thinking, or observing our thoughts, without judgement. And act spontaneously from presence.
@@SuShi-dk4lv the problem is not thinking but being controlled by your mind. thinking and our ego is like the vehicle in this reality and we need it to drive ourselves to places. essentially, everything in the universe is made out of light (electrones, protones..) and reflections of god! and so are we and so is our ego.
i think the quote is true as long as you dont interpret anger or ignorance into it. though i think the process of judgement is important for most people to put in front of themselves a picture/ a reflection of how they actually feel about and react to it, the next step is understanding what of your past experiences leads you to this judgement
I have had several discussions with my Pyschologist about ending my relationship. I have mentioned the fear of being alone, fear of loss of security, fear the unknown - I mentioned I'm scared to leave the relationship for these reasons and haven't received much help. I received more help starting at 9:01 than I ever have paying for professional help.
Thank you Eckhart
I was in an abusive relationship...when I realised whatever I did made things worse, an amazing calm came over me... although he was screaming in my face... calmness...then I knew what I needed to do to change the situation...rang the police for assistance and left...the next day I was elated!
@Sarah Jane How i envy you . I am in the same postion but my family are all living overseas , and at this time i unable to fly to where they live . I have no where to escape to at the moment , rents are high in the UK and i am retired . But when i read yoor comment it gave me hope that i will find somwhere as i really can not take anymore of his mental abuse and screaming in my face .
@@sunshine-qk8qe God bless you! You can get out. You may not know how to get out but anything and everything is possible. Put your attention on what you wish for; freedom, peace, love, and your current life with dissolve away and a new one will begin. 🙏🏼🦋
@@sunshine-qk8qe please call a women's refuge in the UK they Will help you
@@sunshine-qk8qe My family is also in another country, but I moved out on my own the day I realised my children would be better off if we divorced, than if I stayed in this abusive relationship. We lived in 2 rooms in a basement for 3 years because I didn't have a stabile job/income, that was all I could afford, but we were happy. It was a tough divorce of course, because an abuser never likes to be dumped by the person they thought they had completely under control, and we had 2 kids together.
Also something I discovered, is that an abuser only abuses someone who allows the abuse. It was difficult to realise and admit, but the day I stood my ground and put him in his place, I realised he was mostly bluffing and cowardly retreated when he found his master. Good luck to you!
@@sunshine-qk8qe Trust in the abundance of the universe, your time to break free will present itself in a most unexpected way, your awakened spirit will guide you . Not long more now Sunshine 92 😇
It totally possible to have a relationship w/someone not spiritually aligned. We all are spiritual beings having a human experience. It may not have a lot of harmony but plenty of spiritual teachings! I thrive in complicated with my spiritual growth. Unconditional love has no expectations 🕉
“The greatest catalyst for change in a relationship is complete acceptance of your partner as he or she is, without needing to judge.” -ECKHART TOLLE⭐️🙏🏽🧡🍁💜
Yea, but what about new relationships ?
this absolutely did not work at all for me despite my spiritual awakening 2.5 years ago and being very aware, please be very careful with this especially if the partner has never heard anything of "not judging"/ "not valuating" and has issues with her/himself, it can end up in abuse of your good intention and your practice of not judging. so if you do this, be careful, I ended up in a kind of narcissistic relationship where honesty and not judging were a big mistake at some point because she felt it and lied to me and twisted things and made it seem I was the bad guy in the end while I was peaceful and practicing my not judging all the time. it was good traning but at some point spiritual practice and not judging wont get you any further but can bring you much pain if you come along the wrong people and always say yes and amen to everything. so yes, not judging does help but dont forget that this may not be the case happening inside the mind of your partner!!😂
My take on this is that partners can be catalyst, but to an extend, it depend how evolved you are compare to your partner… so for everyone’s case has different circumstances to stay with a partner or not. If you do not resonate with it hard to continue..
and I think the once they stay in hoping that their partner will awaken one day.. it’s not me. everyone you meet in your path are catalysts.
@@bamboochaLPP just because spirituality has the non-judgment doesn’t mean that we have to do all that when we know in our gut how we feel about certain things.
I would use my instincts and put boundaries with the person that treat me wrong….
@@bamboochaLPP just because spirituality has the non-judgment doesn’t mean that we have to do all that when we know in our gut how we feel about certain things.
I would use my instincts and put boundaries with the person that treat me wrong….
We love YOU in all time and space.
Unconditional love. Loving without conditions. Accepting people for who and how they are.
I agree
I chose to learn lots of presence through my challenging relationship ...I used to react. .but thanks to yours and other spiritual teachings. ..I identified my ego n patterns of my triggers... now i acknowledge.. surrender... .it gives me such a satisfaction to stay present when other person in rage...best way to have peace with nassisits...they get bored without a reaction. ..
@@juststop022 great...that's the best way ..I have few at my work place as well. ..same theory I apply still holding compassion for them💗💗💗
At one stage one becomes aware of lack of true self love. So don't hang on to this stage either but move on to the point where you ask yourself if giving this relationship the time and energy is really needed at all
@@srinitaaigaura yes definitely I agree. ..specially if he continues preventing me doing things for my spiritual growth ...thank you for reminding me.. 💗🙏🙏🙏
@@srinitaaigaura that is the perfect question, and perhaps the reason for the relationship, learning when to leave. Because eventually we learn not to attach to inappropriate liaisons.
I kinda remember myself as a child, going down the “think and dream” path to avoid pain and to be better than others.
Later on, I got so used to it, it became me, I identified myself with thinking.
Actually, huge ego had been helping me throughout school and college years - I seemed smart.
But after graduation, I encountered many problems caused by the unaware state of mind.
Now at 31, thanks to these teachings, I understand what’s been happening.
I see many people more aware, more awake then me. They don’t fall into the rabbit hole of thinking, and it helps them to live wisely and naturally.
I went on a similar journey. Thanks for sharing
- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨
Thank you xo
Cringe.
🤍 right back at you!
How do you know?
This has touched me very DEEPLY.
"Only you will know what to do or how to handle the situation "
Thanks so much for this clearification. Am grateful for the light you have shown me. 🙏
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After reading alll books and teachings of tolle i realized conventional religions just follow the words, formality and superficial norms without knowing deepest meanings . So am slightly able to understand true meaning of Islam, christchianity and other religions .
Thanks echart
I agree 100%. But Have you listened to Jordan Peterson lectures? He's almost preaching, and he's unlike any other preacher you've ever heard. I'm not saying that he changed me, or got me to come back on the Christian side. Or got me to believe again. But definitely worth listening to
@Strong Spear Jordan Peterson is kinda disrespectful to women though.
Personally I don't believe in any religion at all because it all involves believing other people's stories, words and opinions and how could they possibly know anymore than anyone else about what to us all is actually unknowable, but I do and have for as long as I can remember always believed in God.
My belief is based on looking at the beauty and perfection of the world and the universe and everything within in it, the water cycle? The water comes down is used by all living things to live and then evaperates and is recycled again and again and again in an endless circle of life giving wonder. This and many other truly amazing things absolutely blows my mind my heart my soul into endless gratitude and appreciation.
You may have missed the teaching "You use a boat to cross a river but do you then carry the boat with you?"
Ie stop reading, just do it
@@bbcb1856 In what way is Jordan Peterson disrespectful to women?
We belong with each other for many reasons. As we grow and heal, we need to understand that we will not continue to match as well with our partner.
People change friend groups as they grow for this reason. It can be tough.
looks like we've got the perfect friend group! now!
what could be more 'perfecto'!
@@tinfoilhatter I see that. Looks like a welcoming group. 😂😂😂
@jennifer Santiago but is he 'attached'?
it's just that, y'know, a little non-attachment, could go-a-long-ways towards, y'know, that final-resting-place-of-ultimate perfection, or...Finality... yikes, right?
jennifer's...different...she's got tourrette's.. its in her inflections...it's not about the words, it's about her...timing...she's made a-lotta-progress!
Eckhart is such a soothing voice on almost every topic
i like it when he holds a glass of what he *says*, is pure, clean , cold refreshing water! reeeal close-to-the microphone! and he'll just take a big old drink now that, is pure genius, right there!
The sense of humor of Eckhart gets to me every time 😅
i feel soooooo happy when he says hi to the people somewhere on the planet,thank you,thank you,thank you echart🙏💚,isn't that so awesome?🙏💚
All of this is happening to me…I just can’t live with this anymore…I need to escape. Yes it is scary to leave but this is not where or how I need to be. Thank you Eckhart for the push🙏
I feel the same Christine.
@@soulswork1111 Please make a plan and do not divulge it to him or any of his henchmen.
Of course it is. Don't listen to the negative nancys of this world!! There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. All relationships take work and communication. Your relationship is individual to you and your partner, remember that!
Thank you love to you and viewers. Life often teases. What is spiritually? Ego cracking themes, well again life is teasing. Perhaps it’s often better, to let it be and cultivate ones own positive loving, nature, then let it unfold naturally. The person opposite you, will follow their individual route and life will resolve whatever themes, in the given time frame. It’s difficult to understand ones own, thoughts, feelings, actions, so it is probably a illusion, that you have the solution. Being present from moment to moment, is life’s wisdom. Best wishes on your journey and may life grant you lots of patience, compassion. 😘🙏🌈👋
Since decades I fall for the same person and it was always problematic. Since I listen to Tolle I changed, my partner struggled a lot and then after years he started listen too. I am also starting a therapy to solve more of these problems. I mean to the ego there is always more but sometimes a therapy can help.
This is the issue I'm faced with at the moment. It is not easy.
I am so grateful for your wisdom, Dear Eckhart. Thank you. Big hugs.
I had the same experience you were talking about, she was a big shot in movie industry, she was a close friend to me, also we worked together in a movie that I wrote, she had a huge ego, so huge & so much laud voice & fighting, she was the only decision maker & if someone else suggests something so positive for the movie she refuses to not accept other 's opinions, so at the end she works against herself , but she has a bright side on the other hand but few people know about it , the closest ones to her... She fell sick, for a long time, my last visit to her she was totally different, totally out of ego , she use to listen me , an angelic smile was shining her face , she was so soft , so acceptable, wow !!! She was totally transformed as if she ascended to the 5th dimension , God bless her soul ... Man ... I love you 😍 I really enjoy watching & listening to you , bless you 🙏 🙏 🙏
This took me back to 20 years ago when I became awakened while married to my 2nd husband.
I remember feeling afraid to leave but deep inside I knew the fear I was feeling didn't belong inside me and that I needed to overcome it .
It was a very powerful test of my faith and as I reflect on it I have a profound perspective on myself and God and the power and strength He imparted to me.
It is quite a sobering feeling.
I truly feel that it’s our relationships that grow us and once there is no more growth for either it has run it’s course. Staying out of fear, duty and even love especially if that love has become misaligned serves neither. True unconditional love is knowing when to walk away bc the person you love needs you to. Easily said. So very difficult to do.
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I do not know if I could have said it any better.
Eckhart is such a spiritual comedian 😂💕
U can lead a horse to water but can't make them drink 💜
@jennifer Santiago if i catch you here one-more-time, lady, i cawn't be held responsible for what might happen... just so you understand...kay? that's not you, is it? i thought you were told to stay put!
oops! forgive me, sir, you looked a lot like a lady-i-used-to think that i knew....please, dear sir, or madame, will you read-my-book, it took me years to write, would you, uh, perhaps take a look?
Remember our partners are our biggest tests and teachers. 😂 No, but in all seriousness, a brilliant, straight to the heart-of-the-matter-man. One love. We are all reflections of each other. We are ascending.
Answer is YES. But only when you have fun and can grow together.
I don't think they have to be. But once you've woken up and spirituality is a constant thing, open-mindedness is a must at the very least. If they are completely unconscious, closed off and materialistic, it becomes increasingly difficult to connect. As if they're soulless and have no substance.
You have to realize they are not Souless and without substance... they are you😁
@@MetatronsWing Not everything you see out there is a mere projection. Humans are abel to detect what is true, nurishing and prosperous, wellmeaning and helpfull, accepting and open minded, honest and tolerant, helpfull and trustworthy ...and which is not. Trust your gut feelings, and evil is often only possible if you let it happen. One has not to wellcome everything..
@@anjaknatz7157 Sweetheart, Nothing is evil. It's just unconscious people who haven't come along their journey quite as far as we have. No matter what they do to you no matter how evil you might think it is they're just acting out their own journey... they might just take longer to reach enlightenment than you have. But they are still you! We are all one. We are all part of the creator. The creator is looking out through the eyes of every single being on this planet, and experiencing life as we do. The darkness and the light, the ups and the downs. Everything. If you truly realize that, you can forgive anything... And you'll realize no one is Souless...every single being on this planet has a bit of the Creator in them and they are working their way back towards the creator just as we are. Just might take them a little longer.😁Namaste
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love youuuuuu eckhart from baghdad⛄️❤️
Thank you Eckhart 🙏❤️🙏
It is very sad, I am very sad because of my parents 😢 their relationship is unhappy, sad relationship, I can remember only for this, these kind of memories I have
The challenge is to accept them, and do not want to change them.. the hardest to see and accept their mental pains 😢
Same here. 💔
After awakening, passed the thinking mind into pure awareness resting in an ocean of Love Presence I loved everyone I met - every women was beautiful with a radiance that I loved. The problem is if I loved every women I met how could I choose just one? I loved the whole world. The other point is that if I loved everyone what women would easily become jealous of such a nature. The truth is when you wakeup to oneness love there is no desire anymore for a relationship. (Unless you have some unresolved painful charge/issue in your emotional body) Now I live on my own but never feel alone as I am resting in the arms of my beloved.
Hello Eckhart- you are amazing !
Only with Acceptance which is part of the Teaching.
Thank you Eckhart, you inspired my life before and the timeliness of this question is what I needed to hear now. In 2010 with my device in my pocket and ear plugs in I kept a 1 hr recording of yours I named Manifestation playing over and again during a very difficult time and I can say I was elevated to the present moment, truly transformed me. Bless you.
I ALWAYS FALL ASLEEP LISTENING TO HIM......🙏😇
after I had brain surgery, for two years I was in bliss because I had no energy but for healing. but now I feel that old part of myself that is frustrated and insecure.
Hi …….🌷my dearest Eckhart
Thank you very much , am blessed to have you in my life
A conscious soul vividly present within my heart 💜
When your not attuned to your partner spiritually, it feels like their not your partner. You need to be on a similar frequency, as it can drain your spirit. I've brought my wife around somewhat but she still clings to the programming. I'm trying to save souls, because if you don't recognize your not the character your playing, rebirth it is.
The only person we can ‘save’ is ourself.
That kind of relationship does not work.....thank you Eckhart!
“Once you prepare a place in your life for true purpose, true relationship must find you, for purpose requires relationship and will draw relationship unto itself.”
*Steps to Knowledge, The Book of Inner Knowing*
Like that Ivan
@@boazsilver7589 Then I warmly recommend to check out the whole book or any other work by Marshall Vian Summers. All his work is free online.
i know, right? that's what i told her, i said, that if she didn't quit actin' so possessive and jealous, pretty soon some better-looking, newer-model was gonna come along, lookin'-all-cute, and try to take her place, it's almost as if she...knew what she was doing!....
dang it! i guess-she'd-showed-me!
Thank you, Ivan.
the flower arrangements are beautiful
it was a temporary union of 25 years. I am grateful for the exchange of gifts.
My partner was my best friend. It was fear and great despair that brought her back to eckert. And now literally overnight she's changed everything. I am now, in her mind an unconscious human being. She has the answer to the universe. She judges and sometimes harshly. We rarely have a conversation. We go out to dinner and she sits there and looks around. We don't talk. She said her only goal in life is to become enlightened. When she's in the now she's the happiest. We can go days without seeing each other and having a conversation. She says now she prefers to be alone. Our relationship isn't important to her anymore, only to become enlightened. And compassion , empathy and being of service can only happen for her once she's enlightened. Because I feel sorrow for the loss of our beautiful relationship, I am an unconscious person. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Eckert has become a nasty word to me.
I know some non spiritual people who you could say are pretty unconscious living in the material world but they’re still absolutely lovely people and very kind and understanding. It’s just how some people are (or aren’t).
as long as partner kind, accept and get along with you. That's OK. There is no need understand everything. A friend do not need to understand each other. Respect and accept the differences.
people too much into romantic love. Soul mates sometimes not work out due to too much attachment
I love him, within the first minute I smiled
As long as I'm concerned, every spiritual master made his way alone.
Until reaching a path where one can live with anybody on planet it's not useful to have a partner either spiritual or non spiritual.
However once this path is reached there is no more use to have a partner.
Hello from a mountain top in California 💕
Im seeing comments about unconditional love but what if your partner drinks alcohol and it’s clearly effecting their health? Now you have to deal with a partner who is poisoning themselves which can have implications on their ability to live a long healthy life and raise children. I’m so conflicted about what to do because I drank alcohol for a long time and I understand how ingrained it is in the society.
Compality is all that matters!
Had to listen again Eckhart…thank you💜🙏💜
I decided I could not when the verbal turned into physical. I did try to live with an unconscious person because there was glimmers of consciousness.
It’s definitely impossible. The best thing is to keep it at a great distance. I consider them choosing to stay that way ….. it’s all about power and control.
wrong! it's not only possible, but necessary! not for everyone, but definitely for me and you... not necessarily that i should be yours, but then we'll need a couple more!
that guy's not wrong, tolle, he just cannot know what he's talkin' about and neither does he pretend to, he simply allows you to, if that's what-you-wanna-do, and that's-okay-too~
Not at all impossible. Been in such a relationship for 30 years. It isn't my job to change him or anyone else. I only have "control" of myself. It is a great way to check your own ego and test how you react to all of life.
@@rightasrain7949 SOUNDS RIGHT, RAIN!
i had to forgive her for being just who she wanted to be...and the next few, were very similar...it got to where, they all seemed so much the same, that i thought, 'hey, what is the deal, here', y'know? they all had somethin' in common: namely, myself... i had done the world, quite a bit of, well, who knows what! but none of that even matters! the world, is alright, and doggone it, so are we! right?
To my experience, if you are not desperate enough, there is no meaning in trying to practice presence or spirituality in another person's unconsciousness and ignorance and abuse. There are many other healthier and less painful ways. You do not need to hit your head/soul to the wall of another, to transcend spiritually. My humble opinion.
Maravilloso! Muchísimas gracias Eckhart
Abusers never change and they know exactly what they're doing. You have to decide to take it or leave.
I ask this question time and time again. Then I realise, I am just in my unconscious state hence the question pops up. I have to remind myself to come back to the now; to surrender every time.
i had an argument with my girlfriend. this is it.
there are two feathers with the poem. for context.
29/11/21
A POEM FOR A CAPTAIN.
A story of love and the only thing anyone ever knew.
2 beautiful birds of prey.
Soaring hawks.
A Buzzard.
A Sparrow Hawk.
Labels.
A human error.
One of many.
They lost their lives.
Not for no-thing.
For this moment, now.
Here and now.
As i am here writing this.
To me.. now.
Our future is uncertain.
As it always is.
As it always has been.
As it always will be.
I hate this.
Not Knowing.
Egoic Consciousness.
As you read this, now.
You know much more of our current situation than I do, now.
Wisdom.
While we be, here, now.
You and me.
Damaged. Flawed.
Together, or not.
Can we both accept this, now?
The only thing anyone has ever known.
Yoga. Union.
The eternal truth.
As we be, here, now. Free.
As the Soaring hawk./
Now, together or not.
Let us both contemplate,
Change.
Growth.
Metamorphosis.
You.. Me.. Everything..
All Possible Futures.
Illusion.
In the enternal now.
Work. In. Progress.
Poetry. In. Motion.
As of now.
In such a short time, i have learned so much.
We cannot know this life.
We can only be it.
Beautiful.
I also say hello to everybody who is not phisically present here (on Canary Islands), but present somewhere else on the planet and beyond ;)
You are such a beautiful sole, spirit. You are amazing!
Ty for saying hello
When the 2 wheels are turning in the same direction, no matter how speed or how regularly it rurns. The trip will go however and each wheels will help to other one.
But when it turns in different directions there could have some huge crashing or trashing moments that will cause no successful results for anyone at the end.
But as echart tolle says that even can be happen even at just 5 mins before the death of that person.
@jennifer Santiago you, again, eh? y'know, i once knew someone a lot-like-you...not only did their lack of imagination leave me with a sense of appallment, but it helped me realise something: namely, that you're- all-the-same! just kidding, that's a joke, and you won't understand it, but that's okay~
Hello Eckhart!
My guy lost his best friend and I thought he’d wake up. Not so much. Had to let him go.
I receive it! Thank you LORD!
I tend to think that spirituality is not something you say you are. It is a state of being. That state of being is love and acceptance of yourself and others. If you are really something, then you don’t have to say you are that thing. Nowadays, a lot of spirituality is meditating the truth and trauma away on a mat and turning a blind eye to suffering. Spirituality is not removing yourself from life. It is the integration of being human and bringing love and kindness to every environment, experience and person to the best of your ability. I believe that everyone is spiritual in their own way. Unfortunately, not everyone aspires to practise self aware principled human behaviour. Both extremes come from the avoidance of suffering. Suffering is a part of life. Self awareness in a partner is the most important quality - the ability to put oneself under a microscope with the willingness to grow. Is that spiritual? Who knows. It doesn’t really matter.
I don’t consider myself spiritual I don’t really have any beliefs it’s more on a conscious level of thinking and in life . I’m moving out of being so logical and getting out of my big ole ego ! At this point in my life I could not be in a relationship with someone struggling with their lower self . The 0 mutual understanding is impossible the different levels in expressing love I see love in a free manor they see love in a codependent manner seems those types are my opposite. No thanks I’ll continue to work on my self and when I graduate from ego school lol I’ll be sent a matching equal partner 😉
I don't see how it's possible for someone spiritual to be attracted to someone who isn't. They'll have nothing in common. What does a believer have in common with the unbeliever?
Nothing in common love that
I TOTALLY AGREE....💖
Thank You 🙏 💕
If ET was human, it would be Eckhart Tolle!!!
It didn't react and surrendered many years, but her egoig totally unconscious behaviour even grown up so much. So why should I live like this? In this case we can choose .."should I stay or should I go..
Thank you 🙏🏻🌹❤️
Thankyou❤🌸
A very interesting topic indeed. I think, it often happens that a person believes that they are in this situation, that they are the enlightened ones living with an unconscious, nonspiritual person, although it is actually the other way round. For instance, a person who is brainwashed by the christian church or conspiracy theories is absolutely convinced that they are the conscious ones living with an unconscious person. But, in fact, their partner is more awake than themselves, as they are not truely spiritual, just fallen under the spell of some brainwashing system.
consciousness is tricky: it's in-the-way-that-you-use-it....it comes-and-it-goes~
Now I see why Eckhart has been criticised and as much as I love Tolle, I think he should have made certain parts stronger eg zero tolerance for certain unconscious behaviours
Please subtitles in Spanish🙏🏼 Thank you
Surely you can deeply love a person and have a compassionate understanding heart, but not love or like their behaviour.
It’s hard but it is possible? I believe love makes all things possible?
My husband is so seemingly depressed these last few years, absorbing the world’s issues that negatively impact him as well as the drudgery of parenting. I really wish he would be receptive to Eckhart’s teachings but his attitude about any spiritual related matters is far too negative, even when he’s seen my transformation. He has a strong ego, very strong. We have become very different people. I care deeply for him but I don’t have interest in an intimate relationship. I do however want to provide him with a good life and hopefully help him through his depressed state.
Your intension are very loving and comes from your good heart. But why is it that you feel that your life purpose should be to provide someone with a good life, someone that is draining you, dragging you down, steels your energy and by his choise of lifestyle take away everything that you can be and all your potential. In the end it is going to be a depressing life for the both of you. You are both capable to choose your way of thinking, behaving and lifestyle. Blessings, love, strenght and light to you!!!❤🕯🙏
@@lovis3368 relationships are funny - very grey. It’s not a cut and dry matter and something keeps telling me to stay. I do love him even when he’s going through his current challenges. He used to be my ‘other half’ so perhaps I’m waiting for that to return. Only time will tell how this unfolds. I just follow my instincts as much as possible and swim upstream. 🙂
Accept for the insightful reading Why an audience tape ( laughing) in the background, i think it's not necessary to add that?
10:01. Am in Arizona .
What if it s the abusive individual who is the conscious party? Due to dvelopmental childhood trauma with severe stress, disease, re-traumatisations,longterm mistreatment, isolation, and generational inherited trauma/patterns?
Wonderful Video. 🙂💞💨❣
FOR ME A NON SPIRITUAL PARTNER NERVER WORKED BUT THE SPIRITUAL PARTNER IS THE SAME LIKE ME THE LOVE IS MUTUAL AND EVERYTHING ELSE IS PERFECT WHAT THE DEVINE GIVES YOU AS A GIFT IS BEST FOR YOU NOT PERFECT BUT RIGHT
Your hello arrived to IRAQ😂💙love you eckhart
🙏thank you so much! 🌬💛🧡❤💜💙🦋
Amen
Oh, master, is this not going to get a number of loving beings (who have indeed been suffering in one of the worst ways but still unable to stop loving) in fact waiting for and subconsciously wooing that fatality that would wake their counterparts?