how I feel about men - podcast
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 มี.ค. 2023
- this ones a bit rogue, I talk about feminism and my experience with how it empowered me to heal from a multitude of ailments, many of which were nothing to do with men. next week ill talk about how I repeat the same mistakes constantly so actually this entire video is void (joking kinda) I hope I made some sense!!! first person to comment that I hate men is a rotten chicken
love you x
"Being a woman is my favorite thing about me even though i have no idea what is about me that makes me a woman" period, i would definily tatto that.
I feel the same exact way
BESTIE SAMEEE
Two X chromosomes AHHAH
imagine your gender being your favorite thing about you lmao. That's sad
@prehistoriccreature1800 why sad? I mean, its a part of you at the end of the day, is because you accept yourself, regardless or your sex or gender.
“The energy in the room when it’s just women is divine” - truly! There is something so so soooo special about the interactions I have with other girlies. In the bathroom, at the airport, at the gym, in a book shop. Everywhere. There’s a beautiful and sacred familiarity, even when you don’t know one another. A feeling of safety and support.
thise are friends that had nothing to do with being a women
This girl talking about men sound like a nazi talking about jews is insane how misandry is normal in a woman life
and how a male life is far more difficult.
That's how I feel for in rare cases Men, it's there but other men it's not like that, and I can understand why this happens, I think so anyways because some men can annoy me as much as women.
I'm a man, and I tend to gravitate more towards women mostly, I'm masculine but not the masculine most may know of or assume, it has doses of feminine that comes out in other ways. If there was one thing I missed was girl friend circles, and my guy friend circles they both were balanced, no toxicity really, but life is life and things change and paths go to other areas of life.
It was balanced, but with the girl circles the standards were very high I felt it clouded things, like I was always held accountable to the core is how I felt, but that's people in general but I'll never forget the 1 night a problem happened, and I felt harshly judged that they saw it skewed and never took accountability for their own choices and accountability is a big thing for me but it doesn't mean I'm always serious, but I accepted it anyways because well if they can't handle it, at least I can until I find it starts being very unreasonable.
I actually never saw room in general t speak about these, it ended up blaming, and blaming creates more problems.
I've experienced the most extreme side of life to the best of life (I know what unsafe feels like, but I can also feel safe in those environments but myself only), most of them never knew this side of me, they probably assumed I respected women and men, just because of whatever it was in their mind and I related for some magical reason of DNA lottery, but I don't think life works all to that chance. They also probably assumed I'm very secure and confident, but it's a balancing act, a fine art. Like a human standing one feet can be very artistic and a reflection of what they are then and there.
That feeling of safety and support is probably what people gravitate towards me, actually I know why but I play dumb because it gives me room to not be bound by making people happy (people don't like truth too much or being told direct that gives them a sense of responsibility), it takes breaking limits to understand people and self. I can make myself happy and safe, and it's something that bugs when place this high value and expectation on to other people who vibrate safety and support. We all have needs, and it's a reality people need to see both ways in order to understand something.
I grew up with sisters who treated me because of how men treated women, like I was to blame, and its how I should feel, I never was a victim, that's the difference between someone getting up after being assaulted by violence or sexual, or staying down and crawling all their life. But to this day they don't know the full story and I think in time they realized some things, because well they speak to me now, and life shows things when one chooses to accept things individually. I still love them, but the energy they pushed on to me was unreasonable, and well at times I prided myself on this, because it's not the definition of man that makes man, or woman but spirit and their own spiritual choices.
The one thing I love about one of my sisters kids, is her daughter, she saw through all the shit, and somehow still understands something at a young age, that even though we're far apart, she still finds the security in herself to reach out to me and speak freely, and that means more then I'll ever let on to people. She supports, and still see's and understands what it means to grow as a man, and I think she observed more then judging, because she learns and doesn't berate her brothers, but attempts to support and tells me rather then hides it. Which means she learned things.
Hence this reply, because I understand the sacred sides to both sides, I grew up with it all, I embraced it all, but I like meeting new people also, yet I still solo life because that's where it's at the moment. My overall humor is based off all my happening in life but it's obscured by people not accepting something and taking it all personally or just laughing out of being very uncomfortable or just because it makes them happy too.
Why am I here? For the same reason this and you and every other person watch these videos, it's a choice and personal interest and it's a good dose of reality checks here and there.
Same with men, with nerds, with goths, with vets. That’s the basis of the “hierarchy of needs” but being comfortable around men for men gets old and eventually they’ll want to meet people with higher reflexivity, or people who share their interests at the individual and personal level. The challenge is not looking for what’s comfortable and finding people in general that are eye level with you as an individual.
The sexes have always been quite segregated (e.g., look at all the secret societies or labour segregation). But they were increasingly pushed together in the 20th century against their wishes (e.g., being constantly exposed to each other at work, having mixed hierarchies). In reality, we don't really want to be around each other, except perhaps as couples.
i can’t seem to define the feeling of womanhood or being a girl beyond attachment to trauma that comes with being a woman? like the whole experience of my gender is defined by the struggle that comes with it and the feeling of overcoming that struggle
100%
yes i agree which is why i think biology comes into play massively
true but also the caring for each other
@@fennew yeah ur right, but i also think a large majority, but not all, of the caring for each other involves soothing the wounds and traumas caused by being a woman and knowing that when you are with another women you’re safe
Also the constant danger your in due to cough cough the other gender
The quote “we were girls together" honestly makes me want to scream every time I read it. I love being a woman and loving the way women do.
is that a book ? ❤
@@paulina4414 idk it’s just a quote that I’ve heard on tiktok recently :’))))
What does this mean?
What do you think about “masculinity controls society, but femininity controls life
Maybe cause we’re not women
to hear you describe your childhood as this blissful and positive experience is something so pure and refreshing to me
Yay, regular uploads again? As someone who doesn't use TikTok that's highly appreciated :)
i’ve watched the one 3 times already. i could listen to this woman talk forever, especially hearing her talk about things i relate to is so refreshing and comforting. these podcasts inspire me to pay more attention to myself and my well being, i will forever be thankful for this amazing girlie she has my heart fr
started to cry 20 mins into the video because this video came to me at the perfect time. i feel so seen and so heard and understood, and whenever i feel lonely about being a woman and facing the struggles that we face, i remember that i’ll never be alone and that we all truly are in this together, no matter how frustrating. thank you for this
"there wasn't a man in my house but there's a man in my head" what a banger of a line!
Stfu she doesnt5even know what a women is even though she is one how she know what a man is
@@lesleyolemgbe please explain what makes you so sure of your gender
@@constipatedfrog5578I’ll answer for them. I was born with a penis. That’s how I know I’m physically a man and my gender is male. However, emotionally, spiritually, logically, etc. i have tendencies and beliefs that society would consider “masculine” and others that would be considered “feminine”. I think I have more “feminine” traits than most men. That’s just me. But society labels certain ways of being as “masculine” or “feminine” because certain tendencies are more common in men, and others are more common in women. For example in general women are more emotional and men are more action oriented. Those aren’t stereotypes, they’re empirically proven truths that stem from human evolution. Make sense?
It makes me wonder why gender transformations are necessary. Not hating, genuinely curious. Why not just be yourself without feeling the need to alter your physical body? I obviously don’t understand it. Happy to hear anyone else’s POV
I’ll also ask, how are you sure you’re a human? How do you know you’re alive? How do you know you’re on planet earth?
Love your name btw
@@spanklestorm8717well that’s the issue, is that I don’t think your reproductive organs determine your gender. That would be a bit confusing for intersex people, especially if you think gender is binary as well.
And I don’t know how much you can relate to this but I’m wasian, and it was kinda shocking when I fully realized I was a whole 50% white. I have just always connected with my Asian side so much more, and if
I had to pick my ethnicity on a questionnaire, I’d undoubtedly pick Asian.
Anyways that was just to say that I am as much white as I am Asian, and yet that’s not how I would describe myself.
I know that barely answered any of your questions (if any at all actually) but I hope you see what I was trying to say.
I never understand why men get so defensive over women being out spoken about how men have treated them honestly I get so in my head about it like maybe it shows they are somewhat guilty or maybe they aren’t used to women being outspoken but honestly insane to me. I had a couple of guy friends in school but ever since I left school and I left that environment that pressured me in certain directions, I’ve had mostly friends who are women and it’s made me who I am today and taught me that I can be sensitive and I can be who I am at my very core. I do struggle with gender maybe I’m non binary I’m not really sure but I guess as a man I hope women know that there are some men out there that deeply cherish their existence and understand there struggles and actively work to diminish the effects of misogyny. excited for the next upload:)
@@UnruleLeeGaming ridiculous thing to say to call all women victims
@UnruleLee Gaming I'm kinda confused, why is it bad to complain about the fact that abuse is so common? How does that often mean you must be an abuser if you talk badly about abusers??
Personally I guess it's kinda like us constantly being told we're the bad guys, the misogynists, the discriminators, before we can even figure out what we are. I don't believe men get defensive about women being outspoken because it poses a threat to them, moreso it villainizes us a lot. Even though we don't have any milicious intent. Sometimes I would say it almost deprives us of the right to be outspoken about certain topics, because we are generally seen as the perpetrators of certain actions. Idk if this makes sense tho
@@kaigeselle9755 I know ur not replying to my comment but I read this and honestly I understand where ur coming from, but I think guys dont understand if a woman is expressing her frustrations with men, and she sounds frustrated, shes not frustrated necessarily with that man, but the fact that woman experience stuff so commonly and constantly. men just dont understand that yes while they may be a great guy, never hurt a woman or said anything offensive, they're still a cause of fear on the street while they're walking alone and there's a woman near. they still cause discomfort when they're staring at a gym, even if theyre only looking to applaud the strength of a girl and not to approach or cause her discomfort. this isn't because all men are bad, its because almost all woman have been given a reason to believe so many men are out to get her based on real life past experiences. woman aren't attacking individuals when explaining experiences or expressing emotions. just dont take it personally, and listen to woman and ask what would make a girl feel safe or what the right thing to do may be in a situation.
@@sarahhdaniellle that's a good point you're making. I would say a lot of men are aware of this to some degree. Idk it just kind of sucks that it almost feels like men vs women or women vs men. I guess both parties victimize themselves and villainize each other to a certain degree. This stuff kinda makes open dialogue a hard thing to accomplish.
Thanks for the comment by the way. I can totally see how I came across just now.
i ADORED this one. i resonated so much with it. ily
As a man who grew up the youngest in a house of women and girls to now, as an adult, living in a house with all women, this was a real thinker. I feel intrinsically aware of all the shit things men around me do, because I see it through the lens of female eyes. And yet, I feel like I am part of the problem trying to stop it from happening.
how would you be part of the problem if you're trying to stop it from happening? or do you mean you stop yourself from acting shitty towards women?
As a dude that went through a similar situation too, it's not your fault and you not a part of the problem but rather is that some men never experience the same things that i and you did where we understand the women's perspectives because we saw those experience through our families and friends. They didn't and if they did then they would understand what was wrong with their behaviour when they were acting around their female friends and families.
Are you gay
You have been brainwashed by the feminist ideology. You need to deprogram yourself asap.
Seems like Living with only women mad you one you soyboy
I usually speed up podcasts to try and finish them faster but Madeline already speaks in 2x and she WILL get her watch hours
As a guy, when she explained that she was only in that friend group because she was pretty, I predicted her words before hand. Im sorry. Pretty Women find it so hard for men to just be their friends.
My advice: If they can’t have the conversations with you that you have with yourself then its not worth it.
Great advice!
"you should be so confident in the fact it doesn't apply to you." YES!!!
Even just the way on a bus we always opt to sit next to other women. Just little things like that show the mutual understanding and safe space we feel with each other
You cant even define what a real women is stop the cap
god the way she says "podcast"😫😫
or anything else for that matter, the level of eloquence is remarkable, this is such a feel good podcast
YESSSSS I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST ME. I LOVE WHEN SHE SAYS PODCAST
love u, thank u for being a comfort space
«I dident grow up with a man in my house, but there is somehow a man in my head»
‼️‼️‼️‼️so poetic and so powerful
I literally love you for every word you just said. You have such a talent for putting thoughts into beautifully smart sentences!!
The part about a man's voice in your head despite the way you were raised really hit home for me. My sister and I were practically raised by a single dad but oddly had a similar experience to you. He is the most loving, caring, non-toxic man there is. I have no idea where the male voice/gaze in my head comes from, but it is so present. Thank you for labelling that so perfectly. I'm sure a lot of women here can relate to that. It makes me feel a lot better (yet also saddens me) to know that feeling is somewhat universal.
i think it might be the accumulation of comments and concepts, perceptions, etc. that society (and media and all of that) has said and we have collected over time since we were kids
Madeline this is the most relatable thing I’ve ever watched and thank YOU for telling me everything I need to hear
i absolutely love everything you talk about. your mind is genuinely so beautiful and i completely relate to all that you say. thank you so much for each and every video
Absolutely loved this episode. Your podcast is such a good escape and you just give off the most amazing energy. Please do another one like this xx
I love your videos so much! They comfort me in every way, please don’t stop posting.
i love u sosososo much. u always put my thoughts and feelings into words somehow perfectly in your own way i love the way you speak your mind yet youre so respectful about it always. in my eyes you could never do anything wrong. keep being u mwah lots and lots of genuine love for you.
Being with other women, building each other up and helping each other chase our dreams is sisterhood. Women are so strong and when we act in unity our strength is unbeatable. That’s why men constantly try to divide us. Never let men make you compete with other women, make you choose between your girls or him, make you believe you aren’t a “real” or high value woman because you don’t subscribe to stupid social norms or standards. If you were born knowing you are a female then you are one. Being a woman is not defined by certain behaviors or “femininity”.
Woman need to support each other and stop competing and tearing each other down.
This idea is devisiveness dressed up as unity. Us against them. You have a victim identity.
My exact mindset, yes, totally agree
It isn't hard to divide you. You guys do it on your own.
@@user-qy6tu9ip9v lmao sure. Whatever makes you sleep at night buddy
@@chameleon28 I'm sleeping well.
Thank you for making these videos, because of you I don’t feel alone in my life experience and just in general feel safer and more secure knowing that Im not the only person who has experienced these things
some parts of this was so hard to watch and did actually bring me to tears. I was skeptical about you at first, but you changed my mind as I kept watching. It's so important to me that more women acknowledge the reality we're living in. it's not gonna go away by pretending it doesn't exist/isn't happening. hope you have a nice day
I enjoyed your video a lot! You shared so much. You're at the point in your life where you do need to build on yourself. Your foundation is on nature, empathy, and what it means to be human. This change is making you really grasp how much you can do. What can you do for your family and friends. I hope your channel continues to grow and creates a stronger bond between you, younger, and higher self.
i love watching/listening to these videos when i cant sleep fr
This podcast was eye opening to me and I really appreciate the energy and honesty of the material talked about. Thank you!
you articulate yourself so well i never realised i had all these thoughts in my head until you verbalised them
Omgeeee thank you so much for this!! I just started a podcast myself and this is what I needed to water my flowers of motivation and encouragement for my own pod! Thank you so much!!
madeline this is the first episode ive watched of u and i feel this crazy connection to you and everything youre saying. i genuinely felt like i was on the verge of tears the whole video. it feels so lovely to feel connected to another woman and talk about our shared experiences together
I just came across your channel recently and I really love your podcast episodes. Thank you for this and keep it up :)
It's interesting what you said about the energy in a room full of just women. Growing up one of my best friends was a girl and as children it made zero difference.
I remember then one day, I was about eleven I think, I was at her house for a sleepover (these weren't 'girly' sleepovers, we were into dinosaurs, sports, action films and books), and for the first time her mother put me on my own in a separate room to the girls. I hadn't entered puberty yet, but from that day on things were a bit different (though we are still great friends today).
I came to understand that to be a man, even at such a young age, means to be viewed as a potential threat. And while this saddens me, and while I know from my work as a community social worker that this can make life very isolating for many older men who have no partners and who have drifted from regular contact with friends, I also understand that due to the nature of a significant minority of men that this caution around strange/unknown men is warranted, necessary even.
I have been the victim of muggings, beatings/assaults, I have seen other men assaulted or ko'd without any provocation outside nightclubs by guys out wanting to look tough in front of their friends.
It is men who are making it dangerous for men and women (for different reasons, the motivation for attacks on women tend to be sexual in nature, whereas for attacks on men the motivations are robberies and status - among some toxic peer groups a man gains in status by beating another man physically). It is men who are perpetrating these crimes for the most part and making the cities less safe for all of us.
So, yeah, to link all that back to what you said about the room of just women, for all the great qualities men possess, I often wonder, would the world be better if it was just women?
Look at our closest relatives, the Bonobos and the Chimpanzees. The Bonobos have a matriarchal social organisation where the females call the shots and have developed a system which seems to placate the violent tendencies of the male Bonobos when they are 'in heat'.
Compare this to the patriarchally organised Chimpanzee societies, which are brutally violent and competitive with males competing with each for females, wars over territory, roaming gangs of violent young chimps looking to secure their future...
I'm lucky to have had great women around me growing up, mother, grandmother, aunts, friends and I think that it's important to have that.
There is a lot of misunderstanding between men and women, and this understanding isn't helped by the common belief today that the only differences between men and women are how they are raised. We are all human beings, but if you believe that men and women are the exact same in how they think, feel and experience life from the inside then you will never really understand the opposite sex. The differences may not be massive, but we are not unique among mammals, men and women are 'built different' and societies should seek to be aware of this in order to find better ways of managing the social problems caused mostly by disaffected, damaged men.
I was thinking the same and there's always one scene comes to mind, scene from the beginning of the Wonder Woman when they all were living in the island which no man could find. Seems like a very peaceful and joyful life.
@@ana-nimsounds terrible. Also men and women need each other to keep the species alive so your misandrist immature fantasies are childish. Constantly belittling men is childish. Grow up. You are just as toxic as any bad man
I love hearing about your experiences and seeing the differences and similarities compared to my life. And I totally got the billionaire question wrong and was like "Of course, I would want to be a woman billionaire, why would I want to be a man billionaire" :D thank you
What was the book you read? Also it’s insane I literally just had an almost identical conversation with my best friend about these topics last week. I really relate to kind of “awakening” to the reality of how women are viewed and then becoming angry with all men in my life
That’s really toxic
@@georgedanielsbiz pay attention to the toxic behavior of your peers and keep clean your side of the street thank you bye
Girl, this video was a journey 😅😅 you touched on so many topics. But I really appreciate most of what you said, thank you ❤
I love women and everything about them so much i’m technically attracted to men but I just know i am meant to spend my life with a woman that just sounds like bliss … also I just think sapphic love is on a whole other level than any other type of love I feel like it’s so much deeper and meaningful
This like I call myself a lesbian bc I could never choose a man over sapphic love. Women are just elite
@@serenacappello8806 Recognise this is just my opinion but this seems quite a gendered 1 dimensional view of the world. There's 7 billion individuals in the world.
Maybe you're bi-romantic
Does the whole another level include the highest domestic abuse rates lmao
@@serenacappello8806 who built the world?
We hope you're doing well. Bless you.
I honestly love your take on this. From a personal standpoint I’m a woman who partakes professionally in action sports, and the male gaze is something I have had to come to terms with over the years. Not all the time, but often I am looked down on or belittled due to my gender. I don’t often speak out due to the fear that I might be seen as hostile, however it is nice to know that I am not the only one who feels this way.
This podcast episode really spoke to me as a women their has been so much BLESSINGS of love from women I would never change but such horrors with men… and everything you said in that video I can feel like I relate on I do miss how much of a community feel women had back in the past where femininity was SACRED! We were the advisors, healers the wise the empresses! I loved this episode the most it gave me such a healing vibe but it does upset me how male dominated our society is to the people in power to how our moral values are now…there’s so much thoughts I have about it but ily thank you for an amazing podcast ur the best
I think about a lot of these things when women in my life act certain ways. Be it family, friends, or strangers I have short interactions with, the life experience of a woman is something that I'll never truly be able to grasp. I always say I'm grateful to have been born a man simply for safety, how society treats you, and periods (lol), and as much as I still stand by this there does seem to be some unique beauty in not only femininity, but being a woman, that I will just never understand. I hope that men and women can come together to see each other's differences, understand each other's problems, and work towards accommodating a better world for each other, because we do have very stark differences. That's the point of feminism, to highlight the unique struggles that women face in the world that are impossible for men to understand without having to be explicitly told. I have my problems as a man: being expected to remain composed through the most tragic of situations and not show emotion, having to fit the mold of the ""masculine man". I have the problem of not being able to find a relationship or a partner, and as resentful as I want to be of women for how easy their entrance is into the sexual marketplace, that also comes with the consequence of being viewed by all men as a sexual object. With these as the two options, again, I think I would choose the man's problem, as I could not imagine how I would have to act in day to day life being looked at as such by men.
Long schizo rant, I hope if anybody read this it made sense, man or woman. I really enjoy watching these videos, although I have the slight feeling of being somewhere where I'm not supposed to be lol. Having an insight into the female perspective from my male life is interesting. I try to be careful in what I take away from these videos, as I've been on the internet long enough to know how easy it is to flip worldviews after a few videos if you don't keep thinking for yourself. I don't know. Hope everyone reading this has a good day
That may have been the point of Feminism, at some point. Albeit in a different time. For the most part it certainly isn't at least in today's world. With due respect, it's turned into a shell of its former self. IE, flipping the dynamic completely and being overall rather.... bitter towards men. Simply out of spite and because now, such behaviour is seen as "fighting the patriarchy", or "girl bossing". Rather than being a movement/ force to work towards a genuine co existence of men and women. I'm sure someone will refer to me as a bigot or and that I locked away in a mental asylum.
This was really upsetting and heartbreaking to watch. Very brave of you to share this ❤
I find this very interesting. It’s nice learning a new perspective from another women. From a personal standpoint I feel uncomfortable around women and I don’t particularly know why. I’ve always felt more comfortable around men as a women but that is an inspiring perspective to see.
I was the same way until i unpacked a lot of my internalized misogyny and that made up for 80% of it. the rest of it is because i think men are often more relaxed/laid back in general because women are brought up to have a perfect outward imagine, always be kind and not a burden and i feel that can make up for a lot of "fakeness" among women. we dont expect men to be overly kind so we accept them being more honest with us but we expect women to be perfectly kind. it doesnt always have to be that way, some women are not people pleasers but this dynamic is what makes up most of it for me
I partly agree but personally I think the difference is that I feel unsafe around men but uncomfortable around women.
Though I think that the problem I have with women is rather that I can’t fully identify with them. (I’m non-binary and even though I don’t identify with womanhood, I do somewhat identify with being feminine.) Since I’m still in school, this problem probably also stems from the fact that, apart from my friends, I can’t really choose the women I surround myself with. I just don’t really like the girls that go to my school. They’re all cishet and there’s just something so “girly” about them. It’s not the way they do or don’t come across as feminine but rather how they are so hyper if you know what I mean. Because being a group of women is so powerful, they feel this huge confident boost when it is just them in a room, which I think is also what Madeline meant. The problem is that I don’t really fit in. I do think that they’d “accept” me into their group but in order to do so, I would have to change in ways that I would never want to.
This is just so different to being around men. Personally I would say that I’m scared of them (for obvious reasons) but even if I was around those who I genuinely trust I would still not feel as comfortable. Probably because I always sense this type of distance between us. Like there is just no way we could ever fully understand each other. What I love about being around men though, is that they always have this strange confidence about them. They don’t even have to be inherently confident people, they are just confident about their being. They don’t question it because being a man is not one of the first attributes that comes to mind when describing them since being a guy is just sort of seen as the norm.
Thirdly I think that being around “feminine” people is the best. By feminine people I mean people with feminine energy. Those could be non-binary people with feminine energy but sometimes also women or even men. I don’t know what it is about these people, but they just don’t care about their gender or sex. There is no toxic masculinity or femininity involved, just pure human essence. I’m not sure if this is just me being biased af or not but I feel like because their energy is the purest, you can form the deepest connections with them.
Anyways, idk if that made any sense
I felt the same way in my university years but then I realized two things:
1. I was a pick me and i was addicted to the validation which women couldn't give me so I felt bored hanging out with them
2. Males were behaving nicer with me than women because males always wanted to get something from me when for women there's no point to be "fake nice". I realized that when I looked how those exact males treated other girls who were overweight or already taken, it was so different from the way the treated me. Then my priorities changed, I lost interest in validation and started to seek out safety and authencity and this is when I completely stopped hanging out with males and built "women only" community around me. It improved my mental health sooo much!
You probably feel more uncomfortable around women because women don't pretend, at least it was the case for me.
@@ana-nim I can actually understand what you’re saying. That does make sense. It’s good to get different perspectives from other people. I personally don’t feel comfortable around women because for me personally they seem to be more manipulative. They tend to be more rude repetitively than the men I hang out with do. Like there’s manipulation for your own benefit and then the other for the benefit off others. I’ve had women say “Just tell her to do this she usually just does it” kinda thing. They take kindness for stupidity and I’ve only started noticing it as I’ve gotten older. Ive never had a man that’s been that manipulative and controlling in my whole life. I’m a woman and I’ve never manipulated anyone or even thought off it because it’s a very selfish and disgusting thing to do. I really don’t understand why people do it. So that’s personally why I don’t like hanging around woman. 🕺
@@royalfantasy9090 i perfectly understand your point of view, the thing i dont get tho is - if these are the women you know, why do you say ALL women are like that? if you even say you yourself aren't like that
I always watch your podcasts while I’m at the gym. The only podcast I’ll listen to on TH-cam
you’re actually my fav person omg
That type of content is usually not my cup of tea, but I watched this entirely while running and something inside of me started to heal as you brought out stuffs inside me I didn’t even know were there and were hurting
Thanks for putting out there what feels like are my own thoughts ❤️
madz new podcast consistency >>
What’s the name of the book you read please? Awesome podcast btw !
The amount of truth bombs you dropped in this one is actually ridiculous. You’re such a joy to listen to!
A guy friend asked me some moons ago what it was that i meant when I said I identify as a girl/woman. I could never explain it to him. I’ll be sending him a link to this video now. So thank you for that, kind friend. I also discovered your content like a week ago and I’m already obsessed. Sending you so much love 🫶🏼
This was so relatable, I hope things get better for you pretty girl
please never stop these
well, the title has already drawn me in
I watched this randomely as I know of you from Central Cee. I was curious what you were like. And wow I loved listening to this podcast this morning. I respect the journey you took/are taking to find yourself. Keep it up. Maybe also slow down a little, just a little bit but yeah I was very interested to listen to your point of view Xx!
i grew up with two mums and a sister and was overall around a lot of women so i resonated with you. when you were talking about being a poor women not a rich man i just sat and shed a lil tear it was beautiful, i
What you said about not growing up with a man in the house yet still having a man living in your head resonates with me sooo much. I grew up in a female household as well (to the point where even both our cats are female lol). & even then, looking back on it now, I realize I've have a male-view of myself since I was a teenager without even knowing. From the way I dress, to how I behave in public, it was always for the male gaze. Idk what kinda mental fuckery happens during childhood or what kind of internalized thoughts/feelings that create this mindset in us. I'm on the journey of transforming that in me & seeing myself as the divine woman that I am. The man in my head sometimes makes me feel guilty for it, it is still a process, but I'm happy I'm not the only one feeling this way & working through it🤎
I really loved this one, it made me also reflect on how I never really think of my identity as a woman because it has always been presented as something rather negative to me. I also loved the way she put it that even though she grew up surrounded by only women, there is still a man in her head.
what was the book you read about feminism ?
9:55 it’s crazy how women always have to say this disclaimer before talking about their own experiences with men
Yet you call us misogynists and incels all the damn time for the dumbest of things like idk, disagreeing with a woman.
@Allah_Loves_Forgives_and_Saves you’re in the phase she described at the beginning of the vid 💕 you really should try to watch the things you say because they do affect others in real ways
Is it? When you all take those experiences and then quite literally, repeatedly say you’re afraid of men and hate them?
so much to say but i’ll just leave it at ily madeline you’re amazing
thank you for this video, i hope you continue with these podcasts
I adored every minute of this omg. ❤️❤️❤️
Madeline, thank you so much for sharing this with the world. It was very genuine and insightful and I think your experience would make us men become better human beings. So thank you for that.
I’m not gonna lie, I got VERY triggered at first. At the title, at your remarks about men (well the men in your life anyway) and how unexpected these things were coming out of a conventionally feminine looking girl such as yourself. But then I listened, and listened. And what you said really does sound genuine, and that these experiences are REAL… I can understand now (somewhat) how someone in your position, with said life experiences would feel about men.
Of course I can never understand you fully. I barely know you. I haven’t finished your video yet, but I will. I’m so sorry, on behalf of men that a lot of you girls are afraid or don’t trust men because of your past negative experiences with men. I just want to let you (and others who are reading this) know that many of us also feel the same way. What we need, as a society, is for men and women to be able to work together. That’s how we keep society going. A strong family unit. Strong nuclear families = maybe a strong society. We need each others. Men need women. And women need men.
PS: You don’t have to reply to this Madeline, and so do other girls on here. But know that WE do watch these videos, and we do take notice. And once again, I’m so sorry. Godbless ❤
I agree although want and need are two completely different things! There are people who want men and people who need them.
i really like your podcast. I would also love to be able to listen to it on Apple podcasts. is that something you thought of doing? 💖
this is exactly how ive been feeling this days, especially as im in uni rn doing a male dominated course. ty for posting, makes me feel like im not going insane lol
I guess we are subconsciously conditioned to appease the male gaze because these belief systems that deem women subordinate to men persist today. But I love your point about being raised by a single mum who stayed single and feeling like no man could ever tell us anything. That was such a core memory for me too so dating has been a bit of a minefield. Also relate to being radicalised in 2nd year uni 😂 Oh I love your podcasts. Don’t ever stop talking. Xx
This has just given me such food for thought! It wasn’t until about 2018/2019 that I really began engaging in feminism and decolonisation. I would’ve been better of learning in my own space but instead I fought my mum about these things sadly. I also cut off family who were just straight up misogynists. Eventually I stopped trying to be a hero and explain myself and just kept company I knew understood and cared about these issues. But god it’s so hard to navigate!
Also put this on a t shirt: “every need I have is met by women”
@@melissamaykin6407 Every need is met by women? Roads (mostly) built by men. Most farmers are men. You would die without men.
You’d be mostly wither without the validation of the male gaze. First witness to the stand. Instagram.
Now I’m intrigued, what was the feminist book u read?
Editing out all the tangents Madeline goes on must be a full time job 😭
i love your accent so much (also i really love and like the way you talk about things)
i think a TH-cam series of you travelling and going on little adventures with pals would be cool. include a backflip please.
This talk is much deeper than I think even she knows
i love this sm, i love womanhood and i love being a woman
WHAT WAS THE BOOK
the end of this video made me tear up. thank you.
this video is just genuinely beautiful
I’m so going to share your page with my daughter. Great discussions
So she can end up in therapy like this lunatic ?
Seriously. Get a life.@@B..P..
@@MattNormanFilms I do have one....calling you weirdos out is part of it.
You do you friend. Some people find Madeline's discussions worthy of a listen. You obviously don't so maybe instead of throwing judgement you let other people enjoy her rantings and move your trolling somewhere else. Those that have opinions like yours usually have the same thing in common, jealousy of someone's success. It makes me laugh that you even give a shit. Is she hurting you? Is she hurting anyone else? Nope. SO move on and find peace elsewhere. @@B..P..
@@MattNormanFilms She has mental issues and she needs helps. She needs divine intervention.
ok but what book was it, i need to read it immediately
Your podcasts r my favourite things ever
this really is a philosophy podcast and I love it! according to your experience I’m in my insufferable era now? How exciting lol
Maybe sociology but most definitely not philosophy
i also grew up with only women around so when I entered high school with all these teenage boys I just didn't know how to deal with them bc normally I would be so sure of myself and so strong but I let all these boys just walk over me and I didn't really know how to say "no" or stand up for myself. it caused for so much things that I didn't want to happen to me and I really began to despise men.. maybe I still kinda do. buttt I really try to work on that and learn how to live along men since they're also a big part of society you know. but its hard...
what was the name of the book?
Lost all my friends going through a tough time, don’t blame them I was also hard to be around and we were kids, but got there in the end and I wish them all well
Love these chats ❤
Great video! There is something refreshing about having someone talk to the camera openly and genuinely.
Two comments, as a man, I really envisioned what it would be like to be a woman and feel safe in a room of all women. I wish I could experience that. Sounds like a lot less judgment and selfishness. A lot more space for love, listening, and expression. Pretty amazing. The closest thing I have experienced to that was summer camp when I was little. All expression was appreciated and encouraged. It didn't matter who you were and there was no coercion or selfish motives.
Secondly, Thank you for mentioning how you feel unsafe around men in general because of all of the ways you have been touched, pushed, and hurt. This is a real problem and men need to strive to be better. It can be difficult for some men though. Women are burdened to be the victims of the desires of Men. Men are burdened to have relentless sexual desire. I don't personally value sex. I value love, communication, connection, and truly seeing, hearing, and being with someone. Yet even still I often have intrusive sexual thoughts. Both for girls I know as well as for some random girl I see walking down the street. Fortunately, I meditate and have a healthy development, so I am able to act from my deeper values. Even still, sometimes it gets exhausting. Like I don't want to want to fuck this girl. I just want to be able to talk and make her life better in some way. These thoughts and desires can become unhealthy repressions and unhealthy expressions for men. And it can fuck up their and others' happiness and lives. Especially in a culture where everything is sexualized and sex is often shared as some ultimate accomplishment. People are suffering. To solve these issues, we have to empathize and address the suffering of everyone.
shutup
What’s the name of the book
are these ever gonna be on spotify 💔
The divine quote you said is so true. I think its the same for both genders. I am a man and when another man is in a room I feel that kind of energy. I think its a sense of understanding between two people of the same gender, the understanding that if you have each other then everything feels right.
What is the name of the book?
my favourite episode yet
What was the feminism book please?
pleaseeeeeeee can you release these as spotify podcasts i could listen t you for hours on end omg
watching this as a trans man has sort of made me think about how when i was younger it did always feel like i had some sort of connection to my girlhood but there was always a thought in the back of my head that i shouldnt be there like i was an imposter around women but why would i have that connection to them if im not one. maybe its just because i knew that i wouldnt be belittled or ridiculed just for being a women because for most of my childhood, most of my friends were boys so over the time i got used to the sort of comments like "a women did it better than you" and maybe the reason i felt safer around women was because they understand and most if not all of them had gone through the same and 10x worse.
As a person (male) who grew up mostly around women and have all sisters. In all ways I should be feminine, dress differently 😅 but that’s not it I embrace masculinity. I do have what some would call “feminine tendencies “ and also embrace that side of me, I’ve always felt safe around the women in my life. But also they have warned me about other women how they can be manipulative, dishonest, cruel, selfish creatures. the comfort most men and women enjoy today has been provided by millions of men who dies in wars and women who stepped up in many various roles/ ways.
Honestly I believe regardless of your gender identity, you're bound to feel safer and more surrounded by love around women or more feminine beings. I also think everyone has some of this feminine nature in them.
Does anyone know which books she’s mentioning, or something similar?
As a man I do understand what you mean about men. To the point where ill move myself out of any normal situation that might make a girl feel uncomfortable with me. Such as walking acrossing the street so they would'nt feel like Im following them. But I think deep down it does hurt me knowing that most girls think that way. By just being a male i can come across as a wierdo even tho im just minding my own business as any other human being. Keep up the videos there the most comforting videos ever.
i know she said "if i comment on this she will hate me and that it does have something to do with me personaly"... but im not here to hate or defend men....im not saying shes wrong by feeling the way she feels... it makes sense. Even as a man i can understand how someone walking behind you makes you uncomfortable. Because it even makes me feel uncomfortable.
Knowing that there's someone out there who isn't a woman but understands the quite deep and.. complicated? feeling that things like this bring us is really comforting to know :)
yeah its sad there's such an issue with men's behaviour towards women, to the point where women have to assume, rightfully, that any man they encounter could be dangerous, all in order to protect themselves. Like so many women have to live their lives taking into account of men in order to be safe, and it's sad that this issue is not taken seriously by the vast majority of men. I'm also a man but I do hope one day women can feel safe from men.
@@nojusdidziokas1591 Stop talking to girls! You’re a bad person
@@nojusdidziokas1591 Its crime stats
What is the feminist book that you were talking about because I want to read it !!
What was the name of the book on feminism?