sorry this one is shit back in England in 2 weeks bby, I can't wait to wear my scarf and post content that doesn't look like it was filmed on a flip phone love you
That part about being just sensitive kid and people not knowing how to take care of sensitive kid hit too close to home. Made me realise some things so thanks a lot
@@laurenbates3759 same!! whenever something was wrong/i was struggling as a kid they thought it's nothing and can't be that bad cuz being an adult is harder. but when you're a kid a lot of things seem bigger than they're are and parents should be compassionate and validate your feelings!! not ignore you and just say you're gonna be fine!
23:00 onwards spoke to me in my core. Not wanting to mother a young child, not sure if you’ll end up with man, feeling like you’re most fulfilled alone just with great friends, low maintenance friendships because you practically thrive in solitude 💭 I could resonate so much
“Most fulfilled alone with great friends” basically means she’s going to buy a dog and die alone. It amazes me that you don’t realize how horrible that actually sounds… it’s a recipe for depression, more trauma, and a lifetime full of regret once you get to a later age. Men and Women were put on this earth to pro create. That’s one of our biggest if not THE biggest purpose in our lifetime. Women aren’t going to be happy long term or fulfilled “being alone with great friends”. It’s been scientifically proven that most women derive happiness from having children and having a family. So unless shorty is just in a permanent hoe phase, or just hasn’t been able to lock down the right kind of man, she won’t be happy. She’s only happy for right now. And a lot of guys are going to be turned off by the fact that she’s content with just being lonely… “like ok this girl wants to be alone and is just content with having good friends, running up her body count, and not being in a committed relationship with a man long term? AND on top of that she doesn’t even want kids of her own? Red flag.” That’s exactly how guys think in their minds secretly. They just won’t ever tell you that to your face because they’re either a simp or they’re just trying to smash you and don’t want to fuck things up. I seriously hope shorty reevaluates her life decisions and which direction she wants to go in life. This sends a bad message to younger women.
@@OscarTheGrouch755 Who said she’d be alone she could live with her friends at a later age. I’ve never been in a relationship or with anyone for that matter and when I think of it romantic relationships don’t look very fulfilling. I’d probably end up creating a chosen family/poly PLP and raising kids with my friends if they want too. Not everyone gets fulfilled with romance and that’s fine.
@@theresa7062 true. We all have different choices. And no scientific thing could replace a human’s personal thoughts. Yes that misagony in our brain that we’re supposed to be with someone is still there. But it’s ur choice. Whatever you choose, I hope y’all are happy with it unconditionally. Either with children, with a loving partner or spending quality days with yourself ❤️. Periodt no more
Everything she is saying is totally cap. Women especially are programmed to want to reproduce. Wait until she hits 40 and then has a crisis because she struggles to find a man who wants to have a baby with her
@@OscarTheGrouch755I totally agree with you the fact that so many women think they will be happier without a husband and children genuinely scares me imo this generation is fucked
It’s good to keep in mind that you can also be traumatised by things that didn’t happen to you. Like not being given the basic things you needed to function as a child and grow. A safe consistent place to sleep, food, attention, family not supporting your accomplishments, not being listened to. You don’t have to be physically abused as a kid to be traumatised. This worsens as a child gets older when they realise people around them had those things growing up when they didn’t. Why does everyone else get that and they don’t? What’s wrong with them?
the trauma thing makes so much sense, although i have 2 main things that caused me trauma i always feel like there is more to it and things i dont know about that have caused me trauma but the little things we subliminully pick up on can definately affect us
I love how comforting these podcasts are, even though some of the stuff isn’t relevant to me at all I love listening. You really are a great talker, very suited to this solo podcast style. Keep them up and hope you’re good!
@@86aidan31 There was a kid at my school who used to eat the tiny stones off the playground and got everyone else doing it so eating stones had to be banned
Timestamps for my future self: 0:37 Sisterhood 1:30 school w sibling 3:17 - 3:50 knife story ‐---- 4:47 thoughts on getting a pet 5:32 previous pet ---- 6:20 experience being in New Zealand 7:02 new friendships/how friends can affect your behaviour --- 9:32 going to a garage as a woman 12:32 - 19:00 therapy/childhood 19:00 thoughts on healing from trauma/cutting people off 21:59 raising a child 24:33 friendships
my god??? the thing you said about accumulating small traumas due to sensitivity as a child just completely broke my brain. this is completely me!! thank you madeline!!
I just listened to this while making cinnamon rolls and had the best time ever I was so invested please never stop sharing every single thought that enters your brain with us
This was entertaining. This podcast definitely wasn’t shit, generally enjoyed it. The perceptive story is huge, that totally make sense. Our life experiences, are really based on how we perceive things
wow. your perspective on everything seems so grounded. I never want kids because I also worry about bringing them into chaos. But everything you said was agreeable and I enjoyed listening, thank you ❤️
i think some people can do healing in a community setting but you mentioned you’re more inclined to solitude, i’m like that and i think it’s a quality that i like about myself. however when i go through dark periods, the shadow side to that character trait does lead to pushing people away without even being consciously aware. there’s this tendency to complain about my isolation and feel lonely whilst also sabotaging my only chances of connecting with people, my chances of commune and letting others connect with whatever grief and heaviness i’m holding onto. cos the thing about healing with people is, you actually kinda have to be with people and like let them really see you unhinged and vulnerable, ugly and tainted with grief. most people will see perceive it anyway tbh but to make the active choice of handing someone that part of you to sit with and observe and lull into dormancy. that’s something i’m yet to have the balls to do i think. and its scary that idea of going through something horrible and feeling like the only one on the outside but there are people that will be present with what you have and i have to be realistic on where i sabotage myself in that and take the seemingly easy route of attempting to piece myself together again on my own
That trauma thing you mentioned just clicked with me. I was always told as a child that I was my mature for my age as I was able to perceive adult conversations so as a child i was aware of the disparities in my life.
ik this sounds so odd, but seeing her gives me hope of finding a good girl in the future. this girl is truly just different from anyone ive ever seen online or offline and thefact ppl like her exist warms my heart. she truly is peak human😭
@@user-np8yf8fj2w funny, smart, charismatic, entertaining, self made, very good at giving a point across, its not the things she dows, its how she does them lol, she seems peaceful af idk how to explain
Spring is a bit hit and miss in NZ, especially Auckland, we're a subtropical climate so it's very humid and can be very wet! January-March is very hot and we have a drought every summer
About the traumatic thing. My mum and dad were both depressed when I was born (ironic huh) and now that my mental health is showing a lot as a teenager, my therapist told me "So you feel the need to be good at everything or you'll let everyone down". And she told me how I'm probably depressed and so perceiving because I had to walk on eggshells around people and got better at noticing behavior at a young age and it weighed on me since I was 6 till now
I hear that they make sunscreen for your scalp now like in powder form. Maybe that could help with the scalp sunburn next time? Have a great rest of your trip!!
I love this message. I also have a few screws loose, socially. How is anyone supposed to fix a social problem in isolation? Of course this is a better way
I used to use a voice recorder to get all my thoughts out when I was your age, now they have youtube and the whole world can watch you work your thoughts out.
she articulates everything so well, she could say anything and i’d nod
Anything i doubt that lol
Shes like ben shapiro, rambles a lot but speaks nothing
She says a lot of words that mean absolutely nothing. The most basic self help middle class white girl
@@rexyz5875 spouts all this nonsense and basic self help shit like she isn’t dating central Cee. It’s not that deep
She waffles so much with the most basic middle class white girl self help tips
Imo she’s meant to be a communicator in life, as she’s very articulate, entertaining and motivated to speak. Love the bluntness and authenticity
articulate i doubt that lol
@@redouane2602 articulate = able to communicate coherently
There was nothing said here. lol
@@aduhmbased yeah maybe that’s true if you’re stupid
That part about being just sensitive kid and people not knowing how to take care of sensitive kid hit too close to home. Made me realise some things so thanks a lot
so true
Everyone that's going to be a good parent thinks they're going to be terrible parents. And the wing it brigade are the one that are bad parents
right, whenever i cried i was sent to my room and i feel like my parents should have maybe talked it out with me and let me express my feelings
@@laurenbates3759 same!! whenever something was wrong/i was struggling as a kid they thought it's nothing and can't be that bad cuz being an adult is harder. but when you're a kid a lot of things seem bigger than they're are and parents should be compassionate and validate your feelings!! not ignore you and just say you're gonna be fine!
@@laurenbates3759 fr
the amount of comfort i feel knowing that someone else has had the exact same emotions and thoughts as me is astonishing 😭
Same tbh
23:00 onwards spoke to me in my core. Not wanting to mother a young child, not sure if you’ll end up with man, feeling like you’re most fulfilled alone just with great friends, low maintenance friendships because you practically thrive in solitude 💭 I could resonate so much
“Most fulfilled alone with great friends” basically means she’s going to buy a dog and die alone. It amazes me that you don’t realize how horrible that actually sounds… it’s a recipe for depression, more trauma, and a lifetime full of regret once you get to a later age.
Men and Women were put on this earth to pro create. That’s one of our biggest if not THE biggest purpose in our lifetime. Women aren’t going to be happy long term or fulfilled “being alone with great friends”. It’s been scientifically proven that most women derive happiness from having children and having a family.
So unless shorty is just in a permanent hoe phase, or just hasn’t been able to lock down the right kind of man, she won’t be happy. She’s only happy for right now. And a lot of guys are going to be turned off by the fact that she’s content with just being lonely… “like ok this girl wants to be alone and is just content with having good friends, running up her body count, and not being in a committed relationship with a man long term? AND on top of that she doesn’t even want kids of her own? Red flag.”
That’s exactly how guys think in their minds secretly. They just won’t ever tell you that to your face because they’re either a simp or they’re just trying to smash you and don’t want to fuck things up.
I seriously hope shorty reevaluates her life decisions and which direction she wants to go in life. This sends a bad message to younger women.
@@OscarTheGrouch755 Who said she’d be alone she could live with her friends at a later age. I’ve never been in a relationship or with anyone for that matter and when I think of it romantic relationships don’t look very fulfilling. I’d probably end up creating a chosen family/poly PLP and raising kids with my friends if they want too. Not everyone gets fulfilled with romance and that’s fine.
@@theresa7062 true. We all have different choices. And no scientific thing could replace a human’s personal thoughts. Yes that misagony in our brain that we’re supposed to be with someone is still there. But it’s ur choice. Whatever you choose, I hope y’all are happy with it unconditionally. Either with children, with a loving partner or spending quality days with yourself ❤️. Periodt no more
Everything she is saying is totally cap. Women especially are programmed to want to reproduce. Wait until she hits 40 and then has a crisis because she struggles to find a man who wants to have a baby with her
@@OscarTheGrouch755I totally agree with you the fact that so many women think they will be happier without a husband and children genuinely scares me imo this generation is fucked
These podcast type videos calm me down so much more than the other fast talking shorts. Really enjoying these!
RIGHT i need recs
@@ishouldbedoingstuff2396 me too i need recs
i love you girl. you just make me feel so calm and that’s so special 🫶🏼
It’s good to keep in mind that you can also be traumatised by things that didn’t happen to you. Like not being given the basic things you needed to function as a child and grow. A safe consistent place to sleep, food, attention, family not supporting your accomplishments, not being listened to. You don’t have to be physically abused as a kid to be traumatised. This worsens as a child gets older when they realise people around them had those things growing up when they didn’t. Why does everyone else get that and they don’t? What’s wrong with them?
the trauma thing makes so much sense, although i have 2 main things that caused me trauma i always feel like there is more to it and things i dont know about that have caused me trauma but the little things we subliminully pick up on can definately affect us
I love how comforting these podcasts are, even though some of the stuff isn’t relevant to me at all I love listening. You really are a great talker, very suited to this solo podcast style. Keep them up and hope you’re good!
this might be my fav episode so far, a lot of it rlly resonated w me & I loved hearing ur perspective on healing etc!
I love how you're able to express everything on your mind, I could listen the whole day, pls keep making these 💕
Dear Sister where are you from?
this is like therapy for me honestly. i love u so much, never stop with these podcasts i beg
Girl you are my new favorite podcaster so easily!! You’re so amazing ❤
I’m always so happy when u post new videos 🤍 they always make my mood so much better 😭
I enjoy listening to you ramble, very calming
i live for these, i do. don’t you dare to ever stop posting.
Listening to this made for the best bus ride to college, your ramblings are so relatable and calming
My core memory of my playground is eating any plants I deemed edible. I ate everything. Blueberries, mint leaves, rosemary…I miss that.
I’d just eat leaves on the playground. Not mint or anything, just random leaves.
@@86aidan31 There was a kid at my school who used to eat the tiny stones off the playground and got everyone else doing it so eating stones had to be banned
I would literally pay money for her to be my older sister
Timestamps for my future self:
0:37 Sisterhood
1:30 school w sibling
3:17 - 3:50 knife story
‐----
4:47 thoughts on getting a pet
5:32 previous pet
----
6:20 experience being in New Zealand
7:02 new friendships/how friends can affect your behaviour
---
9:32 going to a garage as a woman
12:32 - 19:00 therapy/childhood
19:00 thoughts on healing from trauma/cutting people off
21:59 raising a child
24:33 friendships
thank youu
Bless you 🙌🏼
my god??? the thing you said about accumulating small traumas due to sensitivity as a child just completely broke my brain. this is completely me!! thank you madeline!!
I just listened to this while making cinnamon rolls and had the best time ever I was so invested please never stop sharing every single thought that enters your brain with us
‘You acted like a child who was responding to exactly what was in front of you’ that just healed my inner Child self
Madeline’s voice is like idk how to describe it but so Lovely In a comforting way
FYI, an indoor cat is totally fine, they're v happy if they have enough toys and a windowsill, or a friend. u should get one :)
Literally you said so much that helped lol I jotted down notes for therapy ❤ thank you for being vulnerable and honest
This was entertaining. This podcast definitely wasn’t shit, generally enjoyed it. The perceptive story is huge, that totally make sense. Our life experiences, are really based on how we perceive things
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH I COULD CRY AT THE INTENSITY OF IT! 😭💗.
new zealand is notorious for having 4 seasons in one day :)
The whole hidden trauma part was so interesting to think about! Listening to you speak is like having a conversation with myself, I LOVE IT
I love the way u talk about things and the way u tell stories and explain everything 🤍🤍
wow. your perspective on everything seems so grounded. I never want kids because I also worry about bringing them into chaos. But everything you said was agreeable and I enjoyed listening, thank you ❤️
This always feels like a facetime :) These are the best
this was more healing and more validating than any psychotherapist I’ve ever went to
i think some people can do healing in a community setting but you mentioned you’re more inclined to solitude, i’m like that and i think it’s a quality that i like about myself. however when i go through dark periods, the shadow side to that character trait does lead to pushing people away without even being consciously aware. there’s this tendency to complain about my isolation and feel lonely whilst also sabotaging my only chances of connecting with people, my chances of commune and letting others connect with whatever grief and heaviness i’m holding onto. cos the thing about healing with people is, you actually kinda have to be with people and like let them really see you unhinged and vulnerable, ugly and tainted with grief. most people will see perceive it anyway tbh but to make the active choice of handing someone that part of you to sit with and observe and lull into dormancy. that’s something i’m yet to have the balls to do i think. and its scary that idea of going through something horrible and feeling like the only one on the outside but there are people that will be present with what you have and i have to be realistic on where i sabotage myself in that and take the seemingly easy route of attempting to piece myself together again on my own
I can't even express how much I relate to this 😶🌫 good to know I'm not alone
I absolutely love this little podcast 😭
i love this woman with my whole heart
it’s crazy how i was having this realization again this past week and then you post a video about it
this is the first video i’ve ever watched from your channel and i’ve never felt more seen. i can relate with 100% of this video
I am in my car watching while I haven’t been home in over 12 hours.love this
the way how this just described my whole mental well-being and thought process. you read me without even knowing me, holy shit
Me staring at the person in the background 😂
Me to😂😂
Central Cee?
That trauma thing you mentioned just clicked with me. I was always told as a child that I was my mature for my age as I was able to perceive adult conversations so as a child i was aware of the disparities in my life.
you help me so much with my mental health i love u so much idk what id do w out your vids
I would listen to the unfocused camera podcast too! i love how honest you are it's the nicest thing to hear
the unconscious trauma point is so valuable. thank you for sharing this!
I love how her friends just chilling in the back of the car😂😂😂
i understand completely. postpartum depression was so difficult for me; i wouldn't wish it on anyone
No cause the whole therapist talk has made me have a self realisation lmao.
ik this sounds so odd, but seeing her gives me hope of finding a good girl in the future. this girl is truly just different from anyone ive ever seen online or offline and thefact ppl like her exist warms my heart. she truly is peak human😭
this is beautiful bro. love it when ppl give each other hope
A good girl? Wtf do you mean lol she’s just talking about very normal things
@@user-np8yf8fj2w funny, smart, charismatic, entertaining, self made, very good at giving a point across, its not the things she dows, its how she does them lol, she seems peaceful af idk how to explain
Don’t talk daft. She’s just an ordinary girl like everyone else
@@recall2880no she’s not, she’s special
Love how her friends just chilling in the back 😂
Spring is a bit hit and miss in NZ, especially Auckland, we're a subtropical climate so it's very humid and can be very wet! January-March is very hot and we have a drought every summer
Everytime I watch theese podcasts i learn smth new about myself
these videos are so comforting
Facts
these podcasts are my favourite things
The random NPC casually doing what they do in the backgrund
she just be speakig her mind, and I just be learning new things from her stories
Thank you for sharing all those very touching stories, and the warm goodbye was really really magic. Thank you ❤
About the traumatic thing. My mum and dad were both depressed when I was born (ironic huh) and now that my mental health is showing a lot as a teenager, my therapist told me "So you feel the need to be good at everything or you'll let everyone down". And she told me how I'm probably depressed and so perceiving because I had to walk on eggshells around people and got better at noticing behavior at a young age and it weighed on me since I was 6 till now
The trauma thing was soo relatable
SO much sense was spoken in this video. Thank you
Looking forward to seeing more content from you when you're back in England! Keep up the great work.
ur so real. it's so rare for me to see other women wanting to be alone
She really knows how to express herself and is so eloquent.
its crazy how similar people can be even when growing up thousands of miles apart. Also, four videos and a 100k+ subs, crazy; great job!
i fucking love this podcast please never stop
but pleasefor the love of god put it on spotify!!!!!!!!!
I need to find a better therapist. It's amazing how the right one can make such a difference.
Is that central cee in the back😭
lmaooo i felt that temporarily being a better version of yourself 🤣
This probably sounds literally so weird but I want to be your friend so bad I love watching these podcasts because they're so uniquely relatable
Seeing u happy has become my fav thing
this was healing
I love ur podcast smmmm
Why did you just made my whole life make sense
literally my fav person ever
You and kennedy walsh are my alpha sigma grind inspiration
I hear that they make sunscreen for your scalp now like in powder form. Maybe that could help with the scalp sunburn next time? Have a great rest of your trip!!
More podcasts please I am obsessed
Ugh I love you. Fr the only reason I come on TH-cam
she is my brain irl
nz weather isn’t normally this bad like last year november was so hot and sunny 😭
Yeah it’s all over the place aye
ur videos always make me feel comfort 😭
The needs of the day have been met, back to bed it is.
fair enough
That was the single most validating thing I heard in my entire life 😅
Shit that part about being a sensitive kid hit so hard, thank you
man, this was really helpful
Madeline you should look into free roaming a rabbit as a pet!!
the thing about "community healing" is so true
She’s really just thinking out loud when she speaks lol
I love this message. I also have a few screws loose, socially. How is anyone supposed to fix a social problem in isolation? Of course this is a better way
girl it's spring here it rains like every single day you should've come in summer when it's dry and hot af
oh my god I can listen to her for hours
Everything you say is either what my brain says or what my brain needed to hear
ooop who's in the back??? i love your podcast so much!!!!
I used to use a voice recorder to get all my thoughts out when I was your age, now they have youtube and the whole world can watch you work your thoughts out.
Yooo car pod is back let’s gooo
this is so off topic but you remind me of nancy wheeler/ natalia dyer. btw i love your podcast episodes so much
i’m begging for you to put this in spotify rn
I think you should watch some of Gabor mate’s interviews and lectures about childhood trauma/parenting !! love u🫶🏼