ignoring gut instincts and changing around people - podcast

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  • this week I talk about why I find it hard to keep to my own morals and viewpoints when im around other people, and some other nonsense
    thanks for being here and watching, I love you so much

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  • @aimeegoodship3266
    @aimeegoodship3266 ปีที่แล้ว +1626

    "I am emotionally intelligent as long as I'm alone"... I felt that in my SOUL

    • @cateaaia9004
      @cateaaia9004 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      men look for this I feel like ughh

    • @kamrankamran8863
      @kamrankamran8863 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am alone silent single life bachelor's 33years old? My education is graduation? My family is poor and refuge in a country? My life is found a girl enter my life and my life is save you country you house your home my life is save?

    • @peytongylordo2095
      @peytongylordo2095 ปีที่แล้ว

      SAME

    • @lapis722
      @lapis722 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kamrankamran8863 huh?

    • @alexc659
      @alexc659 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Man that was so real

  • @giannaajello4416
    @giannaajello4416 ปีที่แล้ว +617

    FELT when you said ur brain pauses around people. its actually crazy

    • @iloverae
      @iloverae ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Same! It’s the weirdest feeling once you’ve realised it

    • @lahiru1157
      @lahiru1157 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      im dating a girl like this, is the best way to deal with disagreements and emotional outbursts just to let her have her own space for a while?

    • @giannaajello4416
      @giannaajello4416 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@lahiru1157 allow her to have her space to cool down, but communicate that with her. reassure her that youre not trying to push her away, but that you want her to take a minute and get grounded

    • @ilovedrunkgirls2472
      @ilovedrunkgirls2472 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      i cant come up with a single thought OMG

    • @yinbambi
      @yinbambi 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      there needs to be more research and vocabulary to describe this phenomenon... @@ilovedrunkgirls2472

  • @marieleeart
    @marieleeart ปีที่แล้ว +676

    was literally in the middle of an existential crisis when this came out. postponing sadness until later

    • @Hannah-kg
      @Hannah-kg ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I said the same thing on a different vlog, hope ur alr

    • @marieleeart
      @marieleeart ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Hannah-kg reallyy, which vlog? are you better now?

    • @Hannah-kg
      @Hannah-kg ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@marieleeartbreak ups self respect and no💀💪

    • @marieleeart
      @marieleeart ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Hannah-kg WAIT OMG it's literally almost the same comment im shocked. wanna talk abt it?

    • @ivanalexandermarinrodrigue2082
      @ivanalexandermarinrodrigue2082 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Fr💯🔥‼️

  • @AA-qb7ni
    @AA-qb7ni ปีที่แล้ว +206

    Living for how consistent Madeleine is!!! She's like that friend we all need 🥰

  • @aubreyklima1368
    @aubreyklima1368 ปีที่แล้ว +198

    I find that I tend to match other peoples energy in a group setting which is usually not very good for me but I think that makes me go against my own morals and self because I want to be accepted by people

    • @nisakini8762
      @nisakini8762 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      literally same. and its so draining

    • @midnightaesthetic3830
      @midnightaesthetic3830 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Then you need to make sure you know your boundaries towards other people and be your own friend before being with a group of people. As it’s really easy to lose yourselves in people

    • @tessy28
      @tessy28 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Get your own personality and your own life

    • @nicola7043
      @nicola7043 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      THIS Exactly how I feel!! I find it frustrating when I'm like this because the people I'm around I want to be my authentic self but I do end up matching their actions, words and overall energy

    • @fangirlinneverland6335
      @fangirlinneverland6335 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Unfortunately same (for now)

  • @denarendall
    @denarendall ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Totally relate to being emotionally intelligent when I’m alone but a total mess when I’m with people. I think I’m working so hard to perform and fit in with the people around me that I lose my actual core self and therefore can’t connect to my feelings in the same way. Being around people is so fucking exhausting, it takes me days to recover!

  • @cherryflavoredplaylist753
    @cherryflavoredplaylist753 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    its scary to me because i relate to literally everything in your videos. the inability to be yourself in a relationship or even when i have crushes, the way I'm unable to think of all my bad experiences as myself and not some character in a book, taking things to heart and needing to process an opinion or feeling as my own before looking it up so i can own my thoughts and feelings and be assured they're mine, ALL of it. im so glad i found this podcast it's like i found my people lol.

  • @leahalexandra3717
    @leahalexandra3717 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    Not trying to diagnose anyone but I relate very strongly to the black and white sense of justice and morals and immediately knowing if someone is good or bad and also shutting down during disagreements like I’m switched off and I just got diagnosed with autism hehe

    • @masarrahaider8738
      @masarrahaider8738 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I’m under psychiatric evaluation for bpd💀 and that also has such similar traits

    • @BOOTSTHEFELINE
      @BOOTSTHEFELINE ปีที่แล้ว

      How do you get diagnosed?

    • @abib8330
      @abib8330 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me Audhd only finding madeleine for the first time now and immediately thinking that 😅

  • @y-ys6ww
    @y-ys6ww ปีที่แล้ว +84

    I literally went on a 3hr rant last night for ignoring my gut feeling and feeling so fuckin annoyed at myself 😤😤😤😤 perfect timing tho so thanks for the upload girl

  • @farahtb915
    @farahtb915 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    what u said about not being yourself when ur in a romantic relationship, which is a form of self neglect/abandonment, its incredible to hear someone else feeling this bc i relate to that so much to the point that i dont think relationships r good for me. idk whats the solution to that .. atleast we r aware of that i guess? idk

  • @keplar8229
    @keplar8229 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I love the start, “ I just wanna preference this that I’ve recently lost my mind”

  • @olivedeleliorey-qz7kh
    @olivedeleliorey-qz7kh 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    she is just so intelligent to me, i mean just her vibes are so genius-ish

  • @amarai11
    @amarai11 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    use the version of you when alone as the goal, and everytime you interact with people fight to reach that goal, it won't be easy, it will include a lot of anxiety and losing people, but eventually you will reach it, it's a marathon not a sprint

  • @oopskye
    @oopskye ปีที่แล้ว +16

    the brain shutting down part YES this just happened to me recently when I was trying to have a conversation about my feelings it’s SO ANNOYING I HATE IT

  • @oopskye
    @oopskye ปีที่แล้ว +16

    madeline I literally feel u on a spiritual level ur pod keeps me alive

  • @sadlyitsme4468
    @sadlyitsme4468 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    i love the way she gets distracted so easily 😂❤

  • @Recyclable89
    @Recyclable89 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Just listening to you for half an hour has made me feel less alone and more understood than months of ranting to my friends 😭

  • @Ruqayya1293
    @Ruqayya1293 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Something about resonating and relating to someone who seems so different from you always hits different. Your doing great girly ❤

  • @nerd26373
    @nerd26373 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    We appreciate your insights, Keep up the good work.

  • @marieleeart
    @marieleeart ปีที่แล้ว +14

    your vibe and energy are my comfort zone

  • @denisacristescu9816
    @denisacristescu9816 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I have my moon in cancer as well and I can totally guaranty you that if i d have listened to my intuition I had avoided a lot of bad people and terrible moments. Also, as Im finishing my masters and never dated in uni, I relate so much with ur concept of having a home away from home, at least just for cuddles, tho if I d have to go back, I still choose to only date if the guy matches my energy, cause otherwise it is draining and time consuming.

  • @mrowner100
    @mrowner100 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    madeline these authentic ramblings give me so much comfort hahaha pls never stop x

  • @themaria4u
    @themaria4u ปีที่แล้ว +13

    She is so self aware, I like it

  • @sullengrrl
    @sullengrrl ปีที่แล้ว +9

    i could listen to you talk about literally anything for ages and not get bored, but I'd love to hear more of your insight on burnout / beating yourself up over minuscule things etc etc. ive been really struggling with those lately because I'm in uni at the moment and feel like you might be able to understand :)

  • @Goldenskittlee
    @Goldenskittlee ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I've never heard of you before but came across your videos today and I literally relate to everything your saying it's insane !

  • @benediktemyrmellom8613
    @benediktemyrmellom8613 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love this!! Looking forward too every podcast😍

  • @jaymet7905
    @jaymet7905 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    literally my ex was homophobic/transphobic and super conservative and i still for ed myself to make it work until i was a broken person; and now fast forward a year and im with the most loving and caring man

  • @poorvichaturvedi4269
    @poorvichaturvedi4269 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You're the one person to whom i can listen to for hours

  • @truongthilinhnhan8955
    @truongthilinhnhan8955 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    been waiting an entire week it’s finally heree

  • @maddiewheels6523
    @maddiewheels6523 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I could listen to u talk for hours it’s like listening to myself but British

  • @spiochgapcioch
    @spiochgapcioch ปีที่แล้ว +15

    i actually smiled when i saw this video, love you!!!

  • @lrigl00c
    @lrigl00c ปีที่แล้ว

    i truly love listening to you talk, keep talking please

  • @LindzFletch17
    @LindzFletch17 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is the most RELATABLE topic I’ve ever seen

  • @bjaartey3309
    @bjaartey3309 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    perfect timing thank youuuu i love you i love you king

  • @jessieblackery4547
    @jessieblackery4547 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yesss you uploaded just in time for my food break from uni work

  • @maviedako6009
    @maviedako6009 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Madeline you are such a lovely person , I love listening to your podcast episodes on my usually boring Sunday’s. I love you lots, take care, you look amazing darling.

  • @alizaolner6838
    @alizaolner6838 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You are literally me lol 😂 like everything you say it’s like you are speaking my thoughts

  • @judeadas7642
    @judeadas7642 ปีที่แล้ว

    always looking forward to ur podcasts

  • @andinagy6822
    @andinagy6822 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    literally felt this on a spiritual level

  • @Kat-ow2bn
    @Kat-ow2bn ปีที่แล้ว +25

    this was needed today thank you Madeline!

  • @cityofsher
    @cityofsher ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You have no idea how much i relate to you , I feel like we have lived the same life

  • @blankpag
    @blankpag ปีที่แล้ว

    you know what ? wonderful point hahaha you're so fun please keep on making videos and speaking hope you get better, love

  • @LUxo323
    @LUxo323 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your therapist is a genius I agree 👏🏻

  • @ameerac4432
    @ameerac4432 ปีที่แล้ว

    THE FIRST THREE MINUTES i resonate with sooo much

  • @bigboominmaya
    @bigboominmaya ปีที่แล้ว +1

    you put it into the words i never could.

  • @shaundavis7705
    @shaundavis7705 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m a new viewer and I already like many of your videos

  • @krsna.-
    @krsna.- ปีที่แล้ว +1

    are u in my brain maam, speaking my inner thoughts fr, ily

  • @soutenu_ninja5678
    @soutenu_ninja5678 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is great. Your awesome

  • @nananazoo
    @nananazoo ปีที่แล้ว

    UR POSTS R AMAZING KEEP POSTING I LOVE UUUUUUU MADELINA

  • @thans998
    @thans998 ปีที่แล้ว

    Loved this, it's great. I needed something to take me out my head. And your fast speaking was great for it. hahha I literally say my woes too! You speak at the same speed inthink. I hope you get some peace and a slower thought rate. It will help yaaa XXX

  • @rockercover
    @rockercover ปีที่แล้ว +1

    (Opinion only): An emotional relationship; reduces logical / rational thinking. Crazy how the brain / body does that. Good thought-provoking topic, thanks.

  • @idab6864
    @idab6864 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I relate so much to your experience of being human

  • @jodieturnerx
    @jodieturnerx ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love these sm

  • @saoirse.tierney
    @saoirse.tierney ปีที่แล้ว +2

    living for her new posts bro😭

  • @joelduckstad601
    @joelduckstad601 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The throw up thing is so true😂😭

  • @aimeeaveiro7806
    @aimeeaveiro7806 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    pls talk about friendship breakups & how we should normalise treating them like relationship breakups in terms of healing, support systems etc etc

    • @rachelkim9784
      @rachelkim9784 ปีที่แล้ว

      check her podcast from 5 months ago it’s about that

  • @kyleethepanda
    @kyleethepanda ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just started this video so you might cover this but I want to reiterate or possibly make a new point, its not so much cutting someone off or out of your life but keeping them at a distance. I have many people that I would consider myself friendly with but I wouldn’t ever take it past shallow conversation. I hold my thoughts and feelings as possessions and I like that I only give them to specific people. I have learned to do this from being burned many times before, so im not just all knowing. Anyways, the moral of the story is to choose your close friends wisely. Choose who you confide in wisely. Yes, when you dont have anyone to confide in, its lonely, but get a journal or a therapist. Its better to have no one than confide in the wrong person

  • @NicoleMae
    @NicoleMae ปีที่แล้ว

    this one rly resonated with me ❤

  • @MP39
    @MP39 ปีที่แล้ว

    20:55 valid, really needed to hear that

  • @violetslit
    @violetslit ปีที่แล้ว

    6:32 this was so spot on i'm crying

  • @zitaridgett
    @zitaridgett ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I adore her sm:)

  • @saintpatrick6681
    @saintpatrick6681 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    the queen of no filter. literally every brain impulse come out the mouth. love you.

  • @avasmth
    @avasmth ปีที่แล้ว

    Pls post more I love these

  • @m4svn184
    @m4svn184 ปีที่แล้ว

    your videos help me so much

  • @Princessofthegalaxy
    @Princessofthegalaxy ปีที่แล้ว +10

    We are literally the same age and have the same zodiac chart maybe thats why i feel everything u say but its so weird to me because all your videos come at the exact right time because what you talk about is what i’ve been feeling at that moment

    • @boxkutta
      @boxkutta ปีที่แล้ว

      when is her exact birthday? bc online it says january 1st 2000 😭

  • @christabelstewart
    @christabelstewart ปีที่แล้ว

    ive been relating soooo hard to ur recent uploads so when you said youre a cancer/ libra/sag i had to stand up from my seat because SAME.

  • @capucine6689
    @capucine6689 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank goodness for this banger

  • @graceless6103
    @graceless6103 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The im jealous rant is so ducking real

  • @maximherremans7142
    @maximherremans7142 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    felt ‘hug deprived’

  • @mariemadlenek
    @mariemadlenek ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Madeline you should get the urban decay space cowboy eyeshadow you can do no wrong with it, prettiest glitter

  • @catodeveld8364
    @catodeveld8364 ปีที่แล้ว

    I would love to see a make up tutorial tbh, much love

  • @mariahlamb2983
    @mariahlamb2983 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So, it’s been about a years time and you’d be surprised lol. You’ve come far kid

  • @katsinajenn5839
    @katsinajenn5839 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great vid

  • @KIYAIZM
    @KIYAIZM ปีที่แล้ว +1

    perfect timing

  • @allygraham3095
    @allygraham3095 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is so real

  • @Sunshine_is
    @Sunshine_is ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m an astrologer, I would love to do your chart 💞

  • @zoechang7528
    @zoechang7528 ปีที่แล้ว

    resonate with each word sm……

  • @indoorphine
    @indoorphine ปีที่แล้ว

    i love it

  • @QGQGQ
    @QGQGQ 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    😂 This girl makes me laugh

  • @jmo8a_veda
    @jmo8a_veda 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    God Bless

  • @TrentYakle
    @TrentYakle 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It feels like your sense of self is not having a sense of self, and either sitting alone lost in yourself, or in a relationship lost in them

  • @maya-ms8nt
    @maya-ms8nt ปีที่แล้ว

    my bpd relates to all of her videos so heavily dude

  • @Cumshot-millionare
    @Cumshot-millionare ปีที่แล้ว

    Bro not one thing you've said in this video I don't relate to like fully relate to you have just explained my exact thoughts

  • @elisazouza
    @elisazouza ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have also lost my mind too.

  • @jezzyqueen1101
    @jezzyqueen1101 ปีที่แล้ว

    “It’s kinda like when you get diarrhea” 😂 Love herrr !

  • @w60999
    @w60999 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i love love love love you

  • @joelduckstad601
    @joelduckstad601 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ilysmmmm💕💕

  • @Tifftheturtle
    @Tifftheturtle ปีที่แล้ว

    plus same i love my own company

  • @jasso1833
    @jasso1833 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have never related so much to somebody!❤

  • @doubledeckyomom
    @doubledeckyomom ปีที่แล้ว +3

    First and flustered

  • @c.8192
    @c.8192 ปีที่แล้ว

    Listening to this also feels like therapy🤍

  • @sophiaellenn
    @sophiaellenn ปีที่แล้ว +1

    everything you say i relate to

  • @ashabivins1872
    @ashabivins1872 ปีที่แล้ว

    i become who i hang around as well. such a struggle lol

  • @h3nar
    @h3nar ปีที่แล้ว +1

    pls im begging, put the podcast on spotify, pelase😭

  • @hummanpschology6436
    @hummanpschology6436 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @indianboyshaan1493
    @indianboyshaan1493 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @Rob1964b
    @Rob1964b ปีที่แล้ว

    You could stream on Twitch. Best platform for conversation with audience IMO.

  • @glueyossi
    @glueyossi 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What's your camera and microphone setup? If you don't mind

  • @indoorphine
    @indoorphine ปีที่แล้ว

    you speak EVERyThing i think about. I want to be your friend .

  • @sarahhrp
    @sarahhrp ปีที่แล้ว

    i love her