5 Sexy Things Men LOVE to Hear in Bed!

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  • @Mat_Shaffer
    @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +211

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    QUESTION OF THE DAY - What are your favorite man melting dirty phrases you like to hear in bed? 🔥

    • @ginaonyemaechi
      @ginaonyemaechi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Why don't you pin this comment, Mr S? 😀

    • @sonjacampbell1969
      @sonjacampbell1969 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Looking to see you

    • @TerresaOxentenko
      @TerresaOxentenko 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      🙉

    • @suezaccone5841
      @suezaccone5841 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Thanks for your input. Since ive been raped in my past and childhood i had issues with sex and doing things to a man and visa versa. Now finally im with a man who WON'T hurt me or rape me and i do so want to please him and also get pleasure from him. How tho can i stop having flashbacks when he does certain things to me like pat or touch my butt which is a hugh trigger for me.

    • @rosichard
      @rosichard 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Thank you for such an open topic. Every woman should listen

  • @authenticlife2223
    @authenticlife2223 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2558

    A woman will only respond like this when a man is a giver! A selfish partner is a huge turn off!

  • @MD-is3go
    @MD-is3go ปีที่แล้ว +383

    1. Specifics are hot for men! ( what turns you on and How turned on you feel, it raises the polarity)
    2. Men are invested in how women feel ( share with him how you are feeling - men crave acknowledgement for their actions from women)
    3. You lead by example, the way you communicate in vulnerability when in bed - give him instructions and requests, share your roadmap to pleasure, own your value)
    4. Ask, beg for his body. eg ask for his lips, or lingam or beg for his come. Ask him for permission to do something, eg can I kiss you there?
    5. Authentic moaning or other non verbal expressions (give yourself permission to express the pleasure you are feeling)
    Great tips ! Thank you very much! 🎉❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Many Thanks

    • @CHARITYSAUROMBE
      @CHARITYSAUROMBE 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      True tht

    • @marcidorman
      @marcidorman 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Great thoughts! Thanks from a wife :)

    • @PhyllisDEllison
      @PhyllisDEllison 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you

  • @footyfan101ful
    @footyfan101ful 2 ปีที่แล้ว +866

    Using these tips when my dream man comes into my life. A man moaning during sex is such a turn on.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      Amazing! love hearing that!

    • @artemis2520
      @artemis2520 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      Agreed. Period.

    • @ramonaneyrinck2292
      @ramonaneyrinck2292 ปีที่แล้ว +77

      I love their primal sounds too!!

    • @laurajohnson9753
      @laurajohnson9753 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      Knowing that he is also into the moment is great! Silence is a killer.

    • @missmoon6204
      @missmoon6204 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      @@laurajohnson9753 Oh God yes, silence is a MAJOR turn off, especially during climaxing.

  • @krystalsoto2365
    @krystalsoto2365 2 ปีที่แล้ว +461

    This is the best dating coach. Not lame ass advice or PG stuff. Real advice and seems genuine. I love how he discusses sexual and emotional intimacy.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

    • @MsRamona7
      @MsRamona7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sorry, what does PG stand for, please? Google was not helpful...

    • @alishaibrahim4902
      @alishaibrahim4902 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I assume it's parental guidance

    • @DJones476
      @DJones476 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@MsRamona7 It's a meme. It originates with movie ratings in the United States and Canada as follows:
      G general audiences
      PG parental guidance suggested
      PG-13 parents strongly cautioned
      R RESTRICTED - no unaccompanied minors
      NC-17 (formerly X) NO CHILDREN (17 and under) - no minors, period.
      In Canada:
      G same as U.S.
      PG same as U.S.
      14A no one under fourteen unless accompanied by a responsible adult
      18A same as U.S. 'R'.
      R same as U.S. 'NC-17', and occasionally features a small black or red crouched cougar silhouette logo with the word 'RESTRICTED'.

    • @justinesyombua6411
      @justinesyombua6411 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@MsRamona7..parental Guidance

  • @clarasimonis2994
    @clarasimonis2994 2 ปีที่แล้ว +130

    Yes, let your sound out, sometimes it’s emotional release and healing and you will feel better forever, I remember a partner who reopened my hips after shutting down after a heartbreak and I cried a lot and it was a huge physical and emotional breakthrough. I got him whimpering shaking and crying once as well years later and he was so happy with whatever it released

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new❤️

    • @SeekingGod77
      @SeekingGod77 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Reopen the hips 😂

    • @marandaholley-u9p
      @marandaholley-u9p 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      reopened the hips? what?

    • @jenifernadeau
      @jenifernadeau 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​ since we are energetic beings we typically have blocked chakra centers. Especially the sacral & the heart chakra.. any repressed or unaddressed emotions can do that, and any not loving of our own bodies and not honoring and respecting it first and foremost... treating it well and spoiling it... can only bring in someone who does the same.
      Like attracts like.

  • @Spookylittleb2
    @Spookylittleb2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    I already do all of these and was told by my dude mid act “the way you talk to me drives me wild” so these tips are true 😏

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!

    • @monamohabir4897
      @monamohabir4897 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Lmao… ❤❤❤

  • @cearrahill1742
    @cearrahill1742 ปีที่แล้ว +407

    These are extremely accurate. Though, men also get conditioned to not make any sounds, since it’s seen as weak, or not masculine. Personally, I love hearing what I’m doing is affecting my man. I love it when he requests/demands me for things, and moans when he goes down on me, it has similar effects of women as well, plus it does show enthusiasm which makes me feel more connected to him, and more appreciated as well. I also love hearing how turned on I make him. So while these tips work for women, to do on men, it works for men to do on women as well.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Thank you for sharing!

    • @seniorita3287
      @seniorita3287 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      I agree .a man needs to participate fully. If I can't see you, I want to atleast hear you

    • @ireneandrews6486
      @ireneandrews6486 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Get to the point, too many dtaged out explinations🤔🤔🤩

    • @Deedee-oq8bn
      @Deedee-oq8bn ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I love when a man shows he likes it

    • @ichinihq
      @ichinihq ปีที่แล้ว

      @@seniorita3287YESS you said it!

  • @marialue9998
    @marialue9998 2 ปีที่แล้ว +553

    Wow! Thank you Mat for being so open and real about sexual intimacy. We, as humans, need more of this for happier healthier relationships with our partners. The happier we are in our intimate relationship the happier we are overall -
    the ripple affect…

    • @brEEnda72
      @brEEnda72 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I had to read that again I could have swore it said, "nipple effect".

    • @monicasuyo1330
      @monicasuyo1330 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      OMG -dude, this was an extremely enjoyable video, I got so turn e d on, learned a few things and received validation for a few things so thank you very much - highly appreciated!

    • @monicasuyo1330
      @monicasuyo1330 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I think I’ll be watching this video a f ew times!

    • @viola6928
      @viola6928 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Wow! That’s what I say to him all the time even over the phone. This is not anything new to me.

    • @matildahnkulanga560
      @matildahnkulanga560 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah that's true

  • @Maziyateke_tv
    @Maziyateke_tv ปีที่แล้ว +147

    You're single and You're watching this video like me!!? Like, single matters

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Welcome!

    • @tarilauer1818
      @tarilauer1818 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Well I have to definitely 100% agree with the girl who just commented on why does being single matter it doesn't it's so much better by yourself at least that's my perception of what her comment meant and I could be wrong but you know what majority of men out there they're not givers but they're definitely takers the main focus is getting off even if it's neglecting their partner the select handful of men I found in my lifetime that acted as if that's what they loved ultimately loved and that was their first priority before themselves that my dear is true they were exactly like that but you know what the hardest most excruciating pain in a relationship is from intimacy and lack of when touch human

    • @tarilauer1818
      @tarilauer1818 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I was not done yet I'll make this quick when you get in a relationship with someone who has met you in a state of constant trauma and sexual abuse and physical abuse and knows everything you've been through and they use à tool àl or a weapon of mass destruction that's exactly what it is you have not done to me what everyone else has done to me in my lifetime and the things you said you never do you did you took away my feeling of safety which I value so much security love and belonging which is all a lie I valued all of that and you used it to break me down to nothing but guess what I forgave you for that in case one of your ex's send this to you I forgive you I'm actually able to move forward right now on that part because I'm so tired of looking at TH-cam and saying nothing but stuff a narcissist and it's deceiving and it's sitting and it has everyone who looks at it wondering if she one is he one am I one I do that she does that who's who can à I actually started looking at what they were saying and said my God that's me in many ways but not because I'm a narcissist mind you it's because of childhood tramaanyways the whole point I was trying to make I've had the most mind-blowing or shaking orgasms I've ever had in my entire life by myself 1 because I didn't have to feel insecure or be someone I wasn't for someone else to love me or look different for someone because they're in the p*** and you have to look like that God forbid for them to want you know doing it by yourself is probably the most amazing sex you could ever have know if I could find a guy who actually cared about my feelings and didn't know a damn thing about me he's the one he will be the one the one who knows nothing about me but who cares about me first before p himself and he is definitely a keeper and what's funny is I am one of the most open-minded women a man could find and I believe they find it intimidating as hell hey I'm willing to have a threesome here and there I'm willing to get wild and crazy and do things that you would never think I'm capable of I like to watch p*** too I'd rather watch it with my man than by myself though locked in a room

    • @Chaumamaness
      @Chaumamaness 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Here😢😂

  • @maryannkeenan851
    @maryannkeenan851 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Those stuff were given naturally when we're with the person we love 😊
    Thank you for the pointers, appreciated it 😊

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’re welcome 😊

  • @MsDivineSassy
    @MsDivineSassy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +148

    I luv how you keep it real in the bedroom - straight from the man’s point of view- you are so awesome Mat ♥️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      yasss you gotta keep it real in the bedroom!

    • @ImranKhan-tj3dr
      @ImranKhan-tj3dr 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I m New in here looking 👧👧💗💗😍😍❤🌷🌷

    • @PhilipJames-hx3gp
      @PhilipJames-hx3gp ปีที่แล้ว

      hi 👋 pretty lady how are you doing

  • @sandramadaris7814
    @sandramadaris7814 2 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    Yep, did all these with my late husband! 30 years together, 28 married. Sigh. Missing him every day!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      He is in a better place now, Be strong Sandra🤗

    • @mysunshine0063
      @mysunshine0063 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Same here Sandra. My late husband and I were married for 36 years. I did everything that was mentioned in this video and it did drive him wild.

    • @theresamorgan1033
      @theresamorgan1033 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Married over 32+ yrs.. The big C took him. Now it's been 8 yrs!!! I'm getting back in the pool. Scared to death!!!!!! He says the phone sex is great! But I have one more area?lol. The place between the balls and back door entrance. That would make late hubby, explode!!!!! My tongue all over it. Just saying.

    • @sherrih6375
      @sherrih6375 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I'm a widow too, and am praying for you.

    • @marijaclark8470
      @marijaclark8470 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @Dana-oo9kp
    @Dana-oo9kp ปีที่แล้ว +86

    Was looking for the comments summary so here it is…
    5 sexy things he wants to hear during intimacy:
    1. How turned on you are - how you feel it and where you feel (he’s not a mind reader so let him know)
    2. How good what he’s doing feels to you (give him acknowledgement for his actions and you’ll get more of what you like)
    3. Give him specific instructions and requests (because men like structure but also aim to please)
    4. Ask/“beg” him for his body - make him feel desired by letting him know which part of his body would feel great
    5. Authentic sound or non verbal expression of your pleasure
    Bonus: Make noise or moan when you’re giving him oral sex
    To be effective when communicating this:
    1. Be specific- the more specific, the better
    2. Share your feelings so he can make you happy
    3. Lead by example with your vulnerability - opens the door for him to share also
    --
    ** But definitely watch this video for specific examples of what to say for each thing and why it is effective. **

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you!

    • @seniorita3287
      @seniorita3287 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ain't the guy suppose to moan getting head? Women moan when getting oral, you should to.

    • @ethelsibanda
      @ethelsibanda ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you

    • @crystalthow5533
      @crystalthow5533 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for editing

    • @CynthiaSindane
      @CynthiaSindane 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

  • @ericaromero4202
    @ericaromero4202 ปีที่แล้ว +165

    This was so helpful! I have wondered what things I might do better with my partner and this was nicely explained without being coarse or crude. I’m going to start implementing these tips. Thanks Mat!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Glad it was helpful! You're welcome! ❤❤❤

    • @SylviaShort-b1y
      @SylviaShort-b1y 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      P

  • @24carrots33
    @24carrots33 2 ปีที่แล้ว +279

    Thank you for this. My man loves it when I "talk to him" in bed and I literally go silent in fear of saying something that will kill the mood. This is the video I needed!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      So glad my content supports you :)

    • @weekendnomad5038
      @weekendnomad5038 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Lol I’m married and we started off as f buddies.. so after 2 years it all seems repetitive 😂 and I think the same that he will think I’m boring or I’ll kill the mood… but I also know his trigger words so idk..

    • @blueeyedfemale2176
      @blueeyedfemale2176 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @24carrots33 Exactly the same for me!!

    • @timeswithamber5236
      @timeswithamber5236 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I’ve been married 22 years and I’m here still wanting to please my husband 🥰

    • @ramonaneyrinck2292
      @ramonaneyrinck2292 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I love that he calls it “talk to him” so sweet and connected!!

  • @-cMc-
    @-cMc- ปีที่แล้ว +63

    "Any man that is secure in himself " that's what's key

  • @jenniferdiaz4831
    @jenniferdiaz4831 2 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    This is such a great episode. So true! Thanks for talking about what we need to hear.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you! 😊 I’m so glad the episode resonated with you. I always aim to cover the topics that really matter! If you’d like to dive even deeper into these conversations, I’m hosting a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and you’re definitely invited! masteryofconnection.com/ ❤✨

  • @theresamorgan1033
    @theresamorgan1033 2 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    These videos are great to know about. My late hubby showed me show much.But I wanted to please him. Boy did he return the favor.😊 Women were told sex was evil and just for baby making. Now we can enjoy it as much as they do!! It draws you closer as a couple especially verb communication.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Awww! So happy for you, beautiful!

    • @sophieroberts7920
      @sophieroberts7920 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Good for you. Well done!!!

  • @Rottimail
    @Rottimail 2 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    Matt is absolutely correct! I did all the items on the list and when I saw the guy four days later he still had a gigantic smile on his face when he came and talked to me! Why wouldn't a female want to do all the items on the list when she's into a guy?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Thank you so much! 💓

    • @kpdivination7098
      @kpdivination7098 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Because we're taught to suppress our feelings.

    • @AxelLovesSomeone
      @AxelLovesSomeone 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Shyness/anxiety.

  • @dyannayancey1177
    @dyannayancey1177 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    Love this. These are some things that I realized I was doing when I was in a relationship. I've been single for awhile and finally getting back in the game. This refresher is needed and appreciated. Thanks Matt

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @bonniespuehler3713
      @bonniespuehler3713 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Me too. Thanks for sharing.😊

    • @marilynsmart4095
      @marilynsmart4095 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So glad this was trending on my feed.
      Thanks

    • @amylewis7479
      @amylewis7479 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same for me! I been single for awhile and I needed to hear this for this weekend with the guy I’m dating. Definitely excited!!!

  • @zahararay5611
    @zahararay5611 2 ปีที่แล้ว +118

    This entire video made me ‘blush’ 😂, I clearly have a lot of work to do.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      You can do it! Haha you got this :)

    • @zahararay5611
      @zahararay5611 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Mat_Shaffer Mat!! It feels Great getting a response from you. Thank you! Well I look forward to practicing when I find that awesome, committed, relationship!

    • @Zitagirl76
      @Zitagirl76 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yah same here, 🤭 talking so specific like this doesn't sound sexy to me but I guess they do!🤣

    • @crystalthow5533
      @crystalthow5533 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Its never too late to start my luv! Start now ;)

    • @DEsha29
      @DEsha29 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂Omg me too

  • @laurahero8778
    @laurahero8778 2 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    FINALLY! Real, knowledgeable and useful information that are almost like instructions towards a reasonably PG couple who are still in the innocent stage of their sexual journey. Regards!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      YESSS you got it my dear!! so glad this supported you🙂

    • @tommac21
      @tommac21 ปีที่แล้ว

      No its not hes soeaking for himself. We dont love these things. I dont know where he made this stuff up. Never give instructions

  • @Utoobdammitjanet
    @Utoobdammitjanet 2 ปีที่แล้ว +275

    I wasn’t looking for advice when I came across your videos. Glad I found this. I’m a recent widow. I know that I will have to date sometime but after 20 years with the same man, I’m afraid to have sex with someone new. It’s good to know that men want pretty much the same things. Your openness about sexual language makes us older women more willing to open up, where in the past we were pretty unsure of ourselves and we’re afraid to open up to a man in the ways you suggest we should. Thank you for your honest approach.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      So glad my content supports you :)

    • @LoveNanayArAr
      @LoveNanayArAr ปีที่แล้ว +32

      I'm a widow too and I'm in this channel. I wonder How many widows are here?

    • @AmyMichelleMosier
      @AmyMichelleMosier ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Me!

    • @neiselanderson3932
      @neiselanderson3932 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Me to after 32 yrs! However I'm ready now almost 5 yrs after. Met a Wonderful Man

    • @christinamac4828
      @christinamac4828 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      I am also a widow. While I like to listen to these types of videos (and thank you Matt, for your openness), I also know that as an older woman (early 50s) who is in an undefined relationship with a much younger man (late 30s), I have no trouble expressing what I want, or being open to what he wants. At the end of the day, I think men AND women need validation and respect in the bedroom.

  • @jennylynne4414
    @jennylynne4414 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    This is good stuff. It's too bad we as a society don't talk about these things as openly. I have a question about eye contact though. I know as a woman, it's deeply satisfying to have a man giving me good eye contact when he's inside me. It's like the ultimate level of intimacy for me. I would like to know how men feel about it.

    • @Doomkauf
      @Doomkauf ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yes this would be nice to know!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @DEsha29
      @DEsha29 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Well we have TH-cam now and we are having these conversations now and I love it because I can’t really express myself with people i know personally ❤any how maybe u should take some tips from the video and ask him specifically or jus tell him or you lead by example and look into his eyes first and see what happens

    • @Shortee452
      @Shortee452 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh yes, I ❤ the moaning and eye contact it drives me crazy.🤭

    • @raniahagos
      @raniahagos 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Eye contact is dynamic

  • @krumpnplies5686
    @krumpnplies5686 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Thanks for being straightforward and real. Great tips and advice! I’m glad I’m doing this! More on this subject would be even better!😊

  • @QueenNYC113
    @QueenNYC113 2 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    This is very informative. I'm glad my boyfriend is open minded. It's amazing how mind blowing coitus can be when there's a mental, emotional connection.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you so much, So glad you enjoyed it! :)

  • @kezann
    @kezann ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I've just celebrated 12 years single and I've just met a guy who it's going incredibly well with, but I'm a bit out of practice loll. These tips are now in my arsenal. Can't wait to meet him now. It's gonna be awesoooooome! Thank you so much!! xXx

  • @BrightEyes62111
    @BrightEyes62111 2 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    I am happy to know that I do all those things and then some, grateful to be validated in how to love and be sexually happy with a man. You are so right, many women have been either told/taught/said something to about not expressing yourself in a most sexy, hot, intimate way with your partner many reasons why, but glad to see someone touching on these topics in a very pleasant and real way of communication. Thank you so much!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Happy to hear that, you are so welcome. ❤️

    • @tommac21
      @tommac21 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh God dont we really dont love these things.

    • @PhilipJames-hx3gp
      @PhilipJames-hx3gp ปีที่แล้ว

      hi 👋 pretty lady how are you doing

    • @maryjean-vb8bm
      @maryjean-vb8bm ปีที่แล้ว +2

      " do all those things" with one person...

    • @psat21
      @psat21 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yup same, I do all of these things however if the man is a natural giver he definitely will get more than this, naturally 😊

  • @reshmisharikh6663
    @reshmisharikh6663 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Before jumping into relationship it's really important to have this kind of knowledge for healthy relationship thank you mat Good job

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @redhead8777
    @redhead8777 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I know there are men here checking to make sure the info is legit! SO FYI Gentlemen: Its hot when a man genuinely thanks you for your feminine efforts afterwards! When its completed! I think expressing specific appreciation enduces women into creating a next big adventure mindset! Hope that helps you! Appreciation is golden!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wonderful! Thank you for sharing!

    • @LV-bk4it
      @LV-bk4it ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes! Especially when my husband doesn't finish me off! I really feel cheated and he just walks away satisfied. I've had MANY discussions with him about this. All he says is, "I can't help myself because you're so hot. You should be flattered." Flattered? How about frustrated and resentful?

    • @redhead8777
      @redhead8777 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@LV-bk4it there is medical help for his thing. Tell him to seek a urologist. You can try and get products to delay! Do not accept that as normal male function. Its called Premature Ejaculation (PE)! Good sex to you too! That's cute he thinks you are hot!

  • @rhondamayfield6314
    @rhondamayfield6314 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I have never blushed so much watching your videos Mat! It was fantastic

    • @PhilipJames-hx3gp
      @PhilipJames-hx3gp ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm New here I'm looking for a beautiful wife 😍

  • @rockinrver7414
    @rockinrver7414 2 ปีที่แล้ว +383

    Damnit! I was watching this at work on my lunch break and Meg Ryan's movie groaning came on! I about threw my phone!!! 😂 I'm so embarrassed.

    • @ernikaflower7654
      @ernikaflower7654 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Haha and i watching it now in office lucky me..i am using head set if not...haha will be same with you 😀😀

    • @rockinrver7414
      @rockinrver7414 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@ernikaflower7654 least you're smart enough to use a headset. Good work. Lol

    • @aidaforalan1744
      @aidaforalan1744 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      😂😂

    • @chelseajackman7730
      @chelseajackman7730 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Oh rip 😂

    • @mara11333
      @mara11333 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      😅😅😂😂🤣

  • @JoyKing-m8l
    @JoyKing-m8l ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you Mat, I haven't been intimate with a man in very very long time, have a new opportunity to explore again but lost confidence so this has been so helpful thank you

  • @lynneetetz
    @lynneetetz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I was looking for these kind of instructions; also to, as you said, "filter out" or weed out ones who are not healthy minded individuals. Thank you!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Happy to help!

    • @judeirwin2222
      @judeirwin2222 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This kind or these kinds, not these kind.

    • @lynneetetz
      @lynneetetz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@judeirwin2222 LOL!!! "This kind" of attitude is what I was referring to in my comment.

  • @chantelbaartman8102
    @chantelbaartman8102 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Should I be concerned if I'm already doing all of these things? lol .. feels good to know that I am not weird after all. Love your videos

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So glad my content supports you :)

  • @cynthiaholmes4400
    @cynthiaholmes4400 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Thanks for being so real and genuine.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're very welcome.

  • @mjmb433
    @mjmb433 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    wow, been intimate with my man for more than 4 years and I didn't know I had to voice out all these stuff. Thanks, hope this works the next time I get with him.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You got this!

    • @JosieStev
      @JosieStev ปีที่แล้ว

      How’s it going?

  • @cynthiaziegler6558
    @cynthiaziegler6558 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    53 years old and my boyfriend is 49. You totally hit the main points!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much my dear!

  • @oliviacompanies3948
    @oliviacompanies3948 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is amazing advice. I’m a ‘professional girlfriend’ and can concur with everything said in this video, it is exactly what men like and want to hear. It’s not easy, but implementing a new tip every week or so will help get you into the habit of being a better sexual partner!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @meganhenry5795
    @meganhenry5795 2 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    My question is how the hell do you not moan!? Holding back is 10x harder than letting loose.

    • @moniqrupley6019
      @moniqrupley6019 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yes! Holding back is so impossible.

    • @eo9806
      @eo9806 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      No it’s not. Some people like it soft and quiet. A quiet orgasm can be amazing too. Doesn’t have to be animalistic always. Melting quietly is really nice.

    • @LV-bk4it
      @LV-bk4it ปีที่แล้ว +5

      When you're not into your partner - nothing feels good.

    • @seniorita3287
      @seniorita3287 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ask a man

    • @crystalthow5533
      @crystalthow5533 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@eo9806u r totally right. I am exactly like that. I moan then suddenly black out no more sound when i am about 5sec into coming, my guy looks into my eyes everytime because he knows he is doing the right thing . This feeling is so strong and intimate

  • @CraftyLori
    @CraftyLori 2 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    I’m laughing so hard cuz of that “rooster” clip

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So glad you enjoyed it! :) Many more to come!

    • @tommac21
      @tommac21 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'll bet I laughed harder Because the whole video was hilarious 😂😂

    • @preppy_katherine
      @preppy_katherine ปีที่แล้ว

      Same 😂😂😂

    • @DEsha29
      @DEsha29 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂😂

    • @oseyj_official
      @oseyj_official 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂😂😂

  • @heatherabraham950
    @heatherabraham950 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I love ❤️ a man who gives as much as I give

  • @anncontorno9053
    @anncontorno9053 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Enthusiasm over skill! 😂😂😂 Love it!

  • @daisysig
    @daisysig ปีที่แล้ว +16

    You're so fabulous, Mat! So straight forward and fun and honest. These are the conversations we need to be having about sex.

  • @christineeversole4818
    @christineeversole4818 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I have been married twice , I totally agree with 5 things you shared . Now that I am older woman, my 60th birthday ..today. Expressing your sexual passion is must..pure pleasure!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks much Christine❤️ Happy-Happy birthday🤗✨

    • @christineeversole4818
      @christineeversole4818 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you!🎉🎈🎂

    • @zoradabic9717
      @zoradabic9717 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What you taking? You are not old. Comon. It is just number.❤

    • @zoradabic9717
      @zoradabic9717 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And happy birthday.

  • @mrsrodriguez1372
    @mrsrodriguez1372 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I can't say instructions during activities really helps... Maybe beforehand? Also, a lot of men lack interest/ desire for the level of foreplay needed for a lot of us to be/ do like you say. We want to have that experience, believe me!

  • @rebeccahowie7234
    @rebeccahowie7234 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I watched the spiritual class for Vic and Aaron and you Mat 😉 and sure enough, I was already subscribed to your channel. Well I’ve been binge watching your videos, I’m single right now. It’s been almost 2 yrs since I’ve had any man 😞 my ex was a narcissist and co-parenting is a nightmare. He tried getting back together with me, but he’s still living at his moms, no job, same old shit just a different day!!! BUT I may have a date coming up and I’ve known him since we were teenagers, we’re now in our 40’s. I’m so nervous 😬 we hooked up a bit back in the day, but it’s different this time; we’ve got kids and crazy ex baggage. So I’m not looking for anything serious but I am super excited to hopefully hang out with him ❤️ we’ve been talking on the phone for the last 2 yrs, dealing with life issues.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So glad my content supports you :) and just keep the positive vibes always! :)

  • @kellsr2244
    @kellsr2244 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My partner has asked me to step up the bedroom talk and i didnt know where I was going wrong...now this makes sense!! Thank you!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

  • @georgettedrafts9164
    @georgettedrafts9164 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Okay, so I can definitely award you with your teaching certificate today...Thanks for this video! 🔥💯

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I appreciate that! Thank you!

  • @Carol-sx6rg
    @Carol-sx6rg ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Making sounds is making me uncomfortable sometimes because of the kids/ neighbours. But mostly.. they sleep 😁 and i was making a stress over nothing! And yes, it's so much better with sound ( that also counts for you guys 😉)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you for sharing! ❤

    • @annmoore8696
      @annmoore8696 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      How about getting a Hotel room 🤔

    • @MaryTheresa1986
      @MaryTheresa1986 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@annmoore8696Or buying the kids some earplugs.

  • @katherineolson8426
    @katherineolson8426 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Letting him know what you like can start before he’s even in your bed…. And afterward the next day
    Tell ‘em what you loved about being together

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      AMAZING love that share!!:)

  • @charlottekirchner2612
    @charlottekirchner2612 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    Thank you, Matt. Your video was very helpful. I’m not at that stage yet, being recently divorced after 25 years, still trying to figure out who I am. He was a narcissist and very verbally abusive. I’ll definitely subscribe and look forward to listening to more of your videos.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +13

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

    • @charlottekirchner2612
      @charlottekirchner2612 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Mat_Shaffer thank you 💕

    • @yvonnedwyer7756
      @yvonnedwyer7756 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      O
      God
      No!!!
      Charlotte!!!
      I’m still recovering from my 23 yrs.
      With Narc. husband
      Who
      “Eviserated “
      My
      Self
      Please…reconnect with
      You”
      As you re- enter
      Life????

    • @charlottekirchner2612
      @charlottekirchner2612 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@yvonnedwyer7756 so true, I am a shell of who I was and still trying to figure that out. I hate to be alone and it’s been a struggle, but I won’t allow myself to get into another relationship.
      Have you seen the movie
      “Women talking” it’s amazing

    • @megb8186
      @megb8186 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Mat_Shaffer this is one of the best responses - so encouraging

  • @ArtLoverScotland
    @ArtLoverScotland 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Love that youare SOOOO damn honest. It has opened my ears and eyes!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

  • @daphnen5296
    @daphnen5296 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thanks for being so raw. Also I like that you review your content and with simple vocabulary.

  • @mara11333
    @mara11333 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I like your hair😍 Nice!

  • @amandasmith8108
    @amandasmith8108 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    The thing is, women like all these things too. We love requests and feedback on what we're doing and whether it's good, or what else the man wants and how. Sometimes feel that the majority of these verbal tricks fall to us girls. Might just me me though!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for sharing!

    • @tammycastle4754
      @tammycastle4754 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I was just thinking about what she said. Its all ways the women who has to make things right

    • @tommac21
      @tommac21 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hes wrong anyway.

    • @seniorita3287
      @seniorita3287 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Exactly. Women are expected to moan for everything. Men basically have one move, where as a woman needs to be good at gymnastics.

    • @PhilipJames-hx3gp
      @PhilipJames-hx3gp ปีที่แล้ว

      hi 👋 pretty how are you doing

  • @reneemcphail467
    @reneemcphail467 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Exactly the things women want from him as well.

    • @allie936
      @allie936 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So true!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So glad my content supports you🙂

  • @Lisamichelejones
    @Lisamichelejones 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Love this!!! A lot of stuff I already do, but I feel like you put little extra! Thank you for being so candid! Would love to hear more of this…

  • @gaynorberry5759
    @gaynorberry5759 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    It’s good to know what guys really want. I find it hard to say what I want and get embarrassed by that. Now it’s been a while so this is research for the next guy 😊🙏🏻❤️ hopefully sooner rather than later 🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for sharing, Gaynor Berry🙌 Don’t give up on love sister! ❤️❤️

  • @marysmith6803
    @marysmith6803 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Mat, women desire and need that same sexual respect from men that you mentioned maturity my friend

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Great point! Thank you

  • @bernardette486
    @bernardette486 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Great content Mat 👌 keep them coming for valentines day 👍 👏 😀

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much! 😊If you’d like to dive even deeper, I’m hosting a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ 💖✨

  • @sherrywoodard7194
    @sherrywoodard7194 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Mat you’re always on point , thank you for the points 😛

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      so glad you enjoyed it! :)

    • @PhilipJames-hx3gp
      @PhilipJames-hx3gp ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm here looking for a beautiful wife 😍

  • @pricesunbury59
    @pricesunbury59 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I haven't had the pleasure of my man yet, cause we are in a long distance relationship. But I can tell you this. I am gonna use some of these when we do finally do it. Thank you Mat. I loved the video. ❤❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

  • @karenstrickland9958
    @karenstrickland9958 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Can’t wait to do all this with my new man🔥

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yaaas! You go girl!

  • @teenafrench7236
    @teenafrench7236 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Matt the Civil Servant of Female society sharing the laws of Love😉🙌🥇

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Haha, I’m honored! 😄 Spreading the laws of love is a duty I gladly take on! 😉 If you’re up for even more insights, I’m running a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s part of our beta launch, and you’re definitely invited! masteryofconnection.com/ 🙌✨

  • @pujarajak2740
    @pujarajak2740 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you so much for giving this knowledge coz no one will give this❤😊

  • @marandamarotz2611
    @marandamarotz2611 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hahaha...OMG that rooster crowing!...so funny. I love the way you give or talk about the message or information youre giving. Very nice

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

    • @ElizabethZacharia-bf3ol
      @ElizabethZacharia-bf3ol 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂

  • @MeganCleland111
    @MeganCleland111 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I want to express my immense gratitude towards you Matt. You have helped me unlock mu gifts and start sharing magic to help other women to step inti their true power. I was in tge grouo coaching you did for light workers with Aaron Doughty and Victor Oddo and since July I have been sharing my voice loud and proud. I cant wait to help and inspire women like you do and to the extent that you do❤❤❤

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Enthusiasm over skill, that's new to me. Interesting tips. Welldone Mr M

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks! Happy I could be of help ❤

  • @christymanning1186
    @christymanning1186 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Finally the teacher I been looking for brings the knowledge! Can’t wait to start practicing ❤

  • @crystalthow5533
    @crystalthow5533 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Wow Mat! I am a newbie here..... I am in a very happy relationship... And i randomly saw this, and thought why not improving that good thing? :) Thank you so much! I love your vibes!

  • @kimberlymanley7350
    @kimberlymanley7350 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love how well he explains everything, and how he recapsthe information that was given. Great tips!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks so much! 😊 I always aim to make things easy to follow and useful-glad it hit the mark for you! ❤🔥

  • @rosevr_boy_life
    @rosevr_boy_life ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Fixing to turn 60. But my sexual desires are higher than ever. Single widow now so I appreciate any advice that might help keep things HOT!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're on the right track!

  • @zaraz5130
    @zaraz5130 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This is off the charts 👏

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      BOOM so glad you enjoyed it!

    • @zaraz5130
      @zaraz5130 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Mat_Shaffer I think I'll try going from PG to Rated R to Rated XX on random days

  • @PlayMistie4Me
    @PlayMistie4Me ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Q.
    What do we do, when a guy does something to us sexually, that we really do not like?.
    Don't wanna hurt anyone's feelings but if we really don't like it, then what?.
    Either the guy is gonna be upset & I can totally understand that, or the woman says nothing & pretends she enjoys it, when really she doesn't?..🤷‍♀️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @bl7817
      @bl7817 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That can cover a lot of territory, but you can correct many things by putting your hand on top of his and moving it. Also, tell him SPECIFICALLY what you want. Like you would teach a friend a recipe in the kitchen.

    • @lilbit2274
      @lilbit2274 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I know i'm late answering your question, but communicate with anyone you're having relations with. Tell him when it hurts or you don't like something he's doing. You have to teach ppl how to treat you, not only in bed, but in all areas of your life. If he gets angry about you telling him how YOU want things done, run, don't walk to the nearest exit. If he truly cares about you, he'll be glad you're expressing your desires.
      Never have a man just for the sake of saying that you have a man. So many women do that, and they're blocking a good man from coming into their lives.

    • @PlayMistie4Me
      @PlayMistie4Me 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@lilbit2274
      Thank you so much for very kind reply.
      I'm still single.
      Seems the guys I meet, or rather show an intrest in me, turn out they only want one thing & leave me feeling like utter garbage.
      Have serious trust issues now so best I just stay alone now..😔

  • @TerresaOxentenko
    @TerresaOxentenko 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Was watching a Dystopian post apocalyptic movie once when there was a certain situation where an Alpha, seasoned warrior woman had captured a younger hot warrior man. While holding him hostage she sliced his clothes off using her razor sharp knife capped fingertips she had mounted on her hands. Then without speaking she flung him onto his back, with him finding himself landing with a hard thud onto her bed whilst in her bed chambers, guards watching and waiting for what would come next; and then as she placed herself on top of him, in the “Lilith missionary position” she went down on him, knife still pressed against his throat, and with a pensive gaze holding eye contact with him and then spoke for the first time, whispering into his ear and cheek to cheek, “ if you come first, I’ll slice your throat.” My heat raced, and me eyes got so big I had to pause the movie and asked myself “I wander what effect that would actually have on a man if it were under real circumstances?” Would he go into a panic attack or keep his cool, and hard on. Mind over matter I suppose.. life and death situation which demands pure self control of everything. If only every woman would do this before her man prematurely ejaculates. Lol. Thanks for the video… 😇

    • @ginaonyemaechi
      @ginaonyemaechi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      What was this movie called, then? Lol 😆

    • @TerresaOxentenko
      @TerresaOxentenko 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ginaonyemaechi it was on Netflix. I’ll check my history and send it to you soon. It was funny but not really. She was scary.

    • @TerresaOxentenko
      @TerresaOxentenko 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ginaonyemaechi it is called “Tribes of Europa” and it is season 1 chapter 4. There is only one season. I summarized as best I could remember. Think I’ll watch it again. That was taking intimacy to an entirely different level. I don’t know if it drove that man wild. But I’m sure it had an effect on him, if it were real that is. But if you watch that and then listen to this. It will make you laugh.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      HA great story! I mean guys are into all sorts of interesting fetishes... the only way you'll know is if you try it ;)

  • @piratelady6467
    @piratelady6467 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I went through a horrible divorce and this helps me get a better communication with the new guy

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m happy this resonated with you ❤❤❤

  • @kirstenkreativ3078
    @kirstenkreativ3078 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thankyou for all your encouragement ❤❤

  • @daughterofelohim7
    @daughterofelohim7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Vlogs like this gets me excited 😁

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So glad you enjoyed it! Many more to come

  • @marjoriegopee595
    @marjoriegopee595 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you for sharing.
    I had a good laugh at the "rooster."

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome. Glad you enjoy it!

  • @lauriesimonds9229
    @lauriesimonds9229 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Great video Mat (as always) - kudos for the video clips of Aladdin & When Harry Met Sally 😄

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you! 😊 So glad you enjoyed the video clips-had to throw in some classics like Aladdin and When Harry Met Sally! 😄 If you’re interested in more insights, I’m hosting a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ❤✨

  • @BraundaB
    @BraundaB 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you! I’m going to be with a guy for the first time in a long time! He’s not sure if he’s going to be able to please me 😂, he has no idea what he’s in for!! 😊

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Good luck!!

  • @patriciahernandez9135
    @patriciahernandez9135 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love the instructions, but that is me. I am not afraid of asking how i like it and vice-versa. Ja! I love it

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad to hear that. By the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting this month. It’s a great opportunity to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/

  • @Gabrielleoregon
    @Gabrielleoregon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Finally- some down & dirty advice!! THANK YOU for not .. beating around the bush 🍑🐱 🥁

    • @Gabrielleoregon
      @Gabrielleoregon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Also 👏 the hair.. background / newish spiritual vibes something’s shifted 🌌

  • @justbreathe1709
    @justbreathe1709 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That was brilliant
    I been doing this with my other half cos we are so crazy about each other. It just comes naturally

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @jenleyva2462
    @jenleyva2462 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is the first time I've really paid attention I love you & appreciate what your doing

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I so appreciate you saying that - that was so sweet of you!

  • @tinahuttner7280
    @tinahuttner7280 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So agree w this, so many ladies dont communicate and fake it in bed! Ladies this won’t help and is only a disservice on both people. This is why I don’t get women are so into one night stands, ladies do you really think the guy is going to care if he’s satisfying you, it’s called a one night stand for a reason, he’s never going to see you again.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing!

  • @MaitshotloMotshabi
    @MaitshotloMotshabi 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is the greatest teaching I ever came across I'm doing them and they work like magic my man is very satisfied

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yay! You deserve a great guy:)

  • @RachelSawyer78
    @RachelSawyer78 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Great advice! Thanks. I'm diggin the long hair too 😀

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yay! Thank you! So glad you like the hair haha.. its been a labor of love :)

  • @kathysochacki7935
    @kathysochacki7935 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thanks for the information I really wish I had this information sooner. My husband would never tell me what he wanted or what he liked. If I would have had this information sooner he might not have ended our 28-year relationship just out of the blue

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

    • @kathysochacki7935
      @kathysochacki7935 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Mat_Shaffer I hope so and I hope I can find one of them!

    • @jacquelinepaternoster2317
      @jacquelinepaternoster2317 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      aaww Kathy, I have to reply to you.. My husband left me after 34 years. But do you know what? You and I are going to have so much fun with the knowledge we are picking up from Mat... things happen for a reason .. we are both worthy of an amazing relationship xx

    • @kathysochacki7935
      @kathysochacki7935 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jacquelinepaternoster2317 thanks for the encouragement I appreciate it. It has been a really rough road and I truly hope I do find that someone special!

    • @kathysochacki7935
      @kathysochacki7935 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you very much. Yes we Both Deserve to find someone that will make us happy! Good luck to you I wish you all the best!

  • @charisselovelymaebasilio5167
    @charisselovelymaebasilio5167 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Im single for 3yrs...why am i here???😭😭

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Don’t give up on love sister! Soon there are good guys out there my dear! ❤

    • @AishaMusa-hl2cd
      @AishaMusa-hl2cd 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me too😢

    • @n0tfr0mth1sw0rld
      @n0tfr0mth1sw0rld 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Maybe you want to change that 😅

    • @EsemuCajetan
      @EsemuCajetan หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too watching single

  • @tinap8227
    @tinap8227 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I do these naturally when I'm with someone that I have chemistry with. In fact, I think that's how you know you do have chemistry, because he responds in a similar way which compliments it.
    There's some guys I don't naturally want to do this with however, and that's also a good way for me to know we aren't compatible sexually. I spent 2 years in such a relationship, never again.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Exactly! 👏 Chemistry really shows when both people naturally sync with each other’s energy. It’s great that you can now recognize when it’s missing-knowing that makes all the difference for future connections. 🔥💬

  • @Luna-hy5lj
    @Luna-hy5lj 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks so much for the advice! The tips sound really good, can't wait to practice it ☺️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @kennyroseko7159
    @kennyroseko7159 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hi Mat😊 Saying hi all the way from Philippines 🇵🇭 thank You for being so open More videos like this advice tips💋

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks so much my dear!

  • @cathrynwhiting9626
    @cathrynwhiting9626 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love the way you explain this i have done all of this already it is fantastic

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      My pleasure! Glad to help.

  • @florakassabaum4235
    @florakassabaum4235 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Love your video thanks you’re helping a lot of women realize that they need to be more open with their men in bed❤️❤️

  • @rondadepenbusch8152
    @rondadepenbusch8152 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m going through a divorce after 26 years and one day i hope to date someone some day and i needed to hear this !! Thank you for sharing!!

  • @Fritz13th
    @Fritz13th ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for being Bold and Brave sharing that seems to be one factor of building relationships.

  • @kathyabeauty
    @kathyabeauty 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I need a drink and a cigarette now!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks so much for your feedback!