Stop Being Used | Trent Shelton
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- It’s up to you. You decide who you let in your life, you set your boundaries. Do NOT allow people to be in your life that only want to use you. Know how to tell when someone is using you. You have greatness inside of you. STOP BEING USED.
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Trent Shelton is a former NFL wide receiver and author of The Greatest You: Face Reality, Release Negativity, and Live Your Purpose. Trent has collaborated with powerful voices over the years including Tony Robbins, Rachel Hollis, Tom Bilyeu, Gerard Adams, and many more.
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I was so afraid to be alone and i stayed in a real toxic relationship for years.... but this year I CHOOSE ME!!!!
Good for you girl! Get what you deserve!
Being alone is not a bad thing. It gives you time to get to know yourself and in the case your worth.
Need prayers to get out of toxic relationship
Me too. I’m getting to a higher level this year!! Trent this is your best video ever!! Thank you so much!! God Bless you
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People will waste your time and resources 🤷🏽♀️
Yep. For as long as we allow them to do so... Solid boundaries time!! 🙏🏻💪🏻♥️
Totally 💯
Do not allow it!
1000% agree
Truth
It's hard to find yourself after you've been broken by someone who sucks the life right out of you... Beginning to find me a day at a time
We got this 💐🌸💞
I've been here time after time after time and even now. I've decided as you, to be on my journey to greater.
It's been hard especially that my lov got into a horrible truck accident, 🚚 🛻 it's been very hard, but we have to leave the past behind to move forward es..
Some family members don't want the best for you, some actually don't like you for no reason and would try to destroy you and anything in your life. I know it hurts but we need to know we deserve so much better therefore we need to let them go even family.
my ex narc wife, then my adult teens ... done , no more abuse.
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Yes!!! And Ive just learned this about several friends of mine who never were friends all these years. Like you said they dont like you and dont want the best for you, i have family like that and Ive finally realized over the course of 3 years several 10 year plus "friends" were never real friends. Thanks for your comment. This video was spot on Trent is AMAZING. Love to you! 💥💕
I agree and it's a real shame that even family might not support you. I had to let some of mine go, too. Very disappointing, but now I'm on the look out for others who support me.
2020 was an ugly year but I kept working on myself for myself. Lost 63 pounds, removed several users from my life, and looking at job opportunities to advance my career. It all starts with me. Thank you Trent! Be blessed Brother.
Okay lady, yessss!! Rid of toxins and gains on victory!!! I feel than, 2020 is discovery a day realization off joirney. Creation of clear boundaries!! Happy to hear of the 63lbs lost, how did you do it!!
Good job with your weight loss ⭐🥀🐎
Congrats on the weight loss currently trying to lose 12 pounds myself
I hear ya I lost 115 got into nursing program this year and ended a year long distance relationship he was toxic
@@riorio-rt1oq Fantastic! Nursing School Is tough but if I can make it happen and graduated in 1993, you can too! You got this!
Nowadays, it's just so much going on and a lot of people are no longer genuine. Most good people are being used or taken for granted. You just need to guard your heart and be careful out here. It's dangerous.
Amen to that, very true. I personally feel like as long as a person has a relationship with God and his son Jesus Christ, they'll definitely be helped in this area in life. The spirit of decrement is a beautiful thing and shouldn't be taken for granted.
Unfortunately I keep noticing this over and over .
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Soo true
No lies told
Favorite frame "you are not a tool! Tools are to be used. You are to be loved". "If someone if giving you more questions than answers, you honestly got your anser". THANK YOU!
Thank you , you are on point 💯 love it.
I supported many people and they never supported me. So I'm not supporting them anymore. Good luck on finding good people like me.
” YOU need to associate with people that inspire you, people that challenge you to be higher, people that make you better. Don't waste your valuable time with people that are not adding to your growth. Your destiny is too important.”
Best COMMENT I've heard on here off the best video on TH-cam I've HEARD this week amen merry Christmas to you
Yes
Thank you Shelton I need to hear you god bkess you
Wow it was if you were talking directly to me
Yes, surround yourself with people that love you!
Trent says “once you go through life without the toxic stuff you never want to go back”, and he’s so right, the feeling of accepting what you want in your life and rejecting what you don’t want is so powerful and sets you free mentally. Love this mans videos.
He is so right!
Same
I went back .because I got lonely 😔
You right,I being single and happy 😃 for 7 year’s.
wow thanks for that comment wish me luck that's where I want to be without the toxic people I had choose t surround my self with I feel the pain no more enough is enough
Set yourself FREE!!! REMOVE the burdens of life!!! Disconnect! Disengage from TOXIC PEOPLE!!! BREAK FREE!!!
HalleluYah 🙏
Bruh chill
If someone cannot be happy for you when you are happy they are not your friend...so true.
“You weren’t created to live miserable or broken “ wowww
That's it right there in a nutshell!!
I agree!
Nonetheless, here we are with no way out.
Sounds like my husband who just takes, takes, takes. Time to say goodbye
If he's cheating, or beating...thats one thing, but what is he actually taking from you?
@@43one He could be taking away who she is.. when I was with my exe he was very toxic narcissist. I done everything for him, including starting a business for him. He treated me like I was nothing & destroyed my self-esteem & sense of self. I didn't even know who I was anymore, my friends & family would tell me how much I had change. I even went to counseling and my counselor was telling me I need to leave the situation. I came to a point where I felt like one of us had to die, & I honestly didn't care which one of us .. it was. Beating & cheating are not the worst things & person can do to u. A person can destroy u
@@anuncolonizedmind6296 Most women already know that their man is toxic,(a toxic guy is more attractive to women, than a nice guy) and have seen several red flags, but they believe they can change him! And when he doesn't change over time, then they cry about how bad a man he is! You already knew!
@@43one
Wow that's deep
Sounds like a toxic coworker I have
Know you worth in all relationships!
The fear of loneliness has to be the most common reason why many of us are stuck in toxic relationships!
Being to be nice will always make you a victim. If they call you for a just a favor all the time, they just using your time and resources.
Don't allow it!
Man I needed to hear this. "Look at yourself in the mirror and take responsibility for your life."
Exactly, YOUR life!
That's it!
I got rid of the stress I got rid of the person who used me and abused me
"It's Okay to put yourself first". Facts
people who dislike this video got handed the scissors....
LOVE THIS.
Yes!
EXACTLY!!!
The best advice I ever heard was "When the pain of staying outweighs the pain of walking away, you know what to do". Changed my whole life! Love yourself! You're stronger than you think!!
Amen!
Indeed It is less pain having them out your life you really Stop hurting and the pain slowly go away
Amen!!! 🙌
AMEN AMEN AMEN.. Life has become to much lately with the NARCISISTIC inhumane Mano married
Yes 🙌🏽
to cut people off, you have to get out of the denial in which you were.... and it's the most painful thing you'll have to go through, but it's a liberation like no other.
Walk by faith not by sight....w faith as small as a mustard seed we can move mountains....GOD TRULY GOT U!!!
Facts....I finally stopped being used and abused a year ago, and I feel great now
That's great!
I was used by my last boyfriend. I was the one always doing things for him and paying for nice food and birthday presents. On my birthday I didn't even get a card. I would pick him up from the airport every time he would come to see me and I had to get two buses to meet him in the centre of the city because it would cost him money. He said if you want me to meet you at the airport you can pay half for the taxi. I would take him to the cinema and pay, but when I would visit him and suggest to go out and watch a movie he would say no because it costs euros. I am no longer going to be used by anyone and finally concentrating on myself because the red flags were there but I ignored them
You have to respect yourself if a man don’t respect you then you don’t need him...!!
I can talk to them in for five minutes to know what kind of man he is..!!
Good for you. You deserve your happiness by setting your boundaries no matter what anyone else thinks or opinionates of you, end that cycle of unappreciative people and accept your peace of knowing no one has the permission to hurt you without you letting them, cut them off as soon as they show you how convenient it is for them to just use you, it is their loss, love and light to you beautiful!
@@selenamgarcia9344 Thank you so much for your lovely message 💖💖
@@hurleymichelle1 you are more than welcome 🌟
I been there as well
I learned this the hard way with former friends and even my most recent ex. His effort stopped after he pursued me very hard. Things became one sided and cold the last 2 months we were together. I'm thankful God urged me to walk away no matter how much it hurt, instead of keeping trying to fight for someone who could care less.
It really sucks when that person is your family.
People are afraid of being lonely. But there’s a peace in knowing that’s your energy and worth are protected. Most people never find out and other very late
Your own peace!
Lonely is peaceful
AMAZING video! I've been a doormat for 25 years, from many relationships, and FINALLY know my worth!! 💯💯💯
Good for u. Proude of u.
Not wasted years u learn and it will make u stronger.
Praise God
At least u learned. My time is more. We learned.
Soo true
I’m lost- finding my way back. Battling depression and anxiety over all of it. Broken- but I’m determined to mend and move on.
My husband is constantly belittling me; I’m going to be 59 here shortly and I am tired of being used. Again; thank you so much. 🙏. Peace be with you. 💖
Sometimes you have to get rid of toxic family members to live a peaceful life.
Yes 👍
I've gotten to the point where I'm a recluse. I blow people off and stay to myself. I get tired of these females wanting to call me to dump their problems off. They think I'm narcissistic because I will tell them to get another one when they have habitual relationship problems. My friend was like "another husband?". I said bluntly "YES, get another one. This seems to be an everyday thing." She was speechless, but I'm soooo tired of being an empath and people wanting free counseling and enabling to stay in their bullshit and stew in it. I'M DONE SON. LOL
Good. Protect your energy. Most people don't want their problems fixed, they just want attention.
Yes me 2. I stay alone in God's word no way to loose being prepared for his will. God bless you and keep you. 🌟🙏❤️🥺
@@patriciajohnson9718 same here!
@Kendra Bennett I can’t blame you! I’m also a recluse because of my being bullied, taunted, hurt, and gaslighted. I drop some people off like a hot potato 🥔. I also cannot please everyone. The only person I stay very close to along with God is my husband.
I hope you receive your hearts desires we are meant to be loved
Self ADVOCATE. STAND UP TALL!!! SPEAK 🗣️ UP for yourself health, MENTAL WELLNESS!!! OVERCOME DEPRESSION!!!
The most frightening part of letting go is being alone. The next is knowing where to start. I have gotten so caught up in satisfying toxicity I lost myself. I realized I am loving what I see and who I am when I gained knowledge of myself my strength and my power. It was then things started changing and I LOVE IT, I LOVE ME!!
Just ended a period of this...and feeling whole again
Glad to hear!
Im starting to really appreciate when people show me who they are. Sort of late in the game but better than never!Before I used to be in denial, searching and clinging to the few good traits I could find in toxic relationship or ones I grew out of. Im rising from the ashes now, I think. Feels like I am! I need discernment, straight up!
Thanks Trent. Your the best.
You wasn't in-denial just false hope that people really wouldn't do you like that because maybe your heart is too pure and you would never do the things people have done to you so. You just have faith in the wrong people .. glad you got out and found a way that's healthier and better
@@TheAlreadytaken24 Thank you so much! You have a kind understanding heart. God bless you, sister💖👑
@@872005Marissa welcome love.. be safe .. and love you first sweety.. hope you truly find happiness and someone who is willing to add value to your life and not be there to take away.. or use you.. 😘
Its .majority women using men, so when you talk about failed relationships most of the time women cause this
Selfish, Not. Just vulnerable, WEAK, 😨
SCARED!!! Know it! Truth!
"Refuse to be used" < Key words!!!!
"God is not going to take you to the level you want to be until you're ready to be there." This is so deep. I'm removing things out of my life as we speak. Keep speaking Trent
Wow 😳
YAZZ my family ganged up on me last Thanksgiving they laughed as i walked out the door.... there had many micro disrespects...that last time sent me running and crying... I said i breaking ties! Guess what credit shot up, bank approval job and savings came right after that blew their minds i am buying a house, and those who knew had more money made like they wanted to talk to me ..but found out thye just wanted mor and more money... I think God says stop..I di not uplift you for these people to now get you under a lying spell to get your money so now... weoucha!
It's not always about"cutting ppl off" OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND CHECK THEM. HOLD THEM ACCOUNTABLE. sometimes ppl want to see if ur a doormat. If u speak up for urself they now Kno u aren't the one to play w.
Facts!
What does that tell you if you need to straighten someone out in the first place. If you think anyone is going to change because you said so, think again.
@@littlemissy8356 this 70years old man used me and left me after 20 years all he do is want to duck no money no job a lot of talk
Cut them tf off
Bruh cut them off, they could be narcissistic
You are 100 percent correct! Work on yourself! Leave people behind that don’t care about you! Work on yourself!!! Stay busy working, clean and organize your house. Save money for your old age! Run away from USERS! You know who they are!!
My mother used to be my motivator since she's been gone I've been stagnant grieved severely for years lot of health issues severe and devastating God has healed me so much mentally and physically and needing to get my life back again I've been longing for this kind of motivation thank you you've already helped me bunches
U speaking to me. i am tired of being used like tool's 😓
was exhausted from being used as one-woman-Amish-army ;-)
I do for my partner everyday cuz I choose to. But I never get the same in return. When I express how I feel I am complaining but she can tell me how she feels and still makes it my fault. She changed. And is lying n hiding things. What do I do. I dont wanna leave cuz at the end of the day she is amazing. I just wanna knw how to fix it
You’re right Trent, you’re right. I’m tired of accepting it all.
I'm so tired of helping people. I'm vowing this day forward to not letting people make me feel like I'm wrong for not helping because I never get anywhere close to what give back. I don't give to receive but it's like nothing I do is reciprocated. I'm done. So glad I came across this video
This was so so good I’ve been messing with such a toxic person he is very manipulative going out with other girls and comes to me when he wants to be babied! I’ve never allowed this to happen and I’m allowing it ugh
I’m not no one’s opportunity
Nope!
Thank you. My mother never loved me and the world of false friends , relationships, exes , etc. I've allowed them all to drink from my cup half full and they drank it all & left me my cup empty with no drip. 🙏💛👑
Aww that makes me so sad. Shine God's light that is in you. He wil fill your cup. Give it to God he is so good and he will show you the right way. Forgive yourself and be the new you. I love you.
I understand you my mother never loved me either I have three other siblings that she does everything for she don’t even have anything to do with my kids
Same happened to me and thank you Patricia..God is getting me thru life bc without Him i am nothing..1Corinthians 13
Ty Trent for inspiring words..its hard to change from years of abuse..
Catch some rain and refill
Same here
I let to be used for too long.. it drained me.. became empty... picking pieces of what left of me... learning love myself... cutting lose parasites in my life.. thanks.. lots of love ❤️ 💕💕
Yes ; get persons who want to pour into your cup.not just drink from it. Surround yourself with quality people who uplift you and you uplift them too.🙏
That's even family
Oh they could be the worst.
That’s the Truth mean ones
The hard thing about family is like your stuck with them
They be the main ones
There's no one left, it's unbelievable, once I started seeing the game; all I saw was PLAYER'S
Me too😔
Me to
I know - it's so sad 😢
Yea this is true I don’t want to question their loyalty. Yes someone who loves you will not make you to question yourself.
It’s about time for me to make this choice. When family, friend, and men use you. It’s about time to live for me.
I’m gonna be 61 years old about to make second life time change my four children disappointed me there father my hubby of 47 years just made me feel all those words your talking about thank you for those words 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏god bless you & yours
Good for you! It's NEVER too late to take your life back and live it to the fullest.
The same exact thing happining to me married 20 years my husband can't handle my broken heart senses of what my adult children have done no support system god bless you!!!
God Bless you 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼💐😇😇 Enjoy the rest of your years given to you. Love yourself
You didn’t find Trent Shelton’s videos by accident!
Best of luck to you Virginia, pray, trust, obey & listen to that quiet voice you hear FIRST… not the loud voice that usually comes after the quiet one- that’s usually not from God & usually the easiest choice.
I’m 54 and ready to start being happy too, my children are teens & 1 adult, they need me to be happy & focused on them… not the drama their stepdad & step siblings bring to the table every day!
@@SamusOG 😳🎯 the quiet voice over the loud voice. WOW! THAT'S HUGE! THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR COMMENT!❤💕❤
Sacrifice is a rewarding climb
Facts. 💯
Yep wow. They use. Me up. Ok Friend 💝😍
"Get around people who want to pour into your cup not just drink from it".... Amen to THAT!!❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼
"If it's not reciprocated, it's got to be annihilated" About your whole video Trent, Wow! Just Wow!
Don’t let it make you a victim
Heyo;) Been mentally & physically Beaten Down for 27 years.....Recently found the courage to leave,lived in my vehicle while working and saving rather than go back ...I made it,I have my own home for a month .He buggin now,calling,fighting with me if I can’t take him where he needs to go,making petty threats..,I almost fell back into his bs..
you made me cry,I your truth punched me harder than he ever could with his fist or words of hate...I appreciate you ! Keep on keepin on, 💫💯 ☮️
Stay strong god is by your side.
Block him, don't let him know where you live, he doesn't deserve access to you
^^^^
I hope all is well
“Don’t be afraid of losing people cause you to lose yourself” That’s powerful! I needed to hear that
If it ain’t reciprocated, it need to be annihilated!! Noted!!!! I’m worth so much more than what I’ve accepted, I REFUSE TO BE USED!
I’ve got a friend from High School, we’ve been friends for 44 years. She always has my back. I can trust her with my life. Thank God for such a friend. Thanks Trent this video not only warns us about users but reminds us about those who have our backs.
Be careful
Beautiful! Treasure that friendship ❤️
Have you all been in some near "life and death" circumstances? You can see the truth in those situations...
How negative could you possiby be to dislike this 😂😂 the guilty always run but thats none of my business
I choose me and I will choose the people that help me grow in every sense of the word. Thank you Trent
Love yourself and know your worth.
I need to hear this right now. Thank you! Hes a narcissist and I need to walk away! Love your motivation and outlook, and your truth! Uppity are 100 and the people that have contact with you are do blessed!
THEY AREN'T GOING TO LEAVE YOU WITH MORE QUESTIONS THAN ANSWERS! TRUTH! SMH!
So how are you? Did you walk away?? I need help i need to dig to find the fight in me.
Trent are speaking the truth. I'm so sick and tired of being used in my romantic relationships. I'm the type of person that I'm there and willing to help anyone. It gets me trouble with being used. I'm ready for it to stop.
The healing process. This is real. Thank you for speaking the truth. My confirmation.
I always attract people who asks me for money and I'm sick of it they think because of my generosity so I've decided to not allow them anymore I rather be alone working on my own goals and pursue my dreams
I am worthy. I’m tired of settling. I want the world. You’ve helped me want to be healthy. I’ve already lost 25# and up to walking on average 8,000 steps a day. Thank you so much for your positivity. I also stopped smoking. Thanks.
So true. Empathic people have to be more realistic sometimes with healthy boundaries and true strong standard period. Thank you for sharing and Hi from France ! All the Best !
You are so, so right! In the past year I had to cut people from my life, because I was always giving and they try to make me feel bad because I wasn’t giving them what they wanted and just because God has blessed me. Now, I don’t care what they say or do. They can kiss my Brown Betty because I am not going to take it anymore!!! Trent I love your TH-cam channel.
I'm female who's a drug dealer and a prostitute but I got the best heart or what I thought was the weakest heart in the world but it's not that!!! I'll never get greatly ahead doing what I'm doing cuz I give too much too many people that are using me I'm 53 years old been to prison three times and I'm just beginning to realize this listening to you Trent and I thank you and maybe if I keep on I've gotten rid of some people in my life and took them back but I'm done and I'm feeling strength and power by sticking to my decisions thank you and I pray for a better life but I believe I'm in this life because who's going to reach the bottom if somebody ain't at the bottom thank you Trent you truly chose an blessed....
Your Right! I Cut people off. I’m surprised by my actions. It frees my mind from having to deal with their negative and criticism on me and my family. Thank you Trent❤️
It dawned on me that apart from the intimate plus points of mine and my Ex's relationship, we only seemed to be together when I had money and he didn't. Then come his payday we'd argue over something and I'd be gone. I felt cheap and used and my insecurities were taken advantage of. No more. 🍒
God spoke to my heart through this message today! God Bless you!
I hope I’m like this and have this strength in 10 years…even earlier..straight up!
It’s hard to tell when they are wolves dressed as sheep.
So true
Not so ! If u anything like how trent is ...u can see right thru they bs💯
@Sarai One of the best gifts of being a woman is our intuition .. trust your intuition trust yourself don’t second guess it. You’ll be able to see any wolf no matter how well they’re disguised
Check the 👣 prints.🎯💯
Pray to God and you will be covered in the blood of Christ and the wolf in sheep's clothing will be revealed to you
Sometimes if you want change, you have to be the change. I love this video it refreshed me on boundaries and putting myself first.
I needed to hear every word of every one of these. I always put other ppls feelings b4 my own n I end up fd up in the end. Preach BABY!!!
The truth shall set u free, everything u are saying is on point, thank u
God used you to tell me this because I needed to hear this! Thank you Trent for the message!
Amen! Thanks for this confirmation.
I've been used an hurt a lot for many years by different people so this hit home so I'll be making a lot of changes in my life and heart by the grace of God
This is so powerful! It took a long time for me to realize some of my family was nothing but negative and that I was just a pawn to them. I used my scissors and cut them off. It is hard to cut out family but you are right, any person can be that negative person.
Your are a blessing to people who are stuck and-scared but u In courage the weak and open our eyes !
Recognize temporary fulfillment
Yes!
Boom! 💯🎯👍❤
Good afternoon hope everyone is having a great day
Thank u. Same to u
Likewise
This the most strongest and straightforward I've ever heard. Big thank you
Don’t except people’s bad behavior. Good things come from good behavior, bad things come from bad behavior🙏🏼
Accept the reality of the thing
I’m listening and I’m not only listening I’m hearing there is a difference Between listening and hearing and it’s crystal clear
I love your encouraging words.
Exactly people can't change you, or me or them!! Change start with the person and by the grace of God will positive change take place!! 😊
its hard to stand up for yourself but its worth it and its bring u peace of mind and give u strength
i love u all
Good Vibes & Peace
Don’t let the voids in your life control your life ! Oh Trent ! F... I need the scissors, I’ve been strung along in a relationship I’ve been living in brokenness, but f.. that I want the best for me ... I love your words snd reality thank you 🙏🏻 I will accept it and change it thank you !🤗🙏🏻
I will absolutely pray for you trying to heal also, blessings from Australia 💕
I wish i would have grown up listening to this individual. Very wise. Thank you for your wisdom.
Thank for your words to think about.