Watching their videos make me feel like they are still here...I surely wish they had lived into their 90s or 100...good people like this should never go as early as they did.....Thanks for keeping their videos on....I missed some and enjoy going back and watching them..🌷🌷
We're from Ohio, definitely in the north. Politeness is important. When my Mother was dying from cancer she was hospitalized and in pain all of the time. One of the hospital staffers was a young woman from the south. Without fail when she entered Mother's room she would greet my Mother with, "Hello, Miss Mary, can I do anything for you today?" That greeting invariably made Mother smile. Even though there was nothing medical that could help that greeting eased Mother's pain a little and I believe helped Mother feel respected and valued. It meant a lot to both of us.
I was going thru the McDonalds drive-thru yesterday for a large sweet tea, and as the cashier in the drive thru took my money, she told me "Well don't you look pretty today" I can't begin to tell you how that made my day. I was feeling so down in the dumps and she just made my day
Phyllis Stokes Hi Ms Phyllis Thanks for the lovely videos..I can relate to what I see even though I am from India .Hi Mr Bucky..I enjoy hearing from you too. All the best..God Bless Maureen Samson
I'm finding more and more that people in the service industry just don't understand this. I can't tell you how many I have dealt with that before they should say "thank you for shopping with us. Have a good day." They are already talking to the next customer (or worse, another employee) as if I was invisible. To tell/correct them? I'm not sure it has much merit - they are too dense to understand. But I now write the Manager and corporate.
I know this is an old post but when I read this it made me smile because I had a lady tell me yesterday that I was beautiful and had pretty eyes, have to say I was feeling bad fighting with my husband and for the past few weeks the wrinkles on my face are getting so bad thats it's driving me nuts, so having someone say something so sweet helps the heart.
Miss Phyllis, I believe you and Mr Bucky have convinced me to move over where you're at...lol! Times have changed so much and it saddens me. I don't ride the bus here, but I've heard from so many people that elderly folks, with and without disabilities, who have to ride the bus have been left standing because these young people don't have enough respect to give up their seat. I know you've visited Albuquerque before and I'm not sure if you noticed, but people aren't all that friendly here. I smile at complete strangers and say hello. In return I'm given dirty looks or am just completely ignored. I've raised my boys right and they do have a lot of respect for their elders. For that I'm thankful. One quick story I wanted to share with you before I end this long comment is one day my mom, boys and myself were at a stoplight. There was an elderly woman in a wheelchair and she was trying to cross the street.. Now this wheelchair was one of those that you have to use your arms to manually roll them. She was struggling and these cars were honking and yelling at her. My younger son jumped out of the car and ran to her aid. He pushed her safely across the street. She couldn't stop thanking him :) I was so proud to see my son do that without being told!
Nadi Da - I was thinking the same thing when I was listening to Miss Phyllis's video. Ok, I'm moving to SC and they're gonna adopt me, my husband & 2 kids. Husband & I both know our son can use a little more reminders to use the manners they were taught. Kids aren't rude, they just conveniently forget to use their manners. Always seems like we're having to remind them. Ok, what do you say. Thank-you What do you say when you didn't do it on purpose. Sorry That's not how you ask, you know how to ask. Please.......
I have lived in five different states and many more than that many cities, and I have to say that Albuquerque was the most unfriendly place I ever lived. If you would ever say hello to a stranger you were eyed with suspicion. After a year there I figured their motto was, "I don't know you so that means I don't want to know you and it is inappropriate for you to greet me at all"!
All that said, nowadays I'm a senior and young people often make older people stand on buses here in Austin, Texas now. It is saddening. I think we have a very high population now of Californians and other transplants.
I recently found her on You tube, and I am enjoying watching the two of them either when she is cooking or sharing their life. I am so sad to have found out they both have passed. Thanks to the family to keep them up.
I really enjoyed this! My mom taught us, 'Ladies First', and you never allow a lady to pay. My dad always rose out of his chair when a lady entered the room, even when I was a teenager and I would bring friends home, he would get up from his recliner. My friends would get such a kick out of it, but you could tell they loved it. I tried my best to instill these manners while raising my two sons, and I think some of it stuck because they get complimented quite often on them.
Wonderful! Manners make living so much nicer. I'm sure southern ladies are pleased to acknowledge the kindness extended by a gentleman with a nice "Thank you" as well!
I'm from California and moved to Florida when I was 14. I thought it was the most respectful thing I ever saw when cars pulled over to the side of the road to let a funeral procession pass by! I also love how persons of all ages say "Miss" in front of my first name, too. Over all I love the South and consider myself a Floridian at this point.
I really enjoy these talks with y'all. It's like I'm sitting in the same room with y'all and talking. I have lost both my parents. One in 2006 and the other in 2012 and this was like I was with them again having a conversation about the good old days. Thank you for that. I miss them so much. Love to you and Mr. Bucky
I absolutely love southern manners. I live in Canada and we are known as a polite, friendly nation. Southern manners are something this world needs. Showing respect, being friendly and kind, sharing your bounty with others is the foundation of a good solid society. I love the two of you so much for bringing to the forefront humanity's best behaviour. I was brought up in the 60's by parents who instilled these values in my sister and I. I try to live my life being kind, respectful and loving to friends, family and strangers. This world is in great need of "Southern Kindness". Bless you both for sharing these values with us.
Celina Sanchez It’s very sad. Mr Bucky passed away in his sleep back in July I believe. Miss Phyllis passed just 6 months later in January. We miss them dearly
In New Zealand we rather much followed all those rules as I was growing up. It was noticed the further south you went the more friendly people were. About seven years ago my husband was starting to suffer mild Alzheimer’s but still liked to drive to a country town 15 mins. away to do the grocery shop. This particular day I gave him a signed check to have the amount filled in at the shop. He was told at the checkout they don’t take cheque’s. That made him very confused. Apparently saying what am I going to do. The kindest lady came up to him and said , I’ll pay. She put her phone number in his wallet and tore up the cheque. When he got home there was a little note from the lady explaining. I immediately rang here and thanked her. I mailed out a cheque to her the next day. That was a huge kindness for it was for quite a large amount of money. I will never forget her. She lived 50 miles into the country or I would have gone to see her. Now I am pretty much housebound and people are so kind to me over the phone. It is a lovely place to live.
Thank you so much, y'all ! I'm from Wisconsin and every time I meet someone who is kind and respectful they were from down south! I live in the south part of Nebraska now which is the farthest south I ever lived.. Not far enough , I'm sorry to say to truly find manners..But I went to Mississippi five different times to help with relief work after Katrina and my husband and I loved it so much we even tried to move there once! Being called ma'am and such..wonderful scriptural way of acting!
I'm from Sweden, in Europe so that is some distance away, but we do have similar ways of being nice to others. While we as a people aren't very religious we still attend church for some events, such as weddings, christenings and confirmations and of course then we dress our best. I'm 26 so I can't speak for everyone in my age group but I was raised with a certain amount of respect towards your fellow man, if an elderly or a pregnant woman were to come on a bus or train I would offer up my seat and to me being a woman I would do this even if the elderly in question was a man and while some decline, they always do so with a smile. We have a saying in Swedish that is a bit course to translate but it goes something along the lines of 'Do at least one good deed a day', for example at my local bakery I was in line to get my order and I wanted some of their sliced breads with toppings, there was only one left of the one I wanted with the topping I liked and when I placed my order the man behind me, probably having his lunch off work sighed and scratched his head and said "Well, it's just one of those days, nothing is going my way today" He had been eyeing the same slice, now I'm not a picky eater when it comes to what they serve at that bakery so I asked the lady assisting me what she could recommend out of the other slices and toppings and bought one of those instead. The man behind me was a bit shocked, but he grinned from ear to ear and thanked me and the lady assisting us said "Well you've done your good deed for the day." This is getting rather long, so I'll end by saying that, religion or not, I wish more people of all ages would show one another more kindness, something as simple as a smile and a Hello can brighten any day for anyone. I wish you a good evening, Nat
I live in Virginia also and my biggest Southern trait is having and using and teaching manners. I love the saying do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I wish that more people would teach this to there children and grandchildren
I love your chats even though I wasn't raised in the South my mother raised me the same as most southern mothers and I try to instill that with my children as well because manners are super important. And being nice to people isn't that hard and it doesn't cost a penny .
My dad always got out of his chair and stood up when a lady entered the room, even when he was in his late 80’s, and not well. We were taught to always wait till everyone’s food arrived in a restaurant before we all started eating. Good old days.
Thank you Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky. Growing up and born in Savannah, Ga., My dear sweet mama taught me all of these niceness rules. I am so proud to be a Southern Woman. I always realize how lucky I am when I travel to other places and think "There truly is no place like home". I now live in Thomson, Ga and I love the people there. Country folk. I also wanted to let you both know that my precious daughter Taylor, whom you prayed for recently, passed on to her home in glory on July 16th, 2018. I am currently making arrangements and am experiencing the most sorrow I've ever felt. Watching your video today brought a smile to my face and a thankfulness in my heart that I taught my daughter these same Southern Nicenesses. Thank you both again.
WE SOUTHERNS WILL PULL OFF THE ROAD AND TURN OUR CAR LIGHTS ON OUT OF RESPECT FOR A FUNERAL POCESSION MEETING US IN COMING TRAFFIC. WE NEVER TRAVEL ON OUR WAY TILL THE LAST CAR HAS PASSED.
Anything can cause an accident. Some things are worth doing just because they express the dignity of the person doing them and the persons they are done for.
Also out in the rural areas when a funeral passes people outside of their homes will stand if they are sitting on the porch or standing in the yard they will stop what they are doing out of respect.
I think people from the south would be surprised to know we in Oregon and Washington do these things as well..its how ones raised I do really believe more than geographical location.
So thankful for these videos of Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky to have to rewatch since they aren't with us any longer, I enjoyed them at the time I first watched them, but I really cherish them now! ❤ It really does emphasize the need to appreciate what you have! Really miss them so much! 🙏
I really enjoyed this topic! I am in Texas. When a new family or person moves into your neighborhood, we prepare a dish, or a pie, or a loaf of bread, or a basket of vegetables out of our gardens, and take it over to the new neighbors to welcome them. Same thing when someone is sick or when someone passes on, we take a prepared dish to the family so they won't have to worry about cooking while grieving. I also remember fondly of my Granny faithfully going to get her hair done every Friday, so she would look her best in church on Sunday. If someone pops in for a visit, always ask them if they've eaten and if they'd like a refreshment. And if your going to town, ask your elderly neighbors if they need anything from town. Kindness is like a boomerang, it always comes back to ya. Big hugs & God bless ya's, Catfishchic
I loved this! These are all the values and manners we were taught by our Depression/World War 2-era parents that sometimes seem to have gone out of vogue these days. But these things are still so important -- I am really happy y'all talked about this These ways show value to others and make life happier and gentler. It's the way the Lord wants us to treat others -- part of being "salt and light" in this world. I live in Texas, and I know what you mean about everybody waving at one another whether they know them or not.lol You and Mr. Bucky are such sweet folks! God bless!
Phyllis has passed away. She went to the heavens on 1/25/2020, and was buried next to her husband as planned the next day. I will always look back on your amazing videos and remember you as such a selfless person, with great detail and comforting ways of showing others.
Very nice table talk, I live in Georgia. One thing I have learned from traveling cross country is there are good and bad people no matter where you live or visit. If only more people were like Miss Phyllis & Mr Bucky~ what a wonderful place this world would be. I always say hello and smile to EVERYONE I see, you never know what someone is dealing with or going through in their life
I was raised in Lincoln, Nebraska with the same politeness you speak of. I still follow that way of life and it is just second nature. I can't imagine not being polite. Thanks for the lovely stories.
Two Beautiful hearts!!! I just adore kindness and feel the same way you both do. wonderful videos you post. I have already made many of your dishes, and enjoyed them all so far. I will be trying the buttermilk biscuits today. Thank you for your words of encouragements.. sometimes in todays world, such reminders are necessary for all. You sure put a smile on my face. Thank you. Teresa
Here in Kansas people pull over for a funeral. Remarkably, I have even seen young people show kindness and politeness to strangers. They must have good parents. :)
I love your videos! My grandparents got married in the 50's they were each other's one and only until they passed a few years back. I'm 'northern' raised but 'southern' born and my dad was 'southern' born and raised. I was raised with similar values to what you described in this video. It's just not something you see too often anymore. I can't possibly describe how tickled pink I was quite a few years back when one of the well-known business owner's in our area held a door for me. Values and hospitality or 'niceness' just isn't something you really see anymore. I always laugh and tell everyone that between clothes and social graces and values I would have been happier in the 50's.
I was raised in the south. My family lived in Florida, Mississippi, and Georgia. My husband had a military career, so we lived in Mississippi and in Texas for some of those years. We loved Texas! Anyway, something my husband did for me while we were dating and still does to this day is open doors for me (and other women who might be with us). When we are coming out of church each Sunday I look around in the parking lot and I can honestly say, I never see a man opening the car door for his wife...even amongst the senior men...I don't know if that is just the way it is here in WV or if it is that way in most places these days. But, I am always so proud of my husband for showing me this respect.
Isn't it amazing how any small act of sincere kindness can make us feel so appreciated & brighten our entire day. Let's hope it contagious... wouldn't it be great if kindness or nice became the new cool thing to do?! Going to be praying for this to occur! ✨🙏✨
sagrammyfour I totally agree with you. I don't care for the reply of "No Problem!!" either. Nothing takes the place of the old fashioned, "You're Welcome!!" I am old school and old fashioned too sagrammyfour 🙂❤
I just want to say that I was born in Philadelphia, and my Daddy always said it happened due to his naval ship coming into port when the war ended and he met and fell in love with my mother. He was a genuine southern gentleman, and he and my mother agreed to remain there until her parents past away. They would visit his mother, a widow from the time my father was 2 years old, here in the south. His mother had plenty of caring children still here, and various family members. We moved here when I was 3 years old, and all of my immediate family absolutely loved being here! I can tell you that my southern grandmother made sure all her grandchildren knew respect of children were to be seen and not heard, but all of my cousins and I somehow enjoyed that. Adult conversations were not to be interrupted, and “little ears” did not need to hear adults. I love the southern charm and politeness! School was wonderful because we had prayer and bible reading & the pledge to our flag, and we knew our teachers were Christians! I’m so proud of my adult son & daughter who were taught southern politeness, and I can tell they are proud to be a southern gentleman and southern lady. They grew up in church and still love going to church services and being involved. Faith is so important!
I love watching the videos of Miss Phyllis and Mr Bucky. I hope you keep them up. I know we will all love watching them over and over. You are together again. May you rest in peace love you two beautiful people. My condolences to all the family.
Remember the song, "Little drops of water, little grains of sand, make the mighty ocean and the pleasant land." Many deeds of kindness many words of love, make the world more pleasant like that heaven above.
I am a 20 yr Air Force veteran and have associated and worked with people from all over the country. Two incidents come to mind re: niceness or "manners". One was a couple who were from S.C. They had three sons (handsome all) and the first time I met them (ages 12, 8, and 5) their mother introduced me as Miss Patricia? Wow! I didn't know to feel honored, aged ( Iwas 33) or flattered! Well eventually I decided to be honored. This woman who grew up in Mass. and N.H. smiled every time I heard the boys greet me with the honorific. The second was regarding avery good friend from KY. We would look at each other a little stupid when we first tried to understand what the other was saying. So to help her out I slowed my speech remarkably and she agreed to teach me how to speak "southern". I also tried to pronounce my " rrrs" and she worked on using the letter " y ". I don't think that these were the best examples, but they sure made my life richer. ........... I just found your channel a week ago and I'm addicted. Love it!?
Patricia Norton, I like where you stated "Well eventually I decided to be honored." I am from Long Island, New York and was brought up to respect others but we did not have the Mame and Sir. My parents moved down to Florida in the early 90's and I was down there a lot. It took me a while to get used to being called Sir by my parents friends and children. I thought right off the bat that it was a wise ass remark and it made me feel old too! I had to "decide" to accept it as respectful. I also had to stop myself from telling them what to do because I felt like the boss :) John.
awesome !! My people are from the north , these things were taught to me as a child. It doesn't just bless the person you are kind to but itmakes you feel like a real classy person.
I truly enjoyed this video of Miss Phyllis & Mr. Bucky! We are all so blessed to have these video's to look back upon since they both passed away! Love these chat's they use to do!
Hi! This video brought back a lot of memories. I was born and raised in Jersey but my parents are from GA so I know exactly what you're talking about. I'm now living in Central FL and when I first moved here, I had to get used to a few things, besides pumping my own gas! Yes, we had to wear our best to church. My grandmother used to say "you don't wear your slave clothes to church, you're suppose to look different on Sundays." My Mom's hat, shoes and purse had to match and he always carried her gloves. I can go on and on.... thanks for making this video. Kids these days need to see it.
I was born and live in Indiana where you come across a few nice people but Southern Hospitality is the best I spent every summer in Southern Kentucky and learned the southern way. My Mom always said Do unto Others!! Today people wear jeans or shorts to church but I feel like its an occasion to dress up. We even called my Moms cousin Aunt and Uncle. Yes Sir , No Sir and Yes Ma'am and no ma'am!! Love watching you both you are adorable and remind me of my Southern relatives!!
I was raised that we had to wear a dress in church, but I do now wear slacks to church. Since my parents raised me this way, I wore a dress at my mother's church funeral. I recall some of my sisters wearing slack because it was cold, but I wouldn't. It's just a little thing and only I know that I did this out of respect for my mom and how she raised me.
I’m from Pennsylvania and on a couple of occasions I have done this...we were out for dinner and our waitress was absolutely wonderful. She approached us with a smile and her eyes just lit up from that smile. She didn’t rush us to get the order and treated us like we were the only ones in the restaurant. It was packed! When we were done I stuck my head in the kitchen, asked for the owner, and told them what a great job she did and told them they should appreciate her for all her hard work. Waitressing is a hard job. You’re on your feet for 8 hours and some people can be nasty. I made her day and I felt good for doing it.
Ah bless. So many of your posts I've not seen yet Miss Phyllis. It's so nice to see you both in this post, when you were both with us, Looking happy and well. This is how I will remember you. X
I'm from New Jersey, when I went to the beautiful state of Alabama, to drop off my third child my son David , I was very anxious. He was going to attend college in Hanceville. I was blown away on how nice and welcoming everyone was. They accepted him with open arms and hearts. He is now 24 years and every year he goes back down to see his Alabama family. It warms my heart that my son is loved by so many in Alabama. Two of his high school friends are now living in Alabama because of how David was received there. I was born in Portugal, the South and Southern values remind me of my birth country. I feel every much at home when I visit our southern states. You guys are the best.
I agree. My adult son, nearly 40, is doing his part to revive the custom of throwing up his hand at oncomers while driving. We live in Georgia, and things have certainly changed in the last 2 or 3 decades.
I live in California and one day, when I was walking toward the courthouse, in the rain, a gentleman with an umbrella, walking towards me, gave me his umbrella. I was so surprised! I thanked him profusely and treasure the umbrella he gave me.
I adore hearing y'all's stories.... I miss my grandparents.. I truly wish I could sit and have table talk with them now and this reminds me of that 😊♥️♥️thanks for sharing
I agree with many of your mentioned southern kindness. Although I was born and raised in New York, but I lived most of my married life in Germany (20 years) and Texas (15 years) I live my life doing as I would like others do to me. The older I get the easier it gets and it seems others are less sceptical of my action of kindness. The best is that most people will respond with kindness back. Those that don't it's their sad loss.
IKR? We Texans come out of the womb respecting others. My daddy had a temporary job in Michigan when I was in kindergarten. I got in trouble from my teacher for sayin yes ma'am and no ma'am. She said I was being disrespectful to her because she was too young to be called a ma'am. She called my daddy and told him what I had done and he was furious with her. He told her he raised me to say yes sir, no sir, yes ma'am and no ma'am. Also to always say please and thank you. He told her to never admonish me again for being respectful, and that she needed to learn some manners. I was so happy when that job was over and we were able to move back home to Texas.
I'm watching this video three years after it was posted and just nodding my head to everything you say! While there are nice (and rude) people everywhere, "southern" is more than just a location- it's a way of being for most of us. I'm from southern Kentucky, most of my family is in Texas and we spend so much time there, I call us TexUkians.;) Even at 35, I wouldn't dream of calling someone by their first name. We're also very big on ma'am and sir. I taught my daughter to say ma'am as soon as she started saying yes and no. She said "yes ma'am" to everyone, including her daddy and grandfathers, until she was nearly 3 years old. Haha I can't help but bristle every time I hear some kid say yep or no.
Mississippi here! Thanks for this good vid. Im almost 50 and I still say 'Ms' too. I lived in Massachusetts for two years, couldn't wait to get back home. You tell it Mr. Bucky! You were raised right, as my mother would say.
I think it just depends on the person, really, my manners are so similar to yours. I am from California, born and raised in Southern California almost 48 years and I would never have given a second thought if I was on a train and a situation had happened like that where my child was excited to see antelope etc. Some people are weird like that but it's all situational and depends on the person. I also was raised with a very southern grandmother so maybe my manners are different because of her, but I don't think so. I would like to think that people are just good in their heart and if that is the case then their manners will also be good and they will be kind. I move out of the way of others at the grocery store, I also let others go in front of me at the store if they have less items & it doesn't matter if they are older or younger I do it regardless of age. I guess I just try and be as kind as I possibly can. Kindness doesn't cost a thing.
When living in Northern Florida I loved that I was told to have a “Blessed Day” many times during the day. And I love that my grand children that are raised in SC always say yes Mam and yes Sir.
When a neighbor's cousin visited from NY, he asked about the waving, and Piggy Wiggly. Funny. I worked nights in a hospital one of my favorite patients was an 85 yr old man. One night I knocked on his door. I heard him tell his daughter to answer the door, by that time i had opened the door and was at his bedside, telling him "Mr xxx, this is the south we just come on in, look in the fridge see if there's anything we want, check out the closet. By that time all three of us were laughing. His daughter laughingly said that true. One of my best memories and a favorite patient. Checking the fridge and the closet was something i did at my mother's and at my siblings.
I was born and raised in Oregon..and we raised our children and live in Washington many yrs now, but most of those qualities I was raised with here as well, although I must say I do not see too many of them in everyday life anymore. Love watching the both of you..
I am from michigan and I married a southern gentleman, took me a long time to get used to some of his habits, he is always so polite to everyone, he taught me some southern manners : )
Thank you, Mr. Bucky!! These are old fashioned Christian/Southern values that we were raised with. What a wonderful heritage! You sound so much like my dear Daddy. He lived by these values, too. Unfortunately, we're seeing this less and less, even in the south.
Love listening to you both! and love the way you both speak with each other. I was raised with alot of the manners you describe although i live in Maryland (born in D.C.) Thank you for discussing this. :)
What a great legacy these videos are. Even though these 2 special people are gone, we can still come back and watch them. RIP Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky.
Always complement people when it’s appropriate I did that one time when I was in Macy’s and the clerk looked very cranky and I made a comment how nice she looked at the smile on her face it lit up Macy’s
We have always called friends and acquaintances with the Miss and Mr here in Texas also. I live about halfway between Austin and San Antonio in a small town. We moved here from Virginia in 72 when my father retired from the Pentagon.
I love the people in the south. Yes, society is slipping and even in the south a lot of these politeness and common courtesies are no longer practiced, small kindnesses should always be practiced. Great vid!
That was a very sweet discussion about Southern manners and niceness. I grew up in a small community in Miss. where I addressed older people as cousin even though they weren't. I think a niceness that I remember; was a lady who I set next to on an airline. She introduced herself and shook my hand, but she didn't say another word me the whole trip. She wanted to exchange niceness as long as we were setting together.
Hello, I’m new to your channel and just love your videos! I’m a Texas girl and I know what you’re talking about. We call that a courtesy pass! We even wave at people we don’t know. We say things like Bless your heart and y’all come back and genuinely mean it and we know what what it means to be lady like and to say the blessing which is prayers before eating and treat others kindly.
This is up to now, one of my very favorite vids! They are so precious and such a blessing here tell us how to be polite! It’s almost a lost art and I’m so glad they did this.
Listening to Mr Bucky....and I think he could have taught me some VERY IMPORTANT LESSONS in my youth. I married a man who, on the FIRST DATE, after waiting a bit for him to open the car door for me... and he came along side the door and shouted inside... "What? is your arm broken?" ... long story short... never got better, he's my ex now ... and in the period of less than1/2 the equivalent time were together has been through two other marriages. RESPECT, COURTESY, and MANNERS. He never had those. The best news.... I am not the woman I was THEN. Now I understand self-worth and dignity.
I really enjoyed this video. I watched it with my 12 year old to impress upon her how the world ought to be. I remember when I was a child, the world was more like this. I'm always saying I miss those days! I've never visited the south with the exception of Texas and Florida, would love to visit your state and the other southern states and soak up that southern hospitality. Some of these things I still do. Sending love from Canada.
We're from California and we took a car trip all the way to Georgia to visit friends & family. We loved the 'Southern Niceness' & got used to it. So much so, that when we traveled home my daughter commented, when we went through New Mexico, Arizona, that she could tell we weren't in the South anymore, simply because of the way people acted--rude customers, unruly kids, etc.
Really enjoyed the discussion. My mom was from Arkansas and my dad from Missouri so I grew up with the same cultural values you're speaking of. My parents went north after WWII and met in southeastern Michigan where they were both working. I was born and raised in MI and one of the first things I remember my mother saying was that people were friendlier in the south. We traveled "down home" to visit family but my experience with the general population was narrow. About 3 years ago at the age of 60 an adventure came knocking and I moved from the area I'd lived my whole life to southwestern Wisconsin. I'm about 30 minutes from the Big Muddy in a very rural area. As a matter of fact the population of southeastern MI where I'm from is about the same population as the entire state of WI. I think the reduced stress that comes in living in a small community allows people the opportunity to exercise their better manners. I didn't realize how stressful living in the city was until I moved away. Yes, tempers were shorter, traffic was bad, everywhere you went you were moving as a herd, it's hard to maintain a soft and friendly attitude in that kind of atmosphere. After 3 years I think I'm a kinder person than I was. I feel like some of that "crust" has washed off. Everyone here in my neck of the woods are as kind as the people you speak of. My adventure has been a smashing success. I watch your videos daily. We're pretty close to the same age and I remember lots of what you talk about in your stories. You're both so natural and honest that I feel like I'm in the room with you! Love it, love you!
I raised my children to be nice and polite. Even today if I thank my daughter in a text I know that she will say your welcome. She has been raised right. In the south we offer a smile to everyone. It just makes everyone's day a little brighter.
Being born & raised in AR & TX, coming from a mother from MS, I fully understand everything you are saying here. There is a difference from one location to another almost sometimes like leaving a country. I also believe there are good people everywhere & unfortunately bad mannered ones as well. My wish is that everyone would come back to kindness & thoughtfulness no matter how stressing their lives are. It just seems to make hard times more tolerable when you are around smiling, polite people. Most times a smile & a kind word makes my day & makes me want to pass it on. Love all your stories & chats. God bless you both.
Hi ms Phyllis & Mr Bucky...these southern kindnesses are what I was taught as manners & proper etiquette. I presided in Pennsylvania's in the 50's & 60's & of course, I was TAUGHT these things but also witnessed the adults doing this politeness to each other. alas, much of the increases have fallen by the wayside.
I'm from Louisiana and this is just exactly how I was brought up. Actually born in MS. Wouldn't behave any other way. I wouldn't want to shame my momma.
I'm from California but now living overseas. I was saddened to see your feelings about my home state but I suppose there is some truth to all the bad the rest of the Union are saying about California. But it's not all bad. A lot of people don't realize that there are many families that immigrated from the South to California and many of the things you said about the niceness of the south are not strange to me. As a child I do remember the men wearing and tipping their hats, smiling at perfect strangers, complimenting strangers and not being afraid of being friendly to children. Perhaps a lot of those southern habits have died off with the generations before me but there are many, many Californians who still live by the rule, "do unto others as you would have them do unto you". One more point, on your video taken the day after Thanksgiving and you introduced your grandchildren it reminded me EXACTLY how it was on our Thanksgivings when we stayed with our grandparents. My grandparents' home was home to me. The smells, the routine, the great food and THE LOVE!!!!!! My grandparents have all passed on now and my father has recently died. I miss all that love soooooooooooooooooooooooooo much.
I hope most people realize its not All the folk who live in California, but the bad feelings come from the majority of your politicians there. And it is true many Californians have gone the left way of their politicians. And yes, I know there are not a lot of honest politicians, But, California politicians are the worst of the worst. imo : )
So that's it! I was raised with Southern manners , and that's why people, even people in their 60's like me, around here( Rural Midwest ) have very few. ( Sorry being mean there ) I always said my mother raised us ( in FL ) with a bible in one hand and a Miss Manners book in the other. And you acted like a proper well mannered person, no matter what station, age or situation you or others were in. Thank you Mother! Miss Phyllis I know you have to remember this school clothes and play clothes and Sunday school clothes big differences, and pinafores :) Oh my gosh it is fun to watch you jog my memory. Loved the video about tough parenting back then, even my kids say you NEVER talked back to my parents! But today I see it every time I go to the store back talk, screaming. In my family we were NOT equal to our parents our parents were the king and queen WE were the subjects. Well treated often waited on subjects but we towed the line to keep the water calm :)
I just love you two. I'm from Mississippi. Then moved to Florida for 36 years its Pensacola its the same there but I do all those things. That you both mentioned I just hope it stays that way because wow how things have changed. But I really enjoy your videos. Thanks for all you do !! Much love to you both......
Thank you for continuing your folks calling. I honestly had casually watched the cooking shows not really getting beyond the technical cooking. Gods voice has spoken though the videos you posted after Miss Phyllis passed, quietly at first but in the past week it has been persistent. I know for certain your dedication is supporting Gods plan. Thank you for you’re commitment.
I know this video is a few years old, but since I discovered you about a month ago, I’m slowly making my way through. Lol. What a pleasure you both are! Phyllis, when I first heard you call your husband Mr. Bucky, right away I remembered my daddy’s mother (from Paris, TN) always called her husband Mr. Burke, as I got older I realized it was out of respect. I live in Michigan, my dad moved to the Detroit area to find work in the auto factories...so as a family we settled in the suburbs. My mother was from southern KY, so I can surely relate with all of the good that is from the south. ❤️
Watching their videos make me feel like they are still here...I surely wish they had lived into their 90s or 100...good people like this should never go as early as they did.....Thanks for keeping their videos on....I missed some and enjoy going back and watching them..🌷🌷
I love them too.
God has called these two home...I sure miss you both
We're from Ohio, definitely in the north. Politeness is important. When my Mother was dying from cancer she was hospitalized and in pain all of the time. One of the hospital staffers was a young woman from the south. Without fail when she entered Mother's room she would greet my Mother with, "Hello, Miss Mary, can I do anything for you today?" That greeting invariably made Mother smile. Even though there was nothing medical that could help that greeting eased Mother's pain a little and I believe helped Mother feel respected and valued. It meant a lot to both of us.
That’s a wonderful story. I know u miss your mom..I miss mine everyday...she left us in 2004. RIP Mama....we’ll meet again ❤️
Miss Phyllis and Mr Bucky ARE SOUTHERN NICE!!! 😇 Miss you both so much. You were such a blessing. 🕊
I was going thru the McDonalds drive-thru yesterday for a large sweet tea, and as the cashier in the drive thru took my money, she told me "Well don't you look pretty today" I can't begin to tell you how that made my day. I was feeling so down in the dumps and she just made my day
That's exactly what I'm talking about. It doesn't take any effort to say something nice to a stranger. Some have entertained angels unaware.
Phyllis Stokes Hi Ms Phyllis Thanks for the lovely videos..I can relate to what I see even though I am from India .Hi Mr Bucky..I enjoy hearing from you too. All the best..God Bless Maureen Samson
I'm finding more and more that people in the service industry just don't understand this. I can't tell you how many I have dealt with that before they should say "thank you for shopping with us. Have a good day." They are already talking to the next customer (or worse, another employee) as if I was invisible. To tell/correct them? I'm not sure it has much merit - they are too dense to understand. But I now write the Manager and corporate.
I know this is an old post but when I read this it made me smile because I had a lady tell me yesterday that I was beautiful and had pretty eyes, have to say I was feeling bad fighting with my husband and for the past few weeks the wrinkles on my face are getting so bad thats it's driving me nuts, so having someone say something so sweet helps the heart.
Miss Phyllis, I believe you and Mr Bucky have convinced me to move over where you're at...lol! Times have changed so much and it saddens me. I don't ride the bus here, but I've heard from so many people that elderly folks, with and without disabilities, who have to ride the bus have been left standing because these young people don't have enough respect to give up their seat. I know you've visited Albuquerque before and I'm not sure if you noticed, but people aren't all that friendly here. I smile at complete strangers and say hello. In return I'm given dirty looks or am just completely ignored. I've raised my boys right and they do have a lot of respect for their elders. For that I'm thankful. One quick story I wanted to share with you before I end this long comment is one day my mom, boys and myself were at a stoplight. There was an elderly woman in a wheelchair and she was trying to cross the street.. Now this wheelchair was one of those that you have to use your arms to manually roll them. She was struggling and these cars were honking and yelling at her. My younger son jumped out of the car and ran to her aid. He pushed her safely across the street. She couldn't stop thanking him :) I was so proud to see my son do that without being told!
What a wonderful thing your son did, you've taught him well.
Nadi Da - I was thinking the same thing when I was listening to Miss Phyllis's video. Ok, I'm moving to SC and they're gonna adopt me, my husband & 2 kids.
Husband & I both know our son can use a little more reminders to use the manners they were taught. Kids aren't rude, they just conveniently forget to use their manners. Always seems like we're having to remind them.
Ok, what do you say. Thank-you
What do you say when you didn't do it on purpose. Sorry
That's not how you ask, you know how to ask. Please.......
I have lived in five different states and many more than that many cities, and I have to say that Albuquerque was the most unfriendly place I ever lived. If you would ever say hello to a stranger you were eyed with suspicion. After a year there I figured their motto was, "I don't know you so that means I don't want to know you and it is inappropriate for you to greet me at all"!
Breaking bad 😣
All that said, nowadays I'm a senior and young people often make older people stand on buses here in Austin, Texas now. It is saddening. I think we have a very high population now of Californians and other transplants.
I recently found her on You tube, and I am enjoying watching the two of them either when she is cooking or sharing their life. I am so sad to have found out they both have passed. Thanks to the family to keep them up.
I really enjoyed this! My mom taught us, 'Ladies First', and you never allow a lady to pay. My dad always rose out of his chair when a lady entered the room, even when I was a teenager and I would bring friends home, he would get up from his recliner. My friends would get such a kick out of it, but you could tell they loved it. I tried my best to instill these manners while raising my two sons, and I think some of it stuck because they get complimented quite often on them.
Wonderful! Manners make living so much nicer. I'm sure southern ladies are pleased to acknowledge the kindness extended by a gentleman with a nice "Thank you" as well!
I'm from California and moved to Florida when I was 14. I thought it was the most respectful thing I ever saw when cars pulled over to the side of the road to let a funeral procession pass by! I also love how persons of all ages say "Miss" in front of my first name, too. Over all I love the South and consider myself a Floridian at this point.
I really enjoy these talks with y'all. It's like I'm sitting in the same room with y'all and talking. I have lost both my parents. One in 2006 and the other in 2012 and this was like I was with them again having a conversation about the good old days. Thank you for that. I miss them so much. Love to you and Mr. Bucky
I feel the exact same way!!
I absolutely love southern manners. I live in Canada and we are known as a polite, friendly nation. Southern manners are something this world needs. Showing respect, being friendly and kind, sharing your bounty with others is the foundation of a good solid society. I love the two of you so much for bringing to the forefront humanity's best behaviour. I was brought up in the 60's by parents who instilled these values in my sister and I. I try to live my life being kind, respectful and loving to friends, family and strangers. This world is in great need of "Southern Kindness". Bless you both for sharing these values with us.
I so miss miss phyllis & mr bucky! To know they arent still here to have or hear new conversations from them!
me too
Me three
verna Reed Me four. 😢
Celina Sanchez It’s very sad. Mr Bucky passed away in his sleep back in July I believe. Miss Phyllis passed just 6 months later in January. We miss them dearly
In New Zealand we rather much followed all those rules as I was growing up. It was noticed the further south you went the more friendly people were. About seven years ago my husband was starting to suffer mild Alzheimer’s but still liked to drive to a country town 15 mins. away to do the grocery shop. This particular day I gave him a signed check to have the amount filled in at the shop. He was told at the checkout they don’t take cheque’s. That made him very confused. Apparently saying what am I going to do. The kindest lady came up to him and said , I’ll pay. She put her phone number in his wallet and tore up the cheque. When he got home there was a little note from the lady explaining. I immediately rang here and thanked her. I mailed out a cheque to her the next day. That was a huge kindness for it was for quite a large amount of money. I will never forget her. She lived 50 miles into the country or I would have gone to see her. Now I am pretty much housebound and people are so kind to me over the phone. It is a lovely place to live.
Thank you so much, y'all ! I'm from Wisconsin and every time I meet someone who is kind and respectful they were from down south!
I live in the south part of Nebraska now which is the farthest south I ever lived.. Not far enough , I'm sorry to say to truly find manners..But I went to Mississippi five different times to help with relief work after Katrina and my husband and I loved it so much we even tried to move there once! Being called ma'am and such..wonderful scriptural way of acting!
I'm from Sweden, in Europe so that is some distance away, but we do have similar ways of being nice to others. While we as a people aren't very religious we still attend church for some events, such as weddings, christenings and confirmations and of course then we dress our best.
I'm 26 so I can't speak for everyone in my age group but I was raised with a certain amount of respect towards your fellow man, if an elderly or a pregnant woman were to come on a bus or train I would offer up my seat and to me being a woman I would do this even if the elderly in question was a man and while some decline, they always do so with a smile.
We have a saying in Swedish that is a bit course to translate but it goes something along the lines of 'Do at least one good deed a day', for example at my local bakery I was in line to get my order and I wanted some of their sliced breads with toppings, there was only one left of the one I wanted with the topping I liked and when I placed my order the man behind me, probably having his lunch off work sighed and scratched his head and said "Well, it's just one of those days, nothing is going my way today"
He had been eyeing the same slice, now I'm not a picky eater when it comes to what they serve at that bakery so I asked the lady assisting me what she could recommend out of the other slices and toppings and bought one of those instead. The man behind me was a bit shocked, but he grinned from ear to ear and thanked me and the lady assisting us said "Well you've done your good deed for the day."
This is getting rather long, so I'll end by saying that, religion or not, I wish more people of all ages would show one another more kindness, something as simple as a smile and a Hello can brighten any day for anyone.
I wish you a good evening,
Nat
+DanadeZarick Thank you Nat, I really enjoyed reading your post and would have to say I agree with you wholeheartly.
so true Nat!!❤️
I live in Virginia also and my biggest Southern trait is having and using and teaching manners. I love the saying do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I wish that more people would teach this to there children and grandchildren
I love your chats even though I wasn't raised in the South my mother raised me the same as most southern mothers and I try to instill that with my children as well because manners are super important. And being nice to people isn't that hard and it doesn't cost a penny .
Proud to be from the Deep South. Just watching Miss Phyllis’s old videos. May she RIP.
My dad always got out of his chair and stood up when a lady entered the room, even when he was in his late 80’s, and not well. We were taught to always wait till everyone’s food arrived in a restaurant before we all started eating. Good old days.
Thank you Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky. Growing up and born in Savannah, Ga., My dear sweet mama taught me all of these niceness rules. I am so proud to be a Southern Woman. I always realize how lucky I am when I travel to other places and think "There truly is no place like home". I now live in Thomson, Ga and I love the people there. Country folk. I also wanted to let you both know that my precious daughter Taylor, whom you prayed for recently, passed on to her home in glory on July 16th, 2018. I am currently making arrangements and am experiencing the most sorrow I've ever felt. Watching your video today brought a smile to my face and a thankfulness in my heart that I taught my daughter these same Southern Nicenesses. Thank you both again.
I am so very sorry to hear of Taylor's passing. Prayers for you are on going.
You are dearly missed!! I hope you are doing as well as can be. An abundance of love and light to you Ms. Phyllis!!
WE SOUTHERNS WILL PULL OFF THE ROAD AND TURN OUR CAR LIGHTS ON OUT OF RESPECT FOR A FUNERAL POCESSION MEETING US IN COMING TRAFFIC. WE NEVER TRAVEL ON OUR WAY TILL THE LAST CAR HAS PASSED.
Anything can cause an accident. Some things are worth doing just because they express the dignity of the person doing them and the persons they are done for.
Also out in the rural areas when a funeral passes people outside of their homes will stand if they are sitting on the porch or standing in the yard they will stop what they are doing out of respect.
Helen Lane That is the same here in Michigan. Respect.
I think people from the south would be surprised to know we in Oregon and Washington do these things as well..its how ones raised I do really believe more than geographical location.
That is the law in many states, those who do not can land a ticket.
So thankful for these videos of Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky to have to rewatch since they aren't with us any longer, I enjoyed them at the time I first watched them, but I really cherish them now! ❤ It really does emphasize the need to appreciate what you have!
Really miss them so much! 🙏
I really enjoyed this topic! I am in Texas. When a new family or person moves into your neighborhood, we prepare a dish, or a pie, or a loaf of bread, or a basket of vegetables out of our gardens, and take it over to the new neighbors to welcome them. Same thing when someone is sick or when someone passes on, we take a prepared dish to the family so they won't have to worry about cooking while grieving. I also remember fondly of my Granny faithfully going to get her hair done every Friday, so she would look her best in church on Sunday. If someone pops in for a visit, always ask them if they've eaten and if they'd like a refreshment. And if your going to town, ask your elderly neighbors if they need anything from town. Kindness is like a boomerang, it always comes back to ya. Big hugs & God bless ya's, Catfishchic
I loved this! These are all the values and manners we were taught by our Depression/World War 2-era parents that sometimes seem to have gone out of vogue these days. But these things are still so important -- I am really happy y'all talked about this These ways show value to others and make life happier and gentler. It's the way the Lord wants us to treat others -- part of being "salt and light" in this world. I live in Texas, and I know what you mean about everybody waving at one another whether they know them or not.lol You and Mr. Bucky are such sweet folks! God bless!
Phyllis has passed away. She went to the heavens on 1/25/2020, and was buried next to her husband as planned the next day.
I will always look back on your amazing videos and remember you as such a selfless person, with great detail and comforting ways of showing others.
Very nice table talk, I live in Georgia. One thing I have learned from traveling cross country is there are good and bad people no matter where you live or visit. If only more people were like Miss Phyllis & Mr Bucky~ what a wonderful place this world would be. I always say hello and smile to EVERYONE I see, you never know what someone is dealing with or going through in their life
I was raised in Lincoln, Nebraska with the same politeness you speak of. I still follow that way of life and it is just second nature. I can't imagine not being polite. Thanks for the lovely stories.
We loved ❤️❤️🙏💯💯💯💯 you will be Missed 😢😢😢 The Family’s in our prayers 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️💯
Two Beautiful hearts!!! I just adore kindness and feel the same way you both do. wonderful videos you post. I have already made many of your dishes, and enjoyed them all so far. I will be trying the buttermilk biscuits today. Thank you for your words of encouragements.. sometimes in todays world, such reminders are necessary for all. You sure put a smile on my face. Thank you. Teresa
I miss them both so much RIP Ms Phyllis and Mr Bucky you are at home with Jesus Christ
Here in Kansas people pull over for a funeral. Remarkably, I have even seen young people show kindness and politeness to strangers. They must have good parents. :)
I love your videos! My grandparents got married in the 50's they were each other's one and only until they passed a few years back. I'm 'northern' raised but 'southern' born and my dad was 'southern' born and raised. I was raised with similar values to what you described in this video. It's just not something you see too often anymore. I can't possibly describe how tickled pink I was quite a few years back when one of the well-known business owner's in our area held a door for me. Values and hospitality or 'niceness' just isn't something you really see anymore. I always laugh and tell everyone that between clothes and social graces and values I would have been happier in the 50's.
I was raised in the south. My family lived in Florida, Mississippi, and Georgia. My husband had a military career, so we lived in Mississippi and in Texas for some of those years. We loved Texas! Anyway, something my husband did for me while we were dating and still does to this day is open doors for me (and other women who might be with us). When we are coming out of church each Sunday I look around in the parking lot and I can honestly say, I never see a man opening the car door for his wife...even amongst the senior men...I don't know if that is just the way it is here in WV or if it is that way in most places these days. But, I am always so proud of my husband for showing me this respect.
I Miss These 2 Wonderful People So Much 😞😞
Isn't it amazing how any small act of sincere kindness can make us feel so appreciated & brighten our entire day. Let's hope it contagious... wouldn't it be great if kindness or nice became the new cool thing to do?! Going to be praying for this to occur!
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I HATE the reply "No problem" when you thank someone. I guess I'm old-fashioned--I say "You're welcome." To me, it is so much more gracious.
Absolutely!
sagrammyfour I totally agree with you. I don't care for the reply of "No Problem!!" either.
Nothing takes the place of the old fashioned, "You're Welcome!!"
I am old school and old fashioned too
sagrammyfour 🙂❤
@@darleneblackwell5846 ...
"you're" welcome ...not "your" welcome
@@gloriand3706 I know it is "You're welcome" Gloria.
Just a slip up. But thank you for calling it to my attention🙂❤
I got it corrected.👍
Me too!!!
I just want to say that I was born in Philadelphia, and my Daddy always said it happened due to his naval ship coming into port when the war ended and he met and fell in love with my mother. He was a genuine southern gentleman, and he and my mother agreed to remain there until her parents past away. They would visit his mother, a widow from the time my father was 2 years old, here in the south. His mother had plenty of caring children still here, and various family members. We moved here when I was 3 years old, and all of my immediate family absolutely loved being here! I can tell you that my southern grandmother made sure all her grandchildren knew respect of children were to be seen and not heard, but all of my cousins and I somehow enjoyed that. Adult conversations were not to be interrupted, and “little ears” did not need to hear adults. I love the southern charm and politeness! School was wonderful because we had prayer and bible reading & the pledge to our flag, and we knew our teachers were Christians! I’m so proud of my adult son & daughter who were taught southern politeness, and I can tell they are proud to be a southern gentleman and southern lady. They grew up in church and still love going to church services and being involved. Faith is so important!
"Leave it better than you found it"...the essence of Miss Phyllis. Thinking of you fondly and praying for you always.
I love watching the videos of Miss Phyllis and Mr Bucky. I hope you keep them up. I know we will all love watching them over and over. You are together again. May you rest in peace love you two beautiful people. My condolences to all the family.
You are such sweet people, really enjoy you all a lot .😊
Remember the song, "Little drops of water, little grains of sand, make the mighty ocean and the pleasant land." Many deeds of kindness many words of love, make the world more pleasant like that heaven above.
I am a 20 yr Air Force veteran and have associated and worked with people from all over the country. Two incidents come to mind re: niceness or "manners". One was a couple who were from S.C. They had three sons (handsome all) and the first time I met them (ages 12, 8, and 5) their mother introduced me as Miss Patricia? Wow! I didn't know to feel honored, aged ( Iwas 33) or flattered! Well eventually I decided to be honored. This woman who grew up in Mass. and N.H. smiled every time I heard the boys greet me with the honorific. The second was regarding avery good friend from KY. We would look at each other a little stupid when we first tried to understand what the other was saying. So to help her out I slowed my speech remarkably and she agreed to teach me how to speak "southern". I also tried to pronounce my " rrrs" and she worked on using the letter " y ". I don't think that these were the best examples, but they sure made my life richer. ........... I just found your channel a week ago and I'm addicted. Love it!?
Wonderful!
Patricia Norton, I like where you stated "Well eventually I decided to be honored." I am from Long Island, New York and was brought up to respect others but we did not have the Mame and Sir. My parents moved down to Florida in the early 90's and I was down there a lot. It took me a while to get used to being called Sir by my parents friends and children. I thought right off the bat that it was a wise ass remark and it made me feel old too! I had to "decide" to accept it as respectful. I also had to stop myself from telling them what to do because I felt like the boss :) John.
awesome !! My people are from the north , these things were taught to me as a child. It doesn't just bless the person you are kind to but itmakes you feel like a real classy person.
I truly enjoyed this video of Miss Phyllis & Mr. Bucky! We are all so blessed to have these video's to look back upon since they both passed away! Love these chat's they use to do!
Hi! This video brought back a lot of memories. I was born and raised in Jersey but my parents are from GA so I know exactly what you're talking about. I'm now living in Central FL and when I first moved here, I had to get used to a few things, besides pumping my own gas! Yes, we had to wear our best to church. My grandmother used to say "you don't wear your slave clothes to church, you're suppose to look different on Sundays." My Mom's hat, shoes and purse had to match and he always carried her gloves. I can go on and on.... thanks for making this video. Kids these days need to see it.
I was born and live in Indiana where you come across a few nice people but Southern Hospitality is the best I spent every summer in Southern Kentucky and learned the southern way. My Mom always said Do unto Others!! Today people wear jeans or shorts to church but I feel like its an occasion to dress up. We even called my Moms cousin Aunt and Uncle. Yes Sir , No Sir and Yes Ma'am and no ma'am!! Love watching you both you are adorable and remind me of my Southern relatives!!
I was raised that we had to wear a dress in church, but I do now wear slacks to church. Since my parents raised me this way, I wore a dress at my mother's church funeral. I recall some of my sisters wearing slack because it was cold, but I wouldn't. It's just a little thing and only I know that I did this out of respect for my mom and how she raised me.
I’m from Pennsylvania and on a couple of occasions I have done this...we were out for dinner and our waitress was absolutely wonderful. She approached us with a smile and her eyes just lit up from that smile. She didn’t rush us to get the order and treated us like we were the only ones in the restaurant. It was packed! When we were done I stuck my head in the kitchen, asked for the owner, and told them what a great job she did and told them they should appreciate her for all her hard work. Waitressing is a hard job. You’re on your feet for 8 hours and some people can be nasty. I made her day and I felt good for doing it.
Ah bless. So many of your posts I've not seen yet Miss Phyllis.
It's so nice to see you both in this post, when you were both with us, Looking happy and well.
This is how I will remember you. X
I'm from New Jersey, when I went to the beautiful state of Alabama, to drop off my third child my son David , I was very anxious. He was going to attend college in Hanceville. I was blown away on how nice and welcoming everyone was. They accepted him with open arms and hearts. He is now 24 years and every year he goes back down to see his Alabama family. It warms my heart that my son is loved by so many in Alabama. Two of his high school friends are now living in Alabama because of how David was received there. I was born in Portugal, the South and Southern values remind me of my birth country. I feel every much at home when I visit our southern states. You guys are the best.
Dear Mr. Bucky was the consummate gentleman!!! 💗💗💗
I agree. My adult son, nearly 40, is doing his part to revive the custom of throwing up his hand at oncomers while driving. We live in Georgia, and things have certainly changed in the last 2 or 3 decades.
I live in California and one day, when I was walking toward the courthouse, in the rain, a gentleman with an umbrella, walking towards me, gave me his umbrella. I was so surprised! I thanked him profusely and treasure the umbrella he gave me.
I adore hearing y'all's stories.... I miss my grandparents.. I truly wish I could sit and have table talk with them now and this reminds me of that 😊♥️♥️thanks for sharing
I agree with many of your mentioned southern kindness. Although I was born and raised in New York, but I lived most of my married life in Germany (20 years) and Texas (15 years) I live my life doing as I would like others do to me. The older I get the easier it gets and it seems others are less sceptical of my action of kindness. The best is that most people will respond with kindness back. Those that don't it's their sad loss.
Thank you for making people's lives happier each day :)
How refreshing listening to you.
Also, you're both so young at heart and I appreciate your videos of wisdom ♡♡♡
I'm from Texas and i never knew that everyone didn't pull over like that until I left home :)
IKR? We Texans come out of the womb respecting others. My daddy had a temporary job in Michigan when I was in kindergarten. I got in trouble from my teacher for sayin yes ma'am and no ma'am. She said I was being disrespectful to her because she was too young to be called a ma'am. She called my daddy and told him what I had done and he was furious with her. He told her he raised me to say yes sir, no sir, yes ma'am and no ma'am. Also to always say please and thank you. He told her to never admonish me again for being respectful, and that she needed to learn some manners. I was so happy when that job was over and we were able to move back home to Texas.
"Great teaching"...young people needs to hear/be taught this!
I'm watching this video three years after it was posted and just nodding my head to everything you say!
While there are nice (and rude) people everywhere, "southern" is more than just a location- it's a way of being for most of us. I'm from southern Kentucky, most of my family is in Texas and we spend so much time there, I call us TexUkians.;)
Even at 35, I wouldn't dream of calling someone by their first name. We're also very big on ma'am and sir. I taught my daughter to say ma'am as soon as she started saying yes and no. She said "yes ma'am" to everyone, including her daddy and grandfathers, until she was nearly 3 years old. Haha
I can't help but bristle every time I hear some kid say yep or no.
Mississippi here! Thanks for this good vid. Im almost 50 and I still say 'Ms' too. I lived in Massachusetts for two years, couldn't wait to get back home. You tell it Mr. Bucky! You were raised right, as my mother would say.
I think it just depends on the person, really, my manners are so similar to yours. I am from California, born and raised in Southern California almost 48 years and I would never have given a second thought if I was on a train and a situation had happened like that where my child was excited to see antelope etc. Some people are weird like that but it's all situational and depends on the person. I also was raised with a very southern grandmother so maybe my manners are different because of her, but I don't think so. I would like to think that people are just good in their heart and if that is the case then their manners will also be good and they will be kind. I move out of the way of others at the grocery store, I also let others go in front of me at the store if they have less items & it doesn't matter if they are older or younger I do it regardless of age. I guess I just try and be as kind as I possibly can. Kindness doesn't cost a thing.
When living in Northern Florida I loved that I was told to have a “Blessed Day” many times during the day. And I love that my grand children that are raised in SC always say yes Mam and yes Sir.
When a neighbor's cousin visited from NY, he asked about the waving, and Piggy Wiggly. Funny. I worked nights in a hospital one of my favorite patients was an 85 yr old man. One night I knocked on his door. I heard him tell his daughter to answer the door, by that time i had opened the door and was at his bedside, telling him "Mr xxx, this is the south we just come on in, look in the fridge see if there's anything we want, check out the closet. By that time all three of us were laughing. His daughter laughingly said that true. One of my best memories and a favorite patient. Checking the fridge and the closet was something i did at my mother's and at my siblings.
What were you looking for in the closet?
@@user-lv4ok9vo5o we are not looking for anything in particular. Just looking.
I was born and raised in Oregon..and we raised our children and live in Washington many yrs now, but most of those qualities I was raised with here as well, although I must say I do not see too many of them in everyday life anymore.
Love watching the both of you..
I wave and smile at everyone to, I love it.
I am from michigan and I married a southern gentleman, took me a long time to get used to some of his habits, he is always so polite to everyone, he taught me some southern manners : )
Thank you, Mr. Bucky!! These are old fashioned Christian/Southern values that we were raised with. What a wonderful heritage! You sound so much like my dear Daddy. He lived by these values, too. Unfortunately, we're seeing this less and less, even in the south.
Love listening to you both! and love the way you both speak with each other. I was raised with alot of the manners you describe although i live in Maryland (born in D.C.) Thank you for discussing this. :)
Thank you Miss Phyllis, and Mr. Bucky. Always a pleasure.
You two are such nice and wonderful people. It is very clear that the both of you were raised right.
What a great legacy these videos are. Even though these 2 special people are gone, we can still come back and watch them. RIP Miss Phyllis and Mr. Bucky.
Always complement people when it’s appropriate I did that one time when I was in Macy’s and the clerk looked very cranky and I made a comment how nice she looked at the smile on her face it lit up Macy’s
We have always called friends and acquaintances with the Miss and Mr here in Texas also. I live about halfway between Austin and San Antonio in a small town. We moved here from Virginia in 72 when my father retired from the Pentagon.
I love and miss them both ❤️
I love the people in the south. Yes, society is slipping and even in the south a lot of these politeness and common courtesies are no longer practiced, small kindnesses should always be practiced. Great vid!
My husband and I have traveled all over the country and I am always happy to get home where there's plenty of southern hospitality!!!
That was a very sweet discussion about Southern manners and niceness. I grew up in a small community in Miss. where I addressed older people as cousin even though they weren't. I think a niceness that I remember; was a lady who I set next to on an airline. She introduced herself and shook my hand, but she didn't say another word me the whole trip. She wanted to exchange niceness as long as we were setting together.
I wish everyone had these traditions. Very nice-being polite goes a long way.
Love this video! You both are wonderful Americans.
Oh Miss Phyllis, I miss you! Your son does a great job continuing your legacy, but I do miss you!
Hello, I’m new to your channel and just love your videos! I’m a Texas girl and I know what you’re talking about. We call that a courtesy pass! We even wave at people we don’t know. We say things like Bless your heart and y’all come back and genuinely mean it and we know what what it means to be lady like and to say the blessing which is prayers before eating and treat others kindly.
This is up to now, one of my very favorite vids! They are so precious and such a blessing here tell us how to be polite! It’s almost a lost art and I’m so glad they did this.
Listening to Mr Bucky....and I think he could have taught me some VERY IMPORTANT LESSONS in my youth. I married a man who, on the FIRST DATE, after waiting a bit for him to open the car door for me... and he came along side the door and shouted inside... "What? is your arm broken?"
... long story short... never got better, he's my ex now ... and in the period of less than1/2 the equivalent time were together has been through two other marriages.
RESPECT, COURTESY, and MANNERS. He never had those.
The best news.... I am not the woman I was THEN. Now I understand self-worth and dignity.
These videos are bittersweet. At times I’m smiling as tears roll down my cheeks. Miss them both.
I really enjoyed this video. I watched it with my 12 year old to impress upon her how the world ought to be. I remember when I was a child, the world was more like this. I'm always saying I miss those days! I've never visited the south with the exception of Texas and Florida, would love to visit your state and the other southern states and soak up that southern hospitality. Some of these things I still do. Sending love from Canada.
We're from California and we took a car trip all the way to Georgia to visit friends & family. We loved the 'Southern Niceness' & got used to it. So much so, that when we traveled home my daughter commented, when we went through New Mexico, Arizona, that she could tell we weren't in the South anymore, simply because of the way people acted--rude customers, unruly kids, etc.
Really enjoyed the discussion. My mom was from Arkansas and my dad from Missouri so I grew up with the same cultural values you're speaking of. My parents went north after WWII and met in southeastern Michigan where they were both working. I was born and raised in MI and one of the first things I remember my mother saying was that people were friendlier in the south. We traveled "down home" to visit family but my experience with the general population was narrow. About 3 years ago at the age of 60 an adventure came knocking and I moved from the area I'd lived my whole life to southwestern Wisconsin. I'm about 30 minutes from the Big Muddy in a very rural area. As a matter of fact the population of southeastern MI where I'm from is about the same population as the entire state of WI. I think the reduced stress that comes in living in a small community allows people the opportunity to exercise their better manners. I didn't realize how stressful living in the city was until I moved away. Yes, tempers were shorter, traffic was bad, everywhere you went you were moving as a herd, it's hard to maintain a soft and friendly attitude in that kind of atmosphere. After 3 years I think I'm a kinder person than I was. I feel like some of that "crust" has washed off. Everyone here in my neck of the woods are as kind as the people you speak of. My adventure has been a smashing success. I watch your videos daily. We're pretty close to the same age and I remember lots of what you talk about in your stories. You're both so natural and honest that I feel like I'm in the room with you! Love it, love you!
It's much the same in the small village in Ireland where I grew up. One of the things I love about You and Mr. Bucky is exactly this.
This video is a lovely blessing to us. Thank you 😊
I raised my children to be nice and polite. Even today if I thank my daughter in a text I know that she will say your welcome. She has been raised right. In the south we offer a smile to everyone. It just makes everyone's day a little brighter.
Being born & raised in AR & TX, coming from a mother from MS, I fully understand everything you are saying here. There is a difference from one location to another almost sometimes like leaving a country. I also believe there are good people everywhere & unfortunately bad mannered ones as well. My wish is that everyone would come back to kindness & thoughtfulness no matter how stressing their lives are. It just seems to make hard times more tolerable when you are around smiling, polite people. Most times a smile & a kind word makes my day & makes me want to pass it on. Love all your stories & chats. God bless you both.
Send some of your southern gentlemen to California please
love heart my dad was there from Kentucky and my hubby from Texas - they’re around 😂
Hi ms Phyllis & Mr Bucky...these southern kindnesses are what I was taught as manners & proper etiquette. I presided in Pennsylvania's in the 50's & 60's & of course, I was TAUGHT these things but also witnessed the adults doing this politeness to each other. alas, much of the increases have fallen by the wayside.
I'm from Louisiana and this is just exactly how I was brought up. Actually born in
MS. Wouldn't behave any other way. I wouldn't want to shame my momma.
happyheart42 Your comment about not shaming your momma hits home with me. I had such a good mom.
HI, happy heart...Baton Rouge born.
I'm from California but now living overseas. I was saddened to see your feelings about my home state but I suppose there is some truth to all the bad the rest of the Union are saying about California. But it's not all bad. A lot of people don't realize that there are many families that immigrated from the South to California and many of the things you said about the niceness of the south are not strange to me. As a child I do remember the men wearing and tipping their hats, smiling at perfect strangers, complimenting strangers and not being afraid of being friendly to children.
Perhaps a lot of those southern habits have died off with the generations before me but there are many, many Californians who still live by the rule, "do unto others as you would have them do unto you".
One more point, on your video taken the day after Thanksgiving and you introduced your grandchildren it reminded me EXACTLY how it was on our Thanksgivings when we stayed with our grandparents. My grandparents' home was home to me. The smells, the routine, the great food and THE LOVE!!!!!! My grandparents have all passed on now and my father has recently died. I miss all that love soooooooooooooooooooooooooo much.
I hope most people realize its not All the folk who live in California, but the bad feelings come from the majority of your politicians there. And it is true many Californians have gone the left way of their politicians. And yes, I know there are not a lot of honest politicians, But, California politicians are the worst of the worst. imo : )
So that's it! I was raised with Southern manners , and that's why people, even people in their 60's like me, around here( Rural Midwest ) have very few. ( Sorry being mean there ) I always said my mother raised us ( in FL ) with a bible in one hand and a Miss Manners book in the other. And you acted like a proper well mannered person, no matter what station, age or situation you or others were in. Thank you Mother! Miss Phyllis I know you have to remember this school clothes and play clothes and Sunday school clothes big differences, and pinafores :) Oh my gosh it is fun to watch you jog my memory. Loved the video about tough parenting back then, even my kids say you NEVER talked back to my parents! But today I see it every time I go to the store back talk, screaming. In my family we were NOT equal to our parents our parents were the king and queen WE were the subjects. Well treated often waited on subjects but we towed the line to keep the water calm :)
I just love you two. I'm from Mississippi. Then moved to Florida for 36 years its Pensacola its the same there but I do all those things. That you both mentioned I just hope it stays that way because wow how things have changed. But I really enjoy your videos. Thanks for all you do !! Much love to you both......
Thank you for continuing your folks calling. I honestly had casually watched the cooking shows not really getting beyond the technical cooking. Gods voice has spoken though the videos you posted after Miss Phyllis passed, quietly at first but in the past week it has been persistent.
I know for certain your dedication is supporting Gods plan. Thank you for you’re commitment.
Thank you!
I know this video is a few years old, but since I discovered you about a month ago, I’m slowly making my way through. Lol. What a pleasure you both are! Phyllis, when I first heard you call your husband Mr. Bucky, right away I remembered my daddy’s mother (from Paris, TN) always called her husband Mr. Burke, as I got older I realized it was out of respect. I live in Michigan, my dad moved to the Detroit area to find work in the auto factories...so as a family we settled in the suburbs. My mother was from southern KY, so I can surely relate with all of the good that is from the south. ❤️