Mimi Truesdale Oh my gosh! How I remember being told that when I was a kid ~ guess my Dad had a dry humour when we'd pass a pregnant woman! I used to swallow the seeds every now and then but my eyes popped and I never ate a watermelon the same again! 😏
We always had to wear clean underwear for the same reasons. Alsomy mother insisted that we never talk to strangers. We were told not to speak to elders unless we were asked to.
Always wait 45 minutes after eating a meal before you go in swimming. Otherwise, you might get a cramp. P.S. I have a friend named Allen Nunnally who grew up in Newport News, Virginia. He was born in 1949. Just wondered if you knew him.
As a retired elementary school teacher, I can truly say that in my experience, there's been a sad decline in the number of children who are taught these life rules. Nowadays parents seem to think that the school exists to teach their children EVERYTHING that children need to know to be decent, successful adults. I've even had a parent say that to me during a conference!! Oh, and my parents let us ride our horses all day, Mother would take a bag from the Roman Meal bread and pack us some bologna sandwiches and a jar of koolaid and we would literally be gone all day long, we carried rifles for our protection from wild critters of the 4 legged variety and snakes, and we would hunt for rabbits for the table, I don't guess our parents ever had any worries about the humans we would run into. I was 7-8 and my sister was 9-10, both girls. Can you imagine parents allow 2 young girls to go off miles from home, carrying rifles, and being gone ALL day and sometimes overnight??
We never carried guns in the city, of course, but were warned about talking, or ever going with strangers. Instead, we walked and biked in groups of three, everywhere when on our own. It was a good main rule in case anything happened! I noticed how much more self reliant my friends were in the country, because they were used to taking care of themselves. Also, the rule of not drinking milk with fish was one we followed.
Thank you for your insight! Being a middle school teacher now, I am in total agreement about the responsibilities that educators are confronted with daily! The only reason I’ve been able to do this for 25 years is...my students...! I call them, “my goodies” because they are the good part the best part during this season in my brief existence!!!! They are such a blessing to me... Actually, I am the one that gets “schooled” every sweet day! Now, I must say that this wonderful insight that has come to fruition ever since I filled out some silly papers... MY RETIREMENT PAPERS!!! Wow, it’s fantastic how doing such a simple act as filling out some papers has impacted me in so very many ways! ;) I graduated, with my Bachelors Degree from The College of Health and Human Performance at The University of Florida...GO 🐊 Gators, when I was 39 years old... Got my age figured out? ;) So my projected retirement date is in 7 years!! It actually kinda scares me, the biggest being of course that I won’t be around my 😜 crazy middle schoolers...very 😔. I’m to miss the smells of the 1955 gym ( I was born in 1956) and locker room ( NOT the boys locker room, GROSS), the sounds as I’m outside laughing at them playing whatever activity is planned for that day with my great co-worker as, we enjoy the beautiful 69-72 degree Florida sun in February!!) I’m taking a break right now from putting grades in the computer this evening, to jot this quick note to you because of your comments, that touched me since I too have had, and are currently reflecting on this progress report eve, the same exact type of experiences you did...! Funny how in life how, if you live long enough, get to live through that saying, “Full Circle” thingy...! Life can be.... whatever the heck you make it baby!!! All it takes is hard work and dedication! A person does not have to be so called intelligent...we can have everything we want, with the perceptivity of what hard work and dedication can reap! Again thank you for sharing a bit of your wisdom... Be Blessed. JP
@@jackipalmer5680 I have no idea what USF was like almost 40 years ago but I did live in the area for a couple years and moved away in 2013 . I would imagine there were a lot less stores and parking lots on Fowler Avenue . I wonder if 40 years ago they had that big round top flea market place which was out of this world and massive ... did they have that back then ? Also I remember hearing that actress Faye Dunaway went to USF . I'm glad you have enjoyed teaching school and appreciate your students . I'm wondering if you feel the kids so today are more pampered and overly protected by their parents . I feel that in many ways they are . For one thing when I was a kid we did a lot more walking to and from places . Our parents didn't chauffeur us around everywhere . Anyway I miss the beauty of the Tampa Bay area .... even on my worst day of Florida I still couldn't believe how beautiful it was there .
Children were brought up w/ proper morals & to be respectful. Born in 1954 & raised w/ many of the same rules & advice. Raised in a small village of Maybrook,NY where w/ most families knew each other. I think southerners were stricter.Unfortunately, the majority of today's youth are rude & indignant.
Today's youth being rude and ignorant are a product of lazy parents not having expectations, and high ones at that and not whipping their asses when they needed it. LAZY PARENTS, OR SO CALLED ADULTS.
this reminds me of my mom. one of my moms biggest lessons she taught me was "just because you are poor doesn't mean you have to be dirty" a bar of ivory soap and elbow grease and mom could clean anything. we were taught to care for our things keep clean and never be wasteful. mom didnt have much growing up and always taught us how important it is to be grateful. she passed away almost 4 years ago now I miss her so much.
I was born in 1956, and most all the things you said was the same things we were taught. We were always taught never to ask for anything at anyone's home unless it was offered.... even water...lol Love your videos.
Oh, Phyllis, remembering such innocent times brings tears. Back before the PC police took over the world. Back when any adult was allowed to and even expected to "call down" unruly children. And if a young man forgot to remove his cap in church someone would remove it for him and hand it to him with a firm admonishment. Also I remember having the rights that my parents allowed me to have. I didn't have an attorney to argue my side; I didn't have a side unless my folks said I did. What great memories. I was born in 1947 and I remember all that you listed and so many others mentioned here as well. Hope I'm not repeating but 3 more I recall are "Close the door! Were you born in a barn?" If we were listening to adults talk, sometimes we'd hear them say, "Little pitchers have big ears." And when we got caught doing something wrong if we offered as explanation that, "Johnny did it first." we would hear, "Well, if Johnny jumped off a cliff, would you jump, too?" My folks never punished in anger but they did discipline in love, although at the time it was hard to tell the difference. I had to grow up and have a family to appreciate how much patience they had and how much we were loved. Which makes me think of another saying (although I never was told this.) "When you grow up I hope you have children just like you." Thanks for the memories. You and Mr. Bucky are like family.
Ms Phyllis, I enjoy you so much. I just heard about the passing of Mr. Bucky, and I was 💓 broken. I pray that God will continue to give you the peace and comfort you so need now. You are SPECIAL, AND KIND, LOVING, and truly a BLESSING TO MANY. THAT EXCLUDES ME. Stay Strong. GOD IS WITH YOU 💝
I realize I'm answering this several years after it's written, and Ms Phyllis and Mr Bucky are gone, and I had watched this video years ago! But speaking of the boys taking their caps or hats off when entering church, and usually homes, courtroom,many different buildings actually,now grown men even wear hats or caps in churches, even on stage doing worship music, because it's "part of their ensemble"!!! I can't get over it!!! Manners aren't being taught or lived these days!!
My mom said never go outside shortly after taking a hot bath or shower in the winter time because the pores are open and you could get sick ... but I remember thinking well what if you're all bundled up
We were told by my English mum, never to go to bed with wet hair! Said it gave a headache in the morning. Also never to eat toasted cheese before bed time as it gave you nightmares. The funniest was, if you put the kettle on to boil to make tea that you must finnish the job and not allow another person to make the tea as you would have ginger babies!. My dad had red hair, guess what? We were all ginger babies!
My beloved great-aunt just passed away in April, but she helped my mom to raise me and she must've been the one to teach me this rule because she always loved to tell a story about it to anyone who would listen. Apparently when we were moving out of our old house (I had just turned 4) she was looking after me in the living room and I could see where the movers had propped the front door open, so I yelled at them, "Guys, close the door! You're letting all the bugs in!"
I watched your sons post on your passing. He did so well. I can’t wait to see him carry on the Mrs. Bucky way. I loved this post, it came on right after me finding out you were gone. You always did have a way of giving direction with the utmost kindness. I know your son will do very well and I will keep watching but I’m going to miss you & mr Bucky very much. It was like having family I had never met. Love always, a relative from the west. Xoxo rip Mrs Stokes.
This video put a huge smile on my face. Even though I was born in the '60s, we had most of these rules you've cited, and they do seem to stick with you for life. Here's a few more I got: "No dating until you are 16." "The boy always pays for the date - no going Dutch." "No red lipstick on a girl - you're not an adult."
Funny story: I was 14:and we had just moved. We had to schedule our phone to be connected (1974). In the meantime we used the pay phone at the corner store. My Mom was at work so I was the designated person to wait for Ma Bell after school. My Mom told me to call my Dad at work and tell him to bring home milk . Phone was installed successfully. They both got home from work and my Mom asked my Dad where he put the milk while she was cooking dinner. He asked, what milk? My Mom asked me why I didn't call my Dad and have him bring the milk? I said - you forgot to leave me a dime. My Mom and Dad laughed so hard! It never occurred to me to use the phone!!! Can't say that was my only "blonde moment"!
My mom called it “ mad money “ so this was just taught for the dating years for girls where if a girl got mad at her date she could call home and have someone come get her.
I miss you Phyllis. Even though I can hear your calming voice anytime I like and see the pups, I still miss you and all the things you taught us. I still watch your channel and listen to Stephen's stories now and watch him cook, he's a very good cook and makes me smile. It's funny how I got to know a complete stranger through TH-cam and end up missing you, Mr Bucky and the pups. I'm glad you and Mr Bucky are at peace together. I'm sure you're still sipping sweet tea and enjoying each other's stories. 🌻
...1953 raised from birth by grandparents, while mother worked. There was rules to live by, but it was a way of life. Life was simple and you appreciated the little things. Around the age of 6/7, I remember being in the school cafeteria and watching 3 girls as I threw my empty lunch bag in the trash. They had such beautiful dresses on. They were talking about how much money they had so they could buy "ice cream" (??) I heard them say it cost .10 for an ice cream sandwich. It was at that moment in time I knew I was different. God, I wanted an ice cream so bad. I excepted it, and never asked anyone for .10 to buy one. My brother & I both had chores, that's just the way it was.. we didn't get allowance and never asked for anything in return, instead we always asked if someone needed help doing something, because "Idle hands is the devils work." I was taught from the age of 3, how to clean the dishes, bake bread, can relish, cook, clean, and wash cloths and hang them on the line.. because that's how life was back then. There was no movies, no neighbors, no fast food businesses and no restaurants.. but we did have church activities, and summer picnics with family over. I miss my nanny & poppa, they meant the world to me. When I look in my grand daughters eyes I see them.. that's just the way it is.
Phyllis, I enjoy your talks and also Mr. Bucky. I believe people in the south are more polite. And I e been all over the states and the world. There's just something about southerns that appeals to me.
First time poster Phyllis and so enjoyed listening to your mothers golden rules. All were taught to me as well along with a few others like " When you are in the company of adults, don't speak until spoken to" and a meal time rule was never put your elbows on the table. Thanks for the walk down memory lane. Wish my children taught their children how they were taught. Some of the rules I grew up with were a tad over the top but there would be more respect for others in this world if those old rules were followed in today's world. Cheers
I'm glad my foster mom made me wash dishes after supper. It carries into adulthood because I can't stand seeing dirty dishes left out or a messy kitchen. I thought she was a slave driver then but now I'm very grateful for her value.
When I'm feeling down about this world and the way it is, I listen to Ms. Phyllis and her stories about the way things were in the 50's. I sure miss her and her stories...
"You be good to that older person, you'll be old yourself someday." "Don't stare at someone who's crippled, you'll make them feel bad." "Don't you go off to where I can't look outside and see you." "I don't care what somebody else's mother lets them do, YOU are not going to do that!" "Don't tear up your toys. They may be all you ever have." (My Easy Bake is still in the attic) .....Echoes from the mid-60's..... :)
I never had an easy bake oven, my mom taught me to bake instead. I bought one in my early 50's and it sat in my office at work. We actually used it too.
Yeah we were told not to stare also and my toys never lasted long and a family of 7 kids some of whom were destructive.... I had an easy bake oven and I loved it
Loved your look back at the "good ol days". I always remember: "don't speak unless spoken to" and for sure that "children do not interrupt adults talking-ever!"
I just found Phyllis and Bucky yesterday. My husband and I watched their video explaining how they met. I binged watched her today and didn’t learn until hours in that she and Bucky had passed on to heaven. 😢
I just discovered your TH-cam channel. I am smittened by you as you remind me of my Momma who passed in 2014. I love and appreciate all of your knowledge on cooking and life. I pray that God continues to bless you and Mr. Bucky❤❤
Thanks for the great memories, Phyllis!! One thing we Never did was.."Never contradict our elders". We were always told, "If you can't say something good about someone..say nothing". Another one was, "keep your words soft and sweet, you never know "when" you may have to eat them". There were so many and your post brought back such good memories and times long gone as my parents have passed many years ago. Blessings!
Phyllis I was born in 1954 and have 3 sisters and 1 brother. My parents always prayed before we ate to give grace and thank god and Jesus for what we had
I miss Phyllis and all her interesting videos. Both my grandmothers died when I was fairly young and watching Phyllis always reminded me of them. Phyllis, you are greatly missed. R.I.P.
I could listen to you all day,just about everything you said were my up bringing rules too.One rule we had was no swimming for one hour after you eat.Beds had to be made before school.No one could leave the dinner table until everyone finished,children were to be seen and not heard.
Hi Mrs. Stokes my grandmother has taught me to always greet everyone. To always respect the elderly. She would also tell me that when I grew up and had a job to always be nice to everyone. Miss her so much. Ty for sharing.
Ms. Phyllis, one of the rules we had was... we had to take a wet wash rag to bed with us, we had to sit on the edge of the bed and wash both of our feet before putting them on the sheets even if we had just come out of the bath. Mama would say "Your feet are never clean, so you get you a nice warm warsh rag, and you take that to bed and warsh your feet good and clean before you get in them sheets". My mama ALWAYS added good and clean, you warsh the dishes good and clean, then you wipe the cabinets down good and clean, then you sleep up the floor good and clean.
That is a little bit funny though if you think about it... you would have been better off if your parents had just let you have slippers or flip-flops or even clean socks to put on after you got out of the tub and you could take those off before you hopped into the bed .
I am a child of the 60's and we heard a lot of the things that you said too, but my mother also always told us : Never eat at other people's houses, If someone makes you a plate of food just for you do not to eat it because they could be trying to hurt you, make sure to be in the house before the street lights come on, Be the bigger person, Two wrongs don't make a right, eating too much sugar will give you worms (of course this isn't true, but it kept us from eating too much candy), If you see some trash or paper on the floor pick it up! If a young man can't come to see you at a decent hour; then he can't come over. Since I had my children I make sure to always tell them I love you and be careful before any of us leave the house or See you later love you. Bless you and Mr. Bucky.
Loved this video! Mother always said "Children were to been seen and not heard", I guess she and Daddy (who was a old time baptist preacher) really believed in that since they had 7 of us kids. We all learned at an early age to sit quietly in church. When we were teenagers my sisters and I were whispering during a service and Daddy caught us, he stopped preaching mid sermon and said " all my girls, front row" we knew what was gonna happen when we got home. And we deserved it. lol
Some things my mom told me are ....always bring something if invited to a dinner or party. If you borrow something return it in better condition(a cake plate with a cake , a car with the gas tank with more gas than when you got it, etc,). Always remember Please and Thank you. Thank the host or hostess for being invited. You will be known by the company you keep.And the one thing my children laugh at........If you eat raw pasta noodles it will give you worms.
This was very interesting. Growing up I heard all theses things. When visiting someone you never sat down in some ones home unless you were invited to do so. You always addressed adults as Mr. or Mrs. never by first names. Always say yes/no mamma or sir. I think these teaching need to come back. I also remember that I was not allowed to cross my legs at the knee; at the ankles was fine. This really brought up some nostalgia.
I remember my friend was trying to address the mother of another friend when we were kids. He couldn't remember the last name so he said "Mrs. Susie's mom." I still chuckle at this now and then.
Oh, how wonderful that Peppy's so much better~excellent report! I was raised in the 60's&70's, yet nearly every one of the instructions you listed, I also received. My Mother and both of my Grandmothers pretty much agreed on all instruction as well. I had not heard the one about no milk with fish however, that;s news to me:) I also remember a few more such as don't swallow watermelon seeds or one will grow in your belly. Do not swallow your gum because it takes seven years to digest! One of my personal favorites; If you are not sure, do not speak, for it is better to remain silent and appear stupid than to open your mouth and remove all doubt!! Charming, right??
I was raised in the 70s but my mom had rules. Milk with meals. Not allowed to answer the phone at dinner time and usually had to turn off the tv. We traded off on kitchen cleaning with much fighting and whining. We were not driven to school so first we rode a bike, rain or shine, and then the bus. No one would get driven if late either. We lived in south Florida so it was quite interesting in thunderstorms or high buggy days. Sit like a lady was my moms version of not sitting improperly with a dress on. Always offer a guest a drink and a seat. We had a pool so the battle was to get towels and swimsuits hung up to dry. (Or they would sit on carpet or be in a moldy pile). Don't talk back. That was bent as a rule but in keeping with respect your parents. My dad used to tell us "Help your mother. "
I miss you, and thankful for your old videos......wish we had even more videos because you are an amazing human and we need so many more people like you....💜❤💖🧚♀️🧡🖤💜
Oh, and for those of us from the South in the '50s: one of the first things we were taught is to ALWAYS (when speaking to an adult) end the answer of "yes" or "no" with "sir" or "ma'am." One of my earliest memories is feeling so much pressure to do that, but I was really a little too young so I kept getting "sir" and "ma'am" mixed up! Some years later when my family lived in Southern California I felt so sorry for a boy that moved there from Texas in 4th grade and the whole class would HOWL in laughter every time he answered the teacher's question with "ma'am."
Aw, Peppy looks so sweet, I'm glad he's doing better. We'll keep him in our prayers. I was born in 1955 and I heard most of those things from my mom, too. I remember the vinegar rinse for your hair very well. My mom said that it got rid of the tangles, but I never could tell that it did any good, lol! There was also, "don't ever run while your carrying anything sharp. Great video, Miss Phyllis, it brought back a lot of memories. :)
Hi Phyllis, I'm 72, and I grew up with most of your mom's rules, things were so different then we listened to our parents. There were 4 brothers a sister and myself, I use to fight with my sister because she was lazy, although she was 7 yrs younger than myself she was suppose to help me with the chores and now she is worst then me with cleaning, how funny life is lol! The things is I don't remember my brothers having any chores! Thank you for walking us down memory lane! God Bless you and Mr Bucky!❤👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
I was born in 92 but my great grandparents raised me. But my papa always made us turn all the lights off and be quiet (not talk at all) while there was a thunder storm going on. He said it will get worse if we talk and we have to respect nature. I miss him dearly ❤️
I was born in the early sixties in Ga. We never ate any meal without saying the blessing. Also, if you had to get up from the table for tea or something else, you always asked the rest of the table if they needed anything. You also asked to be excused when finished. No adult was ever addressed by their first name and you always said no ma’am/sir or yes ma’am/sir. Never forget to say please and thank you!
We were supposed to bring an interesting item to talk about at the dinner table! We were expected to be able to maintain a lively and appropriate social conversation because being a 'good guest' was a valuable skill. I remember my sister looking in the newspaper for items to talk about. LOL. We were not allowed to gossip or talk about politics or religion. I was always a bookworm so I had books and stories to talk about. :-)
I can relate to most of that, and I passed most of it down to my daughter. One of the best memories I have is the day she thanked me for teaching her about manners and morals and assured me she is passing these things down to her children.
My 4 siblings and I were raised by our Dad but we're taught all of these same things. There were several that were my favorites but the one that stood out was, "Never forget, girls, that everyone loves a good time but nobody will marry one." Back then, that was the truth, too. The poor man had 4 girls to contend with! I thank God for him. Values were stressed in our day, for sure. I, too, still practice what I was taught.
I grew up in the seventies and I had many of the same rules you did from my Mother and Father. Especially from my Grandmother and she made sure we knew about all of her rules but she was very nice about it. Thanks for sharing this was so fun.
You must be a wonderful woman. It is so obvious how much your dog loves & trusts you! I remember never to speak or interrupt when my father was speaking.
I grew up with a lot of those rules in the sixties and seventies too, although many were being discarded as being "outdated." Your mom was right about the vacuum. I don't know if it would electrocute you, although with those older vacuums from the thirties and forties it might have, but it will ruin your vacuum. I repair vacuums for a living. In the last week, I've had to tear down and scrub out a vacuum that had picked up milk, and one that had picked up dog poop. I've cleaned out clumping kitty litter that has set like concrete, and I've cleaned out wet mud all through the hoses. They aren't made to be wet/dry vacs unless they are wet/dry vacs.
Phyllis, I am enjoying all of your videos. I am 75, but you have sure taught me a lot...lol I have heard all of the rules you mentioned. I still think of them, even as I am breaking a few. haha I passed them on to my kids, who break more than I do. What a heritage. I thank the Lord for it.
I remember when there were visitors or guests, the men would stand till the women were seated. Men would open doors for the women to exit or enter, and in normal family activities, they would carry heavier items. We always gave up our seat or place in line to elderly people. We had to address married women as Mrs rather than Miss. We wrote letters to married women by addressing the envelope "Mrs" and then the husband's full name instead of using the woman's first name. We were always made to write thank you notes after receiving gifts or having been part of a special event. We never dropped in on friends as a family without an invitation or calling first. My mom liked a certain soap opera and always watched it, but it was like a naughty secret...haha! Men would also pull out chairs for women to be seated, and the hostess would be up and down all through dinner refilling glasses or removing used dishes. Small babies were often washed in the sink or the old wringer-washer type washtubs. My grandma still ironed sheets that had been dried on the clothesline. We didn't eat between meals and rarely ever ate out. Most women wore aprons when cooking. No dresses were worn without slips and pantyhose or socks. When around guests, at dinner, or in public, girls had to "act like ladies." Guests were given the best we had. We had to answer the phone politely and write down messages accurately with a return phone number. We were not allowed to answer the door for any reason if parents were not home. We didn't get taken to the doctor "unless we were dying" lol. We had regular chores that had to be done before playing. We could only have pets if we were responsible enough to care for them daily. We made believe a lot and invented our own entertainment instead of having fancy toys. We had to clean and polish our own shoes. No food or drinks anywhere but the kitchen or at the table. We'd pack sack lunches if we were going somewhere past lunchtime. A cola from a service station bottle machine was a huge treat! A lot of kids were in 4H and we had projects like sewing, cooking, or exhibiting animals at county fairs.
Robbyn AndJack I'm thankful my mother passed down some of those things to me! I'm 27 now and I still write thank you cards (and make my fiance do the same) and I would be a mess if I had to cook or bake without an apron.
Robbyn AndJack Wow. I would get anxiety if that rule about not taking kids to the doctor "unless they were dying" now a days minor things can treated without prescription..they can be found in the grocery store.
DianddraD Feminism doesn't equal an aversion to living a "traditional" life. I am one hundred percent a feminist. I'm also fully intending on being a housewife and stay at home mom. That is what brings my fiance and I joy. Feminism simply means equality. It has nothing to do with how you decide to live your family life. I can choose to do those things and live traditionally but it IS a choice. I am not obligated or told that's all I'm capable of.
Very beautiful tribute.My prayers are with u.Mr.Bucky will be greatly missed he made me laugh so many times such a great couple there was so much love between them and so much respect.I will keep praying for u to get better.luv ur channel.
Another one I just remembered: but it was for the parents, not the kids: never fight in front of the children. That is one I certainly would like to see followed, especially with the bitter divorces and custody battles so common today.
This is one of the most important rules here. I've seen children ripped apart by their parents' fighting, and it is always traumatic for a child of any age. The consequences to the child can be permanent and really devastating.
My parents rarely had arguments in front of us children. They never yelled at or called one another names - ever. They didn’t curse in front of us. They were strict but there were five children in a small home and there had to be order. Our house was always clean because we always worked to keep it that way! We were taught to not talk back to our elders, a huge problem that I see with kids today. Phyllis was an amazing, wonderful, beautiful woman with a heart of gold. ❤️
I love this Phyllis...I was born in the early 60's and we had a lot of rules too. A lot of the same ones. We were told to never swollen gum because it would stick to your ribs. I remember when I swollowed gum the first time....OMG.....I thought I was going to die!!! I flipped out.....Another one was for the boys...if you don't behave you're going to the bad boys home! Well they brought all of us to see this run down horrible looking house and told us this was the home for the bad boys. The look on our faces were priceless. I remember my brother Peter was doing something he was told not to do a million times and when my dad got home he took him in the car and told us he was going to the bad boys home!!! We were all crying and begging my father to please not to bring him there!!! Well my dad did and when my father got out of the car by that house my brother pleaded and said he would never do it again. My father told him he had one more chance and he never did it again!!!!!! We all turned out ok and have respect for others. Rules is whats missing with kids. Parents are always too busy and let kids do what they want to keep them occupied. We need to go back to old values!!!!!!
Hi Phyllis, one of the things I was to all ways sit still with my hands folded in my lap. I was never to sit down before an elderly person did. Never to take more food than we could eat, and never leave the table until we were giving permission to do so. I actually miss these family gatherings as I am the last one left of the original family. I hope I have instilled good manners to my children.
Thanks for doing this video. I grew up in the 50s as well and every single one of those instructions related to my house as well. There were two others that I can remember. One was always turn the TV off when company came and the other was never leave the house without clean underwear on. Wish every household had these rules nowadays.
I loved this!! My grandmother told me these very same things!! Same with the bacon and eggs every morning!! Everything you said really took me back!! She was born in 1920 and died in 1997 and I still think of her and miss her every single day!!! Thank you for the memories.
I will truly will miss you and your southern accent and you kind loving heart, I’m so sad from your padding away. The good thing is that you will be with Mr. Buckley. You wi truly be missed.❤️ God Bless you and your family.
i grew up in the 60's and 70's but my parents gave us a lot of the same house rules that you had, :) watching your video's is fun cause it brings back so many memories. thanks for this. :)
I love that she shared this list. We had many of the same rules, I don’t remember the milk and fish one though. Haha! Thank you for the legacy of videos you’ve left for us, Phyllis. I will watch them over and over again for sure. I miss you already and only met you less than a week ago.
I grew up in the 50's too. One big rule we lived by, and still do today, if you're given a gift , you must write a thank you note. In the summer we played outside all day long and the only rule was "be in when the street lights come on!" If a neighbor needed assistance like shoveling snow or carrying in groceries, NEVER ever accept money. A good deed is it's own reward.
@ Phyllis Stokes I'm just getting around to watching some of these/your older videos while patiently waiting as you grieve and mourn the loss of your dear husband, Mr. Bucky!! I was SO surprised and very saddened (as I'm sure all of your TH-cam subscribers were) to hear that he had passed away! Just know that we are all praying for you and your family and that those prayers will bring you strength & love ((hugs))!! I'm Canadian - I was born,raised (and still live) in Nova Scotia and I was taught many of the same things from my mother!!
JoAnn Hutt, I am Canadian also, up until 15 - 16 in Manitoba and Saskatchewan, from the age of 16 in Ottawa. I was born in 1956 and remember most of those rules as well. Another one as I got to be a teenager and young adult was to never discuss sex, religion, politics or finances. That one came from my mum’s mum. The funny thing was no one enjoyed a political discussion like my nana. We also had to let our parents know where we were going and who we would be with. This video sure has brought back some wonderful memories.
Jan. 31/20. I understand you passed from us a week ago tomorrow if I understood your Son's post properly. Binge watching your videos & grateful for the sight of you & sound of your voice. I was raised with the same rules.....thankfully..
We were raised in California and we had a neighbor from Arkansas which is where my mother was born. This neighbor sent a cast iron skillet of hers over full of some food she had made. Mother left my brother and I to do dishes that night. My brother chose to wash and I dried. He put the cast iron skillet in the sink and commented on how "dirty" that skillet was. It had crust all in it he said. He got out the cleanser and the wire wool out and started cleaning that skillet until it finally looked almost silver, rinsed it and gave it to me to dry. I dried that poor skillet and mother took it back home. I often think of that poor lady when she saw her skillet.
I love you, Phyllis, and I am praying for your complete comfort and recovery. I discovered you quite recently but I watch all of your videos. You are inspiring and so knowledgeable about so many things. I hope you will have your recipes printed in a cookbook so all your friends can obtain a copy. I watch you often throughout the day and I feel like you a member of my family. I am very concerned about the recent developments with your health but rest assured that all of your many friends are praying for you and wishing you completely well. Hugs, Sue
Well Phyllis, those are the same rules that we had in our family! I think that those rules were good rules to live by and I find myself telling my grandkids all of those rules. Good words to live by. Thankyou for sharing!
I had five different foster homes growing up. After my divorce, I went to stay with my first foster mother, ( I was just 24), I said the cuss word "darn". So she called the YMCA to come get me and remove me from her home. They told her that they would not take me, but they told her to call the Battered Women's Shelter, so she did. She put all my belongings out on the porch that night. It was raining and windy, (this was in Olympia, Washington), They came to pick me up, and I was never allowed to come back into her home. I stayed in the battered women's shelter for a few months, until I found a friend to move out of the state with. This was the tip of the iceberg, as far as strict foster parents go! Nowadays, just what would kids AND grownups do, if they were reprimanded as such, for talking the way they commonly do ?!
Your post made me tear up. That was a terrible story. You deserved to be loved unconditionally. You are enough, you have always been enough. Remember that.
Oh Mandy this saddens my heart. I am so sorry you were treated badly. I hope you are doing well & are happy now. You deserve to be loved. Sending prayers, & blessings & love your way.
So Sorry You Were Just Thrown Away Like That, Family Should Never Treat Each Other Like That, Darn Was Just A Word...I Sure Hope You Met The Lord Jesus Christ And Hang On To Him He Will Never Leave Or Forsake You❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏Praying For Your Life To Be Full Of Love❤
I wish you were my neighbor! I was born in 1962 and brought up catholic. Many of those rules sounded just like my upbringing. Added to that list was always pray before meals. Always ask to be excused from the dinner table. Say "God bless you " when someone sneezed. Always knock on the door before entering a room. We had a bell that my mom would ring when she wanted us to come home and if you couldn't hear the bell you were too far away from home and you had better come running home as soon as the bell was rung!
LOL My Mom rang a bell too when it was dinnertime. If you didn't make it home in time, there probably wasn't any left. I was born in 1956, brought up catholic and a lot of these rules we grew up with too. Thanks for sharing these Phyllis. What memories they bring back. Thinking of sharing this video and comments with the parents. They are 84 and 78. I think they would just start smiling and say "Ya, dem were the good old days, don't ya know". Minnesota talk here.
We had to be excused from the dinner table. Never allow the milk carton on the table while we had dinner. Wear clean underwear without any frays or rips, as you never know if you will end out into the ER and someone may see it.
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We were always told not to eat watermelon seeds that a watermelon would grow in our stomachs LOL
Mimi Truesdale Oh my gosh! How I remember being told that when I was a kid ~ guess my Dad had a dry humour when we'd pass a pregnant woman! I used to swallow the seeds every now and then but my eyes popped and I never ate a watermelon the same again! 😏
@mimi. Amazing! That's what my mother used to say to me and I'm on the other side of the globe to you (South Africa). Horror stories know no borders.
I was told because I loved watermelon that I would pieee all night long !!!
We heard the same as children but my older sister and younger brother thought about the situation and we decided it would happen only if you are dirt.
& never swallow gum because it never leaves the stomach and grows into a big deadly ball there.
Always wear clean under ware in case u r in an accident.
Patricia Bender Oh YES I remember that one ! Hehehe
I think I heard this every time I left the house-my mantra from my 50's mom!
We always had to wear clean underwear for the same reasons. Alsomy mother insisted that we never talk to strangers. We were told not to speak to elders unless we were asked to.
Always wait 45 minutes after eating a meal before you go in swimming. Otherwise, you might get a cramp.
P.S. I have a friend named Allen Nunnally who grew up in Newport News, Virginia. He was born in 1949. Just wondered if you knew him.
Patricia Bender my mom still says that and I am 54 years old 😂😂
As a retired elementary school teacher, I can truly say that in my experience, there's been a sad decline in the number of children who are taught these life rules. Nowadays parents seem to think that the school exists to teach their children EVERYTHING that children need to know to be decent, successful adults. I've even had a parent say that to me during a conference!!
Oh, and my parents let us ride our horses all day, Mother would take a bag from the Roman Meal bread and pack us some bologna sandwiches and a jar of koolaid and we would literally be gone all day long, we carried rifles for our protection from wild critters of the 4 legged variety and snakes, and we would hunt for rabbits for the table, I don't guess our parents ever had any worries about the humans we would run into. I was 7-8 and my sister was 9-10, both girls. Can you imagine parents allow 2 young girls to go off miles from home, carrying rifles, and being gone ALL day and sometimes overnight??
Not in this day and time. It's barely safe to leave the house😢
We never carried guns in the city, of course, but were warned about talking, or ever going with strangers. Instead, we walked and biked in groups of three, everywhere when on our own. It was a good main rule in case anything happened! I noticed how much more self reliant my friends were in the country, because they were used to taking care of themselves. Also, the rule of not drinking milk with fish was one we followed.
Thank you for your insight! Being a middle school teacher now, I am in total agreement about the responsibilities that educators are confronted with daily! The only reason I’ve been able to do this for 25 years is...my students...! I call them, “my goodies” because they are the good part the best part during this season in my brief existence!!!! They are such a blessing to me... Actually, I am the one that gets “schooled” every sweet day! Now, I must say that this wonderful insight that has come to fruition ever since I filled out some silly papers... MY RETIREMENT PAPERS!!! Wow, it’s fantastic how doing such a simple act as filling out some papers has impacted me in so very many ways! ;) I graduated, with my Bachelors Degree from The College of Health and Human Performance at The University of Florida...GO 🐊 Gators, when I was 39 years old... Got my age figured out? ;) So my projected retirement date is in 7 years!! It actually kinda scares me, the biggest being of course that I won’t be around my 😜 crazy middle schoolers...very 😔. I’m to miss the smells of the 1955 gym ( I was born in 1956) and locker room ( NOT the boys locker room, GROSS), the sounds as I’m outside laughing at them playing whatever activity is planned for that day with my great co-worker as, we enjoy the beautiful 69-72 degree Florida sun in February!!) I’m taking a break right now from putting grades in the computer this evening, to jot this quick note to you because of your comments, that touched me since I too have had, and are currently reflecting on this progress report eve, the same exact type of experiences you did...! Funny how in life how, if you live long enough, get to live through that saying, “Full Circle” thingy...! Life can be.... whatever the heck you make it baby!!! All it takes is hard work and dedication! A person does not have to be so called intelligent...we can have everything we want, with the perceptivity of what hard work and dedication can reap! Again thank you for sharing a bit of your wisdom... Be Blessed. JP
@@jackipalmer5680 I have no idea what USF was like almost 40 years ago but I did live in the area for a couple years and moved away in 2013 . I would imagine there were a lot less stores and parking lots on Fowler Avenue .
I wonder if 40 years ago they had that big round top flea market place which was out of this world and massive ... did they have that back then ?
Also I remember hearing that actress Faye Dunaway went to USF .
I'm glad you have enjoyed teaching school and appreciate your students .
I'm wondering if you feel the kids so today are more pampered and overly protected by their parents . I feel that in many ways they are .
For one thing when I was a kid we did a lot more walking to and from places . Our parents didn't chauffeur us around everywhere .
Anyway I miss the beauty of the Tampa Bay area .... even on my worst day of Florida I still couldn't believe how beautiful it was there .
Patricia Orsborn sad.... those were the days!
Lovely blouse Miss Phyliss...I'm sure your Mother would be so proud of you...you are a treasure trove of information and of wisdom.
Children were brought up w/ proper morals & to be respectful. Born in 1954 & raised w/ many of the same rules & advice. Raised in a small village of Maybrook,NY where w/ most families knew each other. I think southerners were stricter.Unfortunately, the majority of today's youth are rude & indignant.
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thank you for sharing that! 😁🌺
Soo true !!!
Today's youth being rude and ignorant are a product of lazy parents not having expectations, and high ones at that and not whipping their asses when they needed it. LAZY PARENTS, OR SO CALLED ADULTS.
this reminds me of my mom. one of my moms biggest lessons she taught me was "just because you are poor doesn't mean you have to be dirty" a bar of ivory soap and elbow grease and mom could clean anything. we were taught to care for our things keep clean and never be wasteful. mom didnt have much growing up and always taught us how important it is to be grateful. she passed away almost 4 years ago now I miss her so much.
I was born in 1956, and most all the things you said was the same things we were taught. We were always taught never to ask for anything at anyone's home unless it was offered.... even water...lol Love your videos.
Emily Reno I could be dying of thirst but I always said no thank you. If they forced food or drink on us, I had to clean our dishes.
Oh, Phyllis, remembering such innocent times brings tears. Back before the PC police took over the world. Back when any adult was allowed to and even expected to "call down" unruly children. And if a young man forgot to remove his cap in church someone would remove it for him and hand it to him with a firm admonishment. Also I remember having the rights that my parents allowed me to have. I didn't have an attorney to argue my side; I didn't have a side unless my folks said I did. What great memories.
I was born in 1947 and I remember all that you listed and so many others mentioned here as well. Hope I'm not repeating but 3 more I recall are "Close the door! Were you born in a barn?" If we were listening to adults talk, sometimes we'd hear them say, "Little pitchers have big ears." And when we got caught doing something wrong if we offered as explanation that, "Johnny did it first." we would hear, "Well, if Johnny jumped off a cliff, would you jump, too?"
My folks never punished in anger but they did discipline in love, although at the time it was hard to tell the difference. I had to grow up and have a family to appreciate how much patience they had and how much we were loved. Which makes me think of another saying (although I never was told this.) "When you grow up I hope you have children just like you."
Thanks for the memories. You and Mr. Bucky are like family.
Ms Phyllis, I enjoy you so much. I just heard about the passing of Mr. Bucky, and I was 💓 broken. I pray that God will continue to give you the peace and comfort you so need now. You are SPECIAL, AND KIND, LOVING, and truly a BLESSING TO MANY. THAT EXCLUDES ME. Stay Strong. GOD IS WITH YOU 💝
I realize I'm answering this several years after it's written, and Ms Phyllis and Mr Bucky are gone, and I had watched this video years ago! But speaking of the boys taking their caps or hats off when entering church, and usually homes, courtroom,many different buildings actually,now grown men even wear hats or caps in churches, even on stage doing worship music, because it's "part of their ensemble"!!! I can't get over it!!! Manners aren't being taught or lived these days!!
Don't go outside with wet hair because you will catch a cold.
My mom said never go outside shortly after taking a hot bath or shower in the winter time because the pores are open and you could get sick ... but I remember thinking well what if you're all bundled up
We were told by my English mum, never to go to bed with wet hair! Said it gave a headache in the morning. Also never to eat toasted cheese before bed time as it gave you nightmares. The funniest was, if you put the kettle on to boil to make tea that you must finnish the job and not allow another person to make the tea as you would have ginger babies!.
My dad had red hair, guess what?
We were all ginger babies!
My mom harped on this. Her sister passed from pneumonia when she was 18 and had washed her hair.
Don't keep the door open you're letting the flies in, or the cold air out.
Heating or cooling the neighborhood depending on season 😁
My beloved great-aunt just passed away in April, but she helped my mom to raise me and she must've been the one to teach me this rule because she always loved to tell a story about it to anyone who would listen. Apparently when we were moving out of our old house (I had just turned 4) she was looking after me in the living room and I could see where the movers had propped the front door open, so I yelled at them, "Guys, close the door! You're letting all the bugs in!"
I watched your sons post on your passing. He did so well. I can’t wait to see him carry on the Mrs. Bucky way. I loved this post, it came on right after me finding out you were gone. You always did have a way of giving direction with the utmost kindness.
I know your son will do very well and I will keep watching but I’m going to miss you & mr Bucky very much. It was like having family I had never met. Love always, a relative from the west. Xoxo rip Mrs Stokes.
and no elbows on the table!
Jeanie, Jeanie, strong and able, get your elbows off the table!
Great video of the rules from back in the day!!
'Elbows elbows off the table, this is not a horses stable!'
This video put a huge smile on my face. Even though I was born in the '60s, we had most of these rules you've cited, and they do seem to stick with you for life. Here's a few more I got: "No dating until you are 16." "The boy always pays for the date - no going Dutch." "No red lipstick on a girl - you're not an adult."
My father told me to always keep a dime on me so I could make a phone call on a pay phone if I needed to call home.
That was my mother
I forgot that! How I do remember that!
Funny story: I was 14:and we had just moved. We had to schedule our phone to be connected (1974). In the meantime we used the pay phone at the corner store. My Mom was at work so I was the designated person to wait for Ma Bell after school. My Mom told me to call my Dad at work and tell him to bring home milk . Phone was installed successfully. They both got home from work and my Mom asked my Dad where he put the milk while she was cooking dinner. He asked, what milk? My Mom asked me why I didn't call my Dad and have him bring the milk? I said - you forgot to leave me a dime. My Mom and Dad laughed so hard! It never occurred to me to use the phone!!! Can't say that was my only "blonde moment"!
Most of the people I knew didn’t have a dime!
My mom called it “ mad money “ so this was just taught for the dating years for girls where if a girl got mad at her date she could call home and have someone come get her.
Dad: No talking while the Lawrence Welk show is on! LOL
Mizz Mary yes. No talking when news is going on.
Mizz Mary yes no talking during Lawrence welk or hee haw.
LOL..👍
There is still no talking at my house during Lawrence Welk! Saturday nights on your local pbs station!
It was okay with me to be out of the house when all dad lived for was Sunday and Monday night football!! Roger Staubach fanatic, he was!!
My mother was born in 1951. She is turning 70 in October 2021. She grew up with much of the same rules. Life was so much simpler years ago.
no body talks or even answers the phone during dinner. If its that important they will call back. As a teenager that just about killed us.
Are you telling me you are not allowed to talk at the dinner table ? You just ate in silence ?
My friend did that and missed her brothers last phone call as he was dying of a heart attack. Destroyed her. :(
Do not leave the refrigerator door open and just stand there. Cut the lights off when you leave the room.
you must live in the east coast? Cut the lights 💡😀
My older sister is hard core about lights being off if you are not in the room. Saves electricity.
Don't slam the screen door!!
I miss you Phyllis. Even though I can hear your calming voice anytime I like and see the pups, I still miss you and all the things you taught us. I still watch your channel and listen to Stephen's stories now and watch him cook, he's a very good cook and makes me smile. It's funny how I got to know a complete stranger through TH-cam and end up missing you, Mr Bucky and the pups. I'm glad you and Mr Bucky are at peace together. I'm sure you're still sipping sweet tea and enjoying each other's stories. 🌻
MOM USED TO ALWAYS SAY IF YOU CAN'T SAY SOMETHING NICE ABOUT SOMEONE DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. HER AND HER FRIENDS GOSSIPED ALL THE TIME. LOL!
Basically the rule for y'all was do as I say not do as I do.
...1953 raised from birth by grandparents, while mother worked. There was rules to live by, but it was a way of life. Life was simple and you appreciated the little things. Around the age of 6/7, I remember being in the school cafeteria and watching 3 girls as I threw my empty lunch bag in the trash. They had such beautiful dresses on. They were talking about how much money they had so they could buy "ice cream" (??) I heard them say it cost .10 for an ice cream sandwich. It was at that moment in time I knew I was different. God, I wanted an ice cream so bad. I excepted it, and never asked anyone for .10 to buy one. My brother & I both had chores, that's just the way it was.. we didn't get allowance and never asked for anything in return, instead we always asked if someone needed help doing something, because "Idle hands is the devils work." I was taught from the age of 3, how to clean the dishes, bake bread, can relish, cook, clean, and wash cloths and hang them on the line.. because that's how life was back then. There was no movies, no neighbors, no fast food businesses and no restaurants.. but we did have church activities, and summer picnics with family over. I miss my nanny & poppa, they meant the world to me. When I look in my grand daughters eyes I see them.. that's just the way it is.
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What a beautiful memory.
Jo Anne, your a sweet person. Those girls were cruel.
Phyllis, I enjoy your talks and also Mr. Bucky. I believe people in the south are more polite. And I e been all over the states and the world. There's just something about southerns that appeals to me.
What a sweet share. Thank you.
First time poster Phyllis and so enjoyed listening to your mothers golden rules. All were taught to me as well along with a few others like " When you are in the company of adults, don't speak until spoken to" and a meal time rule was never put your elbows on the table. Thanks for the walk down memory lane. Wish my children taught their children how they were taught. Some of the rules I grew up with were a tad over the top but there would be more respect for others in this world if those old rules were followed in today's world. Cheers
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Aww yes the elbows
I'm glad my foster mom made me wash dishes after supper. It carries into adulthood because I can't stand seeing dirty dishes left out or a messy kitchen. I thought she was a slave driver then but now I'm very grateful for her value.
When I'm feeling down about this world and the way it is, I listen to Ms. Phyllis and her stories about the way things were in the 50's. I sure miss her and her stories...
"You be good to that older person, you'll be old yourself someday."
"Don't stare at someone who's crippled, you'll make them feel bad."
"Don't you go off to where I can't look outside and see you."
"I don't care what somebody else's mother lets them do, YOU are not going to do that!"
"Don't tear up your toys. They may be all you ever have." (My Easy Bake is still in the attic)
.....Echoes from the mid-60's..... :)
I just heard my Mom, now deceased, speaking. God love you for that!
benni1023fm Phyliss you are the best♡♡♡ I am so glad to have found your channel,it is like listening to my mom.♡♡♡
I never had an easy bake oven, my mom taught me to bake instead. I bought one in my early 50's and it sat in my office at work. We actually used it too.
Yeah we were told not to stare also and my toys never lasted long and a family of 7 kids some of whom were destructive.... I had an easy bake oven and I loved it
@@naomiemoore5725 I think that is really cool that you had an easy bake oven in your office when you were older
I enjoyed this sooo much. Heard many of these in my childhood. I miss Mrs. Stokes and Mr. Bucky. 🌹
My mother is around your age but my grandparents raised me, so all of these same instructions are deeply ingrained in me to this day. Great video.
I remember the cereal boxes used to show a good breakfast on the back of the box with cereal on the side. They don't do that anymore.
Loved your look back at the "good ol days". I always remember: "don't speak unless spoken to" and for sure that "children do not interrupt adults talking-ever!"
I feel so sad that Phyllis has gone home to be with the Lord, I just couldn't help watching her one last time.
Much love,
RIP Phyllis,
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I just found Phyllis and Bucky yesterday. My husband and I watched their video explaining how they met. I binged watched her today and didn’t learn until hours in that she and Bucky had passed on to heaven. 😢
OH! those were the good old days, only wish the kids today had those values. I still have those values. Thanks for the good old days.☺
My dad used to remind us. You can always learn from someone. There is always someone smarter than you! :)
I just discovered your TH-cam channel. I am smittened by you as you remind me of my Momma who passed in 2014. I love and appreciate all of your knowledge on cooking and life. I pray that God continues to bless you and Mr. Bucky❤❤
Thanks for the great memories, Phyllis!! One thing we Never did was.."Never contradict our elders". We were always told, "If you can't say something good about someone..say nothing". Another one was, "keep your words soft and sweet, you never know "when" you
may have to eat them". There were so many and your post brought back such good memories and times long gone as my parents have passed many years ago. Blessings!
Phyllis I was born in 1954 and have 3 sisters and 1 brother. My parents always prayed before we ate to give grace and thank god and Jesus for what we had
I miss Phyllis and all her interesting videos. Both my grandmothers died when I was fairly young and watching Phyllis always reminded me of them.
Phyllis, you are greatly missed. R.I.P.
I could listen to you all day,just about everything you said were my up bringing rules too.One rule we had was no swimming for one hour after you eat.Beds had to be made before school.No one could leave the dinner table until everyone finished,children were to be seen and not heard.
Hi Mrs. Stokes
my grandmother has taught me to always greet everyone. To always respect the elderly. She would also tell me that when I grew up and had a job to always be nice to everyone. Miss her so much. Ty for sharing.
Ms. Phyllis, one of the rules we had was... we had to take a wet wash rag to bed with us, we had to sit on the edge of the bed and wash both of our feet before putting them on the sheets even if we had just come out of the bath. Mama would say "Your feet are never clean, so you get you a nice warm warsh rag, and you take that to bed and warsh your feet good and clean before you get in them sheets". My mama ALWAYS added good and clean, you warsh the dishes good and clean, then you wipe the cabinets down good and clean, then you sleep up the floor good and clean.
She's right about the feet
I still say warsh lol
That is a little bit funny though if you think about it... you would have been better off if your parents had just let you have slippers or flip-flops or even clean socks to put on after you got out of the tub and you could take those off before you hopped into the bed .
@@carolforsythe6316 "Warsh" "Warder" etc., etc
Thank God she made these videos before she passed. What a sweet lady ~ ❤
I am a child of the 60's and we heard a lot of the things that you said too, but my mother also always told us : Never eat at other people's houses, If someone makes you a plate of food just for you do not to eat it because they could be trying to hurt you, make sure to be in the house before the street lights come on, Be the bigger person, Two wrongs don't make a right, eating too much sugar will give you worms (of course this isn't true, but it kept us from eating too much candy), If you see some trash or paper on the floor pick it up! If a young man can't come to see you at a decent hour; then he can't come over. Since I had my children I make sure to always tell them I love you and be careful before any of us leave the house or See you later love you. Bless you and Mr. Bucky.
Yvonne Luke can you expand about the plate of food?
Loved this video! Mother always said "Children were to been seen and not heard", I guess she and Daddy (who was a old time baptist preacher) really believed in that since they had 7 of us kids. We all learned at an early age to sit quietly in church. When we were teenagers my sisters and I were whispering during a service and Daddy caught us, he stopped preaching mid sermon and said " all my girls, front row" we knew what was gonna happen when we got home. And we deserved it. lol
Some things my mom told me are ....always bring something if invited to a dinner or party. If you borrow something return it in better condition(a cake plate with a cake , a car with the gas tank with more gas than when you got it, etc,). Always remember Please and Thank you. Thank the host or hostess for being invited. You will be known by the company you keep.And the one thing my children laugh at........If you eat raw pasta noodles it will give you worms.
This was very interesting. Growing up I heard all theses things. When visiting someone you never sat down in some ones home unless you were invited to do so. You always addressed adults as Mr. or Mrs. never by first names. Always say yes/no mamma or sir. I think these teaching need to come back. I also remember that I was not allowed to cross my legs at the knee; at the ankles was fine. This really brought up some nostalgia.
bluedazz I speak another language. We were required to say something like at your service. We were super formal.
I remember my friend was trying to address the mother of another friend when we were kids. He couldn't remember the last name so he said "Mrs. Susie's mom." I still chuckle at this now and then.
I guess your mother forgot one rule: " If you borrow something, always return it in a timely manner!"
Oh, how wonderful that Peppy's so much better~excellent report! I was raised in the 60's&70's, yet nearly every one of the instructions you listed, I also received. My Mother and both of my Grandmothers pretty much agreed on all instruction as well. I had not heard the one about no milk with fish however, that;s news to me:) I also remember a few more such as don't swallow watermelon seeds or one will grow in your belly. Do not swallow your gum because it takes seven years to digest! One of my personal favorites; If you are not sure, do not speak, for it is better to remain silent and appear stupid than to open your mouth and remove all doubt!! Charming, right??
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I was raised in the 70s but my mom had rules. Milk with meals. Not allowed to answer the phone at dinner time and usually had to turn off the tv. We traded off on kitchen cleaning with much fighting and whining. We were not driven to school so first we rode a bike, rain or shine, and then the bus. No one would get driven if late either. We lived in south Florida so it was quite interesting in thunderstorms or high buggy days. Sit like a lady was my moms version of not sitting improperly with a dress on. Always offer a guest a drink and a seat. We had a pool so the battle was to get towels and swimsuits hung up to dry. (Or they would sit on carpet or be in a moldy pile). Don't talk back. That was bent as a rule but in keeping with respect your parents. My dad used to tell us "Help your mother. "
I miss you, and thankful for your old videos......wish we had even more videos because you are an amazing human and we need so many more people like you....💜❤💖🧚♀️🧡🖤💜
Oh my gosh, listening to your mom's rules is hearing my mom all over again! :)
Gone too soon. Thanks for all the wisdom you shared.
Oh, and for those of us from the South in the '50s: one of the first things we were taught is to ALWAYS (when speaking to an adult) end the answer of "yes" or "no" with "sir" or "ma'am." One of my earliest memories is feeling so much pressure to do that, but I was really a little too young so I kept getting "sir" and "ma'am" mixed up! Some years later when my family lived in Southern California I felt so sorry for a boy that moved there from Texas in 4th grade and the whole class would HOWL in laughter every time he answered the teacher's question with "ma'am."
Michele Michael*
That Southern boy was brought up right, God bless him.
Aw, Peppy looks so sweet, I'm glad he's doing better. We'll keep him in our prayers. I was born in 1955 and I heard most of those things from my mom, too. I remember the vinegar rinse for your hair very well. My mom said that it got rid of the tangles, but I never could tell that it did any good, lol! There was also, "don't ever run while your carrying anything sharp. Great video, Miss Phyllis, it brought back a lot of memories. :)
Thank you for praying, Peppy is so much better now.
Will miss you Ms. Phyllis. 😞
Rest in his presence.
Hi Phyllis, I'm 72, and I grew up with most of your mom's rules, things were so different then we listened to our parents. There were 4 brothers a sister and myself, I use to fight with my sister because she was lazy, although she was 7 yrs younger than myself she was suppose to help me with the chores and now she is worst then me with cleaning, how funny life is lol! The things is I don't remember my brothers having any chores! Thank you for walking us down memory lane! God Bless you and Mr Bucky!❤👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
The rules of your parents are a reflection of you!!! Sensational lady.❤️
I was raised with the same values and rules. I still abide by them and we taught our children the same. Thank you for the reminders.
omg i love these!!! my parents died when i was young no never got a good up bringing..
thank u for these..
anna sibley Bless you sweetie ❤️
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bless your heart ,Anna hope u r blessed w/your own family..
Such a precious lady sharing wisdom! Rest In Peace!
I was born in 92 but my great grandparents raised me. But my papa always made us turn all the lights off and be quiet (not talk at all) while there was a thunder storm going on. He said it will get worse if we talk and we have to respect nature. I miss him dearly ❤️
That’s cute.
I was born in the early sixties in Ga. We never ate any meal without saying the blessing. Also, if you had to get up from the table for tea or something else, you always asked the rest of the table if they needed anything. You also asked to be excused when finished. No adult was ever addressed by their first name and you always said no ma’am/sir or yes ma’am/sir. Never forget to say please and thank you!
We were supposed to bring an interesting item to talk about at the dinner table! We were expected to be able to maintain a lively and appropriate social conversation because being a 'good guest' was a valuable skill. I remember my sister looking in the newspaper for items to talk about. LOL. We were not allowed to gossip or talk about politics or religion. I was always a bookworm so I had books and stories to talk about. :-)
I can relate to most of that, and I passed most of it down to my daughter. One of the best memories I have is the day she thanked me for teaching her about manners and morals and assured me she is passing these things down to her children.
My 4 siblings and I were raised by our Dad but we're taught all of these same things. There were several that were my favorites but the one that stood out was, "Never forget, girls, that everyone loves a good time but nobody will marry one." Back then, that was the truth, too. The poor man had 4 girls to contend with! I thank God for him. Values were stressed in our day, for sure. I, too, still practice what I was taught.
This is so sweet! I’m being raised in this generation by my grandma who I call mom and have been taught many of the same morals and lessons!
I grew up in the seventies and I had many of the same rules you did from my Mother and Father. Especially from my Grandmother and she made sure we knew about all of her rules but she was very nice about it. Thanks for sharing this was so fun.
You must be a wonderful woman. It is so obvious how much your dog loves & trusts you! I remember never to speak or interrupt when my father was speaking.
I grew up with a lot of those rules in the sixties and seventies too, although many were being discarded as being "outdated." Your mom was right about the vacuum. I don't know if it would electrocute you, although with those older vacuums from the thirties and forties it might have, but it will ruin your vacuum. I repair vacuums for a living. In the last week, I've had to tear down and scrub out a vacuum that had picked up milk, and one that had picked up dog poop. I've cleaned out clumping kitty litter that has set like concrete, and I've cleaned out wet mud all through the hoses. They aren't made to be wet/dry vacs unless they are wet/dry vacs.
Point well made. Thank you.
Phyllis, I am enjoying all of your videos. I am 75, but you have sure taught me a lot...lol I have heard all of the rules you mentioned. I still think of them, even as I am breaking a few. haha I passed them on to my kids, who break more than I do. What a heritage. I thank the Lord for it.
I remember when there were visitors or guests, the men would stand till the women were seated. Men would open doors for the women to exit or enter, and in normal family activities, they would carry heavier items. We always gave up our seat or place in line to elderly people. We had to address married women as Mrs rather than Miss. We wrote letters to married women by addressing the envelope "Mrs" and then the husband's full name instead of using the woman's first name. We were always made to write thank you notes after receiving gifts or having been part of a special event. We never dropped in on friends as a family without an invitation or calling first. My mom liked a certain soap opera and always watched it, but it was like a naughty secret...haha! Men would also pull out chairs for women to be seated, and the hostess would be up and down all through dinner refilling glasses or removing used dishes. Small babies were often washed in the sink or the old wringer-washer type washtubs. My grandma still ironed sheets that had been dried on the clothesline. We didn't eat between meals and rarely ever ate out. Most women wore aprons when cooking. No dresses were worn without slips and pantyhose or socks. When around guests, at dinner, or in public, girls had to "act like ladies." Guests were given the best we had. We had to answer the phone politely and write down messages accurately with a return phone number. We were not allowed to answer the door for any reason if parents were not home. We didn't get taken to the doctor "unless we were dying" lol. We had regular chores that had to be done before playing. We could only have pets if we were responsible enough to care for them daily. We made believe a lot and invented our own entertainment instead of having fancy toys. We had to clean and polish our own shoes. No food or drinks anywhere but the kitchen or at the table. We'd pack sack lunches if we were going somewhere past lunchtime. A cola from a service station bottle machine was a huge treat! A lot of kids were in 4H and we had projects like sewing, cooking, or exhibiting animals at county fairs.
Robbyn AndJack I'm thankful my mother passed down some of those things to me! I'm 27 now and I still write thank you cards (and make my fiance do the same) and I would be a mess if I had to cook or bake without an apron.
Robbyn AndJack Wow. I would get anxiety if that rule about not taking kids to the doctor "unless they were dying" now a days minor things can treated without prescription..they can be found in the grocery store.
Robbyn AndJack The best of life is what you described,I loved those days.♡♡♡♡
and then we got feminists to ruin all that.
DianddraD Feminism doesn't equal an aversion to living a "traditional" life. I am one hundred percent a feminist. I'm also fully intending on being a housewife and stay at home mom. That is what brings my fiance and I joy. Feminism simply means equality. It has nothing to do with how you decide to live your family life. I can choose to do those things and live traditionally but it IS a choice. I am not obligated or told that's all I'm capable of.
Very beautiful tribute.My prayers are with u.Mr.Bucky will be greatly missed he made me laugh so many times such a great couple there was so much love between them and so much respect.I will keep praying for u to get better.luv ur channel.
Another one I just remembered: but it was for the parents, not the kids: never fight in front of the children. That is one I certainly would like to see followed, especially with the bitter divorces and custody battles so common today.
Michele Michael* its very traumatic.
This is one of the most important rules here. I've seen children ripped apart by their parents' fighting, and it is always traumatic for a child of any age. The consequences to the child can be permanent and really devastating.
My parents rarely had arguments in front of us children. They never yelled at or called one another names - ever. They didn’t curse in front of us. They were strict but there were five children in a small home and there had to be order. Our house was always clean because we always worked to keep it that way! We were taught to not talk back to our elders, a huge problem that I see with kids today. Phyllis was an amazing, wonderful, beautiful woman with a heart of gold. ❤️
It’s so comforting to listen to your gentle voice. I miss you. xo
I love this Phyllis...I was born in the early 60's and we had a lot of rules too. A lot of the same ones. We were told to never swollen gum because it would stick to your ribs. I remember when I swollowed gum the first time....OMG.....I thought I was going to die!!! I flipped out.....Another one was for the boys...if you don't behave you're going to the bad boys home! Well they brought all of us to see this run down horrible looking house and told us this was the home for the bad boys. The look on our faces were priceless. I remember my brother Peter was doing something he was told not to do a million times and when my dad got home he took him in the car and told us he was going to the bad boys home!!! We were all crying and begging my father to please not to bring him there!!! Well my dad did and when my father got out of the car by that house my brother pleaded and said he would never do it again. My father told him he had one more chance and he never did it again!!!!!! We all turned out ok and have respect for others. Rules is whats missing with kids. Parents are always too busy and let kids do what they want to keep them occupied. We need to go back to old values!!!!!!
Loved these age old rules for everyone! Sure will miss all your life knowledge, recipes, and stories, Miss Phyllis!
Hi Phyllis, one of the things I was to all ways sit still with my hands folded in my lap. I was never to sit down before an elderly person did. Never to take more food than we could eat, and never leave the table until we were giving permission to do so. I actually miss these family gatherings as I am the last one left of the original family. I hope I have instilled good manners to my children.
Thanks for sharing.... brought back many memories!!! Another one I remember is always hold the door for others...
Thanks for doing this video. I grew up in the 50s as well and every single one of those instructions related to my house as well. There were two others that I can remember. One was always turn the TV off when company came and the other was never leave the house without clean underwear on. Wish every household had these rules nowadays.
I loved this!! My grandmother told me these very same things!! Same with the bacon and eggs every morning!! Everything you said really took me back!! She was born in 1920 and died in 1997 and I still think of her and miss her every single day!!! Thank you for the memories.
Most all good rules for life!
(I couldn't wear pants to school until junior high, in 1970.)
I will truly will miss you and your southern accent and you kind loving heart, I’m so sad from your padding away. The good thing is that you will be with Mr. Buckley. You wi truly be missed.❤️ God Bless you and your family.
i grew up in the 60's and 70's but my parents gave us a lot of the same house rules that you had, :) watching your video's is fun cause it brings back so many memories. thanks for this. :)
I love that she shared this list. We had many of the same rules, I don’t remember the milk and fish one though. Haha! Thank you for the legacy of videos you’ve left for us, Phyllis. I will watch them over and over again for sure. I miss you already and only met you less than a week ago.
Another...NEVER...sit on men's laps- and that includes uncles, even your father's.
Another...never watch/stare at people eating.
That's an interesting one. I never heard that, but we had no relatives.
Never ever! I even taught my son the same thing. Doesn't have to be a girl.
I'm late but the not to sit on men's laps......my mother told me that one also (lol)
Wow. Sad to have to tell children not to sit in laps. But from what I hear, this is all too true!
If you sit on their lap, have to keep a phone book between you and them.
Miss Phyllis miss you so much❤️I love rewatching your videos💕
I grew up in the 50's too. One big rule we lived by, and still do today, if you're given a gift , you must write a thank you note. In the summer we played outside all day long and the only rule was "be in when the street lights come on!" If a neighbor needed assistance like shoveling snow or carrying in groceries, NEVER ever accept money. A good deed is it's own reward.
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Phyllis Stokes I'm just getting around to watching some of these/your older videos while patiently waiting as you grieve and mourn the loss of your dear husband, Mr. Bucky!! I was SO surprised and very saddened (as I'm sure all of your TH-cam subscribers were) to hear that he had passed away!
Just know that we are all praying for you and your family and that those prayers will bring you strength & love ((hugs))!!
I'm Canadian - I was born,raised (and still live) in Nova Scotia and I was taught many of the same things from my mother!!
JoAnn Hutt, I am Canadian also, up until 15 - 16 in Manitoba and Saskatchewan, from the age of 16 in Ottawa. I was born in 1956 and remember most of those rules as well. Another one as I got to be a teenager and young adult was to never discuss sex, religion, politics or finances. That one came from my mum’s mum. The funny thing was no one enjoyed a political discussion like my nana. We also had to let our parents know where we were going and who we would be with. This video sure has brought back some wonderful memories.
Don't go to bed with wet hair. Don't go in the pool after you eat. Always wear clean undergarments.
Yes, to these rules, except we could go in the pool one hour after eating.,.then, we came out starving again!
Jan. 31/20. I understand you passed from us a week ago tomorrow if I understood your Son's post properly. Binge watching your videos & grateful for the sight of you & sound of your voice. I was raised with the same rules.....thankfully..
We were raised in California and we had a neighbor from Arkansas which is where my mother was born. This neighbor sent a cast iron skillet of hers over full of some food she had made. Mother left my brother and I to do dishes that night. My brother chose to wash and I dried. He put the cast iron skillet in the sink and commented on how "dirty" that skillet was. It had crust all in it he said. He got out the cleanser and the wire wool out and started cleaning that skillet until it finally looked almost silver, rinsed it and gave it to me to dry. I dried that poor skillet and mother took it back home. I often think of that poor lady when she saw her skillet.
TheMinnie419 Been there, done that. My mom has a beautiful griddle that all of us children would love to inherit.
Fantastic story!
I love you, Phyllis, and I am praying for your complete comfort and recovery. I discovered you quite recently but I watch all of your videos. You are inspiring and so knowledgeable about so many things. I hope you will have your recipes printed in a cookbook so all your friends can obtain a copy. I watch you often throughout the day and I feel like you a member of my family. I am very concerned about the recent developments with your health but rest assured that all of your many friends are praying for you and wishing you completely well. Hugs, Sue
Phyllis, I have been enjoying your videos so much! You are such a treasure to listen to and I enjoy ALL your videos! :o)
So amazing! My parents taught us a lot of these same tid-bits of wisdom and manners when I was growing up. Good memories!
just love these Miss Phylis and I think kiddies today need to get back to these rules...
Well Phyllis, those are the same rules that we had in our family! I think that those rules were good rules to live by and I find myself telling my grandkids all of those rules. Good words to live by. Thankyou for sharing!
I had five different foster homes growing up. After my divorce, I went to stay with my first foster mother, ( I was just 24), I said the cuss word "darn". So she called the YMCA to come get me and remove me from her home. They told her that they would not take me, but they told her to call the Battered Women's Shelter, so she did. She put all my belongings out on the porch that night. It was raining and windy, (this was in Olympia, Washington), They came to pick me up, and I was never allowed to come back into her home. I stayed in the battered women's shelter for a few months, until I found a friend to move out of the state with. This was the tip of the iceberg, as far as strict foster parents go! Nowadays, just what would kids AND grownups do, if they were reprimanded as such, for talking the way they commonly do ?!
Mandy, God Bless you, hope you have a good life now!
That feels almost abusive to me. Then again I guess you were 24 and an adult, but wow.
Your post made me tear up. That was a terrible story. You deserved to be loved unconditionally. You are enough, you have always been enough. Remember that.
Oh Mandy this saddens my heart. I am so sorry you were treated badly. I hope you are doing well & are happy now. You deserve to be loved. Sending prayers, & blessings & love your way.
So Sorry You Were Just Thrown Away Like That, Family Should Never Treat Each Other Like That, Darn Was Just A Word...I Sure Hope You Met The Lord Jesus Christ And Hang On To Him He Will Never Leave Or Forsake You❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏Praying For Your Life To Be Full Of Love❤
Thank you for everything Ms Phyllis 🙏🕊🙏
I wish you were my neighbor! I was born in 1962 and brought up catholic. Many of those rules sounded just like my upbringing. Added to that list was always pray before meals. Always ask to be excused from the dinner table. Say "God bless you " when someone sneezed. Always knock on the door before entering a room. We had a bell that my mom would ring when she wanted us to come home and if you couldn't hear the bell you were too far away from home and you had better come running home as soon as the bell was rung!
LOL My Mom rang a bell too when it was dinnertime. If you didn't make it home in time, there probably wasn't any left. I was born in 1956, brought up catholic and a lot of these rules we grew up with too. Thanks for sharing these Phyllis. What memories they bring back. Thinking of sharing this video and comments with the parents. They are 84 and 78. I think they would just start smiling and say "Ya, dem were the good old days, don't ya know". Minnesota talk here.
I am so sad she and Mr. Bucky are gone. God thank you for your gift of them to me.
We had to be excused from the dinner table.
Never allow the milk carton on the table while we had dinner.
Wear clean underwear without any frays or rips, as you never know if you will end out into the ER and someone may see it.
Socks also!
We had to be excused from the dinner table too.
So nice to see you. I could sit and listen to you talk for hours.