why i’m leaving LA + where i’m moving next!

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  • @pumpkinseeeds
    @pumpkinseeeds 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17597

    You know what this means? We're getting whole new apartment hunt, apartment makeover, city tour. Yes!

    • @memaylicious
      @memaylicious 5 ปีที่แล้ว +105

      Nivi Luwang my favorite types of videos!!! 😭😭

    • @SarsaparillaBabe
      @SarsaparillaBabe 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Somebody call The Sorry Girls.

    • @memaylicious
      @memaylicious 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Sarah K would be funnier if she still edited their videos

    • @serenatadeamor6057
      @serenatadeamor6057 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      just what i'm waiting for lol

    • @followthewhiterabbit8561
      @followthewhiterabbit8561 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This girl speaks way too much for most guys to be remotely interested in her.

  • @jadeeast6728
    @jadeeast6728 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6960

    i’m really glad you went to college and mentioned that “youtube doesn’t last forever”. some of these current you tubers forget that they won’t be super popular forever, and you have to have a back up plan. so proud of you!

    • @jadeeast6728
      @jadeeast6728 4 ปีที่แล้ว +92

      Gabrielle Tillmon a lot of young people don’t know much about that though, so i’d doubt it

    • @blue-pj2bp
      @blue-pj2bp 4 ปีที่แล้ว +87

      @@jadeeast6728 true, I watched a video detailing the stories of young youtubers overwhelmed by their sudden wealth and spending it on "flexing" etc luxury goods, instead of investing in sound financial planning

    • @Mac-dt3iz
      @Mac-dt3iz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      @@blue-pj2bp A lot of people who suddenly come in to wealth eventually go broke, youtubers are not an exception. I just watched a video last week about this TH-camr who foreclosed on her mansion and has no savings...

    • @blue-pj2bp
      @blue-pj2bp 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Daisika sounds fun! good luck :)

    • @blue-pj2bp
      @blue-pj2bp 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Mac-dt3iz that sounds like a nightmare. but yeah it seems to be the case with lots of people who come into wealth suddenly eg lottery winners

  • @jamiex9916
    @jamiex9916 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5319

    Why does this feel like a season finale

    • @undercoverelle
      @undercoverelle 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      bahaha i love this

    • @rahafaleyna
      @rahafaleyna 5 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      EXACTLY what i was thinking about

    • @gabby2421_
      @gabby2421_ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I know haha

    • @zaydenl.1449
      @zaydenl.1449 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      IKR like the end f season 1

    • @fairoadiary
      @fairoadiary 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Jamie X lmaooo best way to describe it.

  • @gickyvergo4597
    @gickyvergo4597 3 ปีที่แล้ว +299

    I've watched this video many times already and I realized it just makes me feel so motivated to do things that I want to do. Idk Ashley has this ability to make me rewatch her simple-vloggy videos again and again.

    • @justkay233
      @justkay233 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      i feel like we live vicariously thru her, but at the same time we're encouraged to go out and make our own lives and adventures

    • @gickyvergo4597
      @gickyvergo4597 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@justkay233 exactly

  • @lizzybearcutie
    @lizzybearcutie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1707

    My father always said that the point of a coin toss was not necessarily to make the decision, but like as you said, the moment you toss the coin, you know what you want the answer to be. Good luck in NY

    • @CrazyMazapan
      @CrazyMazapan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Brilliant.

    • @aleasia34
      @aleasia34 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I love that!

    • @freohr789
      @freohr789 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      it's really true
      I ended up having to teach myself that "the toss doesn't HAVE to be the rule and if it lands on the side I realize I didn't want it to, it's not bad/wrong of me to go against the toss" because the point is to figure out what I want, not what fate decided for me

    • @mirandachen8189
      @mirandachen8189 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So true !!

    • @hannah6034
      @hannah6034 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I use this principle too. Though rather than a wise idiom from my father , I learnt it from phoebe in friends. She tells Rachel shes not actually pregnant after all, after a second test. Rachel then realises she kind of wanted to be and feels sad and phoebe tells her she lied - and now she knows how she feels and should keep the baby.

  • @alanna4499
    @alanna4499 4 ปีที่แล้ว +887

    her whole vibe screams ny. especially the home aesthetic. she turned her whole studio into a rustic “i’m paying $5000 for one room in brooklyn” moment and i love it. not to mention the very obvious eye for fashion which is insanely huge there. honestly i think this move will really up her content and most importantly her happiness!

    • @alanna4499
      @alanna4499 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      James Franko i mean it was just an exaggerated analogy but alright

  • @lijah
    @lijah 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1790

    i love how she indirectly spoiled where she was moving to by giving way more situations influencing her decision and the radiating enthusiasm

    • @mortem4573
      @mortem4573 5 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      true! i knew she was picking NY right away

    • @caseymills2688
      @caseymills2688 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Damn I guessed London haha maybe bc that's where I wanna go!! Haha

    • @evelyndoeseverything8016
      @evelyndoeseverything8016 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Casey Mills yeah I swear she said she was moving to London!

  • @saanvijindal5039
    @saanvijindal5039 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2558

    Me sitting in India watching ashley complain about LA’s urban planning👀👄👀

    • @805livin4
      @805livin4 4 ปีที่แล้ว +116

      🤣🤣🤣😂😂 This comment hit me harder than it should’ve have

    • @shailzajoshi9875
      @shailzajoshi9875 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Girl same 😂

    • @LookOnGenius
      @LookOnGenius 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Same here... I'm here with her now...

    • @nursekathy4480
      @nursekathy4480 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      Me too. From LA and sitting in India. We Americans are never happy. Well I am.

    • @shailzajoshi9875
      @shailzajoshi9875 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@nursekathy4480 Are you saying you are happier in India than you were in LA?

  • @Olivia-cl6ww
    @Olivia-cl6ww 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1888

    When i first read the title i was like “She’s moving to NewYork”. She seems like such a NewYork girl, especially with the fashion industry being a huge thing in NY. It’s a perfect fit for Ashley

    • @uaenaonce8231
      @uaenaonce8231 5 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      Lunalivvy I live in ny. Everybody wears sweatpants and sweaters or something here.

    • @joannang8521
      @joannang8521 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@uaenaonce8231 I mean it does depend on the neighborhood but you're right no one dresses nicely day to day

    • @alicekakurina4577
      @alicekakurina4577 5 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      lol she's too nice to be a new york girl. I'm sure she'll toughen up when she gets here but you definitely gotta have a tougher attitude to make it here

    • @bc1107
      @bc1107 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lunalivvy Me too

    • @Olivia-cl6ww
      @Olivia-cl6ww 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      uaena*once I’m not saying everyone is fashionable in NY just that the fashion industry is huge there

  • @jannaelzinga6573
    @jannaelzinga6573 5 ปีที่แล้ว +947

    I love that you’re not an ordinary youtuber in the way of using clickbait or other tricks to attract people to your video’s but you are pure and youself and you show your struggles an flaws and you actually make great content that viewers enjoy to watch and I think that’s the reason you are an inspiration to so many of us

    • @mateogarcia8039
      @mateogarcia8039 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Janna Elzinga but as soon as someone makes a joke she deletes it

    • @amiliab7832
      @amiliab7832 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I agree so much some other TH-camrs I wach as they grow they start to get more generic and try to have a likeable personality but so far I've been watching her for over a year and I have not seen that genericness in her. I love her so much!

  • @Drewvjr
    @Drewvjr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +394

    I'm a native Angeleno, born and raised, lived in NYC for 11 years but moved back to L.A. 4 years ago. It's interesting to hear you say all this. Some of what you said is dead 100% true like fake nice, urban planning, and I just about DIED when you talked about traffic because it's SO TRUE. I live 8 min from work but it would take me 30-40 min after work because of traffic. A lot of what you're describing in terms of diets, personal appearance etc the "typical L.A. stereotype", I believe to be "entertainment" related. Most Angelenos in East L.A. or the San Gabriel Valley aren't worried about such shallow things. As far as race, I mean, you live in West L.A. / Central L.A. I don't see how you could feel so out of place considering these two parts of L.A. are the much wealthier areas made up largely by white and asians, especially if you went to UCLA. But I dont live in your shoes. L.A. isn't for everyone one but I'm glad you gave it a shot. Having live in NYC for over a decade, I still miss it very much and there's lots to love about it but I'm glad to be back in L.A.

    • @Drewvjr
      @Drewvjr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​@Margherita 8-10 minute drive translates to 3 miles distance at 4:45am when Im out the door to go to the gym before work (which is down the street from work. It takes much more than 15 minutes to walk 3 miles.

    • @bird6472
      @bird6472 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Margherita I tried to bike my 8 mile commute (1 hr in a car in traffic) but it was ridiculously hard because of the inclines.

    • @jordanjohnson9866
      @jordanjohnson9866 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Not died. /

    • @khtech7508
      @khtech7508 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Nobody cares

    • @unknown-by9kf
      @unknown-by9kf 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Any tips for living in NY?

  • @makanalala
    @makanalala 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3452

    Imagine the evolution of her lookbooks y’all once she moves!! We’re not ready !!!

    • @LayneFable
      @LayneFable 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      cannot waitttt

    • @ViveSiham
      @ViveSiham 5 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      So truuuuue. Finally outfits I'll be able to wear during winter 😍 *european enthousiasm*

    • @qtaypie
      @qtaypie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I can’t wait for these actual winter looks

    • @ninakynde7971
      @ninakynde7971 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ViveSiham where in Europe do u come from -fellow european

  • @ihasoverjoy
    @ihasoverjoy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15480

    omg ashley moving to NY means lookbooks that my cold east coast ass can actually wear

    • @dptlsldk9186
      @dptlsldk9186 5 ปีที่แล้ว +117

      Let's Celebrate!!!!

    • @laurentretter4827
      @laurentretter4827 5 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      sameeee that my cold new york ass can actually wear

    • @riverfaery
      @riverfaery 5 ปีที่แล้ว +134

      I’m quaking in Canadian

    • @elle3615
      @elle3615 5 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      *laughs in new jersey*

    • @notjustplainJane
      @notjustplainJane 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Amen!!

  • @silaetoasila
    @silaetoasila 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2096

    ANOTHER APARTMENT VIDEO IS COMING UP I CAN FEEL IT AND IM SO EXCITED

  • @mariyam9577
    @mariyam9577 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5998

    me, a non American who has zero plans to move to america or london:
    *watches the whole video EXTREMELY attentively*

    • @anneschuijer1921
      @anneschuijer1921 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Lol same

    • @Theiiiido
      @Theiiiido 5 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      Same 😂 it’s like a documentary i love it

    • @ounzwayz
      @ounzwayz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      LOL! I was taking mental notes man

    • @helenaolberg3791
      @helenaolberg3791 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      truuuue... I'm German✌🏻

    • @georgiam.3957
      @georgiam.3957 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I live in Greece lol

  • @ale3731
    @ale3731 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5784

    *non new yorkers:* the subway is such a beautiful experience where so many different people come together to travel regardless of class
    *new yorkers:* it smells like piss

    • @pegah6457
      @pegah6457 5 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      It does!

    • @alexandrafitzpatrick165
      @alexandrafitzpatrick165 5 ปีที่แล้ว +217

      don’t forget the rats!! And the constant delays!!!!!

    • @katherinefotopoulos9244
      @katherinefotopoulos9244 5 ปีที่แล้ว +337

      I was wondering how long until we get a vlog about how she's learned to avoid eye contact with the crazy guy on the subway lmfao

    • @MarcelaAnna
      @MarcelaAnna 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Same for London

    • @kella.cordes
      @kella.cordes 5 ปีที่แล้ว +111

      When I visited New York a while back we took the subway and there was literal shit smeared all over one of the benches 😂

  •  5 ปีที่แล้ว +624

    Best thing about being young with no kids is you can go wherever you want whenever you want. Idk you but I’m proud of you.

    • @wwaxwork
      @wwaxwork 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      That's pretty much just the not having kids part. Source - I'm old & currently living in my 4th country so far this life time. My goal is to live 10 years on each continent except Antarctica before I die.

    •  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      wwaxwork Well take it how it resonates.

    • @Cosmosandchisme
      @Cosmosandchisme 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      You also need to have money though. If you’re por you’re screwed lol

    • @brittanyalexissinger
      @brittanyalexissinger 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Unless you homeschool like me :) we travel wherever whenever! Definitely not the same with kids though
      I love your encouragement in “idk you but I’m proud of you.” That warmed my heart... beautiful to see women supporting women!

    • @Righteous1ist
      @Righteous1ist 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      26:33 so you're moving to NYC because you want to have a "slutty fun time" ....LOL am I the only one who caught that???????????????

  • @rosiejones9241
    @rosiejones9241 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Ashley, you probably won’t see this, but in case you do:
    I’ve been binge watching a lot of your videos recently because you put me in a better mood. I was trying to pin down the exact reason why, thinking it was your outfits or the vintage jazzy music or your pretty edits. And although all those things make me excited about fashion and music and artsy stuff, what really gets me is your attitude. I really aspire to be as independent and optimistic and brave as you are. You put effort into so many areas of your life and it pays off. Seeing that makes me wanna put in effort too. But you’re also relatable and make me feel like it’s okay if I’m not productive all the time. You also make me feel like I don’t need a guy to be happy and there are so many things in life that can make me happy.
    I’m sure lots of people agree with me and I just wanted you to know that you really are a role model to me and make me feel really happy and inspired when I watch your videos.
    (I don’t usually say things that cheesy that was hard haha)

  • @ummm7546
    @ummm7546 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1462

    i’ve been watching you for a year now and you seem like an entirely different person. not in an “la changed her” way, but you seem like you are so much more confident and independent. i’m really proud of you. thank you too, because you have helped me get through life a lot.
    also i want to move to new york so badly. when i go there, i feel like i finally fit in and it feels cozy, but everyone disagrees with me on that point.

    • @atypicallynormal4399
      @atypicallynormal4399 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      What do they disagree on?

    • @xoxoashleymichelle
      @xoxoashleymichelle 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      -yushiio;; I agree so much LA has assisted ashley in her growth

    • @cleoabboud394
      @cleoabboud394 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Atypically Normal
      I think that NYC is “cozy”
      P. S I love your profile picture 💜

    • @morgan-ih1hd
      @morgan-ih1hd 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      i have only gone to ny once and it was when i was little but i totally agree with you! like my parents say “You’d never want to move to New York, don’t do it” but you’re right it feels cozy

    • @saraha4972
      @saraha4972 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i live like a 2-3 hour drive away from nyc, and i love it too. one of my cousins live there too. i would say make sure you can afford it since it’s really expensive. but if everything’s thoroughly planned out, i say go for it.

  • @lavvenderhaze
    @lavvenderhaze 5 ปีที่แล้ว +471

    i’ve lived in brooklyn my entire life and one of the things i love most about this city is how easy it is to ground yourself. when i’m feeling anxious or just need to distract myself, i sit on the red steps at times square and people watch. its really cool to do this later in the night when there aren’t as many people, you really get to take in the beauty of times sq which is something that i forget a lot. and people watching, its usually tourists so you’re seeing their faces, how happy they are and how much fun they’re having. it makes me feel happy and hell i usually end up volunteering to take their pictures lmao. but you don’t have to go there, theres so many places everywhere around the city where you can just sit and take in whats around you. also, i live near the subway and late into the night when i can’t sleep, i close my eyes and listen for the sounds of the trains departing and arriving. it reminds me that i’m not alone, theres people awake right now coming home or leaving for work, and whatever i’m feeling isn’t bigger than me. i hope you find that here too. welcome to new york, baby! ♥️

    • @clairelolyeah
      @clairelolyeah 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lucy Xi me 2!

    • @honeybrown6953
      @honeybrown6953 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Nice perspective! I went to New York last year and it was nice having activities to do everyday. Even if you don’t have something planned there’s already so much around you to just explore and go with the flow. I enjoyed that aspect of New York. I did feel a little drop of sadness that comes with the city..And it’s just that it’s so busy and you can tell others around you are hustling as well that you can almost feel like a character in a book that has “awaken”. It feels like others have been hustling along with their fast paced lives that they dont realize the “ system” that they’re in. It becomes almost monotone. I don’t think it’s something that you can’t deal with though. You can find some relieve by using these sources to go out with friends, go sightseeing somewhere, go walking and feel less lonely

    • @tigerkind
      @tigerkind 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jenn R I think you’re the first person I’ve ever seen calling Times Square beautiful 😂

    • @honoka7917
      @honoka7917 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      i went to times sq not too long ago when i was visiting the us. i was there at night and now that you mention it, it makes me wonder if we might've passed by each other! slim chance but that kind of thing is what makes life wonderful to me XD

  • @sorissoy
    @sorissoy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1567

    I feel like Ashley’s style will undergo a significant change where ever she moves, like the city will change her style and her perspective

    • @MelissaLynn
      @MelissaLynn 5 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      It definitely will! I moved from LA to Paris last year and my style was starting to become really influenced by french and parisian style

    • @rabiapie
      @rabiapie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      *a psychic has entered the chat*

    • @sorissoy
      @sorissoy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Melissa Lynn it’s awesome to see how styles change with different environments

    • @sorissoy
      @sorissoy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Rabia Pie haha I’m just so excited to see her grow and evolve like yesssss

    • @olliethebum3430
      @olliethebum3430 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Yeah she might actually need warm clothes now

  • @joniquestarzbackup
    @joniquestarzbackup 3 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    I'm a screenwriter that moved to Los Angeles. Currently completing grad school and sometimes I feel like I want to leave Los Angeles. I don't know. And that's okay. Life is filled with uncertainty and I want to enjoy the small things.

    • @rookiemonster646
      @rookiemonster646 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hey, how's it going?!

    • @AlatOnDemand
      @AlatOnDemand 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I want to become a filmmaker and actor, I wanted to move to LA to get started and make connections but the rent and taxes is scaryyyy 3k a month for a 1 bedroom ?!? Yikes

  • @anniegoldberg1064
    @anniegoldberg1064 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4444

    Your vibe is entirely NY. *Imagine* the amount of jackets you’ll be able to wear bc of the weather lol

    • @samanthajennings1878
      @samanthajennings1878 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Just as i was saying

    • @catasxalyn
      @catasxalyn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      I know right? already imagine ashley walking on the streets, rocking those jackets feeling like andy sachs lmao

    • @ciarkat
      @ciarkat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      facts

    • @TheRealChurch
      @TheRealChurch 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      No

    • @anniegoldberg1064
      @anniegoldberg1064 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Bee Girl I get that. Trust me, I know New York. I’m just saying she can layer a lot of them and still look amazing

  • @sofieharweg3250
    @sofieharweg3250 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2161

    When she said she’s gonna move in january, I thought Oh, that’s stil, a couple of months from now. Then I realized that’s next month...

    • @aliyazaraa
      @aliyazaraa 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Sofie Harweg yeah i thought the same

    • @yasmine7305
      @yasmine7305 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      same!! She was like 'only a few weeks from now!' and I was like....holup?

    • @daliya6990
      @daliya6990 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      lmaaaao same

    • @aqsam4032
      @aqsam4032 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sameeeee

    • @jourdainjardin846
      @jourdainjardin846 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Next week almost. Lol

  • @JonahBaker
    @JonahBaker 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4032

    "I cannot be likable to 2 million people" 😭😂 You're doing a great job!!

  • @s.h.1309
    @s.h.1309 3 ปีที่แล้ว +376

    I’ve lived in Southern California my entire life. LA isn’t cut out for everyone.

    • @imcarlosjr4898
      @imcarlosjr4898 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      💯 as LA native born and raise , I can relate

    • @diiii_mond
      @diiii_mond 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yeah. My sister lives there (prior to moving there she was born and raised in a small town in the Central Valley). She loves it there.

    • @whynot7802
      @whynot7802 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Its different to come from the place as opposed to come to the place

    • @Negativespace95
      @Negativespace95 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I live in Orange County most of my life. I have lived in LA and love it. ❤️

    • @chaoswitch1974
      @chaoswitch1974 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @rico yungboy 401 nope. Please don't come.

  • @endrikelatroci8796
    @endrikelatroci8796 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1768

    Girl when you talked about how comfortable you feel living in a big city surrounded by big buildings and people of all kinds and knowing that you don’t matter that much... i love that feeling but no one has ever understood me on that one since now hahah

    • @ElinWinblad
      @ElinWinblad 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Endrikela Troci sounds like you’re describing how it feels to be anonymous

    • @katherinefotopoulos9244
      @katherinefotopoulos9244 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sigh...your comment makes me miss living in new York 😢

    • @endrikelatroci8796
      @endrikelatroci8796 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Elin Winblad maybe that is what someone can get from my message but it’s not what I totally meant. I like that feeling but I like being successful in what i do, being hardworking and important for those who I know I matter to, but today’s society is simply to overwhelming for us as individuals. It is so easy to be stuck in this circle, which leads to social anxiety, depression, feeling of never being good enough. And based on that, yes, I think that feeling anonymous is great sometimes.

    • @endrikelatroci8796
      @endrikelatroci8796 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      K Will i truly get your point because at the end of the day i think it’s all about experiences and personalities. I live in a small town in Italy, with backyards, neighbours i’ve been knowing since forever, I went to school with everyone who lives here i swear. It’s peaceful and people are nice and for a long time i was convinced that this was the reality of life. But then i started University and i moved to one of the biggest city of the country: that was a new discovery for me. I’ve been surrounded by people my whole life and that was the first time that i could be me without the fear of turning down someone’s expectations, and without having to explain my personal choices. When i wrote that comment my intent was not to denigrate any other life experience so don’t call me an insecure losers just because you love your life and i love mine.

  • @seasq
    @seasq 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3152

    "Most depressed I've ever felt, most self destructive..." Welcome to your early twenties where you get to break yourself down completely and rebuild yourself into hopefully someone stronger, better, faster.

    • @ilovetyraandnaomi
      @ilovetyraandnaomi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      True

    • @seasq
      @seasq 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      Oh no, past that thankfully and entering my thirties now. Growing up, it always thought that only your teenage years will break you down like that, but those early 20s are rough.

    • @seasq
      @seasq 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Kim hoping for the best for you in all stages of life whichever one you may be in. :)

    • @lilyoh5780
      @lilyoh5780 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      okay but why did I just start crying reading this comment?

    • @seasq
      @seasq 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@lilyoh5780 feel the breakdown, envision who you want to realistically be or not be, make small goals to mold yourself, stand up, take a deep breath, start walking. You're going to be okay, and you're never fully alone.

  • @missbeatlesbabe
    @missbeatlesbabe 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7408

    "I'd rather have someone be mean to me than fake nice." Girl, NYC is the place for you! :)

    • @alexmacnab-stark8593
      @alexmacnab-stark8593 5 ปีที่แล้ว +241

      Ammy Geiger this is why I love England, if someone’s mean to you it’s cause your mean, they’re not really gonna fake much

    • @LayneFable
      @LayneFable 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      !!!!!

    • @sekousacko3942
      @sekousacko3942 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I can confirm

    • @MaceyRosalie
      @MaceyRosalie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      This quote alone makes me want to leave LA.
      Everyone is fake nice lol

    • @wj4988
      @wj4988 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Some newyorkers are mean... :(

  • @sreysreyy
    @sreysreyy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +285

    can't believe i actually sat through 30 mins of someone talking and enjoyed every minute of it haha ily ashley im so so excited for you!!

  • @jrangel101
    @jrangel101 3 ปีที่แล้ว +132

    I’m a native Angeleno and left California well Los Angeles 10 plus years ago. Moved to Seattle but now after 2020 I’m moving back home and can’t wait to come back home again. I love LA.

    • @sohd2283
      @sohd2283 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same I moved to texas lol

    • @Dontrespondtome169
      @Dontrespondtome169 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      haha u must love the 47 percent taxes if ur making 400k+

    • @chaoswitch1974
      @chaoswitch1974 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Nope. It sucks. My grandparents, parents, myself and kids all raised here in LA. I don't understand why people keep coming here and gentrifying neighborhoods, displacing POC and then complaining about it all while they're ruining our culture being all the exact things they complain about.

  • @maryakrivopoulou3584
    @maryakrivopoulou3584 5 ปีที่แล้ว +745

    The way Ashley talks about her experiences,her thoughts and idk how she describes life in general feels oddly comforting I can't even properly describe it. It just feels like storytelling,it feels like she voices struggles everyone faces and in a weird way reminds you of how small the world really is,like we really all just through the same shit at the end of the day and it's fine cause we're just so many. That sounds so cheesy but idek i just ~felt that~ you know

  • @bessraquel6087
    @bessraquel6087 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1140

    when you said, “i don’t want to feel important”, i genuinely felt that

    • @lucaorban4908
      @lucaorban4908 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same.

    • @edwardcullen3251
      @edwardcullen3251 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Claims looks aren't important. Only dates good looking white, black, Hispanic and mixed race guys that are taller than her and usually 6ft or taller.
      Watch faceandlms waw 1.1, 1.2, 1.3, 1.4 on TH-cam
      Has had threesomes and likely more based on what she said, yet most guys never get to experience that before they die let alone get those things on demand LET ALONE EVEN GET TO CONSISTENTLY get sex and love whereas for girls it's on demand.
      I am a BRITISH INDIAN MALE and have not got to have sex for 6 years now.
      0 matches on Tinder in the 5 years I had it.

    • @selene4563
      @selene4563 5 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      Edward Cullen okay dude?.... She’s hot which means that she’ll obviously attract hot guys. She can date whoever the heck she wants. You’re obviously very insecure.

    • @mat1413
      @mat1413 5 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      Edward Cullen I think the problem here isn’t look...

    • @magpie7938
      @magpie7938 5 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      Edward Cullen stop replying this on every comment. women don’t owe you anything and obviously you’re the problem if no one has liked you in years

  • @casperxo99
    @casperxo99 5 ปีที่แล้ว +665

    the way she talks makes me feel like she was raised fckn right!! she's so mature and intellectual and it's RARE to see an adult have a realistic perspective towards society.

  • @michellerubio_
    @michellerubio_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +115

    Usually when it comes to people moving to LA, they tend to stay in the realm of people who are also outsiders but with the mentality of being the best out of everyone else, for example Hollywood, Silverlake, Beverly Hills etc. They don't bother to seek out genuine people born and raised here and immerse themselves in cultural areas where the true heart of LA lies. It's like they created their own world of vanity and destruction in our city that is now taking over via gentrification.

    • @minismalls3096
      @minismalls3096 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This is literally what I’m trying to avoid when going. I just don’t Know where to go… which neighborhoods are actually genuine?

    • @jordanjohnson9866
      @jordanjohnson9866 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Not destruction. /

    • @jordanjohnson9866
      @jordanjohnson9866 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@minismalls3096 The areas of LA that are genuine is the San Fernando Valley, Boyle Heights, and other places. /

    • @Lovepeaceandchickengrease
      @Lovepeaceandchickengrease 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes 🙌 💯 agree. As a LA native, and I have worked in those areas and seen this firsthand.

  • @alleyyxcat
    @alleyyxcat 4 ปีที่แล้ว +726

    2020 resolution: find pure and genuine people, like Ashley, to be friends with in this world

    • @RockstahRolln
      @RockstahRolln 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      They are out there but you really have to filter through all the loads of crap that's out there and that can be quite a challenge. Wish you all the very best in 2020

    • @alleyyxcat
      @alleyyxcat 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      RockstahRolln thank you!

    • @wanderingwithyanvlogs
      @wanderingwithyanvlogs 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      love this resolution!

    • @cookiesandmilk1634
      @cookiesandmilk1634 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      YES

    • @stepsuster
      @stepsuster 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      for real !I love her vibe . I wanted to hate her so much because she's so pure but I can't i love her

  • @lovelaceaura1423
    @lovelaceaura1423 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2825

    I would love a “How to make friends as an adult” video ☺️

    • @samanthagarza946
      @samanthagarza946 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      We need it

    • @pallavipant7306
      @pallavipant7306 5 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      same.. i think i need a course in it.. literally

    • @netringotam
      @netringotam 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      blackmail. works good
      because if u are an adult and still have no friends - casual solutions are not going to work

    • @heyhey7781
      @heyhey7781 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I think she spoke about this in a video after she and her boyfriend broke up

    • @цветок-ш7п
      @цветок-ш7п 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      YES

  • @junskey
    @junskey 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1502

    as someone who’s born and raised in west LA and still lives here, everything about the video is true. the only caveat is people who grew up here are not superficial/flattering, they’re typically super nice and down to earth. guessing she mingled with a lot of people who were from out of state

    • @bryanarreguin8321
      @bryanarreguin8321 4 ปีที่แล้ว +287

      YES!! we’ve been given this stereotype of being fake and “entitled” but i feel like thats due to the fact that a lot of people move to California to try to be famous and they’re the ones who are giving us the bad image

    • @JB-ue6lf
      @JB-ue6lf 4 ปีที่แล้ว +136

      Thank you! This is something people who aren't born in L.A always get wrong. They think the natives are these superficial movie star wannabes when it's usually people who weren't born here who act that way and they give a really shitty image of L.A.

    • @difizil8453
      @difizil8453 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      bryan arreguin true I just be vibing

    • @sammyjowatzek
      @sammyjowatzek 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @@bryanarreguin8321 Interesting. I definitely feel the opposite. As a Kentuckian who moved out to LA, all natives felt superficial and selfish and all who weren't from LA felt more grounded and empathic. Non-native Angelino's felt like they were all around genuinely caring beings.

    • @maeheminger6035
      @maeheminger6035 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      i totally feel this all us locals are just out here vibing with the good weather and beaches

  • @adamwaters9833
    @adamwaters9833 3 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    I’ve been in l.a for 4 years and love it here. I think it’s also what kind of crowds you attract that makes the experience good or bad.

    • @minismalls3096
      @minismalls3096 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      What is a good neighborhood?

  • @lotsoflovemadelief
    @lotsoflovemadelief 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2902

    "i'm so scared of you guys some times"
    me: eating ice cream in front of my laptop and no pants on

    • @gurtoris9965
      @gurtoris9965 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Wtf ?

    • @haleighwilson3439
      @haleighwilson3439 4 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      i am doing literally the exact same

    • @lotsoflovemadelief
      @lotsoflovemadelief 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@haleighwilson3439 yesss girl

    • @Anamija
      @Anamija 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      😂

    • @dariandreamz7730
      @dariandreamz7730 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Gurtoris you know how men walk around their homes with just their underwear on? Some women do that too but with big tshirts or just bralette and underwear, etc.
      to each their own

  • @doodlesimmer7312
    @doodlesimmer7312 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2362

    It broke my heart when Ashley said "I'm overrated, 2 million people should not care about me" because HONEY all 2 million of us love you to death and you're an amazing human being, please love yourself

    • @edidi5717
      @edidi5717 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      ikr i love her! idk why i havent been watching her videos!!✨💓

    • @zahravalizadeh7432
      @zahravalizadeh7432 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      As soon as I read this she said it lol

    • @edidi5717
      @edidi5717 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@zahravalizadeh7432 that happens to me all the time lolol

    • @IKNOKWORLDWIDE
      @IKNOKWORLDWIDE 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I mean if she's going to call an entire city of 4 million people overrated maybe she's telling the truth about herself.

    • @kittyvu5045
      @kittyvu5045 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      *2.86 million people

  • @leeainsworth
    @leeainsworth 5 ปีที่แล้ว +554

    The two best Ashley metaphors:
    Dating is like a deck of cards.
    Life is like a train.
    Iconic.

  • @esther1765
    @esther1765 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It's late Sept of 2022 and I find myself on this channel again. The first time I watched this video, I was a sophmore in college, commuting from home. Fastforward to today when I'm looking up apartment hunting videos for a new job in LA.
    It's been a while since bestdressed posted a video and looking back, I realize how refreshingly honest and pure of a soul Ashley had. I don't think I understood the value of that until years later. I don't know if she'll ever be back, but I hope Ashley is happy wherever she is, be it as a owner of a clothing line or something else she found passion in.
    Much love! - your friendly neighborhood subscriber

  • @Parisbella219
    @Parisbella219 5 ปีที่แล้ว +585

    I love that when she talks, she never forgets to include other cultures or think about other people’s perspective. And she is always grateful and humble 💕 that is why we keep following your journey

    • @twincherry4958
      @twincherry4958 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I want to hang out with her and I don't even know this chic!

  • @MagentaLooks
    @MagentaLooks 5 ปีที่แล้ว +936

    Ashley there are literally a million things to watch on TH-cam so everyone who's here really genuinely likes you.

  • @flora7496
    @flora7496 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2783

    Ashley: "2 million people should not care about me"
    Me: *gasps for air*

    • @luqmanhafeez55
      @luqmanhafeez55 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Shreeya Sangani insert *shocked Pikachu* meme 😂😂😂😂

    • @S4roya
      @S4roya 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      exactly what I did

  • @kateriaknows
    @kateriaknows 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I love you. I love how you said there's comfort in seeing how small and insignificant you are. There definitely is a great humbling comfort there.

  • @kennedibrown1643
    @kennedibrown1643 5 ปีที่แล้ว +239

    i couldn’t stop looking at her necklace just shimmering 🤩

  • @ripperjanet
    @ripperjanet 5 ปีที่แล้ว +863

    somehow this reminded me of a quote from murakami that “not matter how far you travel you can’t get away from yourself”

    • @coll6914
      @coll6914 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      travel does illuminate a lot though. you just need to be self-aware of your insecurities and deep-seeded issues, and she seems like she does

    • @zanakist
      @zanakist 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      wherever you go, there you are :)

    • @kimberlyvon957
      @kimberlyvon957 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ah yes murakami ✨✨✨

  • @daph8734
    @daph8734 5 ปีที่แล้ว +960

    she’s the only person that can make me sit through a 30 minutes video entirely

  • @mogomelia
    @mogomelia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    hey ashley!! I'm not sure if you'll read this but I just hope you know that there are so many people who support you(including me!) and love you for who you are. Being open on youtube and sharing yourself and your art to the world is not an easy thing to do and i really appreciate all you've done. there's really malicious commentary on you out there and i really hate to hear it because it's misogyny, internal or otherwise. I want you to know that there are many of us supporting you and love you, you've opened yourself to us and it helps us get through our own life situations as well. I'm sorry for rambling on but the backlash you're getting for you being you is insanely disrespectful and rude. i love you so much for being so strong. I'll keep supporting you no matter what! Keep fighting!!

  • @aleahwilson2318
    @aleahwilson2318 5 ปีที่แล้ว +964

    “KEEP OFF THE ROOF”
    Ashley: that sign won’t stop me because i can’t read

    • @oopsieitskiki3784
      @oopsieitskiki3784 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      WhAtSuP mA nAmES jArEd aNd I nEvEr f'InG LeArNeD hOw To ReAd

    • @beverycarefuljohn586
      @beverycarefuljohn586 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@oopsieitskiki3784 what's up I'm Jared, I'm 19* and I never f'kn learned how to read

    • @aleahwilson2318
      @aleahwilson2318 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sweet V. haha no she didn’t, it’s a meme from authur...dw said it ☺️

  • @ishita1014
    @ishita1014 5 ปีที่แล้ว +335

    i love how respectful and humble she was while simultaneously complaining about LA haha i love this woman :')

    • @strawtifulbonnie9363
      @strawtifulbonnie9363 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      We stan a sweet badass QUEEN...

    • @jeffreykwan9330
      @jeffreykwan9330 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Ikr I live near LA and I wanted to get mad but couldn't lol

  • @yikerinoes6255
    @yikerinoes6255 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2917

    i feel like the influencer side of LA's like a high school version of a city

    • @exosvocals2526
      @exosvocals2526 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      eh not really

    • @reelneptune665
      @reelneptune665 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      This is very true I thought of the same analogy

    •  4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I don’t hate LA but I definitely don’t want to live here for the rest of my life. It would’ve been like that anywhere I was born and raised i feel like though. But also, I don’t wanna live in any city. Suburbs for me Cx

    • @irresistablegraceinchrist6690
      @irresistablegraceinchrist6690 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Sooo True , I've been in LA since 96. It is Fake as all Hell!

    • @princessleslie7096
      @princessleslie7096 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      this is honestly so true everyone is fucking fake, born and raised in la, glad i moved too

  • @theapapia7016
    @theapapia7016 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    To everyone saying they’re listening on 1.25 speed YALL don’t understand adhd because this is how fast I talk and I usually have to WATCH videos on 1.25 speed so I don’t get bored.... thank you Ashley 🙏

    • @desireandfire
      @desireandfire 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      yeah I have adhd and I talk so fast like this

    • @silveryraven4723
      @silveryraven4723 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow this is so interesting to know, thanks for sharing. I didn’t know adhd effects daily life this much.

    • @theapapia7016
      @theapapia7016 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@silveryraven4723 haha thanks for reading, we know we can be quite annoying to others its just almost impossible to not do our brains are wired that way !!

    • @soja_milk0790
      @soja_milk0790 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I actually prefer the speed in wich she talks.

  • @katakoos7776
    @katakoos7776 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1453

    I feel like the little sibling who's talking to her older sister who's telling all her stories about her life and where she move's next, trying to give perspectives about cities and I'm just listening not knowing when I see her next

    • @KhaliahFitchette
      @KhaliahFitchette 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I have little sisters and I really felt this. I got to spend Christmas with them yesterday! :)

  • @user-gx7xp4ix6y
    @user-gx7xp4ix6y 5 ปีที่แล้ว +644

    As someone who was born and raised in LA i would just like to point out that the toxic energy is only true for people who equate moving to LA with success. All of the TH-camrs and influencers move out here because of the industry not because of the place. LA is my favorite place in the world, but that's because I don't interact with people who only want the lifestyle. Im sure the move out here was hard on ashley because she didn't know people who were in LA for reasons other than connections or the lifestyle. I hope she find more happiness wherever she may find herself in the years to come.

    • @jessykapop
      @jessykapop 5 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      I was just going to comment this. You create the environment around you with the people you associate with and the lifestyle you choose.

    • @ready40111
      @ready40111 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      EXACTLY! I was born and raised in Silver Lake and seeing the city change so much for the worst compared to what it was before the height of social media. Now everyone and their mothers move out here for the sake of the hype of the city. Rents went up, traffic got even worst, people obsessed with image and their “clout”. I now live in Seattle and still visit LA a decent amount but I can’t live there anymore.

    • @lucky0n3
      @lucky0n3 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      If we take a closer look, "Hollywood" is what started it all. The term "LA people" really only applied to the transplants, not to those of us who grew up here. TH-cam celebs are no different, so it seems..

    • @lillyrose3545
      @lillyrose3545 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Agree completely. I love LA so much. I moved there from Michigan. I didn’t move there for fame or fortune or to hobnob with celebrities. I made true genuine friendships/family there.
      Did I make friends with some super successful people in the industry? Yep, but that was just fate. Not social climbing. A lot of them were native Angelenos though. So maybe there is something to that.
      From energy of the city, it does feel like there are a lot of lonely people searching which can be a bit sad.
      It’s really easy to attract genuine people when you are genuine yourself.

    • @charlius3790
      @charlius3790 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      This comment should be PINNED lmao It’s very well said. I’m born and raised in LA and still living here and I can definitely agree on everything you said.

  • @miehiiep
    @miehiiep 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2022

    Omg maybe when you don't live in LA anymore your winteroutfits might actually become...wearable in winter that is worth to be called winter

    • @bestdressed
      @bestdressed  5 ปีที่แล้ว +478

      ahaha roast mee but TRUE 😂even traveling this fall made me realize how out of touch my usual "winter" looks are

    • @queenb7209
      @queenb7209 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Hahaha yes I was screaming when she packed tshirt for her trip - I was like no girl NOOO but then again not everybody freezes as easily hahaha

    • @Luciiqaa
      @Luciiqaa 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I am so excited for that!!! :D how to look cute when it is actually freezing :o

  • @susie2366
    @susie2366 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Until two months ago, I lived in LA my entire life. Except for the fact that it’s wonderful to be able to see the variety of architecture in many of the older neighborhoods there. I think that your analysis is spot on.

  • @sydneyhutchison8411
    @sydneyhutchison8411 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1574

    Who else is hyped for her eventual clothing line??? 🤤😍

  • @cxhlsea
    @cxhlsea 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3141

    moving states is a big life-altering decision
    ashley: *lets flip a coin and see where i go*

    • @xPurpleDolphin
      @xPurpleDolphin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      aesthetically dead lmfao im so analytical and mull over all small decisions but i also just last minute decided where i was going to college for the next 4-5 years and did not regret it at all
      sometimes you gotta go with your gut

    • @wendyev310
      @wendyev310 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Edward Cullen whats ur point 💀

    • @snailmail4
      @snailmail4 5 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      @@edwardcullen3251 shut up incel

    • @edwardcullen3251
      @edwardcullen3251 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@wendyev310 watch the videos I wrote here on TH-cam

    • @edwardcullen3251
      @edwardcullen3251 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@snailmail4 I am an incel. I've been filming for 5 years and will produce viral videos soon. followed by the 5 years of video and audio recordings of my many conversations with girls.
      Watch the videos I wrote about on TH-cam.
      Instead of empathy and sympathy we receive comments like yours. I asked my doctor for assisted suicide because it's so painful to have to constantly be rejected by thousands of girls, and to not get any love and sex.
      It's a very serious global epidemic we men are facing. And I'm about to make people understand it. It's not what the media and popular beliefs would have you think.

  • @blahblahblah7716
    @blahblahblah7716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +246

    i love how open she is about everything even when she knows there will be people who hate on her for it and i love that energy because i’m surrounded by so many people who are so insecure it kind of takes over their lives.

  • @danvame
    @danvame 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    this video made me cry.
    I am from Mexico and I moved to another city in the same country to study. And I felt exactly the same. I think is part of the early twenties when you have to break down to become stronger. Hope you feel better in New York!

    • @thomasgooden
      @thomasgooden 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      what part was what brought you tears?

  • @vee2635
    @vee2635 5 ปีที่แล้ว +315

    2020 will be the year of ashley’s new room decors and bedroom walkthroughs.

  • @bren5356
    @bren5356 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1427

    She’s just saying why LA didn’t work for her. That’s not bad at all. We all have our own opinion and personal interests that might not fit into a place. 🤷‍♀️

    • @TheDude-yw4kn
      @TheDude-yw4kn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      h a n i Who wants to overpay for housing, overpay in taxes, live with illegals, poop and syringes on the street with an over flowing homeless population with some extra wind fires! Yeah, smart move lady!!

    • @BebaK
      @BebaK 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      The Dude That's part of almost every big city. Also, she didn't have to live in a place like this. There are so many nice and affordable places. People should just admit when things don't work for them and why, instead of complaining about things that are an excuse for not achieving dreams.

    • @TheDude-yw4kn
      @TheDude-yw4kn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Beba K It’s simple math! What’s the common denominator??! Democrat run cities! Democrat policies are ruining these once great cities. I ought to know. I live in Baltimore, MD and when President Trump said it was rat infested, high crime and drugs he was 100 percent right!

    • @itziebitz
      @itziebitz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      @@TheDude-yw4kn New York is Rat infested too. What are you on dude?
      Also she lived in West LA. If you don't know what that is, then 🤫.
      Fact based please, not opinions from the peanut gallery.

    • @TheDude-yw4kn
      @TheDude-yw4kn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      itziebitz Go back to sleep or try to keep up. I also said high taxes, high crime, high murders, liberal Democrat policies that contribute to these problems and I also said high taxes! What’s the common denominator in all these big cities? Democrat controlled and run! But keep voting them in and paying out your pocket for these wonderful by products of Democrat policies.

  • @chelseasaldivar3397
    @chelseasaldivar3397 4 ปีที่แล้ว +751

    joe goldberg just moved into LA so, gud call

    • @lauren1518
      @lauren1518 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      fjwjxjrjw I was about to comment she did a reverse joe goldberg

    • @Dan-oj4iq
      @Dan-oj4iq 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Don't worry "Joe" will find her no matter where she goes. And she will be swept away by him just like all the others.

    • @forestpark73
      @forestpark73 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣🤣🤣 I just started watching that show lol. Good laugh mate.

    • @2legit2Kwit
      @2legit2Kwit 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I hear he’s moving to the PNW for season three. That’s where I live. Can’t wait for joe to discover pour overs, Gortex and Bigfoot.

  • @Expinupgirl
    @Expinupgirl 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I am from Vegas and I have lived in 6 states, one thing I can say about living in different cities in the US, in the future you will cherish your memories of California. You have perspective and a right to say why you don't like LA--because you made the leap! Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Life is an adventure and I am excited to hear about your new experiences. If they are positive, AWESOME! If they suck? You just make another decision. Carpe diem.

  • @superholly
    @superholly 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5116

    I feel like I'm listening on 1.25 speed

    • @freddsims648
      @freddsims648 4 ปีที่แล้ว +93

      superholly Yeah. And I think that she just did my exercise for the day.

    • @mikef.2582
      @mikef.2582 4 ปีที่แล้ว +147

      Had to check to my settings to see if I had it on 1.25 speed too.

    • @jasonbowman9521
      @jasonbowman9521 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      lol. : )

    • @samuelcortez8540
      @samuelcortez8540 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Holly!! Amiga

    • @MrYuan321
      @MrYuan321 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      It’s 1.5 speed for me ...

  • @kenziewamble9402
    @kenziewamble9402 5 ปีที่แล้ว +348

    When Ashley started tearing up talking about moving to ny I literally felt so freakin happy for her

  • @Pikachuwhereareyou
    @Pikachuwhereareyou 5 ปีที่แล้ว +321

    This is such a candid chat, It’s like fresh air to my smog ridden lungs.
    Actually informative, contemplative and editing is on point as per usual.

  • @jaytok7
    @jaytok7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    in London they asked where you were from because of your accent.
    When I came to LA people did not ask me "what is my job", they asked "where was I from" because I have a Kiwi accent.
    What people ask will depend on you appearance, accent, etc etc..
    in saying that LA was %100 not what i imagined and the media portrays it to be. Could not believe the homelessness there.

  • @ailinbehar4432
    @ailinbehar4432 4 ปีที่แล้ว +760

    Lana del Rey has said it "I moved to California but it's just a state of mind turns out everywhere you go you take yourself"

    • @isabellaxu7381
      @isabellaxu7381 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Ailin Behar damn that’s rly good advice

    • @EricaMEspino
      @EricaMEspino 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yes ! No matter where you go there you are.

    • @vishwamistry
      @vishwamistry 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      The Weeknd: “Cali was the mission, now a nigga leavin’...”

    • @zkrhmn
      @zkrhmn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Vish also Abel “this place is never what it seems, this place will be the end of me, take me out of LA”

  • @beauty.psychedelieh
    @beauty.psychedelieh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +633

    I think it's super cool how americans feel free to move wherever they want, to start a whole new life, they don't get so tied to the place where they grown up, to the people they know... It's super unusual for me as an italian and as a super emotional person. I wish I was this mentally free instead of being here complaining about how I'm gonna survive my everyday life after I broke up with my boyfriend after a 4 years long relationship.

    • @villainsoup
      @villainsoup 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Elisa Bonfanti i hope you do whatever feels right to you!! it doesn’t have to be a big change like moving far away and leaving everything you know, but instead it can be small changes that make you happy. four years is a long time, but it always does us good to remember to be content on our own ❤️

    • @valepisu7793
      @valepisu7793 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Ti capisco perfettaments

    • @beauty.psychedelieh
      @beauty.psychedelieh 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      viri thank you so much, that means a lot to me

    • @natalyrausch
      @natalyrausch 5 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Keep in mind that you are getting a very specific perspective, i.e., that of a rich TH-camr. Most Americans don't move as freely as you think they do. Most are tied up with mortgages, children, family, careers, and every bit of sentimentality that anyone would have about where they grew up. Hell, most Americans don't even have passports or have ever really traveled. TH-cam =/= real life.

    • @beauty.psychedelieh
      @beauty.psychedelieh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Nataly Del Riego of course I know this is not every American’s typical lifestyle but I also think that overall Americans tend to move and live far from their home town easier than Europeans, or especially Italians, do. I think it’s something in the mindset we have, it’s just different. I don’t think one is better than the other, it’s just fascinates me to see people being able to do something I would struggle to do 😊

  • @violettwestt
    @violettwestt 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1316

    If Ashley had a podcast I would listen to it constantly

    • @stefdp3396
      @stefdp3396 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yessss!!!

    • @aiashamohammed6003
      @aiashamohammed6003 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Love her voice

    • @lizzy9732
      @lizzy9732 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      honestly she needs to start one rn

    • @madisonm9896
      @madisonm9896 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Ikr!!! Her voice is so calming and nice to listen to. I’ll play videos I’ve already watched😂

    • @maimiaa
      @maimiaa 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Was literally just thinking that

  • @GenXican84
    @GenXican84 3 ปีที่แล้ว +137

    I think youngsters move to the Big Cities because they want to feel like they're starting in their own Rom-Com movie. There are thousands of people doing the career thing from home, a local coffee shop or from airplanes..

    • @diamondmax5141
      @diamondmax5141 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      But L.A and San Fransisco pay their jobs a lot

  • @michellelio
    @michellelio 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1368

    i shed a tear when ashley said "i'm moving to new york, baby!" and i have no idea why. i think i'm just really happy that she's making a (not-so-easy) decision to live a better, happier life. it might also be the fact that i'm feeling stuck at this particular point in my life and wish i could do something similar to this. nevertheless, so excited for your journey, ashley!! lots of love from indonesia x

    • @ayshapatel6700
      @ayshapatel6700 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Michelle Lionard I cried so hard because in a way she’s living my dream and she just speaks to me on a level of what I want to be able to do when I grow up. And when I watch her videos I realize that I’m in 10th grade and I’m almost there and I just cry tears of joy for her and for me. Omg I literally cried the second she said that she already knew in her heart where she wanted to go because it was just so emotional for me omg.

    • @valeriaallusson3171
      @valeriaallusson3171 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Michelle Lionard i started crying too LOL

    • @tania2299
      @tania2299 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Im indonesian too.

    • @starfish0607
      @starfish0607 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      ME TOO!
      Especially since New York is my dream city to live in so I related to Ashley even more

    • @arseniotegari6541
      @arseniotegari6541 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same to me girl! I'm also Indonesian and I feel like my purpose and where i want to live in a long run is not here in Surabaya. But the sad thing is, we as Indonesians have it pretty hard to apply for visa in the first world countries

  • @skyel
    @skyel 4 ปีที่แล้ว +770

    Was I the only Brit trying to make her telepathically choose london

    • @tammyseltzer2551
      @tammyseltzer2551 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes

    • @blahblahblah7716
      @blahblahblah7716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Skye L lmao. i mean i can’t stand london so i probably would’ve gone if she did a meet and greet and that would be the only reason but then again i fell the same about New York so whatever really. also i have this fear of the world finding out how shit england is. like when they go there on holidays they’re all like it’s lovely but you get bored of england fast and i don’t want the country to be exposed just yet.

    • @skyel
      @skyel 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      BLAHbl AHblah I do like London but I’m afraid people will find out how bad the weather is

    • @LyraDavis
      @LyraDavis 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      No. I definitely hoped she'd come here. I'm such an introvert. But I'd totally travel into London to have coffee and talk random crap at an inappropriate hour.

    • @chaank1069
      @chaank1069 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Skye L im in NY and still listened to NY part like I’ve never been here lol

  • @riley9024
    @riley9024 5 ปีที่แล้ว +427

    I love how educated and articulate she is. It’s honestly so refreshing to listen to her talk

  • @danielleczinsky1868
    @danielleczinsky1868 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    My first time watching your videos and Your being open and telling how you feel without remorse is great. In my 59 years of life your openness is refreshing

  • @ifrariaz652
    @ifrariaz652 4 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    "comforting feeling that i don't actually matter that much" a sentence that i never thought i'd hear... and i loved it tbh!!!

  • @lottebackelandt9072
    @lottebackelandt9072 5 ปีที่แล้ว +414

    Moral of the story: Ashley doesnt wanna matter that much

  • @rebeccacedi
    @rebeccacedi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +272

    I would die for a podcast at this point, but I’m so happy for Ashley and her new journey!

  • @MrSA1829
    @MrSA1829 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Great, honest information. People who want to move to LA need to hear your breakdown. You did an excellent job. Im a 63 year old man and I learned a lot from you. Thanks!

  • @gigicelesta
    @gigicelesta 5 ปีที่แล้ว +463

    ashley saying "New York, baby!" reminds me of joey saying "London, baby!" in friends and i feel like that fits really well

  • @glorialemmon9144
    @glorialemmon9144 5 ปีที่แล้ว +110

    Omg when she said “New York, baby” and got all excited and shy I literally started tearing up? Why was that so emotional?

  • @jackirin
    @jackirin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +801

    idk why everyone is trying to invalidate her reasons for wanting to leave LA, i lived all over the east (seattle, monterey, etc) and west coasts (atlanta, dc, etc), texas, AND europe (for four years, mind you) and personal experiences can vary widely depending on your personality and direct social environment. her bad experience doesnt mean everyone should have a bad experience, your good experience doesnt mean she should have had a good experience. wow.

    • @correallealtier9269
      @correallealtier9269 4 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      you mixed east and west coast, but you've lived in places i want to live in so bad you're so lucky

    • @roseemilk8599
      @roseemilk8599 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      How did you like Seattle? I live close by but I haven’t explored much besides the “main part” (1st ave area)

    • @shannon2748
      @shannon2748 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@correallealtier9269 I may be a bit biased, but I love Atlanta..hehe

    • @IKNOKWORLDWIDE
      @IKNOKWORLDWIDE 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Word of advice. No one can know what it's like to "live in the city of Los Angeles" under ten years. Anything under that is just visiting.

    • @sterlingmarshel6299
      @sterlingmarshel6299 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@IKNOKWORLDWIDE not - that's ridiculous did you just make that up?

  • @Wolfinte
    @Wolfinte 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    As someone who has lived in NY my whole life and recently moved to SoCal, I can't express how seen this video has made me feel. Idk, maybe it's just homesickness or the pandemic, but I realized how much I wanted to live in NYC only after moving here. Nothing at all against the West coast or the people who live here but it's like you said, it's hard to put my finger on, but I just feel so much more in-tune with how people on the East coast interact.

  • @ALLEYCVTz
    @ALLEYCVTz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +494

    I love people who can speak fast yet fluently at the same time. Weirdly satisfying.

    • @XxMABY_LauxX
      @XxMABY_LauxX 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m struggling to keep up and I live in UK :(((
      Lol

    • @yasamanshakiba6218
      @yasamanshakiba6218 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I even thought I had it on 1.5x speed !! ha

    • @Thompson-from-Finland
      @Thompson-from-Finland 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yea! Im from finland and i understand everything :D

    • @misein1
      @misein1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah like Ben Shapiro. He is a very fast talker.

    • @Thompson-from-Finland
      @Thompson-from-Finland 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@misein1 i watch a lot of his video too

  • @stefaniechavez7494
    @stefaniechavez7494 5 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    ive been here since before 1M and im still feel like i can relate to you. youre one of the realest people in our social media age. everytime i watch ur vids i remember its ok to feel lost!! hope things go well for you! :)

    • @populationme
      @populationme 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      me too! and i agree on everything you said! also, harryyyyy okay goodbye

  • @stare5956
    @stare5956 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4630

    Ashley: I’m thinking about designing my own clothing line
    Me: SHUT UP AND take my MONEY

    • @atomicbomm
      @atomicbomm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      Leslie Lugo especially cause it’s probably gonna be sustainable!

    • @ghg2841
      @ghg2841 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      same

    • @themusicellecat2176
      @themusicellecat2176 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      literally me

    • @danleyl8254
      @danleyl8254 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      yeah that's me

    • @dirtyyrat
      @dirtyyrat 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That reminds me of the give your fucking money vine lol

  • @juicefruity
    @juicefruity 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    This video gave me chills, i live in LA and everything you mentioned is true. Many reasons why i also want to move out of LA

  • @amalrohail644
    @amalrohail644 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1652

    ashley: spends 20 minutes comparing LA to NYC
    also ashley: i havent told u where i'm moving yet uwu

  • @laliemerson3220
    @laliemerson3220 5 ปีที่แล้ว +119

    when she says “it makes me feel like I don’t matter that much.” and how she describes it as comforting, it threw me off. I was like ?? that’s strange ?? but I understand it. It’s kind of like the feeling I get where I want to move to a completely new place where nobody knows me and where in fact, I don’t matter that much.

    • @kimonathompson4999
      @kimonathompson4999 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yeah that comment through me off but I took at as she wanted somewhere that humbling and ground her/ keeps her centered. I think its a lot it be in the spot light all the time (social media and LA culture) so I think she wanted a place she could just get lost in once the cameras are off.

  • @tgn6849
    @tgn6849 5 ปีที่แล้ว +489

    I love how the sky turned blue when you said you’re moving to newyork. Im happy for you ashley :’)

    • @claaaaaaaaang
      @claaaaaaaaang 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      💖💖💖💖

    • @tgn6849
      @tgn6849 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Isaochy 🤭🤭🤫

  • @wehiwachjyblgnuiaet4783klawct7
    @wehiwachjyblgnuiaet4783klawct7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    ‘People are nice, but fake nice’ that’s the entire USA for you ma’am

  • @sciencesold_
    @sciencesold_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1194

    "The nations least significant state" I've never been more offended by something I completely agree with

    • @JustTory
      @JustTory 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      i thought i was the only one. i love Maryland but at the same time i'm ready to go somewhere new

    • @sweetabby1106
      @sweetabby1106 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      The whole state is a bedroom community for DC now

    • @MzShonuff123
      @MzShonuff123 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Isn't that Montana? I sometimes forget Montana even exists.

    • @nathanharris8297
      @nathanharris8297 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      As a marylander I hate and love the state but my possible future I feel like will take me to New York where most of my family,culture, colleges, and general lifestyle would be.

    • @natasha5117
      @natasha5117 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lol 😂 don’t forget Connecticut

  • @ascattoni599
    @ascattoni599 5 ปีที่แล้ว +515

    Ashley: **talking about how convenient and efficient the subway is**
    Me: **waited 2 hours for the N train to go 3 stops down**

    • @DelaG29
      @DelaG29 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Why did you not get out and walk/taxi to another train? That's not a common situation.

    • @diddlybop
      @diddlybop 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      YES. The subway sucks I have wasted so many hours waiting in the dank shit and piss smelling dungeons of the subway. but as much as I hate to admit it, it does get me where I need to go 100% of the time even if it's only on time 70% of the time.

    • @voicememosforthevoid
      @voicememosforthevoid 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      wheeewwww let it be the weekend, the MTA will have you waiting literally all day

    • @CinthyaBB
      @CinthyaBB 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It always shocks me that a city like New York has such a mediocre public transport system (after spending a lot of time in Europe) and can't seem to care to fix simple problems like frequency and reliability but then NYC at least some kind of public transport not like most cities in the U.S. where people are so dependable of cars.

    • @diddlybop
      @diddlybop 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@CinthyaBB AGREED! after using other subways around the world I tried to understand why...the problems run deep and are complex, there are multiple rail systems/train models that were all integrated at different times and are in different stages of disrepair, corruption, bloated workforce, lack of accountability, ineffective track cleaning procedures, massive garbage and rodent issues, track fires, safety issues, police brutality against fare evaders...there are so many issues and it is so frustrating to use it on a daily basis, trying to be informed and understand WHY things are the way they are and hitting this wall of endless problems that are always being addressed but never solved. WELCOME TO NEW YORK 😩

  • @lubsahri5010
    @lubsahri5010 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1627

    I found really interesting how the necklace with stars twinkled.

    • @user-du2dq8li7k
      @user-du2dq8li7k 5 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      It’s because her head is moving so the necklace is moving too

    • @thedotintheletteri
      @thedotintheletteri 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Thanks, now I can’t stop looking at the necklace- 😅

    • @poppymaeeee
      @poppymaeeee 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Nyan Miku it’s in her description she always puts her outfits there and where to buy them

    • @taylorhopkins8221
      @taylorhopkins8221 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      lubs ahri I couldn’t stop staring at that! 😂

    • @saiwenya
      @saiwenya 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I watched it like the whole time it’s so cute

  • @bbitoy
    @bbitoy ปีที่แล้ว +10

    2023 and still rewatching Ashley's video

  • @rui_1902
    @rui_1902 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1033

    It honestly depends in which part of LA you’re located. I lived my whole life in LA and never once considered it predominantly skinny white models. Lmao probably bc I was raised in a Hispanic community, as I said before, it depends where you’re located. You just gotta surround yourself with the right ppl which you can literally find anywhere since it’s so diverse here.

    • @anthonyr587
      @anthonyr587 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      Problem is man even what you talk about is changing. I lived in Beverly Hills and Downtown. Downtown in particular I would drink at Dublins on 7th street, very, very diverse group of people. However, with the liberals selling all the real estate to Asian investors, and the fact rent hikes evaporated the middle class, then the soul that built this city, of which I have a tonne of respect for the Hispanics, is dying. Its basically becoming this hotspot where literally everyone is from somewhere else but all of the same " the world owes me" mindset. A lot of the working class have left and are leaving to Arizona, Nevada and Texas. Or further away from LA into inland Empire for example. The " right" people you talk about are becoming a dying breed. Its a shame, but I also think Covid will speed this up too. Absolute sucks to watch Silver Lake get taken over by rich, white, hippy woke liberals displacing the working class Hispanics from that area.

    • @stevesmithston8914
      @stevesmithston8914 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@anthonyr587 "with the liberals selling all the real estate to Asian investors", lol, I personally know a few RE up there doing that.

    • @anthonyr587
      @anthonyr587 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@stevesmithston8914 Liberal politicians, there are no republican politicians doing that here. DTLA in particular. So many high rise buildings and land being sold by the City politicians to Asia. Metropolis one, the two towers opposite the Staples. Luxe hotel. Huizar and his cronies got indicted by the FBI for corruption with China developers. Big ring of these liberal politicians taking bribes and back handed deals, pricing out their own voters from living there as well.

    • @bconni2
      @bconni2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      there's probably more skinny white models in NYC than L.A... and i see more brown or mixed race people in L.A than i do White people. so i don't know what alternate universe she's living in

    • @jaxxxb9099
      @jaxxxb9099 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes. This 💯