what i wish i'd known about college...
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Ah college. The most confusing and overpriced four years of your life. I graduated from UCLA with a bachelors in film, tv, and digital media back in March. A film degree doesn’t qualify me for much in this job market, but it does barely qualify me to chat about what I wish I knew before college. This video complies my thoughts on internships, hustle culture, making friends, feeling disillusioned, hookup culture, and all the other advice I’d give to my younger freshman self.
TIMECODES
0:51 - college is not like the movies
1:29 - making college friends
2:37 - hustle culture
3:49 - your gpa doesn’t matter
4:32 - internships
4:58 - out of state / long distance college
5:48 - how i graduated in 3 years and how you can graduate early too
8:37 - shop around for classes you actually like
10:11 - the professor makes the class
10:44 - get a planner
11:02 - hookup culture
11:57 - drinking
12:31 - making choices + letting go of possibilities
14:16 - romanticize your own life
15:35 - enjoy it while it lasts
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Ashley: Hustle culture is overrated.
Also Ashley: graduated a 4 year program within 2.5 years
@@ninac.5921 and managing a youtube channel that just reached 2 mill
she could have done her gen courses in high school
yeehaw i guess She literally explained how she packed on classes each sem so she could finish early.
also a suma cum laude
She's a Boss babe
"I'm not going back to school, not because i dropped out like other youtubers but because i graduated college"
I literally clap so hard for that sentence. Finally a youtuber who appreciate education ❤❤❤❤
LMFAO IKR I look up to her so much omg
Equally sassy is the "back to school 'hacks'" video by simplynailogical
Simplylogical. She is the same type.
Bestdressed
Joana ceddia
Simply Nailogical
Same with Joana Ceddia
“Gpa doesn’t matter unless you’re stem”
Cries in stem major
I feel that, im going into engineering
Even then it only matters if you continue on in school. It doesn't matter at ALL once you jump out of school into job life.
It does matter! Professional school is too competitive to not have a competitive GPA hahahahaha
I was think about going into stem but I chose Psychology instead
can't relate when you wanna go to law school :(((
Ashley: I am not the best at managing my own schedule
Me: oh my god same
Ashely: I don’t know when I should relax
Me: never mind...I don’t know when I should start working
Deobihoe LMAOOO ME
*procrastinating starting hw while watching this video*
Deobihoe this is me
@@angelbb444 i relate to thta so much
i still have an unfinished project due next week
@@aleksandra2549 i have hws due last week that i still dc about
i respect ashely so much for completing college in two and half years, with honors while growing a successful youtube channel. like dang girlfriend rly crushing it
Exactlyy 👏🏽👏🏽
Yess👏👏
SHE GRADUATED WITH HIGHEST HONOURS. She is everything!
i know! ashley and joanna ceddia (and im sure others) who ACTUALLY care about their future. that makes them so much more respectable.
Wow hard worker!
ashley is the internet mom we all need, the cool aunt who teaches you about life, and best friend you wish you had
it’s olivia - YAAASSSS!!!! 😂♥️😇
SO TRUE 😂❣
and the big sister you can trust😞🤚🏼😂
HOLY SHIT SHE LIKED MY COMMENT
ABSOFRICKENLUTELY
Do I relate to the American education system ? No
Am I still watching? Yes
Same
idk why i even watching our system and their are worlds apart lol
I'm a junior in college in the U.S. and her system is completely different than mine, I honestly have never heard of "quarters" lol
Same
annalee I’m a freshman in Missouri and we have quarters
ashley: semester junior sophomore senior freshman language ap
me: *screams in british*
scream in Russian 🤪
screams in latina
Scream in brazilian
well im american so hahahah sucks for u
Probably late but
freshman = 9th grade
sophomore = 10th grade
junior = 11th grade
senior = 12th grade
Hope this helps!
*”it’s not because i dropped out of school like every other youtuber”*
Yeah don't know how I felt when she said that...like..comedy or throwing shade lol
shade is real
Hi I watch your Harvard reaction video!!! You are so awesome as well!
Yeah, didn't know how to feel when she said that, either. Like, there's nothing wrong with dropping out -- not everyone is meant for college and you don't need a degree to be successful. Maybe she was being comedic about it, but I didn't think it was necessary.
@@mini_cc it was a joke chill
“romanticize your own life” is the most beautiful idea i’ve ever heard
What does that mean?
@@asceticrequiem yeah no I watched it but I don’t know what that really means
@@soho6435 what i take from that sentence is just learn to love your own life
@@soho6435 think of your life as a movie
you look stunning WTF TYPE OF WATER ARE YOU DRINKING
The magical ones in the movies
I think it's called glossier
Probably holy water
the kind with 2 hydrogens and one oxygen. it's the new fleek!
✨ f i g i w a t e r ✨
Okay but making friends in college is so hard especially when you don’t live in the dorms, nobody talks about it
So true!
I have the same issue. People say just to join clubs and stuff but sometimes I just wanna go home because events and stuff are late at night
Yeah... :(
Orangemagnet I’m in high school and have no friends I can’t imaaaagine
True
ashley: paid 450$ to lay on a hospital bed for 2hrs
my little canadian self: *gasps*
it’s actual shit, ambulance rides alone can cost hundreds of dollars so some ppl will drive themselves to the hospital 😔
Uma Fondeker they make special bracelets for people prone to passing out/other emergencies that say “i can’t afford the ambulance, don’t call one, i’ll be fine. probably.”
@@emmiehutton9107 🤣😭
Anne Fontaine yeah but ypur stores and food costs so much
kolli/ / and their wages effectively meet the current standard of living in their country. They make overall higher income than we do, and thus can afford the higher prices of goods.
“trying to yeet my way through the education system” same ashely same
Sophia Wilson congrats on having the two top comments rn
u always spell her name ashely but it’s ashley lmfao
me, aged 13, so not going to be in college for another five years: hm yes interesting
bea I’m like 16 and I’m in sophomore year of high school. I’m panicking because what if I hate my college major. I’m not even in college lol.
@@ursamajor8549 Most people switch their majors anyways. I was one of the lucky ones who figured out within my first semester that I didn't want to pursue my original major and fortunately, most of my credits could be transferred over. There's always this pressure to graduate within specific time frame although many students can't due to work, difficult classes, mental health, etc.
depending on what state youre in, you can start college at 16
Literally same
omg same distressed 13 year old things
not to be a party pooper, but your gpa matters when you apply for grad school. because ya know, a masters is the new bachelors 🤷🏼♀️😭
This is true. It's the easiest way to ensure your acceptance into a graduate school.
But it's not all hopeless. If you have a less than average GPA, you need to build up your resume to restore some credibility on your application. They need to know how committed you are to the field and what level of output you're able to produce to know whether or not you're worth the slot.
@@MichiriKyuurin Good advice!
I literally laugh cried at your "masters is the new bachelors" bc i study psych and if i wanna pursue my career in clinical psych i'll have to slave away and sacrifice my youth to grad school + placements
Ashlee Dixon - Some of us don't give a fuck. I have 2 college degrees and refuse to use either one for personal reasons. I will never accept any job that requires a degree. I'm all about naked options trading. People don't like it because it involves so much risk but what they don't understand is that all of life is a gamble. Everytime you get behind the wheel of a car you're gambling on possibly having a wreck. Everytime you go out in public you gamble on being shot. To work a job is to gamble on getting fired and it really doesn't matter if you're good at your job. They could always turn against you for some stupid reason. If you think you're safer by avoiding the stock market think again. All of life is a gamble. Fuck college. Fuck all jobs - including the so-called 'good' jobs. Options trading is the way to go. For me, it's the only way. I have unlimited profit potential, etc. I always rufused to kiss ass to get ahead. I don't value social status. I'm not into any of that. So, if you don't kiss ass to get ahead or use a college degree there's only one option left for success - you have to become good at taking calculated risks. That's what I did. If it weren't for options trading, I'd probably be driving an 18 wheeler and I'd be perfectly fine with that. That's my idea of a 'good' job.
@@MichiriKyuurin other than internships, how do you build up your resume??
Who else wishes Ashley was their best friend/older sister?😍😍😍
meee!!🤩
Rosalyn Gummer m e
i doooooooo
Rosalyn Gummer what do you mean?? she IS the older sister of all of her followers
Rosalyn Gummer me!!! Only that she’s way younger than me lol!
ashley: 'i did a 4 year program in 2,5 years & graduated'
me: 'this will be my 4th year in a 3 year program & heck knows when i'll graduate '
Wildlushes yes but do you have a full time job
And some programs are more difficult than others ... and life gets in the way!
same 😂 claiming that this will be the year to graduate!!
thats basically European uni system😂
Wildlushes I’ve been taking classes for the passed ten years and still haven’t graduated
Ashley: paid 450$ to lay on a hospital bed for 2hrs
My shocked Turkish ass: *has a minor headache and goes to a hospital, is given medicine and given a serum and lays there for an hour and has a full blood test check and leaves without paying any money*
Cody Mehmet Çatal 🥺🥺🥺 #votebernie
Avakin Alessia Not just LA, all of the US is like that. We literally rank number one for most expensive healthcare globally and it’s ridiculous. There’s hidden fees and overcharging for everything.
Avakin Alessia it’s definitely like this in all of America.
That's it I'm moving >:((
Lucky, the American healthcare system sucks
I wish my GPA didn't matter but I have financial aid that depends on it ;-;
This reminds me that I need to study my ass off cuz my GPA is starting to going down 😖
rinnychan8 same .....
Same
I have ALWAYS had a 4.0 GPA and then my art teacher decides to give me a C and when I tell her it's in an unfair grade and that it's going to affect my scholarships and financial aid she says it doesn't matter
Goodbye college 😢😭
#Paris Origami what class is it for?
#Paris Origami u don’t need 4.0 gpa for college
who else realized they're a "friendship starfish" after this video??
Same. Although, I will say that people should take advantage of those first few weeks of college, because during those first few weeks, you're all kind of in the same boat. You're all trying to find your people and figure out how to exist in this new world. Yes, friendship takes work, but there'll never be an easier time to do it than those first few weeks of college when everyone around you is also looking for friends.
I’ve never heard a more accurate description!! I’m really glad she talked about this because it’s the same for a lot of people :)
C Lindemann very true. I met my whole group of friends my freshman year of college within the first few months and those are the people that I got stuck with (in a good way) for the next 4 years of my life haha.
it me
nothing but respect to this talented bright woman
what they said ^^^^
yes👏🏼 she’s always coming through with the editing and relatable advice
Do not pack classes. I tried doing that and my metal health deteriorated. No amount of time saved or money is worth your mental health.
Especially if you have a long commute to campus! You'll have no time for anything but studying
I guess you can call me a masochist
Bisexual J 😭
Honestly it depends. Some people don’t have money for 3-4 full years of tuition.
Some people are not privileged enough to do that tho
“It’s really easy to graduate early”
“Just take double the classes you need to take at a time”
Bro I can barely handle the bare minimum let alone DOUBLE
This 💯
👏
all in favor of ashley doing a podcast?!?
YES
YESS
yes !!!!
hell yeah
OMG PLEASEEEE
I don’t understand who can be a better youtuber than Ashley...like she is the best example. She has set standards right here.
I love Ashley and got inspired to start my own platform! Subscribe to my starting channel!
Yes! 🙌🏼❤️
Joana Ceddia is a pretty damn good example too
Jenna Marbles for 30 year old life goals after college and how to be unproblematic 👌🏼👌🏼
as a current college "super senior," i would also say to the kiddos out there that IT IS OK TO TAKE YOUR TIME (if it is available to you, of course). i hit a bit of a bump in the road of my college experience that caused me to get behind and i was beating myself up thinking i had to finish in four years and do things the "right way." when in reality there is no right way or one set path that works for everyone. live your life, enjoy the experience, be gentle with yourself!!
and thanks for the wisdom, ashley :) you're an inspiration!
uhg thank you for this
hi haley!! i'd love to hear more about your experience, i'm in a similar boat :(
Yup , here in my country a bachelor's degree is of three years , but I failed my first year , so it took me 4 years to complete my graduation because of my mental health (I am a depression and anxiety patient ) . I used to feel bad about it , I still do like a little bit , but the bad feeling is a lot less than it used to be. ❤
ashley: grades don’t matter in college
me: :)
ashley: except in stem
me: :(
Ashley: “ don’t pull all nighters”
Also Ashley: editing this video in the dark
True lol
'do as I say not as I do'
Studio Ghibli movies do a fantastic job at romanticizing the everyday life. Binge, enjoy and absorb that mind set. It's refreshing :)
yessss! omg so glad I've found someone else who get's studio Ghibli's movies like I do 💖💖
YESSSS!
Yess I always feel so at peace when I watch those, and it helps me make the best of the real world too :')
YES AN OGGG
What are your guys’ favorites?
Wow, Ashley's advice is so specific and helpful in reality, unlike those other advice videos that are so basic, generalized and terribly unrealistic.
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tbh it's kinda general and basic
@@WolfJulia2001 she can't really give advice that applies to everyones specific circumstances, so i think she did the best she could with her own experiences
ashley: gpa doesn't matter
med schools with gpa requirements and the average accepted being 3.8: 🥺🥺
*at least in Film School
As a Canadian sometimes I watch these videos and I wonder what the hell the American education system is
Matt Aksamit I’m American and I don’t understand what the hell the American education system is 😅
lol as american neither do I but how is the Canadian education system like??
Skittles Army idk if it’s just me but we don’t have AP classes, we split it into “academic” or “applied”, but it doesn’t seem to be as intense as you guys?? Also we have four classes each semester, unless you take online or night school or something. We also don’t really do “GPA”, because we don’t have AP classes, it’s literally just an average. Also for uni, we don’t really need to write essays here. Some programs require supplementary applications, but that’s usually just “answer these questions in 500 words each”
Skittles Army ok so I just looked it up and APPARENTLY AP classes exist here ?? I’m assuming it’s in Toronto though and big cities, my school didn’t offer them
Matt Aksamit wow that’s kinda cool. It’s weird how different the education system is in other places. That actually doesn’t sound bad. IM moviNg tO Canada foR coLlEge!
Ashley is honestly the older sister I always needed.
And for those who are still in high school... life DOES get better after high school ❤️
I think this varies from every individual. High School can be a shelter for some..
im a insecure, antisocial, intervorted as hell, freshman in a school of over 2000 kids with 30 kids per class so I don't think its gonna get etter once I go to college
@@tracimoyer9879 I think I found my twin
@@tracimoyer9879 I'm in a school with 2k kids as well. Honestly, used to it, doesn't feel that big! I'm sure it'll get better for you.
Traci Moyer that depends on you
Damn the part about letting go of possibilities hit me hard
To me...
Romanticize your life = Act like you’re in a Studio Ghibli movie
02mcl this. HONESTLY
oOf yES 🥺✊
raise your hand if you do the chihiro run every time you walk down the stairs and listen to the howl's moving castle soundtrack on hikes
yess
That’s been the only thing thats been getting me through these past few months 😂😭 hey but it works
How tf is she glowing up more and more with each video she uploads????
I think she changed her make-up routine, like you know the new thing of using that blush in your nose area and stuff... well that in addition to taking better care of herself.
It’s hot in la 😂😂
@@SaharaDes idk about that i live in a hot area too and i don't have the energy to do anything just cuz its burning here.
started ugly crying during this so hard my chest hurt.
im 20 and currently in my junior year. i do like learning, i really do, but my mental health has been shit for years, and it's made enjoying my time in college virtually impossible. i wish i could feel motivated or excited about my classes. they're classes i would enjoy, but my brain is too broken to let me be excited about much at all. so my time at college has just been me trying to scrape by. and i don't even know why; to get a degree so i can get a job i guess. i know what i want to do in life and i know what my dream job would be and i know that i could probably get there but i don't know what the point is bc honestly i'll probably have killed myself before i make it to the finish line. i wanted college to be exciting, i wanted my purpose here to purely be to learn and to enjoy education for what's probably the last time. but instead my grades are dropping every quarter i stay here because i cant resurrect my brain enough to make me care or try. i feel like i've lost something important, or i'm in the process of losing it, but i'm already grieving.
Things will get better over time!! Honestly it is easier d y i n g than living but as long as you're still here, you have to make everyday count. Take sometime off and re-discover your passion. DON'T ever take your life for granted.
Esme L You’re strong for sharing how you feel I hope your circumstances get better
Give yourself a break please.
I feel the same and tried to kill myself to (with literally no reason). So I start to realise I can’t deal with this situation just by myself. And I talked to my personal tutor in uni. And they really provide me a lot of help. Anyways just want to tell you that you’re not alone, and there are people that can understand you. Please ask for help if it’s needed.
Hope you will get better!
I hope your doing better, and if not just take a break from college, nobody said you have to go to college right after high school or finish college in 4 years or that you have to go to at all. Do what's best for you and your mental health❤❤
As someone with an engineering degree, I can confidently say that five years later and with a solid resume, I'm still asked during interviews and specific applications what my GPA was. It does matter.
As someone who also has campus recruitment and interviewing experience for Fortune 500 companies, I can also say certain jobs actually view it negatively if your GPA is too high, as it reflects the potential that you spent all of your time studying and not socializing, which can be detrimental in certain leadership or teamwork environments. Mid 3's (at least a 3.2, less than 4.0) seems to be the best target GPA to go for if you're unsure of what you want to do post-graduation, especially for a tech field. Serious engineering jobs and grad schools often won't look at you if you do not have at least a 3.2, so it's all about balance and some pre-planning. Moral of the story, do your best, but don't waste your time being hung up that you got a B (or even a D) in a single class when the rest of your grades are solid. If anything, you're doing yourself a favor.
D's get Degrees, my friends. But too many and they also may not get their first job pick.
She specifically excluded STEM in that statement
Me as a kid: I want to be a fairy princess!
Ashley as a kid: I'm going to be a supreme court justice
I just wanted my parents back 🙃
I never knew what I wanted to do. I’m a junior in high school now and have no idea what I want to do still. I can’t to do school anymore because I feel as though it’s suppressing my creativity and happiness. So I’m probably not going to college. Which is why I’m wondering why I’m watching this video
i always wanted to be a marine biologist
This is such an old comment, but I wanted to be a lawyer as an eight year old. Now, a fourteen year old, I want to be a criminologist
@@mattiestars Yes girl!!! follow your ambitions!! Catch those bad guys and make the world a better place!! We're all rooting for you!!
Ashley's room is not so slowly becoming consumed by plants.
the fact that you finished college in 2.5 years and managed to grow such a successful channel, making so many videos, editing them and putting so much effort while studying and also working as you have said in previous videos is amazing and truly admirable ❤️👏🏻
loved hearing you expand on this topic although some of these tips don’t apply to me since I live in Europe lol
"Romanticize your life"
As someone who graduated 5 years ago, and feels bogged down by work life, I needed to hear that. Thanks, Ashley. ❤
“Your GPA doesn’t matter unless you’re in STEM”
😪😪😪
Well.....not really should keep it over a 3.0 but focus on internships and experience rather
Akansha Gupta what did you major in?
i was so hyped up but suddenly "unless you're in stem" 😩
Akansha Gupta what did u major in??
ikr tryina get into med school means gpa REALLY matters ://
Okay folks, let's say it all together,,,
*THANK YOU MOM 2.0!!*
make sure when you're graduating early that you're ready. my sister graduated in three years rather than four and she was not ready to get a job and live completely independently or anything like that. Ashley was ready bc she knew what she wanted and she knows her future. my sister was looking at maybe seven years of self study and exams to become an actuary with her statistics degree. she didn't know what she wanted and she suffered bc of it. she had mental breakdowns about being rushed through the school system, forcing herself to take calculus in high school (okay i might be wrong but doesn't everyone do this) and anyways not her best time. that said her birthday is in early september so she is already a year younger approx than all the other people in her graduating class. but anyways, just. be ready. and know when you're not. know why, and know how its going to be okay.
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most people will not be ready. but they have to face life anyways. That’s how you grow
I AGREE. i graduated high school a year early which was useless because i had no idea what to do in college or when i grow up!!
I just graduated from college and I can attest that hands on experience is NEEDED. I spent my first three years of college just worrying about grades and extracurriculars. I didn't start my internships until my final year. If I could go back in time I would have started working as an intern my freshmen year because that's what is going to truly prepare you for a job.
Same. But also working for free = 🤮
@@kirag9509 there are some paid internships , just gotta search
"and not because I dropped out of school like every other TH-camr" 😎
Susanne Flod savage
the tea sis
Ashley: it's important to sleep
me: totally (as i nod my head at 2:07 am)
Read this at 2:07 in the morning and it freaked me out
zehra cebeci same
I wish I knew that changing your major can also be rough and there is a lot of pressure to take extra classes to "catch up"... but not graduating "on time" is okay!!!
Better to switch majors and graduate a bit later than to stick to a major you didn't like or won't pay out (:
Ashley: I'm really proud of you
Me: *starts crying*
ashley i’m always so inspired by your authenticity!! you never sugarcoat things and i love u for it! i can wholeheartedly say ur one of my biggest inspirations and reasons i wanted to start making videos to document my genuine college experience :’)
Same, i am torn between starting a TH-cam channel and being v scared of criticism and Ashley with her honesty is the best motivation!
Ro Fromel i say go for it!!
heyy i’m doing that too!! there’s no content for my school so who better to do it than me, a fool??
cate granskog exactly! i wish i had been able to watch videos of people at my college before i had gone, so that’s what my goal is to help other people!
@@roza..f5248 Go for it!! I was so hesitant starting my channel and now I'm just getting used to being in front of the camera lol 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Ashley: expected college to be fun
Also Ashley: packed and squeezed all of her subjects to graduate earlier
🤷🏻♂️
Literally what i was thinking about. It looks like she completely rushed it and packed her days with other die hustles. No hate because it's admirable but you can't really expect to make connections off that. How can you bond with people when you're too busy working?
No hate, but college in America especially is really expensive. Even if she did enjoy it she would still have to be money conscious and if she was able to pay the same amount of money for double the school in half the time, then go her.
@M I'm sorry but 'you get pregnant and DIE' lol, why did you write it like that??? Are you implying pregnancy leads to death??? XD
@M Oooh, your comment was quite serious so I didn't realise you were referencing Mean Girls XD
Well here in the ph we have 30 units per sem and thats normal already
"the time you sleep and eat is not up for grab, you need those"
*watches this while pulling an all nighter*
I have many more friends in college than in high school. The important thing to remember is friends won't just fall into your lap in college. Many people in high school have had the same friends for years and have never really had to work at making friends but you start fresh when you go to college. I met most of my friends by putting myself out there in really uncomfortable situations. I went to parties by myself to make friends, joined clubs where I didn't know anyone, and talked to random students around campus. I was never popular in k-12 so I knew extra effort was needed so I could find friends and be happy. The absolute worst thing that can happen when you talk to new people is that they won't want to be your friend and then you are simply in the same position you were before. Please don't give up if you feel lonely when you start college. Many people need some time to transition to the new environment and most people are feeling the same anxiety that you are, they are just keeping it to themselves. You will find your people eventually even if it takes you a bit longer. If you are really feeling hopeless try talking to an on campus counselor. If you are close with your roommate ask if you can tag along with them to some campus events. If you live close to your hometown fight the temptation to go home on the weekend to visit your high school friends. Weekends are a great time to meet people on campus and you don't want to miss out. It also might be a good idea to join some clubs or rush a sorority. These will provide a more structured environment to make friends and might be helpful if you are a more introverted person. Most importantly remember that taking risks can often pay off when it comes to making friends. Ask that kid you talk to in class to get coffee with you, sit at a new table at lunch, introduce yourself to your neighbors. I wish you the best of luck!
Thank you ❤😌
this was some good advice!
“The time that you sleep, and eat, and rest is not up for grabs. That’s not optional time that you can like portion away for some other activity. That is required time for you to take care of yourself and for you to exist as a human being.”
THIS! 👏🏼
As a person studying in europe, this doesn't really help me, but guess who's still watching 🌈
Ah c'mon it does still help. It's the concepts, not the details.
To be honest, as a graduater in the Netherlands, I almost experienced every single thing she did too. Is that sad? yes. I'm just happy I did not have to spend as much as her.
@@cecilliavd5812 hey! Wat heb je gestudeerd als ik vragen mag?
Higher education institutes in my country makes it almost impossible to graduate earlier, even most universities here don’t go by credit hours or specific classes but by a fixed curriculum, but I still learned a few things from this vid
Im from Chile, and even though most of these things dont apply to me, there are others that are international (hook up culture being so strong in college, hustle culture, etc).
Me: *watching this to calm me down after having a tiny breakdown for having an average of C- entering my senior year of college*
C-?!?! Girl what happened 😂😂
Staci college happened
Ashley: “I’m not the best at managing my schedule”
also Ashley: “I had taken too many classes freshman year so I graduated in 2.5 years instead of 3”
gpa totally matters if you have a scholarship. you get more money with higher grades.
I definitely need a scholarship lol
Sarah Brown not with UCLA 😂
that was my first thought!! i wouldn’t be going to the UNI i’m attending without my scholarship so my grades needa stay UP.
Also if you’re planning on getting a master’s degree or PhD (but I understand what she meant!)
i have such a hard time finding scholarships. if anyone knows any legit sites (not fastweb, idk if that works but lemme know if anyone has won one there) BUT YEAH LET ME KNOW PEOPLE !!!
me: *graduated college in may*
also me: *still watches this video*
Me too 😂
Lol I graduated in December.
Damn I graduated in 2012, yet here I am too 😅 Would love to do it all over again!
How does college feel like?
im asking this while im in First year highschool...
what am i doing???
me: doesn't start college for another 3 years
also me: still watches this video
ahhh i love how timeless these videos can be
I feel like my life has gone by so fast especially how the vrius is going on, which cut my senior year of HS, so now I'm so stressed bout college and idk what to do TT
I'm a senior too bro and I'm so scared I wont be able to handle the stress of college
ai ko frrrr I see so many people going to their dream college and plan their future already and then there’s me T^T idk what to do
I start my freshmen year of college in 4 days and ya girl has no idea what she wants to do
Same I picked a STEM field and not having any stimulation for the past half year quarantined I'm second guessing all my choices. I feel sick to my stomach thinking about starting college 😭
omg me too. i’m a senior now and i still don’t know what major should i apply to, and how am i gonna study for sat prep to get into college.
"It's harder to make friends in college."
Just wait till you start working...
This is damn true
Really?!?
Don’t say that! Ive made 1 permanent friend in college and I’m betting on work to make more 😭
Yeah. I feel sad ;(
Coz I'm a very shy person. Idk how people do it.
It depends on how you are, like I was in no way popular in hs but I still am close to about 8 people from hs and talk to very often. I go to university outside of my home city and made 4 (my roommates and a couple of people) friends out of my program and like 4 in mine. I'm a generally introverted person but I left home to somewhere which was culturally different (big city to town), kinda forces you to get out of your comfort zone.
“gpa doesn’t matter unless you’re in stem.”
:(((( i’m an engineering major
cayden lol justice major applying to law school i feel u
/sobs in engineering
what is stem?
@@user-jp5kc3pr5e Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics (?)
it's more like GPA doesn't matter unless you're trying to go to grad school, like for medicine or law
Ashley: Your grades don’t matter that much in most majors
Me: *cries in law school* (they look at each individual grade smh)
Girl, an orange reality tv star that lead several companies to bankruptcy is president of the USA, of course you can be president! If fact if you'd like to replace the guy now, id support you.
The French college/uni system has approximately 0 thing to do with the American one but here's my French ass watching anyway because I love Ashley's videos
Pareil :')
mais tellement
So the French ... aren’t screaming?
Lillian Leeman I appreciate that reference
Lillian Leeman 😂😂 for once we aren’t but don’t worry, one of our pastries’ names is gonna get destroyed soon *cough*croissant*cough* sooo
lmaoo yall meeting guys in college?? I've mastered the art of invisibility
Facts although this might be my last year so I'm tryna shed off my invisibility cloak and go out with a bang🏌🏾♀️
@Ace Anime 😂😂 I just gotta decide if I wanna save money and graduate this year or take an extra part time semester to re-do some courses
I went out with one guy in my first year... he was so boring, that I mastered the art of invisibility because of that
“I don’t know how people in college live without a planner” well you see it’s a little thing called procrastination, depression, and forgetting to write anything down 🥴
You look like the actress who plays Riley from Girl meets world is going to look like you when she's a bit older.
I think I'm having a seizure.
She sounds like her too
Omg this makes so much sense
actually Rowan Blanchard is like 18 now, Ashley is like 22, they are pretty much close in age
Yes! I’ve commented this before.
Trust me she looks quite different now...
I don't even know why I'm watching this..... I mean I live in completely different country where things don't work like that xD
Same 😂
Same
I mean the part about friends and hustle culture and other things work the same way everywhere so it's still great advice.
me
Same hahaha
The US college system is so weird like,, class shopping?? schooling tuition?? wha at?
thank you😂
@@kirstyhill9019 it basically means she graduated with really high grades for about every subject
@thylatrash yeah that's exactly what i've been telling myself during the whole video
thylatrash THANK YOU my uk and russian education mind is so confused
@@kirstyhill9019 🤣
"Letting go of other possibilities in order to make other possibilities real" - I agree with this 200%!! I've been in that situation a few years ago (did everything possible to get into medicine but got reject from everywhere I applied to and later on actually realised that I love research and lab science as I did some lab placements in my biomed undergrad). It took me some time to acknowledge that I really should let go of medicine and stick with science. As soon as I did that, I was offered a place on a research Masters course (the only one I applied to!), got my first-choice research project, and got a PhD of my dreams (not even exaggerating!). So many opportunities suddenly opened up! So thank you for highlighting that "letting go" bit Ashley! (Sorry if I spelt your name wrong) It really is so important to understand that letting go can open up new and even better doors 👍🏻👍🏻 xx
this feels similar to my situation of "letting-go" I was in an intense med program for OTA (occupational therapy assistant). I failed fieldwork. I am actually okay with it because i realized i did not understand what it took to become a OTA. plus i saved money doing this at a 2 yr institution then doing it at a 4 yr institution. now i have my associates in science and currently getting my bachelors in psych.
If your grades are less important in certain fields, it's wise to take the time to make some friends/connections and do some networking if you plan on looking for a job. Take time out of your schedule to go to networking events.
Heard u and david broke up. Wishing the best for the both of you. Hope you guys ended in good terms.
How do you know this? They seemed to be doing so good
@@jahlyssablackwin8827 instagram story!
Jahlyssa Blackwin Ashley clarified it on her story
i cant seem to find it on her ig story 😭
@@lieny it already hit over 24 hours but she did confirm it already ):
i learned more about college from ashley than from my hs counselors
Andrea Hernandez this is all too real
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I literally have the same problem. I just can't seem to let go and make a proper choice. It just frightens me soo much that if i choose then I would never be able to return to my other dreams in the same way. And that actually takes your time and you end up losing all opportunities u had.
romanticizing your own life is so important and I'm so happy to hear Ashley talk about it. Treating your life like a novel/movie just makes everything feel so much more fun and less serious. That mindset is honestly what got me through the worst time in my life. Treating my pain like a plot point in my story made it feel so much less awful. 10/10 would recommend.
When she said "I'm proud of you" I really felt that :')
Librodynamics Yes Ashley please break the fourth wall more lol I feel less lonely now 💕
Mere
"Romanticise your life." God, did I need to hear that. Trust Ashley to give you some really meaningful advice.
This just made me want to work harder towards my dreams and look at all my failures (and successes) as if it were those of my favourite heroines and protagonists.
i have been pondering this thought so much lately ! we gotta try n live life like the version of our movie we'd wanna see ahaha
I have informatics in school and I was always horrible at it but then I started watching James Bond and Quartermaster, Q, is a tech genius and I really like his character. Also, it’s MI6 and spies are cool. So this year I’m literally crushing it cause I’m not thinking “I don’t fucking need this wtf” I’m thinking “if I ever want to spy for the British empire I’ll need this so I can crush all my enemies” AND IT WORKS
The part about letting go of possibilities really hit home. Thanks for talking about it before I make any mistakes!
literally every single video of Ashley’s makes me tear up at one point
Ashley: your gpa doesn’t matter; they don’t even ask for it on your resume
Me: gets hopeful and happy for a hot min
Ashley: -unless you’re a stem major
Me: 🗿 nvm
that emoji is everything.
literally me
Anyone else want a Conan and Ashley collab now
im pretty sure conan is busy with his music career but that would be so cool!!
ash and cone cooking show... but he substitutes ash for ashley for one episode and pretends nothing is different
Fiona S holy sH*T YOU’RE A GENIUS
I want this soooo bad, but they're both really busy people. 😭😭
yes !! they both went/are going to ucla
"Romanticize your own life." THAT'S a phrase that I've tried to grasp, or take to heart! Very thoughtful, deep and original.
this is some of the most genuine and helpful college advice I've ever heard thank you so much
Loved the "romanticize your own life" bit
Is it crazy I want to save this video for my now 2 yr old daughter for when SHE goes to college?! That's how much I respect your advice and experiences, Ashley. 😌
I love the one about romanticising you own life. wow just let yourself be the main character of the coming of age movie. I love it. probably one of the best pieces of advice ive gotten. she's the older sister we all need
the things you say and the way you say them are so important for those who watch you. you are so great for understanding how people are influenced by media and worrying about that.
Hold up. Loading up on classes and you're paying the SAME amount of tuition?? In Australia, each class has a SET amount you pay REGARDLESS of when you take it! Mind blown.
Might be different but yeah you pay for per credit for part time up to 12 then from 12 to 19/20 it's considered full time so the price is the same. If you go beyond full time (over 20 credits) you'll pay for those extra credits
I mean I go to university in Germany and pay nothing no matter what I do so 😂😅
I live in Australia too and I was mind b l o w n
Sincerely Yours exactly lmao rip to my broke ass paying 2.5k per class
Same in South Africa
i watched this as a freshman in highschool.. now im graduating and coming back to this. thank you so much ashley
Ashley I love you! I'm going into college as a freshman this year and it's terrifying but you're honestly like an older sister that's giving us life advice. I find your "deeper" videos fascinating and the way you word everything is... wow!
Tbh so many beauty/fashion TH-camrs underestimate the power of education.
I love Ashley for appreciating education
I have to agree with the whole "hustle culture" thing. I go to a private high school and it always seems like kids compete on their bedtime (when half the time the reason they stayed up wasn't because of actual work). Agh
ashley is so incredibly wise and has inspired me so much, just listening to her own experiences and learning more about her is always great. :) ✨
im watching this as i am going through things while preparing for college, i dont know why, but i cried after your closing. thank you for always putting your effort in helping us and being honest when sharing your experiences, ashley!
AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO THINKS SHES GETTING MORE BEAUTIFUL LIKE GIRL YOU ARE SO DAMN FINE SO GLOWING SUCH A SNACC. NO HOMO