I was a fast food employee for more than two years, and I've been given a management position. Right now I'm in training; trying to figure out how to build leadership. I certainly learned a couple of things in this video, I look forward to doing the best.
== Video Summary == 1. Go for the small yes. Asking for a small request first, leads to a "yes" on a bigger request later. 2. Embrace the Pygmalion Effect. Don't offer a bonus, instead offer praise. When people receive a positive label, they "live" up to that label. 3. Logic or Emotion? Logic (proof, statistics, reason), Intuition (what makes sense in the gut), Emotional (metaphors, imagery, story). People prefer intuition and emotional vs logic, but make sure to have a blend. 4. Choose the right seat at the table. Pick a seat where you can see everybody else (ie. the header of the table) 5. Empty Calorie Time. Don't waste energy on "junk" activities. Take a REAL break (not TV, or Facebook) - prefer alternatives like yoga, meditation, etc. 6. Ask behavioral questions. Similar to an interview, you want to reveal their personality, motivations, and values. Example: "What's something that you use to believe that you no longer believe?" 7. Be scared, a little. Those who set high goals are more satisfied than their counterparts that have lower expectation. 8. Abandon revenge. Globalizing vs Localizing (how important is this, really?). Write it down. 9. Embody the body language of leaders. Leaders smile and move less. Go in for a strong handshake first, and also finish with one. 10. Invest in social skills. Basically, watch this video and ones like it!!!
when i'm at work i dont like getting attractions. i just got the job done, and i make sure my manger wont call me about problems at work when i got home. and because of that i got promoted as a team leader. my main problem is im bad at communication, im not use into talking or commanding or leading anyone but a part of me accepted this challenge. after a few months i am still struggling. so i decided to find videos about leadership and i find this. then i got this idea about praising my team for their improvements last week through group chat. in the morning i was so anxious that they will laugh of what i have said or it might not be a good idea. when the first person i praise approach me he was all smile and it's like he was in a good mood to work, then following person arrived with the same energy and it's like they are trying to impress me. that day it was fun and smooth. it build my confidence and also my team. thanks for this tips. it help a lot
Reinforcing positive behaviors through praise has always worked well in my experience. Helping staff understand vital behaviors to success and ensuring everyone feels valued are equally important to leadership. Excellent video! Thanks!
It's great to hear that this approach has worked well for you and that you understand the importance of helping staff understand vital behaviors to success and ensuring that everyone feels valued. These are all key components of effective leadership. I agree that reinforcing positive behaviors through praise is an important strategy for promoting teamwork, collaboration, and engagement. By recognizing and rewarding the efforts and achievements of our team members, we can create a positive and supportive work environment that fosters excellence and encourages continued growth and development. I am glad to hear that you found the video helpful and that you are committed to building a strong and effective leadership style. Thank you for your kind words and for the opportunity to share my insights on leadership. I hope that my guidance can continue to be of value to you as you continue to grow and develop as a leader. -Adrian
To be a better leader I think leadership by example is among the best approach so far. One must be consistent, polite, and sometimes be humorous to reduce boredom.
I get your point regarding smiling at alphas. But disagree largely. I smile because am happy. I find it attracts good people to do what I need them to. I have several men that work with me, I am not their supervisor and rank as equal, in the company. However I am the most experienced in my field and command a great deal of respect among them, my supervisors and the rest of management in that company. They all ask me what, when and how. And my smile never dips, never has and probably never will. That said, I appreciate this video, and your presentation is top notch! Thanks!
It is interesting how so many qualities of leadership run into conflict with need. Many managers get so focused on trying to "motivate" their staff they end up missing what would have them demoralized in the first place. A poor environment, personal stress, a lack of direction. A manager can take huge steps to being more "motivational" just by being more empathetic.
Real story quick, Myself and one of my colleague interviewed a person through video call. I asked a similar behaviour question, How did you tackle a particular situation and how did you respond to a client appreciation... And immediately his tone of voice changed and the pace of interview was lost. Suddenly he seemed lost on the first question... Then we also let it go and carried on. Once the call was over, we replayed the recording. We watched it many times and understood that someone was helping him from behind the screen. Carefully looking, his eyes were looking a little bit away from camera or the screen. So the concept of the question you have mentioned here was the lifesaver. But we didn’t watch this video back then and now only got the behavioural science behind it. Such behaviour questions are really useful in current times where people are always meeting online. Thanks for the explanation and best wishes.
I frequently say this to my subscribers: "When you are walking and working in a rhythmic leadership mode, you have clearer thinking and a sharpened mindset that ignites your purpose, passion, and priorities."
Vanessa Van Edwards was a God to my younger autistic self that so badly wanted to understand other people. Your doing amazing work. I don't think I would have made it this far without your knowledge sharing. Thank you!
I recently read Angela Duckworth’s book Grit and she mentions, based on Carol Dweck’s research on a growth mindset, that we should praise effort as opposed to talent. Instead of calling someone smart or intelligent we should focus more on what they do to increase their intelligence. Also in Daniel Goleman’s book Focus he states that people who have a proclivity towards daydreaming may benefit from a wandering mind or less focused mind to help access their creativity or creative thoughts or thought process. Just thought I would share what I have recently discovered in my research and I am looking to you for most of my people skill guidance for I am a current awkward person. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and expertise with those of us still trying to find our way out of the darkness.
Absolutely Vanessa! Well said, leadership is the most important and important aspect. its something that can be learned and i always wonder the saying born leader is so overrated, there are skill sets that you can acquire.
So how do you explain ppl who had same leadership training and one sucks at it and the other is just a natural leader. A lot is how you are as a person. Training can only do so much
10:40 Abandon Revenge>>>>> sometimes when there's someone at work keep exasurating your delay at your work and keep fight with you and complain just to cover their failure, then we have to revenge at lease once so they know "don't play with me" side
I agree with everything you said except when it comes to "smiling"! Smile is not a sign of submission; it's a a sign of self-satisfaction which is part of self-esteem.
Thank you for your time Vanessa. It has help me a lot your video. God bless you so much. A leader without God is for sure a tiger in this World But a Leader with God is a lions and eagles. Lion takes a territory and eagles are visionaries. We learn this in a Christian World. Just watch a Pastor preach and how he gets millions to follow them..
Such an inspiring video! Love the passion and information behind this! As a leader, inspiring others is the most important skill to have! Leaders are there to help their employees, or anyone, feel empowered enough to discover their purpose. Leaders are all about creating followers and connecting with them! Great content :)
Hello, Even tough you consider yourserf as a leader It worth to learn more, after all a true leader nerver stopping to discovery new skills. Brasil - SP
Very powerful message on leadership. I’m currently a regional president and sometimes it’s hard for me to get all my subordinates programs and all they could do is to criticize you. In the case of this how do you go about it please?
Revenge is like throwing a hot stone at someone else. We burn our own hands. - Get perspective: globalizing vs. localizing - Educate yourself Alpha Individual with the highest social rank. How to heighten your magnetism? - Smile less: submissive people smile more: watch role models - Embrace stillness: are observers and inspire others to move around them First impression - Go in and give a handshake first and also seal the deal in the first interaction Leaders must be best communication. Leaders spend 75-80% communicating.
the sound quality of this video is so yummy! Vanessa please consider giving your usual studio some sound treatment, it makes the content that much enjoyable and professional
Hi Vanessa Van Edw - Your TH-cam Video on "The Essential Leadership Skills To Be A Better Leader" is phenomenally Insightful and Your presentation is effective . Thank you & Well Appreciated
Thank you, now i learned that leader smile in moderation, because too much smiling aint good for it may mean that you are tend to be submissive, leader knows where to sit, leader invest in communication.
I agree for the most part except for the part about smiling. As a manager, I think it’s very crucial to convey to your staff that you’re fully there to support and guide them. I may be wrong but it seems as if you’re suggesting to smile less often? Trust me, when you have a team of burnt out and overworked ppl due to corporate higher ups not authorizing to hire more staff (because they are greedy and trying to pinch pennies ), you smiling less comes off as cold, closed off, and discourages transparency. Your staff will not come to you with any concerns or ideas for improvement as they will get the vibe that you’re not approachable. I am not saying you need to “fake smile” every second, but smiling does foster trust and openness which is what you as a manager want if you are to keep your team cohesive and motivated.
Excellent and inspiring presentation mam. I have received much information about essential leadership skills- knowledge, understanding, learning, communication, body language, ask questions behaviorally, prospective characters etc. Thank you
I agree that leadership is a very important skill. One thing that is a turnoff to.me is what I would call corporate sneakiness. That's what I hear when an interviewer is told to ask special, canned questions that supposedly reveal an applicant's psychology or personality. Why not try this: have an honest, open, sincere (unconniving) conversation with a prospective employee, and taking a look at their job history and application? Why do executive staff think they need to 'uncover' the true motivations of someone? In short: enuff with corporate BS. As to zero calorie time, you left out why many useless meetings happen: corporate structure, policies, expected behavior dictate that a meeting must happen. If you don't do it you are in serious trouble. Whether anyone got any benefit from attending the meeting becomes irrelevant. Yes, I do know corporate.
this is damn valuable. I personally use few things discussed here and now understand why our bosses use some of these methods on us too. thanks Vanessa. Always love your videos. they are always valuable.
Learn more about being an effective leader in the full article: www.scienceofpeople.com/leadership-training/
I was a fast food employee for more than two years, and I've been given a management position. Right now I'm in training; trying to figure out how to build leadership. I certainly learned a couple of things in this video, I look forward to doing the best.
Same here dude! 👍🎉
There are a variety of leadership styles. I sure you'll find which works best for you and your environment!
Do u think the fast food job helped you with your social skills?
@@thatnerd8988it does depending on the position
Are you still in leadership?
== Video Summary ==
1. Go for the small yes.
Asking for a small request first, leads to a "yes" on a bigger request later.
2. Embrace the Pygmalion Effect.
Don't offer a bonus, instead offer praise. When people receive a positive label, they "live" up to that label.
3. Logic or Emotion?
Logic (proof, statistics, reason), Intuition (what makes sense in the gut), Emotional (metaphors, imagery, story). People prefer intuition and emotional vs logic, but make sure to have a blend.
4. Choose the right seat at the table.
Pick a seat where you can see everybody else (ie. the header of the table)
5. Empty Calorie Time.
Don't waste energy on "junk" activities. Take a REAL break (not TV, or Facebook) - prefer alternatives like yoga, meditation, etc.
6. Ask behavioral questions.
Similar to an interview, you want to reveal their personality, motivations, and values. Example: "What's something that you use to believe that you no longer believe?"
7. Be scared, a little.
Those who set high goals are more satisfied than their counterparts that have lower expectation.
8. Abandon revenge.
Globalizing vs Localizing (how important is this, really?). Write it down.
9. Embody the body language of leaders.
Leaders smile and move less. Go in for a strong handshake first, and also finish with one.
10. Invest in social skills.
Basically, watch this video and ones like it!!!
Thanks this helps a lot 💯
when i'm at work i dont like getting attractions. i just got the job done, and i make sure my manger wont call me about problems at work when i got home. and because of that i got promoted as a team leader. my main problem is im bad at communication, im not use into talking or commanding or leading anyone but a part of me accepted this challenge. after a few months i am still struggling. so i decided to find videos about leadership and i find this. then i got this idea about praising my team for their improvements last week through group chat. in the morning i was so anxious that they will laugh of what i have said or it might not be a good idea. when the first person i praise approach me he was all smile and it's like he was in a good mood to work, then following person arrived with the same energy and it's like they are trying to impress me. that day it was fun and smooth. it build my confidence and also my team. thanks for this tips. it help a lot
That's great 👍
Reinforcing positive behaviors through praise has always worked well in my experience. Helping staff understand vital behaviors to success and ensuring everyone feels valued are equally important to leadership. Excellent video! Thanks!
It's great to hear that this approach has worked well for you and that you understand the importance of helping staff understand vital behaviors to success and ensuring that everyone feels valued. These are all key components of effective leadership.
I agree that reinforcing positive behaviors through praise is an important strategy for promoting teamwork, collaboration, and engagement. By recognizing and rewarding the efforts and achievements of our team members, we can create a positive and supportive work environment that fosters excellence and encourages continued growth and development.
I am glad to hear that you found the video helpful and that you are committed to building a strong and effective leadership style. Thank you for your kind words and for the opportunity to share my insights on leadership. I hope that my guidance can continue to be of value to you as you continue to grow and develop as a leader.
-Adrian
All people can be benefited with this!
Great blessing!♡
I love Vanessa..
To be a better leader I think leadership by example is among the best approach so far. One must be consistent, polite, and sometimes be humorous to reduce boredom.
Agreed, but you can still hold those characteristics with various styles of leadership! :)
I get your point regarding smiling at alphas. But disagree largely. I smile because am happy. I find it attracts good people to do what I need them to.
I have several men that work with me, I am not their supervisor and rank as equal, in the company. However I am the most experienced in my field and command a great deal of respect among them, my supervisors and the rest of management in that company. They all ask me what, when and how. And my smile never dips, never has and probably never will.
That said, I appreciate this video, and your presentation is top notch! Thanks!
Thank you so much. I was listening to what she was saying but lost me at "leaders smile less". I don't want to smile less. 😊
It is interesting how so many qualities of leadership run into conflict with need. Many managers get so focused on trying to "motivate" their staff they end up missing what would have them demoralized in the first place. A poor environment, personal stress, a lack of direction. A manager can take huge steps to being more "motivational" just by being more empathetic.
Real story quick, Myself and one of my colleague interviewed a person through video call. I asked a similar behaviour question, How did you tackle a particular situation and how did you respond to a client appreciation... And immediately his tone of voice changed and the pace of interview was lost. Suddenly he seemed lost on the first question... Then we also let it go and carried on. Once the call was over, we replayed the recording. We watched it many times and understood that someone was helping him from behind the screen. Carefully looking, his eyes were looking a little bit away from camera or the screen. So the concept of the question you have mentioned here was the lifesaver. But we didn’t watch this video back then and now only got the behavioural science behind it. Such behaviour questions are really useful in current times where people are always meeting online.
Thanks for the explanation and best wishes.
I frequently say this to my subscribers: "When you are walking and working in a rhythmic leadership mode, you have clearer thinking and a sharpened mindset that ignites your purpose, passion, and priorities."
good rhythmic
it is good to be a leader every body
Vanessa Van Edwards was a God to my younger autistic self that so badly wanted to understand other people. Your doing amazing work. I don't think I would have made it this far without your knowledge sharing. Thank you!
Thank you so much for being here and I'm happy to hear that my content is helping you ❤
To your success!
Me too
I recently read Angela Duckworth’s book Grit and she mentions, based on Carol Dweck’s research on a growth mindset, that we should praise effort as opposed to talent. Instead of calling someone smart or intelligent we should focus more on what they do to increase their intelligence. Also in Daniel Goleman’s book Focus he states that people who have a proclivity towards daydreaming may benefit from a wandering mind or less focused mind to help access their creativity or creative thoughts or thought process. Just thought I would share what I have recently discovered in my research and I am looking to you for most of my people skill guidance for I am a current awkward person. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and expertise with those of us still trying to find our way out of the darkness.
Very interesting - thank you so much for sharing this! Honored I get to help ❤
Thank you Vanessa you are such a captivating communicator and teacher, you know how to drive down your message to the head.
Excellent video
Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for watching!
Absolutely Vanessa! Well said, leadership is the most important and important aspect. its something that can be learned and i always wonder the saying born leader is so overrated, there are skill sets that you can acquire.
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So how do you explain ppl who had same leadership training and one sucks at it and the other is just a natural leader. A lot is how you are as a person. Training can only do so much
This video is my favourite because you gave every technical info one needs 😘, extremely positive is your approach on human behaviour.
These videos give me motivation to be better at work. Liability is what makes me reluctant to be a leader.
Samedt.
LOL, you must work in health care.
Thank you Vanessa. This is profound, as Leaders we need to master for the best.
That was your best video yet!!!! Thank you the tips!!!
Yes I agree
Agree! This is an inspiring video for people who seek development in their leadership position!
Right
10:40 Abandon Revenge>>>>> sometimes when there's someone at work keep exasurating your delay at your work and keep fight with you and complain just to cover their failure, then we have to revenge at lease once so they know "don't play with me" side
Such a powerful presentation.
Very excellent presentation and information on leadership skills.. thank-you.
7.11 each seat has a different meaning! Could you please elaborate on which one means what and best suited at what occasion? Thanks
The leader must have the ability to impress his team ❤😊
Inspiring session on essential leadership skills. Thank you madam
Very good video. Nicely presented, and proffesionally.
I agree with everything you said except when it comes to "smiling"! Smile is not a sign of submission; it's a a sign of self-satisfaction which is part of self-esteem.
Interesting. Situational and Transformational leadership attributes are amongst the most useful in a changing or evolving workplace.
Thank you for your time Vanessa. It has help me a lot your video. God bless you so much. A leader without God is for sure a tiger in this World But a Leader with God is a lions and eagles. Lion takes a territory and eagles are visionaries. We learn this in a Christian World. Just watch a Pastor preach and how he gets millions to follow them..
Thanks for your help. This lessons for soft skills😊. I love it 💞
Excellent presentation onessential leadership skill to be a better leader Thank you mam for the presentation
All the prerequisites of a good leader presented in this video, thank you
Inspiring session on essential leadership skills. Thank you ma'am
Love Vanessa, Making the world a better place.
Such an inspiring video! Love the passion and information behind this! As a leader, inspiring others is the most important skill to have! Leaders are there to help their employees, or anyone, feel empowered enough to discover their purpose. Leaders are all about creating followers and connecting with them! Great content :)
thanks a lot for sharing, Brian! always inspiring
It's hard when you start a job under an apathetic leader. ☹
Nice guidance on the Essential leadership skills to be a better leader
Very good video.
Hello,
Even tough you consider yourserf as a leader It worth to learn more, after all a true leader nerver stopping to discovery new skills.
Brasil - SP
Very powerful message on leadership. I’m currently a regional president and sometimes it’s hard for me to get all my subordinates programs and all they could do is to criticize you. In the case of this how do you go about it please?
Revenge is like throwing a hot stone at someone else. We burn our own hands.
- Get perspective: globalizing vs. localizing
- Educate yourself
Alpha
Individual with the highest social rank.
How to heighten your magnetism?
- Smile less: submissive people smile more: watch role models
- Embrace stillness: are observers and inspire others to move around them
First impression
- Go in and give a handshake first and also seal the deal in the first interaction
Leaders must be best communication.
Leaders spend 75-80% communicating.
Good morning dose for a leader out there. Nice one Vanessa.
The Leader must have the ability to inspire his team ❤😊
Wish I could like this video ten times
all your videos are awesome thansk
I'm so glad you like them! Thanks for watching ❤
Very Insightful .Thanks for this great learning video.
This video is knowledgefull
Thank you
This is very good tips
So glad you think so!
so good.. Thanks
Invaluable! Thanks!
Thank you for enlightening on Leadership skills to be a good leader
the sound quality of this video is so yummy! Vanessa please consider giving your usual studio some sound treatment, it makes the content that much enjoyable and professional
This is excellent, particularly skill 5- expressed in a very novel and memorable way! ☺️👏👏
Yay so glad you enjoyed! :)
Hi Vanessa Van Edw - Your TH-cam Video on "The Essential Leadership Skills To Be A Better Leader" is phenomenally Insightful and Your presentation is effective .
Thank you & Well Appreciated
Thank you Vanessa.. Excellent
Points and engaging...
I believe we must first self lead .
Very inspiring video
informative video on the essential leadership skills to be a better leader.....
This lady is awesome. someone suggest me about this channel 1 year back but i am checking it now.
I loved your golden and beautiful voice + accent.
Very useful... Nice presentation mam
Real good information to up my already great leadership skills......😂
Well said
❤
Beautiful explanation. Useful tips to Be a good leader.
Useful session thanks madam
Awesome
Thank you, now i learned that leader smile in moderation, because too much smiling aint good for it may mean that you are tend to be submissive, leader knows where to sit, leader invest in communication.
I like the tone of the speaker
This is amazing. I need to take the People School, once I have less on my plate.
good. Thanks
Thank you for helping me improve my life lady!!!
Madam,
It is useful for the progress of every one.
Very nice and useful information mam thanks
I agree for the most part except for the part about smiling. As a manager, I think it’s very crucial to convey to your staff that you’re fully there to support and guide them.
I may be wrong but it seems as if you’re suggesting to smile less often? Trust me, when you have a team of burnt out and overworked ppl due to corporate higher ups not authorizing to hire more staff (because they are greedy and trying to pinch pennies ), you smiling less comes off as cold, closed off, and discourages transparency. Your staff will not come to you with any concerns or ideas for improvement as they will get the vibe that you’re not approachable. I am not saying you need to “fake smile” every second, but smiling does foster trust and openness which is what you as a manager want if you are to keep your team cohesive and motivated.
Instant favorite. Great video Vanessa, thank you.
I learned something ❤
I like enjoying these kind of videos
The session elaborates the 10 essential skills for leadership and it is interesting
Excellent and inspiring presentation mam. I have received much information about essential leadership skills- knowledge, understanding, learning, communication, body language, ask questions behaviorally, prospective characters etc.
Thank you
So informative!
Informative and useful video, Thank you mam
Thank you for sharing the information
I love this woman
Thanks, I love your videos, very helpful
I'm so glad that you like them!
I am Really Inspired by the lecture.
wow this was so informative ! thank you
Thank u very much madam
Inspiring session Vanessa ... thank you
Amazing video
Thank you i needed this vedio i hate being a leader i feel like im being bossy
Oh so good!! #2 is definitely effective for ppl whose love language is Words of Affirmation
Seems you have read '5 Love Languages' :-)
Thank you mem for your Nice Video.
I agree that leadership is a very important skill. One thing that is a turnoff to.me is what I would call corporate sneakiness. That's what I hear when an interviewer is told to ask special, canned questions that supposedly reveal an applicant's psychology or personality. Why not try this: have an honest, open, sincere (unconniving) conversation with a prospective employee, and taking a look at their job history and application? Why do executive staff think they need to 'uncover' the true motivations of someone? In short: enuff with corporate BS. As to zero calorie time, you left out why many useless meetings happen: corporate structure, policies, expected behavior dictate that a meeting must happen. If you don't do it you are in serious trouble. Whether anyone got any benefit from attending the meeting becomes irrelevant. Yes, I do know corporate.
I can appreciate your post. You hit several nails on the head. This video actually is a turnoff to me.
I wrote them all down , thanks so much for sharing
Brilliant
thanks a lot Vanessa!
Very helpful! Thanks for sharing with us! Your voice sounds very similar with the voice of Alux TH-cam channel: Amazing!🤗🥰
Good one
Love everything that you do
this is damn valuable. I personally use few things discussed here and now understand why our bosses use some of these methods on us too. thanks Vanessa. Always love your videos. they are always valuable.