Asexual Spectrum Identities (Ace-Spec) | Under The Queer Umbrella - #3

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  • Check out the written blog entry version of this video here - 66jaijay99.wordpress.com/2021...
    The information for the identities within this video came from the LGBTA Wiki - lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/LGBTA_Wiki
    Here are the links to the individual identities discussed
    Allosexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Allosexual
    Asexual Spectrum: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Asexual_...
    Asexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Asexual
    Aceflux: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Aceflux
    Acevoid: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Acevoid
    Greysexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Greysexual
    Demisexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Demisexual
    Aegosexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Aegosexual
    Apothisexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Apothise...
    Caedsexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Caedsexual
    Cupiosexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Cupiosexual
    Iamvanosexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Iamvanos...
    Myresexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Myrsexual
    Placiosexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Placiose...
    Requisexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Requisexual
    Rosesexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Rosesexual
    Aremsexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Aremsexual
    Axiosexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Axiosexual
    Omniasexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Omniasexual
    Acespike: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Acespike
    Chromasexual: lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Chromase...
    This is the third entry in a series discussing Identities under the Queer Umbrella. This entry discusses Sex, Aphobia, and Emotional Trauma so please continue at your own discretion.
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  • @Mx_Jayjay
    @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    In this video I use the term A-Spec which actually refers to Asexual, Aromantic, and other forms of attraction that fall under the A-spec such as Asensual. To clear up any confusion Ace-Spec is the term solely used to refer to the Asexual Spectrum. I’ve amended the thumbnail and title to hopefully make things clearer thank you for your feedback.

    • @blackgeisha2361
      @blackgeisha2361 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I thank you for creating this video. I wonder if you will do one including fictosexual(It's a type of asexual /aegosexual identity)

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Absolutely Fictosexual is on our list

  • @toadstoolsiscool6060
    @toadstoolsiscool6060 3 ปีที่แล้ว +300

    Yeah sex is cool but have you tried discovering that the way you feel is an identity and you aren’t alone?
    For real this is great! Thanks for making this, I didn’t expect to learn so much about myself :)

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I’m glad you were able to learn something about yourself and that I was able to contribute to that discovery. Learning about yourself is always awesome.

    • @greenscreengamer8008
      @greenscreengamer8008 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Or garlic bread. Garlic bread is also good.

    • @toadstoolsiscool6060
      @toadstoolsiscool6060 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@greenscreengamer8008 very topical for a video about the ace spectrum tbh

  • @picturesqueobject3035
    @picturesqueobject3035 2 ปีที่แล้ว +107

    2:29 Allosexual
    2:59 Asexual
    4:18 Aceflux
    4:44 Acevoid
    5:09 Greysexual/Graysexual
    5:53 Demisexual
    6:44 Aegosexual
    7:38 Apothisexual (Me!)
    8:12 Caedsexual
    8:36 Cupiosexual
    8:59 Iamvanosexual
    9:46 Myresexual
    10:05 Placiosexual
    10:24 Requisexual
    11:17 Rosesexual
    11:59 Aremsexual
    12:17 Axiosexual
    12:40 Omniasexual
    13:00 Acespike
    13:32 Chromasexual

    • @picturesqueobject3035
      @picturesqueobject3035 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @rachel ad No problem!

    • @addictivedarling
      @addictivedarling 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      WOW-I'm apothisexual too! But I'm apothi aro ace I think I might be aceflux or grayaceflux

    • @picturesqueobject3035
      @picturesqueobject3035 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@addictivedarling take as much time as youd like! Nobody's rushing you to figure out who you are :)

    • @addictivedarling
      @addictivedarling 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@picturesqueobject3035 tysm it means a lot to me ^-^

    • @maurovega6141
      @maurovega6141 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm aremsexaul thank you for the help

  • @TheOneandOnlyMagicAce
    @TheOneandOnlyMagicAce 3 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    Hello (once again), fellow asexual. Good luck on finding a specific label that suits you!
    There are definitely a wide variety to sift through, so never feel afraid to change them until the best one appears.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      For me the process seems to involve just adding more and more labels on top of each other rather than swapping them out 😅

    • @superbadsam23
      @superbadsam23 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why are you guys in need to find a label..... Live life as you want to.

    • @TheOneandOnlyMagicAce
      @TheOneandOnlyMagicAce 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I know you were likely not expecting a reply to this comment a week after you made it; however, considering the subject matter of this video, I find it important to clarify a few details about labels (especially for those that enjoy scrolling through the comments section).
      First of all, I completely understand your viewpoint. This isn't a "how DARE u speak those words h8tr!!!!!!" statement. There are definitely individuals who might feel restricted by conforming to labels, and therefore choose to utilize none of them. This is completely acceptable! No one should be forced to use words that are unsuitable for their specific socio-emotional needs. As long as everyone and everything involved is respectful, consensual, and legal, it's all great.
      At the same time, however, there are others who feel a great sense of freedom from the ability to choose labels -- they can provide meaning and closure to a person that wants to determine who they are, without limiting themselves to any specific viewpoint. Whether they pick one, a small few, or several of them, this choice is also acceptable! Again, so long as everyone and everything involved is being respectful, consensual, and legal, their identities are very cool (indeed).
      "Living life as one wants" is different for certain people. That is the exact reason why labels are so flexible.
      Too Long, Didn't Read: "Labels can be restrictive for some, and thus should not be forced upon unwilling participants" and "Labels can provide great comfort to some, and they should be helpful for those who need them" are two statements that can and should coexist.

    • @superbadsam23
      @superbadsam23 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@TheOneandOnlyMagicAce I took the time to read your whole reply. I really have no hate for no one, I always had this thought in my head that labels were negative, but like you said people are different, and each one has the right to pursue thier own happiness in any way they want to as long is it doesn't interfere with anybody else happiness, health, and well-being.

  • @sarahw.5493
    @sarahw.5493 3 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    Can I just thank you for what your doing this was a great way for me to learn a little more about these identities! Keep up the great work and happy pride! 🏳️‍🌈

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Thank you, I really enjoy making them and have a long list of future episodes to come. They take time to make but it’s worth it. Happy Pride to you too 🏳️‍🌈

  • @Moonb0ii_
    @Moonb0ii_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    "Yeah, sex is great, but you ever have a pie?" - Ethan Nestor, 2019

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Pie > Sex every time

  • @phlox7669
    @phlox7669 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Holy crap, someone who mentions the aceflux identity! As someone who is aceflux, it always makes me really happy to see my sexuality talked about - it gets forgotten a lot or even dismissed as "just greysexual". So thank you so much for mentioning it, and so early on, too! :)

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You’re welcome of course

  • @GGFQ96
    @GGFQ96 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Thank you for this, I'm still confused as hell about myself (I know I'm in the ace-spec and the aro-spec but thats it, and I'm also pan if that makes sense) but it feels amazing to know I"m not alone.
    Also you voice it's so soothing and comforting!

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      It does make sense and thank you so much I’m glad you enjoy it

    • @superbadsam23
      @superbadsam23 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Its okay to be confused...trying to find the right name that best describes you is pointless, just because you cant find the right categorization to put yourself in, dont mean you cant live a happy life.. Just be you,

  • @melodypond640
    @melodypond640 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I’m Demi and trying to figure out if I’m Bi is difficult

  • @IsaJoey
    @IsaJoey 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Figured out I’m Demisexual a while ago! I’m happy I discovered my identity, my irl best friend even made a clay Demi flag for me!

  • @ecristalli9125
    @ecristalli9125 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Wow, I’m so glad I found this! Thank you so much for the insight, the video is great and very helpful as I’ve recently been struggling a bit with my own sexuality. Leaning about this all has helped me feel better about it and where I fall under the ace umbrella! (I’m pretty sure I’m aegosexual)

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I’m so glad I was able to contribute to that and I’m glad you found a term that you can relate to. I’m also Aegosexual so if you ever have any questions don’t be afraid to ask.

  • @dragonetafireball
    @dragonetafireball 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I identify as mundanely chaotic.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I would love to see that flag

  • @kiwigirl5416
    @kiwigirl5416 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thanks to your video I found out that I'm in a sub category on the ace spectrum! I already new I was ace but this has given me another more specific label. I'll probably still use the term asexual because it's easier to explain to people but I appreciate this video alot!

  • @buzznat20
    @buzznat20 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thanks so much! Since realizing I was queer I knew I identified with the a-spec, but I’ve been very confused on what I specifically wanted to identify as. I’ve bounced between grey-ace, demi, and aceflux for a while now, but now upon learning abou the rosesexual identity, I think I identify as rosesexual/aceflux. Once again thanks so much! 💜🤍🖤

  • @Ryker73
    @Ryker73 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I FIGURED MY FINAL SEXUALITY!!!
    AEGOSEXUAL, BIROMANTIC, GIRLFLUX!!! THIS IS IT, YASHHHH

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yesssss 🙌🏻

    • @Ryker73
      @Ryker73 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Mx_Jayjay TYSM FOR THE VIDDD

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You’re welcome ☺️

  • @ohmeohmicah
    @ohmeohmicah 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Ayyyy, for once I'm not actually alone!

  • @al3xander_xy
    @al3xander_xy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am very thankful for your video. I've been searching for a label that really fits me so long and because of your video, I found it! For years I thought I am the only one experiencing this, but now I know I am not

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m so glad we were able to help

  • @blaccoreo3110
    @blaccoreo3110 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    First off, your voice is so calming and nice :)
    Second, this is a GREAT video for informing people of ace-spec identities. This'll be great for helping people (like myself) figure out where they fall on this.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you so much for your comment I’m glad you enjoyed the video

  • @PastelCerulean
    @PastelCerulean 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Yo, I had no idea Myrsexuality existed! I knew that I related to both graysexuality and demisexuality at the same time, but didn't know how to put that into words. Thank you so much!

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Of course I’m glad you were able to find it

  • @letsbestars
    @letsbestars ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I clicked on rosesexual, and your description is exactly how I feel! Thank you so so much for this video, it was so helpful! Edit: Turns out I'm actually asexual, but this video was still super helpful!

  • @jadem5655
    @jadem5655 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I was just watching bc I knew that I fell somewhere in the Ace-spec category, but didn’t expect much bc Ive watched many videos on the topic and they never told me anything about it. Rosesexual. Thank you for the word to describe myself and thank you for this video!

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m so glad you found this video and that you found a term that fits you. As a fellow Rosesexual your comment really resonated with me personally. Of course you’re welcome and if you ever have any questions please don’t be afraid to ask I’m always happy to help in anyway I can.

  • @hadesogg7531
    @hadesogg7531 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Great Video, and this is the first one I have watched by you, and your voice is awesome. Have you ever tried learning Hypnotism? You have the voice for it.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I’m so glad you enjoyed it. Thank you so much I’m naturally soft spoken, most people can’t hear what I’m saying in person so it’s nice to have people finally appreciating my voice. I haven’t tried Hypnosis but I did consider learning ASMR. I’m glad you enjoyed the first video you watched from me and I hope you stick around for more ;)

  • @storiartest
    @storiartest ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for this video, as someone who is questioning her ace identity and wants to learn about as many new terms as possible
    As of now, I am questioning my ace identity
    I currently identify with apothiflux
    Apothiflux is basically feeling repulsed to sexual/romantic stuff sometimes and not other times
    When I'm not apothi, I'm aego because, no matter what, I cannot imagine myself in a sexual or romantic relationship
    I'm still questioning my identity, so thank you for this video

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’re very welcome I’m glad the video was able to help

  • @sushidashi6152
    @sushidashi6152 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for being so welcoming to caedsexuals. I appreciate it a lot :)

  • @yourbentspine
    @yourbentspine 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Ok, I think I finally figured out my identity, I am asexual, omniromantic, and agender (I use any pronouns)
    AHHHHH IM SO HAPPY!!!

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That’s amazing to hear

  • @BobOrKlaus
    @BobOrKlaus 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    there are some in here that i didnt even know existed (even deleted from the wiki the link goes to) and i actually feel like i can relate to one of them so thank you for that

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You’re very welcome, it’s heartbreaking knowing how much the wiki has Changed I’m glad my video acts as a kind of Time Capsule.

  • @QuesoCucuy
    @QuesoCucuy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thank you for this. i was not aware of A-Spec and i always had trouble idetifying what i was dealing with. what would best describe my situation would be Acespike.

  • @someonesomeone25
    @someonesomeone25 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Do fictossxual and objectum ssxual also fit under ace-spec? They seem to share many similar problems with the ace community, and I only ever seem to encounter fictos and OS in ace spaces.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yes and no it depends on the individual really. They share many similarities with Aces and if they feel they fit under the Ace-Spec then that’s where they fit. I plan on doing a video dedicated just to Fictosexual identities soon so hopefully I can explain it more in detail in that.

    • @someonesomeone25
      @someonesomeone25 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Mx_Jayjay Cool. Do you see objectum swxuality as entirely its own thing, or somewhat overlapping with ace and ficto? So.etimes them seem very similar to me, and sometimes quite different. And would you put something like onerio/somnio-swxuality as a subtype of ficto? And are people who prefer dolls and holograms and tech more like objectums or just a form of ssxually repulsed allo? So many complex variations, lol. I spent some time trying to.figure all this out for my own sake and never reached any conclusions.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@someonesomeone25 All identities are complicated and beautiful, there will always be an overlap in every Identity group and some identities are harder to place than others which is okay because not all identities need to fit under a specific group. Personally I see Objectum and Ficto as two similar but separate groups. It depends whether you consider fictional characters to be inanimate objects, if it was an attraction to a specific cardboard cutout of a character or a pillow with a character on it then yes I would say they are within the same group. But as a whole they are separate communities. As for being connected to Ace again that falls to the individual to decide they are technically not Allosexual if they don’t relate to being Allo and their experience is likely more connected to being Ace so yes it makes sense they’d be under the Ace-Spec but its always up to them in the end. I hope this helped.

    • @someonesomeone25
      @someonesomeone25 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Mx_Jayjay Yes,I think that is very good, thank you. I think personally I've come to the conclusion that sexualities and gender identities and all such labels don't really exist in any solid form. All there is are individuals who behave or feel a certain way at a specific time. Like Bob is currently in love with Tim and feels happy when wearing a dress, but last year they were in love with Jane and was happy wearing jeans, and next year they be in love with a cushion and a doll and be happy wearing a fox costume. And they always just Bob being who they are and doing what they want. Their identity is Bob, their ssxuality is Bob.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@someonesomeone25 I agree and good for Bob I’m glad they are happy

  • @samdal420
    @samdal420 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for making this!

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Of course you’re welcome

  • @myneckhurts_tt
    @myneckhurts_tt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    i was thinking of creating an ace identity for myself. so i usually feel sexual attraction, but i'll go through 4 or 5 day occasional periods where i feel no sexual attraction at all. its basically the opposite of ace spike. i think i'd call it ace dip

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thats awesome Im sure there are many who experience a similar thing, creating a term will not only help you but so many others.

    • @giselamarroquin2705
      @giselamarroquin2705 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I know I’m like super late but this relates to me a lot, and I’m just now learning about ace identities. Some people have also told me that I could be rosesexual or ace flux but you were able to put into words what I’ve been feeling. So thank you

  • @KaziiTheAvali_inactive
    @KaziiTheAvali_inactive 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    We need to get ya to more subs its good

  • @sarasmedberg8203
    @sarasmedberg8203 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    i havent watched the full video yet but i just want to note that the word "aspec" in general covers the WHOLE spectrum of a-labels, which also means aro-spec stuff. this video seems to be more about ace-spec labels. as an aroace myself i tend to just say that im aspec or use the word aspec for the community as a whole! ;) i dunno if people use it differently in other communities/places but thats how ive come to get used to it in online spaces at least.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You’re completely correct it does cover the entire Ace and Aro communities. I chose this version because it’s the version I use for myself and honestly didn’t think much about it but I did touch upon calling it Ace-Spec in the video I believe.

    • @sarasmedberg8203
      @sarasmedberg8203 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Mx_Jayjay You did, although not as often as a-spec on its own which made it feel like a-spec mainly referred to ace identities. It just feels like it could have warranted a small mention that the word also covers aro identities since the word is used by the community as a whole (not just coined by aces) but that you've chosen to say a-spec for personal reasons. The aro video uses the word aro-spec rather than a-spec as well, which you probably did to stop any confusion to be had and that's fine, but since this is supposed to be an educational video for people outside of the a-spec community as well, it might be confusing for them if aro/aroace people suddenly use the word a-spec to describe themselves as they might think it stands for the ace-spec community only! I hope that cleared up my concern with the usage of the word a-spec for the video rather than ace-spec. I just don't want people to think that a-spec doesn't cover both or that aro-spec is just another identity that's lumped in with asexual, since it is its own thing. There's no harm done and a-spec is a lovely way to bring us all together rather than apart and I wish to keep it that way :') It was a lovely video over all and I ended up learning a few things I didnt know before. Good luck on your journey of self-discovery!

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sarasmedberg8203 thank you for your feedback I’ve amended the thumbnail and title of both the video and blog versions.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sarasmedberg8203 I’ve also pinned a comment to hopefully help aid in any confusion caused.

    • @sarasmedberg8203
      @sarasmedberg8203 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Mx_Jayjay That is great, thank you so much! I do hope more people see these videos as I think they'll bring more awareness towards a-spec identities that are a little more unknown or clear up otherwise confusions. It's also super lovely that you're open to discussions and feedback, you don't always see that online these days haha. Good luck!

  • @pantrovert-x8921
    @pantrovert-x8921 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hey there! Here to introduce the term Orchidsexual, which isn’t in the video, but this is the one I identify with. It means to experience sexual attraction normally, but be repulsed by the idea of yourself actually engaging in sex.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for this addition I hadn’t heard of this term before now.

  • @chestnutstudios9690
    @chestnutstudios9690 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This actually helped me a lot! I think I might might be some mix between apothisexual and aegosexual:)

    • @neighbourhood_skull2111
      @neighbourhood_skull2111 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I strongly identify with Aegosexual too!

    • @chestnutstudios9690
      @chestnutstudios9690 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@neighbourhood_skull2111 well I think I actually did figure it out. I’m not Aegosexual, I’m actually Aceflux. But you guys are awesome!

  • @user-xk3kc9dp6e
    @user-xk3kc9dp6e 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    İ love your channel
    Because of you, it's easier for me to find my sexual orientation!

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much, and I’m really glad to hear that there are plenty more videos on the way.

  • @k.zeuner1991
    @k.zeuner1991 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Omg thank you so much 😭❤️
    I know definitely know that I'm aegosexual and apothisexual yaaayyy 💕

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That’s awesome 🙌🏻

  • @animetr1677
    @animetr1677 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You’re so underrated! :(

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you so much, I’ve only just started making videos so hopefully my channel grows more and more with each new one.

    • @animetr1677
      @animetr1677 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Mx_Jayjay you’re doing great :D I’m sure it will

  • @passthetea
    @passthetea 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    * happy ace noises * srsly tho, this is my go to video to send to those who wanna know more

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow that’s a huge compliment thank you so much ☺️

  • @WHATTHEHELL666
    @WHATTHEHELL666 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I used to think I was Demisexual but after watching this I realized that ace-spike describes me better. (For context I'm also trixic and gender fluid.)/g

  • @veganeatstreats25
    @veganeatstreats25 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Can someone please help me?
    I'm gay but I'm not into sex that much (most of the time asexual) but I am attracted to masculine Dad bods "father's" and see myself as a boy/fatherly love I seek, however as Platonic as I want that to be, I do something feel "homosexual" feeling as well. I wounded what terms would be good for me?(i know some women want a father type husband) so I not that odd am I?

  • @rowanscorner
    @rowanscorner 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I saw a sexuality under the ace-spec and I wanted to know the definition, I think it was Aceflow or like Aceflux?

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I hope this video was able to help you if not I’m always happy to help if you have any questions

  • @magicmagic4864
    @magicmagic4864 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Well this helps a lot... But I still have a lot research to be before i figure it out

  • @eliana4510
    @eliana4510 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Does anyone know what the opposite of cupiosexual is? I'm currently identifying as gray ace but I find that I sometimes feel sexual attraction but don't like the idea of sexual acts for the most part. I'm thinking I might be acespike, but whenever I hear the cupiosexual I feel like I'm the opposite of it. Idek anymore.

  • @kestrelflame9258
    @kestrelflame9258 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Now that I’ve seen this video, I think I might be Aegosexual and Acespike, like the one time I felt sexual attraction was sharp, sudden and disappeared in 2 minutes.

  • @rebeccasaper1379
    @rebeccasaper1379 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I know the identity is somewhat similar to ageosexual, but do you have anything on autosexual? It’s a term I’ve seen used and I’m debating adopting it, so I’m trying to do my research!

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      We’ve not included Autosexual in any entries as of yet, but from our understanding Autosexual is a sexual attraction to oneself over the attraction to others. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to only be attracted to yourself or not include others in your sexual activity but it’s a strong preference for yourself.

  • @blueberrystrawberry4261
    @blueberrystrawberry4261 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ah, nice video! :D i still dont know mine yet. if you know theres a sexuality for this please tell me- i feel sexual attraction, want to receive sexual gestures but not sex?

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Iamvanosexual is the closest I can think of to what you’re describing I will continue to look out for terms that may fit you better if I find any I’ll let you know

  • @t.h.1579
    @t.h.1579 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi I learned about the term « dysphorasexual » today and I feel like it fits me but I’m always considering if it is valid because if my trauma goes away then i won’t be dysphorasexual anymore

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Of course it’s valid even if your trauma goes you still had trauma when you adopted the term right? And the term is for those with trauma so you can absolutely use the term for yourself and continue using it for as long as you feel it fits you.

    • @t.h.1579
      @t.h.1579 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Mx_Jayjay Thank you so much for helping me out !! 🥺

  • @jennacollier9545
    @jennacollier9545 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    what about fraysexual

  • @user-lh6ig4wj4v
    @user-lh6ig4wj4v 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Looks I mostly relate with requisexual term, however I feel limited sexual attraction more due to sensitivity.

  • @ikhala
    @ikhala 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Is there an ace identity where one only feels romantic attraction once they think/know the other person is attracted to them?
    I've just been using the term cupioromantic since I desire one after thinking they like me, but I'm wondering if there is a better term that suits me

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I can’t remember off the top of my head I’m afraid but my Aro-Spec video may be able to help you better

    • @ikhala
      @ikhala 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Mx_Jayjay ah okay, thanks!

    • @IdkIdc-tw9ct
      @IdkIdc-tw9ct 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Have you heard about the labels reciprosexual/reciproromantic? It sounds a bit like what you described

  • @mariathefraccoon3020
    @mariathefraccoon3020 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Man i relate with requisexual but idk if i can use it is there one similar to having little to no sexual attraction i mean i make sexual jokes but i just don't have any sexual attraction or don't like to please myself I honestly think it might has to do with trauma but idk

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      At the moment Requisexual is debated to be an Exclusive Identity this means that it’s not exclusive but it’s important to make sure you fully look into it before adopting it. If you identify with it there is nothing stopping you from using it especially if you connect with it so deeply. If you consider yourself to be Sex Favourible perhaps the term Cupiosexual may also suit you.

    • @mariathefraccoon3020
      @mariathefraccoon3020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Mx_Jayjay thank you i will look into it this helped alot

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mariathefraccoon3020 I’m glad I was able to help.

  • @xxxspiceluxklm
    @xxxspiceluxklm ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Is it possible for one heterosexual to be myrsexual and the other identity to be asexual?

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Absolutely, they’re all different ways to explain different elements of your attraction they don’t contradict each other.

  • @saturnz.r1ngs
    @saturnz.r1ngs 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    this was a really helpful video, but i dont know what i am, im definitely somewhere on the asexual spectrum but idk where, basically i would want to have s3x, but only with females, not males, i have not been able to find anything on that yet and its kinda frustrating :/
    edit: i know im demi-sexual, and i would assume demi-romantic would be the same this but with romance instead of sexual, i will look it up afterwards though
    edit 2: looked it up, and yes, im demi-romantic

  • @hydrashade1851
    @hydrashade1851 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    now I get to debate whether or not im demisexual or aegosexual instead of demisexual or asexual ;w;"

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I don’t know whether to apologise or say you’re welcome, so I’ll say both Im sorry but you’re welcome 😅

    • @KitKat-gw4rh
      @KitKat-gw4rh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm in a similar place. I'm focusing on demisexual vs aegosexual.

  • @lemonchanisrandom1531
    @lemonchanisrandom1531 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    😂lol relate to second and last

  • @zanyunknown2564
    @zanyunknown2564 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I found out I’m iamvanosensual from watching this vid and the asensual vid

  • @activesocialmenace
    @activesocialmenace 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    *Help me please I am just so confused and I don't know what to identify as anymore.* (Kinda long rant/vent, don't read if you don't want to, have a good day/night💖)
    So I have never experienced romantic nor sexual attraction towards anyone ever. I do sometimes have romantic ideas of having a husband and/or kids with sexual and/or romantic relationship, but it's just an idea without actually imagining a real person/fictional character in their place (cupiosexual?? cupioromantic??). I am kind of neutral and slightly negative about having myself a romantic/sexual relationship with anyone (so I'm aroace...), but I do think that if my "perfect conditions would be met" i would like to engage in such relationship.
    So I guess I have to find "the only one"? (I guess i was told "oh you just didn't found the right one yet" too much). And that would be if I was true friends with someone of opposite gender (so am I straight?). So like a strong emotional bond, and absolute consent on both sides and on both sides the will to engage in this relationship (demisexual??). But I also had an episodes of feeling sexual but never towards anyone (oh god am I Aremsexual to some extent?) but that could be puberty hormones (... so I'm Abrosexual?). When it comes to sex related topics i often feel somewhat uncomfortable but when it comes to some kimd of sex scenes in movies I can't watch them at all, and usually just stop watching the movie altogether. So maybe I'm Omniasexual, but I personally don't think so.
    But I guess generally I am dismissive about romantic and sexual feelings.
    So ultimately i feel like 95% aromantic and 80% asexual. I'm so all over the place, and I feel somewhat relatable to most sexualities in asexual spectrum. But honestly I am just so confused about everything and if someone wants to explain at least some things to me I would be very grateful.
    Have again a great day/night💞

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Firstly confusion is a natural part of learning about yourself, the more you think about who you are the clearer it will become. It’s entirely possible to be multiple identities at once. Don’t focus on trying to find 1 or 2 perfect terms when 7 can fit you better. Identity is complicated and no two individuals are the same. Feeling confused can be stressful, but again it is a natural part of learning for many. When I was first finding myself I too was confused, I focused on learning as much as I could about Queer identities and eventually just started collecting terms that fit me.

  • @bread2512
    @bread2512 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    What's the difference between asexual vs apothi vs omni

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Asexual is the Umbrella term which both Apothi and Omniasexual fall under it also refers to a lack of sexual attraction which exists as a spectrum. Apothi is another term for Sex Repulsed those who are often adverse to partaking in sexual activity but may or may not feel sexual attraction whereas those who are Omni feel no sexual attraction whatsoever. I hope that helps clear it up a little. Thank you for your Question.

    • @bread2512
      @bread2512 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Mx_Jayjay so apothi people don't want sex right? Do they want sex if they want babies or no sex at all..

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@bread2512 it’s more a case of the idea of sex makes them uncomfortable they can have it for any number of reasons.

    • @bread2512
      @bread2512 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So what's the difference between an allosexual vs a cupiosexual I see no difference since both desire a sexual relationship...

    • @moonbowcraze1632
      @moonbowcraze1632 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bread2512 allos have attraction

  • @BhaktiRosin108
    @BhaktiRosin108 ปีที่แล้ว

    years later im still stuck betweeen aegosexual and demi.. can you be both maybe?

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You can indeed

  • @capybara3668
    @capybara3668 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I might be aceflux!!!

  • @Junabean
    @Junabean 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    anyone else here to see if there under the ace soectrum to describe them bc you think you under the ace spectrum but just dont know what

  • @moonbowcraze1632
    @moonbowcraze1632 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think I'm omnia.

  • @KatherineSone
    @KatherineSone 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    i was really just saying im grey sexual feeling like that was the closest to how i felt but now im more confused but understand more of what i could be

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Discovering yourself is always a journey and I wish you well on yours

  • @L0RDK3Y
    @L0RDK3Y 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I might be Iamvano

  • @shangbinie1767
    @shangbinie1767 ปีที่แล้ว

    10:05

  • @yourmajestybee3088
    @yourmajestybee3088 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My thing is that I think i feel sexual attraction and I can enjoy sexual media but I don’t wanna have sex

    • @yourmajestybee3088
      @yourmajestybee3088 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ok Update: what I was feeling was not sexual attraction but instead romantic and aesthetic attraction

    • @yourmajestybee3088
      @yourmajestybee3088 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ok Update: what I was feeling was not sexual attraction but instead romantic and aesthetic attraction

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m glad you figured that out

  • @cinnamon435
    @cinnamon435 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm starting to think there's no label that fits me 😭

  • @wuttheactual6323
    @wuttheactual6323 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hmmm I used to think I was just asexual before watching this video but now I think I might be cupio :) thank u I didn't know that lable existed

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      No problem I’m glad you found a new label that fits you

  • @Valentino016
    @Valentino016 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Well hello fellow aces

  • @Down_bad_cockroach
    @Down_bad_cockroach 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just found out I'm Axiosexual thanks to you.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’re welcome

  • @nonbiboi8103
    @nonbiboi8103 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    im aceflux and people think im faking it because i like nsfw content (h3nt@i and wickedwims) but i just think its interesting

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel called out with the second one 😅 I know what you mean for me it’s more curiosity than interest.

    • @nonbiboi8103
      @nonbiboi8103 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Mx_Jayjay yeah

  • @BradySpector
    @BradySpector 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Sex is cool, but can you say recite every Yelena Belova, Agatha Harkness, and Todd Chavez life by heart

  • @akumi_yo
    @akumi_yo 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    i'm aromantic and bisexual, but also in ace-spec. i think i might be greysexual and ace-spike🤔

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I wish you all the best as you discover who you are.

    • @akumi_yo
      @akumi_yo 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Mx_Jayjay 💜

  • @mmmchesborgor
    @mmmchesborgor 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Question for rosebexual.
    If u entertain urself about love, imagine urself IN THOSE SCENEARIOS... and feel so deeply and connected to it and enjoying it, to later feel extremely guilty, disgusted and repulsed a few minutes later. Does it count as rosebexual? Cuz thats something i go through.
    I dont feel attraction in that way at all, just my mind potrays i do.

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It does

    • @mmmchesborgor
      @mmmchesborgor 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Mx_Jayjay Thank you!!

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No problem

  • @kanye_north11
    @kanye_north11 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm still confused about my sexuality. I don't feel sexual attraction to anyone but I do watch porn and masturbate. I only do it purely because of the pleasure. Sometimes I feel the need to have sex but I don't feel sexual attraction to another person. Someone please help me identify my sexuality.

  • @ArchdukeJake
    @ArchdukeJake 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am an apothisexual, sex is the one thing I am disgusted by the most, I am also erotophobic, though I do support LGBTQIA+ identities, you can believe in what you like, it’s opinions that matter most, as long as they are not with egregious intent.

  • @rxtten_falco
    @rxtten_falco ปีที่แล้ว

    YOOO SOMEBODY WHO ACTUALLY KNOWS THE TERM MYRSEXUAL

  • @spaceace946
    @spaceace946 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am demisexual and aegosexual 😊

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yay 🙌🏻

    • @KitKat-gw4rh
      @KitKat-gw4rh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I might be too! Still figuring it out, but glad to find someone that identifies this way.

    • @spaceace946
      @spaceace946 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@KitKat-gw4rh I’m glad that you are beginning to find yourself! It took me a long time to figure out what labels I’m comfortable with, but I feel most connected with these!

  • @lolymop333
    @lolymop333 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I guess I'm apothisexual and omniasexual?

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If that’s what sounds right to you

  • @fenixmeaney6170
    @fenixmeaney6170 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Chromosexual's gotta be real awkward if you're in the mood with someone and they take their colored clothes off
    Anyone chromosexual in the comments?

    • @Mx_Jayjay
      @Mx_Jayjay  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Remember this only refers to sexual attraction, there are many variables that come into play in those situations. Aesthetic attraction, romantic etc… they all may differ from their sexual attraction.