Misconceptions About Blindness! (disability misconceptions tag)
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Questions
1. What is your disability and how does it impact you?
2. What is the most common misconception that you experience in regards to your disability?
3. Which misconception annoys you the most?
4. Do you do anything to combat these misconceptions?
5. What more do you think can be done to combat the misconception around your disability? [Society as a whole as opposed to individual work is a good direction for the answer]
“i can’t drive a car” THATS WHAT YOU THOUGHT QUEEN
I am dating someone who is blind and that is hiw i found you. Im happy i did. I like you. Thank you.
I'm not physically disabled, but I have schizophrenia. My goodness, there are SO MANY misconceptions about schizophrenia (and psychotic disorders in general)! People think we're all "crazy", "insane", "violent", "dangerous", and so on. This is completely untrue! I'm not crazy or insane, and if I were I doubt I'd be able to be here writing this. And I'm FAR from being violent or dangerous. I don't even like to kill bugs (seriously, I either leave them alone or have someone else squish them for me). I'm a person, not a walking disability. People say such disgusting things about people with schizophrenia and similar illnesses, and I'm passionate about educating people with the truth about who we are and what our illness is like. We don't all hear voices that tell us to do bad things. My voices were almost completely benign, and the ones that weren't hurt ME and ONLY ME, no one else. I never tried to hurt anyone during a psychotic episode. I could go on, but the point is that these kinds of stereotypes are wrong. And what about how I live now? After years of trying to get help and finally being properly diagnosed and treated, I'm living a much happier life. I can't do everything, and there may be things that I'll never get to do, but my life is so much better than it was before I got help. I want people with these types of illnesses to know that they're not "crazy", no matter what anyone says, and that getting help is possible. There's no cure for my illness, but I've found ways to live with it. It hurts me so deeply when people go around saying that people like me are evil, violent, insane, inhuman monsters. I'm none of those things, and most other people with schizophrenia are not either. End the stereotypes and the stigma.
Me too
yeah. mental illnesses suck.
I've heard these misconceptions about bipolar disorder, too. That it's just one big psychosis and people affected with it chase others woth a knife and so on. Not gonna lie, some media portrays it like that, but it needs to stop. There's so much stigma around mental illnesses and it's only because people don't understand them, and media make things zorse instead of actually helping others understand.
Until college, I literally had no idea how blindness worked. I only found out when this guy who was considered legally blind was in one of my classes. He had to use a GIIIIIIIANT book sized magnifying glass to make like... a paragraph the size of the book and words the size of a small candy bar. He could see pretty much everything, but it had to be like RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM. Or he just saw blobs. He was a really funny man, and his sight dog was super cute (he was this huge man, but his sight dog was so tiny, but he said it worked fine between them). I was kinda blown away..... The misconceptions are everywhere! My whole life, the world taught me blind people only saw darkness... That makes me kind of pissed, cause it’s not right at all... Stereotypes hurt the people who don’t fit into them, and those that do if their group is targeted. You’re such a unique individual, Molly, and I love watching your videos. Thanks for informing us, I appreciate and enjoy being educated for the better of humankind. Hope you’re well! 💕
When you brought up the misconception of "you look beautiful- I wouldn't have thought you were blind." reminded me of Joy Ross who is also a TH-camr who is blind. A worker at the airport was helping her find the elevator or her terminal, but she told the worker she was blind and his response was: "but I can see your eyes." To this day, I have no clue what he meant by saying that, was she not supposed to have eyes or did he think they should have been closed? It was strange.
LOL.
That's idiotic, customer service workers should be waaaay more educated if they're going to be working there.
yes! i love this video as a girl who uses a wheelchair (but can walk short distances) i feel like people stare when i stand up or get out of my chair like its a miracle or something. there definitely needs to be more education around disability and the spectrum of disability xxx
lol the way you explained that, sorry but that's funny
As someone who also has an 'invisible' disability, I am all too familiar with people thinking I don't 'look' disabled. The only outward sign of my disease is my inability to gain weight, which leads people to make constant comments about how I need to 'eat more' and that I 'look anorexic'. Not only do they ignore that I'm sick, but they think it's okay to treat me like I'm a naughty child who won't eat their dinner. After a while, I just started telling people that I have a digestive disease and that it doesn't matter how much you eat if it just comes back up a few hours later. I'm not nearly as comfortable talking about my disability as you are, but after watching this video I feel as if I should make more of an effort to explain to people exactly what's going on. I can't hold their ignorance against them, instead I need to educate them. Thank you for posting this, I really appreciate how open you are about your blindness and how it has (or hasn't!) affected your life. Keep up the good work, you're an awesome person!
Erin Haury Hi Erin, i can really relate to what you're saying here. I am a very slight build and really struggle to gain any weight in a way that is noticeable especially. I have always had digestive issues but they've been a LOT worse since 2012/2013. I always got the 'you look anorexic, you need to eat more' at school. I face physical struggles daily and did lose my friend's when i had to drop out of school due to my health struggles when they first worsened. Thank you for opening up, if it weren't for my seeing this i wouldn't have as it's something i rarely throw into conversation myself. Take care and best wishes. ❤
Erin Haury Hey I wanted to say that you're valid and I feel the same way. I have a digestive disease too (IBD) and other invisible disabilities (chronic pain, migraines, mental illness, narcolepsy...) which of course is internal so often people don't know I'm sick or don't understand, especially because I'm so young and I "look" fine most of the time. Only when I'm extremely sick, lost a ton of weight or vomit a lot do people actually take me seriously. If I'm just really tired and can't get out of bed (it's an autoimmune disease so it affects more than just the digestive system), or I'm picky about my food, or I'm in pain and can't walk so I take the elevator... People just love to question what they can't see. I've even had doctors brush it off! Just because you have a disability doesn't mean you have to be miserable nor do you need other people to say how you should or shouldn't behave. I don't have to "look" disabled for it to be real.
Say something like this, to the exact word, harsh: "I have a serious medical condition causing this which is putting my life in danger, thanks for reminding me. There's nothing I can do about it. Do you think I look bad?" just to make them feel stupid and not say it again even if it isn't true lol.
Okay, I'm going to spend 20 minutes and subtitle this video. Because that's something I can do that others will find helpful - by giving access to others so they can do something themselves.
THANK YOU!!!! I so look forward to that! I was about to comment on the lack of closed captions (now, come ON, Molly!) :)
Harvey Abel I was confused why she doesn't have cc. I know it's time consuming but she has editors. Surely they can spend half an hour to an hour extra on the video. I'm going to have a little faith in Molly and assume there's a reason.
Maddie Briggs She does usually CC her videos, which I appreciate.
Thank you I was really bummed that this video did not have captioning. I appreciate people like you taking the time to caption videos so that I can get all of what she is saying. I got the gist, but I look forward to coming back later and actually knowing what she said.
Do you know how to add cc because I want to but don't know how
This girl is God sent. Keep up the great work.
MsKeya. She really is. Molly is a gift from god to educate and enlighten us everyday💝
I'm Autistic and misconceptions I've heard of include:
1.Only children can be Autistic
2. Okay, adults can be Autistic, but only men.
3.Autistics wanna be cured.
4.Being Autistic means someone is ill.
5.Autistics suffer from Autism.
6.Autistics all have the same level of ability, which seems to mean that we are all at the level of a five-year-old throughout our lives. But wait, people will eventually outgrow their Autism because only kids have it. *sarcasm*
I was honestly unaware of #5. Could you explain?
Kaitlyn Zimmerman Autistics suffer from not being accepted for the way we are. Some Autistics have sensory issues that can be painful, so in that sense they can "suffer from Autism" but not to the point where they want to be cured. There's a blog post on "Think Inclusive" called "12 Myths About Autism" that explains this point better than I can here.
Lol, regarding looks, when Atypical came out I saw a bunch of comments on how Sam was too pretty to be autistic... like, really, people?
"Wow, great so you're a genius in what ? ", "but you're too pretty to be autistic", "you should take pills, 2 years ago I was a bit stressed and I took some and it helped a lot" -_- every.single.day
I'm so sorry people do this. Some folks just love to play armchair doctor/psychatrist/expert... Your experience is valid regardless what others say. Those misconceptions happen with ADD/ADHD with people also believing it's not real or someone is just faking it. It's tough but always remember that you don't need to accommodate other people or their opinions!
“You don’t look blind.” That one has got to be the most frustrating one I get all the time! ❤️
Right up there with "but how come you have ears?".
(Because I'm blind without them; my hat falls over my eyes)
Rana Afhame there is a settings on phone to read texts for you
" you don't look sick or in pain" is also annoying for people with chronic illness or pain. There isn't one look for any of this. Yes, some people are in wheelchairs, some people have visible body differences and disabilities but so many of us have all of the evidence on the inside. Disability isn't the world's business, just like no one human should have to explain their life story to a stranger. People judge so much on appearance alone and its toxic to even able bodied people. Learn all you can but never try to invalidate someones condition just because it doesn't "look like theres a problem" to you.
it’s so frustrating to read comments that say you’re not blind because you respond to comments or use technology
brianna moreno well, technology is only for able bodied people. *sarcasm* 😉
brianna moreno people don’t get that there are special apps or settings to help guide a blind person through their phone. Blindness takes away sight, it doesn’t send you back to the 1800s!
The amount of annoying that is is slightly illegal
I don’t know how they choose people for TED talks, or if you have done one, but you should do one. I think you would do well and be able to reach a lot of people and spread your message and awareness of the diverse disabled community .
This is a fantastic suggestion.
Thank you, Erin!
Elkius StoryShadows she was in one.
Cool! I’ll have to look that up!
I was legally blind in my left eye due to optic neuralgia for about six weeks early last year - no perception of light and dark, no peripheral vision, no depth perception... you know those challenges. I began study during this time (my mum accompanied me) and my peers didn't believe me because I could still write neatly and read my notes. Never mind that Mum needed to sign everything for me because my head throbbed from concentrating for more than about a hour, I couldn't use a computer because I already wear glasses so trying to read type on a bright screen made me ill. People would tell me off for using the elevator - I don't have proper depth perception because the stairs move on an escalator and that throws me off. I have permanent partial vision loss due to optic nerve damage and people think I'm lying because I can do 99% of everyday activities by myself. What they don't see is my boyfriend always holding my hand not just as a sign of affection - it's to keep me steady on the uneven ground near his house. Unable to see bikes or people approaching from behind me if they're in my peripheral vision. You can't possibly understand until you've been there but you're a gem and I really appreciate that you've taken time to break down that stigma and educate people.
"I can't drive a car" BOOM YAS GIRL YOU ACTUALLY DID IT
Katerina Biebs !!!!!!!! 😀
Hi Molly!!
I am Legally blind and people always say I’m faking being visually impaired because they only think that it is either you are totally blind or sighted and not in between and your eyes have to look a certain way. That is the one misconception that really gets on my nerves. Anyways I love to watch/binge watch your videos because your awesome. Molly rants are my favorite!! Am I the only one? Lol
Yi Ling I agree! I'm legally blind as well and people think I can see more than I can just because I don't use a cane. But put me outside on a sunny day and I can't see anything. It's such a wide spectrum.
Dijon Whitmore Me too I have Albinism so I’m very light sensitive just like you are I can’t see anything outside on a sunny day. I’m usually without a cane unless I’m outside or really need it inside so people always think I’m faking blindness which is really annoying. The general public really needs to be educated about blindness and other disabilities.
Dijon Whitmore if you're legally blind how come you are on TH-cam?
Ray price What a silly question... seriously. What is actually wrong with you?
Rebecca Moore what silly about? if you blind what the heck are you doing on TH-cam? if you on TH-cam you're not blind then
I am in love with your purple sweater! The velvet material is awesome! Also the way you did the video didn't seem heated, you really got to some core points constructively.
My 8 month old son is blind and I just discovered your channel. So In love already!!! Thank you so much!!
Preach girl! Yassss!
The Frey Life you guys should do the tag
Hi Mary and Peter!! ☺️💜💪🏼 xx
Jacksfilms would be ashamed.
I love you guys, you both are so strong. God Bless you both.
I think a big part of misconceptions is that people are often much more likely to question someone else than they are likely to question their own understanding. So if they meet a blind/deaf/disabled/general 'other' person who does not line up with whatever (often little, inaccurate) knowledge they have about the experience of that person, they are more likely to think that the other person is 'incorrect/lying' than they are to consider the fact that maybe they are lacking in an area of knowledge or there is something they could learn. They rarely consider that they could be wrong. It's weird that that is the seemingly automatic response of so many people. I understand not believing everything you hear, but if something doesn't line up with what you know, why not gather more info and make a judgement then? Or better yet trust that if a person does deal with that experience first hand, they likely know more about it?
AMEN TO THAT!!! A great observation. It is a curious thing that someone would think, "How can she walk around her apartment like that; she must be lying!" rather than, "Look how easily she walks around her apartment - I had no idea blind people could navigate known spaces so well." Hopefully this 'misconceptions tag', and channels generally made by people with a disability can help change that way of thinking for some people. Molly, I think you made a great point when you said that no one with a disability is required to answer questions or explain their disability. I'm transgender (which is not a disability of course, but it does spur a lot of people to ask a lot of questions)... I've had to emphasize to people before that while some people may be happy to help you learn more about the whats and hows of being transgender, don't assume that every trans person you encounter is up for educating you just because you have questions. Ask Google. Put a question into the Search field on TH-cam. I think that an overall better understanding of DIVERSITY as well as the many ways that we humans are very much alike has been achieved through TH-cam, through videos just like this. ...Whew! Molly, you're not the only one who can go on a bit! ; )
MerynCadell Very valid points! We live in an era of information so hopefully people will be more open to learning (and not assuming) about other peoples experiences. And truly, if you really love someone or people in general, you should try to learn more about their experience even if it is not from them. Just because someone wants to live their life and isn't inclined to answering a million questions or telling their story, doesn't mean your responsibility to learn goes away!
Best thing and most accurate thing I've read today.
Although this is an information age, this is also a very sad time when people see something on the internet and assume WAY too much. Learning from the internet vs asking a real-life person. I guess I'm just too old to see the internet as more valuable than a real-life person. I love hearing stories and adventures from real people. Learning how other people get along and how different others are is a joy to me. Just like how our grandparents taught us how things were done before automation. It's fascinating, but hopefully, everyone is aware that words are really good at saying "I don't feel like sharing at the moment." and not get offended at everyone who asks questions or learns something stupid (internet or movies) and assumes something wrong.
why would anyone question the fact that a blind person doesn't look blind? Why would we assume that they lived with a carer 24 hours a day? why would we assume that they went blind later in life so they know what most things actually look like (whether they can remember) Why would we assume that someone who says they're blind isn't actually blind when they later admit they can see stuff? I see this a lot. They mean legally blind and can't drive etc. That's an exaggeration and not what is meant by being blind.
Being someone who raises guide dogs, when I first started, I learned so much about the blind community that I had no clue about because people arnt properly educated and are told stereotypes from the media. I continue to learn more as I myself am not blind and will never fully understand what it is actually like unless I become blind. Loved this video, people need to know more about disabilities. People can be so cautious seeing someone with a disability because they are not properly educated. With people like you you are making a difference and teaching the world. I think what makes this video so great is we can all relate in some way on what it’s like to have misconceptions about themselves, whether it’s a disability, mental health, or hobbies. Love you!
That's amazing. I would never be able to raise a service dog as I wouldn't be able to give them back to the training group. Thank you for changing people's lives
HI Molly! I'm 17 and I am disabled and in a wheelchair due to my chronic illnesses. This video makes me really happy and I'm so glad Shane did videos with you❤️
I've never thanked you for educating me about everything you talk and blindness, so thank you, I really apreciate it and you're great, love watching tour videos! 😚
I'm Brazilian, btw, just so you know 😊
Yes girl. We need people like you to bring awareness to disabilities and dispels these false beliefs in what defines a disability.
Tbh, Molly, I was one of the people who thought that you do not look blind. Looking at you I can see that you are and I'm grateful that I'm paralysed and not blind or deaf
We recently just got news that our daughter may have some sort of blindness. She is only 5 months old so we aren't sure the extent of it yet however watching your videos gives my husband and I hope. You immediately think of everything she will miss out on not the positives of the news. Thank You Molly for sharing your life!
I love your style
Especialy your Pullover 😍
Len Micu same
Too bad she can’t even see her impeccable sense of style
Right! It looks so soft!
Someone could say well you don’t look blind. I could laugh 😂 and say well you don’t look stupid but I bet you are.
This is so great and such an interesting tag! I’m going to do it! I only have one arm and while I don’t consider myself disabled, there are a lot of misconceptions that come along with having a limb difference.
I’m always nervous about the faking blindness accusation. Especially if I tell them that I‘m visually impaired but then I check my phone to check a text or notification. It can be annoying to explain things in detail sometimes. I think that it’s good that you have a balance of non disability related content and disability related content. Goes to show that you’re wanting us to see what else is in your life as well.
JC5 Productions I feel ya. I am legally blind and sadly no glasses help as it is in my brain (Optic Nerve) and Retina. .. I admit I have acted more "sighted" than I truly am on the rare occassion to either feel like I fit in more or avoid a long discussion. But for any downside that comes with the daily challenge of living and adjusting to blindness or poor vision changes most folks would never "fake it" in the other direction. I get ya totally. It is upsetting when it happens, but I try to remember that it is on them NOT you. You got this.
I'm severely hard of hearing (80% ish loss) and visually impaired. I can see enough to see my enlarged print text on my phone and some other items on my phone. And yeah, I get nervous using my cell phone either visually or auditorily because people are clueless. I also have mobility issues- have since I was a kid. One of the worst forms of bullying I went through was being called a faker because I didn't need my crutches *every* day nor *every* minute of every day. I think that still affects me to this day. All this to say , I hear ya.
Katie Johnson I was just remembering when you said that sometimes you fake being more sighted to avoid long convos. Sometimes I do that too. Especially if someone is pointing at something and telling me something is “over there” I just pretend to see it because if not it can get more awkward when that person tries to make you look at whatever they’re pointing at. Sorry for the delayed reply.
Kelly G sorry to hear about the bullying you went through 😕 It’s pretty frightening for people to judge so harshly without even knowing exactly what that person is going through.
First of all stay strong ! ❤️
.. I have a question and I'm very sorry if this is rather arude question ,
How are you guys typing this ? I'm just really curious seeing a lot of the comment section coming from people who are legally blind/blind ..
Hope this doesn't offend you or anyone with these disabilities and if it does please ignore this comment
I often get the whole ‘but you don’t look sick’ as if ‘sick’ only has one face & if I’ve made the effort to do my make up that must automatically make me well! Or ‘but you’re so young...’ which is especially annoying because I didn’t realise that being in my 20’s meant I couldn’t be ill/disabled. I’m glad you mentioned that many wheelchair users can feel their legs or even stand/walk a little coz I often feel scrutinised when out and about because I can move my legs or stand a little. It used to be way worse when I could actually walk a little because people took that to mean I must be faking needing a wheelchair!!thank you for all you do to raise awareness :)
i hate those stereotypes about blind people!! i do agree that you don’t seem blind at first glance, though. i mean, you’re very good at moving around and functioning like a fully-abled person. thank you for sharing your story and teaching all of us about things that we may have looked over.💕
I love what your doing explaining disabilities, how it’s different for everybody. Because it’s so true!
I downloaded the Be My Eyes app, and got a call from a guy who needed help with a microwave dinner. It was very difficult to get him to hold the camera right, and the lighting in his kitchen made it very hard to read the instructions. And it was a dinner that had a lot of weird, complicated instructions. I felt like a failure, but we got through it.
Docktor Jim omg wow, take care!!
I also downloaded Be My Eyes, I haven’t had the chance to answer a call yet, I’m a little nervous! Seems like you had a small challenge but you got through it.
I picture him biting into frozen mashed potatoes and saying "Siri, delete Be My Eyes".
Thank you for downloading the app and having the patience to fight your way through those instructions. I am sure it was appreciated.
I'm hoping for an easier call next.
I love the discussion of uniqueness in disability. I have dyslexia and double vision and other similar visual processing disorders, and I'm also steadily losing my sight so I'll soon be legally blind. People often harass me for being able to read and write and be "too smart to have a disability", but at the same time they hassle me for being unable to complete very basic math equations or read sheet music after years of study because my brain can't use context to guess what is written like for reading. It's fine though, I can't see as well as the rest of the world but what I do see is more like an impressionist painting than a photo so my problems also give me a beautiful perspective.
Thank you for doing this Molly. I work with student with disabilities at my school and it will ultimately be my career. Obviously their experiences with disabilities are not the same as yours. Most of them have intellectual disabilities. However I love learning about the experience others go through and the things I can do to be more aware/understanding. Thank you for taking the time to share and educate even when you probably don't want it to always have to be the main focus. Meaning you don't want to explain everything all the time.
I have RP too ! I'm 15 and I have a medium to slow progressing RP. I'm so happy I found ur channel, I have never met someone else who has RP other than family members!
In australia we have a show called You Cant Ask That where a group of marginalised or stereotyped people are focused upon each episode (e.g. blindness, deafness, transgender people, ex convicts, suicide survivors, etc.) And ask them questions collected from the internet which you normally would think it would be rude to ask (e.g. for people in a wheelchair: can you shower by yourself?) And the show gathers about 8-12 people per episode who are all really diverse in their situation and all have unique answers. Its a great show.
YESSSS THE PART ABOUT DIVERSITY PANELS AND STUFF EXCLUDING PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES!! !! !!! That gets me so heated
YES! I'm an epileptic in a wheelchair. I have horrible balance causing me to be in a wheelchair. And flickering lights is not a trigger for me! And I seldom have tonic clonic seizures.
Adam Quintana
Hang on there.
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You have to stay positive because I have Cerebral Palsy, Shunts and Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis.
I was born at 24 weeks early witch caused a brain hemorrhage and shortly after that I had a stroke. At age two I had shunts put in my head. I forgot to mention I was born with a rare eye disease called Retinopathy Of Prematurity.
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Most of my childhood I remember I was always having brain surgery.
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In 2005 when I was 11 years old I was diagnosed with a genetic autoimmune disease called Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis and an eye disease called uveitis.
When I was 14 years old I was diagnosed with hip displasa. When I was 19 years old in 2014 I was diagnosed with Osteonicrosis and Osteoarthritis. In 2016 I was 23 years old and I had to have my right hip replaced.
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I have also been through an Iritis.
Deaf girl here...and I often get the same comments because I don’t “sound Deaf”. Preach!!
Watching back on older videos and I'm loving this, but that hoodie is making my heart so happy!!!! 🖤❤
Hello! I stumbled upon your video and it was very educated! I my self was born with CHD and PAH so I understand a lot of the things you say. Also you helped me learn many more things about the spectrum of dissabilities by answering these questions. Thank you for educating people and I wish you the very best! Continue doing what you do, you are awesome.
I think the "You don't look blind" misconception stems from the fact that some sighted people don't know blind people can still use makeup and enjoy fashion.
morganclaires or she just appears sighted down to the eye movements
It doesn't make sense that a blind person can use makeup because it's going to be extremely hard and mostly pointless. Not a misconception and in fact most blind people probably don't bother about something like makeup.
ranoutofeyeballs some do because it’s not about what they look like to themselves, it’s how they present themselves to the outside world.
I'm not blind, but I do have Multiple Sclerosis, which is considered a disability and has a slew of problems associated with it, one of which is optic neuritis (vision issues). It's very frustrating to get comments when I park in a handicapped spot or use an electric cart at the grocery store. Like... just because I've learned to adapt and it might not SEEM like I have a disability, doesn't mean I don't. I totally agree with everything you said here... especially the part about just wanting people to ask questions vs holding it in and/or assuming. I'd rather people get info from the source (me) rather than make their own assumptions (or worse... believing lies on the internet!).
It's been awhile since I have watched one of your videos, so I thought I would watch one. I am so glad I watched this one.
I always try not to have stereotypes about certain groups of people, cuz I hate stereotypes.
I have ADHD and OCD. So what annoys me the most is when people try to tell me I can't have ADHD, cuz I'm an adult. They seem to think that people grow out of ADHD as they get older and that only children can have ADHD. That is the most ridiculously stupid thing I have ever heard. There is literally no disorder on the face of this earth that you can grow out of. So why would ADHD be any different? Just google "adult adhd," trust me there's plenty of us. So think better before you open your mouth.
So yes I have ADHD.
When it comes to OCD most people seem to think that I have to be obsessively compulsive about everything and a very clean person. I ain't overly obsessed with cleanliness, but I am tidier than your average person. Another one that seems to annoy me is the people that think OCD isn't a "true" disorder. I mean like, seriously? You're really gonna say that it doesn't exist, just cuz you don't understand the science behind it. Are you really gonna say that? Trust me, it's a real thing. It is not fully understood what levels of compulsivity qualifies as OCD and what levels don't, but it is a real thing. There are also those people that treat it like a joke and think that everybody has a little bit of OCD. Yea, both of those are wrong. So do better research next time.
Sorry, I ranted about my own disabilities a little bit. I didn't mean to.
Great video, Keep up the good work. I liked it. God bless!!
This video made me more proud of myself and how to deal with my diease I am a 16 year old last year I just got diagnosed with retinitis pigmatosa and this video showed me that I can show people that being blind doesn’t stop me from doing what I want. Like you my night vision and my seeing color is really affected for me but I don’t know if I will go blind or not because they don’t think my diease is really progressive but I get questioned about my diease and it does irrate me to.
Thank you for these videos and what you do. I like to educate myself on disabilities and certain illnesses so I can be more aware. I have mental health disorders and a lot of people don't understand my conditions or how they affect me. I've been judged and criticised a lot in the past and, like you, I try to educate people in my day to day life. Whenever the topic of mental health comes up, I try to correct misconceptions and open a positive discourse on mental health. My situation is obviously not the same as yours, but my goal is similar. I want the world to be more aware, understanding, and respectful.... of all of us who don't fit society's 'normal'.
You know, my first reaction to seeing you was also "she doesn't look blind" but that had nothing to do with your appearance! It was more about how well you can 'focus' on something, I never meant anything bad with it. I am just used to blind people who were born blind and lacked the ability to look straight at the person they were talking to. It's not meant like "you're too pretty to be blind", it's more about what I was used to before seeing you 😊
Idk if you’ll hear this or not but i think you’re so pretty and that ur so strong for what you’ve been through. i have a learning disability and its hard but i don’t let it get to me and i try to overcome it. First video ive watched and i already love u! 💗
Have you ever heard of the TV show switched at birth one of the individuals in the show is deaf and goes to a deaf school I don't know how good it is and I don't know if it represents any of that kind of a disability in a good way or a bad way but check it out i'd really like to hear your opinion
“I can’t drive a car.” Yes girl, you can! Rylands car practically drove you!
Great video, Molly! People are always telling me “you don’t look blind” or “you’re too pretty to be blind” and it’s so frustrating. I actually just made a video about it on my channel. I always say that I would’ve been born with this face whether or not my retina deteriorated
That's a great thing to say to that comment, I'll have to use it too! But yeah you don't look blind is hands down the most frustrating thing for me, as well.
Crystal Dennis Music yes it is frustrating, but it’s somewhat comforting knowing that so many other people are hearing this and it’s not just me
It's the most annoying and ridiculous misconception. What exactly are blind people SUPPOSED to look like? Ugly and gross? Disabilities don't LOOK a certain way, that's BS. I get that a lot with my disability, I'm not blind but I'm young and "look" healthy and I guess since I'm not suffering 24/7 I'm not valid. People are not their disabilities and we don't have to be miserable. We need positivity and acceptance
Doctor Owl I agree. I think a lot of people with disabilities who are young are seen as not looking disabled, when in reality you can have a disability at any age
I've seen tons of disabled people who DO look ugly and gross. I had the misconception because I've seen many disabled people who are dirty (hair, clothes) and don't seem to care at all about their appearance. I always assume it is because their disability gets on the way and they can't make money or do basic grooming. But this is so silly. How many non-disabled people look ugly and gross too? It's a silly, silly misconception and it made me laugh so hard. Now i can get rid of it :)
Hey Molly, I have a question(or, a few..)!
You say that you can only see light and shadows, and so I was wondering to what degree. Are you able to read neon light signs? What about keyboards with light? I would think the latter would be too small and dim of a light for you to see, but I'm curious!
And also, can you see light and shadows on a screen? Like for example watching a youtube video with silhouettes or the light from the lamps in your own video?
I hope this doesn't come off as me doubting you since that is not my intention, I'm simply just really curious! I also get that you might not see this comment, or might not want to answer, I'm just asking because I wondered.
I love you videos, and you and Gallop are adorable! ❤️❤️
I can't speak for Molly, but last year I had four eye surgeries due to retina detachments. My right eye has the most damage, and I'm currently blind in it, but I can pick up some light, my left eye has healed well. When I look at neon lights through my right eye, I can pick up the light but can only see red and blue colors vaguely, I cannot read it though. With keyboard lights they kind of blur together and look kind of like one very, very dim rectangle light. As far as watching tv/TH-cam shadows, the light around the shadows (like the white space on YT) is too bright for me to see my else.
There’s a video (I ~think~ one of the collab ones with Drew L.) where they show what she sees. If I can remember which one I’ll add it.
Kelsey Horton oh, thank you for sharing!
Elissa Y Yes, its the one on Drew’s channel I think :)
It was actually that video and her apartment tour, because she mentions her glitter lamp, so I wondered if the glitter pieces broke the light enough for her to see, and so I wondered how ”sensitive”(detailed? IDK what word to use) her light perception is
Sprinkle Creativity That makes sense! I’ll have to watch the other video too.
I've tried to explain to people about the concept of being legally deaf and degrees of deafness. And also how hearing aids work - if people are 100% deaf and can not hear any sound then hearing aids don't work as they only enhance sounds.
Also, the walking thing irritates me - yes, I can walk. But also yes, sometimes I need a mobility aid if I want to continue about my day and do other things rather than using all my spoons to walk.
I would love to see you do an online collab with JessicaOutoftheCloset.
I am almost legally blind so these mean so much to me. Thank you so much I love your videos, keep doing what your doing 💙💚💛💜
I relate 100% to this video. I am blind in my left eye because my lenses are detached because of fluid in the eye. I can see out of my right eye but I can't read out of my left one and it's mostly just a black blob. I hate when people ask me to close my good eye to wave their hand in front of my bad one and then saying I'm lying when I flinch. Like you said a large percentage of the blind community have some sort of remaining vision. I hate those misconceptions.
She looks SNATCHED. Like, does she do her makeup herself becaue if she does then im shook.
Sister looks amazing.
Molly: I can't drive
Me: well u just did in shanes video so now u can
The biggest thing for me as a teen in a wheelchair BABY TALK! UGH!
Positivity-Prevails wtf that’s awful!! I’m a disability support worker and it’s such a pet peeve of mine when people speak to me instead of the person I’m with. Like if we’re shopping and the person I’m with is buying something, and the salesman repeatedly directs the questions to me instead. I just look at the person I’m with until they answer 😜 it happens so much more when that persons in a wheelchair, thankfully never seen baby talk 🙄
What highlighter are you using?! You look so glowy! 😍
I'm also deaf in my left ear so people always ask me to cover the good one as if I have to prove my disability to them. It's so annoying.
Next time, cover one of the other person's ears, "is this the good one?"
I know this is random, but I like how the gold pillow placement in the background looked like wings behind her back. It made her look like the angel she is because Molly is so pure at heart and so beautiful. :)
Is their a video where she mentions most blind people not being able to predict someone’s looks by touching their face? She briefly mentioned it in Shane’s video but I’m curious as to how the stereotype came about and why it isn’t actually true.
I saw a blind guy do this on TV last week!
deafblind people sometimes do it to understand facial expressions. Helen Keller did it in The Miracle Worker, so people assume all blind people would do it.
I have some major injuries like breaking my back and live in agony. On a random day I can walk around and actually leave the house. I get people screaming at me for using disabled parking because I am walking ... it irritates me to no end. They’ve cussed and yelled and threatened me. People make assumptions. All do. But man... it does suck. Hearing you don’t look blind or questioning it would drive me up the wall. Misconceptions too like you said. Lost a ton of friendships because they think I’m flaky because I don’t hang out but it’s the pain. Even my brother doesn’t really believe me and we stopped talking. They see me act ok for a few hours and assume it’s always like that. I feel for you for sure.
Sorry you have to go through all this, people can be judgmental.
And what do you expect? If some dude parks his car at a reserved spot, then just walks away normally - what would the natural assumption be? So honestly you shouldn't get irritated too much by what is essentially a perfectly reasonable reaction.
I am blind and nobody gets it so this video really explains everything
The balance issue now you mention it makes sense. i didnt know until last year when i had a balance problem that the ears and eyes combine to keep balance
Not knowing anything is better than misconceptions ⭐️
Hi Molly 💛 I'm one of those people who doesn't have disability directly in their lives, yet I absolutely love learning and watching your videos. You make blindness super accessible (in terms of education and inform) for those who are unfamiliar with it, and we sooooooo appreciate it :) thanks so much for everything you do
I've had 3 major back surgeries and many, many complications from them, and I get SO INCREDIBLY ANGRY when people say "oh, well you don't look like you've had back surgery" or "You're faking! That 'scar' is a tattoo!" or they tell their friends that I had scoliosis surgery because they assume that is the ONLY back surgery that there is. It drove me crazy when people wanted me to explain in depth what was wrong with my back because, like you said, I don't owe anyone an explanation for why I missed school, or why I was allowed to be a few minutes tardy to class. If I could tell that someone genuinely cared and is just curious, I would answer them, but when someone is just asking to be rude or because they think that they can catch me in a lie or other evil things like that, I don't answer. I made the mistake of telling a girl in middle school that I didn't have any feeling in my scar. So, a few times she poked my scar and then told me and said that I must have felt it. Then one day I came home and my mom told me that there was blood on the back of my shirt. The next day the girl told me that she put a sewing needle deep into my scar when she was standing behind me, so I must really not have feeling in it. I'll never understand people like that.
I'm so sorry that happened to you
Oh my gosh it’s the same for me, I have prosthetic legs below both of my knees no left hand and I’ve had most of my right hand amputated, so if I put my hands in my pockets and I’m walking around it kind of just looks like I’m very sore. The looks I get when I am parking in handicap parking are absurd! Whenever people are giving me dirty looks I just pull my pants up to my knees and show them and say you know I can park here because I DONT HAVE FEET. LOL YEAH it’s interesting
Thank you for sharing the knowledge and changing the stereotypes. I learned a lot from your channel.
Hm, interesting thoughts. I don't think I realized that some people who are blind can see some things, and I never knew some had light perception like you! I am learning more that I didn't know!
I am visually impaired and I personally hate when people come up to me and talk to me really slowly as if I won’t be able to understand
I love how it doesnt take over your life i am diagnosed with tourettes syndrome it effects me every day there is places specially churches i cant go to i have to worry about people thinking im demon possessed or just faking it for an excuse to cuss even in special olympics i ran into a lady that didnt believe me when i talked about how tourettes effects me cause the other people she had met who had tourettes werent effected the same way as me i often feel like its missed up my life in so many ways
Christian kathryn Grimes So you have the vocal ticks which is the most common. I have the twitches, (spasms involuntary muscle movements) whatever ya wanna call it. I hate it, People never bother to do reserch about it and there is hardly any awareness for it. Tourettes awareness month tends to be May 15- June 15. Even when you try and explain what it is to people they have no idea what you are talking bout. Lazy people.
Good on you for making this video girl. I fully respect & personally appreciate you sharing this. I always try to put myself into people's shoes and try to think, and understand how things could be for people. And I totally understand how disabilities are not always the same, infact they are never the same, because we are all uniquely individual.
And beautifully so.
So glad I've come across your videos.
Thank you for all the videos you make
“I can’t drive a car”... a few days later...
I just recently stumbled upon your videos, and I love you!! I’ve also watched so many of your videos that I have to remind myself that not every TH-camr is not blind lol. You’re amazing and a beautiful soul!!
I have a chronic pain condition People can’t tell from the outside and I have had so many people not believe my pain. People need to just not judge
Georgia Seales me too
Becca Major it’s the worst thing in the world ! Your not alone x
Hey you're valid. I'm sorry this happens. I have chronic pain too and other conditions and because I'm young and not crying out in miserable pain 24/7 then I must have no pain at all. Idk why it's all or nothing with some people. Or that age has anything to do with disability, and it must look a certain way... That BS needs to stop
Same 😞 usually I’m not talking about it and I act normally but when it gets severe and I can’t move people complain that I’m just being lazy and that if I wasn’t so addicted to my phone I’d want to move more haha
What a bunch of idiot. Then again we all know how stupid the majority of society is. I bet medical workers do this a lot. That's probably where the idea comes from, the people "wanting meds" in A&E. I have had plenty of nurses tell me I don't look sick, or I am old enough to look after myself.. honestly.
HI MOLLY!!❤️. I really enjoy every single one of your videos and I think your probably the most amazing motivational speaker!! I found you from Shane and I instantly subscribed and put on the bell. I understand what certain things people say are in a way ‘offensive’. And in going to educate myself more by watching your motivational videos!! Thanks for being so open about your retinal disease. Your amazing and beautiful ❤️❤️😘😘💝💝
i love this video i to am dissabled and im allways saying to my family that i feel because i wear make up that people think im not disabled or im not in pain everyday becasues with makeup on i look just like everyone else i feel like because you cant see my disability im allways having to justify everything, its true when people say if you break your arm or leg and people know youve hurt yourself but when you have a disability that people cant see they automatically think your lieing it makes me so mad
What people is amazed for in your appearance is that you got really good taste considering you cannot look in the mirror. Just like your house!
Actually amazing!!
Hey, if you ever came to Nashville or the surrounding area, I would LOVE to do a video with you talking about mental illness as a disability as compared to a physical differences as a disability. I find there are a lot of misconceptions I face day to day myself as a woman with OCD, and though I would never sit and play the game of "your experience is worse than mine or I am more disabled than you," or something like that, I would be interested to compare and contrast the two. I am fully sighted but I have learned SO much from your videos about the disabled community, and I would love to open that conversation up to mental illness. I have severe OCD myself and though with treatment it is at varying levels of "disabling," I would absolutely consider OCD a disability. It has been classified as such in many scientific circles as well. I would love to do a video with you, but I of course would never want to try to downplay your experience in any way. Simply try to have an open conversation in order to learn!
Completely agree!!! I hate that people allways say "aww poor lady u are so pretty"
Another amazing video, Molly! You sound just the right amount of annoyed :))) Also, I couldn’t stop staring at how perfectly your make up went with your hoodie. Love the make up and the hoodie separately but together it’s just such a bomb combo!!
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Hey Molly, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your videos!!!!! They are soooooo on fleek!!! I have a question: if you could have vision would you choose vision or no vision? I really think you are the greatest motivational person i have ever come across, and I thank you for educating me with the right information. Love u lots!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Are you able to "spot" a light? I'm thinking about how you typically take baths instead of showers because of balance issues, and wondering if putting something like an LED light on the wall might help with this
BeautyWearsBoots I don’t know Molly’s experience with this but I also only have light perception I have tried this but I also have nystagmus so because of our eyes shaking the object does not stay still but good idea I wish it would actually work
what about strip lights, what would that do? Like a thin light that's in a tube, you get them to decorate things. Is the light idea to guide the general way?
Hi Molly Ik this vid is from April but I wanted to tell u!!! You really inspire me I have CP and u teach me every vid that it is okay thanks sooo much !!💙
Yeah I hate that inspiration porn thing.
thank you for educating me on this topic
Oh my god this is such an eye opener, I’m so glad I can learn more about this. You are amazing!!❤️
your sweater is so pretty ! im so glad you made this video , i use a wheelchair and can walk short distancees and when i get up from my wheelchair when i am out i get such strange looks lke i get up to reach something or stand if there is a step and my friend cant get the wheelchair up , people often look at me like some kind of circus sideshow , i really love your videos and they can start to break donw stigmas and misconceptions too
When I was a child I didn't know wheelchairs were used for people to aid them or who can still walk, or to give them a rest or even just who are sick like in hospital for a week, but that's when I was a child LOL god, some people are so sheltered.
Fabulous video! Kisses to Gallop❤️ My Mum was blind and had some peripheral vision until she was about 70. She lived an extremely active life. Her favourite thing was knitting and loved to shock people with it, then educate them.
Great video Molly! I think the best way to combat misconceptions is to get everyone to volunteer with people with disabilities. I started volunteering in Australia with my parents at age 8 and even suggested to them that we learn sign language so that we can communicate with some of the people better. When I moved to Ottawa at age 13 I looked around for where to volunteer and signed up with CNIB to help with kids - particularly those going through the loss of vision. I learned Braille along with them and how to do many daily activities as they would have to in the future - it was a real "eye opener" (no pun intended) for me.
I now lecture in digital media and web design at college in Australia and students sometimes ask me why I'm so adamant about the accessibility side of design, so I turn off their images or sound or change colour settings for them to experience it the way people with disabilities would and that helps.
Keep up the great videos, of all types! My favourite thing to do with the kids in CNIB was going bowling and they beat me!!
THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT INSPIRATION PORN. I FUCKING HATE THAT SHIT.
I will literally exit off videos that I feel like are inspiration porn, or have it involved. I hate when people act like I’m some amazing person for “overcoming challenges” and doing things that everyone else does.
Dear Molly I came to your channel from Shane and I Love you so much
and I'm glad that I know about you now
Lots of people didn’t bother to check me to see if I had more than one disability as a kid because I qualified for special needs with my CP but I’ve got a total of SIX different disabilities (CP, PTSD, Misophonia Generalized Anxiety Disorder Sensory integration Disfuntion and Autism) if you don’t know anything or very little about ANY of these guys... look them up!! Edit: For question 5, if you want disability diversity ask people with multiple different disabilities physical and mental....
You know , although my uncle is blind and Ive seen and heard it basically all my life, it still took me years and years to understand how he could look at pictures with a magnifier if he's blind. As a child, I just couldn't understand it.
I feel you, I be hating that, "what exactly do you see?" And expect me to sit here and explain lol
Can you make a video on what u think of HR320 (The ADA reform Act) I just think it's very wrong and hope it doesn't pass! But it would be interesting to see what someone else with a Service dog and disabilities thinks!
you are beautiful inside & out molly !!!