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Do historically masculine stuff, be useful - learn to work on cars - learn to work on a house - learn some survival skills - become comfortable in the wilderness - make a reading list & finish it - set daily/goals and hit them Be self sufficient and don't rely on others to succeed
It takes 10,000 hours until you even start to be a master at something. Some of the greatest musicians in the world had those 10,000 hours when they were in their late teens. 10k hours is just the start of winning in a particular field. You really wanna win? Don’t be a jack of all trades. Master something. Some guy in his 20’s who thinks he needs to know how to fix cars, fix his house, survive in the wild, in addition to stocks and finances, and getting in top bodybuilding shape, oh yeah and jujitsu and MMA… and reading philosophy… and this doesn’t even include your high income earning job that’s gonna take up a ton of your time, and your social life and picking up girls which you of course gotta do right? man you just can’t do it all. You’re gonna end up being able to do a lot of different things kind of shitty. You’re not gonna be winning, you’re gonna constantly be losing actually, because you never actually excel in one area. Mastering one or even a few things will increase your confidence more than holding yourself to that ridiculous “a man should be able to fix and do everything” standard. Just my philosophy about it.
@@RwP223 true! leveling up the inner self as well as the physical self via taking risks, getting outside of the comfort zone, and putting the work in to chase excellence and build extreme competency. can't think of a better confidence booster! besides F U money lol
@@maestroadam agreed! I jokingly call it going to the "brain gym", since I'm a personal trainer lol. but it's so true that you need to work on both your brains and brawn! I have some genius best friends that suffer from blue pill ways and oneitis... it's a shame since they're doing so well otherwise!
You can’t just do that, you need to work on social skills and confidence more than your body tbh. As a bodybuilder and competitive swimmer of 11 years, I didn’t get any chicks before I worked on my social skills.
Gamer here with a gaming channel. Can't agree with him more. Videogames are fun! And its fun to win! But when you shut the game off, that win is no longer relevant. Need to get some on the board IRL boys!
Getting back in the gym has probably been my number 1 confident booster. My body weight is slightly down, but lean muscle is up and body fat is sitting around 14%. I get compliments on my physique all the time and this helps with confidence a lot. I have a background in TaeKwonDo and wrestling but I also started training in Krav Maga about a year ago. Getting pounded as a Krav Maga beginner and then kicking that same person's ass a year later is also a huge confidence builder. Lastly, making bank to the point where I bought my first $100,000 car was not only a confidence booster but also a reward for "chasing excellence" and "doing the work."
Remember, wins are accomplished on a gradient. By gradient we mean step by step. You don't jump from the first floor to the second in one leap - you take the stairs, usually one step at a time. Sometimes when what you want to accomplish seems daunting, break it down into steps you can more easily achieve. This helps increase the odds of success to your favor.
Honestly, just forcing myself to do things that I am not confident in. Sure, I embarrassed myself a lot at first ( a lot!), but I learned from it and now I am very confident in social and other situations I was extremely terrible at. Practice and experience win big here. Also, exercising and eating well to look good really helps. ;)
A mantra I repeat whenever I feel my confidence slip is this "No matter what happens I'll be fine." That girl blows me off in a public situation, I'll be fine. Don't get the promotion, I'll be fine
Top things to boost my confidence are: - having visible progress at gym - doing it better than last time - having successive wins at something - having unserstanding of something that went wrong
Men are houses and woman are cars. I say this because houses (men) go up in value while cars (woman) go down in value in the long run. Correct me if I’m wrong.
Good solid advice. I want to add that, exercising really helps even if one can't build a 'ripped body'. Don't care about if you are ripped or not, focus on strength and endurance and keep exercising. It can be anything - weight lifting, bodyweight, hatha yoga (the hardcore type, that put stress on your body), martial arts, calisthenics, gymnastic or sports. If anyone wants to build confidence, relieve stress and anxiety or bring order in life, this is the first place one starts.
One of the things that made me gain more confidence was this: stop looking for women's approval focus on gaining more money I used to lack of confidence so much months ago, but since I started to stop looking for approval and got some projects that gave me money, I've started to feel better about myself. Also, do some self-care every day (whatever it is, whether it's eating better or skincare, whatever, just do it.) I'm also starting a gym in the following weeks, so that keeps me motivated and confident. Thank you Rich, for your videos, you've done such an incredible work and thanks to that I am starting to change my life and building myself up.
Two things have given me confidence. 1 - Being an entrepreneur my entire life. I run my own show and answer to no one but my clients. Knowing that making money rests squarely on my shoulders gives me bundles of confidence. 2 - Been lifting weights and practicing mma for 30 years. I am a big strong mofo. Years of natural built muscle. I am the biggest guy in the room 99% of the time. Whether it be by people in my circle or complete strangers, I constantly get comments or joked with about my size. As primitive as this is, it feels great knowing others are just a little bit scared to piss me off, lol. The confidence this brings me is immeasurable. Lift weights.
I got knowledge of self. Honestly nothing phases me at this point in life. Can't have my confidence rely on other men or women. I just focus on my hustle, my mental and physical improvement. That's how I elevate. God body.
Something I'm doing to improve my confidence is eliminating social media from my life, more specifically Facebook. It's become a cesspool of trash ideologies and negativity in my opinion, and unfortunately I've allowed it to influence my thinking and my actions.
I predict that FB will eventually go the way of MySpace. Is FB fun? No. Is it a source of reliable information? No. Can you monetise it (unless you advertise)? No. So what the hell is it for, apart from boomer memes?
Rich - I wish I had someone like you back in my younger days - it should would have certainly helped me.... ... I always tell guys to look into your TH-cam videos.
I spent my 20's mostly being a lazy twat. Now I'm 31 and going to the gym 5 times a week. No excuses. I don't want to get to 40 and be a waste of space.
keeping promises to yourself is a good way to build self trust/confidence. even if its something small but do it consistently. like go walking 20 minutes a day for ex. or 3 times a week and go from there. once u master one than stack on another, etc.
what has helped me was all the losses, and rebounding from it. Knowing not many people could go through what I went through. Taking risks no matter what the cost of the loss. The wins only gave me tempoary esteem.
Fellas if you're in a rut do yourselves a favor. Don't be arrogant. Intentionally set the bar low. It will help you get those early wins under your belt and elevate you out of the situation. Then you can crack on to bigger challenges! Have a good one!
When I was studying to be a broker on Wall Street the head broker that I was working for told me and all the recent college grad‘s to go to the bar and hit on every hot chick we saw he said that was the best way to learn how to handle rejection. It stings a little at first but then you get ice running through your veins and you don’t really hear the nose anymore you only hear the yeses and then when he told us how to close The sale it really made getting girls a lot easier
This advice is pure gold. I was lucky enough to have been told this by an older gentleman 5 years ago. I followed it, am still following it, and hope to follow it forever.
Video games do count, as long as they are competitive and measurable, especially if it's team game. Same as watching sport and if you team wins/losses that highly affects T levels. There is study about it.
other ways of building confidence is progressing & achieving personal goals in your hobbies such as cycling or running up a steep difficult hill, or running or cycling x number of miles, getting your next colour belt in martial arts, learning new skills, fixing something different to fix, over coming problems. I've felt on top of the world when I have fixed my car at home with limited resources & tools by overcoming a problem at little expense -Especially if a garage/ mechanic has quoted me hundreds of £ to fix. Also building something for the house or garden or tree house for your kid with very basic DIY skills. Something that the average guy would pay a skilled professional to do. That sense of accomplishment & achievement is a genuine confidence builder ✊👌
Building physical strength via weightlifting gives you a huge boost in confidence. Working out in general and looking good as a result does wonders for your self confidence and self esteem.
Don’t try. Do it. I was complacent in my twenties. Had low paying chit jobs, but I was on my path. Changing jobs is absolutely the quickest way to increase your salary. Oh, and be more than competent and network, network, network. I’ve rarely had an interview that was anything more than a formality.
This is a great video. Keep spreading this stuff to the younger generation guys. Don't let them walk into the minefield blindfolded like so many of us did.
Shiiiiiiiiid i seen a guy win 100 thousand competing at a madden tournament. But I understand what your saying thanks for all the information you give OG. I got my own business seling coffee now and yea my ex laughs at me but I know if I keep grinding at it then it pay off. Audi R8 has always been the first car I said I was going to get
See the issue with pro gamers is the chance of becoming one is essentially non existent. You either have to be a prodigy or you must practice so much it is no longer fun to do. In my opinion one would be much better off powering through learning a unplugged, physical skill or hobby than powering through a video game that could go out of style whenever a better game releases.
I wouldn't laugh at a man or woman who knows how to make coffee. Quite the opposite. That is something I consider admirable. Coffee is serious stuff. It's not like you're just some schmuck handing out soda cans. Coffee damned well matters.
@@Biosynchro thank you I travel to different countries and bring back to America the best coffee I can find and I can't keep it in stock. My problem now is getting it thru customs fast enough before people get mad at me. Im waiting on some coffee from Brazil right now. I bought a home there 4 years ago and thats how I started my business
This is great, with surfing you need to start with a big foamy board and catch some small waves (wins) first. Also, it’s good to have other options beyond surfing, such as kitesurfing when the wind is strong, or powered paragliding when the wind is calm. Finally it’s important to expand your horizons (and give yourself more options): for example, Costa Rica is a great place to go surfing and closer to home, but the Mentawais is further beyond and gives you the opportunity to explore another part of the world.
Great video. I’ve often thought is it because I’m winning that I feel confident. Or is it because I feel confident that I win. Whatever the case your advice is spot on.
I'm old. I was blue pilled most of my life, but didn't know it as my culture is deeply steeped in it. I wish this infomation had been available in my time. I'm dealing with issues now because of your information. It's too late for some things, but never too late for everything. I appreciate your efforts.
I started gym training at 22 yo, now im 26, it works. It doesnt need to be weight lifting but i think you need to train to be confident. Also, dont forget to study/work, invest on yourself!
I agree with everything you said except for the video game competitions. As an ex competitive gamer I would say most of video games is a waste of time. And you don't realize that until you finally quit but unless there's a study that showed winning in video game tournaments doesnt get your testosterone up I don't believe it. (saying this as one of your fans who you heled completely change their life around, my story is crazy and would love to break it down for you sometime bc I think it could bring real value to others especially the guys who waste their lives away with video games. I was the bullied kid, had a shitty family, doctor's told me I was crazy, and now I'm the chad that anywhere I go eyes are on me)
My example is when I started gaining muscle, that's when my confidence exploded. Women noticed me more, I got compliments from women and men, people subconsciously moved away in the crowd. Go to the gym.
Actually wining in the video games does work in terms it will rise your testosterone and exploration games do give you a dopamine rash. They are good at tricking your brain. But most of the time they will not grand you any recognition from the group and most of the time you don't get any monetary value out of them. Although you could say that some video games train your reflexes, your hand-eye coordination and multitasking skills, but they do nothing for your physical ability. Well unless you want be good at playing ping pong or want to be a quick draw gunslinger.
Top tips? I got one: Intention. Walk with intention. Speak with intention. Act with intention. Not only will you become more confident, others will see you as confident.
Rich, my dude, scars on a man are not ugly. Like unless it disfigures like half your face, you are good. You can't expect a dude to fight a bear and storm a castle and come back without a scratch. It can not have been something women ever selected against.
Where can I find the video where you talk about the female general officer who wrote to you about me telling her about your excellent TH-cam channel!? I am getting much better in life thanks to you Sir! Becoming the best version of myself is happening right now. I am searching but there are so many great vids in that list. It has been around 2 years or less but I lately just woke up to it. But I didn't forget and look forward to listen to those very words from you in that video. Thanks
Never put all your eggs in one basket keep your options open be aware of your thoughts what do you think of yourself how do you see yourself what do you tell yourself remember this if she walks away letter move on there's too many women out there you have more options than you realize the only way a woman can treat you like an option is if you let her if you let a woman treat you like an option it's because you don't know your true value get on your path and stay on your path no distractions
Deep inside every man lies some great warrior. Don't give up your goals. And never forget: Losing a battle is not losing a war. The war is lost only when you surrender. If you see something as a failure, just lower the bar, and it becomes a victory. Every step taken towards your ultimate goal is a victory, not a failure. Learn to see obstacles on your road like a winner, not a loser. And don't go chasing anything else than your own goals. Modern occidental women are not worth the trouble they give anymore.
In what do you win? I am 17 years old. I got that “win” feeling when I have done great Trade in crypto, or looked at what I have done by my self with my projects ... But for most 17 years old this isnt Casual. Where could I win then?
I have no business to deal at this time and would get back on a date and time to press the next time you were there and I was wondering what I am doing 🙃
How to be a confident man is have some brains, stay in shape, get a good job, have other girls for options and learn to put your foot down and say, F You! Make em realize, you don't need them!
The one thing to take away from people like these is to understand not everyone has the same mindset as you. Some guys just want a relationship and stuff some just wanna work on themselves and their careers. Some smoke weed some drink we are all different. Dating in your 20’s is different for everyone. I hope no one takes what this guy says seriously only apply what is related to you
Many of these redpillers here would say is do your thing and don’t care about others. Tbh my mantra is treat other people as you would like to be treated. You know what will happen, if you go into a relationship yourself. You will probably be hella insecure and paranoid that your girl will be cheating because that’s exactly what you are participating in. But let’s put the moral aspect away. There is still the point of why even doing it. She will probably not leave her fiancé for you and you will probably catch some emotions along the way, the longer this is going. Sleeping with taken girls is messy. Let her whore around with someone else.
@@ThaMobstarr well, i caught her cheating a month after i quit my job. So losing these two things kinda hurt my self esteem, im still looking for another job and i kinda miss being the center of her attention. I guess im too weak mentally
I wholeheartedly agree with the idea of being your best, and working on yourself. However, don't expect it to translate into female company. Guys, you are a Ford F150... you can polish it, change the oil, lift it, etc... but it won't matter because the ladies are looking for a Gulfstream V.
A truly confident guy figures out a way to turn his F150 into a Gulfstream G550 and then flies it down the road that leaves most people thinking WTF did I just witness there? That's true confidence.
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Do historically masculine stuff, be useful
- learn to work on cars
- learn to work on a house
- learn some survival skills
- become comfortable in the wilderness
- make a reading list & finish it
- set daily/goals and hit them
Be self sufficient and don't rely on others to succeed
Golden 👍
And workout!! No guts over here. Stay sharp mentally and physically.
It takes 10,000 hours until you even start to be a master at something. Some of the greatest musicians in the world had those 10,000 hours when they were in their late teens. 10k hours is just the start of winning in a particular field. You really wanna win? Don’t be a jack of all trades. Master something.
Some guy in his 20’s who thinks he needs to know how to fix cars, fix his house, survive in the wild, in addition to stocks and finances, and getting in top bodybuilding shape, oh yeah and jujitsu and MMA… and reading philosophy… and this doesn’t even include your high income earning job that’s gonna take up a ton of your time, and your social life and picking up girls which you of course gotta do right? man you just can’t do it all. You’re gonna end up being able to do a lot of different things kind of shitty. You’re not gonna be winning, you’re gonna constantly be losing actually, because you never actually excel in one area. Mastering one or even a few things will increase your confidence more than holding yourself to that ridiculous “a man should be able to fix and do everything” standard. Just my philosophy about it.
@@asherray4969 agreed.
Amen.
Setting small goals and achieving them leads to success, happiness, and confidence
David goggins method right there
@@Stay_ClassyYT so did Joe Rogan. The key to the universe is confidence.
Just reached 315 squat for reps. Happy about it :D
definitely
@@kirapoodle nice one I only do 155 lol
Confidence come from experience.
Experience comes from effort and
Effort comes from within.
lift heavy things, put them down, and do that again repeatedly, often
@@RwP223 true! leveling up the inner self as well as the physical self via taking risks, getting outside of the comfort zone, and putting the work in to chase excellence and build extreme competency. can't think of a better confidence booster! besides F U money lol
Read books actively, not passively. Mental push ups go a long way.
@@maestroadam agreed! I jokingly call it going to the "brain gym", since I'm a personal trainer lol. but it's so true that you need to work on both your brains and brawn! I have some genius best friends that suffer from blue pill ways and oneitis... it's a shame since they're doing so well otherwise!
preferably two teens at a time
You can’t just do that, you need to work on social skills and confidence more than your body tbh. As a bodybuilder and competitive swimmer of 11 years, I didn’t get any chicks before I worked on my social skills.
These are my favorite videos you make. Quick 10 min videos in your car telling men just simply to get off your ass and better yourself.
Gamer here with a gaming channel. Can't agree with him more. Videogames are fun! And its fun to win! But when you shut the game off, that win is no longer relevant. Need to get some on the board IRL boys!
WHAT free games should I try? haven't played anything since SEGA's sonic.
@@ibizawavey8630 depends what type of game you like mate, arcade? Rpg? Shooter? You play for the story or the gameplay?
a waste of time and nothing else
Getting back in the gym has probably been my number 1 confident booster. My body weight is slightly down, but lean muscle is up and body fat is sitting around 14%. I get compliments on my physique all the time and this helps with confidence a lot. I have a background in TaeKwonDo and wrestling but I also started training in Krav Maga about a year ago. Getting pounded as a Krav Maga beginner and then kicking that same person's ass a year later is also a huge confidence builder. Lastly, making bank to the point where I bought my first $100,000 car was not only a confidence booster but also a reward for "chasing excellence" and "doing the work."
Which industry are you in? Can you tell me a bit about your work?
Remember, wins are accomplished on a gradient. By gradient we mean step by step. You don't jump from the first floor to the second in one leap - you take the stairs, usually one step at a time.
Sometimes when what you want to accomplish seems daunting, break it down into steps you can more easily achieve. This helps increase the odds of success to your favor.
Honestly, just forcing myself to do things that I am not confident in. Sure, I embarrassed myself a lot at first ( a lot!), but I learned from it and now I am very confident in social and other situations I was extremely terrible at. Practice and experience win big here.
Also, exercising and eating well to look good really helps. ;)
A mantra I repeat whenever I feel my confidence slip is this
"No matter what happens I'll be fine."
That girl blows me off in a public situation, I'll be fine.
Don't get the promotion, I'll be fine
Top things to boost my confidence are:
- having visible progress at gym
- doing it better than last time
- having successive wins at something
- having unserstanding of something that went wrong
Men are houses and woman are cars.
I say this because houses (men) go up in value while cars (woman) go down in value in the long run.
Correct me if I’m wrong.
What about a women scientist who gets better at research with age and eventually discovers a breakthrough
@@tylergrant4196 funny
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*mind freakin blown*
@@tylergrant4196 to me it’s like finding a rare car that goes up in value.
I would like to see you on Joe Rogan!
My people are waiting for his people to make the call.
Independence of Outcome. That's the key.
When it comes to "chalking up wins" take into consideration "winning the day"
Good solid advice. I want to add that, exercising really helps even if one can't build a 'ripped body'. Don't care about if you are ripped or not, focus on strength and endurance and keep exercising. It can be anything - weight lifting, bodyweight, hatha yoga (the hardcore type, that put stress on your body), martial arts, calisthenics, gymnastic or sports. If anyone wants to build confidence, relieve stress and anxiety or bring order in life, this is the first place one starts.
One of the things that made me gain more confidence was this:
stop looking for women's approval
focus on gaining more money
I used to lack of confidence so much months ago, but since I started to stop looking for approval and got some projects that gave me money, I've started to feel better about myself. Also, do some self-care every day (whatever it is, whether it's eating better or skincare, whatever, just do it.) I'm also starting a gym in the following weeks, so that keeps me motivated and confident.
Thank you Rich, for your videos, you've done such an incredible work and thanks to that I am starting to change my life and building myself up.
Two things have given me confidence. 1 - Being an entrepreneur my entire life. I run my own show and answer to no one but my clients. Knowing that making money rests squarely on my shoulders gives me bundles of confidence. 2 - Been lifting weights and practicing mma for 30 years. I am a big strong mofo. Years of natural built muscle. I am the biggest guy in the room 99% of the time. Whether it be by people in my circle or complete strangers, I constantly get comments or joked with about my size. As primitive as this is, it feels great knowing others are just a little bit scared to piss me off, lol. The confidence this brings me is immeasurable. Lift weights.
I got knowledge of self. Honestly nothing phases me at this point in life. Can't have my confidence rely on other men or women. I just focus on my hustle, my mental and physical improvement. That's how I elevate. God body.
Do you ever eat cold beans to improve mental toughness
Man!!!!!! , An entrepreneur in a car .The good ole days ! Great video
Something I'm doing to improve my confidence is eliminating social media from my life, more specifically Facebook. It's become a cesspool of trash ideologies and negativity in my opinion, and unfortunately I've allowed it to influence my thinking and my actions.
I predict that FB will eventually go the way of MySpace. Is FB fun? No. Is it a source of reliable information? No. Can you monetise it (unless you advertise)? No. So what the hell is it for, apart from boomer memes?
Rich - I wish I had someone like you back in my younger days - it should would have certainly helped me....
... I always tell guys to look into your TH-cam videos.
I spent my 20's mostly being a lazy twat. Now I'm 31 and going to the gym 5 times a week. No excuses. I don't want to get to 40 and be a waste of space.
Don‘t smash your body, though, bro! Rest is just as important as going to the gym.
Excellence in anything creates potential in everything
Just don't care about other peoples opinion unless you want to be like them. Simple
Yep, who wants to be like normies
Success breeds confidence
Rich . Great point . Being Alpha . Telling my teams and employees get the little wins to build confidence to take on the bigger fish is key
keeping promises to yourself is a good way to build self trust/confidence. even if its something small but do it consistently. like go walking 20 minutes a day for ex. or 3 times a week and go from there. once u master one than stack on another, etc.
what has helped me was all the losses, and rebounding from it. Knowing not many people could go through what I went through. Taking risks no matter what the cost of the loss. The wins only gave me tempoary esteem.
Fellas if you're in a rut do yourselves a favor. Don't be arrogant. Intentionally set the bar low. It will help you get those early wins under your belt and elevate you out of the situation. Then you can crack on to bigger challenges! Have a good one!
Missed these car videos man.
When I was studying to be a broker on Wall Street the head broker that I was working for told me and all the recent college grad‘s to go to the bar and hit on every hot chick we saw he said that was the best way to learn how to handle rejection. It stings a little at first but then you get ice running through your veins and you don’t really hear the nose anymore you only hear the yeses and then when he told us how to close The sale it really made getting girls a lot easier
The running sentences and grammar really make it sound like you work on Wall Street dude
Go for the big win 😎
Exactly this.
Options keep balance, and exercise offsets the crazy.
This advice is pure gold. I was lucky enough to have been told this by an older gentleman 5 years ago. I followed it, am still following it, and hope to follow it forever.
Video games do count, as long as they are competitive and measurable, especially if it's team game.
Same as watching sport and if you team wins/losses that highly affects T levels. There is study about it.
other ways of building confidence is progressing & achieving personal goals in your hobbies such as cycling or running up a steep difficult hill, or running or cycling x number of miles, getting your next colour belt in martial arts, learning new skills, fixing something different to fix, over coming problems. I've felt on top of the world when I have fixed my car at home with limited resources & tools by overcoming a problem at little expense -Especially if a garage/ mechanic has quoted me hundreds of £ to fix. Also building something for the house or garden or tree house for your kid with very basic DIY skills. Something that the average guy would pay a skilled professional to do. That sense of accomplishment & achievement is a genuine confidence builder ✊👌
Building physical strength via weightlifting gives you a huge boost in confidence. Working out in general and looking good as a result does wonders for your self confidence and self esteem.
Thanks, Rich. I am 28 and I am just like you in your 20's. I am locked in my job, not having any options. I MUST try to get out of there.
Don’t try. Do it. I was complacent in my twenties. Had low paying chit jobs, but I was on my path. Changing jobs is absolutely the quickest way to increase your salary. Oh, and be more than competent and network, network, network. I’ve rarely had an interview that was anything more than a formality.
This is a great video. Keep spreading this stuff to the younger generation guys. Don't let them walk into the minefield blindfolded like so many of us did.
Shiiiiiiiiid i seen a guy win 100 thousand competing at a madden tournament. But I understand what your saying thanks for all the information you give OG. I got my own business seling coffee now and yea my ex laughs at me but I know if I keep grinding at it then it pay off. Audi R8 has always been the first car I said I was going to get
See the issue with pro gamers is the chance of becoming one is essentially non existent. You either have to be a prodigy or you must practice so much it is no longer fun to do. In my opinion one would be much better off powering through learning a unplugged, physical skill or hobby than powering through a video game that could go out of style whenever a better game releases.
@@quincy-2000 I agree because your right i use to play madden so much to compete it wasn't fun anymore. I never thought about that fact thank you
I wouldn't laugh at a man or woman who knows how to make coffee. Quite the opposite. That is something I consider admirable. Coffee is serious stuff. It's not like you're just some schmuck handing out soda cans. Coffee damned well matters.
@@Biosynchro thank you I travel to different countries and bring back to America the best coffee I can find and I can't keep it in stock. My problem now is getting it thru customs fast enough before people get mad at me. Im waiting on some coffee from Brazil right now. I bought a home there 4 years ago and thats how I started my business
@@antoniorichardson6819 Damn, you really do mean it. 👍
Motto of my ancestral clan (Ross) is Spem Successus Alit or Success Nourishes Hope. Absolutely critical to keep those wins going
Spot on Rich , hands down the best -piece- on *confidence* in _MEN_
This is great, with surfing you need to start with a big foamy board and catch some small waves (wins) first. Also, it’s good to have other options beyond surfing, such as kitesurfing when the wind is strong, or powered paragliding when the wind is calm. Finally it’s important to expand your horizons (and give yourself more options): for example, Costa Rica is a great place to go surfing and closer to home, but the Mentawais is further beyond and gives you the opportunity to explore another part of the world.
I work in sales generation, I've become the best reps for a year a now. I have lost 60 pounds, raising my kids on my own and lifiting heavy..
Great video. I’ve often thought is it because I’m winning that I feel confident. Or is it because I feel confident that I win. Whatever the case your advice is spot on.
Much of life is a Catch 22. Gotta pry in there with leverage and get the flywheel spinning.
I'm old. I was blue pilled most of my life, but didn't know it as my culture is deeply steeped in it. I wish this infomation had been available in my time. I'm dealing with issues now because of your information. It's too late for some things, but never too late for everything. I appreciate your efforts.
I started gym training at 22 yo, now im 26, it works. It doesnt need to be weight lifting but i think you need to train to be confident. Also, dont forget to study/work, invest on yourself!
Learning a martial art is an amazing way to gain confidence. I achieved 4th Kyu in WA Do Ryu and felt the confidence ooze out of me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Confidence can come from facing you fears. Also, one need deep rooted understanding that will he live on knees or die on his feet life.
Competence breeds confidence
Always on point Rich.
I love your videos when your driving in your car.
This is gold Rich.
Confidence starts in the gym building a better body. Things tend to fall in line after that.
You're the man Rich, thanks for all your help!
Amazing advice 👏 ❤
Three words: DO THE WORK
I think it's time for you and Peterson to have a chat
Videos like this one are very helpful and are some of your best work. Keep 'em coming!
I agree with everything you said except for the video game competitions. As an ex competitive gamer I would say most of video games is a waste of time. And you don't realize that until you finally quit but unless there's a study that showed winning in video game tournaments doesnt get your testosterone up I don't believe it. (saying this as one of your fans who you heled completely change their life around, my story is crazy and would love to break it down for you sometime bc I think it could bring real value to others especially the guys who waste their lives away with video games. I was the bullied kid, had a shitty family, doctor's told me I was crazy, and now I'm the chad that anywhere I go eyes are on me)
Great advice. Both points are spot on
Quality stuff!
You need to have something you compete in and do well at to hang your hat on, its a niche that your suited for.
My example is when I started gaining muscle, that's when my confidence exploded. Women noticed me more, I got compliments from women and men, people subconsciously moved away in the crowd. Go to the gym.
took me a minute to figure out the garden tool reference lol
Wise words. Thank you!
"o just get a bunch of girlfriends and successes then youll be confident" -internet dating coach. Gee, never thought of that
Thanks for some great advice again Rich.
Thank you
Actually wining in the video games does work in terms it will rise your testosterone and exploration games do give you a dopamine rash. They are good at tricking your brain. But most of the time they will not grand you any recognition from the group and most of the time you don't get any monetary value out of them. Although you could say that some video games train your reflexes, your hand-eye coordination and multitasking skills, but they do nothing for your physical ability. Well unless you want be good at playing ping pong or want to be a quick draw gunslinger.
Top tips? I got one: Intention. Walk with intention. Speak with intention. Act with intention. Not only will you become more confident, others will see you as confident.
Love it brother keep going!
Rich, my dude, scars on a man are not ugly. Like unless it disfigures like half your face, you are good. You can't expect a dude to fight a bear and storm a castle and come back without a scratch. It can not have been something women ever selected against.
Great advise, great video
Love the content!! 💪
Love the alpha content. Doing the work.
Good stuff as always man.
Where can I find the video where you talk about the female general officer who wrote to you about me telling her about your excellent TH-cam channel!? I am getting much better in life thanks to you Sir! Becoming the best version of myself is happening right now. I am searching but there are so many great vids in that list. It has been around 2 years or less but I lately just woke up to it. But I didn't forget and look forward to listen to those very words from you in that video.
Thanks
Never put all your eggs in one basket keep your options open be aware of your thoughts what do you think of yourself how do you see yourself what do you tell yourself remember this if she walks away letter move on there's too many women out there you have more options than you realize the only way a woman can treat you like an option is if you let her if you let a woman treat you like an option it's because you don't know your true value get on your path and stay on your path no distractions
solid advice
Deep inside every man lies some great warrior. Don't give up your goals. And never forget: Losing a battle is not losing a war. The war is lost only when you surrender. If you see something as a failure, just lower the bar, and it becomes a victory. Every step taken towards your ultimate goal is a victory, not a failure. Learn to see obstacles on your road like a winner, not a loser. And don't go chasing anything else than your own goals. Modern occidental women are not worth the trouble they give anymore.
Stop drinking alcohol as well. I feel so much better each without the hangovers and much more motivated.
Just be a winner, bro.
I wish I'd gotten into fighting sports in my late teens and 20s.
Should winning in chess boost a man's confidence? Or does it have to be a physical activity?
In what do you win?
I am 17 years old. I got that “win” feeling when I have done great Trade in crypto, or looked at what I have done by my self with my projects ... But for most 17 years old this isnt Casual.
Where could I win then?
First Post!! Confidence is everything in dating and in professional life!
Success
Options
Wins
SOW 🌱
In her 20s she doesn't care about a guy that's responsible and has his shit together. She's going for the guy just out of prison.
Act like you know what you're doing. And believe it. And most people would think you're a God.
I have no business to deal at this time and would get back on a date and time to press the next time you were there and I was wondering what I am doing 🙃
I think if you hAve confidence I think you would distance yourself and others wouldn't you
How to be a confident man is have some brains, stay in shape, get a good job, have other girls for options and learn to put your foot down and say, F You! Make em realize, you don't need them!
The one thing to take away from people like these is to understand not everyone has the same mindset as you. Some guys just want a relationship and stuff some just wanna work on themselves and their careers. Some smoke weed some drink we are all different. Dating in your 20’s is different for everyone. I hope no one takes what this guy says seriously only apply what is related to you
Hey rich, i kinda wonder whats your take on still sleeping pretty much regularly with an ex whos already engaged?
Many of these redpillers here would say is do your thing and don’t care about others. Tbh my mantra is treat other people as you would like to be treated. You know what will happen, if you go into a relationship yourself. You will probably be hella insecure and paranoid that your girl will be cheating because that’s exactly what you are participating in.
But let’s put the moral aspect away. There is still the point of why even doing it. She will probably not leave her fiancé for you and you will probably catch some emotions along the way, the longer this is going. Sleeping with taken girls is messy. Let her whore around with someone else.
@@ThaMobstarr well, i caught her cheating a month after i quit my job. So losing these two things kinda hurt my self esteem, im still looking for another job and i kinda miss being the center of her attention. I guess im too weak mentally
I wholeheartedly agree with the idea of being your best, and working on yourself. However, don't expect it to translate into female company. Guys, you are a Ford F150... you can polish it, change the oil, lift it, etc... but it won't matter because the ladies are looking for a Gulfstream V.
A truly confident guy figures out a way to turn his F150 into a Gulfstream G550 and then flies it down the road that leaves most people thinking WTF did I just witness there? That's true confidence.
@@quantumpotential7639 I think F150 are superior machines.
In professional sports these days I'm not sure it's the winning that is the causal variable when it comes to the high T level!!!
I'm sure both the teams in the study had high T levels. It's just the winning teams have higher.
@@tylergrant4196 haha or the fact that PEDs are rife in professional sports now
My confidence has a direct correlation with my fitness the better I feel and look the more confident I am.