Bonus tips: * simplicity. A simple black top. Simple black pants. And some chain- like jewelry can easily slide under the radar. * I used to learn to make the most of what I had. Styling regular pieces in a vaguely alternative way was my friend. * I used to make alternative buttons with whatever I could find or make Kandi and wear those. DIY is great for subtle alternative fashion. * Lastly, like they said. Wait if need be. I'm 20, almost 21. And I am just beginning to dress in a way that makes me happy. It won't be forever. I promise. Stay strong, baby bat!
I am an alt person who actually relies on diy. The videos I watch all just say "Go to the store, buy this, and add safety pins." And it's genuinely not helpful. I'm a 13 year old who is barely even allowed to wear a black shirt. I've been thrifting for 4 years now, and I have a whole hidden bin full of my crafts which I change into in the school bathroom before I go to my class. I wish there were more videos that didn't just say "Wear demonias and decorate a black hoodie!" I don't even have a black hoodie, and I wish I did. I basically have to wait until Christmas to get "edgy" clothes since red is a Christmas colour and I can cut it up and make alt accessories, etc. I have made some diy myself out of just a plain long sleeve shirt and some socks. So if anyone is as far as me in the "You can't be emo" thing, you can always try using safety pins, staples, paper clips, etc for stuff. Remember that the grunge style was made for people who couldn't afford clothes, you shouldn't have to spend 200 dollars on each outfit.
That you! I’m 13 and TINY like tiny, tiny so it’s really hard to find cute clothes. I have never thought of using safety pins to diy my old clothes, so cool! I have some cute heart paper clips I could use maybe 🧐 I hate videos that are based around damonias, I want ones really bad but according to google my shoes size is barely above what a toddler would wear 💀 I keep thinking about making videos that could be helpful to middle schoolers, if I do I will use this advice next Christmas ima get more things I can diy THANK YOU FOR BEING GENUINELY HELPFUL
Finally someone else who isn’t allowed to wear a single black shirts. My parents are REALLY conservative but my mom was literally addicted to drugs at my age lol.
damn i rlly wish u guys were allowed more freedom to wear what u want as it isn't harmful and in fact helps in many different expressive ways. How is it now ?
I tried to ask my mom if I could shave my head because I don't like my long hair and I know there are some really cool things that you could do to it like non-permanent dyes and she flipped out and thought I was just having a mental breakdown,
Another good alternative for fishnets if your parents are more lenient are ripped tights, but not too ripped since they may show too much, they add a nice touch to an outfit depending on what style your going for
here i have some more tips: -wear fishnets under midi skirts. you can still maintain that edgy look without losing your m o d e s t y -if you wear colored small net fishnets (especially with leg warmers) they will look less "sExUaL". i don't know why, just trust me. if you can't wear fishnets at all, try with ripped tights, fishnets socks or funky socks in general. -accessories change the game. especially goggles or funky gloves completely change your outfit with no effort -put patches on everything. they're easy to make and hella cheap. if you don't want your parents to know what the patch says, write your message in russian or in some other language that they don't understand. -also, never underestimate scarves. they're the easiest way to color coordinate your outfit.
@@ink_puke_ omg TH-cam deletes comments sometimes just randomly if there's a cuss word or they detect a "rude" comment😭😭✋🏾 I doubt that's you tho, maybe write it in mixed lowercase and uppercase + numbers🤷🏾♀️
@@gglovesgorillazmj7784 oof, mine are like “as long as you don’t show ANY skin at all we won’t actively stop you, just look disapprovingly at the ‘satanic’ stuff” and that works well enough for me
im 14 and moved in with my grandma because she loves that im trying to express myself through style. my parents are soooo stereotypical and they think that the alternative subcultures deal with self harming, drugs, gangs, seggs and stuff so they don't like my style haha.
As someone who has conservative Christian parents and had a whole alt phase in high school (still kinda in it now but with better taste pfft) a lot of these are things I did as well and was able to be myself and express myself. Awesome tips!
@@littlemothasmr thiss, as an amab person I started with eyeliner in my waterline and now I do full winged eyeliner and wear a leather trench coat and they say nothing 😭☠️
There are a lot of 10-13 year olds starting to get into the alternative styles and I think this is a lot of help to them!! Since they are younger they won't be able to dress how they want and there parents are quite strict with this sometimes
Here’s another thing for having your parents trust you more: start talking to them, and telling them things. If you tell them things a lot, they probably won’t think you’re hiding anything.
My dad told me "it's better to do something and ask for forgiveness than to ask to do something and never get to try it" so I diy my clothes without asking lol
honestly, I’ve been surprised by my parents lately. My mom actually OFFERED to take me to hot topic without me even mentioning it (like excuse me what?) and bought me some (her words, not mine) “edgy christmas shirts”
i have very strict parents. the way i started dressing emo was i came to a compromise of what i can do and what’s ok and we built off of the compromise. that was a while ago now they are pretty ok with the way i dress
I was looking for a comment like this! I’m not personally hijabi but all of my cousins are. Trench coats and “monteaux” will be your friend! Loose, dark colored pants. If you can, wear looser ripped jeans with leggings underneath.
My parents won't let me be a teenager... my mom went through a goth faze and my dad was just a basic boy... They won't let me dress the way I want to or let me try to express myself. They already hate the fact I don't like wearing dresses and it sucks having parents that think that forcing negative things onto their child will turn me into their perfect expectation of what a child should be and not a small human that wants to explore the world and how they express themselves...
I know this for younger people with strict parents but you gave the best advice for someone in the professional field that wants to keep their alt style in the corporate world!
I'm 12, and I can tell you a REALLY GOOD tip: so I'm basically an art/fashion nut and my mom buys me a lot of the art supplies I want, whatever I need from Amazon and Etsy, because she loves my "creative side". She lets me DIY whatever I want because she likes seeing me occupy my time with something that isn't my laptop, so I use the art supplies to DIY every single one of my alternative accessories! Like, I have bought NONE of my alt accessories. And I wear them to school! I know it's not exactly easy to DIY clothes, and even I can't do it, so I take the clothes I have and fashion slightly alt outfits. Once I wore an egirl inspired outfit to school and she didn't even care because it was so mild. I even told her that it was an egirl outfit. Slowly, with the clothes she buys for me, I'll make the intensity of my outfit go up! And its foolproof! Because I choose my own outfits, and she can't stop me... because by the time I'm 18, I'll be full alt! :D I hope I helped! Have an awesome day/night :'D
Gosh same, my mom was alternative, she has her limits for me but I can still dress kinda alt, I'm 13 now but when I was 11, she was super strict, I dont get it, it was only 2 years ago too, weird how some parents can be that way
i remember my mom was kind of ok-ish(?) when i dressed in something simple and more grunge than alt fashion, and my dad looked me up and down and looked at me in disgust and so did my sister and he ranted for half an hour on how people are look at me weird. like bruh do i seem like i give a fck? but my very feminist aunt was pretty supportive and complimented me a lot and her kids were also fine with it so i was happy in the end
here’s my tips for hiding garments that my parents don’t personally like (fishnets, tights) so i was shopping with friends and i stopped into hot topic and stumbled apon the thin thigh highs, what i did was rip them to make ripped tights, so then since there socks you can tuck them down and throw leg warmers over so when i get to school or go out i just pull the socks up and they look like ripped tights. another thing to add to outfits is fishnet gloves like any kind of glove just hide it in your backpack
When I dressed more Masc my dad was like “Embrace your femininity” him not knowing I’m genderfluid and he made me wear a dress to my friends birthday. And I looked fricken punk and awesome in my pants and layers and I had to look like what society brands a ‘female’
@@maxxtries just know that even though we don’t know eachother, I accept you for who you are ❤️:) also dad’s homophobic too :( the only people I came out to was my friends
Here to boost the algorithm and also ask for more specific advice from anyone who happens to read this. So I'm 18, currently with no immediate ways to leave home, and my family is hyperreligious. I've been dressing alt (particularly goth) for a while but am always looking for ways to improve (and lessen the amount of uncalled for comments from my parents about the way I look). I want to look particularly in the realm of accessorizing, making patches, and DIY in general. This is all the clothing rules I have to follow because of my family's beliefs: - No makeup (I can sneak on a little mascara when they aren't looking or get away with slightly tinted lip balms and lip gloss but that's about it) - No jewelry (weirdly they haven't said much about me adding chains and safety pins to my clothes though, which took me a bit by surprise) - No pants/trousers/shorts (too "mAsCuLinE" and "iMmODDesT") - No short skirts (aka anything above knee-length) - No sleeveless tops (unless layered over/under something with sleeves) - No cutting/dyeing hair (this one bothers me the absolute most because lately I can't stand having long hair and have been looking for ways to make it at least appear shorter, but so far nothing really works because it's too long/thick/heavy for most of the tricks people come up with. Turns out most people don't know what to do with thigh-length hair that feels like it has the weight of an infant) I haven't tried fishnets and frankly feel scared to because tensions in my family are already high, and as a legal adult, if I go too far they might just freak out on me and kick me out. I'm caught in a weird grey area where I'm not ready to leave yet, but I don't have the protections I used to. I still want to continue branching out and experimenting with my style, but just know that I am kind of treading on eggshells here. Something I've wanted to do for a while is start painting patches and sewing them onto my old denim skirts and jackets. Band names are out of the question (they WILL dig through their lyrics and history meticulously just to make up reasons why I shouldn't be listening to them, just trust me on that one), and anything involving """"violent imagery"""" (basically anything with blood or skulls or whatever) is a no-go. However, things like bats, sfw quotes, spiderwebs, and more surreal artsy fartsy things will get me a weird look but usually won't start any kind of conflict. Any help is appreciated.
OH and another thing I should mention is that I'm plus size (ranging from US 1X min. to 3X at max) so if anyone has links to any kind of affordable size-friendly shops that ship to the US that I can check out lemme know, I especially like finding any kind of cool studded/chain/grommet/etc. belts, they can easily add a lot to an outfit that doesn't read as particularly alt otherwise^^^
you could totally get a sick look with like, a mesh top under a sleeveless top or even just sleeved shirts with cool midi/maxi skirts! if you can’t wear fishnets, regular tights that are more sheer are fun too, especially if you get different colors. and with your hair, i personally think braids would be cool, especially if your hair is long. i think the patches are a really cool idea also, denim jackets with patches are a big part of a lot of alt subcultures. best of luck with being able to dress how you want!
I love the feeling that I can start dressing alternative slowly bit by bit (I've already started and things are looking GREAT!) and my mom won't even notice until it's too late... and then she can't stop me anymore heheh >:)
Strangely when I was 16 my mom allowed normal or floral looking fishnets or black stockings in general because she thought I looked cute in them lol. I wore a pair to school that she approved of but apparently the school did not
i wear leggings over my fishnets and then take off the leggings when i’m in my car, i also have generic patches pinned over my patches they don’t agree with and then unpin them later
@@bethgilbert8041 alt isn't a mix lmao .It's a term that contains all of those styles (emo ,scene ,grunge ,goth etc.)And also you have to listen to music from that genre to be considered a part of it lol
@@grimch7325 so it technically is a mix of all of them huh that's confusing? U just explained to me that is a mix of styles emo, scene, grunge, goth etc? That's a mix of styles
i wanted to get baggy ripped jeans and my mother said " i will look like a scumbag" and then im like ??? i used to be a "basic white " GiRl too and then had a ToMbOy phase and i really want to dress altish now
Mine was less of a parents not wanting me to dress in a certain way and more of just me being high waisted making everything way too short for a teenager to wear. Buy cycle shorts, I literally still to this day wear them under any short dress or skirt and they come in various lengths so you can have ones where you can't see them from underneath your skirt but they just add an extra layer of protection or you can get ones that go almost to your knees which may be a better option if your parents don't like you wearing things that are too short. I know that this is something that most people already are aware of but just in case you aren't, you're welcome x
Parents have to remember that they were young once too. I'm sure many people that are now parents experimented with clothes and accessories to create their own style. They need to let their kids do likewise. I'm alt, and if I had ever had kids, and they wanted to be alt as well, then I would have said go for it. Let's go shopping. (Jan Griffiths).
thankfully i didnt have too many problems with my parents when i started dressing alternatively, but imma comment for the algorithm for the people who do need this. i know a friend of mine could have used some of these when we were younger.
My parents aren't nesasarily strict but we have a very strained relationship due to several unknown reasons so I am terrified to even dress slightly alternative around them THOUGH they both work and leave before me on school days 😌✨
Just to give an idea of how my parents are: when i was twelve, i was only allowed to wear polo shirts. My father absolutely hated t shirts cause he said i looked too relaxed and casual. And like. I was twelve??? You're saying a twelve year old shouldn't be relaxed???? My parents aren't that strict. They give me plenty freedom -mostly cause they have no idea what I'm doing. I'm usually in my room doing my own thing(...which is cause once i started going out more my parents locked me out of home without telling me why, and i later learned it was cause of "bad company"(she literally got all A's and the most we did together was science experiments and diy's-) Anyways...as i was saying, my parents aren't that strict, except when it comes to two things. Music, and clothes. Manners too but they've been ingrained in me since i was small so that's not really a problem(sucks that they don't make my brothers be polite, tho). The music part is only my father. He's very particular, and his tastes are "good music" and if you deviate from it it's "bad music", and if you listen to bad music, he will comment on it ceaselessly until that song no longer brings any joy. As for the clothing part...well, the first paragraph should be explanation enough 💀
thank u so so so so so much!! and actually being a good kid is the point that convinced my parents that what Im doing is alright all other tips are just as genius love your videos
When I was a kid/teen I thought I hated fashion. This was due to most woman’s fashion available in department stores in the 00’s not being in my style. Combined with media portrayal of girls who liked fashion as being vein and stupid (most of that media probably written by sexist men) And also whenever my mom took me shopping for clothes she made it a miserable experience because she would complain all the time and call herself fat. (She never insulted my looks and even frequently complemented my looks but it made me very uncomfortable that she was putting herself down .) we also have pretty different personal styles so I didn’t always like the things she insisted looked best on me. But when I got to college I realized that I actually love fashion! I always loved costumes, and one day I realized that costumes are clothes too, and styling an outfit isn’t that different than putting together a costume from clothes I already have. College was the first time I went shopping at a thrift store. I could buy clothes for crazy cheap without worrying about them being produced unethically and I wasn’t limited to whatever JC penny’s latest season was.
bleaching clothes (specifically black) is cool bc you can make a variety of designs and A few symbols and things you can draw on clothes or make jewelry that usually are ok: keys and locks, hands, hearts (you can make them broken or damaged for a bit more of a edgy look), stars, creepy smiles, bats, spiders, candles, sun/moons, ghosts (iffy) you can get wire and pliers from your local Walmart or most big shops like that and craft stores and just play around with bending it into shapes you like then just making a loop and putting on a chain (you can make homemade chains this way also) you can find a lot of inspo and tutorials on TH-cam tiktok and Pinterest! :)
I wasn’t allowed to wear corsets, boots, fishnets(but I was able to get away with the tops but not the tights), or dark eye makeup. So what I did was just wear a lot of lace, dark floral patterns, darker colors, no dyed hair, and dark lipstick. I would find spooky themed clothing and wear spooky tshirts, and wear band shirts or shirts to tv shows and movies that I knew weren’t too “scary” for my family members. I would also find items with buckles on them such as shoes, accessories, and items of clothing. And nothing too revealing. And I do remember having a secret wardrobe and putting on and taking off makeup and clothes at school.
Currently i live with my strict ahh grandparents (due to family issues) and they're really strict christians, they dislike when i wear anything even slightly alternative or not "normal." I might be able to move in with my mom at some point, my mom had an emo or alt phase so I know she wouldn't care (plus we both are kinda emo), but i want to be able to at least have some form of alt fashion to express myself in my current home. thank you so much, Rayne! I'm gonna try these and hopefully my grandparents won't mind
Also a good thing a knee high socks you can even roll them down if your parents do not like that but you should be good or try putting on your clothing and as soon as you’re out of the house layere some things over it you took with you like taking half of your outfit with you
Don’t Jude me. I am a 2010 baby and I wanna dress kinda fairy grunge or somewhere alternative but it feels like I’m to young I rush growing up, but can you help me?
i'm personally around the ages of 12-15, and my parents are pretty strict on what i wear. especially when it's long sleeved. i've just been ignoring them when they tell me "aren't you hot with that hoodie on?". heard it millions of times. it's getting old- like- they started saying it when i was 5. my relationship with my parents isn't good as i don't talk much around them- but is there like- any stores that are good to get alt outfits? i've heard of one called rockers and ravens or whatever it's called but i looked it up and it's all the way in Florida. i'm talking like in the Missouri area-
This is a bit helpful because my parents don't let me wear fishnets, PLATFORMS, more than 3 chains, and I'm not allowed to wear arm warmers or my leather chokers- it sucks because I'm old enough to have these things, and it doesn't make sense, even if I just buy them myself.
I'm watching this for the dress code side since I'm going from a "wear whatever" school to a private school where you must wear a collared shirt and belt loops in your pants, no school uniform luckily enough.
My dad doesn't even let me wear a chain on my pants because he thinks lesbians Only wear them and people will think I'm lesbian and he says he's not homophobic :/
As a mom living along the "Bible Belt" who identifies as Goth. I have to really tone it down because of where I live and social situations. I have some tips for anyone going through this lack of acceptance of any given expression + a mini storytime of a glimpse into the 90's for anyone interested. First: I can't emphasize the importance of style identity and self expression enough, especially to other parents. They are most likely my age or older. If they are, grew up in one of the most popular times for underground alternative styles to be accepted in- it was all over the radio, in magazines, in highschools, in malls, and movies. For the first time, an abundance of subcultures were really making their looks identifiable and growing in large numbers- depending on where they grew up. Self expression is so crucial to identity. My mom was an OG punk who also had a secret stash of clothes she would change into at parties, this was the late 70's-early 80's. I did the same thing in the late 90's-00's. Recently we talked and I never knew she hid her style from her mom. We laughed that I did the same thing! She didn't let me wear black growing up unless it was dress pants required for school. I always loved subculture and music. I friended fellow Punks, Skaters, Alts, Goths, throughout my highschool years and they weren't so hung up on my clothes, (I could only window shop and dream walking by early 90's hot topic) which I also had very, very few clothes to alternate between since my family was frugal, and have many siblings. Got the most backlash for my mismatched style from wealthier kids. Tip#1 Find out what your parent (s) will tolerate. Hippy and skater styles were the approved styles from my mom...so we compromised and I went for darker colors. Wore some of her old stuff when she offered it. Skate pants and baggy shirts were ok as long as they weren't black. So I left the house in a Navy or dark grey one like plain men's tees and put a choker on at school. Iron ons are good, if you want to sport a band logo but can't wear a black shirt. You really have to get creative. Accessories are the easiest way. Tip#2 Just ask your parents about their style in highschool or evolution of it, it may open doors of conversation with them taking steps towards acceptance of your style? Or if you share similar tastes in music? Just start asking them questions about their youth. Best of luck!
how i long for a single skull shirt. just one. my school is ridiculous on girl's dress code "boys, just wear clothes" "girls, no crop tops if youre attractive, no short-shorts if youre attractive, no dyed hair if youre attractive..." the list goes on, but only for attractive girls
Although, I can't really dress like this just now while still under my mother's roof I think even when I move out some of these tips will still be good. As, I like the idea of being "out there" without being "out there" if you know what I mean.
Hello! thank you so much for the tips. My parents always got PISSED if i wore black. Because its "bad" ig. and i couldn't buy alt clothing. I made myself some!
im glad to know that even though you've set some boundaries for your daughter (as she is younger) but are still letting her express herself the way she wants, and not judging her edgier taste in clothing!!! as someone who had a totally different, less "classic and casual" style from my parents, it was hard to get them to hear me out so to know you're supporting your daughter is awesome!!! thank you!!! p.s. the youtube channel "funkyfitz" recently uploaded a video called "22 school outfit ideas to look cooler than ur classmates" and only 2 of the 22 outfits include a miniskirt, the rest are pants, dresses, or midi skirts. i think it might be really helpful to help your daughter dress more alternatively and express herself while still keeping within the boundaries. best of luck!!!
My mom isn't strict, my dad is the problem 😒 I can't wear ripped jeans or anything with holes No short shorts No emo No "tight" items It's annoying beacuse I literally love ripped jeans I've started dressing a little fancier to adjust my style, I've started dressing with more jewelry or such, I'm just excited to wear what I want
One day I put on shorts that when to my knees and I wore long socks a long sleeve shirt and the only things that were showing was my knee caps, hands, and head and my mom still said I’m showing to much skin
if you buy clothes that look “normal” independently, but when you add them together look alt it actually helps
mhm!
That’s what I thought as well
@@dekusbed8541 yeah same
i always do this!!! it works
a while ago i convinced my mom to get me a “halloween costume” 😌👌🏿
my mom is like "as long as you're not dressing all black and look goth ill support you!"
mom
thats the problem😃
Same
Commenting for the algorithm because I needed this as a kid.
Bonus tips:
* simplicity. A simple black top. Simple black pants. And some chain- like jewelry can easily slide under the radar.
* I used to learn to make the most of what I had. Styling regular pieces in a vaguely alternative way was my friend.
* I used to make alternative buttons with whatever I could find or make Kandi and wear those. DIY is great for subtle alternative fashion.
* Lastly, like they said. Wait if need be. I'm 20, almost 21. And I am just beginning to dress in a way that makes me happy. It won't be forever. I promise. Stay strong, baby bat!
@@jasminelynch6570 TYTYTY I HAVE STRICT PARENTS AND FIND RANDOM THINGS TO ADD TO MY FIT AND ITS SO MICH BETTER JUST RANDOM ACCESSORIZING TY
Same 🤚
Me liking your comment because I need this as a teacher 😭🥴😅
I am an alt person who actually relies on diy. The videos I watch all just say "Go to the store, buy this, and add safety pins." And it's genuinely not helpful. I'm a 13 year old who is barely even allowed to wear a black shirt. I've been thrifting for 4 years now, and I have a whole hidden bin full of my crafts which I change into in the school bathroom before I go to my class. I wish there were more videos that didn't just say "Wear demonias and decorate a black hoodie!" I don't even have a black hoodie, and I wish I did. I basically have to wait until Christmas to get "edgy" clothes since red is a Christmas colour and I can cut it up and make alt accessories, etc. I have made some diy myself out of just a plain long sleeve shirt and some socks. So if anyone is as far as me in the "You can't be emo" thing, you can always try using safety pins, staples, paper clips, etc for stuff. Remember that the grunge style was made for people who couldn't afford clothes, you shouldn't have to spend 200 dollars on each outfit.
That you! I’m 13 and TINY like tiny, tiny so it’s really hard to find cute clothes. I have never thought of using safety pins to diy my old clothes, so cool! I have some cute heart paper clips I could use maybe 🧐
I hate videos that are based around damonias, I want ones really bad but according to google my shoes size is barely above what a toddler would wear 💀
I keep thinking about making videos that could be helpful to middle schoolers, if I do I will use this advice
next Christmas ima get more things I can diy
THANK YOU FOR BEING GENUINELY HELPFUL
Finally someone else who isn’t allowed to wear a single black shirts. My parents are REALLY conservative but my mom was literally addicted to drugs at my age lol.
damn i rlly wish u guys were allowed more freedom to wear what u want as it isn't harmful and in fact helps in many different expressive ways. How is it now ?
I mean- my parents aren’t that strict but my dad thought I was gonna kill someone because I was wearing black lipstick-
Casual
You ARE though. They key is to trick them into thinking you aren't. Godspeed.
@@chaoticfirearm lol-
My dad said I had “p r o b l e m s” for wearing black lipstick
PLSS
Im going to shave my head and she cant fricking stop me. What she gonna do?? GLUE IT BACK??
This actually made my day somehow😭📸
I tried to ask my mom if I could shave my head because I don't like my long hair and I know there are some really cool things that you could do to it like non-permanent dyes and she flipped out and thought I was just having a mental breakdown,
exactly. i do whatever i want because my parents will get over it eventually
I didnt ask my parents. I straight up did it when I was 13
i shaved my head completely without asking for permission. so liberating. do tell how it goes!!
Another good alternative for fishnets if your parents are more lenient are ripped tights, but not too ripped since they may show too much, they add a nice touch to an outfit depending on what style your going for
Especially like thinner black tights that have small holes/rips. It looks cool to also add safety pins too
@@ramenghost1870 my parents would say i look like a homeless scum and that will be over with those :,)
here i have some more tips:
-wear fishnets under midi skirts. you can still maintain that edgy look without losing your m o d e s t y
-if you wear colored small net fishnets (especially with leg warmers) they will look less "sExUaL". i don't know why, just trust me. if you can't wear fishnets at all, try with ripped tights, fishnets socks or funky socks in general.
-accessories change the game. especially goggles or funky gloves completely change your outfit with no effort
-put patches on everything. they're easy to make and hella cheap. if you don't want your parents to know what the patch says, write your message in russian or in some other language that they don't understand.
-also, never underestimate scarves. they're the easiest way to color coordinate your outfit.
omg my mom always says that only prostitutes wear fishnet tights ::::''')))
i don't know why but youtube deleted my comment
wtf it keeps deleting my comment
@@ink_puke_ omg TH-cam deletes comments sometimes just randomly if there's a cuss word or they detect a "rude" comment😭😭✋🏾 I doubt that's you tho, maybe write it in mixed lowercase and uppercase + numbers🤷🏾♀️
@@nadiaishimwe3663 thanks, i'll try again
My parents aren’t too strict idk why I’m watching this lol
Or at least...I dress edgy but “modestly” so it’s never been a problem
lucky like literally anything with chains or a skull on it my parents are like “thats satanic”
@@gglovesgorillazmj7784 oof, mine are like “as long as you don’t show ANY skin at all we won’t actively stop you, just look disapprovingly at the ‘satanic’ stuff” and that works well enough for me
same but i do have school dress code kinda like the same thing 🤣
Same, my parents literally don't give a damn unless it looks revealing or is ripped jeans (for some reason they hate those) idk what i'm doing here
im 14 and moved in with my grandma because she loves that im trying to express myself through style. my parents are soooo stereotypical and they think that the alternative subcultures deal with self harming, drugs, gangs, seggs and stuff so they don't like my style haha.
I really needed this. My parents think that because of the style I like I’m worshipping satan or something like that
same here
my mom always says that i have to wear soft girlygirl things because im a really feminine type ._.
Same it’s killing me
FRR like hunny it’s clothes
Frrr it’s just a style it’s not that deep
As someone who has conservative Christian parents and had a whole alt phase in high school (still kinda in it now but with better taste pfft) a lot of these are things I did as well and was able to be myself and express myself. Awesome tips!
@@littlemothasmr thiss, as an amab person I started with eyeliner in my waterline and now I do full winged eyeliner and wear a leather trench coat and they say nothing 😭☠️
There are a lot of 10-13 year olds starting to get into the alternative styles and I think this is a lot of help to them!! Since they are younger they won't be able to dress how they want and there parents are quite strict with this sometimes
When you're 19 but still desperately needed this vid😅
Here’s another thing for having your parents trust you more: start talking to them, and telling them things. If you tell them things a lot, they probably won’t think you’re hiding anything.
Selectively overshare with you parents! That’ll help them trust you better!!
Ahhh luv the tips! I can't get over how sick your hair is
Tysm!!! 💕🥺
My dad told me "it's better to do something and ask for forgiveness than to ask to do something and never get to try it" so I diy my clothes without asking lol
my mom doesnt even let me wear black hoodies because "its only for men" and wont let me cut my hair 😶
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ugh same😣
wtf color is not genderlized
@@ashleyfantasy13 i feel bad for you..
Same I can't even wear a black t 🎽
honestly, I’ve been surprised by my parents lately. My mom actually OFFERED to take me to hot topic without me even mentioning it (like excuse me what?) and bought me some (her words, not mine) “edgy christmas shirts”
i have very strict parents. the way i started dressing emo was i came to a compromise of what i can do and what’s ok and we built off of the compromise. that was a while ago now they are pretty ok with the way i dress
how did you make a compromise my parents don’t listen to me pls explain
Im a hijabi but i kinda love the goth style so im trying to slowly hint that to my parents
Best of luck
@@suhanijangid2275 tyy
@0 Jupiter 0 aw ty hope u find it
You can utilise long dark clothes inspired by tradgoth fashion. Im pretty sure it will fit well with hijab too
I was looking for a comment like this! I’m not personally hijabi but all of my cousins are. Trench coats and “monteaux” will be your friend! Loose, dark colored pants. If you can, wear looser ripped jeans with leggings underneath.
My parents won't let me be a teenager... my mom went through a goth faze and my dad was just a basic boy... They won't let me dress the way I want to or let me try to express myself. They already hate the fact I don't like wearing dresses and it sucks having parents that think that forcing negative things onto their child will turn me into their perfect expectation of what a child should be and not a small human that wants to explore the world and how they express themselves...
wait so ur forced to wear dresses ?
but i entirely agree with you
I know this for younger people with strict parents but you gave the best advice for someone in the professional field that wants to keep their alt style in the corporate world!
My mom is so strict EVEN THOUGH SHE HAD A ALT FASE when she was 10- she is now 33...im 11 sooo..
I'm 12, and I can tell you a REALLY GOOD tip: so I'm basically an art/fashion nut and my mom buys me a lot of the art supplies I want, whatever I need from Amazon and Etsy, because she loves my "creative side".
She lets me DIY whatever I want because she likes seeing me occupy my time with something that isn't my laptop, so I use the art supplies to DIY every single one of my alternative accessories! Like, I have bought NONE of my alt accessories. And I wear them to school!
I know it's not exactly easy to DIY clothes, and even I can't do it, so I take the clothes I have and fashion slightly alt outfits. Once I wore an egirl inspired outfit to school and she didn't even care because it was so mild. I even told her that it was an egirl outfit.
Slowly, with the clothes she buys for me, I'll make the intensity of my outfit go up! And its foolproof! Because I choose my own outfits, and she can't stop me... because by the time I'm 18, I'll be full alt! :D
I hope I helped! Have an awesome day/night :'D
Im 11 too
@@loveisloveloveislove8527 me too
Gosh same, my mom was alternative, she has her limits for me but I can still dress kinda alt, I'm 13 now but when I was 11, she was super strict, I dont get it, it was only 2 years ago too, weird how some parents can be that way
@@MidWestGem999 ikr 2 years is not even a large difference
I have strict Christian parents and this video just boost my confidence. I love this video and I appreciate how supporting you are
this is a great video for alt people in the workplace! started a new job last week and have no idea what to wear
i remember my mom was kind of ok-ish(?) when i dressed in something simple and more grunge than alt fashion, and my dad looked me up and down and looked at me in disgust and so did my sister and he ranted for half an hour on how people are look at me weird. like bruh do i seem like i give a fck? but my very feminist aunt was pretty supportive and complimented me a lot and her kids were also fine with it so i was happy in the end
here’s my tips for hiding garments that my parents don’t personally like (fishnets, tights)
so i was shopping with friends and i stopped into hot topic and stumbled apon the thin thigh highs, what i did was rip them to make ripped tights, so then since there socks you can tuck them down and throw leg warmers over so when i get to school or go out i just pull the socks up and they look like ripped tights.
another thing to add to outfits is fishnet gloves like any kind of glove just hide it in your backpack
When I dressed more Masc my dad was like “Embrace your femininity” him not knowing I’m genderfluid and he made me wear a dress to my friends birthday. And I looked fricken punk and awesome in my pants and layers and I had to look like what society brands a ‘female’
@@maxxtries just know that even though we don’t know eachother, I accept you for who you are ❤️:) also dad’s homophobic too :( the only people I came out to was my friends
@@maxxtries aww thanks so much boo
My parents won't let me dress emo/goth/alt and finally someone made this vid-
I just got two shirts from hot topic (black ones one band one one anime) so thats what i got so far and black jeans!
i dont have strict parents but im 12 so this is pretty helpful and i really hope i can wear whatever i wanna wear by the end of this year
Here to boost the algorithm and also ask for more specific advice from anyone who happens to read this.
So I'm 18, currently with no immediate ways to leave home, and my family is hyperreligious. I've been dressing alt (particularly goth) for a while but am always looking for ways to improve (and lessen the amount of uncalled for comments from my parents about the way I look). I want to look particularly in the realm of accessorizing, making patches, and DIY in general. This is all the clothing rules I have to follow because of my family's beliefs:
- No makeup (I can sneak on a little mascara when they aren't looking or get away with slightly tinted lip balms and lip gloss but that's about it)
- No jewelry (weirdly they haven't said much about me adding chains and safety pins to my clothes though, which took me a bit by surprise)
- No pants/trousers/shorts (too "mAsCuLinE" and "iMmODDesT")
- No short skirts (aka anything above knee-length)
- No sleeveless tops (unless layered over/under something with sleeves)
- No cutting/dyeing hair (this one bothers me the absolute most because lately I can't stand having long hair and have been looking for ways to make it at least appear shorter, but so far nothing really works because it's too long/thick/heavy for most of the tricks people come up with. Turns out most people don't know what to do with thigh-length hair that feels like it has the weight of an infant)
I haven't tried fishnets and frankly feel scared to because tensions in my family are already high, and as a legal adult, if I go too far they might just freak out on me and kick me out. I'm caught in a weird grey area where I'm not ready to leave yet, but I don't have the protections I used to. I still want to continue branching out and experimenting with my style, but just know that I am kind of treading on eggshells here.
Something I've wanted to do for a while is start painting patches and sewing them onto my old denim skirts and jackets. Band names are out of the question (they WILL dig through their lyrics and history meticulously just to make up reasons why I shouldn't be listening to them, just trust me on that one), and anything involving """"violent imagery"""" (basically anything with blood or skulls or whatever) is a no-go. However, things like bats, sfw quotes, spiderwebs, and more surreal artsy fartsy things will get me a weird look but usually won't start any kind of conflict. Any help is appreciated.
OH and another thing I should mention is that I'm plus size (ranging from US 1X min. to 3X at max) so if anyone has links to any kind of affordable size-friendly shops that ship to the US that I can check out lemme know, I especially like finding any kind of cool studded/chain/grommet/etc. belts, they can easily add a lot to an outfit that doesn't read as particularly alt otherwise^^^
you could totally get a sick look with like, a mesh top under a sleeveless top or even just sleeved shirts with cool midi/maxi skirts! if you can’t wear fishnets, regular tights that are more sheer are fun too, especially if you get different colors. and with your hair, i personally think braids would be cool, especially if your hair is long. i think the patches are a really cool idea also, denim jackets with patches are a big part of a lot of alt subcultures. best of luck with being able to dress how you want!
when your 14 and your mum doesnt let u buy anything u like but u watch it anyway-
I love the feeling that I can start dressing alternative slowly bit by bit (I've already started and things are looking GREAT!) and my mom won't even notice until it's too late... and then she can't stop me anymore heheh >:)
Strangely when I was 16 my mom allowed normal or floral looking fishnets or black stockings in general because she thought I looked cute in them lol. I wore a pair to school that she approved of but apparently the school did not
i wear leggings over my fishnets and then take off the leggings when i’m in my car, i also have generic patches pinned over my patches they don’t agree with and then unpin them later
My classmates keep calling me emo and shit, WHEN IM NOT EVEN DRESSING EMO.. I want to dress alt tho sooo 😌
Alt is emo I'm a alt. Irl to but alt is a mix of goth emo grungy looks and a bit of a mix of e-girl
@@bethgilbert8041 alt isn't a mix lmao .It's a term that contains all of those styles (emo ,scene ,grunge ,goth etc.)And also you have to listen to music from that genre to be considered a part of it lol
@@grimch7325 so it technically is a mix of all of them huh that's confusing? U just explained to me that is a mix of styles emo, scene, grunge, goth etc? That's a mix of styles
@@grimch7325 I also enjoy metal rock music and I listen to some nightcore
@@grimch7325 wdym music from that genre?
My mom thinks if I wear black I’ll do drugs....? But I don’t wanna dress like a basic white gurl anymore.
same my mom says she will never buy me oversized or black clothes anymore😭
i wanted to get baggy ripped jeans and my mother said " i will look like a scumbag" and then im like ???
i used to be a "basic white " GiRl too and then had a ToMbOy phase and i really want to dress altish now
*That one disliked is the parent*
I don't have strict parents, I just need ideas for work clothing. I want to trick my boss, not my parents hahahah thank u for the tips 💕
I really appreciate this video and how respectful you are! Great role model 👏🏼
Mine was less of a parents not wanting me to dress in a certain way and more of just me being high waisted making everything way too short for a teenager to wear. Buy cycle shorts, I literally still to this day wear them under any short dress or skirt and they come in various lengths so you can have ones where you can't see them from underneath your skirt but they just add an extra layer of protection or you can get ones that go almost to your knees which may be a better option if your parents don't like you wearing things that are too short. I know that this is something that most people already are aware of but just in case you aren't, you're welcome x
This helped me bc i really want to be grunge and alt but my parents are strict
Parents have to remember that they were young once too. I'm sure many people that are now parents experimented with clothes and accessories to create their own style. They need to let their kids do likewise. I'm alt, and if I had ever had kids, and they wanted to be alt as well, then I would have said go for it. Let's go shopping. (Jan Griffiths).
thankfully i didnt have too many problems with my parents when i started dressing alternatively, but imma comment for the algorithm for the people who do need this. i know a friend of mine could have used some of these when we were younger.
👁️👄👁️I feel seen
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same omgg
My parents aren't nesasarily strict but we have a very strained relationship due to several unknown reasons so I am terrified to even dress slightly alternative around them THOUGH they both work and leave before me on school days 😌✨
I always use thin leggings instead of tights!
Just to give an idea of how my parents are: when i was twelve, i was only allowed to wear polo shirts.
My father absolutely hated t shirts cause he said i looked too relaxed and casual. And like. I was twelve??? You're saying a twelve year old shouldn't be relaxed????
My parents aren't that strict. They give me plenty freedom -mostly cause they have no idea what I'm doing. I'm usually in my room doing my own thing(...which is cause once i started going out more my parents locked me out of home without telling me why, and i later learned it was cause of "bad company"(she literally got all A's and the most we did together was science experiments and diy's-)
Anyways...as i was saying, my parents aren't that strict, except when it comes to two things. Music, and clothes. Manners too but they've been ingrained in me since i was small so that's not really a problem(sucks that they don't make my brothers be polite, tho). The music part is only my father. He's very particular, and his tastes are "good music" and if you deviate from it it's "bad music", and if you listen to bad music, he will comment on it ceaselessly until that song no longer brings any joy. As for the clothing part...well, the first paragraph should be explanation enough 💀
"Be a good kid"
That's hard but I'll try
The fact that this is even a tutorial at ALL should speak volumes :(
I’m literally obsessed with the purple and green make up
this really helped, i have an asian dad and religious mother so aha its hard to dress the way i like sometimes
Now I just need to figure out how to get my parents more accepting before coming out 👍🏼
thank u so so so so so much!! and actually being a good kid is the point that convinced my parents that what Im doing is alright
all other tips are just as genius
love your videos
Ty for the recommendations it rlly helped I wish u were my parent it’s hard to dress the way I want or express myself as a twelve year old
I just feel somewhat glad that my mom is fine with me dying my hair, because she herself loves to dye her hair
When I was a kid/teen I thought I hated fashion. This was due to most woman’s fashion available in department stores in the 00’s not being in my style. Combined with media portrayal of girls who liked fashion as being vein and stupid (most of that media probably written by sexist men) And also whenever my mom took me shopping for clothes she made it a miserable experience because she would complain all the time and call herself fat. (She never insulted my looks and even frequently complemented my looks but it made me very uncomfortable that she was putting herself down .) we also have pretty different personal styles so I didn’t always like the things she insisted looked best on me.
But when I got to college I realized that I actually love fashion! I always loved costumes, and one day I realized that costumes are clothes too, and styling an outfit isn’t that different than putting together a costume from clothes I already have. College was the first time I went shopping at a thrift store. I could buy clothes for crazy cheap without worrying about them being produced unethically and I wasn’t limited to whatever JC penny’s latest season was.
bleaching clothes (specifically black) is cool bc you can make a variety of designs and A few symbols and things you can draw on clothes or make jewelry that usually are ok: keys and locks, hands, hearts (you can make them broken or damaged for a bit more of a edgy look), stars, creepy smiles, bats, spiders, candles, sun/moons, ghosts (iffy) you can get wire and pliers from your local Walmart or most big shops like that and craft stores and just play around with bending it into shapes you like then just making a loop and putting on a chain (you can make homemade chains this way also) you can find a lot of inspo and tutorials on TH-cam tiktok and Pinterest! :)
I wasn’t allowed to wear corsets, boots, fishnets(but I was able to get away with the tops but not the tights), or dark eye makeup. So what I did was just wear a lot of lace, dark floral patterns, darker colors, no dyed hair, and dark lipstick. I would find spooky themed clothing and wear spooky tshirts, and wear band shirts or shirts to tv shows and movies that I knew weren’t too “scary” for my family members. I would also find items with buckles on them such as shoes, accessories, and items of clothing. And nothing too revealing. And I do remember having a secret wardrobe and putting on and taking off makeup and clothes at school.
Currently i live with my strict ahh grandparents (due to family issues) and they're really strict christians, they dislike when i wear anything even slightly alternative or not "normal." I might be able to move in with my mom at some point, my mom had an emo or alt phase so I know she wouldn't care (plus we both are kinda emo), but i want to be able to at least have some form of alt fashion to express myself in my current home. thank you so much, Rayne! I'm gonna try these and hopefully my grandparents won't mind
slowlyyy edging into telling my parents how i wanna dress😍😍
Also a good thing a knee high socks you can even roll them down if your parents do not like that but you should be good or try putting on your clothing and as soon as you’re out of the house layere some things over it you took with you like taking half of your outfit with you
Me: *sad I can’t dress alt cause my parents wouldn’t let me buy clothes like that*
Also me:*sees this video*
THANK YOU
Don’t Jude me. I am a 2010 baby and I wanna dress kinda fairy grunge or somewhere alternative but it feels like I’m to young I rush growing up, but can you help me?
turtle necks are good too!
i'm personally around the ages of 12-15, and my parents are pretty strict on what i wear. especially when it's long sleeved. i've just been ignoring them when they tell me "aren't you hot with that hoodie on?". heard it millions of times. it's getting old- like- they started saying it when i was 5.
my relationship with my parents isn't good as i don't talk much around them-
but is there like- any stores that are good to get alt outfits? i've heard of one called rockers and ravens or whatever it's called but i looked it up and it's all the way in Florida.
i'm talking like in the Missouri area-
Unfortunately there aren’t many alt stores around they are hard to come by. When I was younger I mostly relied on thrift stores and DIY
i love your makeup!!!
I know I'm late, but how long did it take you to get your clothes???
I’ve probably spent like 4 years actually building up a wardrobe I like
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
I wish I had find this video sooner. It's really great!
my parents: letting me dress how I want to
new school: **SUPER STICT DRESS CODE**
Me: *-_-*
I really like the way you did your eye shadow in this video ;)
This is a bit helpful because my parents don't let me wear fishnets, PLATFORMS, more than 3 chains, and I'm not allowed to wear arm warmers or my leather chokers- it sucks because I'm old enough to have these things, and it doesn't make sense, even if I just buy them myself.
i wanna be their friend :-( they're so cute 😔
Be mine lol :)
I don't know why I'm watching this, I'm 29yo, independent and my parents weren't even stricts 😂 I died my hair red when I was 15.
I'm watching this for the dress code side since I'm going from a "wear whatever" school to a private school where you must wear a collared shirt and belt loops in your pants, no school uniform luckily enough.
My dad doesn't even let me wear a chain on my pants because he thinks lesbians Only wear them and people will think I'm lesbian
and he says he's not homophobic :/
My mom didn't let me buy a shirt with a skeleton on it because its "not appropriate for my age" it was def appropriate in 5th grade, it should be now-
Can you pls make a summer outfit video?? U have the best style!!
As a mom living along the "Bible Belt" who identifies as Goth. I have to really tone it down because of where I live and social situations. I have some tips for anyone going through this lack of acceptance of any given expression + a mini storytime of a glimpse into the 90's for anyone interested.
First: I can't emphasize the importance of style identity and self expression enough, especially to other parents. They are most likely my age or older. If they are, grew up in one of the most popular times for underground alternative styles to be accepted in- it was all over the radio, in magazines, in highschools, in malls, and movies. For the first time, an abundance of subcultures were really making their looks identifiable and growing in large numbers- depending on where they grew up.
Self expression is so crucial to identity.
My mom was an OG punk who also had a secret stash of clothes she would change into at parties, this was the late 70's-early 80's. I did the same thing in the late 90's-00's. Recently we talked and I never knew she hid her style from her mom. We laughed that I did the same thing!
She didn't let me wear black growing up unless it was dress pants required for school. I always loved subculture and music. I friended fellow Punks, Skaters, Alts, Goths, throughout my highschool years and they weren't so hung up on my clothes, (I could only window shop and dream walking by early 90's hot topic) which I also had very, very few clothes to alternate between since my family was frugal, and have many siblings. Got the most backlash for my mismatched style from wealthier kids.
Tip#1 Find out what your parent (s) will tolerate.
Hippy and skater styles were the approved styles from my mom...so we compromised and I went for darker colors. Wore some of her old stuff when she offered it. Skate pants and baggy shirts were ok as long as they weren't black. So I left the house in a Navy or dark grey one like plain men's tees and put a choker on at school. Iron ons are good, if you want to sport a band logo but can't wear a black shirt. You really have to get creative. Accessories are the easiest way.
Tip#2 Just ask your parents about their style in highschool or evolution of it, it may open doors of conversation with them taking steps towards acceptance of your style? Or if you share similar tastes in music? Just start asking them questions about their youth. Best of luck!
how i long for a single skull shirt. just one. my school is ridiculous on girl's dress code
"boys, just wear clothes"
"girls, no crop tops if youre attractive, no short-shorts if youre attractive, no dyed hair if youre attractive..." the list goes on, but only for attractive girls
hey rayne i wondered if you could do a video on how to dress alternatively during the summer btw love your vids :D
also instead of fishnets u can use legwarmers or long socks
Although, I can't really dress like this just now while still under my mother's roof I think even when I move out some of these tips will still be good. As, I like the idea of being "out there" without being "out there" if you know what I mean.
Thx so much! I love alt fashion but im kinda young and this helped!
Me tryna figure out how to do school with strict parents…
Others: *finish dressing in they house*
Me: **finish dressing and makeup in the elevator**
That hair is just ooooo 😙🤌 beautiful
Hello! thank you so much for the tips. My parents always got PISSED if i wore black. Because its "bad" ig. and i couldn't buy alt clothing. I made myself some!
I’m the parent who’s trying to find modest inspo for my 10yr old daughter. I can’t do mini skirts. Or super cropped tops
im glad to know that even though you've set some boundaries for your daughter (as she is younger) but are still letting her express herself the way she wants, and not judging her edgier taste in clothing!!! as someone who had a totally different, less "classic and casual" style from my parents, it was hard to get them to hear me out so to know you're supporting your daughter is awesome!!! thank you!!!
p.s. the youtube channel "funkyfitz" recently uploaded a video called "22 school outfit ideas to look cooler than ur classmates" and only 2 of the 22 outfits include a miniskirt, the rest are pants, dresses, or midi skirts. i think it might be really helpful to help your daughter dress more alternatively and express herself while still keeping within the boundaries. best of luck!!!
Omg I need this type of content in my recommendation
I don’t have strict parents with clothing but thanks for the tip
My mom isn't strict, my dad is the problem 😒
I can't wear ripped jeans or anything with holes
No short shorts
No emo
No "tight" items
It's annoying beacuse I literally love ripped jeans
I've started dressing a little fancier to adjust my style, I've started dressing with more jewelry or such, I'm just excited to wear what I want
commenting because i needed this like 2 years ago
That moment when all alt kids have strict parents
One day I put on shorts that when to my knees and I wore long socks a long sleeve shirt and the only things that were showing was my knee caps, hands, and head and my mom still said I’m showing to much skin
dark academia is my vibeee i just don’t have the confidence to wear it to school or out lmao
i put on mary janes and white stockings and asked my mom if they would pair well with a shirt/skirt and she went
"that looks like lingirie"
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now i gotta hide all my stockings and shoes
Does anyone know a good place to get coloured tights? Loved those purple ones 😍😍