Black women need to normalise wanting the easy life. Stop the thinking that you need to prove a point by withstand evil. Let yourself get run out of a bad job, a bad culture, a bad country. Some people just want to drag us by the hair through all that is unholy, do not stand for it in the name of 'I proved something to myself'. You proved that you can tolerate abuse. This is not victim blaming just telling you that in future, DO NOT DO THIS. The people watching you deal with that indignity are not getting the point you are trying to make, in fact to them, they take the continued engagement as licence to continue acting a mess like that.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I agree. But I still wanted to complete it for myself more than them. I look back and I am very proud of myself. But now I have new limits and boundaries in place
Agree! My mental health is too important to stay in a bad situation. I left a job after 4 days of orientation. I saw the writing on the wall and didn't even bother to report for training. Totally toxic! Hard pass!
@@daebak_hana girl, I know look at the interview process and if I detect even a little off behaviour from any of the panel members, even if it's two people exchanging a weird glance or anyone showing me a cold attitude, I'm OUT. And I stay away.
@@tobes_x never do this again. We cannot be the ones that provide narcissists and psychopaths with an outlet for their cruelty. The day you cry at a job is the day you quit. Set your life up for this moving forward. I'm now in a position to ghost any employer when they try to act a mess.
I moved to the UAE a year after you to teach and there's so many parallels with your story and mine. I'm still out here nearing the end of my two years and while I am mostly enjoying my experience, this country is not for the faint-hearted. You will be tried and tested so many times and even question your worth, but along the way, you'll meet some outstanding people who will restore your faith in humanity. For anyone that is thinking of moving out here, I definitely say go for it, but just ensure you do your due diligence!
Hi, I come from an arab background and I can tell you that yes, there are dubai kids who have bad manners. they can be super spoiled, most of them if not all, have nannys and help at home, parents don’t spend enough time riasing their kids. super spoiled, everything gets handed to them. As an arab we DON‘T APPROVE 😪
It's an experience. Even if someone doesn't like it I actually recommend it. You learn alot. I've lived in 13 countries, the UAE was actually one of my favorite experiences but for certain personal reasons. Def. not the environment cause I could pass on that 😂
Funny you should say that I experienced this literally. I used to admire My neighbour’s grass and tried my best to get my lawn to look like hers but never could see the beauty of mine. One day as I drove in she called to me and I stopped to talk to her. Something caused me to look across the fence to my lawn and saw how beautiful it was I could not believe it! This was a lesson to me 😂❤
This issue is widespread, even in Asian schools where the focus seems to be on financial gain rather than valuing educators. You're right about the students; many appear self-centered and often lack basic manners towards their peers and teachers. It can feel as though they're constantly scheming against you behind your back. There's a noticeable absence of transparency, professionalism, and respect. Unfortunately, those who seem to thrive in this environment are often the ones who betray other foreigners, showing a lack of integrity.
Such an open and honest video!! Love the authenticity of it all❤ The driving in Dubai is vile, they don’t value their lives on the road. We are SO proud of you and your achievements🎉❤
As a black guy i'm not surprised to hear there is alot of racism towards black ppl in Dubai. I was talking to this guy from Dubai when i was in Birmingham and i mentioned to him that it would be nice to live in Duabai for a bit and he told me no dont go there, i assumed it was because i was black and he knew what the ppl are like and was warning me without mentioning my colour.
I only feel bad for people coming from 3rd world countries where they got less opportunities. 1st world people come from a place of naivity, thinking the rest of the world is like their home country.
I'm a melanated American, and with the U.S. being a melting pot, the melanated here are able to experience firsthand how other races feel about us. I have zero desire to visit any country that treats its women as third class citizens. A lot of those Arab countries have more respect for cows than women. Which is mind blowing to me because women are the ones who give them life. There are very strained relationships between melanated Americans vs Indians, Asians, and Arabs in the U.S.. They build businesses in our neighborhoods despite not liking us as a people, because they like our money, and we are major consumers. Just based upon the racist way they treat us here, I wouldn't dare step foot in their countries.
please keep your channel!!! it is a light!!! your motivational videos are a gift! and your personality in vlogs and storytime videos are spirit-lifting!!! we hope to see you sooon!!! xx
Thank you for posting this video and not sugar coating your experience. I really appreciate it. I was considering moving to Dubai or Qatar to work but nah I'm not about to deal with the tomfoolery you described. As a Black woman myself, I'll stay in London for the time being.
Also! I had family friends come from Dubai to visit us and their kids who were under 12 kept saying the n word. It irritated me so much! They were impossible to take out in public..i kept explaining why it was wrong but they laughed at me and said all their friends say it too…dubai just dont care
@ i had to give them a shake because their useless mother wouldn’t say anything. She would just say “kids dont say that” while smirking…teaching manners definitely comes from parents actions too.
In my 34 years of being here in this chaos I've learnt to trust my gut if I feel off I take note of that instead of ignoring it some doors are best left shut. Never feel guilty for feeling the way you do, because there's always a rational reason behind it.
Thank you, this was a great video. I've been eagerly waiting for you to upload this :) - I'm in the UAE as a teacher and my experience is very much the same... counting down until my contract is up. All the best with your next venture.
I stumbled across this video (first time here) and loved it. Thanks for sharing. It’s refreshing to hear someone say they are proud they stuck it through a hard time and know the lessons were meaningful. Now that you have stick to your boundaries and don’t put yourself through that again. - Love from a black girl that’s been there 🤎
this is the case EVERYWHERE unfortunately. Good luck being a brown or black teacher anywhere in Europe (except for maybe GB). Super traumatic things hapen here, daily 😢
Tell ur story, don’t compare yourselves to white women, I tell u what, black women bully white women, how about that… I should know I married a Jamaican man and nothing but vile abuse and I’m talking the worst… his sisters supported and said I’d lied… my experience with black British people has been horrible, and I’m from Cumbria hadn’t met a black person till I was 19… I used to feel such enormous empathy, but not now. Narcissistic and entitled springs to mind… most people have a hard life period… such is life. Victim mentalities… ugh
@@shadowlatifah So you're married to a black man, supposedly traumatised by black women but you're in the comments section of one? It sounds like you're obsessed. I hope your Jamaican in-laws continue to bully you :)
Your video randomly popped up on my feed. I’ve been in and out of Dubai since 2021 and I can say that the ‘why’ is soooo key. Dubai is a super fast place in every sense of the word and you need to find something to ground you if not you will get lost (sink or swim) plus the Dubai depression is real, it can feel lonely (but I’d say that for a lot of cities if you are just moving and don’t really have a community there already) it’s hard to make meaningful relationships in Dubai but there are some good quality people out there still. Anyways I enjoyed hearing your experience from a teaching perspective (I’m not in the field but I’m not surprised to hear that). Dubai really is what Nigeria could’ve been like - the good, the bad and the ugly. lol
My friend works in one of their universities. All true! Staff literally spies on her during her lectures. She has to enter the premises at 8am and then iron doors close and you can't get out. Facilities such as the gym, cannot be used by staff, even while they are on a break. Scary...
Oh yes, and students are ultra rich and they all MUST pass. When they don't get a high mark, they then negotiate with her, bullying her into giving them a higher mark...crazy
I did not have that experience at all and I was in education. This is weird. Sounds like it's just that particular organization not all of them are good. I did what I wanted to at my schools. 😂😂😂😂 This just sounds super weird.
Babygirl, hope you don’t have any plans of revisiting Dubai. You know how they feel about exposé 😮 - very informative and shocking and yes you should definitely be proud of yourself x
Lmao! I’m laughing because everything you said is accurate. I’m 42 years old. When I was 29-31 I taught in Abu Dhabi and If I closed my eyes I would feel like these were my words. We would say the UAE stands for “Usually Ain’t Easy”. It’s the prettiest nightmare. Pretty on the outside, f--d up in the inside. I made great friendships though. I’m still friends with today. I was single back then and swore I’d never step foot back in the UAE. Now I’m married. I would only go back if I was working from home or my husband is the only one working. I personally cannot be around those folks anymore. My skin was so messed up. I had a chronic cough. My right hand was crippled from stress. I stayed sick I’m the hospital. But the non-work lifestyle (vacations, hotels, restaurants, and saving money) are great. I left and returned to the USA and allowed my mother to nurse me back to health. The education sector is completely f--d up and the people in it are equally f--. Bless you dear. It took me years to heal mentally, emotionally and physically after I left. ❤
Im currently at 9:00 and you still have not really said much. Some of us are watching this to know what to take caution on, so it really doesn't help when people stall, ramble, and digress when getting to the subjectmatter.
You have no idea how much I appreciated this candid outlook. I worked in Dubai for a short time & loved it. Second time, not so much for various reasons I won’t get into that are similar to yours! And the manners, oh my word!! I had to restrict the South London from appearing frequently!😅❤
Everything you faced I faced. The stages of grief. The on edge feeling. Crying constantly at work. Feeling peak anxiety because you have no job security. Management issues. Fear instilled into all of us. Contract changed all the time so no consistency at all. It was a 360 from my previous jobs. I felt so drained after the two years. Faced it all working for a university in Riyadh. The students were lovely for the most part but the toxic work environment really took a bit on my physical health
Students all wanted the best grades without sincerely wanting to be tested for their ability. And teachers were punished for maintaining their ethics and morals with co workers and students. I also met the weirdest people of my life, from super toxic to just plain weird with a chip on their soldier. Everything you said hit the nail on the head. I’m from London too but I found working in this university so overwhelming. Loved saudi and will miss it but suffered physically and mentally with my health
I’m American born and raised but of Ethiopian descent. I’ve lived in Dubai for over 7 years . I absolutely love it but I’m a business owner and make my money outside of Dubai. I think living in Dubai as a foreigner and working can offer a bad experience especially if you are culturally different. Mannerisms are different and can be frustrating to westerners who think their way is THE way. The UK and America are exactly the same except you get to complain openly about your grievances. With that said; don’t move to Dubai as a worker. You must come as an established entrepreneur with money in your pocket if you are not able to assimilate to Emirati culture.
You are describing my experience in the Navy, on my second ship. In your negatives, i recognized the anxiety and the walking on eggshells. I like the way you describe it as a lack of professional safety.
My father worked in Qatar and from what I saw people had a good life there. His friends were mostly South Asian and the kids were in American international schools and had American accents.
Hi , the number of times I shouted yes and shook my head throughout this video is crazy !!! lol. I am an American currently working and living in Kuwait ( arab country). Everything you said about the school culture is so apparent. The kids are brats, the parents are disgusting, they act like we are nannies who teach, the admin is horrific and the infrastructure of the building is jail like ! The school truly ruins your time in a country. Its my first time abroad, honestly, I am tossing my brain around if I want to stay for the second because of the things that I am experiencing. Everyone always feel exhausted and annoyed at the place. Mind you, This is AMERICAN school but only few American LMAFOO. The jokes write themselves. The people are backstabbers, jealous and rude. One of them cut me in line and almost got too close to me. I wanted to break her finger, the rudeness is unhinged. I work at KG department and its crazy with the amount of obligations/ harassment you get. The kids and parents know they are in power which is very debilitating. Lets talk about how these kids are spoiled and not capable of the work given to them. Parents expected miracles when the kids are not capable of the grades they are getting. I feel the same about my last US school: we had a happy, professional and community school. I miss those people dearly. I feel the same way about my mental health. I feel it hits harder that I am living here. Kuwait is okay but very restrictive and boring. The racism is so big. Omg. I am surprised that Dubai is restricted, I thought it was more westernized. There is so much more but I feel your pain. So happy you made it out. Thank you for your videooooo !
This is soooo interesting coming from an American you know!! I think it’s the same in all international schools which is just SAD! Lawddd I’m glad I’m out. But I’m hoping you find your silver linings and achieve what you wanted to achieve when you first set out xx
You guys need to look into how these countries were built … a lot of blood and slavery … still existing today 😬. They don’t care for their own … who are you?
@ I am so sick of people like you coming into comments downgrading people experiences. Yes we know all countries have bloodshed but doesn’t that mean we have to stay quiet and take it on the chin. It is what it is . America has history of bloodshed but that doesn’t stop people from coming over or complaining about it .
Yeah! I wish I knew the truth before. I still would have gone but I just would have been so much more prepared mentally and emotionally! I would have lowered my expectations to the groundddddd looolll
@@tobes_xThank you for sharing your experience. I was looking at moving to another county after China, last year, but I’m back in South Africa, took a yr off to study again, just needed to take a break before working in another country again, and really choose what country to move to. Also, I felt the same when I moved to China - what the school management told parents versus what is actually happening. However, the Chinese students are quite respectful, and Chinese parents respect your opinion as a teacher - or that was my experience. Be blessed and wish you all the best on your journey going forward!
I've been waiting for this video finally and thank you so much for being honest i really appreciate it atleast now I have an idea what to expect 🙏 And all the best Tobes❤
I wish I had met you when you were here! It isn't easy and even I'm considering going back home after year one. Thank you for being so honest as very few people have been and I think the city is massively missold online.
It's not just about Dubai, it's when you relocate to any country. There's culture shock, changing your mentality. It takes years to understands cultural nuances, like the manners and how/why things are different. Learning about Islam helps because then things you see as rude, are actually just different ways of doing things and respectful in a different way. It's definitely not easy settling in a new country, no matter what country it is.
How comes you didn’t consider applying to another school? I’m sure there’s bound to be other schools which is better than the one you experienced. Good and bad schools everywhere. I’m considering moving there to teach, anywhere’s better than schools/kids in 🇬🇧
I’m anxious just listening. Sorry you went through that. Sounds extremelyyyy toxic. I’m new to another country the GCC and I’ve noticed the lack manners as well. No please, no thank you, no sorry.
I lived in Dubai for 10 years. I got there when I was 18 and left at 28, now I live in Canada. Dubai is not for everyone! If you are not white and from a first world country, you will experience racism and discrimination down to where you can live and how much you get paid. People will talk down to you and question you always! Worse, if you come from countries that practice DEI, you won’t survive for long out there. It is a bubble, but you also have to create a bubble for yourself and learn how to switch off from work otherwise you’ll be very unhappy. The Arabs there are insufferable, avoid them and their children at all costs. Don’t work in any kind of a front facing, customer service type of role. Don’t work for the government or government agencies, don’t work in schools, restaurants, malls, or “local” companies etc. Work only for a multinationals, not regional companies but MULTINATIONALS preferably western ones because those values will translate into the office and they treat, pay and interact with their employees better. You need tough skin, an “I don’t care” attitude and to be able to dish the same racism/discrimination they throw at you, if someone is being hostile or backhanded don’t smile or be friendly with them (obviously don’t be rude) but fix your face to let them know you’re not the one. Focus on the money and lifestyle, save like crazy, live a good life and ignore all the other nonsense. I met my husband and got married there as did a couple of my friends, so there are some good ones out there. But, I definitely don’t recommend bringing a man over there, the lifestyle is overwhelming and you’ll most likely lose him in a couple of months if he’s not grounded in something that’s bigger than him/you/your relationship. All that said we do talk about moving back at some point as a money grab.
Totally resonate with the thing you said about proffessional safety. No matter what genre you work in I felt the same. Worst anxiety I've ever felt in my life. I worked in different fields and it was the same.
Your experience as an educator in the Dubai school (not talking of Dubai as a whole) is same with other expensive/high paying schools even in Nigeria, the only difference is that you @Tobes will probably get a preferential treatment above your fellow black teachers because you speak the queens English (we call it phonetic)
@@tobes_xPlease don't say so. Be open minded. There are lots of British schools that would appreciate your skills and expertise. Besides, you get to enjoy lots of perks. However, the decision is always up to you.
Community man😅😅😅 that was so funny. You are completely right about this. I know many married men who went to Dubai and all of them have a new girlfriend every few months, no matter if their wives live in Dubai or in their home country.
To be fair, this is the way life is all over the world. I left my country to work in a first world country and it’s been hard! I know what’s keeping me here, and I’m determined.
I'm listening to you, talk and looking at you and you remind me of my 20 four-year-old daughter, could you look like her? And it's very difficult to hear your frustration, and you having to walk on eggshells and hear all kinds of unpleasantries from the staff and the kids. I'm glad that you had the experience and you were able to live through it and come home. Don't put yourself through that anymore. Piece is everything. I'm wishing you the very best of all things in your travels.And in your life, god bless you, little girl
Out of curiosity why didn't you try another school? I've heard certain nationalities tend to have fear but most Western passport holders, you can easily change schools so there's not really that same fear. Also to answer your question, please doesn't really exist in Arabic. Saying please and thank you isn't a thing. "Min fadlik" is technically please but it's a very formal thing to say and would only be done in specific circumstances where you'e almost begging a person. Instead Arabs tend to say, May Allah reward you instead of thank you but that would be a bit odd to say to someone none Muslim who doesn't speak Arabic because you won't know what it means. Hope that helps :)
Also yeah there's a different mentality when someone is paying for an education and what's expected of teachers, my friend works for a higher level government school and I have another Irish friend also doing the same. It's a London thing, you don't understand it cause you're from London haha. I'm from Bham but lived in London so I get it but Londoners are a bit in their own bubble compared to the rest of the UK and we find you a bit annoying but cause I lived in London I can get along with Londoners so I see both sides but most Londoners don't seem to understand much outside of London so other UK people find it hard to connect. Also Londoners tend to just chat about how great London is and slightly look down on the rest of the UK.
Sorry for the long comments but about the men, so true 😂 If you meet a man out there it's okay but if you take a British man over. Suddenly he thinks he's Brad Pitt cause they're all wowed by the British passport 🤣
Safe ? Dubai is the safest country in the world stop with racism saying that is the equivalent to whitey saying be safe in Africa take your shots and pack food with you it’s so racist… I’m so sick of the never been out of the state before spewing these ignorant safety remark about Dubai y’all sounds dumb af.
Excellent video Tobes! Liked and Subscribed. I may have to leave my comfy Miami for a minute and visit your beloved London, and the City of London. I may add Lagos and Abuja to my itinerary/voyage/trek after watching hundreds of Nollywood films. 😉😂
The analog clock isn't common worldwide, most countries use the 24 hour clock so terms like "quarter past two" won't be understood by many. The 12 hour clock is a very British tradition.
This exactly the experience i have for 8years now here,no proffessional safety, especially for us africans. You will not get the position or be moved out of your job if someone gossips about you cos they dont like you. I lost 2 jobs in a toxic culture just because the trainer thought i wasnt fit to do the job after working there for 3weeks. ITS TERRIBLE.
I can feel and see the Serious trauma being unpacked, it’s written all over and I know there is this thing where really good people give loads of rationale to try to re frame a bad situation,make sense of the absurd, awful experiencing, to sound positive, proactive, fair, balanced,hopeful….focus on the nice things to survive…especially people with heart and sincere integrity. It’s nice you are doing the critique of your time there 100% constructively, start with all the appreciations, the positives in order to jump into the serious dysfunction etc…however I can imagine living in a parallel world with zero felt or assured guarantees of rights, supports when the system is incredibly biased to the individuals who tattle, maliciously, for no reason, that can get you banged up or in trouble there innocently…having a fear based life with uncertainty around sincerity and little proxy dictatorship children with no boundaries would be a horror movie 😢..it’s like how can you be clever and submissive enough to stay under the radar, non stop pleasing but trying to do your job properly ,when even that isn’t guaranteed a free pass…ugh…it’s really a wake up call to anyone wanting to go work in a regime based country.💔gosh and the lack of ease of walking! I’m so with you ! I found that so hard in Dubai myself…I love walking! You are such a lovely person with candour, sincerity and authenticity and I bet you’re absolutely amazing in the classroom❤❤❤
I WISH YOU HAD GIVEN examples of what happened...you just told us ABOUT IT but didnt' talk directly about it...I believe you but I hope you understand what I'm saying. I'ts like saying "he was so mean,OMG" vs "he came close to my face and yelled ##### at me," regularly, etc.
If you are going to a foreign country to live/work, wherever that is you have to research the culture. They are not going to adapt their culture to please you. You are the one that is going to have to adapt to them. There are plenty of forums online discussing life in Dubai, saudi, Kuwait etc. So there is no excuse going their with eyes wide shut. I've visited dubai and felt pretty safe there, the crime rate is extremely low. It's a Muslim country so you have to abide by their rules. The only place where i had to cover up was when i visited a mosque otherwise i wore regular clothes, i even went to the beach in regular swimwear. I traveled on the public bus and in taxis and felt very safe. Most of the people in dubai you meet on the streets are not Emirati, they are foreign workers as they make up the majority of the population. To say they don't have manners is funny to me because in places like new york people don't even say goodmorning if they ride the elevator together or work at the same place. For me visiting there i know i couldn't live there for a long period, the lack of natural vegetation was so depressing. But if I'm their to make money and as long as they are not harming me i will stay in my bag until my contract is cover and keep to myself.
I live in Dubai and my experience is completely different I think it’s because I work for myself and I love my job. I’ve heard about schools in Dubai it sounds horrible. I was in situations where I was not working for myself and yes if it’s toxic it toxifies your whole experience
@@daniella8400 yeah sure but I have plenty of black friends who absolutely love it here... but sure im not black, like to respond on the internet to a public video you need permission based on your race... I literally didnt negate her experience just said mine was different. also I said I can hear that her school was horrible everyone would feel like they want out of that toxicity, regardless of race.
I’m from the U.S after seeing the election, I’m on the search of moving out the country. I was thinking of going Dubai and work in finance with my accounting background. But after hearing what the principal said something racist to you…. I don’t know why 😂! I think as black women we have to be aware that anti blackness and racism exist around the globe even though Dubai have this brand that they welcome other races and cultures …. It’s just gonna happen hopefully I’ll have a chance to travel to see but I hope I don’t work in a racist and toxic environment
You are in for a shock. You will find USA and Europe are the least racist. But you carry on dreaming that other countries are going to be more welcoming to you. A huge reality check is coming your way.
I beg your pardon you want to leave the USA and thought about living in an Arab country as a Black WOMAN 😳? I respectfully ask to you to look into the history of the Middle East, and their relationship with BP and how they CURRENTLY treat BW who ‘work’ in their countries 😬
I do not understand how black people do not understand the racism in the middle east. They had a slave trade for 2000 years!!!! During which time 18 million Africans died, and that is the conservative number. Many of them still believe that they practice slavery ethically. I kid you not. There are countless videos online of Arab anti blackness. I mean c'mon. Look how they treat each other.
likely microaggressions that often go unnoticed by many people. Common phrases used such as I don't consider you African is an example where they want to differentiate you from the Africans who are there to clean toilets and care for children. Or telling you speak English so well. Or where are you really from. The microaggressions are recycled sentences and you hear them over and over again and your radar will go off when you hear them.
@autumnred2288 don't come to the Bronx then.😂😂 I teach there now and the kids lack manners BUT the difference is is that I can correct them and the kids make the adjustments. I teach 9th graders.
I was a secondary teacher in London with multiple teaching agencies. It’s normal for teaching agencies to offer international job roles. However, I quickly noticed agency was consistently offering job roles in Dubai. Seems like a job many international teachers don’t want to take. Dubai is a new city in comparison to London, it’s trying to compete in a global scale. That’s why they’re looking to take the professionals out of every successful western country, yet make it near impossible for them to become Dubai citizens.
@ are u well in the head?? I was watching this video randomly before a job interview. I get anxiety and muddle my words. Gtfo im sick of people like u who take everything so personal. Dont worry. Its not a compliment towards YOU.
The issue with this video is that you didn’t give any tangible examples. It seems you were scared of everything there and this feeling overtook your perceptions. I also worked for de organized company and changed job. It was much better. Not all companies / schools are the same. But clearly the environment in dubai is competitive. Westerners coming to dubai with a sense of entitlement and superiority is also insane!
I would not even vacation there. Don't you remember that girl they enslaved? They took her passport and she ended up having to be smuggled out of the country.
I’m so sorry to hear you had to go through all that. Dubai is just fake and falsely presented as this glittering hub of progress, but it’s actually the opposite. The city was built upon hierarchical labor system, which from the beginning divided people based on their nationality and ethnicity. Also Dubai’s rise as a global city has been built on exploitative and unethical practices, especially towards migrants. The system is just simply racist. Thank you for sharing this, and I wish you all the best for your future career! Take care x
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miss u used to confuse me with my indian friends all the time though
I would love to know how you got into teaching abroard, i had a family member do this, (Abi Dabi must ask if her ecperience was similar) but i think its good for ourselfs and our children to know we can dream bigger. Thank you ❤
Understandably your perspective is informed by you being very London-centric, e.g. the please and thank you thing is very cultural.. many of these differences are found in countries / societies all over the world but agree not everyone is made for living abroad it requires an adaptive mentality
Thank you so much for being real about your experience. Super sad that some students were so ignorant and racist. Says a lot about the parents...but if you don't know any better your children won't either. I had no idea Dubai was that nuts! Good on you for surviving it all and coming out wiser in the end!🌎♥️✌️
I would appreciate it if you could've mentioned the undercover racist comments said by the Principle. I feel that as a race we often get exposed to various underhanded comments by others in various settings that we've no idea how to respond or teach our children how to respond which will help to empower us when dealing with such people or being in a setting you may not be familiar with. Thank you anyway for your insight on your experience
I like you. You're an interesting girl. It's nice to see one of the good ones. Try to stay Pure for God in this evil world. You're doing great. A true soldier.
Lmao @ Dr. Umar's worst nightmare 🤣. I'm a black woman living in Dubai. I have been here for almost 8 years and this is so true. Never had a long term relationship in all my time here.
But who would you have a relationship there with. It would have to be with another foreign worker because those Emirati men will not be seriously interested in you. They marry their own.
@@ariamason9324 90% of the population here is expats so yeah it will definitely be a foreigner like myself,. It just sucks dating here like she said. At least for me its been a dud
Black women need to normalise wanting the easy life. Stop the thinking that you need to prove a point by withstand evil. Let yourself get run out of a bad job, a bad culture, a bad country. Some people just want to drag us by the hair through all that is unholy, do not stand for it in the name of 'I proved something to myself'. You proved that you can tolerate abuse. This is not victim blaming just telling you that in future, DO NOT DO THIS. The people watching you deal with that indignity are not getting the point you are trying to make, in fact to them, they take the continued engagement as licence to continue acting a mess like that.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I agree. But I still wanted to complete it for myself more than them. I look back and I am very proud of myself. But now I have new limits and boundaries in place
I had to learn this the hard way. It so freeing when you release that need to prove to them you’re strong.
Agree! My mental health is too important to stay in a bad situation. I left a job after 4 days of orientation. I saw the writing on the wall and didn't even bother to report for training. Totally toxic! Hard pass!
@@daebak_hana girl, I know look at the interview process and if I detect even a little off behaviour from any of the panel members, even if it's two people exchanging a weird glance or anyone showing me a cold attitude, I'm OUT. And I stay away.
@@tobes_x never do this again. We cannot be the ones that provide narcissists and psychopaths with an outlet for their cruelty. The day you cry at a job is the day you quit. Set your life up for this moving forward. I'm now in a position to ghost any employer when they try to act a mess.
I moved to the UAE a year after you to teach and there's so many parallels with your story and mine. I'm still out here nearing the end of my two years and while I am mostly enjoying my experience, this country is not for the faint-hearted. You will be tried and tested so many times and even question your worth, but along the way, you'll meet some outstanding people who will restore your faith in humanity.
For anyone that is thinking of moving out here, I definitely say go for it, but just ensure you do your due diligence!
YES! Agreed agreed agreed
Hi, I come from an arab background and I can tell you that yes, there are dubai kids who have bad manners. they can be super spoiled, most of them if not all, have nannys and help at home, parents don’t spend enough time riasing their kids. super spoiled, everything gets handed to them. As an arab we DON‘T APPROVE 😪
I am so so sorry, you experienced so much racism 😢
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Racism wasn't mentioned. Quit looking for it.
I don't get the fascination with Dubai. I have absolutely NO desire to go there but to each it's on. Just the heat is enough to turn me off.😐
It's an experience. Even if someone doesn't like it I actually recommend it. You learn alot. I've lived in 13 countries, the UAE was actually one of my favorite experiences but for certain personal reasons. Def. not the environment cause I could pass on that 😂
Costa Rica my future retirement spot
Not Dr Umar shoutout 🤣🤣😩. I love your quote “Grass isn’t greener on the other side it’s greener where you water it”. 🙌💪🏿
Funny you should say that I experienced this literally. I used to admire My neighbour’s grass and tried my best to get my lawn to look like hers but never could see the beauty of mine. One day as I drove in she called to me and I stopped to talk to her. Something caused me to look across the fence to my lawn and saw how beautiful it was I could not believe it! This was a lesson to me 😂❤
Why go to a country that believe it's okay to abuse women. Some people really forget the culture of others.
Why anyone would move to dubai is beyond me
Completely beyond me! Leave a liberal place to go to a discriminatory, backward mentality, religious place? Just for money? Nope!!
I'm from Israel so moving to Dubai is 100% moving up the ladder for me lol
Thats how I feel about the UK 🤣 why anyone would want to live or move there is beyond me
This issue is widespread, even in Asian schools where the focus seems to be on financial gain rather than valuing educators. You're right about the students; many appear self-centered and often lack basic manners towards their peers and teachers. It can feel as though they're constantly scheming against you behind your back. There's a noticeable absence of transparency, professionalism, and respect. Unfortunately, those who seem to thrive in this environment are often the ones who betray other foreigners, showing a lack of integrity.
Yesssss! Accurate. It’s a shame it’s the same in other Asian schools
Such an open and honest video!! Love the authenticity of it all❤
The driving in Dubai is vile, they don’t value their lives on the road.
We are SO proud of you and your achievements🎉❤
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As a black guy i'm not surprised to hear there is alot of racism towards black ppl in Dubai. I was talking to this guy from Dubai when i was in Birmingham and i mentioned to him that it would be nice to live in Duabai for a bit and he told me no dont go there, i assumed it was because i was black and he knew what the ppl are like and was warning me without mentioning my colour.
Yeah all those places are hell holes. When I was in the military, they would say that all the time.
It's a dystopia, you go there to make some money and cut!
I only feel bad for people coming from 3rd world countries where they got less opportunities. 1st world people come from a place of naivity, thinking the rest of the world is like their home country.
I blame people who go there tbf 😂 tf do you expect??
Can't stress it enough, BLACK PEOPLE, AVOID UAE at all cost
I'm a melanated American, and with the U.S. being a melting pot, the melanated here are able to experience firsthand how other races feel about us. I have zero desire to visit any country that treats its women as third class citizens. A lot of those Arab countries have more respect for cows than women. Which is mind blowing to me because women are the ones who give them life. There are very strained relationships between melanated Americans vs Indians, Asians, and Arabs in the U.S.. They build businesses in our neighborhoods despite not liking us as a people, because they like our money, and we are major consumers. Just based upon the racist way they treat us here, I wouldn't dare step foot in their countries.
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please keep your channel!!! it is a light!!! your motivational videos are a gift! and your personality in vlogs and storytime videos are spirit-lifting!!! we hope to see you sooon!!! xx
Thank you for posting this video and not sugar coating your experience. I really appreciate it. I was considering moving to Dubai or Qatar to work but nah I'm not about to deal with the tomfoolery you described. As a Black woman myself, I'll stay in London for the time being.
As a black woman/man with black sin, avoid UAE. Take it from someone who lived there for 7 years. In mild term, That country hates black people!
Also! I had family friends come from Dubai to visit us and their kids who were under 12 kept saying the n word. It irritated me so much! They were impossible to take out in public..i kept explaining why it was wrong but they laughed at me and said all their friends say it too…dubai just dont care
In USA they wound get smacked in the face
@ i had to give them a shake because their useless mother wouldn’t say anything. She would just say “kids dont say that” while smirking…teaching manners definitely comes from parents actions too.
In my 34 years of being here in this chaos I've learnt to trust my gut if I feel off I take note of that instead of ignoring it some doors are best left shut. Never feel guilty for feeling the way you do, because there's always a rational reason behind it.
Thank you, this was a great video. I've been eagerly waiting for you to upload this :) - I'm in the UAE as a teacher and my experience is very much the same... counting down until my contract is up. All the best with your next venture.
I stumbled across this video (first time here) and loved it. Thanks for sharing. It’s refreshing to hear someone say they are proud they stuck it through a hard time and know the lessons were meaningful. Now that you have stick to your boundaries and don’t put yourself through that again.
- Love from a black girl that’s been there 🤎
Proud of you! You survived 👊 All the best on your future endeavors
I'm sure the white female teachers have a completely different experience. Thanks for sharing hun.
Without a shadow of a doubt! Thanks for watching
this is the case EVERYWHERE unfortunately. Good luck being a brown or black teacher anywhere in Europe (except for maybe GB). Super traumatic things hapen here, daily 😢
Tell ur story, don’t compare yourselves to white women, I tell u what, black women bully white women, how about that… I should know I married a Jamaican man and nothing but vile abuse and I’m talking the worst… his sisters supported and said I’d lied… my experience with black British people has been horrible, and I’m from Cumbria hadn’t met a black person till I was 19… I used to feel such enormous empathy, but not now. Narcissistic and entitled springs to mind… most people have a hard life period… such is life. Victim mentalities… ugh
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@@shadowlatifah So you're married to a black man, supposedly traumatised by black women but you're in the comments section of one? It sounds like you're obsessed. I hope your Jamaican in-laws continue to bully you :)
20:27 I laughed so hard 😂
And as a teacher, who once relocated… I felt this in my soul. I’m glad you came out wiser💖
Your video randomly popped up on my feed. I’ve been in and out of Dubai since 2021 and I can say that the ‘why’ is soooo key. Dubai is a super fast place in every sense of the word and you need to find something to ground you if not you will get lost (sink or swim) plus the Dubai depression is real, it can feel lonely (but I’d say that for a lot of cities if you are just moving and don’t really have a community there already) it’s hard to make meaningful relationships in Dubai but there are some good quality people out there still. Anyways I enjoyed hearing your experience from a teaching perspective (I’m not in the field but I’m not surprised to hear that). Dubai really is what Nigeria could’ve been like - the good, the bad and the ugly. lol
Their own women are a thousand light years behind the men so I can only imagine how they treated a black woman!!!
I think its where you focus your attention. You will see what you want.
@@heatherheaney4060 hi so i live in algeria, an arab country, and yes, our women are like property. hope this helped
@heatherheaney4060 Sounds like you're not focus your attention on reality 🙄
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Girllllll!! As a UK returnee, everything you’re saying I dealt with for nearly 5 years, except I was in Abu Dhabi 😭
Are schools organised in Abu Dhabi?
Why live in a place that you don’t like?
Girl, I felt every SECOND of this video - I'm currently in Qatar and I'm over it haha.
My friend works in one of their universities. All true! Staff literally spies on her during her lectures. She has to enter the premises at 8am and then iron doors close and you can't get out. Facilities such as the gym, cannot be used by staff, even while they are on a break. Scary...
Oh yes, and students are ultra rich and they all MUST pass. When they don't get a high mark, they then negotiate with her, bullying her into giving them a higher mark...crazy
I did not have that experience at all and I was in education. This is weird. Sounds like it's just that particular organization not all of them are good. I did what I wanted to at my schools. 😂😂😂😂 This just sounds super weird.
Experienced this in Riyadh. I loved the country. But the university I worked for and the company I was contracted with destroyed my mental health
Babygirl, hope you don’t have any plans of revisiting Dubai. You know how they feel about exposé 😮 - very informative and shocking and yes you should definitely be proud of yourself x
Lmao! I’m laughing because everything you said is accurate. I’m 42 years old. When I was 29-31 I taught in Abu Dhabi and If I closed my eyes I would feel like these were my words. We would say the UAE stands for “Usually Ain’t Easy”. It’s the prettiest nightmare. Pretty on the outside, f--d up in the inside. I made great friendships though. I’m still friends with today. I was single back then and swore I’d never step foot back in the UAE. Now I’m married. I would only go back if I was working from home or my husband is the only one working. I personally cannot be around those folks anymore. My skin was so messed up. I had a chronic cough. My right hand was crippled from stress. I stayed sick I’m the hospital. But the non-work lifestyle (vacations, hotels, restaurants, and saving money) are great. I left and returned to the USA and allowed my mother to nurse me back to health. The education sector is completely f--d up and the people in it are equally f--. Bless you dear. It took me years to heal mentally, emotionally and physically after I left. ❤
Im currently at 9:00 and you still have not really said much. Some of us are watching this to know what to take caution on, so it really doesn't help when people stall, ramble, and digress when getting to the subjectmatter.
Hilarious that you're mad that YOU lack an attention span.
So sorry that you went through that ordeal!
You have no idea how much I appreciated this candid outlook. I worked in Dubai for a short time & loved it. Second time, not so much for various reasons I won’t get into that are similar to yours! And the manners, oh my word!! I had to restrict the South London from appearing frequently!😅❤
Everything you faced I faced. The stages of grief. The on edge feeling. Crying constantly at work. Feeling peak anxiety because you have no job security. Management issues. Fear instilled into all of us. Contract changed all the time so no consistency at all. It was a 360 from my previous jobs. I felt so drained after the two years. Faced it all working for a university in Riyadh. The students were lovely for the most part but the toxic work environment really took a bit on my physical health
Students all wanted the best grades without sincerely wanting to be tested for their ability. And teachers were punished for maintaining their ethics and morals with co workers and students. I also met the weirdest people of my life, from super toxic to just plain weird with a chip on their soldier. Everything you said hit the nail on the head. I’m from London too but I found working in this university so overwhelming. Loved saudi and will miss it but suffered physically and mentally with my health
I’m American born and raised but of Ethiopian descent. I’ve lived in Dubai for over 7 years . I absolutely love it but I’m a business owner and make my money outside of Dubai. I think living in Dubai as a foreigner and working can offer a bad experience especially if you are culturally different. Mannerisms are different and can be frustrating to westerners who think their way is THE way. The UK and America are exactly the same except you get to complain openly about your grievances.
With that said; don’t move to Dubai as a worker. You must come as an established entrepreneur with money in your pocket if you are not able to assimilate to Emirati culture.
Which of the things listed in the video are the "emirati culture" you speak
Thanks for sharing this! I thought about applying earlier this year, this was insightful!
You should definitely continue your You tube channel.
I could listen to you speak on just about any topic.
Thank you for this video. Subscribed.🙏🏾
The fact that the kids didn’t understand tolerance and acceptance of others is scary!
You are describing my experience in the Navy, on my second ship. In your negatives, i recognized the anxiety and the walking on eggshells. I like the way you describe it as a lack of professional safety.
My father worked in Qatar and from what I saw people had a good life there. His friends were mostly South Asian and the kids were in American international schools and had American accents.
Hi , the number of times I shouted yes and shook my head throughout this video is crazy !!! lol. I am an American currently working and living in Kuwait ( arab country). Everything you said about the school culture is so apparent. The kids are brats, the parents are disgusting, they act like we are nannies who teach, the admin is horrific and the infrastructure of the building is jail like ! The school truly ruins your time in a country. Its my first time abroad, honestly, I am tossing my brain around if I want to stay for the second because of the things that I am experiencing. Everyone always feel exhausted and annoyed at the place.
Mind you, This is AMERICAN school but only few American LMAFOO. The jokes write themselves. The people are backstabbers, jealous and rude. One of them cut me in line and almost got too close to me. I wanted to break her finger, the rudeness is unhinged.
I work at KG department and its crazy with the amount of obligations/ harassment you get. The kids and parents know they are in power which is very debilitating. Lets talk about how these kids are spoiled and not capable of the work given to them. Parents expected miracles when the kids are not capable of the grades they are getting. I feel the same about my last US school: we had a happy, professional and community school. I miss those people dearly.
I feel the same way about my mental health. I feel it hits harder that I am living here. Kuwait is okay but very restrictive and boring. The racism is so big. Omg. I am surprised that Dubai is restricted, I thought it was more westernized. There is so much more but I feel your pain. So happy you made it out. Thank you for your videooooo !
This is soooo interesting coming from an American you know!! I think it’s the same in all international schools which is just SAD! Lawddd I’m glad I’m out. But I’m hoping you find your silver linings and achieve what you wanted to achieve when you first set out xx
@ I will have to revisit my why 😅 thank you ! do you have a video or Advice on saving money while abroad ?
@@tobes_xas an African, Nigerian woman you really should look into the history of the ‘middle east’. Nothing would have shocked you.
You guys need to look into how these countries were built … a lot of blood and slavery … still existing today 😬. They don’t care for their own … who are you?
@ I am so sick of people like you coming into comments downgrading people experiences. Yes we know all countries have bloodshed but doesn’t that mean we have to stay quiet and take it on the chin. It is what it is . America has history of bloodshed but that doesn’t stop people from coming over or complaining about it .
Thank You for sharing your experience!!! ❤
This experience is highly traumatic - but then the teaching field in the UK is also quite toxic, so the international sphere will not be exempt.
I wanted to teach in Dubai, but after my research I heard exactly the same thing you discussed in your video.
Yeah! I wish I knew the truth before. I still would have gone but I just would have been so much more prepared mentally and emotionally! I would have lowered my expectations to the groundddddd looolll
@@tobes_x …. I travel to Dubai on holiday before my research in to teaching. I really enjoy being a tourist.
Funny I heard this over 10 years ago …
@@tobes_xThank you for sharing your experience. I was looking at moving to another county after China, last year, but I’m back in South Africa, took a yr off to study again, just needed to take a break before working in another country again, and really choose what country to move to. Also, I felt the same when I moved to China - what the school management told parents versus what is actually happening. However, the Chinese students are quite respectful, and Chinese parents respect your opinion as a teacher - or that was my experience. Be blessed and wish you all the best on your journey going forward!
I've been waiting for this video finally and thank you so much for being honest i really appreciate it atleast now I have an idea what to expect 🙏 And all the best Tobes❤
So insightful, thank you.❤
I wish I had met you when you were here! It isn't easy and even I'm considering going back home after year one. Thank you for being so honest as very few people have been and I think the city is massively missold online.
It's not just about Dubai, it's when you relocate to any country. There's culture shock, changing your mentality. It takes years to understands cultural nuances, like the manners and how/why things are different. Learning about Islam helps because then things you see as rude, are actually just different ways of doing things and respectful in a different way. It's definitely not easy settling in a new country, no matter what country it is.
A lot of people never get over that mental hurdle of expecting a different country to be like their home country
@@danniinthedesertyou’re so wrong and an enabler! This is wrong, bad is bad, rude is rude irrespective of where you are!!
@@Empress003😂😂😂No, she's not wrong Empress 🤡🤡🤡
@@danniinthedesert I'm getting gaslighty vibes from this
I LOVE the way you speak, you have such a poetic way of speaking lol
How comes you didn’t consider applying to another school? I’m sure there’s bound to be other schools which is better than the one you experienced. Good and bad schools everywhere. I’m considering moving there to teach, anywhere’s better than schools/kids in 🇬🇧
OMG YES, i need to make my video. I worked in the UAE for 2 years. I lived in Abu Dhabi and Dubai. I worked in Abu Dhabi, Dubai, and Ajman.
I’m anxious just listening. Sorry you went through that. Sounds extremelyyyy toxic. I’m new to another country the GCC and I’ve noticed the lack manners as well. No please, no thank you, no sorry.
Thank you! It was literally hell. But I’m thankful to God that I’m in a better place now xx
You did that ma'am, you can be proud! Despite it all.
26:58 Great point! I notice this with some Western foreigners while living in Japan.
I lived in Dubai for 10 years. I got there when I was 18 and left at 28, now I live in Canada. Dubai is not for everyone! If you are not white and from a first world country, you will experience racism and discrimination down to where you can live and how much you get paid. People will talk down to you and question you always! Worse, if you come from countries that practice DEI, you won’t survive for long out there. It is a bubble, but you also have to create a bubble for yourself and learn how to switch off from work otherwise you’ll be very unhappy. The Arabs there are insufferable, avoid them and their children at all costs. Don’t work in any kind of a front facing, customer service type of role. Don’t work for the government or government agencies, don’t work in schools, restaurants, malls, or “local” companies etc. Work only for a multinationals, not regional companies but MULTINATIONALS preferably western ones because those values will translate into the office and they treat, pay and interact with their employees better. You need tough skin, an “I don’t care” attitude and to be able to dish the same racism/discrimination they throw at you, if someone is being hostile or backhanded don’t smile or be friendly with them (obviously don’t be rude) but fix your face to let them know you’re not the one. Focus on the money and lifestyle, save like crazy, live a good life and ignore all the other nonsense.
I met my husband and got married there as did a couple of my friends, so there are some good ones out there. But, I definitely don’t recommend bringing a man over there, the lifestyle is overwhelming and you’ll most likely lose him in a couple of months if he’s not grounded in something that’s bigger than him/you/your relationship. All that said we do talk about moving back at some point as a money grab.
miss it’s maija i’m offended but i can read a clock now 😁😁😁 r u proud
Totally resonate with the thing you said about proffessional safety. No matter what genre you work in I felt the same. Worst anxiety I've ever felt in my life. I worked in different fields and it was the same.
Your experience as an educator in the Dubai school (not talking of Dubai as a whole) is same with other expensive/high paying schools even in Nigeria, the only difference is that you @Tobes will probably get a preferential treatment above your fellow black teachers because you speak the queens English (we call it phonetic)
Me as a British Nigerian, would never work in Nigeria 😭
@@tobes_x why not?
@@tobes_xPlease don't say so. Be open minded. There are lots of British schools that would appreciate your skills and expertise. Besides, you get to enjoy lots of perks.
However, the decision is always up to you.
Community man😅😅😅 that was so funny. You are completely right about this. I know many married men who went to Dubai and all of them have a new girlfriend every few months, no matter if their wives live in Dubai or in their home country.
To be fair, this is the way life is all over the world. I left my country to work in a first world country and it’s been hard! I know what’s keeping me here, and I’m determined.
I'm listening to you, talk and looking at you and you remind me of my 20 four-year-old daughter, could you look like her? And it's very difficult to hear your frustration, and you having to walk on eggshells and hear all kinds of unpleasantries from the staff and the kids. I'm glad that you had the experience and you were able to live through it and come home. Don't put yourself through that anymore. Piece is everything.
I'm wishing you the very best of all things in your travels.And in your life, god bless you, little girl
'Dr Umar's' worst nightmare, i'm rolling on the floor 🤣
Loooooolll I’m glad you caught that one😂
Out of curiosity why didn't you try another school? I've heard certain nationalities tend to have fear but most Western passport holders, you can easily change schools so there's not really that same fear. Also to answer your question, please doesn't really exist in Arabic. Saying please and thank you isn't a thing. "Min fadlik" is technically please but it's a very formal thing to say and would only be done in specific circumstances where you'e almost begging a person. Instead Arabs tend to say, May Allah reward you instead of thank you but that would be a bit odd to say to someone none Muslim who doesn't speak Arabic because you won't know what it means. Hope that helps :)
Also yeah there's a different mentality when someone is paying for an education and what's expected of teachers, my friend works for a higher level government school and I have another Irish friend also doing the same.
It's a London thing, you don't understand it cause you're from London haha. I'm from Bham but lived in London so I get it but Londoners are a bit in their own bubble compared to the rest of the UK and we find you a bit annoying but cause I lived in London I can get along with Londoners so I see both sides but most Londoners don't seem to understand much outside of London so other UK people find it hard to connect. Also Londoners tend to just chat about how great London is and slightly look down on the rest of the UK.
Sorry for the long comments but about the men, so true 😂 If you meet a man out there it's okay but if you take a British man over. Suddenly he thinks he's Brad Pitt cause they're all wowed by the British passport 🤣
Aint no way miss baleps cooked us like that😭🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
❤You have done well. I am proud of you 🎉now you're back home, you can be appreciated for your talent in a safe space
I am very happy that you got out of there safe and sane. Bless you.
Safe ? Dubai is the safest country in the world stop with racism saying that is the equivalent to whitey saying be safe in Africa take your shots and pack food with you it’s so racist… I’m so sick of the never been out of the state before spewing these ignorant safety remark about Dubai y’all sounds dumb af.
Excellent video Tobes! Liked and Subscribed. I may have to leave my comfy Miami for a minute and visit your beloved London, and the City of London. I may add Lagos and Abuja to my itinerary/voyage/trek after watching hundreds of Nollywood films. 😉😂
Your beautiful 😍 and video was very interesting 👊🏿
A returnee from China. Can relate to this video as well, it’s so crazy actually 😭
The analog clock isn't common worldwide, most countries use the 24 hour clock so terms like "quarter past two" won't be understood by many. The 12 hour clock is a very British tradition.
This exactly the experience i have for 8years now here,no proffessional safety, especially for us africans. You will not get the position or be moved out of your job if someone gossips about you cos they dont like you. I lost 2 jobs in a toxic culture just because the trainer thought i wasnt fit to do the job after working there for 3weeks. ITS TERRIBLE.
I can feel and see the Serious trauma being unpacked, it’s written all over and I know there is this thing where really good people give loads of rationale to try to re frame a bad situation,make sense of the absurd, awful experiencing, to sound positive, proactive, fair, balanced,hopeful….focus on the nice things to survive…especially people with heart and sincere integrity. It’s nice you are doing the critique of your time there 100% constructively, start with all the appreciations, the positives in order to jump into the serious dysfunction etc…however I can imagine living in a parallel world with zero felt or assured guarantees of rights, supports when the system is incredibly biased to the individuals who tattle, maliciously, for no reason, that can get you banged up or in trouble there innocently…having a fear based life with uncertainty around sincerity and little proxy dictatorship children with no boundaries would be a horror movie 😢..it’s like how can you be clever and submissive enough to stay under the radar, non stop pleasing but trying to do your job properly ,when even that isn’t guaranteed a free pass…ugh…it’s really a wake up call to anyone wanting to go work in a regime based country.💔gosh and the lack of ease of walking! I’m so with you ! I found that so hard in Dubai myself…I love walking! You are such a lovely person with candour, sincerity and authenticity and I bet you’re absolutely amazing in the classroom❤❤❤
I WISH YOU HAD GIVEN examples of what happened...you just told us ABOUT IT but didnt' talk directly about it...I believe you but I hope you understand what I'm saying. I'ts like saying "he was so mean,OMG" vs "he came close to my face and yelled ##### at me," regularly, etc.
If you are going to a foreign country to live/work, wherever that is you have to research the culture. They are not going to adapt their culture to please you. You are the one that is going to have to adapt to them. There are plenty of forums online discussing life in Dubai, saudi, Kuwait etc. So there is no excuse going their with eyes wide shut. I've visited dubai and felt pretty safe there, the crime rate is extremely low. It's a Muslim country so you have to abide by their rules. The only place where i had to cover up was when i visited a mosque otherwise i wore regular clothes, i even went to the beach in regular swimwear. I traveled on the public bus and in taxis and felt very safe. Most of the people in dubai you meet on the streets are not Emirati, they are foreign workers as they make up the majority of the population. To say they don't have manners is funny to me because in places like new york people don't even say goodmorning if they ride the elevator together or work at the same place. For me visiting there i know i couldn't live there for a long period, the lack of natural vegetation was so depressing. But if I'm their to make money and as long as they are not harming me i will stay in my bag until my contract is cover and keep to myself.
I live in Dubai and my experience is completely different I think it’s because I work for myself and I love my job. I’ve heard about schools in Dubai it sounds horrible. I was in situations where I was not working for myself and yes if it’s toxic it toxifies your whole experience
You’re also not black!
@@daniella8400 yeah sure but I have plenty of black friends who absolutely love it here... but sure im not black, like to respond on the internet to a public video you need permission based on your race... I literally didnt negate her experience just said mine was different. also I said I can hear that her school was horrible everyone would feel like they want out of that toxicity, regardless of race.
You're everyday life are some people's dreams..you will be successful 💪🏾👍🏾
I’m from the U.S after seeing the election, I’m on the search of moving out the country. I was thinking of going Dubai and work in finance with my accounting background. But after hearing what the principal said something racist to you…. I don’t know why 😂!
I think as black women we have to be aware that anti blackness and racism exist around the globe even though Dubai have this brand that they welcome other races and cultures …. It’s just gonna happen hopefully I’ll have a chance to travel to see but I hope I don’t work in a racist and toxic environment
You are in for a shock. You will find USA and Europe are the least racist. But you carry on dreaming that other countries are going to be more welcoming to you. A huge reality check is coming your way.
I beg your pardon you want to leave the USA and thought about living in an Arab country as a Black WOMAN 😳? I respectfully ask to you to look into the history of the Middle East, and their relationship with BP and how they CURRENTLY treat BW who ‘work’ in their countries 😬
I do not understand how black people do not understand the racism in the middle east. They had a slave trade for 2000 years!!!! During which time 18 million Africans died, and that is the conservative number. Many of them still believe that they practice slavery ethically. I kid you not. There are countless videos online of Arab anti blackness. I mean c'mon. Look how they treat each other.
Grow up.vance 28 so maybe you need to think about emigrating permanently MAGA 🤣
You are better off in America, Africa or Europe. Asians are the worst when it comes to racism and just FYI Arabs ARE also Asians.
13:59 lack of please and thank you is very American too. Curious to know what the principal said that was racist.
Stop talking rubbish America are as polite and well mannered as as the British.
likely microaggressions that often go unnoticed by many people. Common phrases used such as I don't consider you African is an example where they want to differentiate you from the Africans who are there to clean toilets and care for children. Or telling you speak English so well. Or where are you really from. The microaggressions are recycled sentences and you hear them over and over again and your radar will go off when you hear them.
@autumnred2288 don't come to the Bronx then.😂😂 I teach there now and the kids lack manners BUT the difference is is that I can correct them and the kids make the adjustments. I teach 9th graders.
It’s not. In America it’s most definitely expected or you might hear a mouthful.
@@meredithawatsonBronx is like a 3rd world city though. In mentality, not material.
Say it otherwise you give power to them
I was a secondary teacher in London with multiple teaching agencies. It’s normal for teaching agencies to offer international job roles. However, I quickly noticed agency was consistently offering job roles in Dubai.
Seems like a job many international teachers don’t want to take. Dubai is a new city in comparison to London, it’s trying to compete in a global scale. That’s why they’re looking to take the professionals out of every successful western country, yet make it near impossible for them to become Dubai citizens.
same for Qatar
Ur so well spoken, i wish i had ur talent!!
backhanded compliment? She is a teacher. She speaks for a living. I hope she speaks well...
@ are u well in the head?? I was watching this video randomly before a job interview. I get anxiety and muddle my words. Gtfo im sick of people like u who take everything so personal. Dont worry. Its not a compliment towards YOU.
Winston.... lol. Hate is love, war is peace. Love it
Don't stop youtube.. keep going
The issue with this video is that you didn’t give any tangible examples. It seems you were scared of everything there and this feeling overtook your perceptions. I also worked for de organized company and changed job. It was much better. Not all companies / schools are the same. But clearly the environment in dubai is competitive. Westerners coming to dubai with a sense of entitlement and superiority is also insane!
She is not a Westerner…
I wrote the same thing re: The issue with this video is that you didn’t give any tangible examples"
This woman really suspended me and then talked trash
Great content more pls
Thank U 👑
I’m glad u are sharing this. I’ll vacation there but I wouldn’t like to live there
I would not even vacation there. Don't you remember that girl they enslaved? They took her passport and she ended up having to be smuggled out of the country.
@ oh shit I need to look that up had no clue 😳 thanks for the info
Education quality is low, lack of rigour 😭
Why did u leave repton
I’m so sorry to hear you had to go through all that. Dubai is just fake and falsely presented as this glittering hub of progress, but it’s actually the opposite. The city was built upon hierarchical labor system, which from the beginning divided people based on their nationality and ethnicity. Also Dubai’s rise as a global city has been built on exploitative and unethical practices, especially towards migrants. The system is just simply racist.
Thank you for sharing this, and I wish you all the best for your future career! Take care x
miss u used to confuse me with my indian friends all the time though
I would love to know how you got into teaching abroard, i had a family member do this, (Abi Dabi must ask if her ecperience was similar) but i think its good for ourselfs and our children to know we can dream bigger.
Thank you ❤
Understandably your perspective is informed by you being very London-centric, e.g. the please and thank you thing is very cultural.. many of these differences are found in countries / societies all over the world but agree not everyone is made for living abroad it requires an adaptive mentality
Omg your emma collin voice ! Spot on
Thank you so much for being real about your experience. Super sad that some students were so ignorant and racist. Says a lot about the parents...but if you don't know any better your children won't either. I had no idea Dubai was that nuts! Good on you for surviving it all and coming out wiser in the end!🌎♥️✌️
How often do the deport people?
44:05 you can repurpose the TikTok videos for YT
I would appreciate it if you could've mentioned the undercover racist comments said by the Principle.
I feel that as a race we often get exposed to various underhanded comments by others in various settings that we've no idea how to respond or teach our children how to respond which will help to empower us when dealing with such people or being in a setting you may not be familiar with.
Thank you anyway for your insight on your experience
I like your phrasing / use of words...my guess is you're an English teacher
I like you. You're an interesting girl. It's nice to see one of the good ones. Try to stay Pure for God in this evil world. You're doing great. A true soldier.
Lmao @ Dr. Umar's worst nightmare 🤣. I'm a black woman living in Dubai. I have been here for almost 8 years and this is so true. Never had a long term relationship in all my time here.
But who would you have a relationship there with. It would have to be with another foreign worker because those Emirati men will not be seriously interested in you. They marry their own.
@@ariamason9324 90% of the population here is expats so yeah it will definitely be a foreigner like myself,. It just sucks dating here like she said. At least for me its been a dud
@@agbaya1000 just stack your money and bounce.
"Watch Out You'll GET DEPORTED!!!" 🤣🤣🤣😅