One of the main things I hope this video illustrates is that Liam is a victim. The exposure to drugs while he was developing caused his brain to become malformed. As a result, he now struggles with anger and impulse control. Children with ODD are often labeled as "bad" children, but it is much more complex than that. Also, I just want to point out that it is entirely possible for a child to be diagnosed with ODD without exposure to drugs in utero.
I've had a kid with ODD in one of my jobs, and theirs was due to severe abuse. One of the sweetest kids I've ever met, SUPER self aware, and they were working SO hard to grow from their past. The fact that Liam said "if I could find a human friend" broke my heart. He seems like a very sweet, smart child, and he's very well spoken. I hope he finds some wonderful friends soon.
Cause he’s ‘different’ and ppl(for example teachers) dont know how to deal with him. They either dont have experience or dealing with him is tiring - cant blame them, but it isnt excuse also.
HE SAYS HE HAS TO DEAL WITH HIS ANGER, he sees it! He sees his own provlems and is already trying to hold it in. AT THIS AGE? I'm so proud of this kid, this is amazing, my mom couldn't see her own mistakes and emotions. This kid is already self reflecting at this age. Amazing❤
He's very self aware... He just has a lot of traits of an addict which is very interesting knowing he was born addicted as a baby but then essentially weened off very young.. but he's also a brat which a lot of kids can be without all these "medical problems" which honestly i do think it is a bit of a parenting problem... She feels bad because she's not his biological mom and also feels bad he was born addicted so she lets him get away with a lot and he's smart enough to recognize it.. he also has a sense of humor
yeah, cause he got that scripted in his brain, from his parents and his social ambients. Like, yeah, they are not going to be like you. They gonna be themselves, you are gonna be yourself, and thats alright. Thats how friendships work
Wonder why his parents are telling him these things. My husband and I are raising two children who were both born with NAS. We don't tell them, they don't ask. They're only six and four... But when you tell them things like this, it puts limits on them. Besides all that, there are plenty of children exactly like him. It's a freaking epidemic at this point, unfortunately.
@@curiousgeorge6921 i wish it was. i was diagnosed with ODD when i was very young. its very very tough to overcome alot of mental challenges. Depression Etc.
@@annjepsen1621 heya i think i can give some insight. Im not completely sure of what they mean but from my own research and experience that a lot of the time ODD is used by parents to neglect their own place in their child’s behavior and emotional responses. For me it was used as a way to discredit my questioning and concerns about my education or my autistic meltdowns and just being defiant or just me “discrediting authority”. A lot of people with autism and adhd disagree with the diagnosis in general but i think it just needs to be diagnosed less frequently because its obviously a thing that people deal with on a Neurological level but it also agree that its very often sed as a way to silence neurodivergent voices. I hope this gives some insight but please let be know if I’m misunderstanding
I have Pathological Demand Avoidance (a profile of autism, similar to ODD) and I can def relate. I think a lot of times people think that we break the rules because we want to hurt other peoples' feelings, but it's mostly just taking back what little power we have. People also assume the worst from us, and when you're treated like a bad person for trying your hardest, then it feels like there's no point in trying. What I really needed growing up was someone to talk to me as an equal, and be willing to listen. Liam's mom is doing a great job, and I hope they find the support system they need soon.
@@bwingbwinggwiyomi…they said exactly that, clearly you didn’t comprehend it well. It’s about taking back control because we have such little control in our lives. I struggle with it too
@@bwingbwinggwiyomi ODD is less about having what you want when you want it and more about not wanting to be powerless and feel like you’re being forced to do something. It might not make sense to those of us who don’t have it but it doesn’t mean that someone who does is inherently a bad person or even TRYING to be a bad person.
Lo que menos necesita es que su madre se rebaje al nivel de un niño, si es malo en un niño normal es peor para alguien como el que SI o SI necesita fijar límites( tal vez no de la forma convencional), pero si necesita ser controlado.
Его некониролируемые вспышки ярости могут привести к тяжёлым последствиям, сейчас он раскидывает предметы, но мальчик растет,становится физически сильнее и это может плохо закончиться для родителей и окружающих людей,это как вариант,может быть препараты будут подавлять его вспышки ярости,а так парень , умный, очень симпатичный,но проблемы с агрессией явно просматриваются.
"It takes a village to raise a child, but when you have a child like Liam, the village flees." This might be the most heartbreaking part of it all. Liam's mom, you are a superhero. He is so lucky to have you. I think one day he will finally be able to see that.
Good lord that hurts. It's so true though. If your child is diagnosed with anything at all, everyone just leaves. They no longer want you in their life cause you might contaminate them
Totally relatable! I understand her completely. I have experienced that with my own child. In fact, I was told one time that my child was one of the hardest children her therapist had ever had to work with. Her therapist was supportive and at least fought for us to get the help we needed when my child was a teen. Unfortunately, he kept getting doors slammed in his face, figuratively, too.
You can see Liam's frustration at how different his brain is immediately. He's such an intelligent, articulate, sharp kid and is extremely good at telling us (as much as a kid can) how rough it is to butt up against his neurological hard limits. It's super telling how good he is at self-advocacy at such a young age. Poor kid is trying so damn hard and his biomom set him up to fail.
I call em “Birthers” and “Seeders” and that’s it. They’re not dads, fathers, moms, mothers, or guardians of any type. When you deliberately harm your child, you’re a piece of crap not a parent.
It's funny to hear him talk, the way he reasons and converses, and what he talks about because I was on opiates as a teenager till late 20s, and I have lot of those exact same problems and I did not have them before I was on oxycontin/Dilaudid/fentanyl. Basically even if you're smart enough to learn something your brain gets like, taxed, just completely gives up at times and no amount of motivation will fix it, you just have to wait. Like I can do multivariable calculus but I can be in a class, and I'll feel it coming on, where suddenly my brain is not doing anything useful. I can't even do a derivative. I can't remember the law of sines (sina/a = sin/b). I can't factor. I don't know what i^2 is. Can't do multiplication without a calculator. I made it through some grad school by coming up with tricks to not have to know everything. But over time subjects like that build into themselves too much, and so you need to know all of it simultaneously, and it should be easy to remember, in order to do the simplest problem in any class. You can miss kind of a day of something like multivariable calculus and catch up on a day when your brain is working, but that's not true for something like abstract algebra. At the higher levels having a barrier like that is damning.
Students with ODD like Liam have made me a better teacher. I've learned how to not get power struggles, how to have patience, and how to teach cooperation to achieve goals.
omg! Teachers like you are so appreciated!! I am struggling now with my grandson and the teacher not having a clue how to minimize behaviors- so it has been so difficult!
@laurakidd5941 thank you! I had to teach Kindergarteners how to work as partners today, instead of hogging all the materials and boy did it take some patience and praise. One day at a time!
@@hahadarrie come to eye level and speak calmly but assertive when giving directions- give choices rather than demands- such as you can sit here quietly or go in time out? those are a few i use. always find something good they did to help their self esteem and want to do better. Those are a few i use
I think he has an ADVANCED sense of humour that his peer dont get. He is very lucky to have a kind mom. I hope he makes the best of it, i see a bright future for this kid.
I sadly understand this boys sense of humor. He uses the horrible things he went through as a joke to help take back the power he felt he lost at a very young age. My mom was never a drug user when she was pregnant, but my father was an addict. I lost him a few years after I was born. I use the trauma and pain I had as jokes to make myself feel better about what happened. One day this boy will find a good group of friends who understands and supports the jokes because they know it’s not it ever be harmful.
Real life isn't perfect and neither are families and kids. I hope the parents, especially the mom who seems to be doing most of the work, have a support system.
As someone whose mom had a “normal” pregnancy, I ended up with almost every disability and mental illness as him. I see so much of myself in him. I eventually found friends who love me so much and I’m living life to the fullest at 26! 💜☺️
I also have a lot of disabilities (I like to call them “deformities” or even battle scars from my twin) like autism, chronic pain, SPD, APD, ARFID (or just food anxiety), an autoimmune thing that is undiagnosed but they found ANA in my blood, I match with the symptoms of chronic fatigue too, anxiety and anxiety based insomnia. I definitely see myself in him too. Like you, I’ve finally found a good friend group (all neurodivergent haha) and I’ve started to feel a bit better about going into school. But I have meltdowns often and I’m a target of bullying because the way I try and de-stress is to cry. I hope one day I can be like you, able to enjoy like without having to worry about the pain I’ll feel tomorrow, or having to worry about people making fun of me. I hope you’re doing well, and sorry for oversharing! ❤
@@kerafyrm_lol that’s the limit you put on yourself. Rules are meant to be broken and as you get older you have to learn how to not get caught doing it, we do it everyday. Do you not slow down when you see a cop in traffic in hopes that he doesn’t catch you going 10 over and then immediately speed up when you’ve passed him? Most of us abide by the rules when it’s convenient to keep us out of trouble but would break them if they stood between us and something that really matters, again we see that everyday. Have you every analyzed what rules are and what it means to have rules? Who comes up with the rules? In our case it would be a governing body, what exactly qualifies them above anyone else to determine what can or can’t be done in life? How egotistical do we have to be as humans to sincerely believe we can make rules that tell people how they have to live? When you look at the wonder that is life and existence how on earth do you get convinced that rules that are man made get to govern any of how this works? Following rules simply implies that it is ok to have someone else’s view imposed upon you and that you have to fall in line with that, I don’t need there to be a law to say that I shouldn’t harm someone because I understand that on my own and can govern myself accordingly. Nobody needs a law to tell them they should or shouldn’t do something because we already possess that ability to determine those things naturally, if you are unable to see right from wrong on your own then it’s time for some introspection
@@kerafyrm_ im not big on following rules either and i support myself just fine. Not being totally controled by norms is a good sign, just because a mom has had lots of drugs while pregnant, does not not always mean the kid will be damaged, or cant recover. people, animals and plants can go through a lot and succeed. but only time will tell. i wish him the best
He is so so smart.... and so so insightful, he knows his behaviours are wrong, yet can't control them, gosh I hope they can help him control his anger and annoying defiance, I know it's probably not possible, but he has so much to offer. His adoptive mother is an angel
Even though he has been diagnosed with all these conditions and difficult to control sometimes, he is still a smart and intelligent young man. They need to stop using the word 'problem' around him and start pushing the positive reinforcements.
Exactly I felt through the whole thing using his diagnosis as excuses around him and giving him fuel to the issues it's important to know and get help for him but some stuff should remain among the adults
I was in a relationship with someone aspergic. That part was fine, but after 5 years I realised he was using it as a trump card to be an a-hole. Don't give them the excuse to be a-holes
actually no she seems to be very intolerant and this entire video is legit focused on how awful and "miserable" (to use her own words) it is to raise a child who's a trauma survivor and to raise a neurodivergent child, there are many many kids with ODD (and ADHD, depression, anxiety, etc), and many parents who raise them and don't blame the kids or have a miserable experience. crazy concept: you can love a child with neurodivergences. wow!!! smh. this video was super bad education and promotes ableism, and intolerance of people w different brains
I felt so sorry for her when she said that, it's true, my aunt has a disabled child and she's so alone, she lives in a different country so all we can do is help her financially but it's not fair, I hope to get them legally into the states so she can get much deserved help and my cousin can get the therapy he needs. My heart goes out to all parents who are dealing with this.
@@karinagomez9831 Yes Karina. The child needs THERAPY and Yes, the mom is STRONG but unable to provide that therapy. Allowing Liam to do and say what he wants IS NOT THERAPY. During THERAPY, Liam would be trained adequately and it would not be so as to LET HIM DO AS HE FEELS LIKE. Drugs are destroying the brains of many children, young teens and adults.
@@d.laveyyy What do you think DEMOCRACIY is? I WILL KEEP ON EXPRESSING MY OPINION . Don't ask anyone not to express theirs. It may be you, not I, the "ignorant". You are out of line.
It's his mother telling him things she probably should really be saying in front of him for starters like ODD is a big problem I would tell my kid that and have him thinking like that
I think its the autism lol. There's tons of kids with autism who have an amazing sense of intelligence and self awareness even at a young age. This kid really has a bright future with how intelligent he is.
Bro it’s just a normal kid. It’s crazy how a child not following “rules” means he has a disorder. All that kid needs is someone to tell him that he is just fine
@@stamatiskotakis9110no.. you can't just judge his behavior only based on what you see in this video. Also you gain nothing from downplaying his disorders (or anyone elses disorder). Autism, ADHD, ODD aren't very obvious so it's easy to misinterpret them as just "bad behavior".
Si si si, yo pensé lo mismo. I thought the same thing, after what he's encountered. Wow 😲 what a beautiful & intelligent 🤓 young man. His mom is to be commended!!
I don't feel as if he's bullying himself he's just a kid with an amazing sence of humour and sarcasm and I think it's great that he can have this type of sends of humour and personality considering he should never have had to go through the things he has so good on him ❤
She seems like she's on the edge of a nervous breakdown bless her. Her strength and resilience is amazing. There is a real disconnect in this world where heroes like her are ignored whilst those deserving of disdain are elevated.
Not a nervous breakdown, but a woman multi-tasking to her absolute max... keeping an eye on her hyperactive child, responding accordingly, keeping herself together, and holding an interview for the guests, in front the camera, and the eventual internet...
Definitely over whelmed and is worried about his future. She feels alone in this. She is trying her best but the village is no were to be found. This is a good example how messed up our society is and why we have so many shootings and homeless. People just look the other way when they are children then when they become adults the village is still no were to be found. There is a lot of good in this world and this woman is one of the good. Adopting this child knowing he would have some special needs. I have a lot of respect for her. Hopefully she can keep him on a straight path. Who knows what would of happened if he ended up in our system that is overwhelmed. I hope she is reminding him how much he is loved every day he needs it desperately because life is a struggle for him. Her love can be his shield from the outside world, his safe zone.
Liam's personality is straight out of a Malcom in the middle episode. I think he would do great as a comedy writer. He's gifted with incredible comedic timing.
There's nothing funny to live with a person that doesn't value nor respect the people that takes care of them. This boy is indeed a victim of drug abuse but unfortunately he won't make life easy for his caregivers. If people with asperger syndrome are hurtful to live with, I can't imagine what would be to love and take care of him... He is a victim, yes, but their foster parents are as well.
The fact that this child is fully aware of his conditions and why he has them shows how incredibly intelligent and mature he is He has a very bright future ahead of him
Yes, The mom need to learn Liam that he is not a diagnosis. He is not different. The truth is that the parents and adults say it to hom. And the say all of kind of diagnos. Dont put diagnosis on children. Childen can have autism and adhd. Thats it. What i see in Liam is so clear. He have autism spectrum level 1. He have not adhd.
@@kathleenschoultz You’re not Liam’s parent and have no idea what it’s like to try to parent a child like him. By saying he’s no different than any other child, you not only invalidate the intense hardships and heartbreaks the mom experiences every single day, but you deny him from receiving specialized treatments and care a child like him needs in order to thrive. He obviously has a lot more going on than just autism and ADHD; Liam literally has a developmentally malformed brain. Neurotypical people don’t understand that diagnoses can vastly help in understanding how the individual’s mind works and finding the best ways to work with the individual.
I find Liam extremely sharp and I believe his self-consciousness can lead him to a good self-control. Hearing him answering Chris' questions that fast and with such depth makes me think he's going to be a very smart man. To the mom: you're doing an amazing job despite what other people think. Your patience and strength is what your son needs. Keep up
@@yesjo1456 Idk, I was very self conscious at his age, and also had imaginary pets, but if I were interviewed like that I probably wouldn't be able to get a single word out
Salute to Liam’s mom (not the biological one) for her strength, patience, and endurance in raising him. You are such an amazing mom, Liam is very lucky to have you as a mom.
Liam is absolutely a victim here. However we need to also keep in mind that everybody is impacted by addiction, even the parent of a child. Not excusing his biological mom's behaviour and choices, but the opioid epidemic is a devastating problem all around. Loved listening to Liam, what strength he has.
I can’t help but feel bad for both Liam and his mom. He didn’t choose to have ODD, autism etc. but you can tell he’s a very intelligent, self aware, well spoken kid. When he heard his mom say people call her a bad parent and he said “Well they’re wrong”, you know he meant that. Just like his mom i hope he has a bright future, rooting for you Liam
This lady deserves a medal. it's a constant battle. I understand it's not Liams fault. As a parent, this would be hard to handle. I take my hat of to this lady.. I have nothing but respect.
The fact that she’s not even his bio mom, she had no obligation or responsibility to take this kid in and yet she gave her life to making sure he has a good life, absolutely nothing in return. This woman has a huge heart Edit: she’s gotta start using some reverse psychology bc telling him what she wants him to do just doesnt seem like its gonna work out lol
Yeah probably someone whos witty might help in therapy (like with the shirt thing she says "I bet you can't get your shirt on in 5 minutes" or "Wear your shoes first" "that doesnt make sense I'll wear my socks first". I dont think he has a motive besides wanting control, and doing that sort of thinking might guide him towards certain behaviors but it is hard to avoid being manipulative/not be manipulative towards him since it feels like the biggest thing that may affect him in the future
Congrats to the mom BUT (!!!) that ODD have a lot to do with her being a single mom and he just didn't see her as an authority figure because she may be afraid of educating him the real way thinking in his past! This should be changed immediately if they want to save this child's future. All of his adulthood depends on that. He doesn't follow orders because he never had been "punished" the right way nor had dealt with the real consequence of his actions. This excessive protection can led to him ending up in an mental institution to save him from prison!
@@JDFe exactly just like he hasn't had consequences he also hasn't had incentives for good behavior either. Sometimes its just to avoid a consequence and keep the peace. Instead he has learned that abuse tantrums and defiance work.
2:00 I love to confuse kids with complicated adult questions they literally couldn't care less but by some kid curiosity they always answer. Why are kids so... human?
When his Mom said "the village flees" broke my heart. Liam isn't the only one needing a friend. Maybe she could look for local parents,going through some of the same issues,to hang out with? He is SO intelligent.
Hopefully there are some available. My son has similar issues (different cause) and she reminds me of me when my son was that age. It's very tiring and frustrating and can wear you down. Shes a terrific mother and i I wish them the best
I am a member of many community groups (chronic pain/headache disorders/other issues I deal with) because I CANNOT find real life support within my local community. I don't mind having online support/friends and in fact have formed some close long-lasting (10 years+) friendships. Maybe it's a possibility for Liam? With all the appropriate supervision/safety measures,of course❤️
Liam's mom could also meet other parents on line. There are many of us with children who share at least some of Liam's challenges! It would be good for her to speak with other parents who've found ways to avoid some of the conflict. Sometimes, with some children, just asking a different way can be all that's necessary. Sometimes, to-do lists ('star charts', for example) with lists of tasks that need to be done - in conjunction with some sort of reward (a game together, an offer to talk about Roblox (or another preferred topic) - can be helpful. Sometimes they're not. Sharing both, the useful and the less-so, can be helpful to any parent - especially a parent of an intelligent, opinionated child like Liam (and like my son as well).
Liam, I was not born with opioids in my system, but I share every single one of your diagnoses and from what I could see in this interview, you act *exactly* like how I did when I was a kid. A big part of what makes life with these disorders so tough - at least for me - is that a lot of people who don't think and act like we do can be so dismissive of anyone who acts even a little 'different'. I want you to know that there are lots of people like you out there; as well as people who aren't like you, but who will find you all the more charming and interesting to be around because of it. It took me years to find them, but I promise you - they're out there, and one day you'll find them too.
And to Liams' mom: I was just like your son at his age - seriously, right down to not wearing socks just to spite my parents for telling me to - and my mother handled my oppositional behaviour very similarly to how you handle Liam's. She, like you, was a mom doing her best, and *NOT* a bad mother. Today I'm a young adult, an honours student in my university of choice who also just got offered a graduate school scholarship, and I love my mother to death and tell her it constantly. I sincerely believe that Liam's future will be just as bright, if not even brighter.
I just want to give the lady a big hug, seriously. What a saint human being she is. I could feel the internal struggle and exhaustion and patience and kindness.
Why is she a saint? Because she’s being a decent parent to her kid? You normally don’t call parents “saints” for that. It’s almost like your think he must be a burden to deal with, like him being disabled makes him hard to love…
@@stellarae8257 no but she could have refused to help him, she could still do that if she wanted to. This child is not a burden but it must not always be easy, I think he still needs more attention than other kids.. all the things she has named he has are not usual and common for that age yet she has to deal with them. Obviously she chose to do this but doesn’t mean we can’t respect her for doing what she does..
@@stellarae8257 yes. he wasn't her responsiblity. YES IT'S NOT FAIR TO HIM, DOESN'T MEAN ANYONE OWES HIM. He is a damn hard child to live and deal with and she chose to do that selflessly, cause she is not his birth mom, SO SHE IS A SAINT
Thank you so much for sharing your story!!! You're starting the village for future families!!! May you continue to find the strength and perseverance to spread awareness and fight for support. I, too, am a parent to a young man with multiple excetionalities from autism to mild intellectual delay. I started my own support group in my local library 10 yrs ago....the 5 families that checked it out are still coming back! Make your voice be heard!! God bless!!!❤
A child with normal brain development can improve behavioral issues over time. Liam has a whole different set of challenges, including Autism which does not change over time. He will always be different, I agree he is highly intelligent. He’s very witty too. I hope he continues to get the support he needs and finds a way to thrive in life. I think it’s important not bypass his challenges while holding him in high regard.
@@biancamichelle11I only have Anxiety and Autism. However, my behavioural problems have completely disappeared. I think it is totally possible for his behavioural problems to disappear if he gets the right support.
@@biancamichelle11it really depends on your personality, cant say that for everyone because it CAN change (doesnt mean it has to) especially because were getting more and more options to reduce the negative symptoms by e.g. neurofeedback as you already implied in ur comment, everyone is different
He will always be ODD, ASD and ADHD. It will not change. He can learn to mask and to some extent cope. It is a huge mountain to climb and it is a never ending task. So it is like dishwashing, you will never get to a point where you can let it go and just not do it without things crumbling.
It's crazy to judge others just by watching 1 videos. Westerners make wild guesses about other people's emotions just by looking at their facial expressions.
I think he needs a younger mom, someone who can keep up with his energy, because he has a lot of it. Hopefully his mom puts him in sports like swimming, so he can focus that energy.
@@novrinkov0053 She literally says in the video she's exhausted. It's not "westerners" making a wild guess, she says in the video. You're also actually just making a wild guess that the commenter is a westerner too so
This had to be a tough interview - there wasn’t any joy, just heartbreak after heartbreak. I feel for this mother , she is sacrificing her life for this child, and her biggest fear is “he will let his ODD take over and make bad choices”. This was hard to process. I hope the very best for Liam and his mom and hope he gets the help and support he needs and that he finds peace and comfort in his life.
@@gnatanderson5536I think the opposite. If he uses the light that's inside him and that shines so bright on this video, he will have a great life, doing great things.
@@gnatanderson5536these comments will remain for posterity. I believe in you, honey. You have an amazing support system and one day when you read these comments you get to see every odd you beat that people expected
@@Liberte8888 I know his light is capable of controlling the impulses from his diagnosis. Hopefully with age, he can understand what is going on and see his mom for the blessing that she is and be able to be the version of his self that gives him contentment with this life.
I really relate to this. I also have ADHD, autism, anxiety, depression and a few similar disorders that have turned out to be largely genetic and/or treatment resistant. I’m now 20 and in college, studying to be a teacher. I never thought I’d get this far, until I got the chance to meet other people like me and realized that there were people who really understood me and that I could be successful like them, despite my struggles. Liam, you’re not the only one. I would have loved to have a friend like you as a kid (my friends at your age were stuffed animals). The world can really suck sometimes, but we will make it better. And I know you’ll find more people like you someday too, who really understand what it’s like. In the meantime, I’m glad you’ve got Larry and your family! I’m cheering for you :) And mom, you’re incredible. Thank you for trying to understand even if you can’t experience what it’s like. Most people would give up, but I can tell that you and Liam love each other too much for that. You’re doing an INCREDIBLE job, and are raising an equally incredible son.
Although exhausting, I can tell Liam's mother whole-heartedly loves him the way he is. She has accepted that this is Liam. Given how many different diagnoses he has, he is incredibly well balanced and well articulate. We also have to remind ourselves that he is the way he is because of the drug abuse of his biological parents. I applaud everyone in this video, and I am rather optimistic about his life.
I was a little like Liam. I had a head injury as a baby and I’ve got severe ADHD on top of that. I had a disdain for rules as well. I benefitted MASSIVELY from after school art classes with a very understanding art teacher who let me paint whatever I wanted. Art is for rule-breakers and he let me learn on my own while sneaking some guidance in there. If it weren’t for my dirt bike and my art classes I’m pretty sure I would’ve ended up in jail. I am now an art teacher hoping to impact kids how my precious art teacher did for me. Liam is SMART and funny. Once he finds an outlet or two I think he will figure it out.
This. I didn't have a brain injury but did/do have severe ADHD. And Art saved me. The world you can create, and the way you can sort through this world all through your creativity really helps. It fosters mindfulness, is a form of meditation, and truly helps with trauma processing. Ad from one special needs Mom to another..Stay strong Momma.. God doesn't give us the children we want but the children we need.
@@ItsBrit Same! I was also struggling with severe depression (not sure if it was a result of the ADHD or just separate). I had two art classes my senior year of highschool with the same teacher. Those classes were my refuge, and her patience and understanding for me really saved me that year.
Art is about breaking rules, that's a great point. I feel Liam probably likes the sports he's in. Hockey has rules, but it's also exhilarating. And if no one else is around, ice skating doesn't have rules
@@anayareyWhy do you say that? Autistic children are often misunderstood as lacking empathy but for the majority it's actually the complete opposite, they are just not good at expressing it.
Mushrooms did wonders in my life. I was diagnosed with cptsd since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting cptsd. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. This is something that really need to be use globally to help people with similar health challenges.
GOLDEN TEACHERS. I've had friends who tried the same ones I did and have had great reviews as well! Some even mentioned they tried other strains before and said they liked the teachers better!
I can't even imagine being Liam's adopted mom. She is so incredibly strong in taking care of Liam. She is such a true blessing of this world. I hope she and Liam get the help they need.
she keeps him inside, and seems to not let him socialize. I'm sure he would have friends if his mom let him go outside for the day and play with neighborhood kids.
this exactly 🥹 a saint who saved a child in this world. i hope she keeps it up, she is such a good influence. she needs not just kind words, but action in the form of support. 💙 i wish i could help
@@fml2266 Not all kids accept kids they don't know into their play, regardless of whether or not they live in the same neighborhood. Also, not all neighborhoods are suitable for play outside (I don't know what their neighborhood is like, but a place off a busy street with no sidewalks, for example, isn't the kind of place in which children should be allowed to play outside without adult (or older responsible teen) supervision).
I hope the mother also seeks mental health support. She's incredibly loving, caring, and hopeful. But she also needs help as a caretaker of a child with ODD. I truly hope for Liam to do well and grow up to become a loving and grateful man.
@@dustygatrell-ru7tg yeah i think all kids have an innate urge to disobey.. maybe he reached that earlier than normal.. but, his mom does seem a little..... soft. But dude is hilarious. If he had a TH-cam id watch him frfr lol
@creolemanya1646 his mother isnt soft she is just exhausted. U can tell she is at her breaking point and she is a saint 4 her patience 4 this kid. Im sure she has tried countless times 2 b more strict but when ur kid has an abnormality in his brain its not always that easy. Speaking from experience as i know someone whos child also has ODD, extremely frustrating for the parents and even the child sometimes. They dont mean 2 b rude and disrespectful its just how their brains r wired 2 process things
What I'm thinking the entire time. He looks so well-mannered and capable and calm and regulated (especially in the prism of all the diagnoses and what they typically do). She must be a saint
I’m almost 8 years clean from heroin and gave birth to my daughter in late February of this year; she was born healthy and happy & I’ve never been so grateful for my sobriety. I am incredibly eager to watch this episode, as I’ve been waiting for an interview exactly like this from SBSK ever since I subbed to the channel a few years ago ❤
Congratulations on 8 years! I just celebrated 5 years clean and sober from opiates and alcohol. It''s a great feeling.God bless you and your daughter, you're both in my prayers. Keep up the good work!
I sense he is being ‘told’ a lot about himself that he is making his identity. He is being told who he is, and that that person is ‘faulty’. Of course he feels different when all he’s known is being treated different and being told he’s restricted because of labels. It’s sad how matter of fact he is about himself, but that’s learnt from the adults around him. He’s clearly super intelligent and very self aware
He is but it’s important to tell him the truth… It’s focused on because that is essentially the root of his behavior. Also this video is to talk about what happened.
I agree with you completely. I picked up on this as well. I have a family member who has a child with ODD and they are very controlling. ODD is created. I do not think children are born with this
@@ponygirl9831 uh. well. you are in fact born with odd. its usually something that tags along with autism or adhd which as im sure you know is entirely biological
you can see that while Liam has been diagnosed with a lot of things, he is also incredibly smart! The fact that he was on Chat GPT in this interview and wanting to save up his allowance to buy the Meta VR. He has insane interest in technology and I see a great career in that field for him! I think with time, he can learn to regulate and manage his emotions. He is also lucky to have his mother. His mother is saving his life - don't think he knows it yet though. If Liam had the wrong caregiver he could easily become his worst self but with the caring guidance and love she brings, I can see him going to a much better future :)
one belief I have is that it's possible to build video games that both interest children of high intelligence (and defiance) or any other social disorder that can help them navigate their emotions into a resolvable space, that eventually encourages them to be apart of reality and life in a way that they can handle. at least this is my dream.
Edit out the misused big/ special names Lucy and mil (in Ermilio) and big terms God and bright and clever and up etc that only reflect me THE only God / Goddess / Lady / Leader / Queen / Princess / Boss / Star etc and the only Lucy / bright being etc, and pronouns can never be with capital letters when referring to others / hum’ns, only when referring to me - big terms and capital letters all reflect superiority, and such things only reflect me THE superior being and the only lovable / loved being etc, and big terms / love related terms cannot be misused by hum’ns in any way!
I knew a kid like this. He was in 8th grade touring our high school and I thought he was 6th grade. Incredibly smart kid he was really kind. Broke my heart to find out that he was born addicted to many many things. I hope he’s doing well now.
“Larry and I have been havin a rough time. Me & him dont have no friends.” Poor baby. I hope he is being treated well by his peers. He deserves friends & love, his mother’s actions shouldnt determine his self worth. He is much more than the substances his (bio) mother decided to take!!! ❤
@@RadMad789 I agree. She seems like she wants the best for him and is dealing with perfectly valid emotions around taking care of him- ensuring he has what he needs while still trying to teach him the regulatory tools needed to navigate life and relationships. Its the natural worry and stress any mother would feel for their child coupled with the love & desire to keep him safe. I wish her the best and thank you for your kind comment! We all need a little more love in this world.
Well put... but I would add that EVERYONE deserves to be treated with respect and kindness... with an active-willingness to try and understand those we don't think we can relate to, from a place of love, rather than ego! I understand that this isn't how the world tends to operate very often, but I'm really glad that this thriving kid was placed in a caring home, that tries to help him keep thriving... even though the challenges they face seem quite difficult, a lot of the time!
I wonder if that's more of a reflection on the changing social world. I always knew kids like him in school, uniquely charming and witty but obviously damaged from something that went unspoken. Him and I would have been mates
I am a NICU nurse. This is a huge problem in Tennessee. I take care of babies going through this all the time, it is terrible what these babies go through and a lot of people don’t know about it. Thank you for this video. I have often wondered what happens to these babies as they grow up. This is heartbreaking and I hope Liam can find happiness in his life as he continues to grow up…
not with this overbearing mother that seems to keep him secluded and openly speaks about using ADHD meds, which are all pointless, and usually lead to addiction. Because they are all addictive.
@@jason-s8c He is normal, and he has been denied proper opportunities to thrive his entire life it seems. Being born addicted, and then having a mom who seems like she's trying her best, and just is ill-equipped to deal with him. I hope he is given the right chances to succeed later in life.
Can we please acknowledge how funny Liam is? He has an amazing sense of humour and he looks very creative. I hope he finds his way and make a great circle of friends.
Mom seems tired. As much as I want Liam to have all the help and support so he can grow into a functioning adult. I hope his mom gets support and someone to talk to also. I hear ODD can be A LOT in the teen years. But hopefully his case won’t end up being too extreme by then.
I feel sad for Liam thinking he's too different to find human friends. There are tons of kids with ADHD, autism and other disorders. He's not alone with what he's going through. I wish I could tell him that it gets better, you find typical and atypical friends throughout your life if you only keep your good spirit and desire to learn 💛
has nothing to do with that adhd, autism, etc. it has to do with the fact that he breaks things, throws tantrums and doesnt like to compromise with others. Imagine wanting to play a game with someone who doesnt like rules? That's what outlines a game....rules.
@@sputniksweetheart5187 that's true. If his mom has a hard time dealing with him, wouldn't too a child? A child might be apprehensiveabout playing because of those behaviors.
@@celiabonadies5667 One hundred percent he throws tantrums and cant play along well with kids. "It needs to be my way." His mom said he has no self-control and when he doesnt get his way he has meltdowns. Somehow that magically changes at school? That would mean he does have self-control and its just a behavioral issue at home.
If Liam started his own channel i would watch every upload no joke, he has this sense of humor that i enjoy. I also have a pet rock, his name is Timothy Tinnitus
This mother needs and deserves help and support. This must be exhausting emotionally and physically. I pray that she gets the professional help she needs to help her son. It is hard to navigate the broken healthcare system. Without help, things may just get tougher for her and her son. Liam will struggle with the effects of his birth. He is very intelligent. It was good that Mom realizes that Liam can behave as needed when doing an activity he enjoys . This demonstrates that he has potential for growth and to learn more appropriate coping skills. I pray that they both find the help they need .
HE IS CAPABLE OF UNDERSTANDING THE CONCEPT OF "PARENTAL AUTHORITY" AND UNDERSTANDING THAT HE CANNOT 'PUNISH " HIS PARENTS WHEN HE IS TOLD WHAT TO DO. LIAM NEEDS TO BE TAUGHT THAT "DEFINCE HAS A PRICE" AND MAKE THE INTELLIGENT CHOICE OF "OBEYING" AUTHORITY.
Sheesh. This situation is beyond rough. This lady’s continuous stress level is through the roof. Her eyes dart when there’s a loud noise, she’s jumpy, she’s always on alert and on the lookout. Imagine what that does to your body and hormones. Also imagine the mental toll of attempted manipulation (what’s the food you want in this house- so he can throw it out), verbal karate, and helplessness.
I know the kid has a lot of issues and as a perent its definitly good to differienciate these issues to bad behavior but i think beeing a little strict might go a long way. I can only admire this woman for beeing able to go through this everyday but when it comes to the emotional manipulation i think its important to enforce rules at these moments even if the kid is disabled. Its the same with people justifying devious actions from autistic people. Strictness goes a long way. You dont need to be as hard on the kid as you would a normal kid but even with all those disorders you can understand if you arendoing something bad. For example when he threw her food away, he knew his mom would get upset about that so he definitly understands when ever he is doing something he is not supposed to do and he keeps doing it because he gets away with it
@@myguy2656 Do you honestly think she's never tried being strict with him...? Reminds me of when people tell folks with acne to just "wash their face a little more often". Like gee, thanks, never thought of that. The kid literally has a malformed brain and a disorder which causes him to oppose anything she says, her tone of voice isn't gonna change that. It will make him resent her though, because he can't control it.
@@myguy2656I understand exactly what you mean and I agree. Also yes he's very smart and listens and hear EVERYTHING EVERYTIME mom talks about his diagnosis to people. Kids are already pretty smart and okay off of things whether they're diagnosed with an illness or not they're smart 😉😉
My best friend is also a drug baby, and this video painfully reminds me so much of her, but from when i met her i have noticed she has improved and changed, i feel so much sympathy for Liam as i am close to someone like him and i have expirence first hand how drug babies think, i hope he can find peace eventually and live a life as best as he can.
@@lucian940thats true, but the thing is, kids absorb absolutely everything you tell them as truth, and you HAVE to be careful with what you say because the wrong wording can cause permanent issues in someone
extremely intelligent and funny kid. the way he speaks and his sense of humour are on another level than those of his peers. props to his mom for being patient with him and understanding him.
Its obvious that Liam is HIGHLY intelligent, and extremely smart people tend to be made fun of as kids cuz they just dont quite fit in. The good news is these kids tend to grow up to be very successful❤ I believe Liam will someday find true friends who accept him for how he is and that he will overcome his issues he is experiencing, I really do. Liam, if you are reading this, I think you are AWESOME and you remind me SO much of my 9 year old son! I guarantee you two would get along wonderfully if you ever met.
I hope that Liam is able to control his ODD as he grows up. He is a good kid at heart, but as his mother said, if the ODD takes over, he could make very bad choices. Hopefully his intelligence will make things easier for him.
The sad thing is that it’s not his fault and he may not be able to control it. The only thing that may work is medicine + therapy. He’s a good kid, just misunderstood.
ODD was nearly a breaking point for me to deal with. Finding patience and understanding is extremely difficult when raising a child with strong ODD. I was fortunate to have a good child psychologist which made a world of difference over the years. My child is now much lower on the ODD spectrum now. She had the self knowledge by around age 11 to realize the issues with ODD and she worked hard to understand it and learn to manage it. It could improve with professional support.
i feel like he has such a good sense of humour that only adults would get whereas little kids are not mature enough to process his humour and he's too smart for them to understand.
Yeah he struck me as an old soul in some ways. I hope he gets through this. I struggled with similar things as a kid, and I'm doing ok now. I hope he gets the same.
I hope his mother has a solid support system and stays safe. I’m worried about Liam’s behavior, especially as he gets older. His answers to the question: “what do you like about your mom” were concerning.
my exs mom did drugs when pregnant with him and he was super violent i don't think he was evil just damaged and its sad. I hope this kid turns out better
I get a vibe from his “mom” caretaker that she doesn’t really like him, let alone love him. 😢 Poor kid! He has A LOT of potential, but it sucks seeing seeing his “mom” put labels on him that limit his growth.
He’s more in touch with life than the kids who shun him. I truly hope as he gets older, he realizes how many people out there will cherish his unique and insightful mind.
Omg I'm glad I happened to see this video. I'm going through the same thing this mom is going through. My daughter was born addicted to meth. This is so helpful.
This woman desperately needs help. She can’t do this on her own. No one should have to do this on their own. I fear for her mental health, and the extreme toll this is having on her.
When you adopt alone no one makes you aware how bad it can get. My adopted child spent time in a mental health unit as a direct result of the first family. She had no idea what she was going to get with that 7 week old new born and she looks absolutely exhausted and in need of some tlc.
This is probably one of the hardest videos to watch from this channel. I had to pause it numerous times just to collect my thoughts. I wish the best for this brave warrior and his heroic mother.
I went through so many emotions trying to watch the entire video. This is information that needs to be more widely available to people. Alot of people don't truly understand that these kids and adoptive parents have no help.
Liam is so smart and sharp and funny... and clearly struggling deeply with his emotions, including sadly what seems to be a lot of anger and disdain towards himself, and impulse control. His mum is a rockstar for being so patient and calm and unwavering, but also Liam is a victim here and it's heartbreaking to see and hear the numerous ways he was let down by both the system and his birth parents. I was also a child with severe behavioural issues (autism, ADHD and trauma) and an amazing mum, and thankfully over the years and a lot of therapy, I am now much more in control of my life and my emotions, and have an excellent relationship with my rockstar mum. I hope that Liam will eventually be able to reach that place too. Thank you for sharing this video, as always.
he is lucky because most kids with the same beginnings do not have the support of therapists and specialists. I hope it all just clicks one day. Reframing the shame surrounding the neglect and drug abuse of his birth mother and respect for others seem to be the most important lessons to learn at the moment.
Mothers like her needs personal help too. She's probably neglected her life to raise a child like him. She needs support too, she's a human being with needs herself.
For Liam's mom, you are a strong woman, I admire your courage, your patience and all the love you have for your son. You are great. Thank you for caring and loving him. He deserves it. ❤
He seems like a challenging child to raise, but not a challenging person to like! I wish Liam and his mother all the best. Most of all, I hope he can make some good friends!
HOPE HE IS CAPABLE OF HAVING A DROP OF 'EMPATHY" TOWARDS HIS PARENTS' LOVING ATTITUDE AND START OBEYING (EVEN WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING THE WHY OF THE LOVING ORDERS FROM THEM.
@@lulazeta8965 I’m speechless, all I can say is if you want your kids to obey you rather than be just respectful and kind, not just to you but everyone, then you are genuinely demented for that… older generation or not. And how do you know he has no empathy towards his mom?
Mom is exhausted and most likely feel completely alone in the world as a mom. She is not alone, lots of us moms out here know exactly where she is and how she feels. Step back and breathe!
One of the main things I hope this video illustrates is that Liam is a victim. The exposure to drugs while he was developing caused his brain to become malformed. As a result, he now struggles with anger and impulse control. Children with ODD are often labeled as "bad" children, but it is much more complex than that. Also, I just want to point out that it is entirely possible for a child to be diagnosed with ODD without exposure to drugs in utero.
Thanks for making videos on this stuff!
Amazing tribute, bro. Thanks so much for this and other profiles you do.
I've had a kid with ODD in one of my jobs, and theirs was due to severe abuse. One of the sweetest kids I've ever met, SUPER self aware, and they were working SO hard to grow from their past.
The fact that Liam said "if I could find a human friend" broke my heart. He seems like a very sweet, smart child, and he's very well spoken. I hope he finds some wonderful friends soon.
As someone who is in school for special education , this helped give me a brief insight into the world of ODD
@@Cimorelli102 I don’t think they mentioned that , he looks 11 or 12 in my eyes
He’s a smart kid and somebody is telling him otherwise
I would imagine kids at school
@@what.theguac9290 so sad :(
Very actually
Yeah, it's great he seems to love computers, they have been the salvation for many with autism.
Cause he’s ‘different’ and ppl(for example teachers) dont know how to deal with him. They either dont have experience or dealing with him is tiring - cant blame them, but it isnt excuse also.
“It takes a village to raise a child, but when you have a child like Liam, the village flees” that hit hard.
@@laylam4241 jeez man
:(
Yeah even family
@@dp1084 So what? Maybe he can learn to follow some damn rules.
are you brain dead?
@@Raven-pr6vd
the way he said”blipity blipity blipity”then said “no offence”was just SMOOTH
Frl
bros chill XD
lmaoo
he spittin facts
on god
HE SAYS HE HAS TO DEAL WITH HIS ANGER, he sees it! He sees his own provlems and is already trying to hold it in. AT THIS AGE? I'm so proud of this kid, this is amazing, my mom couldn't see her own mistakes and emotions. This kid is already self reflecting at this age. Amazing❤
He's very self aware... He just has a lot of traits of an addict which is very interesting knowing he was born addicted as a baby but then essentially weened off very young.. but he's also a brat which a lot of kids can be without all these "medical problems" which honestly i do think it is a bit of a parenting problem... She feels bad because she's not his biological mom and also feels bad he was born addicted so she lets him get away with a lot and he's smart enough to recognize it.. he also has a sense of humor
@@godsgrind414 hey don't call him a brat, please.. just be kind. it's not his fault he can be a brat at times.
@myownlittlegarbagedump67 I think 'godsgrind' was referring to how any boy that age has 'brat' moments.
@myownlittlegarbagedump67pero la verdad me preocupa algo de su actitud y es que ve a los adultos como un igual.
@@jennyportilla5774 Sí, yo también vi eso, pero eso no significa que él no pueda crecer para poder verlo. Aunque estoy de acuerdo contigo en eso.
“If I could find friends, they wouldn’t be like me.” genuinely the saddest yet most insightful thing i’ve heard
That was a brutal fact
I had to pause because that hit home man… I grew up with autoimmune arthritis. Nobody was like me.
yeah, cause he got that scripted in his brain, from his parents and his social ambients. Like, yeah, they are not going to be like you. They gonna be themselves, you are gonna be yourself, and thats alright. Thats how friendships work
Wonder why his parents are telling him these things. My husband and I are raising two children who were both born with NAS. We don't tell them, they don't ask. They're only six and four... But when you tell them things like this, it puts limits on them. Besides all that, there are plenty of children exactly like him. It's a freaking epidemic at this point, unfortunately.
Yeah, he’s brilliant and sad! Touches our heart! God bless😇
Little bro speaks more articulately than half of the people my age.
@2ndPeterVBlack absolutely agree!!!
He is articulate because his parents encourage and model it.
i know right its so crazy
I hope he makes some friends in middle school and he stays himself cuz he seems like a funny kid
its a thin line between crazyness and intelligence
Liam's self-awareness and intelligence are remarkable for his age. I hope the ODD can be managed so his other talents can shine.
I hope so too!
That's a made up bs
@@curiousgeorge6921 i wish it was. i was diagnosed with ODD when i was very young. its very very tough to overcome alot of mental challenges. Depression Etc.
@@curiousgeorge6921 What is made-up? You're spouting nonsense.
@@annjepsen1621 heya i think i can give some insight. Im not completely sure of what they mean but from my own research and experience that a lot of the time ODD is used by parents to neglect their own place in their child’s behavior and emotional responses. For me it was used as a way to discredit my questioning and concerns about my education or my autistic meltdowns and just being defiant or just me “discrediting authority”. A lot of people with autism and adhd disagree with the diagnosis in general but i think it just needs to be diagnosed less frequently because its obviously a thing that people deal with on a Neurological level but it also agree that its very often sed as a way to silence neurodivergent voices. I hope this gives some insight but please let be know if I’m misunderstanding
I have Pathological Demand Avoidance (a profile of autism, similar to ODD) and I can def relate. I think a lot of times people think that we break the rules because we want to hurt other peoples' feelings, but it's mostly just taking back what little power we have. People also assume the worst from us, and when you're treated like a bad person for trying your hardest, then it feels like there's no point in trying. What I really needed growing up was someone to talk to me as an equal, and be willing to listen. Liam's mom is doing a great job, and I hope they find the support system they need soon.
But then how do you explain how he intentionally threw away her steak bc she threw his rice? Is that not with the intention to hurt feelings?
@@bwingbwinggwiyomi…they said exactly that, clearly you didn’t comprehend it well. It’s about taking back control because we have such little control in our lives. I struggle with it too
@@bwingbwinggwiyomi ODD is less about having what you want when you want it and more about not wanting to be powerless and feel like you’re being forced to do something. It might not make sense to those of us who don’t have it but it doesn’t mean that someone who does is inherently a bad person or even TRYING to be a bad person.
What's the difference between PDA and ODD? I was thinking maybe he has PDA. Seems like a sweet kid.
Lo que menos necesita es que su madre se rebaje al nivel de un niño, si es malo en un niño normal es peor para alguien como el que SI o SI necesita fijar límites( tal vez no de la forma convencional), pero si necesita ser controlado.
I'd be so interested to see a follow-up interview with Liam in like 10 years.
Totally
Me too
Yesss
Remember there is hope for us addicts! Even if born addicted.
Его некониролируемые вспышки ярости могут привести к тяжёлым последствиям, сейчас он раскидывает предметы, но мальчик растет,становится физически сильнее и это может плохо закончиться для родителей и окружающих людей,это как вариант,может быть препараты будут подавлять его вспышки ярости,а так парень , умный, очень симпатичный,но проблемы с агрессией явно просматриваются.
"It takes a village to raise a child, but when you have a child like Liam, the village flees."
This might be the most heartbreaking part of it all. Liam's mom, you are a superhero. He is so lucky to have you. I think one day he will finally be able to see that.
I don’t think Liam acts the way he does because he’s ungrateful or doesn’t realize how lucky he is to have such a patient and understanding mother.
I don’t think ODD will give him that perspective on his mom as an adult, unless it becomes more manageable somehow.
This quote gives me kinda Naruto vibes
Good lord that hurts. It's so true though. If your child is diagnosed with anything at all, everyone just leaves. They no longer want you in their life cause you might contaminate them
Totally relatable! I understand her completely. I have experienced that with my own child. In fact, I was told one time that my child was one of the hardest children her therapist had ever had to work with. Her therapist was supportive and at least fought for us to get the help we needed when my child was a teen. Unfortunately, he kept getting doors slammed in his face, figuratively, too.
You can see Liam's frustration at how different his brain is immediately. He's such an intelligent, articulate, sharp kid and is extremely good at telling us (as much as a kid can) how rough it is to butt up against his neurological hard limits. It's super telling how good he is at self-advocacy at such a young age. Poor kid is trying so damn hard and his biomom set him up to fail.
I call em “Birthers” and “Seeders” and that’s it. They’re not dads, fathers, moms, mothers, or guardians of any type. When you deliberately harm your child, you’re a piece of crap not a parent.
It is sad because he is extremely perceptive, and he's self aware of his condition and emotions. I was not at all as aware of my emotions at this age.
@@xCosmicMuffinManxI literally don’t remember being his age let alone my emotions 😂
And good chance the world set his bio mom up to fail. Most hard core drug addicts have been through horrible trauma.
It's funny to hear him talk, the way he reasons and converses, and what he talks about because I was on opiates as a teenager till late 20s, and I have lot of those exact same problems and I did not have them before I was on oxycontin/Dilaudid/fentanyl.
Basically even if you're smart enough to learn something your brain gets like, taxed, just completely gives up at times and no amount of motivation will fix it, you just have to wait.
Like I can do multivariable calculus but I can be in a class, and I'll feel it coming on, where suddenly my brain is not doing anything useful. I can't even do a derivative. I can't remember the law of sines (sina/a = sin/b). I can't factor. I don't know what i^2 is. Can't do multiplication without a calculator.
I made it through some grad school by coming up with tricks to not have to know everything. But over time subjects like that build into themselves too much, and so you need to know all of it simultaneously, and it should be easy to remember, in order to do the simplest problem in any class.
You can miss kind of a day of something like multivariable calculus and catch up on a day when your brain is working, but that's not true for something like abstract algebra. At the higher levels having a barrier like that is damning.
Students with ODD like Liam have made me a better teacher. I've learned how to not get power struggles, how to have patience, and how to teach cooperation to achieve goals.
omg! Teachers like you are so appreciated!! I am struggling now with my grandson and the teacher not having a clue how to minimize behaviors- so it has been so difficult!
@laurakidd5941 thank you! I had to teach Kindergarteners how to work as partners today, instead of hogging all the materials and boy did it take some patience and praise. One day at a time!
Thank you for being a great teacher. It is so needed❤
What tips work best to avoid a power struggle. I just joined this week as an assistant teacher for a student who has odd.
@@hahadarrie come to eye level and speak calmly but assertive when giving directions- give choices rather than demands- such as you can sit here quietly or go in time out? those are a few i use. always find something good they did to help their self esteem and want to do better. Those are a few i use
I think he has an ADVANCED sense of humour that his peer dont get. He is very lucky to have a kind mom. I hope he makes the best of it, i see a bright future for this kid.
Definitely.
I'm laughing at all his stuff 😂😭. Such a pure soul.
I 100% agree. I think he’s hilarious
He's bright. I guess the issue is overall balance. Who knows, maybe there is some yet to be discovered modality to help.
I sadly understand this boys sense of humor. He uses the horrible things he went through as a joke to help take back the power he felt he lost at a very young age. My mom was never a drug user when she was pregnant, but my father was an addict. I lost him a few years after I was born. I use the trauma and pain I had as jokes to make myself feel better about what happened. One day this boy will find a good group of friends who understands and supports the jokes because they know it’s not it ever be harmful.
hes gonna be a comedic genius on social media in 10 years
Did you watch the entire video till the end? Do you have ADD, ADHD, poor memory, IQ challenges?
he’s basically a mini version of jreg
@@leviathan4971a mini version of nositcritikal
wrong
im a disappointment
“It takes a village to raise a child, but when you have a child like Liam, the village flees” that, just hit really hard
Super sad :( and the part where they told her theres no way they'll get money for these kids. Truly heartbreaking.
Real life isn't perfect and neither are families and kids.
I hope the parents, especially the mom who seems to be doing most of the work, have a support system.
lol 😂😂
It hurts my heart so bad.
@@martina5296 uh sure
As someone whose mom had a “normal” pregnancy, I ended up with almost every disability and mental illness as him. I see so much of myself in him. I eventually found friends who love me so much and I’m living life to the fullest at 26! 💜☺️
I also have a lot of disabilities (I like to call them “deformities” or even battle scars from my twin) like autism, chronic pain, SPD, APD, ARFID (or just food anxiety), an autoimmune thing that is undiagnosed but they found ANA in my blood, I match with the symptoms of chronic fatigue too, anxiety and anxiety based insomnia. I definitely see myself in him too. Like you, I’ve finally found a good friend group (all neurodivergent haha) and I’ve started to feel a bit better about going into school. But I have meltdowns often and I’m a target of bullying because the way I try and de-stress is to cry. I hope one day I can be like you, able to enjoy like without having to worry about the pain I’ll feel tomorrow, or having to worry about people making fun of me. I hope you’re doing well, and sorry for oversharing! ❤
Good for you. Never stop believing in yourself!
To Liam's mum - I don't know if you realise, you are his rock, you are his Larry. Much love from a mother with a son that is just like Liam.
Damn... that hit hard...like a rock.
Awhhh that’s so sweet and so true 🥹
This nearly made me cry
@@MaeveWinters sorry x
@@Alexandra_Hill no it’s okay ❤️
Can we take a moment to appreciate the mom- she is solid as a rock.
You talking about Larry?
Totally agree, the woman is a saint ❤ I think he is in good environment despite a rough start in life.
so truee,,I salute her for taking care of such an angel
She's a saint
It’s very sad to hear she has no “village” left to help her.
Considering all the drugs his mom took while pregnant, he is doing great. I'm surprised he made it out.
I mean, he still has a long way to go… Only time will tell where he will end up ..
@@alsoleve99 He will never follow the rules, I dont think he'll ever be able to support himself.
@@kerafyrm_lol that’s the limit you put on yourself. Rules are meant to be broken and as you get older you have to learn how to not get caught doing it, we do it everyday. Do you not slow down when you see a cop in traffic in hopes that he doesn’t catch you going 10 over and then immediately speed up when you’ve passed him? Most of us abide by the rules when it’s convenient to keep us out of trouble but would break them if they stood between us and something that really matters, again we see that everyday. Have you every analyzed what rules are and what it means to have rules? Who comes up with the rules? In our case it would be a governing body, what exactly qualifies them above anyone else to determine what can or can’t be done in life? How egotistical do we have to be as humans to sincerely believe we can make rules that tell people how they have to live? When you look at the wonder that is life and existence how on earth do you get convinced that rules that are man made get to govern any of how this works? Following rules simply implies that it is ok to have someone else’s view imposed upon you and that you have to fall in line with that, I don’t need there to be a law to say that I shouldn’t harm someone because I understand that on my own and can govern myself accordingly. Nobody needs a law to tell them they should or shouldn’t do something because we already possess that ability to determine those things naturally, if you are unable to see right from wrong on your own then it’s time for some introspection
@@kerafyrm_ im not big on following rules either and i support myself just fine. Not being totally controled by norms is a good sign, just because a mom has had lots of drugs while pregnant, does not not always mean the kid will be damaged, or cant recover. people, animals and plants can go through a lot and succeed. but only time will tell. i wish him the best
@@kerafyrm_Don't make assumptions about a literal kid's future life
He is so so smart.... and so so insightful, he knows his behaviours are wrong, yet can't control them, gosh I hope they can help him control his anger and annoying defiance, I know it's probably not possible, but he has so much to offer. His adoptive mother is an angel
Can't believe Larry didn't get interviewed
larry’s a pet rock. would you interview a pet dog or cat?
@@diamondnose750 yes, there have been dog interviews before (for satirical purposes)
@@diamondnose750 makes sense
@@diamondnose750 there's this cool new thing called a joke
@@dreamofmaizie i was adding on to the joke 🤦♂️
Even though he has been diagnosed with all these conditions and difficult to control sometimes, he is still a smart and intelligent young man. They need to stop using the word 'problem' around him and start pushing the positive reinforcements.
Ditto!
Agreed!
Exactly I felt through the whole thing using his diagnosis as excuses around him and giving him fuel to the issues it's important to know and get help for him but some stuff should remain among the adults
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I was in a relationship with someone aspergic. That part was fine, but after 5 years I realised he was using it as a trump card to be an a-hole. Don't give them the excuse to be a-holes
PROTECT THIS MOM at all cost!!! She’s one of a kind.
@@lulazeta8965 what in the world
@@lulazeta8965 if hes not gonna clean his room they arent gonna send him off to a goddamn shelter where'd you get that from
@@lulazeta8965 what is wrong with you?
actually no she seems to be very intolerant and this entire video is legit focused on how awful and "miserable" (to use her own words) it is to raise a child who's a trauma survivor and to raise a neurodivergent child, there are many many kids with ODD (and ADHD, depression, anxiety, etc), and many parents who raise them and don't blame the kids or have a miserable experience. crazy concept: you can love a child with neurodivergences. wow!!! smh. this video was super bad education and promotes ableism, and intolerance of people w different brains
@@Hamdreas can I ask him a question
This poor woman is an absolute saint. I can see the years of abuse those eyes have been through.
Abuse?
Abuse???😭
From the outside, it looks like Liam runs the house and his parents.
“It takes a village to raise a child, but when you have a child like Liam, the village flees.” WOW- what a sentiment. This woman has so much strength
I felt so sorry for her when she said that, it's true, my aunt has a disabled child and she's so alone, she lives in a different country so all we can do is help her financially but it's not fair, I hope to get them legally into the states so she can get much deserved help and my cousin can get the therapy he needs. My heart goes out to all parents who are dealing with this.
@@karinagomez9831 Yes Karina. The child needs THERAPY and Yes, the mom is STRONG but unable to provide that therapy. Allowing Liam to do and say what he wants IS NOT THERAPY. During THERAPY, Liam would be trained adequately and it would not be so as to LET HIM DO AS HE FEELS LIKE. Drugs are destroying the brains of many children, young teens and adults.
@@lulazeta8965 He DOES get therapy.
@lulazeta8965 youve been spewing ignorance and prejudices all throughout this comment section. please leave people alone
@@d.laveyyy What do you think DEMOCRACIY is? I WILL KEEP ON EXPRESSING MY OPINION . Don't ask anyone not to express theirs. It may be you, not I, the "ignorant". You are out of line.
i'm in absolute SHOCK at the self-awareness this kid has. i have barely even seen this level IN ADULTS???
its those drugs
It's his mother telling him things she probably should really be saying in front of him for starters like ODD is a big problem I would tell my kid that and have him thinking like that
@@bryancoyne9692 u meant wouldnt and shouldnt?
I think its the autism lol. There's tons of kids with autism who have an amazing sense of intelligence and self awareness even at a young age. This kid really has a bright future with how intelligent he is.
@@bryancoyne9692that his brain is malformed😮
Damn, this kid is actually really smart and articulate! Not to downplay his disorders, but wow I think this kid has A LOT of potential.
Bro it’s just a normal kid. It’s crazy how a child not following “rules” means he has a disorder. All that kid needs is someone to tell him that he is just fine
I think hhe is really ahead of other kids of his age... @@stamatiskotakis9110
@@stamatiskotakis9110no.. you can't just judge his behavior only based on what you see in this video. Also you gain nothing from downplaying his disorders (or anyone elses disorder). Autism, ADHD, ODD aren't very obvious so it's easy to misinterpret them as just "bad behavior".
Si si si, yo pensé lo mismo. I thought the same thing, after what he's encountered. Wow 😲 what a beautiful & intelligent 🤓 young man. His mom is to be commended!!
Areas of his brain are malformed. Which means even with potential, some stuff about his disorders can't be changed or improved unfortunately.
0:22 the kid bullying himself makes me laugh for no reason-
lil bro said no offense to himself 😭😭
@evangel222 that was hilarious...what a cool kid 😂😂
I don't feel as if he's bullying himself he's just a kid with an amazing sence of humour and sarcasm and I think it's great that he can have this type of sends of humour and personality considering he should never have had to go through the things he has so good on him ❤
She seems like she's on the edge of a nervous breakdown bless her. Her strength and resilience is amazing.
There is a real disconnect in this world where heroes like her are ignored whilst those deserving of disdain are elevated.
Not a nervous breakdown, but a woman multi-tasking to her absolute max... keeping an eye on her hyperactive child, responding accordingly, keeping herself together, and holding an interview for the guests, in front the camera, and the eventual internet...
I don't think she looks like she's about to have a nervous breakdown at all...
She's just busy and stressed
@@savannahnickel1041 I actually agree that she is white knuckling on the verge of a major breakdown
Very sad reality
Definitely over whelmed and is worried about his future. She feels alone in this. She is trying her best but the village is no were to be found.
This is a good example how messed up our society is and why we have so many shootings and homeless. People just look the other way when they are children then when they become adults the village is still no were to be found. There is a lot of good in this world and this woman is one of the good. Adopting this child knowing he would have some special needs. I have a lot of respect for her.
Hopefully she can keep him on a straight path. Who knows what would of happened if he ended up in our system that is overwhelmed. I hope she is reminding him how much he is loved every day he needs it desperately because life is a struggle for him. Her love can be his shield from the outside world, his safe zone.
Liam's personality is straight out of a Malcom in the middle episode. I think he would do great as a comedy writer. He's gifted with incredible comedic timing.
when he said the thing about meta lowering their prices i bursted out laughing. he is too cute
I thought of comedy for him.
He's a really OG dude.
Agree!
There's nothing funny to live with a person that doesn't value nor respect the people that takes care of them.
This boy is indeed a victim of drug abuse but unfortunately he won't make life easy for his caregivers.
If people with asperger syndrome are hurtful to live with, I can't imagine what would be to love and take care of him...
He is a victim, yes, but their foster parents are as well.
The fact that this child is fully aware of his conditions and why he has them shows how incredibly intelligent and mature he is
He has a very bright future ahead of him
Yes, The mom need to learn Liam that he is not a diagnosis. He is not different. The truth is that the parents and adults say it to hom. And the say all of kind of diagnos. Dont put diagnosis on children. Childen can have autism and adhd. Thats it. What i see in Liam is so clear. He have autism spectrum level 1. He have not adhd.
this kid will 100% grow to have ASPD.
@@kathleenschoultz kids can have other diagnoses.
@@kathleenschoultz You’re not Liam’s parent and have no idea what it’s like to try to parent a child like him. By saying he’s no different than any other child, you not only invalidate the intense hardships and heartbreaks the mom experiences every single day, but you deny him from receiving specialized treatments and care a child like him needs in order to thrive. He obviously has a lot more going on than just autism and ADHD; Liam literally has a developmentally malformed brain. Neurotypical people don’t understand that diagnoses can vastly help in understanding how the individual’s mind works and finding the best ways to work with the individual.
@@kathleenschoultz the mom knows the kid from birth and you ve seen him in a shortened video. I'm sure she'd be a better judge
2:03 bro accepted it. That takes a LOT of courage. Speaking from personal experience.
I find Liam extremely sharp and I believe his self-consciousness can lead him to a good self-control. Hearing him answering Chris' questions that fast and with such depth makes me think he's going to be a very smart man. To the mom: you're doing an amazing job despite what other people think. Your patience and strength is what your son needs. Keep up
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@@madelaki 😂
people always say that about people with a large amount of self-consciousness, but to be honest, it really doesn't make life a whole lot easier.
@@yesjo1456 I agree actually. It's good that you pointed that out.
@@yesjo1456 Idk, I was very self conscious at his age, and also had imaginary pets, but if I were interviewed like that I probably wouldn't be able to get a single word out
Salute to Liam’s mom (not the biological one) for her strength, patience, and endurance in raising him. You are such an amazing mom, Liam is very lucky to have you as a mom.
Agreed, she's a saint!
This!
Absolutely!
Awestruck is a term that shouldn't be used lightly. This is a case where it's not even enough.
Liam is absolutely a victim here. However we need to also keep in mind that everybody is impacted by addiction, even the parent of a child. Not excusing his biological mom's behaviour and choices, but the opioid epidemic is a devastating problem all around. Loved listening to Liam, what strength he has.
I can’t help but feel bad for both Liam and his mom. He didn’t choose to have ODD, autism etc. but you can tell he’s a very intelligent, self aware, well spoken kid. When he heard his mom say people call her a bad parent and he said “Well they’re wrong”, you know he meant that. Just like his mom i hope he has a bright future, rooting for you Liam
well i think he said they’re wrong for thinking they should set more boundaries.
Only one had a choice.
The way his interviewer said "biological mom" implies it was an open adoption
Hm
Beautifully phrased. Liam is a gifted and intelligent boy and he'll surely do well in life. God bless 🙏
This lady deserves a medal. it's a constant battle. I understand it's not Liams fault. As a parent, this would be hard to handle. I take my hat of to this lady.. I have nothing but respect.
The fact that she’s not even his bio mom, she had no obligation or responsibility to take this kid in and yet she gave her life to making sure he has a good life, absolutely nothing in return. This woman has a huge heart
Edit: she’s gotta start using some reverse psychology bc telling him what she wants him to do just doesnt seem like its gonna work out lol
dont adopt a special needs child if u dont know what ur getting into
Yeah probably someone whos witty might help in therapy (like with the shirt thing she says "I bet you can't get your shirt on in 5 minutes" or "Wear your shoes first" "that doesnt make sense I'll wear my socks first". I dont think he has a motive besides wanting control, and doing that sort of thinking might guide him towards certain behaviors but it is hard to avoid being manipulative/not be manipulative towards him since it feels like the biggest thing that may affect him in the future
He's extremely smart though. He'll probably learn her new strategy quickly and start resisting that too
Congrats to the mom BUT (!!!) that ODD have a lot to do with her being a single mom and he just didn't see her as an authority figure because she may be afraid of educating him the real way thinking in his past!
This should be changed immediately if they want to save this child's future. All of his adulthood depends on that.
He doesn't follow orders because he never had been "punished" the right way nor had dealt with the real consequence of his actions.
This excessive protection can led to him ending up in an mental institution to save him from prison!
@@JDFe exactly just like he hasn't had consequences he also hasn't had incentives for good behavior either. Sometimes its just to avoid a consequence and keep the peace. Instead he has learned that abuse tantrums and defiance work.
2:00 I love to confuse kids with complicated adult questions they literally couldn't care less but by some kid curiosity they always answer. Why are kids so... human?
When his Mom said "the village flees" broke my heart. Liam isn't the only one needing a friend. Maybe she could look for local parents,going through some of the same issues,to hang out with? He is SO intelligent.
Hopefully there are some available. My son has similar issues (different cause) and she reminds me of me when my son was that age. It's very tiring and frustrating and can wear you down. Shes a terrific mother and i I wish them the best
He is very intelligent. He speaks articulately.
Same 😢
I am a member of many community groups (chronic pain/headache disorders/other issues I deal with) because I CANNOT find real life support within my local community. I don't mind having online support/friends and in fact have formed some close long-lasting (10 years+) friendships. Maybe it's a possibility for Liam? With all the appropriate supervision/safety measures,of course❤️
Liam's mom could also meet other parents on line. There are many of us with children who share at least some of Liam's challenges! It would be good for her to speak with other parents who've found ways to avoid some of the conflict. Sometimes, with some children, just asking a different way can be all that's necessary. Sometimes, to-do lists ('star charts', for example) with lists of tasks that need to be done - in conjunction with some sort of reward (a game together, an offer to talk about Roblox (or another preferred topic) - can be helpful. Sometimes they're not. Sharing both, the useful and the less-so, can be helpful to any parent - especially a parent of an intelligent, opinionated child like Liam (and like my son as well).
Liam, I was not born with opioids in my system, but I share every single one of your diagnoses and from what I could see in this interview, you act *exactly* like how I did when I was a kid. A big part of what makes life with these disorders so tough - at least for me - is that a lot of people who don't think and act like we do can be so dismissive of anyone who acts even a little 'different'. I want you to know that there are lots of people like you out there; as well as people who aren't like you, but who will find you all the more charming and interesting to be around because of it. It took me years to find them, but I promise you - they're out there, and one day you'll find them too.
And to Liams' mom: I was just like your son at his age - seriously, right down to not wearing socks just to spite my parents for telling me to - and my mother handled my oppositional behaviour very similarly to how you handle Liam's. She, like you, was a mom doing her best, and *NOT* a bad mother. Today I'm a young adult, an honours student in my university of choice who also just got offered a graduate school scholarship, and I love my mother to death and tell her it constantly. I sincerely believe that Liam's future will be just as bright, if not even brighter.
@@ababyharpseal6534 Wow, amazing!! thank you for sharing. So your childhood ODD didn't turn into ASPD in adulthood?
I hope a lot of people like and comment on this one, so it rises to the top and Liam and his mom get to see it
You put my thoughts into words better than every of my tries. I hope that Liam can find people like him, like us. Because we _exist_ and we _get_ you.
I hope Liam's mom reads this
I just want to give the lady a big hug, seriously. What a saint human being she is. I could feel the internal struggle and exhaustion and patience and kindness.
this. man she deserves everything good
Why is she a saint? Because she’s being a decent parent to her kid? You normally don’t call parents “saints” for that. It’s almost like your think he must be a burden to deal with, like him being disabled makes him hard to love…
@@stellarae8257 no but she could have refused to help him, she could still do that if she wanted to. This child is not a burden but it must not always be easy, I think he still needs more attention than other kids.. all the things she has named he has are not usual and common for that age yet she has to deal with them. Obviously she chose to do this but doesn’t mean we can’t respect her for doing what she does..
@@stellarae8257 yes. he wasn't her responsiblity. YES IT'S NOT FAIR TO HIM, DOESN'T MEAN ANYONE OWES HIM. He is a damn hard child to live and deal with and she chose to do that selflessly, cause she is not his birth mom, SO SHE IS A SAINT
@@neetisthegoal3108 she may be saint or may be not but your exam is for sure on 7th may dude..(im sorry i saw ur name and had to reply😅)
Thank you so much for sharing your story!!! You're starting the village for future families!!!
May you continue to find the strength and perseverance to spread awareness and fight for support. I, too, am a parent to a young man with multiple excetionalities from autism to mild intellectual delay. I started my own support group in my local library 10 yrs ago....the 5 families that checked it out are still coming back! Make your voice be heard!!
God bless!!!❤
He’s intelligent for his age, so that’s not a problem. It’s his behavioral issues which can be corrected over time. Wish the kid the best in life.
A child with normal brain development can improve behavioral issues over time. Liam has a whole different set of challenges, including Autism which does not change over time. He will always be different, I agree he is highly intelligent. He’s very witty too. I hope he continues to get the support he needs and finds a way to thrive in life. I think it’s important not bypass his challenges while holding him in high regard.
@@biancamichelle11I only have Anxiety and Autism. However, my behavioural problems have completely disappeared. I think it is totally possible for his behavioural problems to disappear if he gets the right support.
How old is he
@@biancamichelle11it really depends on your personality, cant say that for everyone because it CAN change (doesnt mean it has to) especially because were getting more and more options to reduce the negative symptoms by e.g. neurofeedback
as you already implied in ur comment, everyone is different
He will always be ODD, ASD and ADHD. It will not change. He can learn to mask and to some extent cope. It is a huge mountain to climb and it is a never ending task. So it is like dishwashing, you will never get to a point where you can let it go and just not do it without things crumbling.
I know the mom truly love this little boy, but I can tell she is exhausted. I hope she's able to have time for herself and mental well-being.
It's crazy to judge others just by watching 1 videos. Westerners make wild guesses about other people's emotions just by looking at their facial expressions.
I want to be Liam friend
I think he needs a younger mom, someone who can keep up with his energy, because he has a lot of it. Hopefully his mom puts him in sports like swimming, so he can focus that energy.
@@novrinkov0053 She literally says in the video she's exhausted. It's not "westerners" making a wild guess, she says in the video. You're also actually just making a wild guess that the commenter is a westerner too so
@@novrinkov0053 nice generalization
This had to be a tough interview - there wasn’t any joy, just heartbreak after heartbreak. I feel for this mother , she is sacrificing her life for this child, and her biggest fear is “he will let his ODD take over and make bad choices”. This was hard to process. I hope the very best for Liam and his mom and hope he gets the help and support he needs and that he finds peace and comfort in his life.
It was hard. That odd will lead him to prison system if not corrected. Everyone needs rules.
@@gnatanderson5536I think the opposite. If he uses the light that's inside him and that shines so bright on this video, he will have a great life, doing great things.
@@Liberte8888 I truly believe in this boy, he seems so smart. I hope he has a bright future
@@gnatanderson5536these comments will remain for posterity. I believe in you, honey. You have an amazing support system and one day when you read these comments you get to see every odd you beat that people expected
@@Liberte8888 I know his light is capable of controlling the impulses from his diagnosis. Hopefully with age, he can understand what is going on and see his mom for the blessing that she is and be able to be the version of his self that gives him contentment with this life.
I really relate to this. I also have ADHD, autism, anxiety, depression and a few similar disorders that have turned out to be largely genetic and/or treatment resistant. I’m now 20 and in college, studying to be a teacher. I never thought I’d get this far, until I got the chance to meet other people like me and realized that there were people who really understood me and that I could be successful like them, despite my struggles. Liam, you’re not the only one. I would have loved to have a friend like you as a kid (my friends at your age were stuffed animals). The world can really suck sometimes, but we will make it better. And I know you’ll find more people like you someday too, who really understand what it’s like. In the meantime, I’m glad you’ve got Larry and your family! I’m cheering for you :)
And mom, you’re incredible. Thank you for trying to understand even if you can’t experience what it’s like. Most people would give up, but I can tell that you and Liam love each other too much for that. You’re doing an INCREDIBLE job, and are raising an equally incredible son.
Although exhausting, I can tell Liam's mother whole-heartedly loves him the way he is. She has accepted that this is Liam. Given how many different diagnoses he has, he is incredibly well balanced and well articulate. We also have to remind ourselves that he is the way he is because of the drug abuse of his biological parents. I applaud everyone in this video, and I am rather optimistic about his life.
I love your comment the most, I think you really summarize the extraordinary humanity of both of them the best
I was a little like Liam. I had a head injury as a baby and I’ve got severe ADHD on top of that. I had a disdain for rules as well. I benefitted MASSIVELY from after school art classes with a very understanding art teacher who let me paint whatever I wanted. Art is for rule-breakers and he let me learn on my own while sneaking some guidance in there. If it weren’t for my dirt bike and my art classes I’m pretty sure I would’ve ended up in jail. I am now an art teacher hoping to impact kids how my precious art teacher did for me. Liam is SMART and funny. Once he finds an outlet or two I think he will figure it out.
YES!!!
This. I didn't have a brain injury but did/do have severe ADHD. And Art saved me. The world you can create, and the way you can sort through this world all through your creativity really helps. It fosters mindfulness, is a form of meditation, and truly helps with trauma processing. Ad from one special needs Mom to another..Stay strong Momma.. God doesn't give us the children we want but the children we need.
@@ItsBrit Same! I was also struggling with severe depression (not sure if it was a result of the ADHD or just separate). I had two art classes my senior year of highschool with the same teacher. Those classes were my refuge, and her patience and understanding for me really saved me that year.
Love this! 🫶🏾
Art is about breaking rules, that's a great point. I feel Liam probably likes the sports he's in. Hockey has rules, but it's also exhilarating. And if no one else is around, ice skating doesn't have rules
This child is very smart, inquisitive, and highly articulate.
yeah some kind of special that doesnt work out when you are an adult...
But I think he lacks emotional intelligence and empathy.
@@anayarey yes, I agree.
And funny! And full of humility. Great timing and delivery.
@@anayareyWhy do you say that? Autistic children are often misunderstood as lacking empathy but for the majority it's actually the complete opposite, they are just not good at expressing it.
I've heard that psilocybin mushrooms can help with opioid addiction treatment. Is that true?
Yes, research suggests that psilocybin-assisted therapy can be effective in treating opioid addiction.
Mushrooms did wonders in my life. I was diagnosed with cptsd since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting cptsd. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. This is something that really need to be use globally to help people with similar health challenges.
GOLDEN TEACHERS. I've had friends who tried the same ones I did and have had great reviews as well! Some even mentioned they tried other strains before and said they liked the teachers better!
The hardest part is trying to find where to buy from, where did you get from ?
medicgael
I can't even imagine being Liam's adopted mom. She is so incredibly strong in taking care of Liam. She is such a true blessing of this world. I hope she and Liam get the help they need.
she keeps him inside, and seems to not let him socialize. I'm sure he would have friends if his mom let him go outside for the day and play with neighborhood kids.
@@fml2266 you're just assuming
this exactly 🥹 a saint who saved a child in this world. i hope she keeps it up, she is such a good influence. she needs not just kind words, but action in the form of support. 💙 i wish i could help
@@fml2266 Not all kids accept kids they don't know into their play, regardless of whether or not they live in the same neighborhood. Also, not all neighborhoods are suitable for play outside (I don't know what their neighborhood is like, but a place off a busy street with no sidewalks, for example, isn't the kind of place in which children should be allowed to play outside without adult (or older responsible teen) supervision).
That mom is probably one of the most patient people I've ever seen, what an amazing woman.
Especially, as a adopted mom. I love to have a mom like her❤❤❤😊😊
She probably heavily medicated
@@quorincollins9965 what kind?
@@quorincollins9965 He was the one who called her names.
@@quorincollins9965 you did not understand what was going on if this is your belief
I hope the mother also seeks mental health support. She's incredibly loving, caring, and hopeful. But she also needs help as a caretaker of a child with ODD. I truly hope for Liam to do well and grow up to become a loving and grateful man.
This
This is the most normal kid I've seen. He's self aware articulate and intelligent.
It's crazy how many " disorders" they labeled him with. All lies for money
@@dustygatrell-ru7tg yeah i think all kids have an innate urge to disobey.. maybe he reached that earlier than normal.. but, his mom does seem a little..... soft. But dude is hilarious. If he had a TH-cam id watch him frfr lol
@creolemanya1646 his mother isnt soft she is just exhausted. U can tell she is at her breaking point and she is a saint 4 her patience 4 this kid. Im sure she has tried countless times 2 b more strict but when ur kid has an abnormality in his brain its not always that easy. Speaking from experience as i know someone whos child also has ODD, extremely frustrating for the parents and even the child sometimes. They dont mean 2 b rude and disrespectful its just how their brains r wired 2 process things
This mother is a super hero. The amount of patiences she has is out of this world.
Foster parents and adoptive parents are amazing ❤️❤️
What I'm thinking the entire time. He looks so well-mannered and capable and calm and regulated (especially in the prism of all the diagnoses and what they typically do). She must be a saint
I’m almost 8 years clean from heroin and gave birth to my daughter in late February of this year; she was born healthy and happy & I’ve never been so grateful for my sobriety. I am incredibly eager to watch this episode, as I’ve been waiting for an interview exactly like this from SBSK ever since I subbed to the channel a few years ago ❤
Awesome!❤
you deserve this!!!❤congratulations on 8 years clean
Congratulations on 8 years! I just celebrated 5 years clean and sober from opiates and alcohol. It''s a great feeling.God bless you and your daughter, you're both in my prayers. Keep up the good work!
Congrats on your sobriety, and your new baby. From one recovering addict and mom to a 6-year-old, well done!
Congratulations on the baby and on the monumental accomplishment of sobriety.
I sense he is being ‘told’ a lot about himself that he is making his identity. He is being told who he is, and that that person is ‘faulty’. Of course he feels different when all he’s known is being treated different and being told he’s restricted because of labels. It’s sad how matter of fact he is about himself, but that’s learnt from the adults around him. He’s clearly super intelligent and very self aware
He is but it’s important to tell him the truth… It’s focused on because that is essentially the root of his behavior. Also this video is to talk about what happened.
iABSOLUTELY agree n caught onto that as well
I agree with you completely. I picked up on this as well. I have a family member who has a child with ODD and they are very controlling. ODD is created. I do not think children are born with this
Exactly! ☹️
@@ponygirl9831 uh. well. you are in fact born with odd. its usually something that tags along with autism or adhd which as im sure you know is entirely biological
1:07 we love Larry ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
you can see that while Liam has been diagnosed with a lot of things, he is also incredibly smart! The fact that he was on Chat GPT in this interview and wanting to save up his allowance to buy the Meta VR. He has insane interest in technology and I see a great career in that field for him! I think with time, he can learn to regulate and manage his emotions. He is also lucky to have his mother. His mother is saving his life - don't think he knows it yet though. If Liam had the wrong caregiver he could easily become his worst self but with the caring guidance and love she brings, I can see him going to a much better future :)
one belief I have is that it's possible to build video games that both interest children of high intelligence (and defiance) or any other social disorder that can help them navigate their emotions into a resolvable space, that eventually encourages them to be apart of reality and life in a way that they can handle. at least this is my dream.
That's exactly right but she does also need a lot more help to care for him.
Python: *has strict formatting rules
Liam: *ignores
Python: *proceeds to throw a bajillion warnings and still ends up working
he got a blunt sense of emotions cant u see
@@Hello.God2i like you’re view and i agree
God he’s so charismatic. He could do stand up one day. So clever and bright.
Yesss he's so witty and smart!
He was extremely lucky, and he has a bright future ahead of him. I hope he takes advantage of that and lives his life exactly how he wishes to
That is because of the heroin - it makes you a hero!
Its the drugs
Edit out the misused big/ special names Lucy and mil (in Ermilio) and big terms God and bright and clever and up etc that only reflect me THE only God / Goddess / Lady / Leader / Queen / Princess / Boss / Star etc and the only Lucy / bright being etc, and pronouns can never be with capital letters when referring to others / hum’ns, only when referring to me - big terms and capital letters all reflect superiority, and such things only reflect me THE superior being and the only lovable / loved being etc, and big terms / love related terms cannot be misused by hum’ns in any way!
My heart aches for this mom. You can see she is completely drained.
My heart aches for both of them. I’m sure Liam doesn’t mean to be difficult- he just needs more help, more support and a friend. Just one good friend.
She is an angel. She has life purpose❤❤❤
His brain was injured by his drug addicted biological parents, my heart aches for both of them.
@@jwonTh angel***
@@yikesgina k thx
I knew a kid like this. He was in 8th grade touring our high school and I thought he was 6th grade. Incredibly smart kid he was really kind. Broke my heart to find out that he was born addicted to many many things. I hope he’s doing well now.
“Larry and I have been havin a rough time. Me & him dont have no friends.” Poor baby. I hope he is being treated well by his peers. He deserves friends & love, his mother’s actions shouldnt determine his self worth. He is much more than the substances his (bio) mother decided to take!!! ❤
His birth mother’s actions shouldn’t determine his worth. His mom is loving, supportive, and doing her best.
@@RadMad789 I agree. She seems like she wants the best for him and is dealing with perfectly valid emotions around taking care of him- ensuring he has what he needs while still trying to teach him the regulatory tools needed to navigate life and relationships. Its the natural worry and stress any mother would feel for their child coupled with the love & desire to keep him safe. I wish her the best and thank you for your kind comment! We all need a little more love in this world.
Well put... but I would add that EVERYONE deserves to be treated with respect and kindness... with an active-willingness to try and understand those we don't think we can relate to, from a place of love, rather than ego!
I understand that this isn't how the world tends to operate very often, but I'm really glad that this thriving kid was placed in a caring home, that tries to help him keep thriving... even though the challenges they face seem quite difficult, a lot of the time!
I wonder if that's more of a reflection on the changing social world. I always knew kids like him in school, uniquely charming and witty but obviously damaged from something that went unspoken. Him and I would have been mates
My heart goes out to the mom. I can just see the exhaustion on her face. I really hope she gets the community and love she deserves.
I am a NICU nurse. This is a huge problem in Tennessee. I take care of babies going through this all the time, it is terrible what these babies go through and a lot of people don’t know about it.
Thank you for this video. I have often wondered what happens to these babies as they grow up. This is heartbreaking and I hope Liam can find happiness in his life as he continues to grow up…
Liam is VERY normal
not with this overbearing mother that seems to keep him secluded and openly speaks about using ADHD meds, which are all pointless, and usually lead to addiction. Because they are all addictive.
@@fml2266 I agree that kids normal
@@jason-s8c He is normal, and he has been denied proper opportunities to thrive his entire life it seems. Being born addicted, and then having a mom who seems like she's trying her best, and just is ill-equipped to deal with him. I hope he is given the right chances to succeed later in life.
@@fml2266 …it’s almost as if you have adhd, you often need adhd meds to help manage it, so you’d explore that route….shocker 🙄
1:57 im so sorry but who asks a child that 😭🙏
ikr
Fr lol
Someone who understands the child's intelligence far more than I think people realise
Can we please acknowledge how funny Liam is? He has an amazing sense of humour and he looks very creative. I hope he finds his way and make a great circle of friends.
He made me laugh so much. His hilarious.
Is he trying to be funny though? Idk
Bippity bippity bippity “ 😂
@@rl5725 does it matter if he's trying to be?
@@ruby8718 yes it does matter. It can be frustrating to him seeing people laugh because he can't properly interpret people's emotions or reactions.
Mom seems tired. As much as I want Liam to have all the help and support so he can grow into a functioning adult. I hope his mom gets support and someone to talk to also. I hear ODD can be A LOT in the teen years. But hopefully his case won’t end up being too extreme by then.
I feel sad for Liam thinking he's too different to find human friends. There are tons of kids with ADHD, autism and other disorders. He's not alone with what he's going through. I wish I could tell him that it gets better, you find typical and atypical friends throughout your life if you only keep your good spirit and desire to learn 💛
has nothing to do with that adhd, autism, etc. it has to do with the fact that he breaks things, throws tantrums and doesnt like to compromise with others. Imagine wanting to play a game with someone who doesnt like rules? That's what outlines a game....rules.
@@sputniksweetheart5187 that's true. If his mom has a hard time dealing with him, wouldn't too a child? A child might be apprehensiveabout playing because of those behaviors.
@SputnikSweetheart We don't know if he has tantrums, throws and breaks things in front of his peers. Let's not assume.
@@celiabonadies5667 6:05
@@celiabonadies5667 One hundred percent he throws tantrums and cant play along well with kids. "It needs to be my way." His mom said he has no self-control and when he doesnt get his way he has meltdowns. Somehow that magically changes at school? That would mean he does have self-control and its just a behavioral issue at home.
If Liam started his own channel i would watch every upload no joke, he has this sense of humor that i enjoy. I also have a pet rock, his name is Timothy Tinnitus
This mother needs and deserves help and support. This must be exhausting emotionally and physically. I pray that she gets the professional help she needs to help her son. It is hard to navigate the broken healthcare system. Without help, things may just get tougher for her and her son. Liam will struggle with the effects of his birth. He is very intelligent. It was good that Mom realizes that Liam can behave as needed when doing an activity he enjoys . This demonstrates that he has potential for growth and to learn more appropriate coping skills. I pray that they both find the help they need .
He actually seems very intelligent, funny, very creative/imaginative. The only problems I as an outsider can see is his ADD and insecurity.
What’s about ODD?
The ODD is almost worse. But adhd is horrible
@@louisasmiles a child that doesn't like rules? Have you had kids lmao.
@@billbailey1511 have you known someome with ODD?
HE IS CAPABLE OF UNDERSTANDING THE CONCEPT OF "PARENTAL AUTHORITY" AND UNDERSTANDING THAT HE CANNOT 'PUNISH " HIS PARENTS WHEN HE IS TOLD WHAT TO DO. LIAM NEEDS TO BE TAUGHT THAT "DEFINCE HAS A PRICE" AND MAKE THE INTELLIGENT CHOICE OF "OBEYING" AUTHORITY.
Sheesh. This situation is beyond rough. This lady’s continuous stress level is through the roof. Her eyes dart when there’s a loud noise, she’s jumpy, she’s always on alert and on the lookout. Imagine what that does to your body and hormones. Also imagine the mental toll of attempted manipulation (what’s the food you want in this house- so he can throw it out), verbal karate, and helplessness.
I know the kid has a lot of issues and as a perent its definitly good to differienciate these issues to bad behavior but i think beeing a little strict might go a long way. I can only admire this woman for beeing able to go through this everyday but when it comes to the emotional manipulation i think its important to enforce rules at these moments even if the kid is disabled. Its the same with people justifying devious actions from autistic people. Strictness goes a long way. You dont need to be as hard on the kid as you would a normal kid but even with all those disorders you can understand if you arendoing something bad. For example when he threw her food away, he knew his mom would get upset about that so he definitly understands when ever he is doing something he is not supposed to do and he keeps doing it because he gets away with it
@@myguy2656 Do you honestly think she's never tried being strict with him...? Reminds me of when people tell folks with acne to just "wash their face a little more often". Like gee, thanks, never thought of that. The kid literally has a malformed brain and a disorder which causes him to oppose anything she says, her tone of voice isn't gonna change that. It will make him resent her though, because he can't control it.
@@Evelina_412If you think strictness is about the tone of voice you're not understanding the word.
@@Evelina_412I thought she said they were working on boundaries?
@@myguy2656I understand exactly what you mean and I agree. Also yes he's very smart and listens and hear EVERYTHING EVERYTIME mom talks about his diagnosis to people. Kids are already pretty smart and okay off of things whether they're diagnosed with an illness or not they're smart 😉😉
My best friend is also a drug baby, and this video painfully reminds me so much of her, but from when i met her i have noticed she has improved and changed, i feel so much sympathy for Liam as i am close to someone like him and i have expirence first hand how drug babies think, i hope he can find peace eventually and live a life as best as he can.
They need to stop telling him that it’s out of his control because it’s gonna be a core belief and he will believe he can’t control it
he probably can think for himself
@unendingpinelate940 Children can’t think for themselves biologically, they’re sponges with undeveloped frontal lobes, and him even more so.
@@lucian940thats true, but the thing is, kids absorb absolutely everything you tell them as truth, and you HAVE to be careful with what you say because the wrong wording can cause permanent issues in someone
@@wrightcember i remember being a kid and being scolded for questioning everything ive been told. it doesnt necessarily happen to all children
What an ableist comment
extremely intelligent and funny kid. the way he speaks and his sense of humour are on another level than those of his peers. props to his mom for being patient with him and understanding him.
He is incredibly intelligent. I hope he gets the help he needs to not get in trouble and gets to lead a happy life. And mad respect for his mom.
He’s adorable but the lack of impulse control and defiance will not lead to good things for him as an adult.
I just hope that there’s someone out there taking care of this wonderful mom as much as she takes care of her wonderful son
Its obvious that Liam is HIGHLY intelligent, and extremely smart people tend to be made fun of as kids cuz they just dont quite fit in. The good news is these kids tend to grow up to be very successful❤
I believe Liam will someday find true friends who accept him for how he is and that he will overcome his issues he is experiencing, I really do.
Liam, if you are reading this, I think you are AWESOME and you remind me SO much of my 9 year old son!
I guarantee you two would get along wonderfully if you ever met.
Sadly, ODD kids often grow up to become criminals.
@@agnediciuniene9861 Really?
@@agnediciuniene9861 yes, you are correct, but I dont think Liam will. He has a good heart.
this kids life is going to be ruined with an overbearing mother like that, he needs to be outside and with friends.
@@agnediciuniene9861 i have ODD and i don’t know what you mean by criminal but i do have multiple charges so this actually might be true
I hope that Liam is able to control his ODD as he grows up. He is a good kid at heart, but as his mother said, if the ODD takes over, he could make very bad choices. Hopefully his intelligence will make things easier for him.
He's a little brat that's gonna get shot up by cops one day
oftentimes children with ODD are diagnosed with bipolar later on. :/
The sad thing is that it’s not his fault and he may not be able to control it. The only thing that may work is medicine + therapy.
He’s a good kid, just misunderstood.
He intelligence may make it worse. He appears to have narcissistic tendencies.
how can bro not have friends, he is chilled in every way
This woman has her hands full, and it's only going to get harder as he gets older. I hope she gets the support she'll need.
ODD was nearly a breaking point for me to deal with. Finding patience and understanding is extremely difficult when raising a child with strong ODD. I was fortunate to have a good child psychologist which made a world of difference over the years. My child is now much lower on the ODD spectrum now. She had the self knowledge by around age 11 to realize the issues with ODD and she worked hard to understand it and learn to manage it. It could improve with professional support.
Agreed. My heart breaks for her watching this video. She’s working so hard to get him help but, she really needs help too. 😔
I feel so bad for her in this situation. 😢
i feel like he has such a good sense of humour that only adults would get whereas little kids are not mature enough to process his humour and he's too smart for them to understand.
Yeah he struck me as an old soul in some ways. I hope he gets through this. I struggled with similar things as a kid, and I'm doing ok now. I hope he gets the same.
I was thinking the same thing! I believe he’ll have an easier time making friends when he’s older
Yh seems to me like his brain abnormalities made him very very smart for his age. I think even his mum is not smart enough for him.
4:29 "not sponsored" LOL omg I feel like I could spend hours listening to him talk
Right? Smart kid
Yes, I would love to be his friend. I think all that stigma and an unhealty kids enviroment is what helds him from being socialized.
I am quite similar in behaviour. I would Love to have him as a friend!
The rice situation is really sad. Like if i had a sibling like that i would have a mental breakdown. I hope the odd will get better.
Like Liam was very Smart and good kid but after rice situationnmy opinii. Changed
I hope his mother has a solid support system and stays safe. I’m worried about Liam’s behavior, especially as he gets older. His answers to the question: “what do you like about your mom” were concerning.
exactly, plus he says he wont follow any rules. Really wories me.
Glad I wasn’t the only one seeing big red flags..
I feel bad because I cant even blame the mom or him- its out of their control. But i am concerned about him fitting in with society… :(
my exs mom did drugs when pregnant with him and he was super violent i don't think he was evil just damaged and its sad. I hope this kid turns out better
I get a vibe from his “mom” caretaker that she doesn’t really like him, let alone love him. 😢 Poor kid! He has A LOT of potential, but it sucks seeing seeing his “mom” put labels on him that limit his growth.
He’s more in touch with life than the kids who shun him. I truly hope as he gets older, he realizes how many people out there will cherish his unique and insightful mind.
True, but thats only cuz he's intelligent and has set his own boundaries -- that is, "its my way"
He seems way smarter and self aware than other kids his age
Right?
He should identify as a rock to get out of school if the school is gonna be unfair
@gabrielwong9063transphobia shouldn’t even be a word. U can’t change what u are
It's typical for autistic kids.
That's because he went through a lot more than most kids his age have been
Omg I'm glad I happened to see this video. I'm going through the same thing this mom is going through. My daughter was born addicted to meth. This is so helpful.
This woman desperately needs help. She can’t do this on her own. No one should have to do this on their own. I fear for her mental health, and the extreme toll this is having on her.
Truly.
The boy is bullying her
@@jaydedtodayshe says “we” when talking about people thinking she’s a bad parent, and talking about “our” older children. Not sure she’s single.
When you adopt alone no one makes you aware how bad it can get. My adopted child spent time in a mental health unit as a direct result of the first family. She had no idea what she was going to get with that 7 week old new born and she looks absolutely exhausted and in need of some tlc.
Where is the jelly fish then?
This is probably one of the hardest videos to watch from this channel. I had to pause it numerous times just to collect my thoughts.
I wish the best for this brave warrior and his heroic mother.
I went through so many emotions trying to watch the entire video. This is information that needs to be more widely available to people. Alot of people don't truly understand that these kids and adoptive parents have no help.
That's exactly what I was thinking about. The hardest one for me.
Liam is so smart and sharp and funny... and clearly struggling deeply with his emotions, including sadly what seems to be a lot of anger and disdain towards himself, and impulse control. His mum is a rockstar for being so patient and calm and unwavering, but also Liam is a victim here and it's heartbreaking to see and hear the numerous ways he was let down by both the system and his birth parents. I was also a child with severe behavioural issues (autism, ADHD and trauma) and an amazing mum, and thankfully over the years and a lot of therapy, I am now much more in control of my life and my emotions, and have an excellent relationship with my rockstar mum. I hope that Liam will eventually be able to reach that place too. Thank you for sharing this video, as always.
he is lucky because most kids with the same beginnings do not have the support of therapists and specialists. I hope it all just clicks one day. Reframing the shame surrounding the neglect and drug abuse of his birth mother and respect for others seem to be the most important lessons to learn at the moment.
Muy genia esa madre!!!! Gracias x aceptar a Liam y darle lo mejor ❤
Mothers like her needs personal help too. She's probably neglected her life to raise a child like him. She needs support too, she's a human being with needs herself.
For Liam's mom, you are a strong woman, I admire your courage, your patience and all the love you have for your son. You are great. Thank you for caring and loving him. He deserves it. ❤
He seems like a challenging child to raise, but not a challenging person to like! I wish Liam and his mother all the best. Most of all, I hope he can make some good friends!
HOPE HE IS CAPABLE OF HAVING A DROP OF 'EMPATHY" TOWARDS HIS PARENTS' LOVING ATTITUDE AND START OBEYING (EVEN WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING THE WHY OF THE LOVING ORDERS FROM THEM.
@@lulazeta8965 I’m speechless, all I can say is if you want your kids to obey you rather than be just respectful and kind, not just to you but everyone, then you are genuinely demented for that… older generation or not.
And how do you know he has no empathy towards his mom?
@@lulazeta8965 Please consider not commenting anymore until you educate yourself on these conditions.
He already has a good friend, Larry.
He got the "how did we get here?" achievement at birth
Mom is exhausted and most likely feel completely alone in the world as a mom. She is not alone, lots of us moms out here know exactly where she is and how she feels. Step back and breathe!