When you discussed your Dad I was very touched. A friend went the IVF SMBC route years ago and her Dad was the main support. Her doctor suggested she get her Dad a journal or show him how to video himself so it could be given to the child about how her granddad thought and felt through this process. That little girl created out of my friends desire to have a child cherishes the video and journal from her grandfather, sometimes more than those from her Mom. To know that a man of an older generation felt nothing but love and acceptance means a lot to her.
I did IVF to get my children. It was after 3 failed IUI attempts that were mandated by my insurance provider. I am now the mother of three. 2 are from IVF. 1 fresh, 1 frozen, and 1 who showed up on his own after I stopped trying. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Although, I am partnered--I pray for your SMBC success.
@@WahimaLino Yeah, my insurance provider made my try Clovid for 3 rounds, then IUI for 3 rounds before finally approving me for the more expensive IVF. That's 6 wasted months!!! Anyhoo, I got what I wanted, I pray you will too. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
You're a superwoman. I so appreciate you sharing your story Wah. This future child or children will be so loved & desired. Fully in support of you in this journey 🙏❤️
Hi, good for you! Just some words of encouragement- I started trying to have a child on my own at age 39. I am now 49 (I turn 50 on Feb 28) and am 6 months pregnant with twins. I decided that 2020 would be the last year that I try (my last year in my 40's). Did embryo adoption for the first time and it worked!
I'm proud of you. Being this intentional about motherhood is beautiful. It's overwhelming to think of the love that child will be surrounded in. I'm rooting for you.
You are extremely strong and brave. In no way I’m trying to do a comparison but I think it’s important to understand that many women feel the same way in regards to wanting a child but not in an ideal relationship but they forgo knowing they are bringing a child into a toxic situation for the sake of creating life. The fact that you refuse to settle for an unqualified man and choosing the single mom path is showing how much love you will give your child. So many women resent their children because the relationship did not work out when it should always be about the child and the love they deserve no matter what the circumstances. I’m rooting for you and I pray that you have a strong support system because motherhood is the biggest and hardest thing in life ❤️
Don't ever be shamed by other who have an opinion on you wanting to be a single mom by choice, or anything. People have shamed (and are shaming) me for not wanting children and they can mind their own business and mind their own choices. It is YOUR life, it is YOUR body and it's YOUR choice, and no one else's. You have the courage & strength to go through a whole procedure to do this and I am proud of you, I admire you and you got this !!! I hope the fibroid situation will be solved and I can't wait to follow your journey.
Wah, I wish you all the very best and sending healthy uterus and sticky baby vibes your way. I’m here with you for the entire journey and I pray that there is a beautifully healthy baby or babies at the end of it!!!
Please, Wah! Let us know the date of your surgery. I'd like to send positive vibes and energy your way on this day. Love you! All the way from Japan 🗾. ❤️
I had a myomectomy in 2015 and had 2 children one in 2018 and 2020 ( age 39).. had 3 losses in between no ivf.. have your dream..also had a dysfunctional childhood..
Wah this really touched my heart, thanks for being so open and honest. I follow your reviews but I'm very excited to follow this new chapter. Sending much love and positive thoughts and energy towards you.
Hey Wah! As you know I’m a single mommy and I lived with my parents the first three years. They were so supportive and it makes me so happy you have yours too! Always here for you if you have mommy questions! I’m so excited for you on this journey!
I am wishing you so much luck with this journey. Your romantic history sounds similar to mine. I have kids but they are my sister’s and I have raised them since birth. I don’t have the yearning to have bio kids but I appreciate that others do. I should say I never wanted to kids period but I am happy with my current situation. I am going to send you all the good luck.
Your dad sounds amazing! I'm glad you have a plan and an amazing support system. I wish I had made these types of decisions in my 30's. I wanted to add a little additional context on home insemination types. Most people doing home inseminations are not doing IUI as they are not breaching the cervix and entering the uterus .They are doing intracervical insemination or ICI. IUI at home can involve a mid-wife and should always involve washed sperm.
Awwww Wah I'm so happy you started this channel ❤❤❤ I raised my 2 sons mostly without their Dad ( help from my family) and Idk who I'd be without being a mother. 🥰 My sons are my pride and Joy🥰 (now 16 and 22)I'm so excited to follow your journey...many blessing to you🙏🏽🙏🏽❤❤❤👶🏾👶🏾
good luck on your journey, wah. you're very brave for embarking on such a journey and i wish you the best. you have an awesome spirit and energy and i know you'll be a great mom.
I couldn’t wait to watch this Wah! I have 2 children with my partner but for some reason I’m very intrigued by the SMBC community. I think it’s the freedom of it and the fact that women are able to make being a mother a choice without having to have the “fairytale”. I think it’s amazing.
I am so moved by this. As a long-ish time follower it's so awesome to see you embark on this journey. Tysm for being so vulnerable - I know the impact of this will be huge for women in similar shoes! Sending you so much love and wishing you the absolute best! Xx
Wishing you the best Ms Wah. Connecting with your story. Thanks for letting us be part of ur journey. I once thought about IUI , and went through a process. God bless 😊
Thank you so much for covering this topic. I to am 38 I have been in 2 long term relationships that did not evolve and am currently considering my options as well.
Hello sis,use Dr Omo herbal medicine to unblock your tubes very active with no side effects he also help me shrink my fibroids, my baby is just 3months old..
Courage to you. A friend of mine had the same issue with fibroids. She saved some eggs(eggs banking) first because of her age then did the myomectomy and after that the IVF with the frozen eggs. Now she has two beautiful children. I have heard of IVF grants. May be you could look at it too.
Who knows maybe in that year of rest you will find the right person. I met my husband at the age of 34, 2 years later we tried to have a baby and had 3 misscairages. We started IVf in September 2020 , 2 failed cycles and now I am pregnant. Dont let the egg and age thing bother you I produced 19 eggs and we are left with 5 frozen embryos now. I am a strong believer in timing. Anyway good luck on your journey.
Hello sis,use Dr Omo herbal medicine to unblock your tubes very active with no side effects he also help me shrink my fibroids, my baby is just 3months old..
Your transparency is amazing. You mentioned talking with your parents about helping you with your future bundle of joy, but only shared your Dad’s opinion. Is your Mom supportive as well?
When I made the announcement she looked at me and said "Okay" after I prompted her by saying "Mom?". In my experience that doesn't mean that she will help, it more than likely was just an acknowledgement of my statement. I think she will assist with a baby, but a child that speaks and asks questions or doesn't do exactly what she says ,when she says it, will only be mildly tolerated. HOWEVER, only time will tell. I'm holding out for a possible change in patterns. Typing this out to you, if different that saying it on camera. 😉
If I am out of line, please tell me, but this is a video about fibroid and its treatment Dr. Harris Narrates A 3-D Animation of a Uterine Fibroid Embolization (UFE) - TH-cam
Also... we have a family friend who at age 50, (she saved money as a nurse) and had her 1 baby. Her husband has sickle cell and had no viable sperm. So having a partner can also mean no baby like you said.
Have you thought about just egg retrieval now that way you’ll have the embryos and not have to worry about diminishing egg quality. (Not a professional- did Ivf with wife and we did egg retrieval first. I also have fibroids and had two myomectomies so I get it!)
We all are not sure if it is right to have children, if we are positive god love us. Because of our life span we only get one road and it is a calculated guess.
I had IUI three times and no go. The reason is because I am "not a candidate for invitro fertilization" (my uterus was too small so they would not be able to see what they are doing) . They also could not even see my egg production.. only my blood work revealed that I released an egg monthly. ... Then the next cycle after my third IUI I got pregnant! ..how? By natural means! ....I just want to say don't believe it is as grim as they make it sound...are you sure your egg production is low...because I am sure you are very fertile age dont matter!...I knew in my heart I was fertile at 36 why because I had had 2 pregnancies in the past (lost those pregnancies unfortunately)
I've dealt with baby fever as well... 🥲 everyone around me has babies so that puts emphasis on my situation. As a man, when I go out I have to be extra careful to make sure parents don't spot me catching glances at their kids while sporting a big smile, all in an effort to not seem like a creep. 😅 Side note: There is a lot of shame put on women in general in almost all social expectations, much more so then men. Women have to deal with much more than I can ever imagine and at times it's difficult for me to understand a woman's struggles, thoughts and fears because their perspective is so vastly different from that of my own. I have to actively make a concerted effort to be sure that everything I say or do is done in the utmost consideration regarding a woman's potential thoughts.
Wah sorry to ask you this question . Dont you think it is selfish to have a baby without Unkown father?? . Why dont you try dating? And get married at least it is more safe, and the most important the child knows who is his father when he grow up. Im 38 too and i have fabriods tooo and im really worried to not have kids and im trying hard to have the surgey to take off the fibriod out of my body and find my other half as soon as finish the surgey. I realy wont have a child and be selfish just to be a mom without thinking about the child his/him self when he grow up. I
How is that selfish? There are amazing single parents out there! Knowing who the father is is no guarantee for quality of life. And if she goes through Soren bank or close friend there is still a chance for the child to know there father. She explained that she has put thought into this in knows that’s not attempting to be a mom would be something she regrets. Not everyone needs a partner to feel whole
Being married or having a partner does not guarantee stability. Yes it has it pros for obvious reasons but look at how many men are with women and just get up and leave during or after the birth. I do not find her decision selfish especially due to her circumstances that she has explained in her video. Sometimes people don’t find their ‘soul mate’ at 20 and as she has stated she has been dating and hasn’t been successful in that area. I’m 25 and honestly feel like I would be a single mother by choice. But that could just be me being brought up with a single parent with no father what so ever
Lots of Men leave their kids and walk away after Marriage...... heck boyfriends leave.... So... I was raised by a single Mother ... and it was not by her choice.... Me and my Brother turned out pretty 😌 good.
Being married, in a relationship, or just dating doesn’t guarantee anything. Being a single mom by choice guarantees being able to Create a family based on your own terms. You can cultivate a world around your child that is as healthy and beautiful as you want it to be. It’s a huge but beautiful choice and i commend her for it ! As a women on her smbc journey as well it’s a much bigger community than people think I’m glad Wah is sharing this part of her life with us !
"Try dating"?! She's been dating all this time and just hasn't had a relationship work out. She stated it in this video and on her other channel, which I've been following for several years. I began dating at 17 and didn't get married until I was 35...it's not that easy for everyone to find a quality partner to settledown with but it's not from lack of effort. Please give her some grace🙏🏽
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When you discussed your Dad I was very touched. A friend went the IVF SMBC route years ago and her Dad was the main support. Her doctor suggested she get her Dad a journal or show him how to video himself so it could be given to the child about how her granddad thought and felt through this process. That little girl created out of my friends desire to have a child cherishes the video and journal from her grandfather, sometimes more than those from her Mom. To know that a man of an older generation felt nothing but love and acceptance means a lot to her.
Such a beautiful story! I'm sitting here tearing up 😭❤️💕
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I did IVF to get my children. It was after 3 failed IUI attempts that were mandated by my insurance provider. I am now the mother of three. 2 are from IVF. 1 fresh, 1 frozen, and 1 who showed up on his own after I stopped trying. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Although, I am partnered--I pray for your SMBC success.
They made you try IUI first? That is annoying. I'm glad it all worked out. and a surprise baby, that is wonderful. Thank you for sharing!
@@WahimaLino Yeah, my insurance provider made my try Clovid for 3 rounds, then IUI for 3 rounds before finally approving me for the more expensive IVF. That's 6 wasted months!!! Anyhoo, I got what I wanted, I pray you will too. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Congrats!
You're a superwoman. I so appreciate you sharing your story Wah. This future child or children will be so loved & desired. Fully in support of you in this journey 🙏❤️
Hi, good for you! Just some words of encouragement- I started trying to have a child on my own at age 39. I am now 49 (I turn 50 on Feb 28) and am 6 months pregnant with twins. I decided that 2020 would be the last year that I try (my last year in my 40's). Did embryo adoption for the first time and it worked!
I’m here for the Journey 😇
I'm proud of you. Being this intentional about motherhood is beautiful. It's overwhelming to think of the love that child will be surrounded in. I'm rooting for you.
Thank you!
I also am on the SMBC journey. I'm 39 and doing my first IUI next week.
You are in my prayers.
One of my midwife colleagues made the exact same decision you did and has a beautiful and super smart boy. Thanks for sharing! Wishing you the best!!!
Just try and be positive throughout the process.
You are extremely strong and brave. In no way I’m trying to do a comparison but I think it’s important to understand that many women feel the same way in regards to wanting a child but not in an ideal relationship but they forgo knowing they are bringing a child into a toxic situation for the sake of creating life. The fact that you refuse to settle for an unqualified man and choosing the single mom path is showing how much love you will give your child. So many women resent their children because the relationship did not work out when it should always be about the child and the love they deserve no matter what the circumstances. I’m rooting for you and I pray that you have a strong support system because motherhood is the biggest and hardest thing in life ❤️
My heart is with you. I am so proud of you, you have no idea. Sending you all positive energy.
Don't ever be shamed by other who have an opinion on you wanting to be a single mom by choice, or anything.
People have shamed (and are shaming) me for not wanting children and they can mind their own business and mind their own choices.
It is YOUR life, it is YOUR body and it's YOUR choice, and no one else's. You have the courage & strength to go through a whole procedure to do this and I am proud of you, I admire you and you got this !!!
I hope the fibroid situation will be solved and I can't wait to follow your journey.
Best of luck, Wah. Youre going to be an amazing mother 💞
Wah, I wish you all the very best and sending healthy uterus and sticky baby vibes your way. I’m here with you for the entire journey and I pray that there is a beautifully healthy baby or babies at the end of it!!!
Please, Wah! Let us know the date of your surgery. I'd like to send positive vibes and energy your way on this day. Love you! All the way from Japan 🗾. ❤️
I had a myomectomy in 2015 and had 2 children one in 2018 and 2020 ( age 39).. had 3 losses in between no ivf.. have your dream..also had a dysfunctional childhood..
Sooo proud of you for taking this step!! Rihanna said it best, imma have a baby with or without a man!!
Wah this really touched my heart, thanks for being so open and honest. I follow your reviews but I'm very excited to follow this new chapter. Sending much love and positive thoughts and energy towards you.
Thank you!
Hey Wah! As you know I’m a single mommy and I lived with my parents the first three years. They were so supportive and it makes me so happy you have yours too! Always here for you if you have mommy questions! I’m so excited for you on this journey!
I am wishing you so much luck with this journey. Your romantic history sounds similar to mine. I have kids but they are my sister’s and I have raised them since birth. I don’t have the yearning to have bio kids but I appreciate that others do. I should say I never wanted to kids period but I am happy with my current situation. I am going to send you all the good luck.
Wishing you the best on your journey to motherhood!
Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏾
💜 Best of luck Wah!!
I wish you all the best Wah on your journey
Praying everything goes well!!!!
All the best! I 🙏🏿 that you definitely carry full term!
Well I was surprised because I didn't know about this channel, but like others I am here for the journey!
Thank you for sharing your journey.
Your dad sounds amazing! I'm glad you have a plan and an amazing support system. I wish I had made these types of decisions in my 30's.
I wanted to add a little additional context on home insemination types. Most people doing home inseminations are not doing IUI as they are not breaching the cervix and entering the uterus .They are doing intracervical insemination or ICI. IUI at home can involve a mid-wife and should always involve washed sperm.
Thanks for sharing your journey Wah🙏🏽❤
You’re so strong for sharing this. Thank you! You’re beautiful hun. Keep doing you 😘
Thank you, I will
Awwww Wah I'm so happy you started this channel ❤❤❤ I raised my 2 sons mostly without their Dad ( help from my family) and Idk who I'd be without being a mother. 🥰 My sons are my pride and Joy🥰 (now 16 and 22)I'm so excited to follow your journey...many blessing to you🙏🏽🙏🏽❤❤❤👶🏾👶🏾
good luck on your journey, wah. you're very brave for embarking on such a journey and i wish you the best. you have an awesome spirit and energy and i know you'll be a great mom.
Go for it Wah!👊🥰
I couldn’t wait to watch this Wah! I have 2 children with my partner but for some reason I’m very intrigued by the SMBC community. I think it’s the freedom of it and the fact that women are able to make being a mother a choice without having to have the “fairytale”. I think it’s amazing.
Wish you the best in your journey!
Wow!!! Thanks for being vulnerable. This is definitely something I want to look into. I will be following your journey.
I am so moved by this. As a long-ish time follower it's so awesome to see you embark on this journey. Tysm for being so vulnerable - I know the impact of this will be huge for women in similar shoes! Sending you so much love and wishing you the absolute best! Xx
Thank you so much!
Would you be open to doing videos about your dating life and why you think you haven’t found the one? I’m just curious.
Yes, I will. That one will be hard!
Wishing you the best Ms Wah. Connecting with your story. Thanks for letting us be part of ur journey. I once thought about IUI , and went through a process. God bless 😊
Super dope Wah! I'm freezing my eggs tomorrow! No partner, but some potential donors so I bought myself some time! Lol! We got this!💪🏾😊
Can't believe you haven't met a compatible mate, your my online crush🥰😍🥰
🤷🏿♀️ such is life
@@WahimaLino indeed 😔😢
I love your make up. I am So 👍🏾 proud of you.
Thank you so much for covering this topic. I to am 38 I have been in 2 long term relationships that did not evolve and am currently considering my options as well.
Hello sis,use Dr Omo herbal medicine to unblock your tubes very active with no side effects he also help me shrink my fibroids, my baby is just 3months old..
Courage to you. A friend of mine had the same issue with fibroids. She saved some eggs(eggs banking) first because of her age then did the myomectomy and after that the IVF with the frozen eggs. Now she has two beautiful children. I have heard of IVF grants. May be you could look at it too.
Thanks for sharing!!
I' will be here for ur journey wah...
thank you :-)
I'm so happy for you. I'm so excited for your journey. Many blessings for your family 💕
Thank you so much!!
I am also on my TTC journey. Stay blessed.
Who knows maybe in that year of rest you will find the right person. I met my husband at the age of 34, 2 years later we tried to have a baby and had 3 misscairages. We started IVf in September 2020 , 2 failed cycles and now I am pregnant. Dont let the egg and age thing bother you I produced 19 eggs and we are left with 5 frozen embryos now. I am a strong believer in timing. Anyway good luck on your journey.
May I ask how old you were when you started IVF?
Hello sis,use Dr Omo herbal medicine to unblock your tubes very active with no side effects he also help me shrink my fibroids, my baby is just 3months old..
Your transparency is amazing. You mentioned talking with your parents about helping you with your future bundle of joy, but only shared your Dad’s opinion. Is your Mom supportive as well?
When I made the announcement she looked at me and said "Okay" after I prompted her by saying "Mom?".
In my experience that doesn't mean that she will help, it more than likely was just an acknowledgement of my statement. I think she will assist with a baby, but a child that speaks and asks questions or doesn't do exactly what she says ,when she says it, will only be mildly tolerated. HOWEVER, only time will tell. I'm holding out for a possible change in patterns.
Typing this out to you, if different that saying it on camera. 😉
Loving these...
Hi Wah. Any updates?
Have you looked into the Acessa procedure?
Wah have you looked into international ivf
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If I am out of line, please tell me, but this is a video about fibroid and its treatment Dr. Harris Narrates A 3-D Animation of a Uterine Fibroid Embolization (UFE) - TH-cam
You're not out of line
Also... we have a family friend who at age 50, (she saved money as a nurse) and had her 1 baby. Her husband has sickle cell and had no viable sperm. So having a partner can also mean no baby like you said.
Have you thought about just egg retrieval now that way you’ll have the embryos and not have to worry about diminishing egg quality. (Not a professional- did Ivf with wife and we did egg retrieval first. I also have fibroids and had two myomectomies so I get it!)
We all are not sure if it is right to have children, if we are positive god love us. Because of our life span we only get one road and it is a calculated guess.
💓
I had IUI three times and no go. The reason is because I am "not a candidate for invitro fertilization" (my uterus was too small so they would not be able to see what they are doing) . They also could not even see my egg production.. only my blood work revealed that I released an egg monthly. ... Then the next cycle after my third IUI I got pregnant! ..how? By natural means! ....I just want to say don't believe it is as grim as they make it sound...are you sure your egg production is low...because I am sure you are very fertile age dont matter!...I knew in my heart I was fertile at 36 why because I had had 2 pregnancies in the past (lost those pregnancies unfortunately)
I've dealt with baby fever as well... 🥲 everyone around me has babies so that puts emphasis on my situation. As a man, when I go out I have to be extra careful to make sure parents don't spot me catching glances at their kids while sporting a big smile, all in an effort to not seem like a creep. 😅
Side note: There is a lot of shame put on women in general in almost all social expectations, much more so then men. Women have to deal with much more than I can ever imagine and at times it's difficult for me to understand a woman's struggles, thoughts and fears because their perspective is so vastly different from that of my own. I have to actively make a concerted effort to be sure that everything I say or do is done in the utmost consideration regarding a woman's potential thoughts.
😘😘😘
Why is it important for you to say that you are cisgender? I had to look up the meaning. I wish you all success on this journey
It's always great to learn something new 💕
Wah sorry to ask you this question . Dont you think it is selfish to have a baby without Unkown father?? . Why dont you try dating? And get married at least it is more safe, and the most important the child knows who is his father when he grow up.
Im 38 too and i have fabriods tooo and im really worried to not have kids and im trying hard to have the surgey to take off the fibriod out of my body and find my other half as soon as finish the surgey. I realy wont have a child and be selfish just to be a mom without thinking about the child his/him self when he grow up. I
How is that selfish? There are amazing single parents out there! Knowing who the father is is no guarantee for quality of life. And if she goes through Soren bank or close friend there is still a chance for the child to know there father. She explained that she has put thought into this in knows that’s not attempting to be a mom would be something she regrets. Not everyone needs a partner to feel whole
Being married or having a partner does not guarantee stability. Yes it has it pros for obvious reasons but look at how many men are with women and just get up and leave during or after the birth. I do not find her decision selfish especially due to her circumstances that she has explained in her video. Sometimes people don’t find their ‘soul mate’ at 20 and as she has stated she has been dating and hasn’t been successful in that area. I’m 25 and honestly feel like I would be a single mother by choice. But that could just be me being brought up with a single parent with no father what so ever
Lots of Men leave their kids and walk away after Marriage...... heck boyfriends leave.... So... I was raised by a single Mother ... and it was not by her choice.... Me and my Brother turned out pretty 😌 good.
Being married, in a relationship, or just dating doesn’t guarantee anything. Being a single mom by choice guarantees being able to Create a family based on your own terms. You can cultivate a world around your child that is as healthy and beautiful as you want it to be. It’s a huge but beautiful choice and i commend her for it ! As a women on her smbc journey as well it’s a much bigger community than people think I’m glad Wah is sharing this part of her life with us !
"Try dating"?! She's been dating all this time and just hasn't had a relationship work out. She stated it in this video and on her other channel, which I've been following for several years. I began dating at 17 and didn't get married until I was 35...it's not that easy for everyone to find a quality partner to settledown with but it's not from lack of effort. Please give her some grace🙏🏽
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