Thank you SO MUCH for this video. I've just started transitioning and I've grappling with self doubt because I don't fit that classic narrative. I've never had that acute dysphoria that drives some to dark places, fortunately. I just know in my heart I want to be a woman and I'd be happier as a woman, so why not?!
It has taken me 67 years to finally face my fears and explore the real me. I am taking it slow a day at a time sometimes hourly. Thank you for your honesty as you moved me to start my transition. I have a therapist that I am in contact with and helps me in my decisions when I am confused. I have to be gentle with my wife of 43 years as she is grappling with my coming out to her. She does not understand why or what caused this revelation from me. Thank you for your time in reading my post as I have felt a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders when I came out to her. Warmest Regards, Katherine
So glad that you're now happier with yourself and that you decided to act when you did. It doesn't get easier if you wait. G.I.D. just continues to eat at you. I can say from experience, as I didn't get on HRT until age 43. Kudos to you, Charlotte!
Thank you for this video. I’m about to turn 31 in 4 months and I’ve just finally acknowledged that I am transgender and need to transition. I relate soooo much to all of your thoughts. You literally have taken the words out of my mouth. The coping mechanisms, the fixation on trans stories, envisioning myself growing older as a woman…
This made me cry❤️ I’ve had the exact same experience and are just coming to terms with my own background. And even though I know and love many other trans people but always thought that “it can’t be me, I don’t suffer like they do” thank you for telling this story 💕
100% love your accent, dear! I could listen to you all day long... i almost have. I empathize with your spin of the common TG narrative as it rings true for my life as well, though I am about 15 years older. When I was 30, I had a transwoman friend who transitioned over the few years I knew her, then she went stealth. We had a few discussions about HER perception of what being "trans" meant, and it didn't 100% feel like MY perception, so I, UNsmartly decided that I was not trans and tried to fit back into conformity. That was the BIGGEST mistake of my life. Period. The point I'd like all the people watching this is this: If you THINK you MIGHT be transgender, DON'T try to diagnose it yourself, get a therapists opinion. Likely you will get the nod from a trained therapist after a single session! You might have other issues that you need help processing... I may never be done with therapy. :-) But it is the best money I have ever spent.
Thank you for your honest, touching story. I don't think the "dominant" trans narrative is as dominant as people suppose. Many, like myself, fight against these feelings from really early on and are able to bury it for long periods until it resurfaces again. Finally, hopefully, we deal with it in the hope that one day we will walk in the sunshine as our true selves.
Thanks for a honest open video ,I’m glad everything is going well for you,I am what happens if you carry on fighting the disphoria,dealing with massive shame,depression often suicidal thoughts 56 years old,stay safe and good luck in your future
OMG thank you so much for this. I thought I was the only one that had the sort of feelings you describe. I too am in a relationship of 13 years and my partner has been understanding and we are still together and are stronger as a result. I'm so glad things worked out for you to. ❤️
I really relate a lot to this video. Thank you for sharing your story. I was referred to the GIC at a similar age (28) but still don't have an appointment as I close in on 30. Hearing the story of your transition and how you didn't feel suicidal when you decided to transition has made me feel better about my own experience.
Unfortunately no, I don't have a date yet. They said I wasn't to call them back unless I hadn't heard anything from them by next January. I'm worried that If I'm pushy it will get passed over. But you are right I should chase them up. I'm still astonished that neither the GIC or GP checks in at all. Referral then no contact.
Sandyford. Yeah I got the letter from them almost 2 months after the referral. I think I'm going to contact them just so they can give me an estimate of when they think I'll have an appointment. Not knowing a date - even if it's way in the future - is the worst.
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@@allisonleslie5728 did you ever get that appointment? I've been waiting 2.5 and still nothing. just totally in the dark. took matters into my own hands in the end but its so damn expensive doing it that way.
I’ve been blessed to have met over a dozen transgender women. Some transitioned in their early twenties, others transitioned decades later. Each has her own unique, personal story, just like your story is unique and personal. I’m very happy that both Marie and your business partner support you. Thank you for sharing!
36 and just starting transition. I am amazed I even made it to this point. I have been suicidal since I was 12 or so. I have actively tried to kill myself more than once, not to mention all the reckless behavior over the years. It's funny because, despite being quite certain by the time I was in my teens, I used all the typical internalized transphobia - too tall, too masculine, etc. I was learning about puberty blockers and reading about early transition just a little too late and I rather felt like the last person to die in a war. This was in the late '90s when the world was just learning of the first trans kids. There is so much pressure on "passing", though it is finally starting to recede. Now that I have started transition, I don't give a fuck about passing, just looking my best. Then there is the fear of never being able to find someone to date. Well, I have dated more people than I can count and most were garbage. That's what I used to attract as a broken person. Mostly garbage. It's not like I ever could have made anything work right in a male body anyway. Sex addiction was my coping mechanism. I am at a point where I am over dating. It will take a rather special person to make me give it another go. Being ridiculously tall is like an anti-dumbshit ray. But even then, there are chasers to worry about. I would rather work on finally living my life and not being distracted by a relationship. For me, relationships = dysfunction and while I am hopeful that will change, I damn sure not going to give up my newly reacquired virginity following GRS to just anyone! The first time around, I was just 5 years old. Oh well, it happens. I plan to not date during transition. The sad thing is, while I have had every psychiatric symptom in the book, I was never formally diagnosed with anything, and not one of the countless psychiatrists and psychologists ever questioned that I might have gender identity issues. I have been trying to find myself for the past decade and all that could have been avoided if someone had just asked the right questions.
I'm a trans woman myself. There's no single trans narrative. I had a happy childhood too. The dysphoria did start building for me at puberty as well. It was virtually non-existent in my early childhood. Although even then I had some sense that I was different.
I got emotional when you started describing how and when you came out to your girlfriend... 😪 Thanks for these videos and for sharing your Trans story and the fact it deviates from the stereotypical Trans narrative one... I have a similar walk of life and experience. Hugs! Xx (also you look amazing... 😉)
Very helpful video, I am 30 and I am struggling with my identity... im trying to come up with reasons to not transition, but at the same time I feel like I can't stop thinking about it. I relate to you're story a lot, and i know its been a few years since this video was made but i am thankful i found it and i hope you are doing well!
I spent my life from age 4 to age 36 trying to ignore it all. When I discovered what being trans meant at age 9, I recoiled in horror at the realization that I could never have a "normal" life. I tried to deny it. I ignored a plethora of signs and symptoms for a long time. I tried a normal cis-hetero marriage. I tried to be a gay man. I tried to fuck it all away in what I tried to justify in a number of ways from polyamory to just being "very sexual" but it was all a lie and took me farther from my true self. I tried to tell my mother I was a girl when I was 4 years old. I remember it like it was yesterday. My life was a sad farce of Shakespearean proportions. I almost ended it all multiple times. In the past 6 months, I have been reborn, stripping away all the denial, pain and fear to find out just who I really am and what I want out of life. I have found new direction, meaning and motivation. What I thought would be the end of a journey of self discovery is merely the beginning. I feel my old life existed for a purpose. I feel like I am supposed to take what I learned and use it to help others. I always knew in a vague sense this was my purpose in life but now that I know myself, I have a clear path. I can never undo the pain and trauma I went through, feeling broken, useless and so alone but I can help others to avoid this path altogether. That gives me hope and comfort. I want to be a psychologist. I hope I can find the courage to share my story with the world. I don't see myself doing a TH-cam channel on this aspect of my life but I think at some point I will be able to write a book...
@finkelroy7030 I hope you are writing that book. The part about wanting to tell your mom brought tears to my eyes as it was only a year ago that my 29 y/o daughter confided that she was not a boy. How did I miss what was going on in my child’s life to that extent. I love her so much and am happy that you are out there helping so many other fellow travelers be themselves and shine right outside in the sun. Some of the harshest critics are probably confused about what to do.
Wonderful video Charlotte! Thank you so much for sharing! I see a lot of parallels with my own story. I met you and Marie briefly in Marbella. Glad to see you doing well. And you look great!
It is quite normal for people to really address the gender issues when things are going well externally. "How much better would it be if I were the real me TOO!" We spend the down times trying to survive and that takes up all our energy. Sounds like your internal dialogue was like the majority of us that functioned in society because we learned VERY early to do so. However that coping was accomplished, it was a recognition (early) that we didn't fit and it was only years later that we learned to put a 'name' to our 'outsider' status. Glad things are going well.
So true, I've only got as far as I've got without transitioning because my life is so on the downside. I simply don't have the time to dwell on it. As I'm literally always working dealing with other peoples issues. I think if I was happy and my life was really working out financially, materially I'd have no choice but to face up to it. My plan is to keep being poor and busy LoL
I am 37 and starting, i definately don't fit the narrative, nor the culture, so yeah it happens, good for you i like these shared experiences that don't fit a mold.
I think as a Straight Guy that if more Trans Folk were so modest and humble like you .then the more quickly Society would accommodate and respect you. I will never fly a Flag for you but you certainly display how decent some Trans People can be. I really hope you have or find a wonderful loving Husband/Wife or Partner.
There are a number of similarities in your transnarrative that I can relate to. I was tearing up a couple of times. I just recently came out to myself a few months ago, and I'm 48. I had a happy childhood as well, but when I hit puberty, there were signs that I was different and it took me this long to realize they weren't going away and I have to do something about it. I just want to be happy.
Very well done video and a wonderful story of your personal journey of finding your real horizon. I am happy that your intimate relationship was able to continue and flourish.. All I have to do is look at you and listen to you to understand that you are definitely on the right pathway and the path that was meant to be from your birth. You have tremendous in tregrity and courage to
You made the right choice. I was very much like you but the times were very different and I waited until I was fifty eight to transition when my gender dysphoria got so bad I became suicidal.
I've known in my heart since about the age of 4 1/2 that i am a female ( girl/woman). Everyone damns me for it and tells me their religious reasonings. I am looking for someone or an agency to help me pay for the SRS -but no success. I don't know what else to do, any REAL suggestions or leads would be greatly appreciated!!! If you have any suggestions, please...???
sounds a lot like me I was always shy kept to myself was married for a year then didn't work out i was single for like to maybe 3 years i was planning on getting married again i meet a women fell in love with her no 16 years later I'm going to start HRT i told her about it and how i have bin dealing with it sense 4 grade now I'm 46
Hey awesome video! I totally relate to most of the things that you've said. I send a TH-cam message to ask some questions about transitioning. Take care and thanks!
Actualy most bisexual persons are CIS gendered, like guys dating other guys and girls, girls dating other girls beside guys, i think it's only about 10-15% of the total population (both CIS and transgender persons) who actualy are bisexual. I think it's only about 30% or so transgender persons who are bisexual, and another 30% who started out as gay before transitioning, and about 30% asexual, (i don't know what those 10% those numbers did not covered up where supposed to be...) acording to statistic. I don't concider my self pansexual either. Maybe somewhere between asexual and attention to the same gender as i identify my true self with i think. But i guess it's pretty booring for people to read about, whatever it actualy apply or not to the reader compared to those bisexual fantasies i suppose. Nothing wrong being bisexual, that's simply as one are i suppose, it's just not so many people it actualy apply to, and it's just about 1,7-2% who actualy are gay. Nothing wrong with it, but it's very far from any majority.
I don’t think anyone fits the “ideal” narrative, I certainly don’t and I’ve basically transitioned without any real issues. Just be yourself and people will fit in with you.
listening and watching this, my heart goes out to you, even though this is two years old i completely understand and can relate. Being a transgender woman, today 38 years and fabulous, i grew up in the small town of Golden, CO, i loved playing with the girls in the neighborhood, got caught playing dress up and then could play with the girls. So i did the same, just copied my brother, not that i was just completely untrue, art and punk taught me allot that i still enjoy even now. But Wow so much of this story is like mine. Definitely each person is different, but like all things there are similarities to two strangers cause it shows we all share this similarity and that its not a fad but a reality that many of us face and really should not. Mine came to a head when i had friends whom said, your gaining weight, you look horrible, your horrible to be around and your drinking way to much...and i said okay, they still love you girl, just be honest, and those whom are your friends will understand and those whom aren't well they simply are not. long story short, i lost vary few, and being my birthday, two years medical, i can say, the suicide went away, i don't drink anymore, accept for a glass of wine with friends on the weekend, and simply happy and would never go back or regret being a transgender woman, or as far as i'm concerned just being a woman. Its not the lesser sex or the weaker at all, if your a girl your a girl and if your a guy as guy or a gender none conformist, i just know for me not lying about being a woman has made me happy and those people whom were concerned say your so much more wonderful and delightful as you are girl, you shouldn't have waited, but, will add it's never to late to be true and happy. thanks for sharing your story, wonderful to know not alone in this big wonderful crazy amazing world.
Can I just ask about how you felt you needed to be a woman? In the sense I think many boys don't fit in at least with some groups, are on the periphery, that's what I felt growing up. But there must have been a motivation to be a woman but maybe I didn't quite catch what was for you and I've watched it twice?
hi there! i'm a trans girl artist and you can use every single track you find on my youtube or soundcloud for your videos! i make rap music and electronic 'background' music! i hope you enjoy!!
Thank you SO MUCH for this video. I've just started transitioning and I've grappling with self doubt because I don't fit that classic narrative. I've never had that acute dysphoria that drives some to dark places, fortunately. I just know in my heart I want to be a woman and I'd be happier as a woman, so why not?!
We need to get more stories like this out there so other trans folks can see it not a one size fits all story.
pro tip : watch series at Flixzone. Me and my gf have been using them for watching loads of movies recently.
@Carl Oakley Yup, have been using Flixzone for years myself =)
I am 35 and I have been repressing for years and most of the things you said resonated with me. But I am finally doing something about it.
It has taken me 67 years to finally face my fears and explore the real me.
I am taking it slow a day at a time sometimes hourly.
Thank you for your honesty as you moved me to start my transition.
I have a therapist that I am in contact with and helps me in my decisions when I am confused.
I have to be gentle with my wife of 43 years as she is grappling with my coming out to her. She does not understand why or what caused this revelation from me.
Thank you for your time in reading my post as I have felt a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders when I came out to her.
Warmest Regards,
Katherine
So glad that you're now happier with yourself and that you decided to act when you did. It doesn't get easier if you wait. G.I.D. just continues to eat at you. I can say from experience, as I didn't get on HRT until age 43. Kudos to you, Charlotte!
62 and never did it :(
Thank you sooo much for sharing your experience!
Thank you for this video. I’m about to turn 31 in 4 months and I’ve just finally acknowledged that I am transgender and need to transition. I relate soooo much to all of your thoughts. You literally have taken the words out of my mouth. The coping mechanisms, the fixation on trans stories, envisioning myself growing older as a woman…
This made me cry❤️ I’ve had the exact same experience and are just coming to terms with my own background. And even though I know and love many other trans people but always thought that “it can’t be me, I don’t suffer like they do” thank you for telling this story 💕
100% love your accent, dear! I could listen to you all day long... i almost have. I empathize with your spin of the common TG narrative as it rings true for my life as well, though I am about 15 years older. When I was 30, I had a transwoman friend who transitioned over the few years I knew her, then she went stealth. We had a few discussions about HER perception of what being "trans" meant, and it didn't 100% feel like MY perception, so I, UNsmartly decided that I was not trans and tried to fit back into conformity. That was the BIGGEST mistake of my life. Period. The point I'd like all the people watching this is this: If you THINK you MIGHT be transgender, DON'T try to diagnose it yourself, get a therapists opinion. Likely you will get the nod from a trained therapist after a single session! You might have other issues that you need help processing... I may never be done with therapy. :-) But it is the best money I have ever spent.
Thank you for your honest, touching story. I don't think the "dominant" trans narrative is as dominant as people suppose. Many, like myself, fight against these feelings from really early on and are able to bury it for long periods until it resurfaces again. Finally, hopefully, we deal with it in the hope that one day we will walk in the sunshine as our true selves.
Thanks for a honest open video ,I’m glad everything is going well for you,I am what happens if you carry on fighting the disphoria,dealing with massive shame,depression often suicidal thoughts 56 years old,stay safe and good luck in your future
OMG thank you so much for this. I thought I was the only one that had the sort of feelings you describe. I too am in a relationship of 13 years and my partner has been understanding and we are still together and are stronger as a result. I'm so glad things worked out for you to. ❤️
I really relate a lot to this video. Thank you for sharing your story. I was referred to the GIC at a similar age (28) but still don't have an appointment as I close in on 30. Hearing the story of your transition and how you didn't feel suicidal when you decided to transition has made me feel better about my own experience.
Unfortunately no, I don't have a date yet. They said I wasn't to call them back unless I hadn't heard anything from them by next January. I'm worried that If I'm pushy it will get passed over. But you are right I should chase them up. I'm still astonished that neither the GIC or GP checks in at all. Referral then no contact.
Sandyford. Yeah I got the letter from them almost 2 months after the referral. I think I'm going to contact them just so they can give me an estimate of when they think I'll have an appointment. Not knowing a date - even if it's way in the future - is the worst.
@@allisonleslie5728 did you ever get that appointment?
I've been waiting 2.5 and still nothing. just totally in the dark.
took matters into my own hands in the end but its so damn expensive doing it that way.
I’ve been blessed to have met over a dozen transgender women. Some transitioned in their early twenties, others transitioned decades later. Each has her own unique, personal story, just like your story is unique and personal. I’m very happy that both Marie and your business partner support you. Thank you for sharing!
36 and just starting transition. I am amazed I even made it to this point. I have been suicidal since I was 12 or so. I have actively tried to kill myself more than once, not to mention all the reckless behavior over the years.
It's funny because, despite being quite certain by the time I was in my teens, I used all the typical internalized transphobia - too tall, too masculine, etc. I was learning about puberty blockers and reading about early transition just a little too late and I rather felt like the last person to die in a war. This was in the late '90s when the world was just learning of the first trans kids.
There is so much pressure on "passing", though it is finally starting to recede. Now that I have started transition, I don't give a fuck about passing, just looking my best.
Then there is the fear of never being able to find someone to date. Well, I have dated more people than I can count and most were garbage. That's what I used to attract as a broken person. Mostly garbage. It's not like I ever could have made anything work right in a male body anyway. Sex addiction was my coping mechanism.
I am at a point where I am over dating. It will take a rather special person to make me give it another go. Being ridiculously tall is like an anti-dumbshit ray. But even then, there are chasers to worry about. I would rather work on finally living my life and not being distracted by a relationship. For me, relationships = dysfunction and while I am hopeful that will change, I damn sure not going to give up my newly reacquired virginity following GRS to just anyone! The first time around, I was just 5 years old. Oh well, it happens. I plan to not date during transition.
The sad thing is, while I have had every psychiatric symptom in the book, I was never formally diagnosed with anything, and not one of the countless psychiatrists and psychologists ever questioned that I might have gender identity issues. I have been trying to find myself for the past decade and all that could have been avoided if someone had just asked the right questions.
thank you so much for sharing, to finally hear a story similar to my own experience is such a relief! thank you so much
I'm a trans woman myself. There's no single trans narrative. I had a happy childhood too. The dysphoria did start building for me at puberty as well. It was virtually non-existent in my early childhood. Although even then I had some sense that I was different.
You inspire so many people.
Wonderfully self-effacing yet positive ....... and an utter delight !!
I got emotional when you started describing how and when you came out to your girlfriend... 😪 Thanks for these videos and for sharing your Trans story and the fact it deviates from the stereotypical Trans narrative one... I have a similar walk of life and experience. Hugs! Xx (also you look amazing... 😉)
What beautiful story. So happy for you both!
Your really cute, and such an inspiration to many others. Good for you to be who you really are.
Very helpful video, I am 30 and I am struggling with my identity... im trying to come up with reasons to not transition, but at the same time I feel like I can't stop thinking about it.
I relate to you're story a lot, and i know its been a few years since this video was made but i am thankful i found it and i hope you are doing well!
This video touched my heart! I can relate so much with this! I am literally crying!
Hi Charlotte, so glad that I stumbled upon your Chanel. I really relate to this vlog, thank you for sharing.
I spent my life from age 4 to age 36 trying to ignore it all. When I discovered what being trans meant at age 9, I recoiled in horror at the realization that I could never have a "normal" life. I tried to deny it. I ignored a plethora of signs and symptoms for a long time. I tried a normal cis-hetero marriage. I tried to be a gay man. I tried to fuck it all away in what I tried to justify in a number of ways from polyamory to just being "very sexual" but it was all a lie and took me farther from my true self.
I tried to tell my mother I was a girl when I was 4 years old. I remember it like it was yesterday. My life was a sad farce of Shakespearean proportions. I almost ended it all multiple times.
In the past 6 months, I have been reborn, stripping away all the denial, pain and fear to find out just who I really am and what I want out of life. I have found new direction, meaning and motivation. What I thought would be the end of a journey of self discovery is merely the beginning.
I feel my old life existed for a purpose. I feel like I am supposed to take what I learned and use it to help others. I always knew in a vague sense this was my purpose in life but now that I know myself, I have a clear path. I can never undo the pain and trauma I went through, feeling broken, useless and so alone but I can help others to avoid this path altogether. That gives me hope and comfort. I want to be a psychologist.
I hope I can find the courage to share my story with the world. I don't see myself doing a TH-cam channel on this aspect of my life but I think at some point I will be able to write a book...
@finkelroy7030 I hope you are writing that book. The part about wanting to tell your mom brought tears to my eyes as it was only a year ago that my 29 y/o daughter confided that she was not a boy. How did I miss what was going on in my child’s life to that extent. I love her so much and am happy that you are out there helping so many other fellow travelers be themselves and shine right outside in the sun. Some of the harshest critics are probably confused about what to do.
Wonderful video Charlotte! Thank you so much for sharing! I see a lot of parallels with my own story. I met you and Marie briefly in Marbella. Glad to see you doing well. And you look great!
It is quite normal for people to really address the gender issues when things are going well externally. "How much better would it be if I were the real me TOO!" We spend the down times trying to survive and that takes up all our energy. Sounds like your internal dialogue was like the majority of us that functioned in society because we learned VERY early to do so. However that coping was accomplished, it was a recognition (early) that we didn't fit and it was only years later that we learned to put a 'name' to our 'outsider' status. Glad things are going well.
So true, I've only got as far as I've got without transitioning because my life is so on the downside. I simply don't have the time to dwell on it. As I'm literally always working dealing with other peoples issues. I think if I was happy and my life was really working out financially, materially I'd have no choice but to face up to it. My plan is to keep being poor and busy LoL
@@martinhodgson4793There is no wrong or right way to live your life. It is your life. I wish you all the best in whatever you choose to do!!!👍
I am 37 and starting, i definately don't fit the narrative, nor the culture, so yeah it happens, good for you i like these shared experiences that don't fit a mold.
I really needed this. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much, because I seem to relate to this. My gender has only become a problem since November of last year.
I think as a Straight Guy that if more Trans Folk were so modest and humble like you .then the more quickly Society would accommodate and respect you. I will never fly a Flag for you but you certainly display how decent some Trans People can be. I really hope you have or find a wonderful loving Husband/Wife or Partner.
Thanks for making this 🙂
This fits me so well as I'm not the classic either transition or die I can survive as I am but I want to transition.
There are a number of similarities in your transnarrative that I can relate to. I was tearing up a couple of times. I just recently came out to myself a few months ago, and I'm 48. I had a happy childhood as well, but when I hit puberty, there were signs that I was different and it took me this long to realize they weren't going away and I have to do something about it. I just want to be happy.
Thank you
Very well done video and a wonderful story of your personal journey of finding your real horizon. I am happy that your intimate relationship was able to continue and flourish.. All I have to do is look at you and listen to you to understand that you are definitely on the right pathway and the path that was meant to be from your birth. You have tremendous in tregrity and courage to
You are lovely person, thank you for sharing :)
You made the right choice. I was very much like you but the times were very different and I waited until I was fifty eight to transition when my gender dysphoria got so bad I became suicidal.
Beautiful
The thing about television is that has no relation to reality as life isn't as fantastic as they'd like. Be you xx
I've known in my heart since about the age of 4 1/2 that i am a female ( girl/woman). Everyone damns me for it and tells me their religious reasonings. I am looking for someone or an agency to help me pay for the SRS -but no success. I don't know what else to do, any REAL suggestions or leads would be greatly appreciated!!! If you have any suggestions, please...???
sounds a lot like me I was always shy kept to myself was married for a year then didn't work out i was single for like to maybe 3 years i was planning on getting married again i meet a women fell in love with her no 16 years later I'm going to start HRT i told her about it and how i have bin dealing with it sense 4 grade now I'm 46
Hey awesome video! I totally relate to most of the things that you've said. I send a TH-cam message to ask some questions about transitioning. Take care and thanks!
I Love You Epic Endless Tears I'm also Transgender
You're PRETTY
You've got beautiful eyes.
Cool video
Thank you!!!!!!!!
Oh good lord you are gorgeous and amazing..
Me to. I don't date pansexuals because I am not a third gender. I am binary identified and want to be respected as such.
Actualy most bisexual persons are CIS gendered, like guys dating other guys and girls, girls dating other girls beside guys, i think it's only about 10-15% of the total population (both CIS and transgender persons) who actualy are bisexual.
I think it's only about 30% or so transgender persons who are bisexual, and another 30% who started out as gay before transitioning, and about 30% asexual, (i don't know what those 10% those numbers did not covered up where supposed to be...) acording to statistic. I don't concider my self pansexual either. Maybe somewhere between asexual and attention to the same gender as i identify my true self with i think. But i guess it's pretty booring for people to read about, whatever it actualy apply or not to the reader compared to those bisexual fantasies i suppose. Nothing wrong being bisexual, that's simply as one are i suppose, it's just not so many people it actualy apply to, and it's just about 1,7-2% who actualy are gay. Nothing wrong with it, but it's very far from any majority.
I don’t think anyone fits the “ideal” narrative, I certainly don’t and I’ve basically transitioned without any real issues. Just be yourself and people will fit in with you.
Wow, I'm 31 and afraid to transition because I feel too old to make it. But if I can get as pretty as you, fuck why not?
listening and watching this, my heart goes out to you, even though this is two years old i completely understand and can relate. Being a transgender woman, today 38 years and fabulous, i grew up in the small town of Golden, CO, i loved playing with the girls in the neighborhood, got caught playing dress up and then could play with the girls. So i did the same, just copied my brother, not that i was just completely untrue, art and punk taught me allot that i still enjoy even now. But Wow so much of this story is like mine. Definitely each person is different, but like all things there are similarities to two strangers cause it shows we all share this similarity and that its not a fad but a reality that many of us face and really should not. Mine came to a head when i had friends whom said, your gaining weight, you look horrible, your horrible to be around and your drinking way to much...and i said okay, they still love you girl, just be honest, and those whom are your friends will understand and those whom aren't well they simply are not. long story short, i lost vary few, and being my birthday, two years medical, i can say, the suicide went away, i don't drink anymore, accept for a glass of wine with friends on the weekend, and simply happy and would never go back or regret being a transgender woman, or as far as i'm concerned just being a woman. Its not the lesser sex or the weaker at all, if your a girl your a girl and if your a guy as guy or a gender none conformist, i just know for me not lying about being a woman has made me happy and those people whom were concerned say your so much more wonderful and delightful as you are girl, you shouldn't have waited, but, will add it's never to late to be true and happy. thanks for sharing your story, wonderful to know not alone in this big wonderful crazy amazing world.
Can I just ask about how you felt you needed to be a woman? In the sense I think many boys don't fit in at least with some groups, are on the periphery, that's what I felt growing up. But there must have been a motivation to be a woman but maybe I didn't quite catch what was for you and I've watched it twice?
sorry, this might be creepy, but, I like your eyes... they are striking, pretty, and as an empath, they speak volumes to me.
You are beautiful
hi there! i'm a trans girl artist and you can use every single track you find on my youtube or soundcloud for your videos! i make rap music and electronic 'background' music! i hope you enjoy!!
What is the life expectancy because that 35 was just a fake misconception