i usually never write a comment ever, rather lurk in the shadows. However, this video spoke volumes to me. you are genuine and made me question (in a good way) so many things about myself that bother me. But the line that spoke to me and rang so loud and tru was " i am a woman, intrinsically female inside but a bit of a tomboy". This one line makes simple sense to me and just crushed my issue with gender! I am a car junkie, a gear head and always afraid that if i transition, i will lose that. Its a silly thought i know but you have shown me that we all have those thoughts and ye a girl can do it too! Its me and i can still do that, just finally in the body i am supposed to be in! i am on the road to transition now and this one video, your simple insight to your thoughts, has given me a chance to take a deep breathe and finally exhale fully. to know its ok to finally be tru to me. I thank you
I was trying to find my words to thank Charlie for this video. You just expressed it so well 3 years ago... What should I add? Maybe: let's be driven by our joy of life!
''We'' are not alone ! Trans woman and petrolhead here too. I've been a bit a lazy transgender the last 10 years, started transitioning back in 2005. Fell into the tomboy trap and now finally rediscovering myself. Starting with voice traning within a week and trying to get my belly flat as a pancake :) Sidenote. Two years ago started my career as a public busdriver here in the netherlands and all my colleagues are really supportive and welcoming me. Not talking about acceptance, I or we don't need 'acceptance', we are as much human as cis people do. Stand your ground !
@@dutchmeikuh8822 I am a transgender certified personal trainer and would like to train clients on line, with a target market of mtf transgenders. Before Vitamin World.filed ch 11, I was earned my certificate as a Nutritional Specialist with Vitamin World. I am training some now, in person.
I just forgot to add to this video that I also used to be part of the Red Cross when I was about 7-10 and used to go with my one of my best friends Joanna - I was the only boy amongst maybe 20 girls and we used to learn to put bandages on each other and stuff like that. I loved it and never once questioned that I was the only boy there, it did make me sad that I wasn't one of the girls though as I sooo wanted to wear their uniform and have long hair... my friend was a proper tomboy and it's funny thinking back - I guess I just wanted to point out that I did some things that were more on the feminine side too growing up :)
Thank you. Tales of self-discovery continue to provide answers to raised questions of who we really are. There will come a time, even for just a brief moment, that everything is as it should be. Just then, all is right with oneself and our world.
Hi, I have been following you on youtube for a while now and am so impressed with you and how are you transition through life's emotional gymnastics that come with transition. I have struggled with gender dysphoria my whole life and will be coming out to my gender therapist tomorrow. I have come out to my two sisters and they told me that they love me and support me 100% finally! I am out after being in the closet for 30 years when I first started with women's clothing but knew at age 5 when I had my first conscious awareness that I felt different, I am a registered nurse which was my childhood dream, I never denied to myself who I was inside, I just didn't have the emotional ability to come out, but I am out now and it feels wonderful. I always felt that if I was to reach out to the transgender community that they would have to be mentally healthy people, and your videos are the first classy and heartfelt I have come upon you have helped me so much you can't even imagine and I love you for being you and also helping me to come out. I'm sorry about your recent breakup that you posted and breaks my heart that you hurt, anyway, all the best and good health, Steven
+Gordan m'gleb You may want to read some more books on biology and biochemistry as your comment is incorrect. Chromosomes may play some part in physical sex but not always. I say may as science is making new discoveries in this area. Gender which is not the same as physical sex and is influenced by hormones not chromosomes.www.newstatesman.com/future-proof/2015/02/sex-isn-t-chromosomes-story-century-misconceptions-about-x-y
Kayleigh McKenna lol, forget the "woodoo" science and focus on real science. sex is determined by chromosomes and behavior is INFLUENCED by hormones. there are of course exceptions, mutations id you will.But most cases of trans are caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. and there are, like I said exceptions where people where born with the wrong set of genitalia or hermaphrodites. that is a genetic mutation. it's different.
Puberty hit me harder, because at the end I'm 6'5", and I looks like a jock. and I hate it. I hate being tall and masculine... So I don't know how to go further
@@vajraayudha5062 the fuck are you talking about? what does height have to do with transitioning? Everybody has things they don't like about themselves. You may not fit a certain type of person that you want to be, but that's literally everybody. Lots of women wish they were a different height. I wish I was a petite 5 ft girl. Yet, I'm 6 ft tall. Tough. Being trans is so much more about what is on the inside. While there may be dysphoria for this individual regarding height, that is something that can and should be worked through. Burying it down and just "stay as a man" mentality doesn't address the problem and will ultimately make it worse. Besides, tall women exist! They're all over the place, and they're just as beautiful as short women. Also, HRT will usually make trans women lose an inch or two of height over the years =D Don't spread hate and tell people not to transition because they can only play volleyball or basketball at their height. That is incredibly toxic and limiting to the individual.
Even though you wrote that a year ago, I got a cis-woman friend that is 6 ft tall and she just gives 0 fucks and still wears crazy plateau shoes and she's fucking rocking it!! My sis is MtF and she's around the same height as you and she looks so gorgeous as well :) I know these feelings are tough to deal with, but you can be whoever you wish to be
old video, i know, but from a trans guy's perspective i feel this so much. i'm sure in my identity, but getting there was so confusing. i still like fashion and pretty things and make disturbingly high noises when i see a cat. i try to go about it the same way i would with cis people. i would never question a man's gender identity because they like feminine things or act a certain way, the same way i wouldn't question a woman's identity because she is a tomboy. so if you know you're trans, why would you need to adhere to binary stereotypes of a certain gender? we are so much stricter with ourselves than we would be with cis people. doesn't help that people expect hyper-femininity from trans women and hyper-masculinity form trans men. it's complicated, but we know what we feel and that's what counts.
Thank you for this. I really appreciate what you say here. We are human first. We need to be ourselves first. All this pigeonholing -- whether from society but especially from ourselves -- needs to be transcended. ❤
In fact, a "noted" psychiatrist specializing in gender issues did judge me, judged me as "not trans enough," that i didn't answer the questions "correctly," rather than listen through my shame and guilt - assessment by formula. I left his office after three sessions "knowing" i could never transition. That was 20 years ago. It took me 15 years to gain the self-confidence to make the change. It was still a difficult process, but I've been legal for 3 years now, on hormones for 4, and my only regret is that I could have done it sooner. If only I'd gotten a second opinion...
" I am a woman, intrinsically female inside but a bit of a tomboy" What really comes out is your genuine passion! All the more attractive :) You are a lovely woman who has provided inspiration and insight into our community. Ty
I'd like to say that this video really touched me. I'm almost 37 now (still only therapy) but what you said really resonates with my thoughts and feelings. For years and years I tried to convince myself that transitioning would be catastrophic and I'm not "trans enough"...stuff like think "want to be a girl" versus "I am a girl", or "it's too late", "I'll just have to deal with it" etc. Only last few years - realizing my own mortality and that I've struggled with this for so long- I've started seeing the whole issue in a more spherical and calm way. There is a point in one's life when you just know you are transgender and if you need to transition. No matter what online "tests" say, at a point in your life you can say "I know this is true and have to do it".
OMG Charlie! I am 35 years old, I always struggle with these thoughts, I just stopping myself and because of that. I was never happy in my entire life! it was like something is missing, you know?! I never found myself! I didn't even want to look at the mirrors until 4 months ago I just knew I couldn't live as a man anymore! I decide to start to visit a doctor. You help me so much with this wonderful video, and I have to say thank you so much for sharing. Please wish me, luck sis. (Sorry for my bad English) Peace from Iran
As a potential transmasc, this helped me to see that trans women feel what i do but opposite. Like, my interests are quite stereotypically 'feminine' and I wouldn't be able to be a manly man and that feel like me, you know? I'm soft, emotional and into arts. but still, I wish I could experience life as a man for a bit to see if it would suit me and be able to go back with no consequences or judgement if I'm wrong.
It reminds me of how I thought all of my feminine expressions were just me being secure in my sexuality. I was right about that, just deep in denial about my gender. 😂 I thought I must have not been a girl because even though I love clothes that swoosh, knitting, mothering my children, and feeling pretty, I also like camping, and BMX, and adventure, and trying to be a super soldier during my stint in the Army. I’m such a unique sporty futch lesbian. 🙄😏😋😆
Your videos are an inspiration. I serve in the US military in a career field that screams manly. I started to transition over 4 years ago. This has been anything but easy. We were allowed to openly serve, but not in every career field. To keep my position I stayed under the radar. Your videos are inspiring and show how real you are. The fact that you are an example of a strong woman and you still race is amazing. Thank you for posting your videos and uplifting so many of us.
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I am starting to transition and I don't know where I'll end up. But thank you so much for supporting what I want to do even if I don't know where I will be. You are a beautiful person.
You are an amazing person. I always had a conflict because of the "scale" and not measuring up to others standards of being super polarized, and a few years ago I ended up not transitioning because of it. I recently had the epiphany that none of that mattered, the labels don't matter, and I can just be. I don't know whether that means I'm actually a tomboy or nonbinary or what portion of the spectrum I fall under, but you totally reinforced that truth for me - truth that it's all alright. Thank you. This last month has been this amazing unlocking experience, and to finally feel I can accept myself for whatever I am and wherever I land on the scale unconditionally, is such a huge step for me. Listening to you has helped me continue building my confidence on this and I think I know what I need to do now. Thank you again.
I must say , youre one of the most beautiful women that Ive ever seen. I just wished that there was a,full body photograph included in youre post. In closing, I live in LA where beautiful women are plentiful. Youd fit in perfectly
Years after my transistion i dare to be myself. All I was longing was to have the face and the body fitting to my inner self. I felt like a round cake in a square box. Of course I thought I had to represent a social role, had to "proof" my feminity. But actually I never wanted to be "a women". I just wanted a home for my soul, a place to feel safe. I my male body I felt awkward, somehow exposed and vulnerable. Now I feel myself strong, even I know that probably most people can guess what I had looked like in the past.
Like you, I didn't tick any of the boxes either (apart from maybe a one or two time thing) but now here I am at 28 with an appointment. It's funny how it works really.
My second time watching this vid. I feel like your transition gives me hope. I am me and one should not measure to another but I can't help it. Am I Trans Enough. I already knew the answer but your vid reinforced . Thanks for your courage to be honest and true.
+Y-Knot Remodel I'm happy for you, it's such an important message to remember I think - none of us have to measure up to an ideal. Just be yourself and be free :D
I know this video is pretty old but I just want to say that this video speaks to me on so many levels many of the things you said in this video are the very same things I am struggling with and deciding on (like the petrol head part I am one myself) and this really helped me feel much more confident in my decision to start taking steps towards transition. I have watched a few of your other videos and I loved them you're amazing thank you so much!
I would just like to say what an incredibly interesting and honest this video was. In fact it resonated with me, being a male who has struggled with gender identity for years and years, although not obviously in childhood, and although I feel being female would be my true self, I just fear and rationalize that I am not Trans enough. Thank you for posting this video, as it is comforting to hear from somebody who felt the same as I do now. Your voice is wonderfully soothing by the way :)
I made the decision to transition 4 months ago after years of feeling pretty much all of what you've said here. I 100% know I'm doing the right thing for me and my life, but sometimes those doubts creep up and try to bring you down. I'm saving this video as a reminder for every time those feelings creep back up. Thank you so much for sharing! Five years later, it's still making a difference. ❤️
You really get better and better, and you are the most articlate,intellectual and introspective of all the trans people on TH-cam, and not too hard to look at (and I'm a straight male). Thanks for helping to inform so many on a subject so complicated.
I'm late arriving, but I wanted to say: you have lovely energy and share your story in such a thoughtful, articulate way. Thank you for being such a light in this diverse world we live in.
Thank you so much for doing this video. I really appreciate hearing your perspective and I'm especially thankful that you appear so genuinely and happily grounded in your decision to transition. God Bless you for your willingness and generousity to reach out and help others. (And also: you're adorable!!!)
I am thinking of transitioning ftm and I really get what your saying. I was kinda nervous about transitioning socially and also with just the things i wear because sometimes getting dressed up and putting on makeup felt good for me. Thanks for this, you have really helped me out of the dysphoria pit, so to speak.
I have really enjoyed watching all of your videos but I have probably found this video to be the most valuable I have EVER watched about trans issues. I'm well on my journey now and have a date in a few weeks time but for so many years I played over and over again in my head exactly this issues of 'am I trans enough'. I did exactly the same kind of false comparisons you speak of. So many times I backed away from the idea and continued to hide behind the male facade wishing I was more this, more that or more the other. Now I have maybe not entirely accepted myself but at least I have accepted myself enough to say that it won't be perfect, there will be challenges and that is life. I have found so many positive influences and they're giving me the confidence. So thank you so much for taking the time to make these videos, I really appreciate them so much. Thank you! x
Thank you! I'm re-watching this vid after several months and its something that I really needed to listen to at this point in my life. You can be into cars, still have your more "masculine" interests and still be trans. Just live life as my truest most honest self
I have this video saved and love it. When ever i question who i am, or what journey i am on, this video helps me to reaffirm that i am not the only one with these feelings. So many things you say, that you relate to, that you would judge yourself for, "the scale". It empowers me to see that the thoughts you have , and as beautiful as you are, i think the same things. I also love my cars and its silly but scared me that maybe as a woman i cant, but im more an american muscle car lover! Thank you so much for sharing your honest thoughts. It means more than you can imagine to some of us.
Thank you so much for this video! I feel like you describe all of the things that have been going through my head lately. I really needed to hear this. Thank you, a million times over!
This video was incredibly formative to me and 4 months ago I commented about how insightful this video was. Now here 4 months later, I've been on hormones for nearly 3.5 months and I'm out to everyone around me. This is still a narrative that I relate to maybe the most of anything I've seen and you really really resound with me on a spiritual level. Bless you
Wow. I've been struggling a lot throughout my life of feeling like I'm some flavor of MtF, but always had the nagging feeling of I'm too much of "one of the bros" to be trans. But this video helped me to affirm that I can be a woman, but be tomboyish too. Thanks!
You share your thoughts in such a manner that it enables myself; and perhaps others too; that we can be who we want to be. We are all unique and we can embrace our own being. Love you
I know this video is from about 5 years ago but I still want to thank you. I am currently questioning if I am trans enough to transition and this really helped. I don't feel comfortable in my body anymore but I have so many doubts. Thank you for your words :)
Thank you for sharing those things and saying them in that way. I wasn't able to transition until 40, I've been on HRT since 2011 and still don't pass too well just yet. The greatest part of transition is the 1st surgery for MtFs, my transition is frozen until after that surgery. You are a great encouragement to me. As you picture in the back says "the mountains are calling me, i must go". My whole family disowned me, no friends. Only enemies and people that try to kill me, my life has been full of very tall mountains. It seems that none of them fall on me, i can't die even if i get hit by a car. Trust me - I KNOW. Thank you for sharing all that you have, it's like you're talking specifically to me - THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!! ❤
It's funny as you were speaking, what was coming through loud and clear to me from you was how much you're still there with that risk-taking manner, that always wanting to live your life on the edge and with courage, and with an open mind, a strong desired for meaning and purpose! Being out as a woman is all of that wrapped up in one of the most courageous, daring, and edgy moves you've ever attempted, perhaps. I guess what I'm saying is you've always been who you are, and you still are that... That's all pretty cool if you were to ask me.
thank you so much for this message! i'm about to go in for my first consult with a doctor about my transition, and what you had to say about your passions being more of a passenger of what your gender is - rather than a *determinant* of what you gender is - is SOOO helpful for me! my passion is invention and my waking life is split between social justice intellectualism, artistic creation, and technological adventure. thank you for helping me see that my lifelong disinterest in girl-trappings doesn't invalidate my need to be the womanperson I truly am inside. do those videos about your racing van! that sounds amazing.
Thank you so much for this video. I was asking myself this all the time: “am I trans enough” and I’ve debated this for myself for a long time and as a man who wants to be a women you’ve massively helped me in finalizing this decision. Thank you so much for this. You’re so amazing. ❤
Thank you so much. I felt like you were in the room with me, giving me advice on something that's still just a thought in my mind that I've only mentioned to one person, whilst I still walk through the world just a slightly camp male. And seeing all the comments here it looks like you've touched lots of other people too. If you're ever having a bad day, please remember how many people you've helped.
So, four months ago I posted a comment thanking you for this video since it crystalized some thoughts in me that I was transgender. Saw a therapist and decided that while I was gender fluid, I wasn't trans enough to transition. I was wrong. After even more intense dysphoria recently (and another visit with a therapist) I've come to realize, no I AM a transwoman and am going to transition. So thanks for doing this video. I am trans enough.
Im right there with you on the same page. I went through these same kinds of thoughts and thinking, although I see in hind sight much of it was related to denial and fear of social rejection if I transitioned. I asked myself if I was " trans enough for years . I guess I am being half way through transition and I already happier than Ive ever been. its healthy though to question yourself, your motives.
I am a old man who stumbled blindly onto your video, while surfing u-tube. You are quite special. You need to find your comfortable spot in your life, and then put your heart and soul into making yourself happy. You are too lovely to frown
thank you for posting this. i am just starting out on my journey and it is so helpful when women post that they had doubts and questioned themselves along the way. it is so nice to know that a trans woman's journey is not always a linear obvious path.
I just watch you twice in a row and need to transition no matter what. It's who I've always felt but been scared of society and fear worries of not not being pretty enough. Uuugggg
Thank you so much for sharing this. I am currently consisting transitioning and have been struggling so much with exactly the questions you were asking yourself. It really helps to know someone else has gone through the same thing.
Another way to approach 'am I trans* enough' : I think that trying little things and seeing how it resonates within is a better way of exploring where I sit in the gender spectrum soup, rather than jumping all-in then freaking out or getting overwhelmed by the whole process. Also it gives you time to work out the level of dysphoria present (physical body, mind + emotions, and/or socially).
I really love your perspective and your words, I'm going through this now and this is amazing to hear. I don't even know you but it makes me so happy to see that you've found yourself and are living your best life! ❤ Thank you for making this video ❤❤
I've been experiencing this very same ubt regards my recent transgender awareness. excelent video! I intend to pursue and enjoy all of your videos. Thank you, for your insight and advice
I've battled this issue being started in my 50's. I had a lot of laser treatments on my face, but now I must start electrolysis to get the gray. Also my 3rd hair transplant has come in and I am concerned if I can get nose done or another transplant. I see how beautiful you've become and hoping just to be passable. Anyway love and feel like I know you hugs
Ditto 52... then you have a brainstorm and it all hits you at once, in one afternoon and you realise that the signs had been in plain sight for 3 decades but because your hetero its been eclipsed because your were naive and thought you had to be gay... its hard.
@@rossetti2011mn Oh this is sounding so true -- like a bolt of inner knowing breaking through. I'm in my 50s, and have been hit very hard. Growing up we didn't have any role models that weren't gay/deviant/frowned upon. Now. Ooph.
people spend all their lives trying to fit in "molds", that have been set by their upbringing, by the way they think other people perceive them, or by the way they perceive their self. Time is too short , feelings are too fragile, and life is too fickle to worry about the feelings of others. I am not saying that you shouldn't care about others feelings , just don't dwell on them too long. You are bright, lovely and sensitive, with an insight that is reserved for a very few. Thanks for listening to me
You are looking at stereotypical people and you are not one of those. You are unique like most people in your position. Transitioning must be a very hard thing to do, like you said, but you are on the right tracks. You have the benefit of looking and sounding feminine and you can easily transition slowly, there is no rush. You will be what you want to be in time, there is no time limit for you, it will all fall into place and then which ever way you end up you will know it will be the right thing for you. I love your videos and I think you are beautiful as a woman and that is what you need to be in your heart. X
Fab, you're so lovely Miss. I'm heading to my first counselling session in 2 days time. I'm trans and I'm looking forward to beginning HRT very soon. I myself have been confused over the years as I grew up attracted to girls and loving football and motor racing and martial arts etc but still, I'm so feminine as well. Keep up the good work. And good luck with your racing! x
All your videos are excellent, but I've found this one the most helpful so far. I'll replay it next time, and every time, I'm having doubts about whether transitioning is right for me. Thanks.
Such graceful thoughts. Give us a lot to think about. If you do half as much thought into racing career as you these videos, well I suspect you will do well.
Julian Bl Thank you, yes I'm giving my racing everything this year - it's a pivotal year for me :) as such I might have to cut down on the frequency of my videos on here as it's hard to do everything....
Thank you. I went to West Point to be in the U.S. army. I grew up racing motorcycles, building cars, guy stuff. People hearing that are like, "really, you don't seem like that kind of person?" I seemed like a sissy boi, cuz I am. I now M2F HRT, but I just like everything, all things. I am who I am. I think you are wonderful.
That title just grabbed me. Am I trans enough? I love football. I love cars - huge F1 fan.I was a fencer when I was a student. I was a computer geek long before it was cool - and it was only guys who were into it. I was sporty & a geek. I was in the army cadets. But i wore girls clothing from quite an early age. It never left me. I always knew in my heart that I should have been a girl. I'm late getting there but I want to be a woman - and still enjoy "guy" stuff. None of the other vids I've watched say what you do. I know you made this years ago but you speak to me. Girls can be into anything they want. Thank you. 👍👏❤
In one of your previous videos, how you found your feminine self, I remembered a quote. Simone de Beauvoir said "One is not born [a woman], but rather [one] becomes a woman." Along those same lines is another saying: One does not look for answers but rather lives into the answer. I think in your case you are living into the answer as any self respecting and well adjusted woman does. I'm so envious of you. Simply by being who you are, you are becoming more and more a woman every day. I so love your videos.
yeah! i am women here me roar in numbers to big to ignore . you are absolutely right you will grow into it ,the older you get the more comfy i luv youre mind
I live in Australia, and women do jobs you would of never imagined 10 years ago. They drive triple trailer road trains in the outback and change tyres when they get a flat. If you want to be yourself and enjoy the things that interest you just do it girl and live your life as you.
I totally agree with all that you’re saying. These things that we do and hobbies that we have that people associate with gender shouldn’t be a reason to invalidate yourself. Personally, I enjoy being competitive in sports, and built big muscles rock climbing, and I don’t consider it a reason to invalidate my femininity. Everyone has different experiences, and not fitting into a certain person’s trans experience doesn’t make you not “trans enough”. I believe that all it takes to be “trans enough” is if transitioning would benefit you personally.
This video helped me alot. I like doing nerdy electronic stuff but have always considered it a part of my maskuline side and not a part of me. thank you very much for making these fantastic videos!
Thank you so much for this video and all of your videos. You are so informative, inspiring and beautiful. I am 4 months into my m-f journey and listening to your experiences has really helped me. Thanks again and may all your dreams come true. Cheers.
Great video! I can certainly relate to a lot of it, being the typical guy before transition Extreme sports, military reserves etc... Was doing it I think as a way to compensate for how I was feeling on the inside, and asked myself that very question "am I trans enough"?? Keep up the great work!!
I really appreciate you speaking about this type of thing. I have recently had this same type of thought, but with being just a tomboy vs a more feminine trans man. See, I am AFAB. I really really LOVE getting my hands dirty, and I did MMA for 5 years. I was raised by 2 lesbians however, and yet when it comes to how I present I would say I want to look very feminine and wear makeup (but I know it's not the best for these activities, so maybe wear wigs over top of shorter hair??) I also am not sure if me being raised by lesbians messed up my natural progression and view of gender. Also, my family overall is transphobic so even if I was trans it's not something I can just do without being criticized and ridiculed and have it not be respected. Long story short, I've gone back and forth about my identity for years now. I am still not sure if this is a "phase" or not for me personally, and if this was just triggered by not wearing a binder (as my chest is the one thing I want to change but idk if this automatically makes me trans??). Anywho, thank you for giving food for thought! I appreciate this. :))
insightful indeed. womens clothing and figure are very comforting. always had some sort of idea that id rather be female but no real dysphoria or leaning to girly stuff. still dont know what i want to do with my current life goals or future ones. figuring that out seems like a longer process.
i dont feel like becoming trans but then i also do want to, I like but i dont like being a boy, i dont really know.. maybe later in life i might become trans or i will learn to fit with my biological gender.. you helped alot with decisions, i used to not be sure what i am but now i think you have helped me.. Thank you
Hi, I have watched a few of you videos and one thing I am impressed about Is how you carry yourself being a transgender and a guy like me like I've told you before isn't judgemental I would be very accepting of you, the Beauty lies from within
I am so glad you made this video. As a transgender woman CertifiedPersonalTrainer, I still like to workout, paddle board, mountain bike. As a kid in the 60s, I played army with my friends. I did not know I was transgender then, as there was no awareness. I was in the Boy Scouts and made Eagle. I played hockey 🏒 too. Yet , looking back I can see that I subconsciously knew something was wrong. I've always been a girl (except for anatomy). Once I became aware I am transgender, I then got the courage to face it, and transition. I'm on the other side and could not go back. God knew I am transgender before I knew. Yes, I am a Christian who believes in Jesus and happen to be transgender.
Hi. I think that you are just great and also just gorgeous! I am one month on hormones and am a bit older I'm afraid (i;m embarrassed to say!) But its exciting. Slight breast development happening i think. It is so good to hear you say that we should all strive to be ourselves and to be happy. And not to compare ourselves. I'm irish. i luv your accent!
After so many years of these type of questions , I’m on my way to being who I really am. I’m not a guy after all! I’m transitioning and becoming the real me. 💕
As I was growing up I had a lot of feminine traits that I did my best to remove as I got older. I even tried to bulk up and be like the stereotypical meat head but inside I knew it wasn’t me. I did it so I could fit in with my male body and be congruent with what I saw in the mirror. Now I recently came to terms with myself as a trans woman and now my learned masculine traits is something that makes me feel insecure. I feel more comfortable and confident when I walk or gesture with more feminine motions but I must make a conscious effort to move that way. It took me a while to realize that my masculine traits don’t invalidate my gender identity. My sister has more power tools than my grandfather and she knows how to use them but I would never call her mannish. You are defined by what feels right for you not what hobbies you like or how you look. I’ve met plenty of masculine biosex women in my life and they are just as valid as any trans woman. If you feel this is right for you don’t let anyone define what you are for you.
This was nice to hear some of your journey. To me, the only gold standard is one we set on ourselves. Especially when there was people I thought "had it together". Transitioning was all I thought about. It got in the way of life & I had to live again, if it makes sense; Then I knew, we all have different stories & it's ok that I'm not a total Stepford wife. But I did collect hard to find dolls from my childhood. ^_^
i usually never write a comment ever, rather lurk in the shadows. However, this video spoke volumes to me. you are genuine and made me question (in a good way) so many things about myself that bother me. But the line that spoke to me and rang so loud and tru was " i am a woman, intrinsically female inside but a bit of a tomboy". This one line makes simple sense to me and just crushed my issue with gender! I am a car junkie, a gear head and always afraid that if i transition, i will lose that. Its a silly thought i know but you have shown me that we all have those thoughts and ye a girl can do it too! Its me and i can still do that, just finally in the body i am supposed to be in! i am on the road to transition now and this one video, your simple insight to your thoughts, has given me a chance to take a deep breathe and finally exhale fully. to know its ok to finally be tru to me. I thank you
I was trying to find my words to thank Charlie for this video. You just expressed it so well 3 years ago... What should I add? Maybe: let's be driven by our joy of life!
Omg, literally me!
''We'' are not alone ! Trans woman and petrolhead here too. I've been a bit a lazy transgender the last 10 years, started transitioning back in 2005. Fell into the tomboy trap and now finally rediscovering myself. Starting with voice traning within a week and trying to get my belly flat as a pancake :) Sidenote. Two years ago started my career as a public busdriver here in the netherlands and all my colleagues are really supportive and welcoming me. Not talking about acceptance, I or we don't need 'acceptance', we are as much human as cis people do. Stand your ground !
YES ! GIRL POWER. You go girl.
@@dutchmeikuh8822 I am a transgender certified personal trainer and would like to train clients on line, with a target market of mtf transgenders. Before Vitamin World.filed ch 11, I was earned my certificate as a Nutritional Specialist with Vitamin World. I am training some now, in person.
this is probably the most insightful video i've ever seen with respect to transgender stuff. so appreciate you
Fellow e g g 🥰
I just forgot to add to this video that I also used to be part of the Red Cross when I was about 7-10 and used to go with my one of my best friends Joanna - I was the only boy amongst maybe 20 girls and we used to learn to put bandages on each other and stuff like that. I loved it and never once questioned that I was the only boy there, it did make me sad that I wasn't one of the girls though as I sooo wanted to wear their uniform and have long hair... my friend was a proper tomboy and it's funny thinking back - I guess I just wanted to point out that I did some things that were more on the feminine side too growing up :)
Thank you. Tales of self-discovery continue to provide answers to raised questions of who we really are. There will come a time, even for just a brief moment, that everything is as it should be. Just then, all is right with oneself and our world.
Hi, I have been following you on youtube for a while now and am so impressed with you and how are you transition through life's emotional gymnastics that come with transition. I have struggled with gender dysphoria my whole life and will be coming out to my gender therapist tomorrow. I have come out to my two sisters and they told me that they love me and support me 100% finally! I am out after being in the closet for 30 years when I first started with women's clothing but knew at age 5 when I had my first conscious awareness that I felt different, I am a registered nurse which was my childhood dream, I never denied to myself who I was inside, I just didn't have the emotional ability to come out, but I am out now and it feels wonderful. I always felt that if I was to reach out to the transgender community that they would have to be mentally healthy people, and your videos are the first classy and heartfelt I have come upon you have helped me so much you can't even imagine and I love you for being you and also helping me to come out. I'm sorry about your recent breakup that you posted and breaks my heart that you hurt, anyway, all the best and good health, Steven
+a Girl for all seasons your chromosomes say you are a man.
+Gordan m'gleb You may want to read some more books on biology and biochemistry as your comment is incorrect. Chromosomes may play some part in physical sex but not always. I say may as science is making new discoveries in this area. Gender which is not the same as physical sex and is influenced by hormones not chromosomes.www.newstatesman.com/future-proof/2015/02/sex-isn-t-chromosomes-story-century-misconceptions-about-x-y
Kayleigh McKenna lol, forget the "woodoo" science and focus on real science.
sex is determined by chromosomes and behavior is INFLUENCED by hormones.
there are of course exceptions, mutations id you will.But most cases of trans are caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. and there are, like I said exceptions where people where born with the wrong set of genitalia or hermaphrodites. that is a genetic mutation. it's different.
Puberty hit me harder, because at the end I'm 6'5", and I looks like a jock. and I hate it. I hate being tall and masculine... So I don't know how to go further
@@vajraayudha5062 the fuck are you talking about? what does height have to do with transitioning? Everybody has things they don't like about themselves. You may not fit a certain type of person that you want to be, but that's literally everybody. Lots of women wish they were a different height. I wish I was a petite 5 ft girl. Yet, I'm 6 ft tall. Tough. Being trans is so much more about what is on the inside. While there may be dysphoria for this individual regarding height, that is something that can and should be worked through. Burying it down and just "stay as a man" mentality doesn't address the problem and will ultimately make it worse. Besides, tall women exist! They're all over the place, and they're just as beautiful as short women. Also, HRT will usually make trans women lose an inch or two of height over the years =D Don't spread hate and tell people not to transition because they can only play volleyball or basketball at their height. That is incredibly toxic and limiting to the individual.
Even though you wrote that a year ago, I got a cis-woman friend that is 6 ft tall and she just gives 0 fucks and still wears crazy plateau shoes and she's fucking rocking it!! My sis is MtF and she's around the same height as you and she looks so gorgeous as well :)
I know these feelings are tough to deal with, but you can be whoever you wish to be
i know i am late but. maybe me and u could switch. I'll take tall and masculine over 5'5" and a female...
old video, i know, but from a trans guy's perspective i feel this so much. i'm sure in my identity, but getting there was so confusing. i still like fashion and pretty things and make disturbingly high noises when i see a cat. i try to go about it the same way i would with cis people. i would never question a man's gender identity because they like feminine things or act a certain way, the same way i wouldn't question a woman's identity because she is a tomboy. so if you know you're trans, why would you need to adhere to binary stereotypes of a certain gender? we are so much stricter with ourselves than we would be with cis people. doesn't help that people expect hyper-femininity from trans women and hyper-masculinity form trans men. it's complicated, but we know what we feel and that's what counts.
Thank you for this. I really appreciate what you say here. We are human first. We need to be ourselves first. All this pigeonholing -- whether from society but especially from ourselves -- needs to be transcended. ❤
In fact, a "noted" psychiatrist specializing in gender issues did judge me, judged me as "not trans enough," that i didn't answer the questions "correctly," rather than listen through my shame and guilt - assessment by formula. I left his office after three sessions "knowing" i could never transition. That was 20 years ago. It took me 15 years to gain the self-confidence to make the change. It was still a difficult process, but I've been legal for 3 years now, on hormones for 4, and my only regret is that I could have done it sooner. If only I'd gotten a second opinion...
Love your honestly. Gender identity is complex, and in some senses, androgyny is bliss!
" I am a woman, intrinsically female inside but a bit of a tomboy" What really comes out is your genuine passion! All the more attractive :) You are a lovely woman who has provided inspiration and insight into our community. Ty
This video changed my life.
I'd like to say that this video really touched me. I'm almost 37 now (still only therapy) but what you said really resonates with my thoughts and feelings. For years and years I tried to convince myself that transitioning would be catastrophic and I'm not "trans enough"...stuff like think "want to be a girl" versus "I am a girl", or "it's too late", "I'll just have to deal with it" etc. Only last few years - realizing my own mortality and that I've struggled with this for so long- I've started seeing the whole issue in a more spherical and calm way.
There is a point in one's life when you just know you are transgender and if you need to transition. No matter what online "tests" say, at a point in your life you can say "I know this is true and have to do it".
OMG Charlie!
I am 35 years old, I always struggle with these thoughts, I just stopping myself and because of that. I was never happy in my entire life! it was like something is missing, you know?!
I never found myself! I didn't even want to look at the mirrors until 4 months ago I just knew I couldn't live as a man anymore! I decide to start to visit a doctor.
You help me so much with this wonderful video, and I have to say thank you so much for sharing. Please wish me, luck sis. (Sorry for my bad English) Peace from Iran
Big hug energy from Canada - I completely feel you, esp wrt mirrors. I hate mirrors
Hoping things going well
As a potential transmasc, this helped me to see that trans women feel what i do but opposite. Like, my interests are quite stereotypically 'feminine' and I wouldn't be able to be a manly man and that feel like me, you know? I'm soft, emotional and into arts. but still, I wish I could experience life as a man for a bit to see if it would suit me and be able to go back with no consequences or judgement if I'm wrong.
It reminds me of how I thought all of my feminine expressions were just me being secure in my sexuality. I was right about that, just deep in denial about my gender. 😂
I thought I must have not been a girl because even though I love clothes that swoosh, knitting, mothering my children, and feeling pretty, I also like camping, and BMX, and adventure, and trying to be a super soldier during my stint in the Army. I’m such a unique sporty futch lesbian. 🙄😏😋😆
Your videos are an inspiration. I serve in the US military in a career field that screams manly. I started to transition over 4 years ago. This has been anything but easy. We were allowed to openly serve, but not in every career field. To keep my position I stayed under the radar. Your videos are inspiring and show how real you are. The fact that you are an example of a strong woman and you still race is amazing. Thank you for posting your videos and uplifting so many of us.
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I am starting to transition and I don't know where I'll end up. But thank you so much for supporting what I want to do even if I don't know where I will be. You are a beautiful person.
You are an amazing person. I always had a conflict because of the "scale" and not measuring up to others standards of being super polarized, and a few years ago I ended up not transitioning because of it. I recently had the epiphany that none of that mattered, the labels don't matter, and I can just be. I don't know whether that means I'm actually a tomboy or nonbinary or what portion of the spectrum I fall under, but you totally reinforced that truth for me - truth that it's all alright. Thank you. This last month has been this amazing unlocking experience, and to finally feel I can accept myself for whatever I am and wherever I land on the scale unconditionally, is such a huge step for me. Listening to you has helped me continue building my confidence on this and I think I know what I need to do now. Thank you again.
I must say , youre one of the most beautiful women that Ive ever seen. I just wished that there was a,full body photograph included in youre post. In closing, I live in LA where beautiful women are plentiful. Youd fit in perfectly
Years after my transistion i dare to be myself. All I was longing was to have the face and the body fitting to my inner self. I felt like a round cake in a square box. Of course I thought I had to represent a social role, had to "proof" my feminity. But actually I never wanted to be "a women". I just wanted a home for my soul, a place to feel safe. I my male body I felt awkward, somehow exposed and vulnerable. Now I feel myself strong, even I know that probably most people can guess what I had looked like in the past.
Like you, I didn't tick any of the boxes either (apart from maybe a one or two time thing) but now here I am at 28 with an appointment. It's funny how it works really.
My second time watching this vid. I feel like your transition gives me hope. I am me and one should not measure to another but I can't help it. Am I Trans Enough. I already knew the answer but your vid reinforced . Thanks for your courage to be honest and true.
+Y-Knot Remodel I'm happy for you, it's such an important message to remember I think - none of us have to measure up to an ideal. Just be yourself and be free :D
I know this video is pretty old but I just want to say that this video speaks to me on so many levels many of the things you said in this video are the very same things I am struggling with and deciding on (like the petrol head part I am one myself) and this really helped me feel much more confident in my decision to start taking steps towards transition. I have watched a few of your other videos and I loved them you're amazing thank you so much!
I would just like to say what an incredibly interesting and honest this video was. In fact it resonated with me, being a male who has struggled with gender identity for years and years, although not obviously in childhood, and although I feel being female would be my true self, I just fear and rationalize that I am not Trans enough. Thank you for posting this video, as it is comforting to hear from somebody who felt the same as I do now. Your voice is wonderfully soothing by the way :)
I made the decision to transition 4 months ago after years of feeling pretty much all of what you've said here. I 100% know I'm doing the right thing for me and my life, but sometimes those doubts creep up and try to bring you down. I'm saving this video as a reminder for every time those feelings creep back up. Thank you so much for sharing! Five years later, it's still making a difference. ❤️
You really get better and better, and you are the most articlate,intellectual and introspective of all the trans people on TH-cam, and not too hard to look at (and I'm a straight male). Thanks for helping to inform so many on a subject so complicated.
I'm late arriving, but I wanted to say: you have lovely energy and share your story in such a thoughtful, articulate way. Thank you for being such a light in this diverse world we live in.
Thank you so much for doing this video. I really appreciate hearing your perspective and I'm especially thankful that you appear so genuinely and happily grounded in your decision to transition. God Bless you for your willingness and generousity to reach out and help others. (And also: you're adorable!!!)
I am thinking of transitioning ftm and I really get what your saying. I was kinda nervous about transitioning socially and also with just the things i wear because sometimes getting dressed up and putting on makeup felt good for me. Thanks for this, you have really helped me out of the dysphoria pit, so to speak.
I have really enjoyed watching all of your videos but I have probably found this video to be the most valuable I have EVER watched about trans issues. I'm well on my journey now and have a date in a few weeks time but for so many years I played over and over again in my head exactly this issues of 'am I trans enough'. I did exactly the same kind of false comparisons you speak of. So many times I backed away from the idea and continued to hide behind the male facade wishing I was more this, more that or more the other. Now I have maybe not entirely accepted myself but at least I have accepted myself enough to say that it won't be perfect, there will be challenges and that is life. I have found so many positive influences and they're giving me the confidence. So thank you so much for taking the time to make these videos, I really appreciate them so much. Thank you! x
Thank you! I'm re-watching this vid after several months and its something that I really needed to listen to at this point in my life. You can be into cars, still have your more "masculine" interests and still be trans. Just live life as my truest most honest self
I have this video saved and love it. When ever i question who i am, or what journey i am on, this video helps me to reaffirm that i am not the only one with these feelings. So many things you say, that you relate to, that you would judge yourself for, "the scale". It empowers me to see that the thoughts you have , and as beautiful as you are, i think the same things. I also love my cars and its silly but scared me that maybe as a woman i cant, but im more an american muscle car lover! Thank you so much for sharing your honest thoughts. It means more than you can imagine to some of us.
I'm with you on EVERYTHING you say. in ALL your videos. Thank you for making such great videos.
Thank you so much for this video! I feel like you describe all of the things that have been going through my head lately. I really needed to hear this. Thank you, a million times over!
This video was incredibly formative to me and 4 months ago I commented about how insightful this video was. Now here 4 months later, I've been on hormones for nearly 3.5 months and I'm out to everyone around me. This is still a narrative that I relate to maybe the most of anything I've seen and you really really resound with me on a spiritual level. Bless you
+Koji Kondo Wow, that's amazing news - I'm sooo happy for you!! :D Wishing you so much good luck & happiness in 2016
This does a really great job highlighting the difference between gender expression and gender identity.
so many things that resonate with me ... looking back i had all the pieces for many years but wasn't able to click them together
Wow. I've been struggling a lot throughout my life of feeling like I'm some flavor of MtF, but always had the nagging feeling of I'm too much of "one of the bros" to be trans. But this video helped me to affirm that I can be a woman, but be tomboyish too. Thanks!
I'm ftm so I had to switch some words. This video was helpful, thank you.
thank you for sharing this, i'm struggling with this right now. it helps a lot to know you've had the exact same thoughts. looking great
This has been the most helpful video I have seen in months. It has opened my eyes to who I am. Thank you
You share your thoughts in such a manner that it enables myself; and perhaps others too; that we can be who we want to be. We are all unique and we can embrace our own being. Love you
I know this video is from about 5 years ago but I still want to thank you. I am currently questioning if I am trans enough to transition and this really helped. I don't feel comfortable in my body anymore but I have so many doubts. Thank you for your words :)
Thank you for sharing those things and saying them in that way. I wasn't able to transition until 40, I've been on HRT since 2011 and still don't pass too well just yet. The greatest part of transition is the 1st surgery for MtFs, my transition is frozen until after that surgery. You are a great encouragement to me. As you picture in the back says "the mountains are calling me, i must go". My whole family disowned me, no friends. Only enemies and people that try to kill me, my life has been full of very tall mountains. It seems that none of them fall on me, i can't die even if i get hit by a car. Trust me - I KNOW. Thank you for sharing all that you have, it's like you're talking specifically to me - THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!! ❤
It's funny as you were speaking, what was coming through loud and clear to me from you was how much you're still there with that risk-taking manner, that always wanting to live your life on the edge and with courage, and with an open mind, a strong desired for meaning and purpose! Being out as a woman is all of that wrapped up in one of the most courageous, daring, and edgy moves you've ever attempted, perhaps. I guess what I'm saying is you've always been who you are, and you still are that... That's all pretty cool if you were to ask me.
thank you so much for this message! i'm about to go in for my first consult with a doctor about my transition, and what you had to say about your passions being more of a passenger of what your gender is - rather than a *determinant* of what you gender is - is SOOO helpful for me! my passion is invention and my waking life is split between social justice intellectualism, artistic creation, and technological adventure. thank you for helping me see that my lifelong disinterest in girl-trappings doesn't invalidate my need to be the womanperson I truly am inside.
do those videos about your racing van! that sounds amazing.
Thank you so much for this video. I was asking myself this all the time: “am I trans enough” and I’ve debated this for myself for a long time and as a man who wants to be a women you’ve massively helped me in finalizing this decision. Thank you so much for this. You’re so amazing. ❤
Thank you so much. I felt like you were in the room with me, giving me advice on something that's still just a thought in my mind that I've only mentioned to one person, whilst I still walk through the world just a slightly camp male. And seeing all the comments here it looks like you've touched lots of other people too. If you're ever having a bad day, please remember how many people you've helped.
So, four months ago I posted a comment thanking you for this video since it crystalized some thoughts in me that I was transgender. Saw a therapist and decided that while I was gender fluid, I wasn't trans enough to transition.
I was wrong.
After even more intense dysphoria recently (and another visit with a therapist) I've come to realize, no I AM a transwoman and am going to transition.
So thanks for doing this video.
I am trans enough.
Thanks for sharing. I have been considering transitioning for 15 years but still don't have the courage, so well done you!
Im right there with you on the same page. I went through these same kinds of thoughts and thinking, although I see in hind sight much of it was related to denial and fear of social rejection if I transitioned.
I asked myself if I was " trans enough for years .
I guess I am being half way through transition and I already happier than Ive ever been. its healthy though to question yourself, your motives.
This is probably the most helpful trans video I’ve ever seen
Happy Thanksgiving and thanks for taking us along for the ride. You give me so much hope and I think others feel the same way. God Bless.
+TheMichaelis7 Happy Thanksgiving, thank you so much :)
I am a old man who stumbled blindly onto your video, while surfing u-tube. You are quite special. You need to find your comfortable spot in your life, and then put your heart and soul into making yourself happy. You are too lovely to frown
Than you, that's a really sweet comment - I try not to frown but sometimes I do it when I'm thinking hard! :D x
I can't be quite as poetic as some of the other comments here, but thank you; I think this is just what I needed to hear :)
thank you for posting this. i am just starting out on my journey and it is so helpful when women post that they had doubts and questioned themselves along the way. it is so nice to know that a trans woman's journey is not always a linear obvious path.
I just watch you twice in a row and need to transition no matter what. It's who I've always felt but been scared of society and fear worries of not not being pretty enough. Uuugggg
Thank you so much for sharing this. I am currently consisting transitioning and have been struggling so much with exactly the questions you were asking yourself. It really helps to know someone else has gone through the same thing.
Another way to approach 'am I trans* enough' : I think that trying little things and seeing how it resonates within is a better way of exploring where I sit in the gender spectrum soup, rather than jumping all-in then freaking out or getting overwhelmed by the whole process. Also it gives you time to work out the level of dysphoria present (physical body, mind + emotions, and/or socially).
I really love your perspective and your words, I'm going through this now and this is amazing to hear. I don't even know you but it makes me so happy to see that you've found yourself and are living your best life! ❤ Thank you for making this video ❤❤
Love you! not sure where my journey is taking me, but... this helps. Thank you
I've been experiencing this very same ubt regards my recent transgender awareness. excelent video! I intend to pursue and enjoy all of your videos. Thank you, for your insight
and advice
I've battled this issue being started in my 50's. I had a lot of laser treatments on my face, but now I must start electrolysis to get the gray. Also my 3rd hair transplant has come in and I am concerned if I can get nose done or another transplant. I see how beautiful you've become and hoping just to be passable. Anyway love and feel like I know you hugs
Ditto 52... then you have a brainstorm and it all hits you at once, in one afternoon and you realise that the signs had been in plain sight for 3 decades but because your hetero its been eclipsed because your were naive and thought you had to be gay... its hard.
@@rossetti2011mn Oh this is sounding so true -- like a bolt of inner knowing breaking through. I'm in my 50s, and have been hit very hard. Growing up we didn't have any role models that weren't gay/deviant/frowned upon. Now. Ooph.
people spend all their lives trying to fit in "molds", that have been set by their upbringing, by the way they think other people perceive them, or by the way they perceive their self. Time is too short , feelings are too fragile, and life is too fickle to worry about the feelings of others. I am not saying that you shouldn't care about others feelings , just don't dwell on them too long. You are bright, lovely and sensitive, with an insight that is reserved for a very few. Thanks for listening to me
You are looking at stereotypical people and you are not one of those. You are unique like most people in your position. Transitioning must be a very hard thing to do, like you said, but you are on the right tracks. You have the benefit of looking and sounding feminine and you can easily transition slowly, there is no rush. You will be what you want to be in time, there is no time limit for you, it will all fall into place and then which ever way you end up you will know it will be the right thing for you. I love your videos and I think you are beautiful as a woman and that is what you need to be in your heart. X
Fab, you're so lovely Miss. I'm heading to my first counselling session in 2 days time. I'm trans and I'm looking forward to beginning HRT very soon. I myself have been confused over the years as I grew up attracted to girls and loving football and motor racing and martial arts etc but still, I'm so feminine as well. Keep up the good work. And good luck with your racing! x
I identify with you so much, and this video seriously opened my mind... Thank you!
you have articulated a question that i've been trying to ask myself...you inspire me!
Priceless , authentic and very real.
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Lisa
Thank you for making this. This was so important for me to hear.
All your videos are excellent, but I've found this one the most helpful so far. I'll replay it next time, and every time, I'm having doubts about whether transitioning is right for me. Thanks.
aside from the army stuff, it felt like myself talking. thank you for the insight. -Val
Such graceful thoughts. Give us a lot to think about. If you do half as much thought into racing career as you these videos, well I suspect you will do well.
Julian Bl Thank you, yes I'm giving my racing everything this year - it's a pivotal year for me :) as such I might have to cut down on the frequency of my videos on here as it's hard to do everything....
Thank you. I went to West Point to be in the U.S. army. I grew up racing motorcycles, building cars, guy stuff. People hearing that are like, "really, you don't seem like that kind of person?" I seemed like a sissy boi, cuz I am. I now M2F HRT, but I just like everything, all things. I am who I am. I think you are wonderful.
That title just grabbed me. Am I trans enough? I love football. I love cars - huge F1 fan.I was a fencer when I was a student. I was a computer geek long before it was cool - and it was only guys who were into it. I was sporty & a geek. I was in the army cadets. But i wore girls clothing from quite an early age. It never left me. I always knew in my heart that I should have been a girl. I'm late getting there but I want to be a woman - and still enjoy "guy" stuff. None of the other vids I've watched say what you do. I know you made this years ago but you speak to me. Girls can be into anything they want. Thank you. 👍👏❤
In one of your previous videos, how you found your feminine self, I remembered a quote. Simone de Beauvoir said "One is not born [a woman], but rather [one] becomes a woman." Along those same lines is another saying: One does not look for answers but rather lives into the answer. I think in your case you are living into the answer as any self respecting and well adjusted woman does. I'm so envious of you. Simply by being who you are, you are becoming more and more a woman every day. I so love your videos.
+TheMichaelis7 Thank you, that's such an insightful point and I really love the second quote - sooooooo true! :-)
yeah! i am women here me roar in numbers to big to ignore . you are absolutely right you will grow into it ,the older you get the more comfy i luv youre mind
I live in Australia, and women do jobs you would of never imagined 10 years ago. They drive triple trailer road trains in the outback and change tyres when they get a flat. If you want to be yourself and enjoy the things that interest you just do it girl and live your life as you.
I totally agree with all that you’re saying. These things that we do and hobbies that we have that people associate with gender shouldn’t be a reason to invalidate yourself. Personally, I enjoy being competitive in sports, and built big muscles rock climbing, and I don’t consider it a reason to invalidate my femininity. Everyone has different experiences, and not fitting into a certain person’s trans experience doesn’t make you not “trans enough”. I believe that all it takes to be “trans enough” is if transitioning would benefit you personally.
This video helped me alot. I like doing nerdy electronic stuff but have always considered it a part of my maskuline side and not a part of me. thank you very much for making these fantastic videos!
This is the greatest video thank you so much I've recently decided to transition and I'm questioning all those things
Thank you for the clarity
Thank you so much for this video and all of your videos. You are so informative, inspiring and beautiful. I am 4 months into my m-f journey and listening to your experiences has really helped me. Thanks again and may all your dreams come true. Cheers.
Great video! I can certainly relate to a lot of it, being the typical guy before transition Extreme sports, military reserves etc... Was doing it I think as a way to compensate for how I was feeling on the inside, and asked myself that very question "am I trans enough"?? Keep up the great work!!
I really appreciate you speaking about this type of thing. I have recently had this same type of thought, but with being just a tomboy vs a more feminine trans man.
See, I am AFAB. I really really LOVE getting my hands dirty, and I did MMA for 5 years. I was raised by 2 lesbians however, and yet when it comes to how I present I would say I want to look very feminine and wear makeup (but I know it's not the best for these activities, so maybe wear wigs over top of shorter hair??)
I also am not sure if me being raised by lesbians messed up my natural progression and view of gender. Also, my family overall is transphobic so even if I was trans it's not something I can just do without being criticized and ridiculed and have it not be respected.
Long story short, I've gone back and forth about my identity for years now. I am still not sure if this is a "phase" or not for me personally, and if this was just triggered by not wearing a binder (as my chest is the one thing I want to change but idk if this automatically makes me trans??).
Anywho, thank you for giving food for thought! I appreciate this. :))
Just now found this video, needed to hear this… Thank you for sharing💜
insightful indeed. womens clothing and figure are very comforting. always had some sort of idea that id rather be female but no real dysphoria or leaning to girly stuff. still dont know what i want to do with my current life goals or future ones. figuring that out seems like a longer process.
Your honesty is so refreshing!
i dont feel like becoming trans but then i also do want to, I like but i dont like being a boy, i dont really know.. maybe later in life i might become trans or i will learn to fit with my biological gender.. you helped alot with decisions, i used to not be sure what i am but now i think you have helped me.. Thank you
God I love your video’s you put things in to perspective and you’re a beautiful women.
I know this was made a few years ago but I wish I could have seen it then. Thank you so much for this.
Hi, I have watched a few of you videos and one thing I am impressed about Is how you carry yourself being a transgender and a guy like me like I've told you before isn't judgemental I would be very accepting of you, the Beauty lies from within
❤️❤️ You're totally correct, there is no stereotype trans person. Thanks for the videos 😁!
Your voice is similar to the actress who played Elizabeth, the mom, in Parent Trap 2. I' love your voice
I am so glad you made this video. As a transgender woman CertifiedPersonalTrainer, I still like to workout, paddle board, mountain bike. As a kid in the 60s, I played army with my friends. I did not know I was transgender then, as there was no awareness. I was in the Boy Scouts and made Eagle. I played hockey 🏒 too. Yet , looking back I can see that I subconsciously knew something was wrong. I've always been a girl (except for anatomy). Once I became aware I am transgender, I then got the courage to face it, and transition. I'm on the other side and could not go back. God knew I am transgender before I knew. Yes, I am a Christian who believes in Jesus and happen to be transgender.
Hi. I think that you are just great and also just gorgeous! I am one month on hormones and am a bit older I'm afraid (i;m embarrassed to say!) But its exciting. Slight breast development happening i think. It is so good to hear you say that we should all strive to be ourselves and to be happy. And not to compare ourselves. I'm irish. i luv your accent!
Topically, another great video. Public speaking wise, it's your best.
After so many years of these type of questions , I’m on my way to being who I really am. I’m not a guy after all! I’m transitioning and becoming the real me. 💕
As I was growing up I had a lot of feminine traits that I did my best to remove as I got older. I even tried to bulk up and be like the stereotypical meat head but inside I knew it wasn’t me. I did it so I could fit in with my male body and be congruent with what I saw in the mirror.
Now I recently came to terms with myself as a trans woman and now my learned masculine traits is something that makes me feel insecure. I feel more comfortable and confident when I walk or gesture with more feminine motions but I must make a conscious effort to move that way. It took me a while to realize that my masculine traits don’t invalidate my gender identity.
My sister has more power tools than my grandfather and she knows how to use them but I would never call her mannish. You are defined by what feels right for you not what hobbies you like or how you look. I’ve met plenty of masculine biosex women in my life and they are just as valid as any trans woman. If you feel this is right for you don’t let anyone define what you are for you.
This was nice to hear some of your journey. To me, the only gold standard is one we set on ourselves. Especially when there was people I thought "had it together". Transitioning was all I thought about. It got in the way of life & I had to live again, if it makes sense; Then I knew, we all have different stories & it's ok that I'm not a total Stepford wife. But I did collect hard to find dolls from my childhood. ^_^
Great topic. We should accept ourselves as we are. And this means you are ready.
Thanks love, another top notch video.
a truly inspirational video. i realize now anyone should accept themselves for who they are! go gal good luck for the future!