THIS is EXACTLY why YOUR EX seems happy AFTER the Breakup (APPLES vs ORANGES)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ต.ค. 2023
- This is EXACTLY why YOUR EX seems happy AFTER the Breakup
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Don't contact her, work on yourself, and she will double back. But don't take her back because she doesn't respect you. You Will find someone better if you actually stick to no contact and work on yourself 💯
It’s not a one size fit all,some people had genuine connections that they would like to keep
@@chisomoffor6877 I understand that but they're out doing whatever they want with whoever, that's a choice they're making despite that genuine connection that you share. That's what they rather do than fix what's supposed to be genuine. It's ok to have love for someone, but it's not ok to degrade yourself for someone who clearly doesn't value you. It's going to be a ongoing cycle.
@@LoneWolfManny187You should also be out there living your life as you see fit. That way if you two do reconnect, you won't be bitter because you were living your life as well.
@@demetriceedmunds2692 Absolutely 💯
What if we got a daughter?
Good points. The thing is, when we see our ex being happy we take it as a personal attack because it is our ego talking. We take it as a lack of respect or as a punishment.
It is not, it is part of their process (apart if they are some terrible assholes).
When I went through a break up in the beginning of this year, I was so torn and would watch your videos religiously in hopes of maybe him reaching out to me in the future. He did and guess what? I’m over it and him. He still calls me randomly in private and he has a girlfriend. Good riddance. I can say your videos helped me a lot to keep me sane. Thank you
I’m so excited my broken marriage has been restored my ex love is back after he left me and our kids for another woman.I was so happy to me how he help many people to bring there lover back
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If he had been honest and not created all the drama he wouldn't even been carrying the load.
When I go throw the comments I get more encouraged and healed
My ex girlfriend broke up with me, reached out a couple months later. We had a “closure” conversation. She acted kind of cold and like warm. Said she’s not seeing anyone, that she has moved on. Has love for me. But I’ve known for weeks she’s been trying so hard to get with a co worker/buddy of mines. I act like I don’t know anything. Why act like this? I feel like she’s purposely trying to go out of her way. I’m like ok move on and leave me alone
Majority of the time they dont change.. this time i changed my number.. only way he will get my number is if i reach out and that wont happen
We were together three years we broke up I contacted her almost a year later like a dumbass asked if we could talk to work it out after work she agreed then come to find out she was seeing someone else This F@cking crushed me I am trying to move on but jealousy is a bitch she acts like my feelings don't matter it seems but I'll get through this with God on my side. I've even been praying for her new relationship to work thanks for all your videos God bless you 😊
Your videos helped me through a divorce but I miss you! Now we need relationship advice for dating!
Wow! I was just wondering this myself and this is the perfect answer to my question! Thank you so much!
Good morning Brother. I just wanted to give you an update on my situation.
My current girlfriend and I went to the Winery, and my ex girlfriend was there with her book club. By the way, I had no idea my ex was going to be there.
My ex and I locked eyes and the look on her face was priceless. LOL
She looked she saw a ghost. LOL
A few moths ago, my ex ghost me after breadcrumbing.
In closing, it feels great to be healed and my life is progressing in the right direction.
This made my day 😂
Thank you coach. I always look forward to your videos. Been watching you since the end of February
I appreciate that! Hope things are going well for you
I’m so excited my broken marriage has been restored my ex love is back after he left me and our kids for another woman.I was so happy to me how he help many people to bring there lover back
I was looking to watch live video posted? Is there any chance it will be posted again? Thanks again for all the value from your videos.
Hey coach what happened to the recording of the livestream a few days ago ? It seems to be gone
She was my dream girl coach I know I wasn’t the best most considerate man always but I lost her I’m getting my money up and achieving a lot but I don’t know if ima want her back even I been in no contact two weeks and she’s watched my stories a few times but ima keep grinding playing college ball just wish things was different sometimes dawg but I’ma general and ima keep it dat way it’s just hard fr 💯
Thanks for the all these vídeos.. question, what happens when they decide ro move on with another person right after the breakup? What are the things they go through? Wil they come back? Ty!!
This happend to me 3 weeks ago she moved onto a new relationship the next day this clearly didn't happen over night and has been planned for a long time day weeks months in some cases years mate in my opinion if you want her back focus on yourself same situation if you don't want her back its a win win in my case I don't want her back as I know if I ever got back with her I'd have so many thoughts on her with another man it in itself would destroy the relationship also I have far to much respect for myself now to take her back.
End of the day it's up to you all the best with whatever comes next
@@karlwicklow5358 I don't want him back so just want to understand I little bit more about the psychology behind this whole situation. In my case, he met her at his new job and not even 2 weeks after he got the new job he dumped me. I just had twins... His twins and this men didn't even care.
I went into NC for only 1 day after I serial texted her. Now she is texting me and reaching out to me . I do so much better when im in NC it gives me strength and allows me to heel. Then when she reaches out i get weak like superman she is Kryptonite.😂 NC does work tho had to try coach Blk's methods. Any suggestions if she constantly reaching out when i go NC ??? NC is for you too heel not to get your EX back. It work's 💪
i got told to go no contact 2 weeks ago. it's been tough but I ended up going to paris for a few days. she basically told me we would never be a couple, that i needed therapy and that I was an idiot with too much money. said she's going to start seeing other men and that we should do no contact but she'll be in touch in a few weeks. no thanks, i'll just live my life and move on. if she does try to contact me, I will be polite but I am done. Tbh, I don't think she will. It was pushed even more from the fact that she thought i'd deleted her and blocked her on whatsapp which I didn't which led to the phone call and that's what she said. I tend to think people say the truth when angry and if that's how she feels then why am i going to be dragged down by this
Ex dumped me. I met someone younger 8 months after. Ex found out and has been trying to get in line 😏😏
God will always give you someone better. Divine punishment for dumpers can’t be avoided.
Coach why does my ex give me compliments and try to do stuff for me, even though I don't do the same or ignore her?
What do you do when he comes back and asks to meet up every few days, but still isn't telling me he wants to fix things properly, more just hot and cold signals saying he wants to fix things but is afraid all the same problems will come up. When I try to reassure him he says he doesn't trust me that things will be different. What do I do?
he just wants to keep you in background for his convenience. he doesn't want any commitment, fixing, or anything other than FUN. don't be his tool and level up. stop giving him easy access to you. stop responding, let him wallow in the realization that you're not here to play anymore and that he lost you.
@@SuperYOUCUTE thank you, I needed to hear this.
@@dianajaganjac8055 i'm very sorry that it's harsh and hurtful to come to terms with. i'm just going through the exact same thing and the heartbreak pain is excruciating.. i know.
but wanting to meet up 'casually' like that as if nothing happened, without an end goal, without determination to work on this together etc is just a disgusting tactic of them to keep us strung along and a backup plan for when their loneliness hits.
wish you and i both healing soon
im married for 10years and have two kids and my wife kick me from the house with the support of her relatives and move to court for maintenance, this is the second time of break up , what should I do to get my family black i really miss my kids and my wife.
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I have a question, how much of these stuff you say,applies to long distance relationships? like is no contact as effective in those cases,as it is in normal relationships?
Yes 🙌
My ex broke no contact two days ago after we broke up last Thursday. She asked me if I wanted my laptop charger. I think this was her way to try to talk.
Mind you I didn’t need the charger as I had been without it for days. This has happened before…an ex asked me if I wanted a pair of shorts I left over her apartment. Why do they do this instead of just being honest that they want to talk…
that is what you call indirect direct message 😂 just go nc
She’s bread crumbing sending indirect messages don’t respond to these types of messages only ones that she is direct like “I miss you” or “can we talk?” Etc.
I need your guys’s help on this. My ex did things before that made me feel like I couldn’t trust her and I was blinded by love and didn’t acknowledge that it wasn’t my fault I felt this way but it was hers that made me feel this way and she got upset that I felt this way and it caused problems in our relationship and I have finally realized this. It’s been a month and a week since the breakup and 3 weeks no contact and she monkeybranched to another relationship should I tell her that I realized it wasn’t my fault for this breakup?
Edit: she’s contacted me 5 times during NC
In my opinion you shouldn't. Trust and believe, she knows her faults in the decline of the relationship, whether she admits it or not. Telling her won't make any difference. As long as you understand what you did right and what you did wrong, that's all that should matter.
@demetriceedmunds2692 that's what's up pimpin, that's SOME DAMN good advice,,, i could not have said it better myself
I'd say since she's contacted you 5 times, message her back ONCE and say you don't think it's appropriate for her to contact you while she's in another relationship. You can go on to say, "I didn't cause or want this breakup, but friendship isn't something I can get on board with at this time. If you're going to be in another relationship, I need to be away from you at least long enough to move on. My trust in you was and is damaged, and that can maybe be repaired at some point, but I don't see doing that for the sake of a friendship anyway. So you're going to live your life the way you choose, but I don't feel like it's healthy (or right) for me to be close to you under the current circumstances, and it's not up to me to change them. I wish you well."
@@demetriceedmunds2692BOOM! I rest my case.
Just invite her over and hookup and nothing more. She’s lost dating and relationship privileges.
We have to contact each other due wrapping up a lease together one more month left what do I do with this ? 😭 hard to do no contact rn
But what if it’s your husband, 17 years together and 14 months into separation he may be not totally happy but still won’t come back. I’ve changed and he knows it but I think he’s using excuses that we only have conflict and don’t get along because he prefers his ‘friend’ who he has been spending some time with for months. We have two kids.
It seems hard to believe we’re going to reconcile. I’ve made every mistake but finally a accepted the breakup in the last few months.
Is 14 months way too long to be apart and expect reconciliation even if they know you’d be great together and you already have a family??
Ughhh I need your help and advice but not enough to pay $200😭😭 it’s hard out here for a single mom I wish you could help
I be so confused I do no contact but we do family things on Sunday with our daughter at first she hit with can u take her alone this kinda awkward while I was On my way! Why told her if she think it’s weird do not come but she ended up coming and then some how we connected she talked the whole time to me and get close asf do a lil flirts talk about doing things in the future but after I drop them back off it’s like she cold and not interested no more kinda confused if she want me or what but still on no contact unless it’s about our kid
If I am going no contact but see her at the gym which option should I choose? should I go up and say hi and engage in a conversation(even if she doesn’t seem like she really wants to? just do my own thing and act like she isn’t there? Or give a smile if we happen to make eye contact/pass by each other?
Change gyms my guy really gotta ho no contact
What if they start calling you back? Do you converse with them?
Yes
I got dumped 2 weeks ago. She was a close friend before we got together. Shes already on tinder etc, i need help boys its driving me mad any advice?
All done over text too which sucks
unfortunately, you have to forget it and try to keep yourself preoccupied. work on your self man and things will fall into place. i know that sounds generic but it really is the way to move forward.
Why my ex is so angry sometimes last week we change the title for my car and she can keep hers and told her now we just going to have communication about our son and she always bring that she have someone already I told that keep that to her self I don’t want to know about it anyway I told her no hard feelings between us for our son and she agreed I say good luck to her and have nice day ok like 1 later she text me to call cops if I disrespected her again like that cuz after that conversation that we gave now she knows our relationship is over I was like in shock we just say no hard feelings bet us and then she Text me that anybody know why she act like that
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My girl broke up with me. I was really blindsided. She gv me no warning. She sd it was spiritual.
do no contact works in every situation???
YES, for this reason though:
NoContact is a
self-respect-move. Plain and simple. Period. AND it is helpful in healing/moving forward, faster.😉 like ripping the bandaid off quick 💥. NoContact always works too, BECAUSE the sole intent is to get into the POWER POSITION. IF the ex comes back and you still want them, then that is the bonus only, not the purpose.
I dont think he's happy how he be looking wen he comes pick up our child together & how he keep he's self or that's how he wanna look
Never take my ex back she cheated on me
I started begging her to comeback 2-3 weeks post breakup before going to no contact. It looks like she didn't care. But then after 2 weeks of no contact, she started posting breakup quotes on her IG. Does it mean someting? Hope I get a response because Im very confused.
Ive been following you for a while now and your tips are very helpful. thank you.
It means something, I think she is trying to get your attention. Do not react, stay in no contact
Focus on you, you shouldn’t know what she’s doing it doesn’t help. Not being flippant, I can empathise with your pain and hurt. Stop searching her up, it will be difficult but focus on improving your life. The advice is all the same because there’s no magic bullet, she may or may not come back that’s the truth
hi there, 52 days no contact, she blocked me everywhere. I stalked her once and she posted something on her facebook a month after the breakup, the post was about "its ok to be sad after making the right decision" and it was on a public post. 😅😅😅 I guess she wanted me to see her post .. someone even commented that she's missing someone and she answered "of course not with" laughing emoji. . and it pains me that is why I stopped visiting her facebook for real, still rent free in my mind though. Months before the breakup she was distant, avoidant,hot n cold..
Anyway I didn’t respond nothing about the message
Why is my ex blocking me then unblocking me and then repeating it like a pattern. If he's done why isn't he just completely blocking and moving on?
Sounds like a narcissist
He blocks to you make YOU feel the loss and for HIM to regain a sense of control. Then he unblocks you in case you cave and jump on the opportunity to contact him (and because he wants to see what you're up to). Just ignore it. If he wants you back, he can be direct. But he has to eat the loss. You only give up the control he's trying to grab if you reach out.
@vorbis4860 👏 yes, the unblocking is bait to see if you'll react and chase again. It's low effort. Stay in no contact until bold, direct effort. Give him the breakup he wanted. He needs to realize you're irreplaceable and that the grass is greener where you water it.
Maybe they never loved you in the first place.
I just wonder, how often do exes come back? Was with mine for over 11 years. He is “hanging” with other girls and seems to just enjoy freedom. He just gave up on his family it feels. Do men really realize their mistake?
They actually do so keep up hope honestly give it time, broke up with my girl of 4 years thinking the relationship was to much now I miss it daily. I promise he will be back
what if ex is happy due to relief state and went to a rebound relationship too?
Never chase, ever. Stay no contact and see what happens as far as her moving towards you in the next few months
@@blacademic yup the same situation here just helped when i shifted the power dynamic thinking if she even comes back later shed have to prove herself first. This changes the dynamic from being the one who lost to one who escaped.I just dont even care if she comes back too cause if a beggar throws a diamond thinking its a stone the one who knows the value will either pick it up or the beggar realizes the value and comes back to pick it up
so in short just be a diamond and raise your value if you are valuable theyll come back no matter what and if they dont... well you are still a diamond then? like realize this already fam the reason she left you is because you are needy and dont know your value and you wanting them to come back is a loss of value already. With your current mindset they wont come back
what if it's a long distance break up and ex moved on really fast with a serious rebound relationship?
@@abdulrajjakrouf4181I’m in the same boat I’ll just say just move it been 5 months since my ex broke up with me and 4 months since she been in a relationship. But yeah she blocked me and told me she moved on. Even though before she broke up with me we were good and having fun together
2 weeks into a breakup today, had 1 week of no contact she reached out 2 days in a row, and ai reached the 3rd one. This was 1 week ago!
And today after another week of no contact she shared and ig story of a selfie, with a jacket I offered 1 week before she broke up with me, and in this story she used a music with this lyrics:
“Always knew there would be a time when you had to leave home
New beginnings only come when another chapter closes
Girl, don't lose that focus
Everything you do, go own it
This life ain't always roses”
What does this mean? (And I’m pretty she already has another guy she is seeing…just that gut feeling). What can I think of this?
Stay the course man don't reach out. She's posting in hopes you'll break and reach out. Just stay silent and wait
@@_RLY_ tbh I don’t know…we were ldr, it’s the 2nd time she lost feelings and she said “it’s clear and she knows when it’s over for her” on the breakup day, and the last time we talked she said “I don’t want to be the toxic ex that texts you and give hope or anything like that” because I asked if ahe missed me (i know big mistake)!
So I don’t know if it’s to bait me or really means the lyrics and I’m the closed chapter.
@@cfyow My personal take on LDRs is that they usually don't workout because of that distance. I'm not saying it's impossible. I would focus on yourself and if she REALLY wants you she will make the effort to reach out. Stay silent, work on yourself, and just try to be happy without her. Who knows maybe you'll find someone better wherever you live
@@_RLY_ I don’t think distance was the problem tbh…other factors were…but they are not important now!
And I completely agree, I will go afk, I mean I wont reach out, I will work in myself, and I wont even post what I’m doing in my ig story! Just plain mystery, it’s a win win, she comesback and I’m happy or she does not comeback and I’m healed!
I just need to pass this depressive stage of the dumpee, has been some hard days 😩
got broken up with. ex flat out said to my face she wanted to sleep with other people. posts all sorts of lovely stuff on insta, her follower count has spiked with new lads. pretty tough tbh
Been there. I just cut her off completely and moved on with my life. Am I banking on her coming back? Nope. If she does, it will be her big mistake
NoContact is a
self-respect-move. (I love that advice you give!) Period. And it is helpful in healing/moving forward, faster.😉 like ripping the bandaid off quick 💥. NoContact always works BECAUSE the sole intent is to get into the POWER POSITION. IF the ex comes back and you still want them, then that is the bonus only, not the purpose.