How Men Succeed In Marriage with Nick Freitas | The Lila Rose Podcast E70
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ค. 2024
- Today Nick Freitas, Virginia State Delegate, joins the podcast to talk about solutions to the current crisis of masculinity in our culture. We also discuss how he and his wife succeed in their marriage even after their parents’ divorces, and Nick gives advice on how women can get through hard times with their husbands.
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Timestamps:
00:00 Intro Sequence
00:25 Introduction to Nick
01:26 Nimi Skincare
02:27 The Election and the Pro-Life Cause
04:14 Nick’s Background
08:05 Homeschooling and Homesteading
10:32 How The Crisis of Masculinity Got Here
14:55 It Makes Everyone Unhappy
15:23 Red Pill, Justin Waller, Andrew Tate
18:13 What These Men Actually Want
20:09 Seven Weeks Coffee
20:48 Are Broken Families An Excuse?
22:29 How They Succeeded
25:04 Worldliness Doesn’t Make You Happy
26:20 Modern Feminism
27:52 Men Need a Mission
31:27 Toxic Masculinity
32:35 Carly Jean Los Angeles
33:15 Emasculation of Men
35:33 The Warrior and The Poet
41:16 Missions in Order and Gender Roles
45:20 EveryLife
45:54 Role of Women
52:43 Celebrating Those Living It
53:44 Spousal Love Roots You
56:44 Hitting Hard Times With Spouse
01:02:46 Men’s Perspective
01:04:50 Logic vs Emotion
01:08:09 Apologizing
01:09:30 Your Issues Are Just for You
01:11:04 How To Find Nick
01:12:38 Wrap Up
On the young boys in school topic. When I was in 2nd Grade my teacher told my parents I had ADD. So my dad listen to the teacher she said he is fidgety, won’t concentrate etc. he told the teacher that he’ll take care of it. She thought dad was gonna put me on medication. Dad started making me get up a hour earlier and run laps around the house. His plan was get the energy out of me so I would concentrate better and it worked. By recess time my energy was coming back. Point is thankfully I had a great dad but the school system as it is now sucks
Not natural to sit at a desk for 8hrs a day when your a kid! Or adult for that matter..
@@iant720 yup we have to change it. I had FIFTEEN MINUTES for recess as a kid….Absolutely ridiculous. Also, boys and girls should not be in the same schools. Both need different things when growing up.
Your dad's reaction was excellent. The fact that he even did something is rare. Too many parents are handing over responsibility for raising their kids to the system.
lol!! Literally me with my oldest son, who is currently 8. He came out of the womb super high energy and it’s great!! I intend to help him learn to channel his strengths into positive outlets, like how I really encourage him in athletics and physical exercises like weights/crossfit/running type things along with me. I think my son is normal, and I actually find that he docile zombie boys in public school to be quite strange. I also think there’s something at play with their vaccination status contributing to temperament outcomes within the institution environment.
So very many reasons why I feel that we had no choice but to homeschool. I could never sit by and watch feminist ostracize my sweet boys, and condemn the them for being who God made men to be. I would find myself at constant odds and arguing with the he school of if I ever tried to attempt it. So what’s a lot easier? Homeschool! And he spends 90% of every single day running around, knocks out basic foundational school topics with me in an hour, then he’s off to make his own lunch, eat, clean it up, then play some more! And that life just makes more sense to me personally for a good family life! Also the evenings he is an equal contributor to home obligations, unlike all his peers his age who seem to do none. Which is also strange to us!!
Ok I’m done rambling. lol
@@officialthomasjamesI heard recently that the schools are only doing 2 15 mins recess breaks for the ENTIRE SCHOOL DAY!! mine was 3-45 min recess breaks!!! And then I heard that they removed nearly all of music and art and also PE!!!!!! That is pure insanity! Those were the only reprieves that kept me sane in school, without those I could have been impossible. I already spent maybe 50% of my schooling in detention and ISS, if I didn’t have those releases it would have been so much worse!
I love Lila. She's incredible. Nick is great too. THIS is what a shining example of femininity and masculinity looks like
I love Nick. He is such a breathe of fresh air in today's world. He has a healthy mind and I respect him for living out his values.
Lets make him President 🎉
breath* :)
I was raised in the 70's by lefty parents who got divorced (along with so many others then). I have had a terrible life. I am a "loser". And I don't even have the manhood to fix myself. Guys like Nick just depress me and remind me how much I have failed in life and just have to give up on it all. And, no some "magic" old, incoherent book or talking to some imaginary friend isn't going to help me. religion makes no sense to me, didn't get any of that young enough.
In other words, divorce does severe, lifetime damage to the kids of divorce. I never had a chance :(
@@peterbelanger4094Yet here you are…..It’s never too late to hit the reset button….
Just take the first step….
Begin to decide that you are the one is going to take control of your own life…Your own circumstances…
This man is a national treasure. We need more men like him
You guys are awesome. I must say, Nick’s relationship with his wife, the way he lives his life and raises his children and having good understanding of the mission of life is almost identical to my husband’s and I. Our stories are almost identical minus the politics. We need more righteous warrior men like you guys. Thank you!
I'm so glad you both have the guts to talk about the hypocrisy of the red pill movement. It's not popular to say that both genders should be chaste and committed, but one can't do it without the other. No one can say it's impossible because these two are living examples, and I dare anyone to call them toxic or weak.
I think it’s antisocial for men to be promiscuous. In smaller communities, men don’t sleep with other mens wives, and they are very family centric. I think living in such a large society allows men to skulk around and sleep with many woman in the shadows.
Also take into account, if we didn’t have birth control, they would not be able to do what they do and stay in good standing in any society.
I think they use or mistake thier hormonal urges for some kind of primordial human nature, but as social creatures no society would allow such promiscuity in men, Christian or not.
OK, they are toxic and weak. Not hard to do at all. Lol
There are different schools of thought when it comes to red pill. I'm sorry, but women take the majority of the blame. Men really have not changed much. You can trace the decline in civilizational functionality from when they started voting. Both should be chaste, but even in the Church, the majority are not chaste. And the society is quite secular so these principles are not common anymore.
Destroy marriage, wholesale whoredom, infanticide....this what they truly wanted deep down. Men built the society and after the hard part was done, the women decided that is was time to stop playing house. And the pure disrespect they do this with, it's, well, I expected nothing less. Before that, they were content in pretending to be house wives. That being said, I blame men overall for this.
@@stevenbass732 It meant publicly to them directly.
@@jarroddavid8352 I am well aware of that. It was funny.
My Parents recently celebrated their 74th Wedding Anniversay. (Dad 95 Mom 91). They (well my Mom lol) had 16 Children (no twins,etc.) and 57 Grandchildren (including Great grandchildren). Lila Rose, You are a Blessing from GOD!! Thank You for all you do!!
That's awesome. 16 kids she is a hero.
Thank You!!! I agree : )@@elperinasoswa6772
I had 2 families i knew that were from central minnesota, one with 18 kids the other 21, they both had one thing in-common they were both on welfare, when one of the oldest daughters was pregnant , so was her mother with #21, I found it detestable, and irresponsible.
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My sister in-law, was the oldest from a large family , when she got married to my brother over the next year after their marriage her parents' started somewhat harassing them about when she/ they were going to start a family. Eventually she got fed-up with it , and she told the them " I spent my childhood raising your kids ,I don't need any of my own."
16? Lemme ask you something, is your family Irish 😂🇮🇪☘️
English, Irish, Scottish (in that order mainly)@@therealsapdad1942
Keep spreading this message. People want to hear this, no matter how much they say they want the opposite.
THE modern masculine role model and THE modern feminine role model having a conversation. Bravo, y’all.
It’s so beautiful
And the system and majorities do not.....so the exceptions really don't matter.
Check your idolatry, “y’all”. The modern masculine role model is Jesus. Mary is the feminine role model. ❤
@@rhayman4709 I meant earthly role model. I expected people to get what I mean, but this is the internet after all 🤷🏼♀️
Omg I love Nick!! This is the collab I never expected, but how lovely this conversation is! ☺️
"Just always talk to me like I'm the woman you love" 1:04:30
This is definitely going on my shortlist of best pieces of life advice I ever heard.
We also have told our kids no dating prior to 18 and when our 19 year old daughter met a young man she really liked, she told him he had to ask permission from us to date our daughter. Our kids have been able to appreciate missing the teenage dating drama phase and we let them blame us when they need to say no to invitations from their peers.
Good for you! I guarantee your kids will never get divorced! God bless you, you're amazing parents! Hell, I'd like to marry your daughter and I don't even know her! Haha! It's just so rare to find a good, Godly and beautiful woman these days. I'm 25 though, so you or your daughter might think I'm too old for her. But if it means anything to you, I'd be happy to talk to you or your husband for as long as you want before I ever meet your daughter even through text, I think that's really cool! I'm literally just looking for marriage as a good-looking 25-year-old Christian man from Canada. God bless you and your family. 🙏
I'm sorry, I assumed you were Christian, but you didn't specify. I'm only looking for a Christian woman for marriage, so you can just ignore my comment if your family isn't. 🙏
How did go when they were in high school? Your kids didn't/don't resent your decision or try to rebel against you two? I'm interested in trying the same thing with my daughter, as, being a man myself, I know what high school boys are after. But I also don't want to be super restrictive to the point where it has negative effects on our relationship as a family. Advice?
@@jamesstrickland8696 Host all of the parties your daughter goes to. By hosting parties at your house and being present when your daughter hangs out with her friends is a great way to let her have fun while not crossing any boundaries that you don't like. You don't need to babysit them, just go downstairs while they watch a movie upstairs. Make a rule: guests should not bring any drugs or alcohol. Instead, when they're legal, you provide the alcohol. At least you know it's safe to drink. You don't know what these kids are getting their hands on. Have a good time with the kids, make it fun for them, don't be in the same room all the time, but that's the way. Then, you can know that if your daughter goes to a party that you don't host, she's probably doing bad things. Any boy who wants to make friends with you would be a good man for your daughter because he's serious. Set her up with a good guy.
@@jamesstrickland8696 I'm sorry,I know you didn't ask for my advice, but I'm very wise and I wanted to help you. 😉
A great and sensible convo! Nick Freitas is an amazing strong, Christian, caring, genuine masculine role model. Lucky wife! 😊🫶🏻
My dad, now 64, is still a giant. 6'3" 250lbs. He spent his working life framing houses sometimes by himself. He always went to work.
Coached my sports teams, etc. Great dad. On a few occasions, I saw the "monster" in him when my mom or I were put in danger by someone else.
I haven't had a situation like that yet with my wife or kids, but I have the example to follow.
You can protect them from people, but not from the judgement of God. Learn about Jesus.
I have only seen my husband angry once and it was never at me or our kids, it was because of money and the landlord had lost our rent payment.
This man is more intelligent than people give him credit for. Love Nick Freitas ❤❤❤❤
Love Nick’s content too. This is a conversation men and women both need to hear. Thanks again and again, Lila ❤
Loved this conversation. Lila, can you record an episode about what submitting to our husbands actually means and how to practice it healthily?
In case she doesn't do an episode on it, let me just give you the basics. A wife submitting to her husband is only one part of the equation. The husband also has to submit to God. A husband should represent Jesus and a wife should represent the church. Submitting to any man who's just legally your husband is not what it means from a Biblical perspective. Another thing is that the act of submitting to something refers to organizing your life and making decisions around it. So it has nothing to do with taking orders from your husband or anything like that. It means orienting your life around him. For example, if a wife trusts her husband to deal with the finances, she's submitting to him. In that example, there's no sense of dictatorship or slavery, which is often what's perceived by the word "submission" in the context of marriage. So, that's how it works, logically. But it's also true that a woman should submit to God more than she submits to her husband. A man is only worth submitting to if he acts in alignment with God's values and principles. And of course, if you're an atheist, there's no need for any submission. In fact, atheists can only submit to themselves.
@charlesbell5500, Eve's submission to Adam was interwoven in the divine order before the fall. Submission of a woman is an act of God's mercy on her because it means that she is to be protected. But instead modern Christian women love to fight their men for dominance thinking it will make them "feel safer" when all it does is destroy the relationship. They also love to believe that submission is conditional. It isn't. She's called to submit unconditionally just as men are called to love unconditionally. The Bible even says "let your husbands be won over by your godly conduct". Love only precedes submission in the Bible because it reflects the divine order. God > man > woman - that's the hierarchy. Doesn't mean the woman is less significant. It means he's to love and protect and she is to nurture, care, and respect. That's how it was always supposed to be even before the fall.
Another interesting aspect about submission is, the woman isn't just "submitting to the man".. She's submitting to the mutual growth and benefit of each other. She's submitting to the relationships highest good.
But God knows that marriage is all about two imperfect people coming together and he knows we're not going to do this perfectly. News flash - WE CAN'T. But God promises blessings will follow if we try.
There's an easy to read book called Magnetc Feminity by Allie Duzett that explains how to do it. I've read a lot of books about this and her's is the best, easiest to understand and apply.
Nick is my favorite real life Ron Swansons.
I enjoy listing to his podcasts, his relationship advice, his wisdom when it comes to farming, and his political views. He just seems like an all around good guy.
I have found through all of my experiences that there are a lot of actual good men out there who genuinely want to do all and be all things for a woman.
All they want in return is just love, desire, trust, and respect. They want to be a priority to the woman.
But I've also found that a sweeping majority of women who want good men have a very hard time giving them giving those men those very basic fundamental things. And then when the men are in pain because of it, the men are gaslighted, neglected, and psychologically cucked by everyone (both men and women) into believing that they are the problem, when the real problem is the woman not wanting to reciprocate in the relationship or meet his needs.
I've seen a vast majority of men suffering needlessly in marriages while being brainwashed to tell themselves to stop having any needs at all, and just give 110% every day to women who don't give a shit about them.
Modern women want everything at the expense of men, and they want to give absolutely nothing in return.
Some men are like this, and those guys are most to be despised.. But my life experiences have shown me that women by far are the selfish ones in a sweeping majority of relationships these days. They want to be the takers, while the men are the givers.
What EVERYONE needs to realize is this simple truth:
Marriage is about coming to mutually enthusiastic agreements to joyfully meet each other's needs so that no one suffers at the expense of the other. Thats it. It really is that simple.
When you're dating, you effortlessly meet one anothers needs (love, trust, honesty, recreation, attention, safety, openness, affection, sex, emotional connection, shared interests, etc). And this is what motivates you to feel in love with that person and to commit to them.
But now we are brainwashed as men that when the love dies out in marriage, we're supposed to suck it up and just keep giving and we're not entitled to anything in return.
This is a lie.
Both parties need to continuously meet each other's needs, and do it cheerfully. If your spouse has a need that you don't want to meet, then talk about it together and figure out how to make sure the need gets met without you suffering to meet it. Make it as effortless and fun for each other as possible to meet one another's needs and your marriage will flourish.
But so many people (women especially) are incredibly selfish and they don't want to do this for the other person. They think that if they don't have a need for something, then they're spouse shouldn't either, so they gaslight the other person by labeling them as "needy" or "controlling" or "narcissistic" or "stuck in their childhood trauma" or any other label so they do not have to meet that need for them.
So what ends up happening is we have a tidal wave of imbalanced relationships that are broken because of failed marriage advice that creates needless suffering.
There's no point to any relationship if you're suffering at the expense of another.
My children weren't allowed to date until 16, my daughter is now 24 and just married a wonderful Christian man. My son is 22 and has not had a girlfriend and is still a virgin. Daughter and her new husband were both celibate until marriage. I am very blessed.
Awesome episode! Nick Freitas speaks so beautifully and articulately about marriage.
This man is INCREDIBLE!!! In parenting, Relationship with spouse.....love love love this. Took many notes
Nick needs to go on the Whatever podcast! I think he could really help these young women!
No. They won't listen. All they will do is parody and ridicule him.
Promiscuous women can not be saved.
Not if he talks AT them and preaches at them.
11:30 We don't know where we should go.
22:00 Marriage works
24:00 not dating until 18
26:55 Sexual revolution diminishes human life. (The culture of death)
34:00 The men we need.
53:50 living manifestation of God's love
Nick is a breath of fresh air! More men need to hear this, I Love how he speaks about his wife :)
I'm a young man and Nick's messages really inspire me to be the best husband that I can be. Are you single, by any chance? I'm looking for my future wife. Don't worry, I'm not a wolf, this is just my fake account because I don't really like showing my name and face online. But I promise I'm good-looking! 😉😂❤ Anyway, God bless you. 🙏
I teared up when i heard him talking about his wife. My husband talks about me like that 😢 i cant imagine a life with my husband. Im so happy my husband chose me ❤
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Ya mean without?
I was in tears several times listening to this one. Made me want to be a better Christian woman, wife and mother. ❤❤
Great conversation!! I love both of your well articulated concepts of masculinity, marriage and family. I 100% agree and am currently in my 10th year of marriage to the love of my life. It's great to hear all of the things that my husband and I learned along the way being passed to others with like minds. Marriage is beautiful with God
Thanks for having nick on- he is awesome and doing awesome work
We totally need more of this!
Thank you both for these home truths, praying this will spread far and wide to those who really need to hear it.
This is such a breath of fresh air conversation that gives me hope. Also a child of divorced parents and don't see that as an option for my marriage one day. I'd rather wait for the man who will stand beside me on this
So powerful. NO IT IS NOT LUCK. AMEN. 🙏 so much wisdom here I hope many newlyweds and engaged couples listen to this ❤
wow this was just so wholesome..... i loved this keep up the good work and may God be with you guys😇😇
This was awesome I so enjoyed listening to Nick talk about his wife and their marriage what a great example, and Lila too great episode ❤
When he was talking about how wonderful his wife is, I was just so happy to hear his perspective of her. To know that there are still people out there with this type of relationship was refreshing. I finished my hair, grabbed my phone and looked closer, noticing his coffee mug, and got a good laugh, too 😂
Strong women love strong men who stand by the women in their lives.
Fabulous! Heart felt, and right on time. Hope Y'alls message is spread far and wide.
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The kind of narrative men and this culture needs!
such a good source of insight to men´s mind!
Fantastic! Love what this guy has to say.
Before listening wanted to comment and juice the algo. Love that coffee mug!
I wish there were more men like Nick.
This was a life giving podcast. Thank u!
Thank you both ❤
So great to see christian values triumph and discussed
God is sovereign
He has got humanity in the palm of His Hands.
What a gem of an episode
Happy this guy is my delegate 😁
Wow this guy is so honest
This guy should really consider going on the WHATEVER podcast. He would be awesome.
The mentors comments is spot on Lila! Im 40 , married , 3 kids..... and most if not all of the older women in my life bash men all the time, also look down on women who " listen " to their husband.
Loved the interview..men like these are an inspiration :)
I love his points on homeschooling little boys! My son is 6 years old and I found that he learns better when he is sitting at a table playing with legos. He's building a million things a minute and it doesn't seem like he's paying attention but he absorbs things so much better. Is Sunday school teacher had been a preschool teacher for over 30 years and she told me that he was such a smart little guy. She said she absolutely loves having him in class and that he's never had any formal education of any sort and only been at home with family and of course the friends in the neighborhood and Friends of the family, it made me feel like we were really making it on our own without the help of public school
@@katenoke1571 I live in a progressive State and no, they have so many students that they end up cramming 30 plus students in a classroom. They can't possibly keep up with trying to Foster the individual needs of each student. I homeschool but beyond that I never mentioned any sort of type of public school.
@@katenoke1571 the vast majority are not. National literacy rates in math and reading would disagree with your statement.
@@katenoke1571 I really don't know who you've been talking to or what you've been reading but none of what you said is true. Public schools are failing horribly and then it's gotten worse since covid.
@@katenoke1571 lol, what? Where did I ever say anything like that? The only thing I don't want is my children to not be taught how to read and do math and I don't want them to get stabbed or shot. That is not something that's too ridiculous. I have the ability to and I'm blessed to be able to do so so, I will. It's odd that you don't understand certain people's point of view and suddenly you know the argument that they're saying without actually saying it. It shows that you have no idea what you're talking about and you only know certain talking points which is why you are arguing things I didn't even say
@@katenoke1571Public schools are failing. I think a lot of teachers would like to be able to make space for individual students needs, but they are overburdened, underpaid, and disrespected by administration. They are leaving in droves.
Also, our K-12 education is a joke. If universities didn't cap the amount of foreign students accepted American kids wouldn't even be able to compete.
All the exchange students we had, had to take classes two years ahead of their grade.
We really need an overhaul.
I agree with him -and love his shorts on TH-cam.
You were very lucky to find the right woman the first time. That point you have to be aware of. I really love your ideals.
I agree w/everything said in this episode. Really appreciate Nick’s input & advice from a man’s perspective. My husband isn’t a big guy & he’s pretty quite but he’s is very masculine. He is a great protector & provider but most importantly is a Godly man. He knows he’s held to a high standard by God. We are raising young men.. we have no daughters so I’m super interested in the male perspective. Raising men from the mothers perspective is a weird, sometimes heartbreaking but awesome adventure. Totally agree the best thing we can do is give them a good example of a solid marriage. Been married almost 20 yrs. Started dating as teenagers. There’s nothing more attractive than a strong, faithful, God honoring man who’s a present father to his kids. I know without a doubt if somebody tried to harm me in the street my husband would get in front of me without a second thought. Love me some traditional gender roles :)
Love his mug ☕️ ❤
Awesome interview.
Excellent - what a great guy. Thanks & God bless.
Excellent interview
Great and encouraging coco!
Great podcast. Thank you.
I want that mug.
PLEASE!!🙏🏻
Sounds like Nick and his wife have such a great relationship. Gosh, there wouldn’t be divorce if men loved their wives, and women loved their husband like these two.
Thank you for this . Grew up without a dad
I absolutely agree and I can’t stand the thought that a man I’m interested in would have “a high body count.” I don’t have the greatest self esteem and the thought that a guy who proposed marriage would be comparing me to whoever else came before me, I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night.
I never felt like my husband had my back.
And for heaven’s sake say “I’m sorry,” not “I apologize.”
For those of us who've been threw an unwanted divorce, would be interested to hear you do a show on this from a Biblical perspective. Thank you.
41:34 To Protect and to Provide…..Exactly….Like The Woman would Love and Nurture…Yes we need to accept are teammates..Not ones adversaries in competition with each other….Working together…Depending upon each other for where I’m weak I rely upon his strength…❤
I don’t know if he already does this, but Nick should be talking to high school age boys and drilling this message into them. It’s so important to their futures.
Wrong. Boys need to be told about how gynocentric our divorce and family courts are. They need to be told that the system actively abuses men and that getting married only contributes to such a system, thus incentivizing further abuse. The only way for things to change is for men to avoid marriage in droves until they do.
This is so amazing! We need more men like Nick!
I'm right here! Would you like to get to know me? Don't worry, I'm not a wolf 😏, I'm just very private/don't have social media except for IG for my business. I'm a 25-year-old Christian man looking for marriage. I'd like to get to know you, Isabella! God bless you. 🙏❤
I’m so glad to hear that he & his wife are Christians. 💕❤️💓🙏🏽🥰 l have been following him off & on. Starting out watching his funny shorts on TH-cam & l LOVE his mugs. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Congrats on 100k, Lila!
Thank you!!
Haven’t listened yet, but this is a topic dear to my heart.
Husbands, love your wife as your own body. Be like Christ in your marriage - the good shepherd, willing to lay down your life for her and the “flock” you create together. Be willing to give all, and then give some more. Pick up your cross daily, and always with the knowledge that it is for eternity that we are working. Love with gentleness and strength. And lead by serving.
Wives, if your husbands do this, what is not to obey? What would be the reason - other than pure ego - not to submit and assist and help and nurture and grow? What would be the reason, other than a superficial sense that grass is greener somewhere else, to leave and destroy what he laid down his life to create with you?
I like looking at the Christian marriage kind of how Pastor Driscoll describes: God is the head, Husband is the Word/Son, and Wife is the helper/Holy Spirit. She is the power that makes heaven on earth (or hell, if she so chooses).
Abusive, neglectful, selfish, harsh, closed off men are not true husbands - no matter what a piece of paper says. And selfish, self-centered, backbiting, bitter, critical, cruel, self-absorbed women are not true wives, no matter what a piece of paper says.
In the end, a divorce proof marriage takes 3. The Godhead, the husband, and the wife. Even unbelievers in successful life-long marriages mirror this model.
You are a male?
State incentives to divorce make divorce proof marriages impossible.
Brilliant. Thank you, good sir. Lila, Stop interrupting.
This is a really good one. Thank y'all. As for Nick, thank you for pronouncing your last name near the end. I now know it's pronounced as "fraytus" and not "fry-toss". :)
Yeah its a portuguese surname.
Nurturing is a balancing of roots and wings…♥️Love and security…
Great podcast Lila! The red pill guys have gone too far. Like Nick said, they have about 75% of it right. They think they are defining what a real man is, all the while swearing off long term relationships and marriage, blaming society, government, women, plenty of excuses. A REAL man, in my opinion, first and foremost doesn't make excuses and blame.
A REAL man marries an amazing woman, is loyal to her, and raises a family with her based on biblical principles. Is it challenging in this day and time? Of course. There is no more worth while challenge. And isn't overcoming challenges what it's all about?
All of the men in 50% divorces thought their woman was amazing at the start.
A REAL man doesn't cuck himself to the state by signing a state contract that rewards women for breaking it. As long as women are rewarded for divorcing, there's no such thing as the "right woman." The cost of a failed marriage is just too damned high for men and the cost far outweighs the reward.
In short, REAL men go their way regardless of what a gynocentric society tells them to do.
@@redpillfreedom6692 Disagree. Society is built and maintained by strong men leading strong families. Yes, the system is stacked against us as men. Yes we must change that somehow over time. But, there are ways to manage that risk. Men going their own way will ultimately lead to further societal decline. Other than dealing with the potential loneliness, it is the easy way out. Your position appears to me to be similar to playing a very challenging game and at some point you feel the rules are unfair, so instead of managing the risk, stepping up, competing, bettering yourself, rising to the occasion, you quit and go home.
The cost is too great to do that. That's exactly what the feminists and the nwo, or whatever group you want to believe is in power, want. Going your own way means they win. Strong men leading strong families is the only way for men to win. Period.
Great advice. I must say as a man who desires a Godly approach to marriage, I have dropped the ball in my objectives. I have sircome to rejection and stayed in my self pity instead of reflecting and correcting my disposition. Thank you for sharing Nick. We need more men at Capital Hill to stand for us and YHWH
Nick is an example of a meaningful, caring, purposeful real man, God bless him!! Oh that more men would rise up and be men ... Don't be intimidated by the woke agenda. Stand for truth !!
When spiritual men marry young, they grow in wisdom and intelligence!
"YOU get a dozen eggs, YOU get a dozen eggs" is a fantastic philanthropic flex, hahahaha. Nick's a breath of fresh air in politics.
That mug is something else
God bless you both
I truly wish I could talk to one of you... going through divorce after being with my husband since 18 years old. Now 30 and about to be alone with 2 kids he said he can't be happy with me when I asked why his first and only come back was because I have asked him to go to the gym less so he can be more present with family and home. He was going 5-6 days a week ontop of a very demanding always changing work schedule. I'm at a loss do I keep trying or just fully give up. I'm a believer and he is definitely not. He also sees this as an issue. My heart is broke.
Don’t ever give up. He may not stay home from the gym, but you will never regret trying to keep your marriage together. That doesn’t mean you have to be his doormat. Just keep loving him the way the Lord loves him.
You may have done this already, but I'll say this anyway. Ask what kind of situation would it take for him to be happy. And if he's hesitant, that means he does not feel safe to be honest with you. Try to get him to say his ideal situation, and under no circumstance, DO NOT say "but" "what about" or anything like that, do not get defensive. Then try and get your dad or a male figure whom you complete respect, and have him talk to each other 1 on 1.
Excellent!
An excellent podcast 👍😎
Nick and my husband would be great friends. They think so similarly.
I live in Ohio and am appalled issue 1 past. It's plainly murder, there's several stages of life I'm 70 so I'm in a late stage but once I and everyone were once in a stage of new life called conception! All stages are life and to take life from an individual is murder! I know a lot of outside money came into Ohio but to me that's no excuse. I am extremely disappointed in Ohio.
❤ thank you
I need that coffee mug.
As long as the state rewards women for divorcing, there is no such thing as a divorce proof marriage. She may not feel it's an option now, but those state incentives have a way of changing minds. The only marriage advice men need now is "Don't do it."
Let’s start to remember that on the internet anything goes, we all can post what ever we think about any moment in time and it always will be a total mix of arguments which go in plenty of directions with no consistent logic. It might be, and we can all test this on ourselves, …that in general it is not easy to formulate 5 steps of straight realistic logical and emotinally connected thoughts on topics. And we all live through steps of our believes and only by own experience we start to know what is what and how we feel ourselves when we actually experience and go through life’s experiences. Then stuff comes together for us, mostly not any earlier. What could be wise if we look at internet posts and videos is to ask us the question ‘what did the folks posting go through, did they experience either end of a topic or just 1.5 or 1.7… and why might they have the view they present…? And if we want to post something, we can maybe ask ourselves the same qeustion…and when we post something simply be honest about where we are experience wise and ask ourselves if what we think might actually be ‘true’ or …if we might need to reformulate what we intend to post….?
Awesome.
Oh. My. Gosh! Its so wonderful to hear Nick talk about how the dehumanizing aspect of abortion will spill over into other areas of society. I always think that when there is a school shooting...or any mass shooting...like...how do the world is that not so obvious to anyone not drooling in a cup?
They are the exception to the rule.
I am glad that abortion is talked about. I grew up in California and my parents never thought it was wrong. The school I went to talked about it as birth control. In high-school a catholic girl had 5 abortions. I went up to her mom and asked her why did she let her daughter have the abortions. Is it a sin or not? I was so confused about the topic.
At age 23 I became a Christian. I got married and had my first baby and realized that it is bad and killing babies!!! Why are people getting tricked? Why is the world lying to people?!
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Excellent. Ora et labora.
Amen.
Weak Men create tough times.
Tough Times create strong men.
Strong Men create good times.
Good Times create weak men.