Do I have relationship anxiety or am I just incompatible with my partner?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ส.ค. 2024
- What are some of the differences between Relationship Anxiety and genuine incompatibility?
How can I tell if I have relationship anxiety?
0:00 Relationship anxiety versus trusting yourself
1:33 Signs of relationship anxiety
3:09 Wanting to stay despite not being attracted
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What does being incompatible with a partner mean to you?
1. Being unfriendly to family members, disrespectful behavior towards family members or friends
2. Being mean to Animals being abusive to animals
3. Being racist, being homophobic bully other people bc of how they look
4. Being disrespectful towards me, lying, cheating, hitting kickin, constant criticism I mean constant from waking up to going to bed.
5. Making fun of me in public
6. Gossipin with other people about me and the relationship, Givin very private details to other people. Example my ex told everyone of his friends and the girl who he was cheatin with that I don't like oral Sex, he never talked about that with me.
6. Being jealous of other people's life, success etc.
7. Blocks Communication about issues or something that bothers me. Doesn't even listen to it.
That's everything that comes into my mind
Incompatible means somebody that can't get your needs met: sexual, closeness, mental. The more things are missing the more the anxiety kicks in.
You have no idea how much this 3 minute video has brought me solace. I’ve been scouring TH-cam for anything that matches the description of what goes on in my head regarding anxiety in relationships. Everything I’ve seen prior didn’t quite fit and it was rather frustrating. This feels so specific to me and I’m so relieved I’m not the only one who does this.
Ok so How do i know What to do 😭😭😭 im getting Married in september please help me
It would mean that you can’t understand one another well enough to have real intimacy.
In my case the anxiety is worsened by avoidants. It is all about communication styles and being wanted. The minute I find I am taken for granted or ignored the anxiety kicks in.
the hardest part for me is the continuous feeling of anxiety, i can recognize what im feeling, and that my thoughts are false. but that subtle feeling remains even though i want to move on and enjoy the moment
I feel like this video was key in me realizing just now that I have major relationship anxiety. I really genuinely love my partner and see a future with them but I started bawling when you described what relationship anxiety is like because I relate to it word for word.
me as well.
So it's confirmed that I have relationship anxiety. I also feel sometimes that these thoughts/feelings are so overoverwhelming which makes me uncomfortable around my partner and when it comes to communicate this with her I instead run away from these feelings.
So how does a person with relationship anxiety clearly understand and conclude if the other person is compatible?
Ok, so this begs the question... what if you have both relationship anxiety and are not sure if you're compatible with your partner? How on earth can we figure that one out? Seriously need help here and therapy ain't helping
When I think of breaking up I start to feel sad and start to cry bc I know I really do love my partner. I’ve suffering with ROCD for 10 years out of 11 1/2 years…. Despite all of his flaws I still love him. I have been deeply depressed for over a year now and my life has been very crazy bc of it…
Wow you just put into words what I am experiencing and have experienced in my previous relationship. It feels good to be able to put a word to it
Wow. This is great stuff. I passed it on to my daughter who is struggling with anxiety in a relationship. She keeps overthinking to an extreme.
Thank you!
THANK YOU! I definitely have relationship anxiety. This makes me feel sane and so validated.
Can you please do a video about ROCD and dating? Not yet about ROCD happening when in a relationship, but about thinking you don’t like someone when dating and why have you started a relationship if you’re not attracted to them.
This is totally me. I feel like this stems from when I was dating in my late teens/early 20s and thought the guy was awesome….and then slowly learning that he was an asshole. I don’t want to make the same mistake.
Exactly what I'm feeling. I have no idea what to do still. She's great, I like her, there's a few annoying things but another part if it is I've been heartbroken to bad that being in a relationship feels like the ultimate danger. I don't know what to do
Amazing video!
l needed this video,thank you.
It’s so hard because we’re long distance and I have to give up my whole life and move in order to live together and really discover if he’s right for me. It’s a huge risk.
I just didn’t know this was a thing. A year and a half later, I still question my decision in breaking up with her. God I was such an idiot.
*trigger warning
What if you’ve always dealt w say a fear of abandonment, where breakups have always been excruciatingly painful and you’d do anything to avoid a BU and to stay attached? Couldn’t you still love your partner but know it’s not a good fit deep down but you are staying and lying to yourself to avoid that pain? You could be experiencing all this anxiety but it may be the right thing..
I definitely have relationship anxiety!!!!!!! Plus insecurity!! It is so so hard!!!
Compatible with my husband. My barrier is my pride.
i think we all have it
What if you have the anxiety but use it as an excuse to stay while family and friends tell them they are not for you?
Ok you were making sense till the end
Can ROCD "turn off" attraction consistently to the partner, until we're healed? (Not fluxing in and out of attraction and unattraction, but feeling zero attraction.)
How are you coping ?
@@jessecuster4662 thanks for the comment Jesse!
Doing better than I was, but definitely still struggling deeply with SOOCD and ROCD. Do you experience OCD as well?
Can honeymoon phases come back?
@2:29 this is something women experience with their partners? Being unattracted to or disgusted by them?
Ok so How do i know What to do 😭😭😭 im getting Married in september please help me
Did you end up getting married?
@@southernbella8503 yes i am super Happy 😁😁
Quite confusing
Is it possible that it’s both 😰
my question exactly hahah
The fact you think it might be both shows you have relationship anxiety
@@matthewgwynne7874They obviously already know that, hence why they’re here. What you don’t know is if they have BOTH, the point of the comment.
I have problems because he is a serial lier. I found out many "little' lies. Who knows the big ones!! But anyway I don't like the small ones either
You obviously have relationship anxiety. As for the comptability, we have tried nothing just yet.
Who are you talking to?
@@someoneyoudontknow7705 someone who plays with me
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