Self Care Habits I Formed In My 20s! (From Depression To Contentedness In A Decade...START NOW)
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- Self care habits I formed in my twenties that helped me shift from being depression prone and self destructive to content and positive! Part of this video is sponsored by DOVE and their wonderful moisturiser/gradual tanning mousse that helps me to fake a pregnancy glow! Shop: www.amazon.co....
In this video I talk through physical, social, emotional, practical and spiritual self care and give loads of examples of things I do my best to incorporate! The main message of this video is that YOU DO MATTER, YOU HAVE INTRINSIC VALUE AND I WANT YOU TO TREAT YOURSELF IN A WAY THAT YOU'D TREAT SOMEBODY THAT YOU REALLY LOVE AND CARE ABOUT xxx
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Thank you so much for this Mel. 💚
This really helped, Melanie. Thank you for the great video 💚
Melanie really is out here being the best internet mum-friend she can be.
She’s going to have some of the most well adjusted kids, thank goodness for people like Mel ❤️
I was thinking this too, they are one lucky child
Dang!! I'm five months pregnant and the words that are flowing out your mouth are not just words but filled true wisdom. I've been thru so much in my life and now I'm exactly your age but this is my first baby and Im v well educated about self care but the way you just spoke it out in this video, sply about taking care of yourself just like the way you'd be of your baby , OMG wisdom . So true. Thank you so much for your efforts on making such videos and sharing your experiences and values with us . God bless
thank you for posting this, I'm 26 and my wife is 25, we've both got mental health problems and are learning how to reparent and do self care, this year we have had a huge overhaul in our flat, we're giving ourselves bedtimes and making ourselves get up early for breakfast, making ourselves do our chores and make the flat a calming place to live, once I pass my driving test were gonna start doing more physically to treat our bodies right, but at th moment were learning how to be adults and look after our own little piece of the world!
Love this! Gwan Girl you got this 😁👏
Wishing you all the best!!
Thats great!! 🥰🥰🥰 so happy for you two
I love this series, but as someone who has just turned 30 I'm like... 'Wow, yeah, I'm actually still a bit f***ed up, to be honest.' You are so wise.
💚 I’m 25 and just had a terrible week that I realized wouldn’t have been so bad if I took care of my physical and mental health. So happy I found this today after my first morning walk in a long time.
Can I just start by saying thank you for including self-care habits that aren’t exclusively binge eating while wearing a face mask and watching Bridget Jones. Yes, those are fun, but knowing moderation in life is far more important to “self care” than any of those fun things! Loving this series as a viewer that’s been watching for nearly 8 years. Sending lots of love on your motherhood journey! Xx
I get such a kick out of making people happy, doing little acts of kindness. One thing that helped me, as an eighteen year old, was writing down one thing every day that made me laugh. So every night I'd just smile thinking about each day.💚💚💚
💚💚I'm 37 and self care is something I'm still gradually learning, I was brought up that you give everything to your loved ones, but now I have to tell my mum that if she doesn't take care of herself she'll have nothing left for her loved ones 💚💚
I'm a mental health worker in my 20s and self care is my fuel! its far too easy to care for others and neglect yourself . Love this video so much and such good advice 💚💚
At 27 I’m starting to feel some mild panic that I haven’t done all the learning i need to do in my 20s!
But at least I’m face massaging now 😂 💚
That's okay, I'm 28 and the most growing I've done EVER happened in the past year. Therapy helps a lot with moving things forward even if you've had a realization on your own, it helps to keep doing the work. :)
This is so funny because I am the same way. I bought a rose quartz roller literally a few weeks ago because of the skin care massaging video!
I'm 28 and feel the same way. We still have time to get our shit together
💚💚💚💚 self care is so important but so underrated... Since I started taking care of myself I saw so much benefits in my anxiety and mental health
When you mentioned, treating yourself like you treat someone you deeply care and love for, it really hit home 😫😫
The last bit you talked about how YOU matter - I have just come to understand and accept this in the last year (I'm 25). I started keeping promises to myself like "You promised you'd dance today" or "You promised you'd meditate tonight" and when I came through for myself it clicked that everything I do does matter and makes a difference. I used to kind of float around thinking, as long as I'm good to the people around me, it doesn't matter how I treat myself. But that's just not the case! Thanks for this series and your never-ending inspiration!!
Needed this, I sometimes forget to take care of myself while stressing about finding a job💚
I am 21 and have been in and out of depression since 4 years or maybe even longer. Currently I am particularly struggling with uni. I am graduating next summer and have so much on my plate but after a day of classes I am too tired to study any more. I know that it will pass and that I will make it through, but I am really sick of always being dissatisfied and frustrated. I really want to change something, but making positive change is really hard. Thank you for this video! And to anyone who is struggling with their mental health right now: you are not alone! Sending lots of love to everyone ❤️
I have been watching you for 5 years now Melanie and although being 21 now I have learned so much about life, womanhood etc.. from you. Some of the most fundamental life lessons I have learned in my life are thanks to you!! I’ll admire you forever 😃💚💚💚
Love this I was so depressed at 11-16 I had anorexia, self harm and suicidal thoughts and attempts now years on at nearly 24 I'm a completely different person I love exercise, cross stitch, knitting, reading they all calm me and excite me growing my happiness day by day 🙌👏💖
💚💚 thank you Melanie. I've been following you for years now and I have struggled with acne, suicide, destruction and all things mental health. I'm 25 and I've been working throughout 2020 as an essential worker - but it did allow me to find time for myself, stop prioritising those who were destructive to me and finally love myself and do self care. I no longer have acne and I actually enjoy company now too (I'm very introverted) plus I'm doing a degree at 25 years old! I have endometriosis and suspected pcos and pregnancy has been a struggle for me and my partner too. So it has been amazing watching your journey and so inspirational. I'd just love to have someone like you to talk to 💚💚
I love you Melanie 💚 As someone in her 20s, I'm so glad I have someone like you to look up to! You've really shaped the way I look at the world and I thank you for it
I like how you speak about self care so broadly, it's so individualistic, and thinking about it as choices is something that has helped me 💚
I completely agree with the idea of distancing yourself from people who bring out a certain "side" of you... I learned this lesson in the last couple of years and it's completely changed my whole outlook on life 💚
I think my concept of self care is pretty misconstrued...you’ve opened my eyes a bit to the true scope of it! As a 28 year mom of a 1 year old, wife of my significant other for 10 years now, and a very anxious/depressed person, I feel that at this point if I don’t take charge of the parts of my life that truly give me long term happiness than I’ll never be able to make any head way. Thank you for this ❤️
"...Must be nice..."
The main problem I have is the fact that f**ked up so much in my 20's and I'm such a failure I feel like I don't deserve love, I used to absolutely loathe myself during my 20's and even now at 32 I still struggle to like myself. It's one of the reason I like watching your videos because it's nice to see someone who so put-together and got her head screwed on right, moving in a positive direction while I'm just spinning my wheels and drifting aimlessly because I have no purpose.
Oh yes, a mental health one! Hoping to really follow all these and I'm just about to go into my twenties 💚💚💚💚💚💚 all my love x
I have a ‘mental health habits’ video too in the playlist which is much more specific! Really hope you enjoy! 🥰😚❤️
@@melaniemurphyofficial thank you 😊😊 I love this series 💖
I'm 25 and have just come out of a 7 year relationship, I have been putting others and ex my partner first most of my life. it's been 20 days so far and it's SO NICE that I have only me to think of and care for. Thanks for this video.
💚 Loved this video! Such balanced advice. I 100% agree that ‘self-care’ is about learning to self-parent, and learning to do the things you don’t feel like doing but know are good for you 💚💚💚
💚 I went through an awful 2019 and with therapy I got better and said “2020 is gonna be my year” and LOL... good thing I had my mental health taken care of to get through this tough year!
Your process of being a good “guardian” to yourself has really helped me the past few years! You’ve described it before and I’ve really appreciated your wisdom🥰💚
💚This video was so needed. The other day I saw an Angela Davis video and she talked about how self care is what every activist(or anyone who tries to better the world) needs to do, because you need longevity to do what you want/need to do.
Melanie, you are the only “old school” TH-camr I still watch consistently. Love all your content because it honestly makes me feel like I’m watching a dear old friend on my screen 💚💚💚
Probably one of your most important videos. Thank you so much
I started watching this channel when I was about 20 - now I’m 24, and you sharing your journey has seriously changed mine for the better! 💚 Best of luck in your finally weeks of pregnancy, you’re gonna be the best mom ever.
I think the most impressive thing about all of this is that whilst I think I was in a better place at around 20 than you were around 20, you're now way ahead of me! I'm still only 26 and a lot can happen in 4 years, but without your series I think I would be a lot more likely to avoid improving anywhere near as much as I should or could do - thanks for inspiring me to properly carry on the path of self care and improvement!
Thank you SO much for your tipps. Especially the first aspect ‚care‘ is not always ‚treat yourself‘. It’s so funny but - it blew my mind. ❤️
It's gas how sometimes someone online will post a video about a topic that you've had on your mind already that day. All day I've been thinking about how much I would really love to introduce much more self care into my daily life and this has really really helped Melanie! 💚
Self care is so important. Lots of great tips in this video. I am a mum of an almost 2 year old and I struggle to find the time for myself like I did but I have made a promise to myself that I'm going to make self care a priority again! X
Love you, Melanie. As someone in her 20s, you've helped me sooo much to love myself, and how to be a better person. I became your fan since that video on your skincare habits. You're a GEM and I can listen to you all day.
The self care journey constantly changes & evolves. I felt like I got a late start to it, but the longer I do take care of myself the more I realize it's a day by day challenge. Starting late doesn't put you behind because each day is an opportunity to start again. 💚💚💚
Your videos are always so helpful and inspiring! Thank you 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Oh Melanie, always posting a video when you most need it! 🥰 While 2020 has already been very difficult having OCD and living alone, and with lots of health issues and dating woes, self care has been the most important of my year. Now I’m facing redundancy from my dream fundraising job at a charity that helps rebuild families following a terrible disease and having to decide what my next step is, lots of healing salt baths, hot tea and big books are getting me through - self care at its finest 💚💚💚
Love all your healthy habit videos 💚 makes me feel less of an weirdo for wanting to be healthy, in a culture of binge drinking and not caring what you eat or do. Thank you 💚
For years I’ve been thinking about how you would make the greatest friend and now I think about how you’re going to be such a great mom 😭🖤
I've been a pretty silent viewer since I subscribed to you years back, your videos have always brought comfort! I'm in my early 20s currently and have already faced many life changing and plan changing moments - all the best to you and your family, especially with little baba on it's way 💚💚💚
I just adore your thinking. I hope I find the right way in my life because I'm lost.
I hope you get an easy labor. 💜💜💜
The ripple affect is very true, everything you do impacts someone else. I am so thankful for the little things friends have done or said that have made me who I am and given me a load of confidence and I try to reflect this with my behaviour towards others too 💜
Love this video!!! 💚💚 I feel like more people should start taking better care of themselves especially in a world where stress is caused by an endless amount of factors.
Being a woman in my mid-thirties, I find this series fascinating, and relatable in a lot of ways!💚
Wow Melanie, I really needed this video! I'm 20 and currently in med school. I'm extremely stressed out, my current course is really making me want to give up because of the sheer work load. I have a tendency to stop feeling stressed in these kind of situations, and instead just bury my head in the sand completely ignoring the reality. I've instead started to let the stress manifest in reviving my old disordered eating habits, and just being really mean to myself. After watching your video I realise I HAVE to change my habits or else I'm going to end up in a really dark place. I'm going to start attending work-out classes with old ladies LOL, and I'm not going to procrastinate any studying i need to do. I also really want to push for talking with your friends and sharing what you feel, which I need to work on. I can feel my mindset has already shifted, I want my happy and positive self back! Much love from Sweden ❤️💌
💚💚💚💚 love these videos. Ive often felt crazy with my mental health and watching you has brought me so much content knowing that when things have been bad doesnt mean they will be forever. Your videos are so calming for me and the realness I need - its like being with a friend having really honest and sound advice
You rock! I originally came to your channel for skincare but stayed because of your personality 😊😊💚💚💚
This is why I subscribed to you ♥️ you're full of advice on life's deeper meaning/life practices. Not just makeup and superficial stuff. Thank you for sharing your life experience and helping others ♥️
Started following you because of a video I came across today from 3 years ago and I'm so glad I did! I needed this video right now!
💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚 wise advise as always Melanie! Loved your video on writing advice! X
I've only discovered your channel recently but now binging all the videos 💚💚💚💚💚
I found this so helpful! I’m 22 and have 2 children under 3 and since having my children I’ve completely lost self care as all my focus goes into them and I feel Any spare time I get I should be cleaning or running errands but this has reminded me just how important it is 💗 definitely going to make more time for me from now on 💚
💚💚💚 I LOVE this video. It’s never too late to start self care!
This couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve been feeling burnt out for months now, but didn’t have the bravery to be vulnerable and admit to it until very recently. I’m just at the start of making self-care a consistent practice in my life 💚 and it’s so scary yet exciting! Do take care of yourself at this weird and wonderful time x
I don't usually comment on youtube videos, but now I choose to do so in order to thank your for this. I'm only 19 and I feel like I should have it all figured out already - tasks in and around the house, mental health, working out, planning and scheduling, family plans....and it's sooo good to see that it's full on okay to not be there yet and to understand that life and learning as a process doesn't end at 25. No pressure there, just growth. So yeah, thank you so much for sharing this! Have a great day :)
I am so so glad you left this comment because people like you are the exact types of people I'm trying to reach with this series!
Thank you for highlighting all these habits and better ones to use going forward. We all need self care especially during these times 💚
I keep coming back to this video whenever I feel out of balance (working too hard/ vegging out to hard) and it always leads me to feel better and hopeful that I have the potential to grow the way you did💕
Special thanks for making these videos from a fresh 21 year old ✨
I always find it so relaxing watching your videos. As a mental health professional I encourage people to take time for self care all the time, but I often forget to do it myself. Thank you for the reminder 💚
This video really hits the nail on the head. Over the last year and a half I've been learning about self care and it's honestly changed my life. It takes a while to build these things into a habit and to change the negative self talk but its sooo worth it. Thank you Melanie for making this video 💛
I’m so grateful to have you in my life whilst becoming a young adult (18 right now) you make me realise that things I do are normal and I need to put myself first and stop putting myself down or after others all the time. I think I wouldn’t be where I am right now if it wasn’t for you and your positivity!🥺💚
This is so nourishing and wholesome. So please that you have clarified all of these facets of self-care before the chapter of motherhood opens up for you. I'm about to start my training as a student midwife and I feel fiercely that I want to uphold these habits and advocate them for others in my course and those I meet. Love you Melanie.
thank you for this video!! and thank you for talking about self care beyond just treating ourselves - bringing discipline into my routines, (for example, doing yoga every day) has totally transformed my mindset way more than giving into my desire to sit on the couch ever would have. finding that balance of indulgence & discipline is the eternal struggle though
💚💚💚💚 starting a MA this year and I really really need to implement these this year to keep my head straight
💚 Been on a LONG mental health care journey and adding "normal" stuff to my to-do list, like laundry, skin care, working out, making dinner, has absolutely changed how I view self care and accomplishments.
I'm so stressed right now, studying for my last exam of my math master degree while also writing my thesis.. I spent the last weeks crying and panicking, you don't know how much I needed this! I have had bad stressful moments throughout my schooling years and never prioritized my mental health since last year when I decided to be my priority (selfish to say but it was much needed), forced myself to make new habits, meet new people, go to the gym and it was so good! But then covid completely ruined my routine, I was about to go abroad for an internship and it was cancelled and I know this is not a big deal in the grand scheme of things but you know..I had planned it for months and then nothing.. Now I'm scared again and stressed and I don't know who to reach out to because letting yourself being vunerable with your loved ones is scary and difficult for me.. this video was the reminder I needed to love myself and put myself before a good grade or someone else's opinion. Thank you Melanie 💚 p.s. I lived in Ireland in Cork for a few months and I absolutely fell in love with your country and found your channel☺️ wish you all the best for your future ❤️ p.p.s the thing about accepting compliments really hit me hard
It always makes my day a bit better when your notification pops up, thanks for easing my anxiety about college places on Friday for a couple of minutes. Much love 😊💚
Thank you 💚💚💚 I feel like I'm always a few steps behind the same realisations so I love hearing you talk about this! ✨
“What you do really does matter” 💥 SO important
I am so thankful that you exist and that you have a TH-cam channel because your advices, your actitude, your growth, etc. have made such an impact in my life. I really look up to you, not in a "she is perfect and I want to be like her" way, I really admire your ability to change and adapt and evolve. I've grown up with people telling me that changing is bad, but there is no other way you can grow and discover what you want for yourself in life. Changing is self care, so thank you for teaching me that!
Yess so many great habits. I feel like our 20s is such a learning curve and then we hit 30 and you have so much more perspective about how to treat yourself well in ways that look way different than being in your 20s. 💚💚💚
I just wanted to say that I've been following you for the last two, three years and you've had a huge impact on my self care journey. I've had ups and downs in various aspects of it and I'm continuing to learn and try, but it's been so helpful to see the routines and mindsets and habits of someone who, for lack of a better term, appears to "have their shit together". Even if I'm just watching you for entertainment or distraction, that wisdom still ends up sinking in through repetition, and even when I've had phases where I made bad decision after bad decision and spiraled out of control, videos like this still popped up in my sub box/Instagram feed, gently reminding me that oh right, this is roughly where I'm trying to go and that it is possible, since we've had a lot of similar issues. I'm only a few years younger but in a veeeery different life stage still, and I just wanted to say thank you for being a "role model", as in literally modeling what an example of a fairly healthy life looks like, for people who didn't have those examples growing up or still don't see them IRL. I don't really comment on these videos usually, but I just wanted to say that they matter.
You are glowing with your pregnancy :)
2020 was the hardest in my life, given that I work in a hospital and moving in apartment on my own. Mental self care is the thing I think about all the time
I've had the most stressful year of my life (as has everyone), and I find your videos so relaxing and insightful. There's so much pressure for young people to have everything figured out nowadays, so thank you so much for helping me realise that I have my whole life ahead of me and that Its not necessary to have everything planned out at 23 💚
Melanie, I stumbled upon your videos by chance and followed you since. Your content is calling to me in many ways, I appreciate your honesty and balls to talk openly about not-so-pretty topics. Also, I love your humour and wit. Love from Slovakia 💚
After a tricky few weeks, two of them spent not able to leave my room as I had Covid... my internal dialogue has been so harsh and this video really helped me to put self care into perspective 💚💚
Brb just pausing this excellent video to go for a long walk...
the music made this even more perfect 💚💚💚💚
Thank you so much for this video! I appreciate these videos so much because as a 22-year-old I still have so much to learn, and time to form good habits, and these videos just feel like a big sister giving advice to me and I love it💚
Looking for fresh new personality and words and guidance this year and so happy to come across you!
This is exactly the video I needed right now! Turning 21 in a couple weeks so I can’t pretend I’m a teen anymore like I have done for the past year! Been really researching habits I should start forming in my twenties so this has been amazing! So much love 💚
I'm 25 now and just starting to get into self care in all ways. It helps so much, it's a long journey but I'm glad I'm on it. 💚
💚 currently got so many uni assignments and job things going on in my life, self care is something i need to prioritise more but its so hard to take time away from all the stuff everyone says u should b doing
I love your channel so much and out of all the videos these are definitely my favorite ones! I turned 21 in July and I am a single child. Looking at your videos makes me feel like I have an elder sister guiding me through life. I literally jot down points from these videos and try to incorporate them in my life with baby steps each day. You have no idea how much you inspire me and are a light in my life🌼 I hope Thomas,the little baby and you are doing well and sending you my love💛
Also 💚 haha xx!🌼
This is honestly one of my fave series you have! 💚 I'm in my mid twenties and I proudly already practice some of the habits you shared, but there are plenty that I want to incorporate and learn. This series is super real and vulnerable, but at the same has the "advice to my younger self" vibe and real growth mindset. I really love it! 💚
Yay Mel! You don't understand how much I look up to you, honestly. These videos I'm saving for when I'm 20. I remember a few days ago I commented on an Instagram post of yours and you replied and it genuinely made my day. Thank you so much Mel for caring about us. We love you! 💚
Thanks for highlighting how many different types of self-care there are, and that what counts as self-care will actually change in certain situations! I feel best when I truly listen to what my body/mind craves each day. My silver lining during lockdown has been to spend a lot more time at home, which has allowed me to get much more in tune with what I need/what's best for me hour to hour. 💚💚💚
Thank you for sharing these tips Melanie 💚In the middle of a ruff time (as many others ofc) and I will keep these habits in mind. Thank you!! 💚
Thank you Melanie for this series. Some of your 'Habits' videos I rewatch as a reminder. I'm 20 years old and growing up as a teen during the early years of social media (with comparing myself to the likes of the Kardashian/Jenners and other insta 'baddies') my self esteem was so low. I hated my teens. Now that I'm in my twenties and in the next decade, I do want to reach that place of contentedness.
As someone just into my 20s these are all fab, thank you so much ☺️💚💚💚
Mel I honestly feel like you've become my second big sister since I moved away from Ireland and my family including my actual big sister. This whole series is wonderful and they've been such a big help to me and to friends I've introduced to your videos so thank you so so much 💚
I am 21 now and been following you since I was around 16. I just wanna say that you have been such a big inspiration and even help during these years. Especially your videos about mental health made me realise I am not alone & that I can overcome things eventually. Thank you for that! I seriously wish you all the best, especially now with your mini-you on the way! 💚
💚 I’ve been watching your videos for so long now and it’s just amazing seeing your journey! I’m very proud of you! 💚
From your Canadian equivalent of your Irish Grandmother role, these videos have been amazing for me to reflect back on through my 20s as well, as I am currently 29. 💚 We have shared so many of the same life challenges and life’s best moments around the same time as one another and I have loved watching you grow for so many years. You are such an incredible spirit and I cannot wait to hear your journey into motherhood. As a therapist in training, you using your platform the way that you do is so powerful and resonates with so many of us! 💚💚 xx thank you!!!
Making excuses for people when they hurt me, I can relate to so much! Your videos have really helped me to overcome so many obstacles and cut off toxic people in my life. Love you and your videos! 💚💚💚
This is such a wonderful video!! I’m 28, and I’ve actually really learned a lot of these points in quarantine since March. When the world forced me to slow down (I live in busy NYC!), I finally had time to breathe and look at what I needed for me. I’ve started journaling, budgeting, keeping up with yoga, practicing gratitude and positive self talk, reaching out to friends, setting myself up for my next chapter (moving in with my partner!)... this has all been incredibly beneficial and it’s something I really hope I carry with me beyond quarantine into regular life. I can’t recommend quality self care enough... thanks for putting it all so concisely Melanie!