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I found an old vision board and everything I wanted and dreamed of at 21 has already started to come true by 31...I hope you enjoy this long, chatty, emotional and unplanned vlog. It's been a while since I just sat and talked!
TRIGGER WARNING, s**ual assault - 3:14 to 4:17
as someone who is 22, who is in the middle of a lot of changes and someone who sees you as a big inspiration, I am so excited for this video! 💚
Same here! 23 and relate so much to her past. She gives me such good energy 🥺❤
@@shadenmasri yess absolutely, I relate to a lot of her experiences even and watching her kinda raises a little voice in my head that says "right, see, if she could've done it, there's no reason you couldn't do it" 🍀
which is nice because as she says that's exactly what she wanted to do with her career 😄
Oh gosh really the same in here, every thing's gonna be alrighy
same! i really needed this video
As someone turning 30 this winter, she’s right. And don’t get crazy with the partying. Just grow and live
I haven’t sat down and just TALKED without planning and fancy editing in so long... hope youse enjoy 💚💚💚
*EDIT in response to two comments I've seen here: trigger warning in description box! Very sorry for not saying one verbally, it was a stream of consciousness and I didn't plan/should have included one with words. Sincere apologies. ALSO, the story I share at that point of the video, I have the consent and blessing from the girl to share that story...it was originally going to be included in my first book along with lots of other toxic relationship stuff however that section was removed in re-writes as it didn't really fit with the flow we wanted for the book, myself and the girl talked about everything that happened with the ex mentioned many years ago, and all that she asked was that her name be kept out of things (obviously I'd do that anyway!), but sharing this = important, we aren't about protecting abusers anymore girls, and I want anyone watching who is stuck with someone abusive to know that it can happen that you're so gaslit that you tolerate the intolerable and also that you CAN escape, I have and many others escape such situations! I only really truly freed myself from that ex in my late twenties. We were back talking about five years ago because I was still very much under his thumb even after many years had passed. This might seem a bit out of left field but I've been writing a book that's got me thinking about a lot of past traumas and I'm back doing therapy so I'm in a very emotional place (also with post-baby hormones, Covid, all of it!) and just sharing the messiness because I don't want to be fake xxx
Love this, Melanie! I've been a loyal follower of yours since before you started dating Thomas and resonate with you on so many levels. Feels like we could be friends in another life!
I'm currently in my early twenties and going through a bittersweet combination of great success and extreme loss (e.g., deaths, bad breakups, social isolation with the onset of the pandemic, loss of "innocence") that I never experienced in the first 2 decades of my life, so it is nice to hear that it gets better. Love that you have the courage to be honest and vulnerable with your audience - it helps so many.
Thank you 🙏🏻❤️
Melanie, without your experiences you wouldn't be YOU, you wouldn't understand, you wouldn't be able to speak about life the way you do. I went through a lot as well, and all of my life experiences made me the person I am today. A very good friend used to tell me "manure grows the most beautiful flowers". Be proud of yourself and how much you learnt from life. A big hug! xxx
(Do Only Stuff Like This !!!) this sort of thing is what you do best, heck with all the plans & make-up, who needs random editing & sponsors, just the raw girl rocks so much more ^_^
Thank you for this...love your authenticity. 💕such a breath of fresh air. I’m so happy for you and your sweet beautiful family. 🙏🏼I wish you only more of your hearts desire. May the universe flood you with abundant love, light, and blessings. May the seeds you are planting in this crazy TH-cam world bloom in your garden. ❤️
I'm 21 right now, I have agoraphobia, binge eating, anxiety and depression, few friendships... you crying tears of joy makes me want to cry in the sense that things can get better- I'm really holding out hope.
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Take it one day at a time, one step at a time. Everyday is a new start and things will get better the more you open yourself up, as hard as it is. Good luck with your journey through life
I was at a similar place at 21, felt so lost. 4 years later, I couldn't have imagined being in the place I am now. I have so much more strength in myself, and have so much more love and kindness. It's worth it. Getting the help I needed really changed things for me, rather than struggling on my own. I hope you're getting some support, and if not, please know that it's out there, I know it's scary to look. And there is a lot within you that can help too. Astrology helped me for healing too. All the best, and love and strength to you xx
Sending you love. It will get better
I remember being 21 as the worst year of my life, so much anxiety and insecurities... I'm 27 now and it got so much better through the years!! Hang on there, sending you lots of love!
I’m 21 as well, this really gives me hope that there’s better things out there. I’m contemplating my relationship at the moment, as he truly really loves me but I just feel disconnected 😢
"I'm playing with a baby sock" *looks at it.* *Bursts into tears*
I love this so much, it's so sweet and shows how much you love your son and such. And I feel close to you knowing that. Keep doing you, you're doing great!
I feel the same with my new little baby daughter. The love is just bursting out of me. Ah Melanie I want to giv u a big hug ❤️❤️❤️
In my early twenties, I thought my life was over - because of my mind. I hated myself because of it. I had so much but I couldn’t love myself or my life, and I knew it - I saw myself as my own worst enemy. I cared immensely about how men saw me, and I hated that, but I felt that I couldn’t change it. It was a trap, and now I’m free. I’m not sure how I did it, but every now and then, I close my eyes and cry, I’m so grateful.
What do you mean how men saw you ? And how did you get free?
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I thought my legs were knobby, my face was ugly, my hair was too thin - you name it. I was super tall - taller than all the boys. Most of all, I hated that I was so “shy.” I spent most of my teen years thinking I was unlovable - and that I would never find a guy to see me in “that” way. I had zero self-esteem. Then I started having panic attacks in my early twenties. For a while, I worried I would never be able to function like a “normal” adult, because of my anxiety and depression. I got fired from my first job and quit many others. And then I started loving myself. I don’t know how it happened, except that I just decided that I wasn’t perfect, and that that was ok. And now I think it’s funny that I cared so much about what men thought and what “society” would see me as. Clearly it was just a way for me to beat myself up. The real issue has always been self-love. I care much more about the content of my mind and my attitude now. Perspective is everything to me now, and I’m thankful that I’ve learned how to steer myself towards a more positive outlook. Therapy really helped, as did making hard decisions and “making it work” and seeing that I could accomplish what I set out to do. I followed my heart, even when it was scary. When I found my current therapist, I told her in our first phone call that I just needed someone to trust me. Trust that I was and would be okay. And she does - she’s a cheerleader and a positive outlet for me. And I trust myself now - I trust that I have the capacity to get through hard times. My teens and early twenties actually made me stronger. I feel mentally prepared for what life has to throw at me now. But no, there was no one thing that helped - it was just baby steps every day. I love what Mel said about how there hard times help us grow. I hope all girls and young women learn that, and that we can all lean into the hard times. As long as you show up for yourself, kindly and with forgiveness, it will get better.
@@ec9401 Oh my thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing your story. I cannot tell you how deeply I relate to all you said. The "caring about society/men" think of me, I spent so many wasted years worrying about this and so many other silly things. I spent filled my time with things that had no substance and I felt as if I was just wafting thru. It too got so bad that I would have panic attacks that led to me passing out. But the part that hits so close to home was that the key overcoming that insecurity was self love. That self love came from firstly making a choice that I was worth being in control of my life which led me to therapy where I had to learn that the only love that mattered was the love I could give myself. A lot of nurturing of the inner child, telling her she was enough and giving what she wasn't given. Slowly the foundation became stronger and the thought process started to change. I still falter, I still have moments of shame and anger, I understand there is so much more growth to happen and so many deeper places to go.
@KatyaFlo Yes!!! I am actually excited for everything I have to learn in this life. I have real interests now. I’m so glad you’re in a better place now too. Virtual hug!
I’m 21 and I’m so confused and exhausted in life just like you said you were. Watching your videos helps me realize that change is possible and that I’m not alone. You’re so brave for telling your story Melanie❤️
ah mel, youre such a diamond. You speak so eloquently and authentically and openly, it's blummin marvellous. It's such a rare thing to see, you really have a gift, and it really is a balm. I'm so happy youve made yourself such an amazing life. I definitely feel that contentment from having my son too, it has this elemental quality that enriches everything
💚💚💚 hallelujah for our little boys 😭👏🏻
I would also just like to say that while you've been so lucky to find purpose and peace in being married and having a child at 31, it's also completely okay to feel messy and lost at that age as well. It's never too late to start trying to become the version of yourself that you want to be
Everyone has a totally different vision board for life! To some the idea of having a baby at 31 is hell...the point of this video was to encourage people who are currently feeling very lost and absolutely not to imply that there’s one way to live 💚 That’s why I said that every moment is a fresh chance to turn things around - people can even turn things around in old age! xxx
@@JessicaRohan you have a lot to show for it I think, a wonderful decade? You focused on yourself which was such a beautiful thing, don’t look back in anger just carry on being your number one person and see what happens.
I really needed this video right now. I'm 25 in two weeks and I'm really starting to freak out like my life is over. I've struggled really badly with mental illness since I was 14 and for the past ten years I completely isolated myself, didn't finish school, never had a job, no friends, never been in a relationship, and lived in a toxic household in the country with no car or license. I've slowly started to do things, I've got my license and I got my first job in December last year which I should be more happy and proud of myself for, it's what I wanted for SO long, but I just feel so far behind still and I'm terrified. I want friends, I want a partner, I want to be married and have children so badly it just feels so far out of my grasp. But then again I thought even three years ago that having a job and my license was impossible and that was never going to happen too..... I'm just a mess atm. But thank you, this video really gave me hope for my future self.
I'm 24 and a mess too pretty similar to yours. Tho each experience is different. I had my first job for a few months but got fired, tho it was too stressful for me anyway. I'm finishing university but I understood that I don't have a passion for my profession and it's pretty stressful (my first job was kinda it). I had mental problems since childhood and got very isolated, but I want connection. It's difficult but not impossible. So I'm starting smth new I guess. It's never too late as people say.
And thank you for sharing your experience. It gave me some comfort. Good luck!
I'm 24, 3 failed jobs lol. My third job was abroad and I thought it was the perfect opportunity to start again, but I made a mistake and was fired on the spot. Now I'm back in the UK, reflecting on the good memories I had teaching abroad and the children I taught, miss them alot. Been job hunting for something outside of teaching. Also re-learning how to drive again, even though I passed in 2016. My confidence and self esteem is rock bottom. Thought I'd have enough money for a house deposit now or at least find someone to get married to. But none of that is achievable now but we roll. I appreciate this video, thank you x
Hi, please keep in mind that you are only 24! 😊 Almost everyone I know wasn't even done with university at 24 😅 noone was saving for a house or earning a lot of money than. Also almost everyone that was in a relationship back than broke up, I wasn't in a relationship until 25 and than met the guy I want to marry. This maybe sounds a bit negative 😂 but what I want to say is that you are still young and the right person and job will definitely come to you soon 😊🙌
@@aliiinchen1011 thank you for your reply, means alot. I want to have my own house and own life, it's overcrowded at home, just find it hard! I wanted my job abroad to work out so badly but it didn't unfortunately xx
@@myaa8794 You can try again! Don't give up!
@@myaa8794 I am very sure that you will find a new one soon and will be able to move out! Good luck!
When she said "I'm becoming the woman I wanted to be" I smiled a large smile and let me tell you today was shit and the past year was shit and I have no clue where life is taking me (I'm 25) but things like this remind me to keep going strong so thank you ❤️
I really relate to your comments about the simple things... I've been feeling that a lot lately. I'm only 26, but for so long I've been working toward this path of "I need to be successful in school, I need to be successful in grad school, I need to get a nice job and be successful and climb the ranks of that" and always moving on to "what is the next big step I have to accomplish in order to have a meaningful life". And I have absolutely no judgement for people who are interested in that for themselves, but especially over the past year of not being able to see people easily due to COVID I've realized I don't care about all that stuff anymore if that makes sense??? I'm always telling my fiancé these days my goal is just to live a simple, happy life getting to enjoy time with my parents and my family, and starting a family of our own hopefully and raising our children and creating wonderful happy memories. I fully respect people who don't want that sort of thing for themselves, or who are very ambitious in their careers or work life or don't want children, etc.... that's just not my priority anymore and it feels so freeing in way... I always say now "I can't take all my fancy stuff or money with me when I go, but hopefully we can build a great life and great memories that will remain when we're gone"
Much love to you! And hope you and your family are well 💚 this video really gave me the strength I've been needing lately
Watching you for well over 6 years has changed my life! So grateful to be 22 and have a role model and online mentor who teaches me so much through her own story and own experiences. You are such a beautiful person and 20-something Mel would be so proud to know who you are now.
Ugly crying here ❤️
@Haley Witt Same 💚
same here too
Honestly everything is so edited nowadays no one just sits down and ugly cries and I love it - so cathartic to watch (not that you are an ugly crier lol u are beautiful! But you know what I mean) x
Hehe oh I defo have an ugly cry but I 100% know what you mean...I’ve been missing just sitting down unfiltered! ❤️
Thank you Melanie for sharing and being vulnerable with us!
I've loved your videos for a long time now, but this is the first time I've felt like leaving a comment. I can relate to everything that you're saying and it really hit home. Although we often feel alone we are all going through this crazy human experience together. Just figuring life out along the way. So it's nice to see someone being open and honest really wanting to connect.
We all try to show people the best version of ourselves on the internet. Sometimes we forget that there is an actual person with feelings on the other side. You are helping so many people by showing your true self! Enjoy these special moments with your beautiful family!
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😭❤️ Aw girl THANK YOU! xxx
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As someone who had a tumultuous late teens/early 20s experience, feeling the mental and emotional repercussions as a 25 year old, still finding my way, this really resonated with me. Was heartbreaking to hear your horrific relationship experience, but that feeling and that hole you fall into is so familiar to me! Thank you for this! You are your best when you are raw, real and honest in my opinion. I felt absolutely everything you said, this was such a great comfort so thank you, thank you, thank you.
Mel you need to buy a book called 'all the places I've cried in public' it helped me so much to deal with my abusive ex. I genuinely believe this kinda trauma has an aftershock. Mine rippled throughout my twenties x
It absolutely 100% does 😭 It impacted me right up to my relationship with Thomas, I was still so terrified of being hurt again even at 27 when we made it official! Came out when I was drunk! Needed more therapy! 😩 And yesss I know the author too she’s inCRED! Xxx
I still struggle 12 years later after an abusive ex. i married to a wonderful man now, we have 2 kid. But i did come to forgiveness and it really helps although its really really hard to do. The self esteem issues left behind can be devestating. And i was bullied before that. I lost all my close friends because of my ex so i struggle with friendships too x its really hard!
My faith in Jesus has really helped though and gave me more purpose. Each to their own 😊
@@melaniemurphyofficial yeah drinking makes it all come out doesn't it. You can be having a cracking good night and then like a switch something triggers emotions and things get nasty, I found myself bringing up unrelevant issues and dragging up history. X
@@ggandbb1702 I genuinely believe abusive partners sniff out weakness. I was bullied terribly too.
@@emmasimpson15 sorry to hear that hun x youre not alone 🤗🤗
As a recent 21 year old, it is so so so amazing to hear this reflection of yourself from ten years in the future. It’s such a good reminder to me (and I’m sure many others) to stop being so mean/hard on myself to love and respect myself❤️✨
Only 5 minutes in and I’m already tearing up. Your past relationship and mine sound so identical... I can’t believe how much of it I have repressed. Thank you for being so open and honest, and I’m immensely grateful that we have both moved on to better stages in pur lives 💚💚💚💚
That comment about needing to go through shitty situations to grow... Whew! I'm in one of shitty situations right now and this was a good reminder that this isn't the end. I will change. I will grow. Love you, Mel 💚💚💚
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I had a similar experience two years ago: found an old notebook, and one page was my writing in a solo trip I took, and I was miserable, I remember writing that in the hotel room, crying, feeling so low and almost hopeless... and just short 5 months later my life took a turn, I got to let go of some people that weren't good for me while really nurturing the good friendships, I was content with my academic performance for the first time in my life - being even able to imagine myself being good at the career I chose, and I met my now husband and with him it was all so easy, so calm and tender. It definitely was an arrival after years of growing, but those last 5 months were the hardest. And when I read that desperate writing I just cried so hard in gratitude for what my life had become, for whom I had become, so much more myself. It is a profound experience, isn't it? I wish everyone to get to enjoy it.
I’m at 26 and feeling like I’m wandering and exploring and seeing what sticks. I’ve been single since I was 17 and I don’t have a steady job, or a good income, and am living at home, and whatever else I could come up with, but I’m still so entirely grateful for my life. I really do think support and true honest love from others, and love and honesty for yourself, can create so so sooooo much change. Mindset really makes a difference and that’s not saying like toxic positivity, but real raw feelings that you have control over to use for manifesting and bring about what you desire and want. Thank you for this beautiful video, Mel, and I am so entirely excited and grateful for you!! 🥰🌸🌈✨
You have no idea how much I needed someone to voice everything that I’m currently feeling right now! I’m 23 and going through the worst time in terms of not knowing what to do with my life and feeling like I’m failing compared to everyone else. This gives me so much hope thank you so much💚
As a 23 year old now, even looking back to my late teens (18-19) I was a completely different person to who I am today, and that’s only 5 years difference! It’s so exciting to imagine what life can become in the next 5 years!
Thank you for this video and for reassuring us it gets better if you set your mind to it 💚💚
I'm 21 and I'm like you in your 20's and you give me hope :) I hate myself and I try everyday to combat that. You are a real inspiration. :)
I love this sm, and I’m so glad I have had YOU since I was 14 years old-I’m 20 now and I can’t tell you how much you have helped me. You helped me love myself, love life and thanks to that I found someone that I love and loves me back in the way I deserve
I love you
I’m 28 and lost my job from COVID, and today had to sell my car that I worked so hard for because I can no longer afford it. I hope I can someday figure out what I want to do with my life, feeling so stuck and lost. We’re all on a journey, and things get better right?
IF YOU'RE READING THIS BEFORE WATCHING THE VIDEO please take a look at the description box, it includes a trigger warning, take care 💕
Don't do this to me, Mel 💚 Currently pregnant with my first child - so excited and scared at the same time. The bit with motherhood got me crying. I hope all mums that wish for a baby will get them. 💚 Also, if anyone reads this and they have a feeling that you are trapped in a relationship and you are not worth it to get yourself out - you are wrong! Please, get out! It's time and you are worth it 💚
I love what you brought up in this video. I'm 21 now, and I can see how much I've changed since I've been about 16. I had my heart broken for the first time, and it was hard. Very hard. That girl dreamt of friends, of not crying every hour, of liking herself and not hating and hurting herself. The thought of liking myself felt ridiculous at that time.
Nowadays, it makes me so sad that she had to go through all of that, dreaming of things that feel normal to me now, and I wish I could have helped her more. On the other hand, my brain does this weird thing of glamorising the past and seeing it through rose tinted glasses.
Thank you for bringing this theme up. I can't imagine where I'll be mentally in ten years, but hopefully, it'll be a nice place.
Cry out ,what a day I also cried today
I'm with you there 💜💜💜 love to everyone today
Seriously I’ve been crying all day today
It’s just that kind of time I guess
Me too, completely broke down last night
@@lornareilly9407 me as well
I'm turning 20 in two days and I'm reflecting a lot on my teenage years and thinking about my future and stuff, so this felt very timely for me! You're really inspiring, I've been loving your videos for about three years now and I feel like your mindset has really impacted me positively! 💚
How especially women check in with them selves and have these emotional cry outs at different stages in life - both out of happiness and sorrow, is just amazing I think.
I can relate to your story on so many levels - I also went from being depressed and lost in my early 20s to now in my early 30s being genuinely content with my life, and being so lucky to have a wonderful bf and a newborn baby in my arms.
You so deserve the wonderful life you’ve created for yourself💚
The intro to this video was so beautiful, crying and baby and all 💚 I am 25 now but I have been watching your videos since, I don’t even know, 20 maybe? You have grown so much and like so many others have said before me, you inspire me so much! I am so excited for you in this stage of your life ☺️💚 You are so real and wonderful!
This video hit right home. I’m 21 and just yesterday I had a silent breakdown at work. Feeling trapped, hopeless, meaningless. Thinking I might as well die, but thinking that makes me so sad cause that’s not what I want, I just want a better life, but it feels like getting there is impossible. It’s almost like my confidence is fighting with my self esteem... my confidence is so low and thinks my existence is useless, cause I’m a failure in life, and nothings gonna change so I might as well die. But my self esteem kind of likes who I am, and wants the best for me, but since I’m just stuck here, it sometimes feels like maybe I might as well die... it’s a very sad thing to feel, obviously ^-^'
Well this was more private than I anticipated... but if even one person reads and it makes them feel less alone, I guess it’s worth it. I will try to hang in there because I do want to experience life. The part in the video about 21 year old Melanie seeing the future of 31 year old Melanie... that really made me cry. I hope my future will be better. Thank you Melanie for everything you do
I'm 26 and even though I know that's not "old" I have gotten so intensely terrified of aging ... even though I so look forward to my future career as a doctor, and having a family ... all I can think about these days is how my appearance will change and how in the eyes of men in general and the man I am with I will start to lose value and I HATE THAT I CARE. I HATE that I am in medical school working towards this great goal and yet all I can think about is how my value as a woman feels 100% tied to how I look and how there's nothing I can do about it, no matter how smart or funny I am it will not be enough to make me loveable because there will always be a younger fresher face and at the end of the day that's what people want. I know so much of this has to do with having been cheated on in the past and treated like I was nothing and feeling like I am constantly in this fucked up competition with other women. I am trying to put one foot in front of the other and stay focused on my work but I do feel hopeless that it will just always be this way. And I'm terrified because I think ... if I feel this way now, at 26, when I'm still "young", how much more horrible will I feel many years from now? I want so badly to be free and to feel secure and safe and loved and know that even 10, 20, 30 years from now there will be someone who still sees me as beautiful. Anyway sorry for rambling but I'm really glad you have found such a happy point in your life and I am trying to hold onto that...maybe someday it will happen for me
I know you’re scared, I’ve been scared of the same thing and I have no idea if this will help.
One thing from experience that I’ve seen is this; it doesn’t matter as much as you think it does. What matters is your soul. I’ve seen the soul shine through people you wouldn’t think of as conventionally attractive in any way; older women, “ugly” women, fat women and they’ve been well loved by their men, sometimes even by a lot of men who weren’t there bf or partner.
You’re training to be a doctor; I’m sure you have a wonderful soul. Don’t listen to all the people that tell you women loose all their value as they age; their value changes and the depth of love others have for them as well as they themselves have transforms into something much deeper and more gratifying.
Look after yourself random stranger, be kind to your soul and don’t listen to grifters that tell you your only worth is your looks because it really isn’t. I got sucked into that hole where I thought I was past my prime and wasn’t worthy of love anymore (I was 26 too) and it almost broke how I felt about myself; please don’t let that happen to you
@@leannewhite9922 Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. I logically know that I'm not the only one who feels/has felt this way but it still really helps to hear from someone directly and I still cried reading this. It sounds like your mindset has gotten so much healthier and it gives me hope that mine can grow and change too, and I won't always be stuck in this cycle. I will do my best to push back against society's toxic mentality and remind myself that the world very rarely emphasizes what actually matters. And speaking of souls, yours is clearly a beautiful one. Thanks again.
@@tripppytea thank you for your kindness, it has gotten a lot better. A lot of it was watching people around me and how their lives differed so much from what I had been told. I hope you feel better soon, I’m sure you will 🤞🏻
I know im a llama! but as a 21 year old feeling completely lost this was exactly what I needed today! I’m graduating in a month during this pandemic with no idea what I want to do in the future, going through a breakup and struggling with bingeing again. But I know that this is where the growth is going to happen- i never comment but I’m so grateful that I’ve had this channel to go to since I was 16 - also such a refreshing video format loved it
One of my favourite videos of yours in a long time, Melanie. Just what I have grown to love about you - your raw, unfiltered approach to life and self-reflection. At 34 and my life only just having come together and having made sense in the last year or two, this really spoke to me: I spent a lot of time becoming; trying on personas for size and feeling lost or envious of those who were settled, in sparkling careers and/or with their own families. I have found immense joy and gratitude in my life recently and have found home in myself, my partner and the life we are creating together. I, too, want to hug my younger self and tell her to "keep going. It gets better."
This felt like a voice from the future telling me, at 21, it's all going to be okay. I haven't been able to look forward lately, scared to dream and tired of old patterns that don't seem to end. But it's so incredibly reassuring to hear you speak of all that is to come. Thank you so much, Melanie. Your vulnerability is life saving.
Love your talks. I’m not even sure how long I’ve been following you, started in my early twenties and about to be 31 so I know it’s been at least 7+ years. I got into youtube a lot when I was dealing with horrible depression/anxiety and it’s been a long ride through my twenties but the transition is really wild to think about. Feel like we’ve all shifted so much together from our mainly beauty guru days to focusing on holistic health, starting families and talking about the real stuff. It’s really beautiful to see how far you’ve come and all the goals you’ve accomplished. Thanks for being you and inspiring so many of us!
Thank you for being so vulnerable Mel 💛 I was crying happy tears because I could relate to so many of the things you’ve mentioned in this video.
I’m in my twenties and I really cried hearing you talking about all those issues. It honestly feels so good to hear someone speaking about the way I feel sometimes and reminding me how thankful I can be for everyone who supported me on my journey. In the past few years I also tried to change my mindset from chasing perfection out of anxiety and insecurity to realizing, that I just have this one live to be really happy, therefore the decision to just live in contentment.
Watching this video makes me feel so emotional. I have been following you for almost 4 years on TH-cam, and I love to see your personal growth, especially because I'm going through similar situations as you had in your 20's. I hope that someday I could feel proud looking back at those years when I felt hopeless, and I managed to live a happy life after all.
Thank u so much Melanie.
The part about being able to create your own loving family, even if you came from a shitty family is so true. This can be from starting your own family or creating a family from good friends. It's so healing.
there's no one else on here whose unfiltered reflections id be happier to listen to ☺️ ive always loved that about what you make and choose to share, so thank you
Thank you for this, it's honestly been posted at such a perfect time, to see and hear how vulnerable you are being with us and hearing your story gives me such hope. You have always been so real which is so admirable. I have been struggling a lot since high school with a number of relationships, family and myself. I know that I have come a long way with a lot of help and pushing through, but lately have felt to be at one of my lowest points since then. Listening to your story and discribe being alone, binging shows and having that one show was like you discribing my situation funny enough. But to see the woman you have become and how happy you are helps me have a little hope and I can't thank you enough for that so thank you for being you and sharing how there can be some hope no matter how low you have been
Melanie: * wholesome husband baby love content *
Melanie: "it's kind of like when you do shrooms"
ahahaha i laughed. but in all seriousness thank you for this video!!!
HAHAHA! I was only talking to a mate about that a week or two ago...I've no idea when or if I'll be able to do them again, pregnancy and breastfeeding lol I can't imagine I'll be away on a trip alone and not lactating for a VERY long time! But I do see plenty of shrooms in my future hehe, when my kids are grown. I want to be a wild fifty/sixty year old. Oh how I miss Amsterdam! xxx
Thank you for being so raw & sharing Melanie ❤ I think so many of us have gone through this kind of thing & it's beautiful to see how far you've come :)
guys, i heard it gets better in your 30s! we just gotta make it though our twenties and say "yes" to life!!
Melanie, I simply love your content. Every video you put up on youtube makes me think that you are an incredible person and I'm sure your son and potential future babies will watch some of these videos one day and think their mama is damn strong and amazing
I’m 23 and when I was 21 and 22 I was so much like the person you described you were in that age. I was watching your videos back then and they were definitely a source of hope for me back then. Now I think I’m still healing but I’m in a much different place now and I’m so grateful to be here. I also feel emotional thinking about what would happen if I showed a snippet of my life now to that 22-year-old me. Thank you Melanie for doing what you’re doing, it’s amazing, and I wish all the best to all of us looking forward 💚
This video was exactly what I needed this week! Melanie, your vulnerability is so wonderful. Thank you! I'm 24 and back in school getting licensed to teach and I've struggled with so many feelings of shame and sadness over "failing" at getting into corporate work, but you've definitely helped me to realize that all of this is just temporary and that the good stuff is yet to come. Thank you for sharing your life and your words with the world, I hope you know just how much your authenticity is helping others.
I feckin love you and how real you are. so bloody refreshing and helpful for so many people. I've noticed you being more yourself on camera over the years and I love that. thanks for making us feel part of your journey. sending sooo much love to you and your fam
This video fills me with so much joy! As a long time viewer, seeing you so happy makes me smile!! You can tell how genuinely content you are 😊 I was in a very mentally abusive relationship for 7 years and have been in a lovely healthy relationship with an amazing man who I plan on marrying for 2 years. You have helped me struggle through so many hard times and I constantly find you to be an inspiration no matter what stage of life I'm in. Keep living your best life 💚
This video has really changed my perspective on the shitty things that have happened in my life and I think it will alter how I view negative situations in the future, and I just want to say thank you for showing us that life can always get better if you just stick with it❤
Every time I watch your videos I feel very seen, whether it is mental health wise or just casual life wise. I love your authenticity, it inspires me to be the most authentic me. Thank you!
I am sobbing watching this, I have been in some horrendous relationships and the exact same situations as you Melanie ❤️ I love you for sharing this, it’s made me feel like I’m not alone. I am 26 and I’ve also made the decision to stop drinking because I am a awful drunk, I’ve spent so much time feeling like I am such a horrible worthless person but I know that’s not true and I am trying my best. Thank you for your honesty. ❤️
It’s incredible listening to you talk so passionately, I can hear the emotions flowing out of you. You are an inspiration Melanie!
thank you so much for sharing, I can't tell you how much of a positive impact your words have had on me over the past year, I'm so glad you have found happiness. I'm 22 and you're showing me how much there is to look forward to rather than fear 💕
I'm nineteen and your videos, especially ones like this, have helped me so much. Thank you.
You feeling all of your feels is so real and so important and I am so grateful to you for being yourself and sharing with us!!
your tears gave me tears. you inspire me so much! aw mel, im so proud you made it this far, and i’m so happy you acknowledge it for yourself ^__^ thank you so much for this
Melanie... This video was so raw. You were just so perfectly you and so perfectly real. You’re an incredibly beautiful person, inside and out, and you inspire me every day to honour myself and to keep growing and learning. This particular video filled my heart with buckets of hope for a brighter tomorrow. It sounds corny, but it’s true. Thank you for facing all them haters and trolls every day to keep reaching those of us who need the bright light you shine just by being you ♥️🤗
I needed this so much today Melanie😌 Thank you for sharing your unfiltered thoughts! It makes me so happy to see you this happy. You truly have changed my life over the course of the past 4 years and turning on your videos is one of my biggest comforts. In 2020 I got a “Lust for Life” tattoo on my ankle and every day it reminds me of you and your passion for life and it helps me to seek the good in every situation in my own life. All the love💚
I'm sorry for the toxicity you've went through in that relationship Melanie, sounds terrible 🥺 it takes so much time and conscious effort to recover from such trauma. I am so happy for how far you've come along 💚
your videos always take me on a rollercoaster of emotions, happy tears, sad tears, laughter... but mostly you always make my day brighter 🥰 you're a wonderful person and you deserve the best!
P.S. I have massive baby fever but LOVEEE watching you with baby Pan 😍 super adorably heartwarming
Love this much!! Mel you are so strong and such an inspiration. I'm soon to be 25 and only just started giving the time deserved to my mental health and trying sort shit out, but worry too much about it being too late to reinvent myself but this has inspired me to do new things and wear what I want without worrying about it not being my identity. Thank you 💚💚
I'm so happy that you are happy! The part where you spoke about jealousy and wishing ill upon others is something I can resonate with and it comes from deep seated insecurity within me that at 29 I haven't achieved anything or done anything with my life. Thank you for sharing this and God bless you and your family!
Thank you Mel for sharing! I remember starting watching your videos back when your channel name was 'Mela Niie' with cherries for the i's and as an awkward, emotional teen I was able to resonate with your skincare videos, little did I know that I'd still be watching your videos 7 years down the line! I think it's so special that we've seen every step on the bumpy road, and witnessed you grow into the woman you are today... we can see how far you've come and how you've found your true self and your happiness, and it's such a privilege to be a part of!
Thank you so much for being so vulnerable. I think Isay this every video but I just love your honesty and its so comforting to see. It gives me hope as a leaving cert student especially that I really can achieve what i want and the world isn't over if I don't get there straight away. Thank you
Thank you for posting this. Being vulnerable/real does really help others. I love your channel and have watched you for 5+ years! I really appreciate and relate to a lot of your content.
wowwowwow this video absolutely shattered me. i love everything you said and i can relate immensely to every single word. especially everything about being real and knowing who you really are, inside, and the safety that comes with it. i want to do everything and experience everything and i know that in myself i have the capability to do so. but my issue is the people and circumstances around me. i physically, emotionally, practically and mentally am completely unable to break away from all of the people and pressure around me, and live the life i want.
This video was almost surreal to watch, as a twenty-one year old who's been watching for six years. You've always been ten years ahead of me in life, so I feel sometimes like I'm watching my future... if that makes sense lol. I remember watching your videos at the end of your college days, wearing your DCU hoodie, and now I'm about to finish my own degree. Sometime I think that mid-late twenties is the most unplanned and free but also chaotic and directionless time of our lives, post school/college and pre marriage/kids/house, so it's been amazing to have someone like you so honestly and openly document those years. It always shocks me to hear about how abusive your ex was, and so sad to see the amount of people commenting who can relate. But I hope (and believe) that this video will give those people the hope and strength to see a life after the abusive relationship. It was one thing to leave the relationship, but to also move beyond the internalised mental shit that he caused and re-learn self-love, respect, expectations of how you should be treated... You're a true inspiration Melanie and thank you for sharing so much
Mel, I watch your videos for 2-3 years now, when I was in the first year of uni and had a shit opinion about myself and I swear your trust and your advices and just you...changed me for the better. I am so happy I came across you! ❤️
thank you for being so vulnerable and honest in this video & throughout the past 5 years.
It makes me genuinely so happy to hear how much happiness you have found.
these are the types of videos of yours i love the most. they just feel SO NATURAL and so inspirational to come back to from time to time. really do love a good old reflective thirty minute long talk! pls keep them coming from time to time, even if they arent what most people prefer/watch
Melanie this was sooo beautiful, and so many people are going to benefit from this! I am really happy for you! And i love how tru you are, and how u value genuineness!
Haven't watched a lot of this vid, but
I'm just having a horrible day and you describing your 20 year old self sounds pretty accurate to how I feel about myself right now
And its somehow really lovely to have the perspective that in 10 years I might be able to forgive myself for this and love this version of myself
To thank you so much
Melanie, I love you so so so much. Every time I watch one of your videos, I just feel so thankful that I discovered you who knows how many years ago. I feel like whenever I am going through something or am sitting at a life crossroads you come out with exactly the video I need to hear. ❤
Honestly so relatable Mel, thank you for always being honest and sharing the good with the bad.
I was a train wreck when I was 21 and a complete ball of anger ready to explode at anyone. But it was all a learning curve and even 7 years later its crazy to see how much has changed. I can't wait to see where I'm at when I'm 31 💚
this is so incredibly beautiful, 1:13 seconds in I am crying. congratulations Melanie, this is so lovely to see.
This kind of raw and honest content is so powerful Mel. Personally, I've been following you since I was in my teens and I'm in my twenties now...you've been an idol for me to follow because of how unapologetic you are about all aspects of life. You inspire me so much
always so grateful of you mel, you bring me so much inspiration and motivation. im 21 and this video felt weirdly healing. thank you
I'm 22 and just like a lot of these other ladies commenting, feel the exact same as you did throughout your twenties. Sometimes I even get mad at the fact that I am so young because I feel as though I've matured years beyond that. I've always wanted a family and I still do, and seeing your progress and the person that you've become genuinely has given me such inspiration and hope❤❤❤
I remember seeing you speak at an event in Derry back in 2015 called VlogIt. I’ve been watching since and it’s been amazing to watch your journey and how you’ve grown. I’m also 31 and spent a long time being someone I’m not, I still have a lot of things to work on it but I wanted to say it’s nice to hear the honest experience you’ve had with you’re identity. Thank you for sharing xx
I watched this as soon as it was out, dropped the show i was watching for the time being. I'm very sorry about your past experiences, your vulnerability is beautiful 💚 I connect to some of the things that happened to you and you know how you said you tried to emulate people in the past? I do that with you. Your calmness, positivity, the way you live your life inspires me.
I really really felt this, and cried with you. Hearing about some of your early experiences was heartbreaking but I consider you someone whose content has helped me through a lot. In the last 5 years, I've personally gone from a bad situation being jobless, homeless, struggling with an eating disorder that almost killed me, feeling suicidal and lost, being stuck in my overdraft, laughing less, losing friends... to a healthy relationship with food, a room full of thriving plants, good friends, an almost paid off overdraft, a Masters, and now on the PhD journey. Things really can turn around, you are absolutely right. It's a miserable slog at times but so, so worth it to feel the joys of living again. Thank you. 💚
Thankyou this fills me with such admiration and hope for the world tht there are mothers out here that are putting 100% into raising an amazing child despite their personal struggles and being authentic and humble publically ,its so cathartic and relatable
Thank you Melanie, I can't even describe how much this video has done for me rn! I have turned 21 two months ago and I currently feel so lost and probably especially because of covid a bit hopeless, I know it's gonna be better because I am experiencing a lot of growth rn, like I am a completely different person than 19 year old me, but it's just hard to imagine that your life will take your desired trajectory one day, especially if you don't really know what you desire yet. So you sharing your perspective and experience in such a genuine way really helped and gave me some more hope to push trough. Thank you 💚
I have been following your channel since 2014, I am now 21. It has been amazing to see how much has changed over those years. You have such a beautiful soul!! Sending so much love to you and your family 💚💚💚
So so so so much love to you, Mel
Thank you for this video Mel! I have been following you for the past 5 or 6 years and I'm just sooo proud of you and happy to see how you have grown during these years! As have I. I'm 25 and kinda in the crossroads now, leaving Uni and the town I've lived in for the past 5 years. Now I'm just trying to figure out what I want to do next and this video was a good reminder for thinking what I want my life to look and feel like and go towards that😊 Thank you for being the inspiration for so many of us that Sex and the City or other people you admired were for you💚
Absolutely loved this video Melanie.I just turned 22 and this message was so important. You're such a strong and sweet soul. Much love from New Zealand xxx
As someone in my mid-twenties, hearing about your journey and struggles is so validating and encouraging. Seeing your success and family has been so fulfilling for me, and I'm so sorry for what you had to go through to get to this place. You've survived so much pain and horror and we love you so much for who you are, Melanie
This was so so SO lovely to watch. Some parts really resonated, “I used to be so hard on myself” nearly made me cry 🥺 I found your channel years ago when you were overcoming your ED because I was in the same boat, so I feel weirdly like we’ve sort of grown through it together? Bizarre! But thank you for your honesty and transparency always. Here’s to growth, health and happiness 💚
I really resonate with the idea that you have to go through hard times to truly grow and change for the better. There’s a quote from a story podcast that I like: “The only way out is through.” I’m in my early twenties and feel quite uncertain about life right now, so seeing you on the other side of it, just thriving, really gives me hope. Thank you for sharing Melanie 💚
You're so honest and strong❤️. Thank you for sharing your story, this video really, really resonated with me. I can hear bits of what I'm going through it in. I'm so glad you're at a place in life that makes you so happy💚! Xx
I will never ever stop watching your videos. You are a gift to this platform and I am so grateful to have watched your growth and grown with you
this is my favorite video. so real and raw and just like chatting with a good friend on a bad day, thank you!