Thank you so much for having me on the podcast! Really appreciate you creating such a safe and knowledgeable space to talk about such important & difficult topics ❤ Hope everyone enjoys the discussion!
"Old soul" and "mature for your age" are just nice ways of saying someone (especially a child) has dealt with a lot of trauma and has had to mature much faster than they should have.
I'm American and it took FIVE YEARS to get approved for an MRI. Because I was too young to have back problems according to insurance. FINALLY, after getting flagged for drug seeking because I literally couldn't walk for the 4th time that month, I was approved. The surgeon was so amazed I was still working let alone walking from the size of the disk rupture pushing on my spinal cord. He ended up doing it free because of all I went through from this.
He has a very wholesome approach to medicine. The way he talks, the questions he is asking, his compassion. We definitely need more doctors like him in the system 🙏
You are never alone, beautiful. There are many of us who understands and will build you up. I have mental struggles as well. There is always someone looking up at the same stars as you and having similar thoughts and feelings. Just remember, every morning you wake up, you can mark that as another victory. You woke up to start fresh , which means you won yesterday!❤
It’s really horrible that people don’t believe eating disorders unless you are a certain weight. I know people who on a scale would be a “healthy weight” but they were destroying themselves. They weren’t expressing a load of symptoms like loss of periods but they were ill. I’m glad you talked about this. It’s important. I never fully understood that anorexia and other EDs could be non-image related. Thank you.
Some of this is historical -- the weight requirement for anorexia wasn't dropped until the DSM-V (latest edition). That being noted -- doctors and patients were advocating for years for the DSM to line up with what they were seeing in the field.
I had no idea about any of your issues, I just thought how talented you are and how you make me smile... Now I know, I also think you are an AMAZING person! 😁💙
I think this might just be the interview that gives me the courage to talk to my doctor about my binge eating disorder. Thanks for being so open about all this, Kris.
I hope your doctor is as open as Kris. If you can, let us know what happened, and know that you can always get a second opinion if your doctor is mean to you. I'm not sure what kind of doctor you'll be talking to, but be careful to get a psychiatrist that is extremely knowledgeable on medications, and it also helps if your personalities mesh.
Yes, do it! You have no idea how much better your life can be. 💛 Just don't be discouraged if you come across a doctor that isn't the right one for you at first. Keep looking, keep talking, and I promise you will be able to find a doctor that gives you the respect and help you deserve.
32:03 - when she said that you have to "prove yourself to doctors" .... I felt that. I know that doctors have to read in between the lines for some patients but, I feel this way EVERYTIME I step into a a doctors office. (I never feel like my reasoning, my hurt body, my existence is enough).
This 100%. I’ve dealt with chronic pain and migraines since I was a young teenager (I’m nearly 42) and because you can’t “see” pain, I’ve always felt ridiculously dismissed.
So true! And for Kris, it was probably worse for her than some, because studies have found doctors to overwhelmingly doubt the health concerns of female, but generally not male, patients.
I feel this extra hard myself as Ive come to start to grow the suspicion that many doctors seem to think a young black man cant have severe anxiety and depression. I've had one doctor tell me to my face "I don't think you're depressed", while Im there trying to find an alternative to logging off.
People laugh when i say I have disordered eating issues Thinking I'm joking, because I'm large. Therapy and lots of self work has gotten me better, but overeating and compulsive eating is a disorder as well Kris is so brave and inspiring and I absolutely love her ❤️
Omg I feel you. On our side of the ED spectrum...were just called lazy and unmotivated slobs that should just eat healthy. Not saying anyone has it worse or anything but we aren't taken as seriously as small people with eating disorders and it's bullshit. I was an addict(Morphine)...and that's as close as I csn describe my issues with food. It's almost like I csnt control it. Like I don't have a choice..just like I was with the pills...we got this sis.
Yeah people have literally told me “you don’t binge eat” because I was severely underweight (and very much bulimic. I was way to embarrassed to even begin to tell them the amount I binged on, the money I spent feeding (literally) this awful habit. I destroyed my voice, which still saddens me to this day. I ruined my college running career. And people kept saying I “just needed to eat”. I wanted to cry. I don’t even know what the answer is. I was lucky enough to have access to treatment but not one bit of that helped. I finally started getting better when I got pregnant with my second and I hope the upward trajectory continues. I’d see a therapist again but am never doing inpatient again. It did way more harm than good in my case. I can see that being true in the scenario you described. Eating disorders are weird and complicated as are all individuals really. I hope you’ve gotten to some “other side” of all that because you’ll never really feel validated enough by others to get better. We have to want it for ourselves no matter how seriously other people take us.
@Ashley-tp1nb This, this, this! I'm tired of the attitude that undereating is a disorder that needs help and sympathy but overeating is a moral failing of the overeater are only worthy of scorn.
@@Emzzz78 everyone handles things differently. One person may benefit from having harsh family interference, but some may need that space and quiet to be able to think for themselves and untangle their own chain.
I’m very grateful Kris is so vulnerable and open about her eating disorder because it’s important to break the stigma and misconceptions surrounding ed. I had severe anorexia for many years and everything she said about anorexia and control is spot on. My life was completely unstable and I felt incredibly powerless. With anorexia, I could at least control the amount of calories consumed. It provided me with a sense of control in an uncontrollable environment. Thank you Kris for breaking down the stigma and being so open!
As a person diagnosed clinically depressed, with general anxiety, a panic disorder, and OCD...I appreciate how relatable Kris has always been. ❤❤❤ I have a genuine place in my heart for her, always.
Eating disorders are always so misunderstood. It took my family about 7 years to understand it wasn't about my looks. They still don't fully get it but they're trying. And with the disciplinarian stuff I completely relate to. My family life turned to hell when people first discovered my Ed and it made everything so much worse. I'm still so stuck in this. Every time someone speaks up and reveals the truth about eating disorders, it makes life just a little easier for everyone else suffering. Thank you Kris for your bravery and honesty. We all love you and I really hope those awful thoughts leave you alone one day because you really deserve happiness and a life free of anorexias screaming.
Over emotional woman are almost (if you don't count the lgbtqwoofwoofrawrmiauw group) the only people suffering from eating disorders, coincidence, I think not!
This made me cry😞 I had an eating disorder when I was 7 yea 7 years old. And I would wright notes asking if I was fat, and I wouldent eat my dinner/lunch/or breakfast and snack. And squeeze my stomach every second, and I wouldent wear baggy clothes. It was honestly terribl and I hope no one has to go through it. And btw you will cry and say terrible things about yourself:(
Yes!! It’s not always about looks, calories, exercise, guilt etc but that’s always what’s portrayed so people wouldn’t even know to look out a problem if those symptoms aren’t there
Crazy to think there's thousands who feel the same, myself included, yet still nobody understand anorexia. Its still a "girls disorder" and "anorexia is fatphobic and problematic"
As a Canadian, healthcare coverage depends on the province as well as your occupation and the coverage they offer. You do pay for healthcare services (not directly, but through taxes), unless its something like an ambulance trip, cast, etc.
@@Dreamgymnast5Well there could be up front fees in certain cases I believe. It’s kinda like a copay you owe at the doctor. Doesn’t mean you have to pay to receive emergency services necessarily.
They pay similar taxes if not less in nations with free healthcare and they don't pay insurance fees, the ridiculous amounts of fees insurances make you overpay for drugs and treatments not covered or partially covered and you don't have to deal with as much bullshit as you have to here. So yeah, they pay through taxes but we already pay taxes and we don't get that.
Yeah I'm honestly surprised. It's a lot easier to find coverage for mental health care in the US, obviously you have to fish around spending in what company you're with, but most insurances for lower class individuals will cover therapy completely for various offices. You'd think Canada would be further on the curve with something like mental health care.
I'm feeling like Kris deserves a very long, loving hug for all the fun she has given us.. And one for Mike for doing what he does - as a doctor and a friend. Both of them deserves the best.
@susanthejew6351 Ignorend? Spelling ignorant like that is ignorant in itself my dude. And it's not an ignorant comment being as a lot of us WOULD kill for a hug from our support system.
As a loyal fan of Kris, I think her audience will be there if she'd decide to take a break! She has become iconic in so many ways, nobody gon forget about her 💗💗
Its really hard to open up about mental health and kris did a really great job talking about it. this video is helping me realize that it is okay not to be okay and that you should have the right to talk to someone when you need help. I have close people tell me what they think i might have whether it be adhd or anxiety or depression and i just gave up trying to get help.
I work in a Pharmacy as a Tech and the other day a patient came in and told us she has been having bad nosebleeds and headaches for the past few weeks. When I asked her more about it I found out she was in a car accident and sustained what the doctors told her was a concussion. But they Never Gave Her A CT Scan! I told her that she needs to go back to a doctor as soon as possible to see if the ER missed anything as they should have given her a CT scan. Especially with a concussion diagnosis. I knew how serious this could be thanks to watching your channel so thanks! (Also I made sure to check with my pharmacist so as to ensure that I am giving accurate information)
I stuggled with an eating disorder as a teenager. I never knew how that would affect my health well into my 30's when I got pregnant. Now it has taken all I have to nor fall back into dangerous food patterns, because I know I am an example to my kids and I love them so much. I don't want to risk my health.
Same to the point it has taken over and my organs are so damaged. I have stage 3 liver cirrhosis I’m 33 also chronic pancreatitis osteoporosis and epilepsy… all linked to my anorexia. Please get help before you get your death sentence…. It’s not fun being sick everyday spending most of my time in the doctors office or hospital.
I also have OCD and can relate with the issues. It's really hard to maintain things when you have OCD, especially when you have many things to work on. Im always stressed. The worst part of having OCD is the panic attacks. If you have OCD, know that your not alone.
If my friends didn't notice I was struggling I wouldn't be here right now and they don't even realize it, I hid so much more than they know but just having them there and knowing they care means so much to me
I'm thankful for Kris. Her videos always brighten my days, but her openness about her mental health struggles have made me more accepting of my own, and helped me finally seek help.
I am 14 now and have struggled with anorexia cents I was about 7/8 and in the last two or three years I have been in and out of hospitals and residential treatments and I have always felt like people on the internet were perfect and when I watch you I realized that everyone has their own problems and everyone is perfectly imperfect and I love it you and kris are very inspirational for me so thank y’all for giving me a reason to help myself and remember it does get better so thank you ❤️
You can do this. 🙏❣️ We all have our own problems, but we are never alone in our struggles. You are so young and have your whole entire life in front of you. You got this! ❣️ I'm praying for you. 🙏
Shame on your parents. I would be willing to bet you wouldn't have half the problems you have if you weren't allowed to be on social media at the age of seven.
Hii im so proud of you Ive had anorexia too and im almost fully recovered and it rlly rlly gets better! Life without an ed is better then with (I used to didnt believe when people said this but its true) and you got this! Food will never hurt you as much as your ed will❤
Kris is very strong for going through all of this I was recently diagnosed with Depression and OCD a couple weeks ago, so to an extent, I can relate with Kris about what she's saying, which is why I'm saying she's very strong for this. Regardless of the stereotypes of those mental disorders, she is strong. Everyone remember to keep your head up, even during hard times.
Humor is a coping mechanism. Some of the greatest comedians suffered from mental illnesses. I love that she is openly dealing with her trauma because so many people will see her and find inspiration. 🤗 virtual big hugs Kris I hope you reach your goals. Heal and find balance. You deserve it❤
Learning about anorexia has helped me learn more about myself, as well. As someone without an eating disorder, I never could understand the motivations behind starving oneself. But as I researched and listened to this interview, I learned that it isn't about image (In most cases) and in understanding the "health" motivations, the perspective of people with OCD tendencies, and histories with self harm, it's definitely easier to understand and support the people in my life who need it.
Some people do it as self harm or punishment. Some people suffered SA and starve themselves to cope. They may want to be extremely skinny because it makes them feel undesirable and therefore maybe nobody will SA them again which is not logical but the brain copes and wants to protect itself. Some people do it to please others. They enjoy the praise they get when they don’t eat or look thinner. Some people may have trauma or OCD and use it as control. They feel everything else is out of their control but they can control their eating. Some people suffer a traumatic event, lose their appetite, lose weight, and they get addicted to it. There are so many possibilities. And I do think the root cause is important to treat, which is a controversial opinion in the ED world. Treatment without treating the root cause is just a bandaid. It’s like sending an alcoholic to rehab and telling them to just stop drinking and forcing them to stop for a few days/weeks but saying “The reason you drink isn’t important to me.” The alcoholic will likely continue drinking because that’s their coping mechanism.
One thing that helped me with my ed and depression is saying to myself “the terrible things I tell myself or think of myself would I say or think that of my sister. “ she’s the person I love most in the world and I know I would never judge her or think terribly of her the way I think of myself.
Honestly, Kris is such a strong woman especially for putting her struggles out on social media. I can’t imagine how hard this could be. This is great for spreading awareness and Doctor Mike being so patient and calm with her shows his understanding too. You both are so amazing and I hope you guys can continue to grow as influencers and people every day!
I can't wait till we are done with awareness and actually start taking action. start putting on pressure for politicians to pass a law for health insurance to be mandated to cover therapy, mental health interventions under standard insurance.
My cousin struggled with anorexia for years. She did get help and was doing better but she passed away from a heart attack, the stress it put on her body all those years was too much. I'm glad you got the help and support you needed. Thank you for sharing all of this and I wish you all the best.
I was in my 30s before I realized that social situations made me SO tired because I was wearing a mask - making myself an extrovert when I wasn't in order to be accepted by people. It took awhile to be able to step back from that and be my quieter self, and at 63, it still colors my interactions with people some. Masks take a lot of energy!
@@carltonbanks4312 How is it fake if it’s ruining my life? LMAO I’m guessing you have a mental illness too from your comment. Mental health can suck sometimes. I hope you educate yourself and are supportive of people around you. Best of luck.
@@carltonbanks4312not fake man, actually really serious and can be deadly and it’s not “not wanting to eat” it’s way more than that. you would judge what you don’t jnow
I am 35 struggling with eating disorders for 22 yrs. As soon as I get stressed out, first thing that comes out is my ed!! Thanks Kris for sharing this with us ❤💪💪
I wish nothing but good things for this remarkable young woman. My daughter has suffered from mental health issues all her life and Kris is a good example of success over adversity. Keep doing what your doing Kris, you’re making a difference in people’s lives, whether you know it or not.💜
I just found this video after enjoying lots of Kris’ videos in the last few months. Hearing her open up about her mental health gave me the push I need to make calls and get help. Thank you Kris for sharing your experiences.
Guys as someone who watches KallmeKris can I just say shes actually open about her struggles. This is very inspiring of her to have a full video about this.
Such an interesting video. Thank you to Kris for being so honest about what she’s going through and Dr Mike for listening and helping her and other people get support with their mental health.
As a psychologist here in Spain I am happy you talked about these issues. I’d like to remark one thing: if you have depression or an ED, you can be 99,99% sure that the reason you have it is because of supressed negative emotions like sadness and anger. Normaly from traumatic situations you have gone through in you childhood and adolescence. I don’t know the whole case of Kris, but the fact she was hit by wooden spoons and all of that is super traumatic and could be the reason for a depression later in you life. Of course each case can be different but from what I experience in my daily practice and online sessions is just this… Search for a psychologist that treats emotions and trauma. Good luck❤️ and you are never alone
Thank you so much for sharing this, as someone who has extreme ocd and harmful thought it’s good for the public to see that even we’ll know content creators are also normal people who sometimes need help as well.
I think what Kris is talking about with the ER costing her anything is one of two issues: - Our health care *IS* free, but only in your home province. If she moved provinces and didn't register with the new province's system, she could be treated as a foreign patient. - Some things like ambulance rides, private rooms, etc. are add-on fees. For example, when I gave birth and stayed 3 days after I paid $360 for 3 nights in the private room, and that was it. We do all need private/employer supplied insurance for: - prescriptions - vision, dental, physio - optional hospital stuff like private rooms - ambulance - most mental health care
Thank you so much for listing these things. I was listening and just smh, like am I the only one who knows these details lol. MSP is literally free for everyone. But on the flip side, our taxation system is a bonkers maze which sucks the life out of you.
I was wondering what she was talking about it not being free, in Ontario we can go to the ER/Doc's & see specialists for free, it's the extra's like you mentioned along with dental/vision/therapy that come at a fee
Totally accurate Jenna. Private insurance is for all the "would be nice to have" features of the health system VS the "we need to save you" fees that your province medicare will cover. And depending on the insurance it might not cover all the extra nice perks too. Out of province fees are mad that's why you need to have your own insurance to cover that.
I can totally relate to Kris’ coping strategies of masking her struggles with quirky humour and imaginative role play. She is indeed a beautiful soul. ❤
I’ve never had a huge amount of depression, but I had a really bad episode during quarantine. Looking at this video from the eyes of my past self makes me feel very thankful. Thank you to both Kris and Mike for everything you do. And to anyone struggling, you aren’t alone. 💚
I watch TH-cam to help cope with anxiety, depression etc. It's amazing how many of my favourite content creators have similar struggles as I do. For some reason I don't feel soo bad when I hear others talk about mental health. It makes me realise I'm not alone. It's easy to feel isolated and alone, like no one else could understand what you are going through. I also find that realising that if you can't change something, worrying won't help. If you can take action, it will make you feel better than avoidance.
I’ve had eating problems and also mental health problems for over a year now and it’s hard, but I understood everything after I read this quote… “Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." Which is soooo true
Kris really just helped me understand my OCD a little more through this. It was almost like she was finishing my sentences (or sandwiches, what Riley would have said). Hearing her talk about her experiences makes me really reflect on myself. Thank you so much Kris for letting us in and listen to your story.
One thing that i love about Kris is that i see some of myself in her. I have mental health issues and i use writing books and stories as an escape. Ill day dream the scenes i write and see how it plays out. My dad saw how much i spent writing and slowly started figuring out i was struggling
This was therapeutic to just sit and listen to. It's refreshing to have "content creators" just be human and relatable. I hope both of you know, and really believe, how how many lives you've touched, by being yourselves. You'll often hear people speak of being kind to others, but it should really be "be kind to yourself, and others". When Kris spoke of just taking herself out of the equation and looking at it differently, it really spoke to my heart. Thank you both for this conversation!
So clear that this young woman was in a tremendous amount of psychological pain and that she still has her struggles. So glad that she had the courage to share this because so many people can benefit from knowing that they are not alone. I wish her the very best.
I had an eating disorder in fifth grade because I was terrified of choking. It lasted for about two years until I came to terms with my fear and now am healthier and happier. Now I like food. I still fear choking, who doesn't? But I am just more careful when I eat and take more time eating then others. Eating Disorders really do not just mean you're afraid of your image or whatever. They are so vast in type
Definitely. My 18 month old has an eating disorder (diagnosed as food aversion) and it obviously has nothing to do with body image. A trauma can start it or fear of pain (he suffered a lot with silent reflux when he was a newborn).
I’m so thankful for Kris. Her videos have really encouraged me through some of my rough times. I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety, OCD, PTSD, depression, ADHD and have been hospitalized twice. Knowing that there are other people out there like me has just really encouraged me. Praying for you Kris, I’m so happy that you opened up to all of us. 🙏🏻❤️
I think Kris meant to say or is trying to say that you have to pay for health insurance when it comes to prescriptions if it isn’t covered by your job. Seeing a doctor is free in Canada as well as going to the emergency whether you have insurance or not. At least that is the case in the province of Alberta. Amazing chat, thank you both for being so honest and vulnerable!
I came here to say this too that was so confusing to hear especially because shes in the same province as me 🤣 Ive never heard of hospital fees either tho its all MSP covered??
Because of you, Kris and Mike, I have learned about ED and have started researching it, so then I could help anyone with it. As much as I could, even if it’s a little effort. I think the fact you trust people to know about you issues, it’s beautiful.
As a sister of someone who had schizophrenia, mental health issues are no joke. I also wanted to put out there that I live in Ontario, Canada and I have never waited that long for any medical care or situation (hospital MRI, etc) nor have any of my family members or friends that I know of. I heard this on the video and have heard it on the news but have not experienced it. For example, my husband got a colonoscopy on a Saturday morning where a biopsy was done and by Monday morning he was seen at the hospital by a surgeon. The biopsy results took about a week and it was found he had colon cancer. He had to get a body scan done and other tests and two weeks after that he had his colon removed...at no cost to him btw. My sister had cancer and had tests done right there in the hospital with no waiting at all and was admitted that day, where she stayed until she sadly passed away after receiving excellent care, again no cost to her except for the ambulance ride to the hospital which cost about 40 dollars. I think the difference may be that where I live we have urgent care centres to go to rather than the ER for non-emergent care like broken bones, etc. If it is not an emergency and you can't get into your doctor's office for whatever reason (weekend, etc) you go to the urgent care centre so that the ER can be used for emergencies.
I have lived in Canada all my life and she is waaaaaay off on 🇨🇦 Canada’s health system! Our Health Care is free and we don’t pay for insurance! Psychiatrists are free, but certain specialists you have to pay for like psychologists if you don’t want to wait for those in the public system. Yes you have to pay if you want a private room in the hospital if you don’t have work insurance, but a regular bed is free. I don’t know what she was talking about.
Yeah I am really confused about her experience. Where in Canada do you have to wait 3h in agony with a broken bone and pay ? Of course if you go to the ER with an ear infection you’re going to stay there like 12h, but a broken clavicule?
The difference even between hospitals in the same city can be drastic. And we mostly rely on our own experiences. The hospital closest to me I've heard numerous horror stories about, one healtcare worker I know refuses to send patients there, and one has a signed document that even in time sensitive accidents, an ambulance can't drop them there. Yet I've had 3 surgeries there and everything was fine. All you can do is listen and accept that this was their experience.
@@petit0renardI waited 5hrs was sent home and had to come back the next day in Hamilton ON with a broken arm/elbow and we had to pay for the cast. I know it's not paying the whole bill, but it sucked.
I have OCD, and mine mostly surrounds colors. I have to eat food in rainbow order, I have to sort things by color, I have to organize everything by color, etc. Thank you for talking about your OCD affecting your ED Kris. I felt so alone in how odd my symptoms are, so seeing someone else have unconventional symptoms makes me feel like I'm not alone anymore.
This hits close to home. My best friend has an ED and recently pursued an outpatient program and I am beyond proud of her for taking that step because I know how hard it was to do. I appreciate Kris for sharing her perspective and normalizing mental health struggles. Someone you know or any stranger may be suffering in silence and we can do a world of good by having a little more compassion. ❤️
Im from Canada had my overy removed they did a ultra sound, mri , ct , bone scan and stayed two nights after surgery paid nothing , heath care sucks for colds and broken bones but i got amazing care for my emergancy i feel so blessed im not american or i would be in debt for life 😅
I really wish every doctor was like mike,gives me peace that there are doctors like him, i struggle with ed, depression, anxiety and adhd and some doctors have been really awful so this channel helps a ton
We love you Kris! I'm 45 and have battled my ED for over 30 years. You are NOT alone! It's absolutely worth fighting that "devil on your shoulder"! Thank you for your vulnerability. Your content brings me so much joy. I am a 4 time left leg amputee with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and sometimes the combination of chronic illnesses gets hard to deal with. You have helped me through so many hard times. Keep on rocking!!! ❤🤘
Thank you Kris for your vulnerability in sharing your story. You're speaking to the lives of others too. I have found some of the same struggles too. Thank you Dr. Mike for continually using your platform to allow people to know that they're not alone. That we deserve better than what's out there.
13:25 For clarity and so as to not spread misinformation, you do not require insurance to be treated by general doctors or hospitals in Canada, especially not the ER. All procedures deemed "medically necessary" are covered and do not require you to pay for the treatment you received. Specialist or elective procedures can differ, i.e. eye doctors and dentists are not covered. For prescriptions, it can be helpful to have insurance to help reduce the cost of that or you can pay out of pocket.
I literally almost cried from this while watching this on my TV, I would say that this was very emotional for me as well for personal reason! Nobody should go through this at all…especially younger kids who struggle I just feel bad I wish everyone the best memories they can have! I just wish there were people like Kris and Mike who are very special people like everyone else❤🫶🏼
Kris, thank you for speaking out about your struggles, I hope you know how many people you're helping! Dr. Mike, thank you for being compassionate and asking thoughtful questions! You two truly represent the best in humanity 😊❤
I really appreciate that she talked about relapsing, and about how the process of ‘recovery’ never really ends. It’s a comfort to remember that it’s natural, and like she said: it’ll pass.
Something I love is that she does not journal. Every person I’ve seen who struggled with mental health issues seems to suggest journaling like it’s a universal savior. I find it so stressful bc I write all the time for work. There are more things to do than just journal, and you can heal without doing it.
These conversations are so important! Not only for the ones that have gone/até going through mental health issues, but to everyone em general, because it’s really educational. As someone who’s currently struggling with my mental health, including ED, I can only thank you both so much, so so much for this video.
I don't have an ED, but I suffer from severe, debilitating anxiety and major depression. This was good to hear. It was hard to listen to, because it hits close to home, but hearing that other people truly understand that devil on your shoulder telling you constantly that you're a failure, and that they were able to find healthy coping mechanisms, gives me hope. I don't ever expect my anxiety to go away, but learning how to cope with it better is really the goal.
So sorry to hear you’re going through this. I also used to have terrible depression and anxiety. The works of Dr. Gabor Mate really helped. Best of luck, friend.
I appreciate Dr. Mike’s calmness and well rounded understanding of OCD, anxiety, ED’s, etc. These are all complex issues but he seems to have a good grasp in a way where he can assist
Her talking about how it was a control aspect more so than image is so true. I essentially gave myself the eating disorder as a way to torture myself during a period of time where I believed I needed to be tortured but not in an obvious attention seeking way. Then it became an obsession obviously and took over my life
I appreciate people that are open about mental health. There’s so much weird energy around it. I’ve always been an open book about mine. I have bipolar disorder, an anxiety disorder, ocd and adhd. I’m medicated for all of it. I’ll tell anyone any info they want to know. If I can just make one person feel less alone by sharing then I’m happy
As a GI nurse in downtown Vancouver I can say with certainty “discomfort” is not a reason enough to get an urgent scope. That would be reserved for someone who’s extremely anemic, suspected active bleed (likely melena) or for lower scopes it would be: bright red blood, severe flare of undiagnosed IBD. Otherwise you’re sent/referred to whichever Dr is on-call that day, and if they have time because they have to get in-pt done first. Otherwise it could be a week or two to get the gastroscopy done unless symptoms escalate.
I have been a fan of Kris's for years. I knew she was going through alot. To hear her talk brought me to tears because it really made me look at myself. The irrational thoughts are my worst inner demon. I was told most of my life that nothing I do is correct or acceptable to societal norms. It took me 32 years to be able to say that I'm just weird and that's ok. I hope 1 day to be able to look back and be proud of my growth as a woman. One day.
If you ever need to talk I am here for you as well as other people you are beautiful and I was told the same thing as well you are not alone Sending you love and hugs ❤
Hearing Kris talk is like listening to myself, even in therapy I’ve never felt more understood in my life- which is something I really wasn’t expecting from watching this video. I don’t know how to explain it, it just hit somewhere different. From one Canadian gal to another, you’re not alone and I appreciate you so much. I wish I could give you the biggest hug; we’ll get through this- I promise 💛
Really interesting to learn more about the Canadian healthcare system. My dad and step-mom live there, but I live in the US. It seems like it's kind of similar to the US, where you can potentially have to wait long... unless you are a really effective advocate for yourself or a doctor can advocate for you and get you in to see specialists or get tests sooner. I love that Dr. Mike really encourages and focuses on patients advocating for themselves. It's so important!
This made me realize how much Kris has been through and helped me realize that I’m going through most of what she’s going through. I can’t remember much of it because I think my attention span is getting shorter by the day. I’m glad I didn’t zone out while typing this. Thanks for making this video and idc how long ago it was. I love you you show awareness to things and how Kris opened up. Thanks for being on my FY page, both of you ❤❤❤
This video really spoke to me..she is so open and honest and Doctor Mike is so compassionate and empathising with her. Zero judgement given to her, which is almost never seen these days on social media..loved the chemistry too! Looking forward to more videos!
I haven't had much experience with ED but definitely depression - I wanted to say i love and appreciate all that you do and i'm glad you are here and able to talk about this! Take care of yourself and glad that Doctor Mike really gives us the right questions that i had too! Thank you both and Love you all
tacI had a anxiety attack a couple years ago--I would not wish it on my worst enemy. I then went on to suffer these attacks on a daily basis, and I turned to alcohol to help--it only made it worse. I then spoke to my doctor and they gave me amitrypline. That and coaching with other in similar situation, has helped me greatly. The intrusive thoughts that came out of no where, and I could not cope with, are help at bay. Always know that someone can help you with this---talk to your care provider.
I literally can not express how much I needed this video. I relate to Kris more than I've ever related to anyone in my life, and this video really made me feel a million times less alone. Thank you so so much for doing this, it has seriously helped me realise a lot of thing about my own life, and I'm sure it has helped a million other people too. 💗
I'm very happy to see that Kris decided to have this open discussion with you on your channel. She is fearlessly open on camera in regards to her struggles. Thank you to you both. The big question remains, how do we fix the flaws in our Health Care systems to better care for the needs of the individual? Maybe that is a question that just continuously needs to be asked and acted upon
Doctor Mike - I hope you are the future of medicine because we all need doctors with your down to earth understanding, compassion and insight! And Kris, I think you are incredibly clever, unique, hysterical, (gorgeous) and truly brilliant! Much love to you both from NYC.
I didn't except to be crying first thing in the morning but I did. I'm really grateful to Kris for speaking about it because even though I don't struggle with the same stuff, it helps me understand a lot more and when I apply what she said to things I experienced, it really does help. Thank you Kris for opening up again because it makes me realise really how many people struggle with similar things and how we arent really that alone in what we're going through. Thank you kris❤
Wow, this was tough. I wish I could reach thru the screen & hug Kris. She brings such joy & laughter to so many people. I wish she could see herself thru our eyes. She seemed uncomfortable speaking about her struggles, & we all adore her just the way she is.
For someone who has struggled with ED, and has depression this video really helped me feel like i'm not alone. Thankyou both for helping me and many others feel safe and helping us see that their is a light at the end of the tunnel and that we have to just push through. You guys are an inspiration to everyone you meet and everyone who watches you. ❤❤
Thank you for pointing out that patients should not have to prove they are ill. They are ill. A specific diagnosis should be between the patient and the doctor or therapist. As someone overweight, I'm constantly treated like I need to prove that any pain or illness isn't just cuz I'm fat. In many ways, I'm fat because of my other health issues but have to fight my doctor's constantly.
Watching this I now see a part of why she is so successful with her content. Her videos very often tap into the realness of our lives. She brings forth much of what we all experience and shines a bit of humor on it. Many blessings for her success and I hope her journey of the ups and downs can be met with patience and grace.
You are a brave woman that you can openly and publicly talk about what you went through in the past, and let us know we are not the only one goes through such thing. I believe that everyone in some point of their life goes through this and have to fight for it. I love your personality and I love how the natural you you are Kris❤
I don't comment very often but I just wanted to say thank you to Dr Mike for making this video and a massive thank you to Kris for speaking so open to everyone! You've made me realise that I have an eating disorder. I've been hiding it by saying I'm poor but really that's just a blanket over the issue. Truly mindblown! Thank you
Little late to the comments but something I like to say to myself and really kind of grounds me is, "You have 100% survived all your worst days." I feel like I can never fail if I have survived 100%. Absolutely loved this video and everything it stands for.
not me crying while watching this because things nobody ever said aloud before to me, especially from a health care provider when seeking help and seemingly getting no answers - are being stated loud and clear, things I only thought were ever my own issues or realities. I'm emotional. Thank you for this. I have social anxiety and I struggle really hard to stand up for myself or speak up for myself when trying to get answers at my primary health clinic so I will carry this as another strong step toward self-advocation and help. Thank you and Kris soo much for doing and sharing this
This really hits home for me. I was raised by my abusive older sister amd her pet name for me was ugly. That's what she called me every day of my life until I was 16. She let her son physically abuse me and all that stress caused me to develop an eating disorder. I wasn't able to look anybody in the eyes until i was 17 and i never even knew i did that until a guy i liked pointed it out. Eating disorders can be triggered by many things. Kris is so courageous for bringing this to light. God bless her beautiful soul.
Thank you so much for having me on the podcast! Really appreciate you creating such a safe and knowledgeable space to talk about such important & difficult topics ❤ Hope everyone enjoys the discussion!
Hey I love your vids!😊❤
First btw who cares tho
We love you Kris!!! 😁😁😁
Thank you for opening up to us all, I'm sure you'll help many people realise that they're not alone. ❤
@@XoClara01I care
"Old soul" and "mature for your age" are just nice ways of saying someone (especially a child) has dealt with a lot of trauma and has had to mature much faster than they should have.
never seen something so true
That… that’s very true.
I'm American and it took FIVE YEARS to get approved for an MRI. Because I was too young to have back problems according to insurance. FINALLY, after getting flagged for drug seeking because I literally couldn't walk for the 4th time that month, I was approved. The surgeon was so amazed I was still working let alone walking from the size of the disk rupture pushing on my spinal cord. He ended up doing it free because of all I went through from this.
W surgeon
L insurance
yikes!!! sorry u had to go thru that!!
Change insurance.
@JadedKate the other insurance offered is worse through my work. And buying insurance outside that wouldn't be feasible for me.
@@JadedKate Not that simple
He has a very wholesome approach to medicine. The way he talks, the questions he is asking, his compassion. We definitely need more doctors like him in the system 🙏
Amen!
Amen!
Helps that he's a super good looking guy as well. Lol But for real he has a great personal manner about him.
Agreed!
facts! maybe kris can lure him to canada? (like we pay well enough lol)
I’m struggling with my mental health and when I hear Kris talking about her issues it makes me feel like I’m not alone
You are never alone, beautiful. There are many of us who understands and will build you up. I have mental struggles as well. There is always someone looking up at the same stars as you and having similar thoughts and feelings. Just remember, every morning you wake up, you can mark that as another victory. You woke up to start fresh , which means you won yesterday!❤
@@llewisdolphins loretta i absolutely adore you 💕😇
@@juliabell4186 aww thanks 😊
life...is crappy sometimes
we got you girl
It’s really horrible that people don’t believe eating disorders unless you are a certain weight. I know people who on a scale would be a “healthy weight” but they were destroying themselves. They weren’t expressing a load of symptoms like loss of periods but they were ill. I’m glad you talked about this. It’s important. I never fully understood that anorexia and other EDs could be non-image related. Thank you.
Preach 💯
most people that have eating disorders are not underweight and people need to know that
@@iteeparx and the other way around. People thought I had anorexia because I was underweight. Anorexia =/= low weight
Some of this is historical -- the weight requirement for anorexia wasn't dropped until the DSM-V (latest edition). That being noted -- doctors and patients were advocating for years for the DSM to line up with what they were seeing in the field.
I had no idea about any of your issues, I just thought how talented you are and how you make me smile... Now I know, I also think you are an AMAZING person! 😁💙
I think this might just be the interview that gives me the courage to talk to my doctor about my binge eating disorder. Thanks for being so open about all this, Kris.
You got this! ❤
So proud of you! Please come back and update us when you do! We believe in you❤
I hope your doctor is as open as Kris. If you can, let us know what happened, and know that you can always get a second opinion if your doctor is mean to you. I'm not sure what kind of doctor you'll be talking to, but be careful to get a psychiatrist that is extremely knowledgeable on medications, and it also helps if your personalities mesh.
Please talk to your doctor and get help. If that doctor doesn't listen then get another one. Some doctors aren't very good
Yes, do it! You have no idea how much better your life can be. 💛 Just don't be discouraged if you come across a doctor that isn't the right one for you at first. Keep looking, keep talking, and I promise you will be able to find a doctor that gives you the respect and help you deserve.
32:03 - when she said that you have to "prove yourself to doctors" .... I felt that. I know that doctors have to read in between the lines for some patients but, I feel this way EVERYTIME I step into a a doctors office. (I never feel like my reasoning, my hurt body, my existence is enough).
This 100%. I’ve dealt with chronic pain and migraines since I was a young teenager (I’m nearly 42) and because you can’t “see” pain, I’ve always felt ridiculously dismissed.
So true! And for Kris, it was probably worse for her than some, because studies have found doctors to overwhelmingly doubt the health concerns of female, but generally not male, patients.
I feel this extra hard myself as Ive come to start to grow the suspicion that many doctors seem to think a young black man cant have severe anxiety and depression. I've had one doctor tell me to my face "I don't think you're depressed", while Im there trying to find an alternative to logging off.
Your exitance IS enough, you are more then enough! Those doctors just aren't good at showing you that nor finding out to really help you really fast.
@@teribirrell Friendly reminder: you're valid, you matter, you aren't being ridiculous♡
People laugh when i say I have disordered eating issues
Thinking I'm joking, because I'm large. Therapy and lots of self work has gotten me better, but overeating and compulsive eating is a disorder as well
Kris is so brave and inspiring and I absolutely love her ❤️
Omg I feel you. On our side of the ED spectrum...were just called lazy and unmotivated slobs that should just eat healthy. Not saying anyone has it worse or anything but we aren't taken as seriously as small people with eating disorders and it's bullshit. I was an addict(Morphine)...and that's as close as I csn describe my issues with food. It's almost like I csnt control it. Like I don't have a choice..just like I was with the pills...we got this sis.
Exactly!!!
Yeah people have literally told me “you don’t binge eat” because I was severely underweight (and very much bulimic. I was way to embarrassed to even begin to tell them the amount I binged on, the money I spent feeding (literally) this awful habit. I destroyed my voice, which still saddens me to this day. I ruined my college running career. And people kept saying I “just needed to eat”. I wanted to cry. I don’t even know what the answer is. I was lucky enough to have access to treatment but not one bit of that helped. I finally started getting better when I got pregnant with my second and I hope the upward trajectory continues. I’d see a therapist again but am never doing inpatient again. It did way more harm than good in my case. I can see that being true in the scenario you described. Eating disorders are weird and complicated as are all individuals really. I hope you’ve gotten to some “other side” of all that because you’ll never really feel validated enough by others to get better. We have to want it for ourselves no matter how seriously other people take us.
@Ashley-tp1nb This, this, this! I'm tired of the attitude that undereating is a disorder that needs help and sympathy but overeating is a moral failing of the overeater are only worthy of scorn.
@@outtahere156 Preech!
I'm glad she had family members who cared about her enough to recognize, learn, and help her. She's such a wonderful person.
I can only think of one family who allows their child to disintegrate away. Most families would intervene and demand help for their loved one.
@@Emzzz78 everyone handles things differently. One person may benefit from having harsh family interference, but some may need that space and quiet to be able to think for themselves and untangle their own chain.
@@aloeesces3218 no one benefits from interacting with harsh family members
@@AlissaSss23 you know what good point
I ache for that. Mine shut down and make isolation decisions for me.
I’m very grateful Kris is so vulnerable and open about her eating disorder because it’s important to break the stigma and misconceptions surrounding ed. I had severe anorexia for many years and everything she said about anorexia and control is spot on. My life was completely unstable and I felt incredibly powerless. With anorexia, I could at least control the amount of calories consumed. It provided me with a sense of control in an uncontrollable environment. Thank you Kris for breaking down the stigma and being so open!
well, all this ED and anorexia stuff - ok. But to say the truth i dont think she needed to be so open about everything) e.x. masks... making videos...
@Александр Супер Those were the questions asked, and if she wasn't so opened, people would still have the ideas they do with eds.
@@Lord_earth what's your point? This was an interview. About her and her life. Was she supposed to not talk about her work life?
@@delaneykeller1389 not to reveal how she is struggling to make videos sometimes and put on a mask like she is having a fun, but actually she is not
@@Lord_earth I'm glad she talked about it
As a person diagnosed clinically depressed, with general anxiety, a panic disorder, and OCD...I appreciate how relatable Kris has always been. ❤❤❤ I have a genuine place in my heart for her, always.
what type of OCD do u have? Cleanliness, order and organisation, symmetry ....?
I have OCD with having to touch things a certain number of times.
@@saurabhjarodia335 That’s leaning more on the stereotypical side
@@spectrophobicwhat a weird thing to say
@@knuffelbeer193 bro what they said is weird?? theyr stereotyping OCD??
Eating disorders are always so misunderstood. It took my family about 7 years to understand it wasn't about my looks. They still don't fully get it but they're trying. And with the disciplinarian stuff I completely relate to. My family life turned to hell when people first discovered my Ed and it made everything so much worse. I'm still so stuck in this. Every time someone speaks up and reveals the truth about eating disorders, it makes life just a little easier for everyone else suffering. Thank you Kris for your bravery and honesty. We all love you and I really hope those awful thoughts leave you alone one day because you really deserve happiness and a life free of anorexias screaming.
So brave…
Over emotional woman are almost (if you don't count the lgbtqwoofwoofrawrmiauw group) the only people suffering from eating disorders, coincidence, I think not!
This made me cry😞 I had an eating disorder when I was 7 yea 7 years old. And I would wright notes asking if I was fat, and I wouldent eat my dinner/lunch/or breakfast and snack. And squeeze my stomach every second, and I wouldent wear baggy clothes. It was honestly terribl and I hope no one has to go through it. And btw you will cry and say terrible things about yourself:(
Yes!! It’s not always about looks, calories, exercise, guilt etc but that’s always what’s portrayed so people wouldn’t even know to look out a problem if those symptoms aren’t there
Crazy to think there's thousands who feel the same, myself included, yet still nobody understand anorexia. Its still a "girls disorder" and "anorexia is fatphobic and problematic"
Gratitude is oozing from every pore to both Kris and Dr. Mike.
So much good stuff here. ✨
Definitely, both of these people are absolutely the on the good side of youtube.
Why did you say it like that 😂
As a Canadian, healthcare coverage depends on the province as well as your occupation and the coverage they offer. You do pay for healthcare services (not directly, but through taxes), unless its something like an ambulance trip, cast, etc.
Thank you for saying that. She didn't explain right and made it seem like we need to pay to go to the hospital, which is so untrue
To add to this is the wait times are outrageous for some things unless you wanna pay out of pocket
@@Dreamgymnast5Well there could be up front fees in certain cases I believe. It’s kinda like a copay you owe at the doctor. Doesn’t mean you have to pay to receive emergency services necessarily.
They pay similar taxes if not less in nations with free healthcare and they don't pay insurance fees, the ridiculous amounts of fees insurances make you overpay for drugs and treatments not covered or partially covered and you don't have to deal with as much bullshit as you have to here.
So yeah, they pay through taxes but we already pay taxes and we don't get that.
Yeah I'm honestly surprised. It's a lot easier to find coverage for mental health care in the US, obviously you have to fish around spending in what company you're with, but most insurances for lower class individuals will cover therapy completely for various offices. You'd think Canada would be further on the curve with something like mental health care.
I'm feeling like Kris deserves a very long, loving hug for all the fun she has given us.. And one for Mike for doing what he does - as a doctor and a friend. Both of them deserves the best.
and you need a semester or 2 of psychology 101 maybe after that you can see how foolish and ignorend this comment is xD
I agree. They have both positively impacted so many people
I think that from the way her community acts that Kris knows we're giving her that hug already :)
@@susanthejew6351 What did the poster do wrong? Also please fix your grammar it’s killing me.
@susanthejew6351 Ignorend? Spelling ignorant like that is ignorant in itself my dude. And it's not an ignorant comment being as a lot of us WOULD kill for a hug from our support system.
As a loyal fan of Kris, I think her audience will be there if she'd decide to take a break! She has become iconic in so many ways, nobody gon forget about her 💗💗
ofcourse her audiance already excists of wallflowers who will bend over backwards to not make her feel anything but loved *barf*
yesss ❤
@@MrandMrsMikeVarshavskithe truth abt her being depressed?
Idk
lol
Its really hard to open up about mental health and kris did a really great job talking about it. this video is helping me realize that it is okay not to be okay and that you should have the right to talk to someone when you need help. I have close people tell me what they think i might have whether it be adhd or anxiety or depression and i just gave up trying to get help.
I work in a Pharmacy as a Tech and the other day a patient came in and told us she has been having bad nosebleeds and headaches for the past few weeks. When I asked her more about it I found out she was in a car accident and sustained what the doctors told her was a concussion. But they Never Gave Her A CT Scan! I told her that she needs to go back to a doctor as soon as possible to see if the ER missed anything as they should have given her a CT scan. Especially with a concussion diagnosis. I knew how serious this could be thanks to watching your channel so thanks! (Also I made sure to check with my pharmacist so as to ensure that I am giving accurate information)
I stuggled with an eating disorder as a teenager. I never knew how that would affect my health well into my 30's when I got pregnant.
Now it has taken all I have to nor fall back into dangerous food patterns, because I know I am an example to my kids and I love them so much. I don't want to risk my health.
😢
❤ sending continued support your way, for you and your lovely family
Same to the point it has taken over and my organs are so damaged. I have stage 3 liver cirrhosis I’m 33 also chronic pancreatitis osteoporosis and epilepsy… all linked to my anorexia. Please get help before you get your death sentence…. It’s not fun being sick everyday spending most of my time in the doctors office or hospital.
We will do things for our kids sake we would never do just for ourselves. It's a mom thing.
Is your kid challenged? Shame on you for having one past your 30s.
I also have OCD and can relate with the issues. It's really hard to maintain things when you have OCD, especially when you have many things to work on. Im always stressed. The worst part of having OCD is the panic attacks. If you have OCD, know that your not alone.
Yeah I agree with this fact, OCD is not rare thing at all. Not alone.
It can tricky and yet it is possible to treat.🎉🎉🎉
Just be normal, stop ocd'ing over nothint
@@grom69do you.. know what OCD is??
@@grom69i wish it was that easy
@@grom69that's like telling someone who's blind to just see
"I didn't care, but they cared" main reason why I'm still here. Love Kris. This was nice, thanks guys
If my friends didn't notice I was struggling I wouldn't be here right now and they don't even realize it, I hid so much more than they know but just having them there and knowing they care means so much to me
yeah
Same here. I’m only alive bc I didn’t want to make my family and friends sad with my death. ❤❤❤
Why is it the opposite for me?
I'm thankful for Kris. Her videos always brighten my days, but her openness about her mental health struggles have made me more accepting of my own, and helped me finally seek help.
I am 14 now and have struggled with anorexia cents I was about 7/8 and in the last two or three years I have been in and out of hospitals and residential treatments and I have always felt like people on the internet were perfect and when I watch you I realized that everyone has their own problems and everyone is perfectly imperfect and I love it you and kris are very inspirational for me so thank y’all for giving me a reason to help myself and remember it does get better so thank you ❤️
You can do this. 🙏❣️
We all have our own problems, but we are never alone in our struggles.
You are so young and have your whole entire life in front of you. You got this! ❣️
I'm praying for you. 🙏
Shame on your parents. I would be willing to bet you wouldn't have half the problems you have if you weren't allowed to be on social media at the age of seven.
Hii im so proud of you Ive had anorexia too and im almost fully recovered and it rlly rlly gets better! Life without an ed is better then with (I used to didnt believe when people said this but its true) and you got this! Food will never hurt you as much as your ed will❤
Kris is very strong for going through all of this
I was recently diagnosed with Depression and OCD a couple weeks ago, so to an extent, I can relate with Kris about what she's saying, which is why I'm saying she's very strong for this. Regardless of the stereotypes of those mental disorders, she is strong.
Everyone remember to keep your head up, even during hard times.
Humor is a coping mechanism. Some of the greatest comedians suffered from mental illnesses. I love that she is openly dealing with her trauma because so many people will see her and find inspiration. 🤗 virtual big hugs Kris I hope you reach your goals. Heal and find balance. You deserve it❤
I have always been this person. "If you make them laugh enough they'll accept you" and it worked and warped me.
Learning about anorexia has helped me learn more about myself, as well. As someone without an eating disorder, I never could understand the motivations behind starving oneself. But as I researched and listened to this interview, I learned that it isn't about image (In most cases) and in understanding the "health" motivations, the perspective of people with OCD tendencies, and histories with self harm, it's definitely easier to understand and support the people in my life who need it.
I didn't eat properly for years. Depression, I guess.
Some people do it as self harm or punishment. Some people suffered SA and starve themselves to cope. They may want to be extremely skinny because it makes them feel undesirable and therefore maybe nobody will SA them again which is not logical but the brain copes and wants to protect itself. Some people do it to please others. They enjoy the praise they get when they don’t eat or look thinner. Some people may have trauma or OCD and use it as control. They feel everything else is out of their control but they can control their eating. Some people suffer a traumatic event, lose their appetite, lose weight, and they get addicted to it. There are so many possibilities. And I do think the root cause is important to treat, which is a controversial opinion in the ED world. Treatment without treating the root cause is just a bandaid. It’s like sending an alcoholic to rehab and telling them to just stop drinking and forcing them to stop for a few days/weeks but saying “The reason you drink isn’t important to me.” The alcoholic will likely continue drinking because that’s their coping mechanism.
We need more people like you! People who are actually interested to get to know things to help other people!! So proud of you ahh
One thing that helped me with my ed and depression is saying to myself “the terrible things I tell myself or think of myself would I say or think that of my sister. “ she’s the person I love most in the world and I know I would never judge her or think terribly of her the way I think of myself.
Yes! Exactly!
Honestly, Kris is such a strong woman especially for putting her struggles out on social media. I can’t imagine how hard this could be. This is great for spreading awareness and Doctor Mike being so patient and calm with her shows his understanding too. You both are so amazing and I hope you guys can continue to grow as influencers and people every day!
I can't wait till we are done with awareness and actually start taking action. start putting on pressure for politicians to pass a law for health insurance to be mandated to cover therapy, mental health interventions under standard insurance.
My cousin struggled with anorexia for years. She did get help and was doing better but she passed away from a heart attack, the stress it put on her body all those years was too much. I'm glad you got the help and support you needed. Thank you for sharing all of this and I wish you all the best.
Dr. Mike's compassion. The gentle questions and tone of voice. Creating a fully safe environment for sharing her story. ❤
he didnt offer any treatment. He just sat and listened.
I was in my 30s before I realized that social situations made me SO tired because I was wearing a mask - making myself an extrovert when I wasn't in order to be accepted by people.
It took awhile to be able to step back from that and be my quieter self, and at 63, it still colors my interactions with people some.
Masks take a lot of energy!
Going into ED rehab tomorrow and grateful for this video💞
wishing you the best of luck, its hard work but its worth it
How did you let a fake disorder ruin your life. Thats crazy to me people have to go to rehab for not wanting to eat food 😂😂😂😂😂
@@carltonbanks4312 How is it fake if it’s ruining my life? LMAO I’m guessing you have a mental illness too from your comment. Mental health can suck sometimes. I hope you educate yourself and are supportive of people around you. Best of luck.
It's a hard road Alienwonderland, but you can do it!
(Carlton has a lot to learn about life and psychology, he will grow up eventually)
@@carltonbanks4312not fake man, actually really serious and can be deadly and it’s not “not wanting to eat” it’s way more than that. you would judge what you don’t jnow
I am 35 struggling with eating disorders for 22 yrs. As soon as I get stressed out, first thing that comes out is my ed!! Thanks Kris for sharing this with us ❤💪💪
I wish nothing but good things for this remarkable young woman. My daughter has suffered from mental health issues all her life and Kris is a good example of success over adversity. Keep doing what your doing Kris, you’re making a difference in people’s lives, whether you know it or not.💜
I just found this video after enjoying lots of Kris’ videos in the last few months. Hearing her open up about her mental health gave me the push I need to make calls and get help. Thank you Kris for sharing your experiences.
Guys as someone who watches KallmeKris can I just say shes actually open about her struggles. This is very inspiring of her to have a full video about this.
Such an interesting video. Thank you to Kris for being so honest about what she’s going through and Dr Mike for listening and helping her and other people get support with their mental health.
As a psychologist here in Spain I am happy you talked about these issues.
I’d like to remark one thing: if you have depression or an ED, you can be 99,99% sure that the reason you have it is because of supressed negative emotions like sadness and anger. Normaly from traumatic situations you have gone through in you childhood and adolescence. I don’t know the whole case of Kris, but the fact she was hit by wooden spoons and all of that is super traumatic and could be the reason for a depression later in you life.
Of course each case can be different but from what I experience in my daily practice and online sessions is just this…
Search for a psychologist that treats emotions and trauma.
Good luck❤️ and you are never alone
Thank you so much for sharing this, as someone who has extreme ocd and harmful thought it’s good for the public to see that even we’ll know content creators are also normal people who sometimes need help as well.
I think what Kris is talking about with the ER costing her anything is one of two issues:
- Our health care *IS* free, but only in your home province. If she moved provinces and didn't register with the new province's system, she could be treated as a foreign patient.
- Some things like ambulance rides, private rooms, etc. are add-on fees. For example, when I gave birth and stayed 3 days after I paid $360 for 3 nights in the private room, and that was it.
We do all need private/employer supplied insurance for:
- prescriptions
- vision, dental, physio
- optional hospital stuff like private rooms
- ambulance
- most mental health care
Thank you so much for listing these things. I was listening and just smh, like am I the only one who knows these details lol. MSP is literally free for everyone. But on the flip side, our taxation system is a bonkers maze which sucks the life out of you.
Australia is very very similar. And listening to Kris I always thought Canada was similar so thank you for clearing that up.
I was wondering what she was talking about it not being free, in Ontario we can go to the ER/Doc's & see specialists for free, it's the extra's like you mentioned along with dental/vision/therapy that come at a fee
I do know that if you don't have your provincial health card on you then you may get billed.
Totally accurate Jenna. Private insurance is for all the "would be nice to have" features of the health system VS the "we need to save you" fees that your province medicare will cover. And depending on the insurance it might not cover all the extra nice perks too. Out of province fees are mad that's why you need to have your own insurance to cover that.
I can totally relate to Kris’ coping strategies of masking her struggles with quirky humour and imaginative role play. She is indeed a beautiful soul. ❤
I’ve never had a huge amount of depression, but I had a really bad episode during quarantine. Looking at this video from the eyes of my past self makes me feel very thankful. Thank you to both Kris and Mike for everything you do. And to anyone struggling, you aren’t alone. 💚
Isn't it amazing how something like playing a game online and connecting with others out there helped during that time? It helped me for sure.
As someone who suffers from both bipolar depression and an eating disorder i really appreciate you opening up like this Kris ❤
I watch TH-cam to help cope with anxiety, depression etc. It's amazing how many of my favourite content creators have similar struggles as I do. For some reason I don't feel soo bad when I hear others talk about mental health. It makes me realise I'm not alone. It's easy to feel isolated and alone, like no one else could understand what you are going through. I also find that realising that if you can't change something, worrying won't help. If you can take action, it will make you feel better than avoidance.
I’ve had eating problems and also mental health problems for over a year now and it’s hard, but I understood everything after I read this quote… “Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." Which is soooo true
as someone who has overcome my eating disorder of 6 years, it wont be easy, but i believe in you :))
@@Sen.6902 💛I appreciate it! Thank you for that motivation.. you’re strong and i’m glad you got through it :3
Kris really just helped me understand my OCD a little more through this. It was almost like she was finishing my sentences (or sandwiches, what Riley would have said). Hearing her talk about her experiences makes me really reflect on myself.
Thank you so much Kris for letting us in and listen to your story.
One thing that i love about Kris is that i see some of myself in her. I have mental health issues and i use writing books and stories as an escape. Ill day dream the scenes i write and see how it plays out. My dad saw how much i spent writing and slowly started figuring out i was struggling
This was therapeutic to just sit and listen to. It's refreshing to have "content creators" just be human and relatable. I hope both of you know, and really believe, how how many lives you've touched, by being yourselves. You'll often hear people speak of being kind to others, but it should really be "be kind to yourself, and others". When Kris spoke of just taking herself out of the equation and looking at it differently, it really spoke to my heart. Thank you both for this conversation!
So clear that this young woman was in a tremendous amount of psychological pain and that she still has her struggles. So glad that she had the courage to share this because so many people can benefit from knowing that they are not alone. I wish her the very best.
Im so thankful to Kris for being so open and vulnerable with us, when she doesn’t have to. But people like her give me hope.
So.thank you.
I had an eating disorder in fifth grade because I was terrified of choking. It lasted for about two years until I came to terms with my fear and now am healthier and happier. Now I like food. I still fear choking, who doesn't? But I am just more careful when I eat and take more time eating then others. Eating Disorders really do not just mean you're afraid of your image or whatever. They are so vast in type
Definitely. My 18 month old has an eating disorder (diagnosed as food aversion) and it obviously has nothing to do with body image. A trauma can start it or fear of pain (he suffered a lot with silent reflux when he was a newborn).
what eating disorder did you have?
I’m a bit late but can’t believe anyone else had this, glad you got out of it
I’m so thankful for Kris.
Her videos have really encouraged me through some of my rough times. I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety, OCD, PTSD, depression, ADHD and have been hospitalized twice. Knowing that there are other people out there like me has just really encouraged me.
Praying for you Kris, I’m so happy that you opened up to all of us. 🙏🏻❤️
the way mike holds eye contact and listens to Kris and her story is just so..
The crossover we didnt deserve, but needed. Their vibe together is on point
I think Kris meant to say or is trying to say that you have to pay for health insurance when it comes to prescriptions if it isn’t covered by your job. Seeing a doctor is free in Canada as well as going to the emergency whether you have insurance or not. At least that is the case in the province of Alberta. Amazing chat, thank you both for being so honest and vulnerable!
I came here to say this too that was so confusing to hear especially because shes in the same province as me 🤣 Ive never heard of hospital fees either tho its all MSP covered??
It's "paid" through our taxes that's why it's free 😅 I was hoping someone would mention it too !!
@@Kissuforever paid not payed. Payed is a nautical term.
@@MiriaJiyuu Oop my bad! Corrected it.~ thanks for saying.
Same here in Ontario. It's free at the point of service, paid for by taxes.
Because of you, Kris and Mike, I have learned about ED and have started researching it, so then I could help anyone with it. As much as I could, even if it’s a little effort. I think the fact you trust people to know about you issues, it’s beautiful.
As a sister of someone who had schizophrenia, mental health issues are no joke. I also wanted to put out there that I live in Ontario, Canada and I have never waited that long for any medical care or situation (hospital MRI, etc) nor have any of my family members or friends that I know of. I heard this on the video and have heard it on the news but have not experienced it. For example, my husband got a colonoscopy on a Saturday morning where a biopsy was done and by Monday morning he was seen at the hospital by a surgeon. The biopsy results took about a week and it was found he had colon cancer. He had to get a body scan done and other tests and two weeks after that he had his colon removed...at no cost to him btw. My sister had cancer and had tests done right there in the hospital with no waiting at all and was admitted that day, where she stayed until she sadly passed away after receiving excellent care, again no cost to her except for the ambulance ride to the hospital which cost about 40 dollars. I think the difference may be that where I live we have urgent care centres to go to rather than the ER for non-emergent care like broken bones, etc. If it is not an emergency and you can't get into your doctor's office for whatever reason (weekend, etc) you go to the urgent care centre so that the ER can be used for emergencies.
I have lived in Canada all my life and she is waaaaaay off on 🇨🇦 Canada’s health system! Our Health Care is free and we don’t pay for insurance! Psychiatrists are free, but certain specialists you have to pay for like psychologists if you don’t want to wait for those in the public system. Yes you have to pay if you want a private room in the hospital if you don’t have work insurance, but a regular bed is free. I don’t know what she was talking about.
Yeah I am really confused about her experience. Where in Canada do you have to wait 3h in agony with a broken bone and pay ?
Of course if you go to the ER with an ear infection you’re going to stay there like 12h, but a broken clavicule?
The difference even between hospitals in the same city can be drastic. And we mostly rely on our own experiences.
The hospital closest to me I've heard numerous horror stories about, one healtcare worker I know refuses to send patients there, and one has a signed document that even in time sensitive accidents, an ambulance can't drop them there. Yet I've had 3 surgeries there and everything was fine.
All you can do is listen and accept that this was their experience.
My condolences.
@@petit0renardI waited 5hrs was sent home and had to come back the next day in Hamilton ON with a broken arm/elbow and we had to pay for the cast. I know it's not paying the whole bill, but it sucked.
I have OCD, and mine mostly surrounds colors. I have to eat food in rainbow order, I have to sort things by color, I have to organize everything by color, etc. Thank you for talking about your OCD affecting your ED Kris. I felt so alone in how odd my symptoms are, so seeing someone else have unconventional symptoms makes me feel like I'm not alone anymore.
This hits close to home. My best friend has an ED and recently pursued an outpatient program and I am beyond proud of her for taking that step because I know how hard it was to do. I appreciate Kris for sharing her perspective and normalizing mental health struggles. Someone you know or any stranger may be suffering in silence and we can do a world of good by having a little more compassion. ❤️
Im from Canada had my overy removed they did a ultra sound, mri , ct , bone scan and stayed two nights after surgery paid nothing , heath care sucks for colds and broken bones but i got amazing care for my emergancy i feel so blessed im not american or i would be in debt for life 😅
I really wish every doctor was like mike,gives me peace that there are doctors like him, i struggle with ed, depression, anxiety and adhd and some doctors have been really awful so this channel helps a ton
We love you Kris! I'm 45 and have battled my ED for over 30 years. You are NOT alone! It's absolutely worth fighting that "devil on your shoulder"! Thank you for your vulnerability. Your content brings me so much joy. I am a 4 time left leg amputee with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and sometimes the combination of chronic illnesses gets hard to deal with. You have helped me through so many hard times. Keep on rocking!!! ❤🤘
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Thank you Kris for your vulnerability in sharing your story. You're speaking to the lives of others too. I have found some of the same struggles too. Thank you Dr. Mike for continually using your platform to allow people to know that they're not alone. That we deserve better than what's out there.
13:25 For clarity and so as to not spread misinformation, you do not require insurance to be treated by general doctors or hospitals in Canada, especially not the ER. All procedures deemed "medically necessary" are covered and do not require you to pay for the treatment you received. Specialist or elective procedures can differ, i.e. eye doctors and dentists are not covered. For prescriptions, it can be helpful to have insurance to help reduce the cost of that or you can pay out of pocket.
I literally almost cried from this while watching this on my TV, I would say that this was very emotional for me as well for personal reason! Nobody should go through this at all…especially younger kids who struggle I just feel bad I wish everyone the best memories they can have! I just wish there were people like Kris and Mike who are very special people like everyone else❤🫶🏼
Kris, thank you for speaking out about your struggles, I hope you know how many people you're helping! Dr. Mike, thank you for being compassionate and asking thoughtful questions! You two truly represent the best in humanity 😊❤
I really appreciate that she talked about relapsing, and about how the process of ‘recovery’ never really ends. It’s a comfort to remember that it’s natural, and like she said: it’ll pass.
Something I love is that she does not journal. Every person I’ve seen who struggled with mental health issues seems to suggest journaling like it’s a universal savior. I find it so stressful bc I write all the time for work. There are more things to do than just journal, and you can heal without doing it.
These conversations are so important! Not only for the ones that have gone/até going through mental health issues, but to everyone em general, because it’s really educational.
As someone who’s currently struggling with my mental health, including ED, I can only thank you both so much, so so much for this video.
I don't have an ED, but I suffer from severe, debilitating anxiety and major depression. This was good to hear. It was hard to listen to, because it hits close to home, but hearing that other people truly understand that devil on your shoulder telling you constantly that you're a failure, and that they were able to find healthy coping mechanisms, gives me hope. I don't ever expect my anxiety to go away, but learning how to cope with it better is really the goal.
So sorry to hear you’re going through this. I also used to have terrible depression and anxiety. The works of Dr. Gabor Mate really helped. Best of luck, friend.
@Lucianne Beans thank you so much, I'll look into Dr. Mate!
Wow. Kris is really mature and very well spoken. That’s the best podcast I’ve seen so far
I appreciate Dr. Mike’s calmness and well rounded understanding of OCD, anxiety, ED’s, etc. These are all complex issues but he seems to have a good grasp in a way where he can assist
Her talking about how it was a control aspect more so than image is so true. I essentially gave myself the eating disorder as a way to torture myself during a period of time where I believed I needed to be tortured but not in an obvious attention seeking way. Then it became an obsession obviously and took over my life
I appreciate people that are open about mental health. There’s so much weird energy around it. I’ve always been an open book about mine. I have bipolar disorder, an anxiety disorder, ocd and adhd. I’m medicated for all of it. I’ll tell anyone any info they want to know. If I can just make one person feel less alone by sharing then I’m happy
As a GI nurse in downtown Vancouver I can say with certainty “discomfort” is not a reason enough to get an urgent scope. That would be reserved for someone who’s extremely anemic, suspected active bleed (likely melena) or for lower scopes it would be: bright red blood, severe flare of undiagnosed IBD. Otherwise you’re sent/referred to whichever Dr is on-call that day, and if they have time because they have to get in-pt done first. Otherwise it could be a week or two to get the gastroscopy done unless symptoms escalate.
She is such a strong person. Thank you so much both of you.
I have been a fan of Kris's for years. I knew she was going through alot. To hear her talk brought me to tears because it really made me look at myself. The irrational thoughts are my worst inner demon. I was told most of my life that nothing I do is correct or acceptable to societal norms. It took me 32 years to be able to say that I'm just weird and that's ok. I hope 1 day to be able to look back and be proud of my growth as a woman. One day.
If you ever need to talk I am here for you as well as other people you are beautiful and I was told the same thing as well you are not alone Sending you love and hugs ❤
Hearing Kris talk is like listening to myself, even in therapy I’ve never felt more understood in my life- which is something I really wasn’t expecting from watching this video. I don’t know how to explain it, it just hit somewhere different. From one Canadian gal to another, you’re not alone and I appreciate you so much. I wish I could give you the biggest hug; we’ll get through this- I promise 💛
Really interesting to learn more about the Canadian healthcare system. My dad and step-mom live there, but I live in the US. It seems like it's kind of similar to the US, where you can potentially have to wait long... unless you are a really effective advocate for yourself or a doctor can advocate for you and get you in to see specialists or get tests sooner. I love that Dr. Mike really encourages and focuses on patients advocating for themselves. It's so important!
This made me realize how much Kris has been through and helped me realize that I’m going through most of what she’s going through. I can’t remember much of it because I think my attention span is getting shorter by the day. I’m glad I didn’t zone out while typing this. Thanks for making this video and idc how long ago it was. I love you you show awareness to things and how Kris opened up. Thanks for being on my FY page, both of you ❤❤❤
This video really spoke to me..she is so open and honest and Doctor Mike is so compassionate and empathising with her. Zero judgement given to her, which is almost never seen these days on social media..loved the chemistry too! Looking forward to more videos!
I haven't had much experience with ED but definitely depression - I wanted to say i love and appreciate all that you do and i'm glad you are here and able to talk about this! Take care of yourself and glad that Doctor Mike really gives us the right questions that i had too! Thank you both and Love you all
tacI had a anxiety attack a couple years ago--I would not wish it on my worst enemy. I then went on to suffer these attacks on a daily basis, and I turned to alcohol to help--it only made it worse. I then spoke to my doctor and they gave me amitrypline. That and coaching with other in similar situation, has helped me greatly. The intrusive thoughts that came out of no where, and I could not cope with, are help at bay.
Always know that someone can help you with this---talk to your care provider.
I literally can not express how much I needed this video. I relate to Kris more than I've ever related to anyone in my life, and this video really made me feel a million times less alone. Thank you so so much for doing this, it has seriously helped me realise a lot of thing about my own life, and I'm sure it has helped a million other people too. 💗
I'm very happy to see that Kris decided to have this open discussion with you on your channel. She is fearlessly open on camera in regards to her struggles. Thank you to you both. The big question remains, how do we fix the flaws in our Health Care systems to better care for the needs of the individual? Maybe that is a question that just continuously needs to be asked and acted upon
Doctor Mike - I hope you are the future of medicine because we all need doctors with your down to earth understanding, compassion and insight! And Kris, I think you are incredibly clever, unique, hysterical, (gorgeous) and truly brilliant! Much love to you both from NYC.
I didn't except to be crying first thing in the morning but I did. I'm really grateful to Kris for speaking about it because even though I don't struggle with the same stuff, it helps me understand a lot more and when I apply what she said to things I experienced, it really does help. Thank you Kris for opening up again because it makes me realise really how many people struggle with similar things and how we arent really that alone in what we're going through. Thank you kris❤
Wow, this was tough. I wish I could reach thru the screen & hug Kris. She brings such joy & laughter to so many people. I wish she could see herself thru our eyes. She seemed uncomfortable speaking about her struggles, & we all adore her just the way she is.
For someone who has struggled with ED, and has depression this video really helped me feel like i'm not alone. Thankyou both for helping me and many others feel safe and helping us see that their is a light at the end of the tunnel and that we have to just push through. You guys are an inspiration to everyone you meet and everyone who watches you. ❤❤
Thank you for pointing out that patients should not have to prove they are ill. They are ill. A specific diagnosis should be between the patient and the doctor or therapist. As someone overweight, I'm constantly treated like I need to prove that any pain or illness isn't just cuz I'm fat. In many ways, I'm fat because of my other health issues but have to fight my doctor's constantly.
Kris being open about her ED and other things really really has helped me deal with mine in a less negative light ❤
Watching this I now see a part of why she is so successful with her content.
Her videos very often tap into the realness of our lives. She brings forth much of what we all experience and shines a bit of humor on it.
Many blessings for her success and I hope her journey of the ups and downs can be met with patience and grace.
You are a brave woman that you can openly and publicly talk about what you went through in the past, and let us know we are not the only one goes through such thing. I believe that everyone in some point of their life goes through this and have to fight for it.
I love your personality and I love how the natural you you are Kris❤
I don't comment very often but I just wanted to say thank you to Dr Mike for making this video and a massive thank you to Kris for speaking so open to everyone! You've made me realise that I have an eating disorder. I've been hiding it by saying I'm poor but really that's just a blanket over the issue. Truly mindblown! Thank you
Little late to the comments but something I like to say to myself and really kind of grounds me is, "You have 100% survived all your worst days." I feel like I can never fail if I have survived 100%. Absolutely loved this video and everything it stands for.
Kris being so open and honest is genuinely heart warming, making her relatable to even a near age 50 woman like myself... Love her ❤
after finding kris when my own depression was bad, she brought me some joy, so seeing her thriving is so heart-warming
not me crying while watching this because things nobody ever said aloud before to me, especially from a health care provider when seeking help and seemingly getting no answers - are being stated loud and clear, things I only thought were ever my own issues or realities. I'm emotional. Thank you for this. I have social anxiety and I struggle really hard to stand up for myself or speak up for myself when trying to get answers at my primary health clinic so I will carry this as another strong step toward self-advocation and help. Thank you and Kris soo much for doing and sharing this
This really hits home for me. I was raised by my abusive older sister amd her pet name for me was ugly. That's what she called me every day of my life until I was 16. She let her son physically abuse me and all that stress caused me to develop an eating disorder. I wasn't able to look anybody in the eyes until i was 17 and i never even knew i did that until a guy i liked pointed it out.
Eating disorders can be triggered by many things. Kris is so courageous for bringing this to light. God bless her beautiful soul.