WHY I RELAXED MY NATURAL HAIR AFTER 6 YEARS. (Natural hair is overrated).
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ค. 2021
- The first step to living YOUR life and living it freely is to do what you want without the fear of what people will say or think. I've been wanting to get a relaxer for a long time and i'm so glad I finally did. I DO NOT MISS MY NATURAL HAIR! Take autonomy of your life, from the crown of your head to the sole of your feet.
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Hair salon: Muse hair & beauty salon
Service: Virgin relaxer
How many tubs of relaxer did I use? 3
Was it relaxed fully? No the best way to have healthy relaxed hair is to leave some texture.
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Natural hair is not overrated. People’s OPINIONS on natural hair is overrated.
It's an individual's opinion on whether something is overrated or not. To you and for your life style it's seems to not be. For her and others...it is for them. I think it's silly to to pretend that you. OPINION of natural hair is a fact,when it's not. It's just an opinion or preference. Me personally, I think as long as my hair is healthy...it doesn't matter if it's natural curly or relaxed. It's up to the individual how the enjoy wearing their hair, which THEY ARE ALLOWED TO CHANGE. We are not in a cult.
I agree 👍🏿
I think she means more so from a manageability perspective. Let’s be honest, our hair can take A LOT of care and time and it can be frustrating. I honestly don’t mind because I’ve learned how to cut my time down after years of being natural and I also make it a very soothing/relaxing experience rather than a chore. I actually look forward to my wash days now!
@@chocolat917 Thank you! ♥️
Just like assholes...we all have one and are allowed to have one lol
People had something to say after I transitioned to natural. Then were mad when I shaved it into a nice fade. And now they angry because I have locs! People are never satisfied. Just do you and be happy. I love the results.❤️
I really don't understand why people have anything to say about anyone's hair. It ain't their business. Police patrol somewhere else.
10 years natural. I realized I've had enough after noticing that I wear wigs more than my own hair now. It just takes SO MUCH TIME to care for and sometimes my schedule gets too busy to set time aside for it.
yes! I refused to have a whole day, sometimes two because my hair is so thick, just to wash.
THISSSSSSSSS!!!!
Yes...I am 3 years in.....high density hair......BSL .......I am about to relax my hair.....just researching the hair care regimes and prodcts
Cut my 4b/4c hair. Rocking a short Afro. Can braid and do stuff with it but I can also wear it out. ✂️ ✂️✂️
Preach!!!!
Literally watching this while sitting under the dryer after relaxing my hair and cutting it into a pixie after being natural for 21 years, 2 months and 12 days.
Guess what? IDGAF what NOBODY has to say about it. So do you and love yourself sweetheart, nobody controls you but YOU!
Period.
Love this for you 💕
I agree with you on this one. People need to mind their own business and stop being nosey AF.
After realizing the absurdity of how long my wash days are after hearing myself say it out loud to my therapist, I am definitely considering going back to relaxers after 12 years being natural. I have similar length and thickness to her. There’s so many more important things I can be doing with the hours I spend detangling, washing my hair in sections (still tangles) detangling AGAIN, deep conditioning, blow drying and plaiting my hair. My relaxed hair was long too even without me knowing what I know now about hair care.
I'm under the dryer now. I relaxed after 15 years
eeeek! omg! Girl I'm happy for you. I know you're going to look gorge 😍
Oh wow ! Good for you !!!
Did you notice a lot of shedding ? I want a relaxer but I am scared my hair will fall out 😩
@@jassn6957 I did have some shedding after my first wash day but nothing alarming
15 yrs relax free i am getting a relaxer. My arm kills me to blow dry for 1 hour
OMG I can relate to ALL of this!! I've only been natural 5yrs now, I'm 55 yrs old, I don't have the time or patience for this. I don't feel like an adult, it's a constant battle, wash day for me is like 2 days. Yes it's pretty/healthy, but I'm tired tired tired, everyone says, "don't cut it/relax it, your hair is so pretty" but no one has to deal with my hair but me. Done venting.
Exactly! I'm going back to relaxed hair
I agree with the I don't feel like an adult part.
@@sheilasimbine4991 Wait I’m kind of confused about that part. Wdym?
@@AT-mq9wk I think it’s because she’s worried about her hair more than going out and doing adult things because she has to struggle with her hair
@A T maybe she means the protective styles of braids and twist and high puffs may look juvenile
Natural or relaxed is a choice
There is nothing wrong with deciding to relax or staying natural !
I don't understand where the fuss comes from really !
We are free to do what we want .
We are more than just hair !!!
Soooo I’m not relaxing my hair and i don’t plan to but i agree with this statement! The natural hair movement is actually hella toxic. The stress of not knowing how my hair will look throughout the day, the daily manipulation, the obsession with certain textures, the DAMAGE….judging people based on their hair style and maintenance choices…i got over it. I have about 4 styles that always look good that i enjoy but the other 96% of the natural hair bullshit i am over. The obsession over texture, i don’t even wear my natural texture! I do not enjoy wash n goes. It makes my ends damaged. I wear my hair stretched 100% of the time. I am debating on heat training my hair bc I’ve done it before…but the natural hair community ugh.
GIRRLLLL it is so draining, people get bullied for their texture and STILL get bullied for not wearing their hair a certain way. I just knew it was time to do me. 💕❤️
The comm “unity” had me scared 😱 of heat training/ heat damage now my hair is more manageable and things make sense
Natural hair isn’t overrated. It’s just not for you, there’s a big difference.
And I’m dead at the relaxed version still looking texlaxed. Her natural hair fought back lol
no natural hair is definitely overrated. & i have natural hair. ppl say “it’s healthier to be natural” no… a relaxer just changes the curl pattern. it doesn’t make ur hair any less healthier. i’m definitely getting a relaxer so that i can get some microlinks.
It’s OVERRATED. It’s time consuming and expensive to maintain.
fr like how can the hair growing out of your head be overrated
@D&B D&B Dont be silly. What's laziness got to do with it. Natural textures can be a headache to maintain. Some Naturalistas are so damn toxic.
I’m a professional stylist, I’ve been natural 9 years and I’m over it. Im tired of the protective styles I’m sick of wigs and closures ect i want my hair or just a regular ole sew in with leave out w/o being scared of what it might look like in this Mississippi heat! I can’t wait till tonight lol
Can we hear an update 👀 did you relax your hair? Do you love it?
@@frannie045 yes! I relaxed it. And yes i live it lol. I’ve been enjoying leave outs and easy /quick wash days. I was scared I’d regret it and miss my curls but i do not. 😃
@@facinganya7798 omg so happy for you 😍 I hope you keep enjoying it! I’ll definitely alter to that if my hair gets too unmanageable
Reading this thread is convincing me to relax! I’ve wanted to relax for the past 2 years, it’s probably time
@@facinganya7798 you said your a professional stylist!!! Where you located?
I think natural hair is hard to maintain because we just try to do the mooosssttt. We don't use wanna use heat we don't wanna use flat irons we don't wanna color it we don't want to use silicones, soooo many rules. We do everything to avoid damage and is like bruhhh if it were any other hair type we damage the hell out of it but natural hair we always try to keep it in pristine condition. It's unrealistic. I blow dry my hair everytime I wash it or twist it cuz ain't nobody got time to wait for it to dry. I will color it I will press it out I don't give a crap I'm done trying to have the healthiest hair on the block. I don't care if I get heat damage (I haven't got any yet thank goodness). Once in a while the the creamy crack tempts me but then I remember that was also a lot of work too for me so I just chill with my naturally hair for now.
This is how I feel as well now I won’t do things to purposely damage it but I’m gonna enjoy it I jsut flat ironed it. There is a thing called mechanical damage as naturals so not using heat and air drying and not using silicones isn’t everything.
Your hair looks beautiful both ways! My hair is manageable for me natural so I stay natural but if it ain’t working ladies, change it! It’s your life! No ones going to be dealing with your hair but you at the end of the day.
Yeah my 4a hair is difficult
I don’t think natural hair is overrated. I think it’s beautiful. However, I do think that people need to stop criticizing other people’s choices whether relaxed or natural. I love your relaxed hair. It came out great. I’m going to subscribe to see your routine. I also love my natural hair.
bottom line the experience of one is not the experience of all.....natural or relaxed it's all good just love yourself and support others
Omg, it takes me an hour, sometimes more just to detangle my hair. As soon as I figure out how to safety color and relax my hair, I’m doing it. People who are not natural and natural hair women without coarse and tightly coiled hair do not understand the struggle.
I understand your struggle girl, I once detangled late at night and was not done till 2pm the next day. Thank goodness I'm done with that.
Naturals complain about breakage, shrinkage, lack of styling options & inability to comb hair. My relaxer got rid of all that! I'm Silky & happier than ever! 🤍🌹
Been natural for almost 9 years. Had locs. Grew them down my back. Cut them off. Wore a short basically bald cut. Afro. Etc etc. I am tired and will be relaxing my hair at the end of this month after I take out these crochet braids. It’s just hair and I’ve had it all.
Same…After 13 years Sisterlocked, hair almost to my butt. Cut them off and relaxed my hair… got a sassy cut pixie cut…I am 51 years old I need easy.
Your natural hair is exactly like mine and our experiences are so similar. I'm OVER it. My hair is currently in cornrows so as soon as I get these out I'm heading straight to my stylist to relax my hair. 3 years of nothing but pain and struggle and I'm tired.
yes girl, do what is best for you 💕💕
thank you so much
This!!
Same. I’m over it. I have three heads worth of hair on my head,it’s thick and dense. I’m exhausted.
Go to a beautician to do your natural hair it's simple
I’ve been natural 10 years only worn my hair out once and I’m so ready for a relaxer your hair looks beautiful 😍
Thank you so much 💕. Good luck on your new journey.
That entire salon session was so relaxing to watch 😊 (no pun intended)💕
I'm glad you enjoyed it 🥰💕
Where’s the pun luv? 😅 slow today.
@@MsXtines cuz she got a relaxer... And the video was relaxing
@@DogKahlua aha! thanks lol, I think GIN has fried all my brain cells!
I just finished the process of relaxing my hair and I am choked with the length it's to have of my back! Shrinking was killing me. My hair never passed my neck . So happy with the result.
Thank you for posting this 👏🏾Relaxers have such a bad reputation due to improper usage and people not knowing how to maintain the health of their hair while relaxed. Natural hair is not the only route to have beautiful, healthy hair. I am glad that you decided to do what's best for YOU. Your results were phenomenal 😍😍
I agree! We have better knowledge now on how to use relaxers, we need to stop shaming people for doing what is best for them. Thank you 💕
@@ValerieAdah new subbie.....I will relax my hair.......
@@francenegayle3866 thank you 😘 and I hope you love your new hairstyle
@Trinity M that's what protein treatments and bond repair treatments are for lol
I agree, even though I have thinner, looser hair texture, I find people putting more value on my 4a hair than me. Especially since I'm a goth. It's like the black community it telling me my hair is the last part of me thats "black enough" but I'm tired of us regionalizing and limited what "black" is. Black is everything and I don't think a black human has to act or do anything to be black at all. The skin should be enough. I'm perking my hair. I'm black, and I'm plenty black enough. Black is diverse and versatile so, stop trying to stereotype it
period boo!
Preach
Yeah natural hair is not easy. Of course, this is to be expected because it is not normalised to us. Some of our mothers passed on the knowledge that relaxing our hair was the only way we could deal with it. I'm glad you did what is best for you. Your hair is beautiful too.
I've been six years natural as well and I am still going through times when I hate my hair. My hair has been dry, breaking, won't hold styles, dull. But I chose not to give up on it. I feel like this is part of the process. Very few people are used to natural hair anyway, so I feel our negative feelings towards it is totally normal. Also, I know that learning about my hair as it naturally grows will be worth it in the end because I can pass on the things I learn to my daughter. She will get to know that her natural hair is totally normal and that she has other options not just relaxers
Have you gotten a trim lately? A lot of times if my hair won't hold styles or is breaking, it's time for a good trim.
I was JUST about this. I’ve been natural for 7 sevens as soon as I come back from vacation I’m putting my relaxer in. Thank you for posting this.
You're welcome 💕
I understand your sentiments - as someone who relaxed after having lose natural hair for 9 and locs for 4.5 I relaxed after combing out my locs BUTT I canNOT say natural hair is overrated! I think ppl jumped on the bandwagon without the commitment/ intentions of ( learning) taking of it. Ppl had dreams of a certain ** hair pattern. Abs often wanted their type 4 to mimic. Honestly MY natural hair experience was a bliss💕I’m now transitioning back to natural! If anything do what you want. It’s YOUR hair but that’s a really blanketed statement
Yes
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exactly!
You saying it's not overrated is also a generalized statement 🙄 she is talking about her own experience as are you. One doesn't have to be right , both can be true due to personal experiences 🤷🤦
my hair type is 3b/3c I am just tired of my natural hair and I want to go back to wearing it straight .
You have to do what makes you happy. Me personally I stopped relaxing 3 years ago and folks was mad I was going natural. They didn't want to hear my stories of me experiencing hair loss. The older I got my hair couldn't take the relaxers anymore so I understand completely. Your hair looks beautiful ❤️
Thank you so much. And you're absolutely right, we should do what is best for us
😮THE SHRINKAGE. When I saw the cream going on I was like damnnnnnnnnn. Your hair looks so long and luscious after 😍
Thank you 🥰💕
Im here because imma relax my hair im tired and agree with everything you said
Go ahead and do what you want girl, no regrets over here 💕
It's crazy hey. My hair used to thrive when relaxed then I big chopped went natural for just over 2 years, had postpartum hair loss then I big chopped again last year and the growth is so damn slow. I'm really frustrated with natural hair at this point. Mind you my second big chop was Oct 2020. I'm just gonna do me now. Do you go to the salon for ever relaxer?
@@peanutsgem2852 this is my first relaxer so I went to the salon and I plan on continuously going to the salon, I can't risk any damage. Do what is best for you hun, don't let people tell you that you can't have healthy relaxed hair cause you can! 💕
I love the versatility of natural hair. I get a silk press once or twice a year and it's glorious but I like how it's not permanent. I will never relax again. My suggestion for naturals contemplating relaxers is to try a silk press to take a break from the kinks. Seriously it's like a vacation. It allows us to continue our natural hair journey.
What's your hair type
Silk presses don’t even last a day for me!
Girl, All Naturals Have Done All of That Already. You’re Late
@ Jolie hahah you 😂 funny
@@shadae68 LMFAO. right if they wanted a silk press they woulda got one 😂
I disagree. Natural hair is gorgeous not overrated at all. I started my journey over 7 hrs ago, don't regret it at all. Relaxer thinned me bad, took a whole year to grow back thin and bald edges. Now I don't do all the 10 steps. Just wash it, condition it and style it. I wear a lot of scarfs that I tie a bow in front, very cute. I braid my hair underneath, don't wash it for 4-6 weeks and my hair grows 3 inches during that time. And I'm 64 yrs old, hair is thick, healthy and long.
I do wear half wigs in the winter, but not too often. Can't stand weaves and wigs to much. I'll do crochet for a couple of weeks. But I love wearing my own hair. I wear a lot of top buns, very cute.
Yes! I feel like being natural a lot of people think their hair is growing more because of the switch from relaxed but what I really think is happening is that being natural gives people the opportunity to grow with their hair and learn what it likes and doesn’t like and what works for them that’s why people say they see more growth as a natural. When I relaxed years ago I didn’t know anything and wasn’t caring for my hair properly and I didn’t have that option to ignore it once it was natural. I plan to relax again but use the tips and tricks I learned to keep my hair and scalp healthy. I used to relax every couple months as a teen lol it was horrible. Going to stretch these to 2-3 times a year only. I loved being natural but what’s the point if I have to hide my hair because i don’t have time for 5+ hours of washing and styling.
Yes that true. Thank you for the insight!
Getting my perm on September 24th I’m so excited because I can’t do anything with my natural hair it takes a minimum of 5 hours for me to do anything to it I’m over it! Your hair looks good asf I wish people would stop looking down on relaxed hair as if we didn’t get perms when we we kids… wish me luck 🤞🏽
Getting relaxed today 😌 so excited! My mother would always tell me no when i begged her for one, but now I can ask for it on my own! My first ever relaxer after 27 years!
Girl I'm happy for you, you're going to love it
This is honestly me right now. I stopped doing my hair myself because it was exhausting, Even the woman at the salon get exhausted doing my hair 😅 I just want to wake up a slick down my hair without a fight 🤣🤣
I did the big chop twice. Detangling and braiding my hair hurts. Having natural hair is expensive and time consuming. Some natural products are not even natural ingredients and caused me some breakage. Let’s not forget how expensive wigs & weaves are.
EXACTLY! I have not worn a wig or weave since I got a relaxer
Girl...I feel you!!! I was there and relaxed my hair on 11/27 after being natural since 2014. I have big chopped quite a few times because my hair is very thick and takes a lot of time. I didn't need people's approval when I chose to relax it, I just needed to know that it was the right thing for me at this point in time. I needed my hair to be healthy as that's what I'm about but it wasn't getting the love and care it needed as I no longer had the time and it was tiring having to detangle and style my hair.
As long as your hair is healthy and you have peace of mind that's what matters most.
Texlaxed my hair yesterday after 6 years natural. Haven’t even styled it yet but I’m not regretting a damn thing. I used to sweaaarr by natural hair but I’m totally over it. Tired of styling and looking…not my best. It’s your hair, your life, do whatever tf u want lol
YES GIRL! 💕
Yes your point about styling and not looking your best this is me I loved my natural hair I’m not relaxed but I’ve flat ironed and I like it. I honestly think keeping it in natural state and air drying hurt my hair a bit, if i didn’t do protective styles I’d be bald I’m turning 40 and want to let my hair down literally
I’ve been contemplating for the past few months. I just don’t have the time to deal with my natural hair although it’s beautiful. And I am tired of wigs!
This is definitely a sign. Thanks for sharing your experience your hair is beautiful!
Thank you so much 💕. And I hope you like yours if you decide to go ahead
I relax first time in May, I’m getting my touch up this up coming Sunday. I’m so HAPPY I went back to relaxers. I prefer it this way!
Girl, it’s your hair! You do what you like. You don’t have to feel shame bcs you put relaxer. You do what it’s best for you 😊
I went back to the relaxer last week. No regrets. But thanks to you tube I feel I can better care for my hair now
I am buzzing down to the salon at the end of the month. I've been natural for 4yrs and currently natural hair is not for me. I just don't have the time and money. Took me two days to do my own braids. I can always go back to natural hair when I'm in a better space.
EXACTLY! 💕
I'm relaxing my hair today for the first time in a year. And I'd been relaxing my hair for years prior.
But I'm so fed up keeping my natural hair because other people said no. Like shut up, you're not the one washing it, combing it and firming the pain that came with maintaining it. Tireeeeed 😂
You look amazing either way though girl, I'm here for it 😍😍😍
Your hair is beautiful and thriving! I'm glad to see someone do what works for them. I'm still on the fence. My hair is not nearly as thick as yours, but if I just do what I want, I'm sure I'll get back to that.
I get it! I had relaxers for years and when I lived overseas, it was actually easier to get authentic professional relaxers there than it is back in the US where you have a 50% chance of getting fake products! I have no understanding why some relaxers do not sell the real stuff be cause I think that bad experiences with "Professionals" is one reason so many women go natural. I hated going to "Professional" stylist who without fail, caused my hair to break and it led me to going natural. When I finally grew out every inch of relaxer out of my hair, I started turned grey at breakneck speed, so the conundrum became do I dye my hair or relax it? At some point only perm. dye covers grey for greater than 2-3 washes even after a vinegar rinse. I have found that with Natural hair I have more hair in my shower than I ever did when I did my own professional product relaxers. With natural hair I wore more wigs and braiding hair that irritated my scalp. With a relaxer my scalp gets air and as long as I alternate protein with hydration my hair it grows and doesn't break as much as it does in the natural state.
It’s nice that the stylist found a way to keep your length but still have it look full. she probably could have taken an inch or so more, but the curls hide the ends very well. Lovely work, and beautiful hair💖
I don’t understand how the natural hair that grows out of your hair is “overrated” 😂 like you’re born that way how can it be overrated. I agree natural hair is hard but that’s cause we keep tryna make it do stuff it’s not meant to do to “fit in”
i saw this video the other day from the 70s or 80s on Instagram and it showed when white women were wearing wigs that looked like Fros !!! Because black women stood together and proudly rocked afros. Anyways trends will constantly change we have free will do what you want with your hair 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Right like girl how the hair that you’re born with isn’t for you? Make it make sense 🥴🥴 even our own people are anti black
We all have options, we can wear our relaxed hair in it natural state, no heat, no color, just wear it as it comes out of our scalp. Or, we can choose to alter the natural hair that comes out of our scalps by coloring it, straightening it, make it curly with roller/flexirods, texlax or relaxer. Just like wearing makeup vs not. You could rock the natural face, no on was born with eyeliner, mascara, lipstick eyeshadow, foundation etc...we have options. Do what works for you at the moment. I was relaxed for years, thick and healthy, decided to go natural because everyone was doing it ..thought I'd try it ...now I'm relaxed after almost 5yrs. I might decide to do something else a month, a year , a few years from now if I get tired of it and want a change. I love healthy hair no matter if it's natural, relaxed, pressed, short, long, curly, straight, fro...wishing the best for everyone on your healthy hair journey
I’m about to relax mine after 10 years. I can’t grow my hair out in a natural state. My hair grew fast when I relaxed and I have 4 daughter’s who are natural and it’s too much work to do mine and theirs. So im done.
Due to fear of COVID 19 exposure I lasted about 9 months. I had to set that fear aside and get a perm. There is no way I could have made it to 6 years or even one year. You did very well to last that long. Your hair is beautiful both ways.
Thank you so much. I'm glad you did what was best for you
Omg I can relate to your natural hair woes. After 7 years natural I am watching all these videos to get ready for a relaxer. I spend way too much time in my hair. When I have to get up at 4am to wash my hair and get it soaking wet just to get it in a bun for work we have a problem. It’s either get a relaxer or big chop again, which I have done twice in the last 7 years when my natural hair was too much to manage by myself. Your hair looks beautiful.
Exactly! why did I spend hours prepping and washing just for the hair to end up in a bun. Thank you sweets 💕. I hope you love your relaxed journey
Bravo to you for taking care of yourself! Your not alone. Thanks for making this video ❤
So in simpler terms what she’s trying to say is that the hair that grows out of her scalp is overrated. 😭😭😭
Just because your born with something doesn’t mean you like it. Afro textured hair (type 4) is not like any other hair type on earth! I’ve been natural for over 20 years and I’m about over it. I may relax myself.
I said the same thing. Idc about people hair. But I'm saying how can the hair that grows out of your scalp be overrated??.
Good for you. I'm glad you are doing your own thing and not letting others choose for you. What's good for one may not be good for the other.
I’ve been been having this thought as of lately. No matter what you decided, you are beautiful either way ✨💕✨
I think natural hair is like a natural bush. If there was a movement where everyone was trying to go for that 70s look again we’d all try it out. Yay to no razors or wax etc. awesome. But there’d be those who still wanted to trim or shave and that should be accepted. You don’t have to embrace what grows out of your body unaltered. So yeah I’m texturized and happy. Your hair looks great either way!
@golden flower child lol…you’re being too literal. It’s an analogy
That wash was so satisfying, I could almost feel the scrub 🤤 either way your hair is definitely beautiful
I’m 3 years natural and my hair is pass my shoulders I’m trying to get to butt length. Never will I ever put that crap in my hair again because my scalp broke out with rashes and inflammation and my hair was falling out little by little each day up to college graduation whereas I big chopped the next day afterwards, going natural was the best decision ever because I felt like I was being myself for once and finally getting to appreciate what God made my hair out to be.. I was told my whole life my hair was ugly and difficult, nappy and “bad stuff” I’ve been forced to hide my hair with fake shit for years because I was told by my mom that my natural was not presentable, but now As a grown woman out in the world on her own IDGAF I wear hijabs everywhere I go and worked no one dared to try me with the questioning of my headwraps I even got my dmv photo taken with it on. never will I use relaxers because it’s made out of sodium hydroxide which is used in drain cleaner and other strong substances like weed killer. No thanks! I wear hijabs as a protective style and I have no problem with not showing my hair as often because it’s no one’s business but mine anyways. If I get tired of doing my hair I do the banding method and put on my hijab and go to sleep lol 🌚 but at the end of the day do you sis! I’m just speaking for me why I wouldn’t do it but I love seeing other people’s results
We All Have Said This 🙄
Are you Muslim? It sounds like you only use a head covering as protective style. How are you embracing your hair if your covering it up?
I got the same reaction when I left perms to going natural, but guess what I'm 61 years old, retired, and loving my long hair. Every one had a negative reaction to it but now I get more compliments now because of my Grey coming in so honey you do you it's your Chanel you do what you want to
It's your life, your hair, your body and you own it period! You really do have thick hair wow! Beautiful!!
Thank you so much 💕
I feel you girl! I got fed up after 18 months. What used to get on my nerves is when you blow dry your hair, and then find its STILL wet at the roots, gave me an itchy scalp. I do my own relaxers now and its great I know exactly what is being used in my hair and no more days wasted at the salon. If my natural hair was really long I can imagine it would probably take 2 days to wash it, I have not got time for that!
Just texlaxed after 6 years and I’ve never been happier. Happy for you sis!
period! thank you 💕
What’s the difference between texlaxed and relax ?
Beautiful Queen. Thank for sharing your journey❤️
I feel the same way.
Wow! I’m going back😅 wash days are dreadful . And I hate paying for a silk press that doesn’t last because the slightest bit of moisture brings my curls out
Out of sheer honesty I've been back and forth with relaxing and being natural and I just can't deal with my natural hair. With my hair it doesn't matter if it's relaxed or not, my hair is SUPER thick and it's just too much of a hassle. I wouldn't ever go natural honestly because it's just too much work and I love low maintenance hairstyles. Plus wearing wigs and braids all the time isnt fun. Getting a relaxer doesn't mean I hate myself or my I don't wanna be black(the toxic side of the natural community swears it's true tho) getting a relaxer means Im doing something that works for me.
That's how mine is!! Super thick and so hard to keep it moisturized. Literally the only style I can wear it in is a high puff. I'm over it.
No need to justify your choice, it just hair. You do what you want and what fits you more! You're so gorgeous with your relaxed strands
I believe the natural hair movement came about to free us from the past. We (generationally) experienced so much suffering and shame around our natural hair; our decision to "straighten" it did not come from an organic desire or free will. It was survival. European beauty standards, societal and professional prejudice, etc. essentially pressured POC women to change their hair. So we did. Then...we became empowered with our right to CHOOSE and to embrace who we are. "I'm going back natural bc I CHOOSE to love myself as I am regardless of what anyone thinks." That was extremely healing for our community. Which I believe was the entire point... to heal and to regain confidence in ourselves as we are... vs who society is telling us to be. Now that we've empowered ourselves with self-esteem and choice, that confidence can be brandished anyway we like... without the guilt, shame, or suffering that came with our hair before. We are free. Now, we can say, "I'm straightening my hair BC I CHOOSE TO; not because I'm being pressured by someone else's standards. I believe we had to go through it to realize we are worthy regardless. We are not our hair. Our hair is an extension of who we are... which may change as time goes on. It's sad to see ppl in the community shaming others for embracing their sovereignty. One is no better than the other. It's all about what makes you happy. Time to put those egos to bed and allow Spirit to have the room. Much peace and love to all and all journeys 🥰🙏🏽❤
Omg I love it! I’ve been natural since 2014 but I just don’t love it anymore. Either I’m cutting it or I’m relaxing it.
Thank you hun. it was between those two options for me as well 😂😂😂 but i didn't want all my hard work down the drain so i went with relaxing. Do what is best for YOU and be unapologetic about it 💕
you did a good job with your natural hair which resulted in the beautiful healthy relaxed version.
Thank you, I agree. I definitely took good care of my natural hair
I like that he took his time to detangle you hair before. Your hair is really Long 🤩🤩😍😍
Lol it's a woman doing my hair. Thank you for the compliment love 💕
My goodness I love youuuuu!!!!
Although I am transitioning currently to natural hair, I know that what you said is FACT!!!
Love you too 🥺💕
When you were talking about the matting….girrrllll yes! My goodness, I’m struggling with all the same things. I was debating between locs and a relaxer but I think I’m settling into the decision to relax the most.
Girl the matting made me shed real tears. Good luck with your decision 💕
Girl your hair looks incredible😍
Thank you so much. Your display pic is beautiful 😍
Why do I love you and this my first time watching you!!!!! 😭😭😭😭
It is always your decision to do what you want with your hair. If you wanted to perm it full joy. Keep us posted on this new journey. Full joy 😊
Hahaha I’m here after 8 years natural with the Itch. Scoot on over girls, this is the convo on repeat in my head.
Natural hair is overrated. I went natural in 2008.
I cut all of my hair off, how most men wear their hair, and attempted to grow it out and I was fed up and went back to be being bald for 12 years.
Now I have locs again and it’s either locs or being bald, because having a natural loose hair is time consuming and too much trail and error. You gotta learn your curl pattern, hair porosity and etc., so anyone in the comments talmbout it’s not overrated is lying.
Some of y’all hardcore, die hard forever naturals with loose hair are toxic. That’s not the point of this video. I digress.
Thank you! You get me!!
@@ValerieAdah no worries love.
I feel like everyone jumped on the natural hair bandwagon, and folks ain’t being truthful about the time you have to invest. It’s a full-time job having natural loose hair. That a job I’m forever retired from 🤷🏽♀️
I give them props for going hard in the paint for their natural hair. Tbh if you look at some of the natural to relaxed hair videos folks really weren’t doing much to sustain their natural hair.
SAME GIRL, SAME!! I'm going back to the creamy crack this Saturday and can't wait after 3 years!
😂😂😂💀 girllllll not creamy crack 😭
@@ValerieAdah 🤣
My sister, it's your hair and do what is easy for you. I told my kids after 5 years of going natural that I am about to relax my hair. As a nurse, I have no time. Even with relaxer, you can still braid if you feel like and it's all about what work for you
I gasped at 14 minutes when your hair flipped over your shoulder!!!!😱😍
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I love how you still have a bit of texture. What relaxer did u use and how long did she keep it in?
Thank you!!!! It takes so much time
I must say I experienced less damage and breakage with Affirm Fibreguard than when transitioned 6 yrs ago to natural hair. My hair can't grow no matter the regimen offered or demonstrated by the natural community. When relaxed my hair grew to bra-hooked length. I can never achieve wash and go twistouts to neck length. Nightmare! I'm just afraid of the chemical effect of developing fibroids that have been known from chemical relaxer usage.
Looks amazing. Love that she didn’t smooth it with a comb. Which relaxer did she use?
I'm here because I also relaxed my hair. It hit me when I took out my braids, I couldn't find anyone to do my hair. I'm on bed rest for my 3rd pregnancy so getting my hair braided for 6+hours wasn't an option. Hubby ran to the store and bought me 2 relaxers. Not even 2 boxes could do my hair so the ends still have a lot of texture which I don't mind. But baby🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️ after 10 years of natural, I can go to the store without hours in the bathroom. I feel so free🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿. Now I'm going to invest in my relax hair and get professional treatment. Back then I didn't know how to take care of relax hair. And I paid for it. My life has change, and my hair was more maintenance than I could handle in this season.
YES TO THIS! I am also investing in my relaxed hair. Cheers to our new journey
I have the thickest, kinkiest coils and doing my hair is such a time-consuming struggle. I usually wear my hair in an Afro because I don’t have the will to wash my hair, condition it, comb it and try to do a “low-manipulation” style. My hair also gets dry easily and non of the products I use seem to moisturize my strands well enough. I’ve though about relaxing my hair but I’m not sure. I don’t like the harsh smell of the chemicals and the hairstylists I went to never seemed to wash the relaxer out of my hair properly. I know my hair is more manageable when it’s straight for me. I’ve also thought about heat training my hair too, but silk press for my hair type is harder.
Those were the exact same reasons why I relaxed my hair after 5 years natural. Don't regret it.
I hated my hair when I left the salon after relaxing it for the very first time 6 months ago. It was flat and thin looking, then I washed it that same day and instead of flat ironing I just blow dried and I fell in love. My hair looked thick and full again like I was used to. Now my relaxed blowdried hair looks like my flat ironed natural hair. Very happy with my decision.
The results are BEAUTIFUL 😍 and luscious
Thank you hun 💕
At the end of the conversation I am just saying don't use a no lye relaxers because they are calcium hydroxide and they are known to dry out black hair an break it off. Lye relaxers (sodium hydroxide)have to be used carefully too. But they do not lock out moisture. Our hair takes at least three years to grow back. The book Beautiful Black Hair (vol 2) by famous hairstylist Shamboosie explains why calcium hydroxide or no lye relaxers are extremely bad for afro type hair. He recommends Nexus moisturizing shampoos and conditioners.
I love my curls and to be natural but my texture is also different than yours and is more manageable. But natural hair isn’t easy no matter what texture so people should understand why u relaxed. It is also your head, your business, and YOUR TIME. Natural hair takes time and patience. Your hair is beautiful either way. Can’t wait to watch your journey
thank you so much 💕 and you're so right, natural hair requires work regardless of the texture
Lol im laughing because I get your frustration. I think the natural hair movement needed to happen because the problem was there was zero balance. I remember hair stylists didnt even know how to style natural hair and they would pressure anyone to get a relaxer. Now that we've got ourselves somewhere to an equilibrium I think relaxers are okay if you know how to maintain it. Your hair is beautiful in both textures but yes your hair is really thick and full of body. I was natural all my life to my mid-20s, then the natural hair movement started and I relaxed my hair lol.
I got over natural hair at 12 years old...it was too much for me coz mine is the thick type. I literally cut it all off and years later relaxed it. Best decision I've ever made. ♥️
This makes 12 years of me being natural. I'd probably kill myself if I went back to perms, lol... But do what you love ❤
@Mimie N 😛 that’s a little extreme don’t you think babe? I hear you I stopped in 2010 but I entertain the idea of relaxing again sometimes to each their own I guess.
It’s just hair
I'm this dramatic too lol. My curls are literally so beautiful. I would hate myself if I went back.
You could see the smile through the mask. Great video gorgeous hair.
🎉your hair is beautiful in any state. TFS your journey.
Your story is similar to mine. It's so frustrating and I'm completely over it. I can't wear cute hairstyles, my hair stays matted, yes the mental breakdowns, it breaks off and it's soooooooo thick. I will be going back to relaxed hair later on.
Thank so much for telling your truth!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I can relate to this. I have never had a relaxer before but I always got a silk press or back in the day it was called flat iron or press and curl. But anyway these natural Nazis were always telling me I am not natural because I use heat . So I stopped worse decision I ever made. I started to get fairy knots constantly so I had to always cut them. I was never able to wear my hair in a cute style except for a protective style . I got tied of doing this . Seriously what is the point of having long hair if you cant show it off? Tired of buying these 50-11 products that all the natural have out Its was like every day there was a new shampoo or product or oil to buy. To time consuming I would have to take a whole day and put it aside to do my wash day . I probally would get a relaxer if I could find someone that I could trust to do it but I am kinda scared . Maybe in the future I dont know but for right now going back to silk pressing flat ironing my hair I think my hair thrives more better using alittle heat its not bad if you know what you are doing . I think people need to let others do what they want to with their hair and have fun with it
I went 7 years without a relaxer,I’ve cut and damage my hair more when I was relaxer free.on April 8, 2022 I decided to go back because I wanted to see my hair grow without flat ironing it. I don’t feel bad about it. Maintaining natural hair takes a lot of work.
Yes girl, no guilt over here. Do what is best and what works for you 💕. You can follow me on my socials to see my regimen and product recommendations if you'd like