Win Someone Over In 5 Seconds: Conversation Tricks - Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy
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As a teenager, I was obsessed with learning about people.
It was my #1 hobby.
I would see charismatic people in interviews on TV: movie stars, public speakers, fascinating storytellers, and I would wonder, “What is their secret?”
Luckily, my Dad was an enormous self-improver.
He had a ton of books on communication, negotiation, influence, and thanks to him I learnt so many secrets of impact that I still use every single day in my seminars, in my TH-cam videos, in my business negotiations…
When you learn that importance of having influence and impact on people, you realise that it NEVER stops being important.
So in this week’s video, I want to open up the kimono and share some of these secrets by showing THREE simple ways you can immediately make someone drawn to you in conversation.
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I can just imagine being in an awkward panic after saying "so let me ask you this..." if I had no follow up😂
+Juline Moose Oh my god, same lol!
Haha I was thinking the same thing! So much pressure!
Currently😐
I have one. "So let me ask you this... Do you have any question for me?" lol, awkwardness just get doubled!
Well done ;-) you have a knack for this.
Matt is like that one best friend you call before you respond to a text
😂😂😂 right
this comment suits him only he is amazing person
And he is a great one!!
Aliah Valdes damn trueeeeee
Aliah Valdes TRUE
1. let me ask you a question
2. tease compliment
3. make someone the expert
Thx
Not all heroes wear capes
smileyourock thx... six minutes for something that should take 10 seconds
Thx (2)
MVP
You know what's even better than the pregnant pause? The abortion pause. So, you say, "Let me ask you this...". Then, you say, "Oh, wait a minute. Don't go anywhere". And you walk off acting like you saw someone you had to talk to or there was something you had to do, then you don't come back.
i tried this ! it worked ! loved it because he followed me in the party 😂
This is hilarious, I will try it. 😂
LMAO
I could not stop laughing at this comment!
I've been studying how to get any man you want and found a fantastic resource at Maras Magic Words (google it if you are interested)
Me flirting :"if you were a potato,you were a good potato "
Leyla Sentürk if u said that to me I would honestly respond with "do u like memes"
I'm not always a potato, but when I am, I'm a hot potato 😉
Ginevra Kurow
WOW!!!!!😱
I'd fall for that😂😂
Lol😂😂😂
That pause is used so much by teachers. xD
Lauren Judd and it doesn't work cause they never get attention XD
assia tchabye 😂😂😂
Teachers are playaaaas
Me: "So... let me ask you this"
Them: "Ask me what"
Me: "Ask who what"?
Them: "what did you want to ask"
Me: "what did who want to ask"
🤣🤣🤣
I need to try this 😂🤣😂🤣😂
"Hey"
"Hi"
"....."
Ron Jet reality
"... SO LET ME ASK YOU T H I S"
*....*slowly walk away**
@@Cheyruz I LAUGHED SO HARD LOL
CONVERSATION: 100
This guy would be so intimidating to date... feels like his been and done everything.
stjamesyouthministry word.
Why? Do you feel compelled to prove yourself to every guy you meet?
Birdmanul2 why don’t you is the question
why don't i feel compelled to prove myself?
Birdmanul2
Exactly.
*Approaches a girl*
Me: So what do you do?
Her: I am a management consultant
Me: So let me ask you this, and *pauses*
Brain cell 1: What does that mean?
Brain cell 2: Do you like the job?
Me: Doat like thob mean?
Her: *Leaves quietly*
Do it more frequently until your brain cells get used to it.
Hahaha, that last one nearly killed me!!! Been laugh-crying for the last 40 seconds.
Hahaha that made me laugh xD
Lmao I've been laughing for a whole minute 😂
HAHAHHA !!!!!!! I´m laughing so much at this comment. So true. So me.
I did that first technique at a party not too long ago - "Let me ask you something." *Pregnant pause...*
The guy looked right over my head and checked out the hot buxom, busty bimbo in the tight dress walking behind me...
+Aves Raggiana Maybe you shouldn't have said out loud .... "pregnant pause" whahaha.... I'm only teasing you a little :)
Jay Whyte Haha!
meh. fishy.
i DIED at your comment LOL
Aves Raggiana 😂😂 Girl you are hilarious!!
"Oh, I just be myself."
"Bullshit. There are things they do, consciously or unconsciously that makes them the most powerful person in that room."
100% nailed it. I've always had poor social skills including social anxiety disorder. Luckily I befriended someone in college (by luck of ending up in a shared suite) who had great interpersonal skills who actually was quite conscious of what he was doing and could explain instead of giving me the usual dismissive platitudes. It helped me a good deal.
Your videos and some others on youtube I've since found have been even more useful, and I really appreciate that.
I can't be the only one that finds him really attractive😂😍
He is gorgeous!
Have a magical day Trust me, you're not.
Have a magical day ya think??
You bet my dear! 🤔 www.mulherhumor.com.br
Love your TH-cam name.
Why is he the most eloquent speaker UGHHH. He takes small things that just opens my mind so much.
I personally like his sit down videos more than this white background bc the white is just... so bright and white bahaha but that's just my preference! Great video regardless ^^
+Sugar Chuu That's racist! Go eat your noodles!
I like it when he is sitting down too! I do not believe her comment was racist. :)
He went from resembling Danielle Radcliff to Adam Levine to McDreamy... Omg
More like Daniel Radcliff and Ryan Gosling 😂😍
How about Richard Hammond?
How's 'bout Hugh Jackman?
xx-rosie-xx ommmmg exactly my thoughts.
xx-rosie-xx Eugenio siller
I'm a management consultant and no one knows what we do 😂
so what do you do? honestly curious
The answer is in the title itself: you consult in management.
So it's about giving advices on how to manage something in a better way.
@@skytte71 so a manager's manager?
So let me ask you this......................................wow please tell me David lied about how good you are!
If you have trouble meeting people, it also helps to own the space, I know this might sound ignorant or cocky but you have to feel you are higher then them, this doesn't mean you have to make fun of them or belittle them you just have to feel comfortable and feel as though they want to hear what you have to say
*Calls 911*
Guy: I'm bleeding.
Operator: Ok, let me ask you... *Pause*
May I add, you are very thorough, genuine, smart, witty, and have a really good head on your shoulders. You are also refreshing. I enjoy all the analysis, tips and tricks and strategies. Thank you so kindly.
absolutely love this. im already a good conversationalist naturally (but coming out of my shell more and being more authentic) and i found this so helpful!!!! will put into use. thanks matthew!
how to win someone to engage with you in the conversation :-
1- the Suspense Opener by captivating them through ----> THE pregnant PAUSE .
2- The teasing Compliment -
3- Spotlight other people talents or things and make them the expert ..as they know better (giving others credits rather than yourself ) .
4- be honest about what you know and what you dont know during the conversation . and allow people to feel your true real self .
More of this please.
this pdf is THE BEST ..i cant thanku and ur brother enough for putting this ...hail stephen hussey ..its really cook of him to put it up free !
Listened to you for the first time, 45 seconds in I subscribed. Don't normally follow that quickly. Keep up the great work
Your brother's guide was a lovely read, but not very clear in what exact strategies we should adopt. It was more of a breakdown of what made Matthew sound so great.
I never thought conversing was an art. My mom's an expert at this. She literally owns the situation she gets into! Thankfully I learned some tips from her😬
hi kitten
Hey Matt, I love your channel, kinda watch it about 7ish times a week and everything but right now I just want to ask you to please pass a message to your brother Steve:
"Steve Hussey, you are my freakin' hero!!!!! Thank you so much for sharing this video and the belonging pdf about conversation tricks and how to win an entire audience over in a matter of seconds! This is HUGE!! And you are 100% right when you say people think Matt is Neo of the Media World!! I myself thought he was born this way and had already charmed his way out of trouble back in preschool with his smooth talking! It did not even cross my mind he was using communication techniques, so effortlessly did he start talking about a worse than average plane ride on that radio show.
Becoming all excited, now I'm looking up Slight of Hand conversation techniques online and checking the "rainforest" shopping site for books written about the most effective communications tools known to man.
Good job getting the OK from your bro! This is gonna be life-changing, I can see that already.
In your debt for Eternity,
Kriszti Kotka
Gr8 advice. I don't have a problem with coming up with questions in a conversation but to prepare for it with a pause, that's making it the "Art" that it should be!
I like this hair! Feels a little softer on you.
Yup
I agree!
+MindOfHerOwn I was so confused when I first read this! LOOOOOL
goldfish1871 Haha! Yeah, I can see that!
+MindOfHerOwn it's not about the hairstyle..this is about saving a life.
Hey I'm tim
Hhhiiiiiii, Timmmmm!
+Laurie Sinasac 😆
Tim Hanson~The famous Tim! :)
+Tim Hanson How much did you pay Jamison to say so many nice things about you? :)
+MindOfHerOwn I have the same question
Matt you are so blessed you are so positive and always want to teach pple you are NEVER SELFISH Instead you are willing to walk us through and lead us to be the BEST WE EVER WANTED. Continue doing that bcoz u will always have more for US. I thank GOD i have discovered your Channel. God Bless You Matt.
First time I watched one of your videos I was like: yeah, this guy has learnt a lot about communication, conversations, selling and psychology. From time to time I find the similar ideas in the books of other authors: from Buddhists to famous western businesses leaders. I admire your growth. It’s really inspiring. And I’m thankful that one of the key idea of your activity is not to teach the seduction (pick up) hacks, but about mindfulness, self control, self-confidence, socializing and enjoyment of life.
I love these types of videos, Matt! More please!
my math teacher always pauses like that...
literally he says, OK lemme ask u a question.
and I'm just like asleep in the back slobbering😴
omg thankyou very much!!!❤ i just needed this is my life. i completely lost my charisma.. and myself :( so this is something to that is going to help me to find my charisma and self-convidence, i hope. i think so because all your videos help me to be how i was. THANKYOU THANKYOU THANKYOU ❤
Hello Mat! Watching this video made me realize I'd actually love more content related with just human interaction and how to nail it (apart from the usual romantic advice) because the only reason I follow you is this... warm clear vibe of a communicator you carry. I admire you because I have a really hard time in social environments... help ??
btw, thanks for everything Mat, you rock!!
Plot twist: Jamieson was fired two years ago.
And then ensues the awkward silence.
Metallic Bascinet *pregnant pause
Hungondarcy *Abortion Pause
:)
really? how come?
“So lemme ask you this............”
“...”
“What’s your name?”
Yay, I love videos about getting better at conversations and connecting with people! Thank you Matthew!
This guy is totally on point with the assumption that the parties involved are pretty genuine and honest.
Else you're dealing with someone who is just sucking up, playing games or just want something from you (not in a good way).
I only say this cause in the real world ...too much of the latter (talking from experience, unfortunately).
Great stuff!
I just asked my crush “do you come here often?”
...we were at school🤦🏽
This are great tips. Thank you so much for sharing....
Thank you so much Matt & Steve! This is pure gold!
Usually when I speed up a video to 2x I can't catch up to what they're saying, but in this video he was talking so pleasantly that I could
Why is the video 6 minutes long if it only takes 5 seconds?
It takes more than 5 secs to explain you dumbass blonde
rude. not all blonds are dumb you ass
You're complaining? LOL!!!
Em Bibby You can do it in 5 seconds but he needs time to explain
Naima Bbb this one is
How to win someone over, 2018 edition:
"Hey...-"
"No u"
This is why you're awesome. You've given me the tools to be confident and be approachable. Thank you for continuously staying humble. I appreciate all that you do, Matt. You have no idea how much you have impacted my life in these past few years. Stay golden! :)
Matt; You're a genius.
Thank you so much for making these informative videos.
You've helped me more then ever, I know you get this a lot but thank you so much. You're amazing.
Nice video, Matthew. Thank you so much! But how I could learn to "tease" someone or be playful? Is there a book to read? Or it just needs to be practiced on?
He is soo handsome! haha I have to focus on what he is saying... lol
This is actually one of your best videos in my opinion 👌🏼
Matthew has a lot of content to create and a lot of knowledge to share (about confidence, charisma, conversation, healthy relationships and so on). One thing that is right now a huge -1 is the fact that after I shared my e-mail with the Mathew team, I got a lot of spam trying to sell things. Which could potentially be good, but it's very annoying. I wouldn't write this if I wasn't sure I'm not the only one who thinks this. I shared some links to content that you created with one of my friends, she also considered your content as highly valuable...and then, the very next day, she told me she already unsubscribed from your newsletter because of too much spam. I did the same thing. I think the commercial e-mails are way to aggressive to be productive
I never realised that people don't know these conversation techniques. I guess it comes naturally for some of us as we might be the ones genuinely interested in others.
I definitely agree!! That's why when people ask me how I am so sociable, I have to mentally take a step back & tell myself that others over complicate their lives with thinking too much about their next move. Matt makes it simple and straight to the point. The only thing anyone watching this has to have is: A.) Confidence B.) Be fine with messing up and picking themselves back up
When your name is Tim, you know the Jameson he’s talking about, think this is about you, then you realize it’s a different Tim 💀
I happened to stumble upon your video and I couldn't agree more. You're a great orator, Keep posting amazing content like this. Gonna go marathon all your videos now on your channel :)
i just discovered your channel! and hell you just made my day especially words like this that are coming from a male. RESPECT!
How to Win Friends and Influence People, check this book out.
Yep, definitely used this in a bar. Now, apparently, i'm a successful stock broker at day and a volunteer at night. Took this conversation waaaaayyyyy too far. (Way too competitive with men)
This is the first time I watch you. Wow you are such an inspiring guy. I really loved you from the first watch. Thank you so much for teaching the world :)
Great advice, just downloaded the guide and it is GOLD ! Thank you so much, what an interesting read :)
Very good videos, but I guess I could never live with using that much techniques for every next action...
I wonder how many women are in love with him? lol
I always ask myself the same question hahaha
+Tatenda Madonna I'm sure that a lot of people just watch him without listening, i find myself getting distracted often haha
Not me.
i am... and its so sad because its not realistic...
+Noe Nazer I am in love with him too... but it is indeed unrealistic for me too.
I like how you give us hope that we can be greater persons
I don't want to say that I love u... but I can't help it... you know what mat... you are amazing
dude, it's like you don't even have to talk..You just need to breath and already won me over 😂
doesn't anyone else realize he sounds exactly like Daniel Radcliffe? must be from the same region of England. 😏
Kara Pannell yes, he's Daniel Redcliffe in better shape
+Ria Adytia Ahahaha yes
+Lady Ve oh I see!! thank you so much!! I love london. :)
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hogwarts?
I never heard about you and your skills, but today evening just opened for me my new teacher;) I love it, what you do and how you do. Keep going and thank you :) Greetings from Vienna
hey Matthew I appreciate what you deliver every day
That wasn't 5 seconds
Natalia Brand 5 minutes haha
is there a dating guru for guys?? If not, I think there should be because as much I take all of this advice which is great by the way.... i find that it only goes so far with the guys who seem to start off being decent human beings and then slowly start to show that they are mean and rude.. so even if i play my cards right.. i still end up somehow being disrespected or harassed and i find that it is becoming more and more common and "normal" too (when i share my stories with my girl friends they seem to experience the same things) I am quick to cut them off and move on to another guy only to find out that he is the same way too.
Of course there is a guru for guys! He is alpha m here on TH-cam :)
coach corey wayne
Susana Barrientos doubt it, as they think they know it all.
I really appreciate your videos..I'm 37 and beginning to start dating..I just lost weight and have new confidence and your videos have given me so many ways to respond to new stable and professional men...Thank u
LOVE love love these kinds of videos, thanks Matthew!
He kinda looks like Patrick Dempsey lol.
Ania Lauren Rudolph
I was trying to remember his name (Patrick) thanks for reminding me
The point about management consultants/letting them be the expert- you have to be careful if the career they are in is not common, because if you ask what they do, it might come off as intrusive. As if you are questioning the authenticity of their line of work.
not if you frame the comment properly.
Jen Since88 I’m a drug dealer. Or in my words I’m a self made pharmaceutical entrepreneur .
HAHAHHA
You could just say "What's that like ? " And it won't come off as intrusive I think.
Thanks Matthew for bringing to us your very helpful and informative videos, because they really are helpful!❤
I do like this video.. I love interesting ppl.. Ppl that want to talk instead of just texting.. Texting is so boring.. Ppl need to get themselves off the dam phone.. I'm with you Matt.. Thanx
I hate to sound arrogant, but the people I hang out with (unless much older) don't know a damn thing. I then have to sit through an excruciatingly inaccurate delivery from a guy who's lying through his teeth. I also know people who ask me questions about my interests (knife-making) and immediately respond to every explanation I give them with "I know" and they're not even disinterested. I have to call them out at some point, indirectly and they just end up embarrassing themselves. People are fucking idiots and I'm not about to befriend an idiot.
Maybe youre just boring
***** Definitely. But it's who I am and changing isn't really an option.
There's a saying: If you're the smartest person in the group, you're in the wrong group. ;)
The best of Otis of Martin Lawrence show
majasteinchen Right.
stop inspring me matt
Jackson Hex 😂😂
downloaded the guide. so good. worth keeping for life just to remind oneself
thank you Matthew, keep doing it. Your videos help me develop my personal and professional skills!!! Thank you!
Well we haven't seen Jameson ! 😐😂
LOL - you know Jameson was in the Valentine's Day live event, right? :-)
shut up !! imma check it out now!!
His voice reminds me of Harry potter
Matthew, thank you. You are so darn likeable.
Thank you so much...i've learned some very useful lines today that i find quite difficult and lacking in me ...not necessarily being able to apply it with the men i like...
So good conversation traps interest and builds egos? Just share yourself and do away with all the formulaic mind-games. Not only are those mind-games douchey, they're disingenuous and transparent.
Also, he hasn't been secretly working on these techniques for years. His techniques are nothing new; they're part of rhetoric known for millennia. Sorry to break it to you, folks, but Hussey is a salesman.
my friend, you went ahead and said it. was looking for a comment to find, like this 😅
"In the land of the blind, the one-eyed (wo)man is king"
I genuinely would not trust someone who talked like he does. It felt exaggerated and inauthentic.
Who cares.. If it works.. Just use it
hi pewdiepie
When you said we don't need to give a penny for it. I went all out with full potential for download
wow nice mathew it's good to know how u explained how to captivate people in conversations ur just awesome man
Out of subject I'm really like really attracted to you! I've never been so attracted to man like this before haha I'm 22 btw
haha and i am 15
Just kidding
I'm 24, by the way 😉
Bullshit. You've never even met the man haha
See, whenever someone uses these tricks on me, I feel really uncomfortable, because 90% of the time, I know it's just superficial BS and they don't actually care.
ZGoten Dont lie, nobody actually talks to you.
#same ZGoten
Dear Mr. Huseey, Many thanks for sharing your insights, experience and expertise on this matter. Your you tube video where you talk about "offering to pay" was solid gold and quite revealing.
While viewing your overall body of work it's immediately clear that 1/How to get the guy = How to get the girl. Too cool. Many thanks.
Hi! I was going to leave a comment of facebook, but, couldn't find the post, I must be a little inept! Anyways, thank you Stephen, and of course, Matthew for this amazing list of Six Secrets. This is gold!!! I have been enthralled by many of your videos, Matt, and it has kept me searching for more. Thus, here. I downloaded it after planning on purchasing the "Super Scripts", and wanting to see more on you and your method, I really can't wait! Thanks again and have a great day!!!
You chat bungle.
I gave you 5 minutes to reinforce your click bait title - you barely did it.
Its very very individual, if you’re not confident, none of this will help, and if you are confident, you dont need this and you know it.
This is a video aimed at those who wont be able to utilise it.
The stubble makes you look like you have a double chin brah.
COMMON SENSE Fuck! You're right...🙊
without the beard he would like like he has a vagina
One of your videos changed My Life,so Thank you so much!
Absolutely love these tips. Wonderful job!!!
who else thinks he's the taller and better version of harry p..sorry Daniel Radcliff?😄
SyedaTaslima Hussain bluddy ell mayt I fink yer right. He looks like bluddy arry potta dun he
I love his insight so much. I wish I had a chance to meet him.
Your way to deliver so impressive
amazing Matthew, always love to listen to your advice.