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I really like how you said such beautiful words about Mrs. Aslay. My Dad always spoke highly of my Mom, they separated when I was 2. They never said a bad word about each other to me.
Jonathan all you have said makes so so much freakin sense. I’ve been so insecure since the childhood wounds of my dad’s mental abuse as a very young child witnessing the physical abuse on my mother and hiding in a closet to call the police to save her life. I was 8 yrs old. Now as an adult I have learned so much and been stronger and more confident. After my divorce (which was mutual…and we are actually friends) I met my boyfriend of 5 years. I just feel like crap as if I’m not good enough “dating “ for over 5 years knowing each other, still having great love making and me knowing I look sexy when he takes me out with much younger men bothering me which I don’t want. My point is I did everything right. I’m sexy (very fit being a gym rat), fun, intelligent. He has his space. He plays hubby, always at my house. Then leaves to go to his house to sleep to wake up for work then do it all week until he wants to spend the night with me at my home only on the weekends. Yet over 5 years wtf. I set myself apart from other women and my question is why am I not good enough. I’m confident and have a beautiful home and good career while I juggle my beautiful 3 little girls. He’s so good to them too. Which makes my question why I’m not good enough more of a challenge. No need to reply as I’m clearly venting lol. You’re a busy man and please let me express how much I appreciate your wisdom combined with sensical topics that’s critically lacking in today’s need for relational nourishment.
I would imagine most Women want peace . It is not possible if a Man doesn’t provide security. When He crosses Your boundaries , is disrespectful , Peace is lost Who caused this ? If a Man wants to feel like He is home he needs to give safety and respect
I gave up after a year and a half. I’d point stuff out and he’d change for a bit then go right back …I am not gonna try to change someone and be constantly on the watch. It made me anxious. I finally had to leave him completely. In many ways he was a great man..fun, loyal to family, attentive, great listener, affectionate, handsome, hard working , so many good qualities. BUt he was dishonest on a number of things, hooked on porn , he would be there for everyone all the time and neglect putting our relationship first, let his grown kids rule him and his lifestyle was way too busy and I was breadcrumbed . He’d do all the right things and say all the right things and send flowers etc but he could lie to me so easily !! I finally said I’m done! I gave him too many chances and I’m mad at myself for wasting my time. Allowing someone to waste my time. I was so hopeful. He had asked me to marry him but I said no because the thought of constantly having to check him was more than I could deal with!!
@@JonathonAslay well it kept me waiting for his changes and then he’d make them and then revert back. It’s my fault that I was so hopeful and I was too patient if that makes sense. I broke up with him for good. Very difficult because we truly loved each other!! It’s our lifestyles. They didn’t mesh and that’s hugely important! And I never fully trusted him (and my reasons were legitimate ) and you can’t live without trust! Im a strong lady and I’ll be fine. I am just frustrated and I truly want to grow old with my soul mate. I have so much love to give. Pickins are slim I tell ya!! Thanks for all your help Jonathan. You are an absolute gem!! Keep up the great work…darn proud of ya!!
Jonathon this was a beautiful and insightful content ❤I really appreciated the details and yes not staying in the present moment has been a big hurtle for me but I'm reminded over and over again.Thank you for Sunday relationship wisdom 🙏🧡
Thank you for all of your wonderful videos. I have been dating a wonderful man for 3 months that was widowed just over a year now and was hoping you could do a video on that please? Ed struggles with feelings of being unfaithful to his deceased wife. He treats me like gold--the best I've ever been treated and although he acts like he loves me, he has not been able to say it. In my past relationships, it was said, but actions didn't match the words. I am struggling with this. I want to tell him I love him, but I don't want to make him uncomfortable.
@@amandaroberts5111 thank you I guess I just needed to vent. And it helped. It's early in the relationship and I will take actions over words any day. I will be prepared that maybe he will never be able to say it. I have friends that lost their spouses and I think feel that it's a betrayal of their memory. The love doesn't go away with their passing. Thanks for responding. Take care and God bless. 🙏🏻
@@gertrudelisehahn2996you might be right. I don’t know. I had a wonderful childhood. I was blessed to have such devoted and loving parents. I have done lots of counseling though. I had a bad thing that happened to me when young but I’ve done a ton of work in it . I married an alcoholic and endured that. He died young I have been widowed twice. So I have done hurts but I’ve done a ton of work both reading and counseling. I just think I’m always so positive and hopeful that sometimes it’s a curse. I always want to see the good in people and I’m way too far from cynical and perhaps I need to be. I don’t know. Anyway thanks for sharing
You make the puzzle of a man, so called…’Wanting to Chase’ explained!! Really, what l am getting from you is….a man just wants a discerning women who is patiently and fun lovingly looking for the right fit for her. 😊l think…
It's fairly difficult to have a beginner's mind when you are 61 years old! Ha ha, I'm just saying. It seems that a lot of men don't have one either. I have never put on a man's last name after just one date. Even when I was in my 20s. At least, not that I remember! That was almost 40 years ago. I'm definitely not stuck in the past. I've been divorced FIFTEEN years, as long as I was married. I rarely think of my ex-husband and I'm sure he never thinks of me, as he married a guy. I hope he's happy but I have zero interest in getting back with him, as I don't believe in adultery. Embracing the present moment is a great thought, Jonathon!
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Hello lovely ladies and happy Mother’s Day to us all!!
Happy Mothers Day!!
Same to you!
@@JonathonAslay thank you so much!!
That was so lovely of you Jonathon thanking your ex wife on Mother's Day ❤️💐
Glad you enjoyed it
Compliments Jonathan ❤
I really like how you said such beautiful words about Mrs. Aslay.
My Dad always spoke highly of my Mom, they separated when I was 2. They never said a bad word about each other to me.
Thank you 😊
Thank you for pointing out that men expect women to get attached first...
You're welcome
Happy Mother's Day, my beautiful sisters!! ❤
Awe...
Jonathan all you have said makes so so much freakin sense. I’ve been so insecure since the childhood wounds of my dad’s mental abuse as a very young child witnessing the physical abuse on my mother and hiding in a closet to call the police to save her life. I was 8 yrs old. Now as an adult I have learned so much and been stronger and more confident. After my divorce (which was mutual…and we are actually friends) I met my boyfriend of 5 years. I just feel like crap as if I’m not good enough “dating “ for over 5 years knowing each other, still having great love making and me knowing I look sexy when he takes me out with much younger men bothering me which I don’t want. My point is I did everything right. I’m sexy (very fit being a gym rat), fun, intelligent. He has his space. He plays hubby, always at my house. Then leaves to go to his house to sleep to wake up for work then do it all week until he wants to spend the night with me at my home only on the weekends. Yet over 5 years wtf. I set myself apart from other women and my question is why am I not good enough. I’m confident and have a beautiful home and good career while I juggle my beautiful 3 little girls. He’s so good to them too. Which makes my question why I’m not good enough more of a challenge.
No need to reply as I’m clearly venting lol.
You’re a busy man and please let me express how much I appreciate your wisdom combined with sensical topics that’s critically lacking in today’s need for relational nourishment.
Good morning beautiful ladies! Happy Mother’s Day! ❤
Thanks so much
I would imagine most Women want peace . It is not possible if a Man doesn’t provide security.
When He crosses Your boundaries , is disrespectful , Peace is lost
Who caused this ? If a Man wants to feel like He is home he needs to give safety and respect
Indeed
Absolutely !! My past guy was absolutely never consistent
same goes for my husband
I gave up after a year and a half. I’d point stuff out and he’d change for a bit then go right back …I am not gonna try to change someone and be constantly on the watch. It made me anxious. I finally had to leave him completely. In many ways he was a great man..fun, loyal to family, attentive, great listener, affectionate, handsome, hard working , so many good qualities. BUt he was dishonest on a number of things, hooked on porn , he would be there for everyone all the time and neglect putting our relationship first, let his grown kids rule him and his lifestyle was way too busy and I was breadcrumbed . He’d do all the right things and say all the right things and send flowers etc but he could lie to me so easily !! I finally said I’m done! I gave him too many chances and I’m mad at myself for wasting my time. Allowing someone to waste my time. I was so hopeful. He had asked me to marry him but I said no because the thought of constantly having to check him was more than I could deal with!!
It’s like Jonathan says…there has to be a complete peace you feel!!
That must have sucked
@@JonathonAslay well it kept me waiting for his changes and then he’d make them and then revert back. It’s my fault that I was so hopeful and I was too patient if that makes sense. I broke up with him for good. Very difficult because we truly loved each other!! It’s our lifestyles. They didn’t mesh and that’s hugely important! And I never fully trusted him (and my reasons were legitimate ) and you can’t live without trust! Im a strong lady and I’ll be fine. I am just frustrated and I truly want to grow old with my soul mate. I have so much love to give. Pickins are slim I tell ya!! Thanks for all your help Jonathan. You are an absolute gem!! Keep up the great work…darn proud of ya!!
He tells me "I am his home" ❤❤❤
PEACE PROCESS
Positive Possibilities +++
Embrace the Present Moment 🕝
Accept yourself 🪞
Certainty ✨💖✨
Engage the fun!! 🎉
Home represents serenity.
Yes
I appreciate your channel! You have a lot of great content. ❤❤😊
I appreciate that!
Hope you had a good time with the new lady you connected with recently 🙏🏼
Nice date, but no love connection.
@@JonathonAslay 🤗 it's still progress. Keep your vibe going, do the quad check, gratitude and meditation. I'm glad you have the tools.
@@JonathonAslayit's hard, isn't it. But, you are trying, ❤
Thanks for everything, Jonathan
My pleasure 🙏
I had lots of fun to night! I am ready for some a.m. fun w/ Jonathon! Woot woot!
Lol 😆
You’re awesome ❤🙏🏽
WOW, thank you 😊
Beginners mind!!! I love this concept. Its positive. This may be my favorite video of yours. Thanks for sharing the kind words about your kids mom.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Happy Mother's Day Ladies
Embrace present moment. Accept yourself. C for certainty and the e is engage the fun !!
What about the P: Positive Possibilities
I think i am a good listener with a good heart and the men i have dated know a good apple. I try to be careful without a man knowing it.
Jonathon this was a beautiful and insightful content ❤I really appreciated the details and yes not staying in the present moment has been a big hurtle for me but I'm reminded over and over again.Thank you for Sunday relationship wisdom 🙏🧡
Glad you enjoyed it!
This is a great video today! Thanks !
Thank you 😊
Thank you for all of your wonderful videos. I have been dating a wonderful man for 3 months that was widowed just over a year now and was hoping you could do a video on that please? Ed struggles with feelings of being unfaithful to his deceased wife. He treats me like gold--the best I've ever been treated and although he acts like he loves me, he has not been able to say it. In my past relationships, it was said, but actions didn't match the words. I am struggling with this. I want to tell him I love him, but I don't want to make him uncomfortable.
say nothing, l said it and regret it!
@@amandaroberts5111 thank you I guess I just needed to vent. And it helped. It's early in the relationship and I will take actions over words any day. I will be prepared that maybe he will never be able to say it. I have friends that lost their spouses and I think feel that it's a betrayal of their memory. The love doesn't go away with their passing. Thanks for responding. Take care and God bless. 🙏🏻
I really admire your integrity to give your ex credit for her parenting.
There are many people who are great human beings
Stellar advice!
Thank you 😊
Great video, and great advice, and therefore I always get attractive to the one who is giving me just crumbs.
Sending you a big hug 🫂
@@JonathonAslay thank you!
I have a broken picker. For sure!!!
No. You have unhealed childhood trauma
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@@gertrudelisehahn2996 possibly though I’ve done a lot of work!!
@@gertrudelisehahn2996you might be right. I don’t know. I had a wonderful childhood. I was blessed to have such devoted and loving parents. I have done lots of counseling though. I had a bad thing that happened to me when young but I’ve done a ton of work in it . I married an alcoholic and endured that. He died young I have been widowed twice. So I have done hurts but I’ve done a ton of work both reading and counseling. I just think I’m always so positive and hopeful that sometimes it’s a curse. I always want to see the good in people and I’m way too far from cynical and perhaps I need to be. I don’t know. Anyway thanks for sharing
Let's fix it...
Great advice! I've got a date with a guy this evening. So this video was perfect timing ..👌
Thank you Jonathon .. ♥️
So glad!
Dating apps are meat market. You are a person that needs to meet a decent person.
I have felt with a man: I am home... unfortunately, I was not attracted to him.
Bummer
This is most of the time the case... great guy or gal, lack of physical attraction... how many ppl can set that aside and try to move forward.
I don't even remember the last time, but yes, last name! Resonance 😆
Thanks Jonathan 🙏🏽
You're welcome 😊
You make the puzzle of a man, so called…’Wanting to Chase’ explained!! Really, what l am getting from you is….a man just wants a discerning women who is patiently and fun lovingly looking for the right fit for her. 😊l think…
Exactly
Have a super day Jonathon ❤, all the best to you sir😊
Thank you 😊
@@JonathonAslay you bet, just be, we never stop learning, 😎
Excellent
Thank you! Cheers!
Im early lol. I cant get enough🤣🤣👍
Thanks for the support and for being a loyal follower. I'm curious, why haven't you scheduled a coaching call with me?
@JonathonAslay your welcome! I don't know.
P for positive possibilities
Exactly
It's fairly difficult to have a beginner's mind when you are 61 years old! Ha ha, I'm just saying. It seems that a lot of men don't have one either. I have never put on a man's last name after just one date. Even when I was in my 20s. At least, not that I remember! That was almost 40 years ago. I'm definitely not stuck in the past. I've been divorced FIFTEEN years, as long as I was married. I rarely think of my ex-husband and I'm sure he never thinks of me, as he married a guy. I hope he's happy but I have zero interest in getting back with him, as I don't believe in adultery. Embracing the present moment is a great thought, Jonathon!
That's true...
C is for certainty
Exactly
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Happy Mother's Day Ladies
Same to you